Video summary
Financial struggle often stems not from a lack of skill or laziness, but from inherited mental programming consisting of five limiting beliefs that act as an emotional ceiling. While having the right mindset is essential, it must be paired with specific actions to change results; otherwise, individuals remain stuck despite reading books or making budgets. The first major barrier is the belief that "people like me don't make more money than this," which causes the mind to create excuses like bad luck to pull earnings back down to a familiar, comfortable level. To break through this, one must identify their personal ceiling number and write it down, then determine what they would do if their income doubled tomorrow without a plan, as extra money will likely disappear quickly. Furthermore, viewers are instructed to immediately raise one price or rate by 20% without justification, forcing themselves to sit in the discomfort of the silence that follows, thereby challenging the subconscious limit.
The second limiting belief is the idea that "if it didn't hurt, I didn't earn it," which equates money with suffering rather than value provided. This mindset leads people to overwork themselves, feel guilty taking breaks, and sabotage easy successes because they do not trust them. The speaker illustrates this with a personal story of working until 3 AM to prove worthiness, which ultimately led to burnout, emphasizing that money follows value, not effort. To rewire this thought process, individuals should calculate their real hourly rate by dividing last month's earnings by actual hours worked and split their time into columns for paid versus obligatory work. The goal is to move one hour from the latter column to the former each week and stop discounting skills that come effortlessly, as these are often the most valuable assets.
The third belief, "wanting even more makes me a bad person," causes good-hearted people to feel guilty when earning more than their peers, leading them to sabotage their own success to maintain moral standing within their social circle. Society often falsely associates wealth with greed or theft, creating a dichotomy where one must choose between being rich or being a "good person." This programming prevents individuals from embracing abundance without feeling they have done something wrong, but the solution lies in understanding that money magnifies existing character traits rather than creating them. Therefore, generosity must be cultivated before wealth arrives to prevent selfishness from increasing with income, and viewers are advised to automate a specific percentage of current earnings toward a chosen cause immediately. This transforms the act of making money from "taking" into "funding," shifting focus from hoarding cash out of fear to building capacity and solving problems for others.
Finally, financial stagnation is often driven by emotional spending and silence around money, where people buy feelings rather than assets that generate value. To combat this, a 72-hour waiting period should be implemented for significant purchases while recognizing the opportunity cost of what invested money could become over time. A critical barrier identified is the taboo against discussing finances, which prevents people from knowing their actual numbers and leads to decisions driven by fear rather than data. By learning key financial metrics like income, expenses, assets, and debt, and discussing them openly with mentors or peers, individuals can replace vague anxiety with a concrete game plan. Ultimately, success is not about intelligence but about overcoming emotional beliefs through courage, transparency, and action, urging viewers to stop hiding their financial reality and start building wealth based on knowledge rather than fear.
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If you feel stuck when it comes to
making and keeping enough money, it's
not because you're lazy. It's not
[music] because you're bad with numbers.
It's because 99% of people have been
programmed in a way that makes it almost
impossible to break through with money.
You didn't choose that programming that
you have. You inherited it. And it shows
up as a set of beliefs about [music]
money that you have been carrying since
you were a young kid without ever
[music] once choosing these beliefs. And
that's why you can read the books, you
can watch the videos, you can make a
budget, you can promise yourself that
this is your year, and after 12 months
later, you're still standing in the same
spot struggling trying to see why is
this happening to me over and over
again. the same number, the same amount
of stress, that same tight feeling
inside your chest when rent is due or
bills need to be paid. I know that
feeling. It's not fun. I also know the
feeling when I started to make money and
I didn't understand it where it felt
like someone was clenching my throat and
it felt even more scary. Now, this is
not a discipline problem. This is a
wiring problem. So, in this video, we're
going through the five money beliefs
that you have to let go of if you want
any of this to change in your life and
exactly how to replace each one so you
can actually start building toward your
next level of wealth. And I want to be
specific with you today because most
conversations about money mindset stop
at the mindset. And this is something
I've talked about for a long time. The
mindset around money. This is an
important and essential element. But if
that's all you think about, then it
makes you feel something for a few
moments, maybe even for a few hours, and
then you close the app and nothing in
your account moves. So, every belief we
cover today, everything that we're
talking about comes with a number that
you have to go find or a sentence that
you have to say out loud to somebody.
So, this is not just a feeling or a
feel-good video with some insights. This
is an assignment that I want you to take
on today. This means you have to
actually show up and do something
differently. I'm going to give you some
core things throughout this video, but
at the very end, I'm going to tell you
specifically what you need to do to
unlock these new beliefs. So, it's not
just feel-good ideas, but actual actions
you take to create the momentum that
you're looking for around money and
wealth. And I've spent over a decade
sitting across from billionaires,
self-made millionaires, investors,
founders, mega entrepreneurs, people who
have built something out of nothing.
people who had an idea, a concept, an a
thought, some type of imagination around
something they wanted to make that
wasn't already in the world. The action
they wanted to take that hadn't been
taken yet. a an idea that matured into
conversations, actions, creations that
then were sold, whether it be with
services or products, software, events.
And they put this idea into the world
and they enrolled people in this belief
and vision. And through an exchange of
services, goods or ideas, they were able
to capitalize with a currency that
created abundance. And for years, I was
waiting for one of them to slip to give
me the exact tactic or the loophole. And
I wanted to learn the thing that they
knew that I didn't. The challenge is it
never really came. What came instead was
a lot more uncomfortable cuz I wanted it
to be easier. I didn't want to stress
anymore. I didn't want to struggle
anymore around money. You know, sleeping
on your sister's couch is something that
I did for a year and a half. And it
wasn't enjoyable. It didn't feel
fulfilling. It didn't feel like I was
responsible. It didn't feel like I was a
a grown adult even though I was in my
mid20s. It felt like I was suffocating
and I didn't know how to get out. The
thing is they didn't have better
strategies. The mega billionaires and
millionaires that I sat across from for
the last decade plus, they didn't have
better strategies. They had different
beliefs. And this is the thing that you
need to understand. that if your beliefs
are limited based on inheriting them
throughout your entire life up until
now, this is not your fault that you
inherited these. But if you have certain
beliefs that have limited you to earn
more or constantly see a progression in
your earning capabilities, then it's
something you need to change. And what
they believed about money was so
different from what I believed
personally around money that we were
basically playing two different games.
And if you feel like you've been
financially stuck, you've been playing
the wrong game. And I remember sitting
across from someone who was early in my
20s when I was trying to figure out how
to make money. I had a meeting with a
guy who was making multiple six figures.
And for me at that time, I was like,
"This is a whole another level because I
was barely making a couple hundred
dollars a week." And so multiple six
figures in my early 20s, I was like,
"How is this person doing it?" I
remember I begged him to sit down with
me. We went to a Starbucks coffee shop
uh in Columbus, Ohio, and I had about an
hour with this guy, and I said, "What is
the secret? Like, I just don't know how
you even get someone to pay you that
much money." And I remember he literally
stood up and he said, "If you want to
create more wealth, you have to tap into
being so uncomfortable within you to
overcome those beliefs and that takes a
consistency of courage." And he was
like, "What is the biggest fear you have
right now within yourself?" And I was
like, "You mean around making money?" He
goes, "No, just around you as a
personality." And I said, "To be honest,
speaking in public was my biggest fear,
my biggest concern at the time." And he
said, "That is the place that's holding
you back from creating more wealth in
your life." And if you want to earn more
money, if you want to become financially
free, I don't care if you're speaking in
front of tens of thousands of people on
stages or you're speaking in a in a
group of people in a boardroom at a
company, you need to have the ability
and the skill set to enroll people in
you, to enroll them in your vision, your
desires, your dreams, your wants, what
you want to create in the world. Whether
you're looking for an investor, you're
looking for a customer, you're looking
for someone to hire you, you're looking
for a sale, whatever it is, you need to
have the courage to be able to
communicate your vision clearly and
enroll people in you that you're capable
of actually doing the thing that you
want to do.
And at that point, I was like, well, I'm
screwed because I can't speak in front
of five people without stuttering and
stumbling and having no idea where to
take them. and he said, "Okay, I'm going
to give you a challenge. Every week for
the next year, this is your goal. And by
the end of the year, if you don't see
yourself creating more financial
opportunities for yourself, then let me
know. But every single week, if you show
up and do a speech every week for a
year, you'll start seeing your financial
capacity increasing to new levels." And
I was so terrified. I was so scared that
I knew that's exactly what I needed to
do. It's the thing I didn't want to do
at all. It's the thing I resisted the
most in school. But I was like, "Okay,
here's a guy who has a different belief
that he learned how to communicate and
then was making hundreds of thousands of
dollars a year speaking all around the
country." And I said, "Okay, where do I
go?" He said, "Go to a place called
Toast Masters. You can find them all
over the world. Find one in your local
city." And I signed up that week and I
went every week and I gave a speech
every week for a year. I didn't care if
it was 2 minutes or 20 minutes. I showed
up and I spoke. And that ability by the
end of that first year, I was making
$5,000 a speech. I wasn't even making
$5,000 in six months when I started this
action. And I started overcoming this
belief that I wasn't able to do
something. And it changed my life
because I started to shift my beliefs by
going all in on these insecurities,
these fears that were blocking me and
holding me back from developing myself
to have more skills that were more
valuable in the marketplace and in any
industry that I stepped into after that.
And so you got to be thinking about what
is the thing that is holding you back
the most? What is the belief? What is
the fear, the insecurity that is holding
you back the most? You need to start
going all in on that. And this is where
I started. I started with no money, with
no plan, with no income. And I was
absolutely certain that my problem was
that I had no money. And I was like, if
someone would just give me some money,
it would solve all of my problems
because I don't have any. And yet, it
took me years to figure out that my
problem was every belief that I'd
inherited about money. It wasn't that I
didn't have it. It was the beliefs I had
around money. And I want to get into
these five core beliefs right now. So,
let's get into these five beliefs right
here. And I want you to notice something
as I talk about each one of these. I'm
going to share some examples around each
one. They won't sound like beliefs to
you. You're going to be like, "Louis,
huh? Is that a belief? They're just
going to sound like facts to you, like
just how things are in your life. And if
you've already come to this video,
you've come to this episode, then this
is going to sound like a lot of your
life. This is exactly why they've lasted
this long. You'll recognize at least
three of them that I'm going to talk
about for you specifically. And I want
you to comment after the one that speaks
to you the most. And after each one, I'm
going to share with you how to catch it
in the act when that belief comes up to
you and exactly what to do this week to
break that belief. Because a lot of
people come and they'll consume
something or they'll read a book and
it's just a feel good. They don't take
the actions. And I'm telling you, when I
met with this early mentor in my early
20s who was making hundreds of thousands
of dollars a year, for me it it might as
well have been a hund00 million because
I had nothing sleeping on my sister's
couch. It shook [snorts] me and I had a
choice to make. I could have said, "Nah,
that's too uncomfortable to do. That's
too much. I can't go give a speech every
single week to strangers. That's just
too embarrassing. What if I fail? What
if they make fun of me?" I had a choice
to make. I could have let my fear, my
insecurities, and my beliefs hold me
back and keep me playing small forever.
And thank God, my younger self didn't do
that because I went all in. And it gave
me a level of courage. It gave me a
level of skill set, a level of
knowledge, and a level of experience
that created a personal credibility with
myself. And because I had personal
credibility with myself, I knew how to
navigate certain situations that were
comfortable or uncomfortable. I knew how
to speak in front of billionaires in
small private rooms behind the scenes. I
knew how to speak in front of teenage
students in a classroom who were
distracted. I knew how to speak in front
of 10,000 people at once who wanted to
get motivated, inspired. I knew how to
speak to individuals one by one around
an idea that I had around a goal or a
vision and because I developed that
skill early on and I dismantled the
belief that I was not good at speaking
and therefore I would never amount to
anything or never create financial
abundance without that. It unlocked so
many other things that I was able to do
because I went all in on that
insecurity. Now it doesn't mean this was
easy. It doesn't mean it was fun. It
doesn't mean it was enjoyable. And in
fact, the first few months were pretty
miserable. But it has created a lifetime
of freedom and a credibility within
myself that has therefore created a
reputation of who I've been able to get
results for others and therefore created
more opportunities for myself from
others as well. So throughout this
entire episode, I want you to grab
something to write with. You're gonna
need it because the number one money
belief
is that people like me don't make more
money than this.
People like me don't make more money
than this. And this is what a lot of
people when I ask questions to about
what's them holding them back from
making money. People talk about that
there's like a limit to how much you
think you're able to make. And
I want you to think about what that is
for you. Why do people who suddenly
start making more so often end up right
back where they started? Sometimes a few
people break through and then they fall
back. Why is that? Why do people fall
back to a certain level of comfort? Why
do people sabotage? Why is that? because
there's a number in your head that you
have quietly decided is what someone
like you makes. Maybe it's just because
you've picked up on it
on accident because you didn't pick it
up on purpose. It got set by what your
family earned, by what your friends
earned, or what people talked about in
your sphere of influence, and by what
the first good job you ever had pay you,
gave you, whatever it might be. It
didn't get set by logic. It get set by
emotion, by your nervous system feeling
this is what it's supposed to be. You
watched a room go quiet when maybe the
mail came in and there was a certain
amount of either bills or checks that
came in or didn't come in. You heard an
argument through the wall. I knew
growing up I heard a lot of arguments
and it was almost like what wasn't said
was the thing that I picked up more than
the arguments and what was said. It was
like what was said was scary by parents
and things like that, but it was almost
like the tension and the energy of my
parents
when they didn't speak, but we all knew
something is off and they're not happy
and it doesn't feel safe. You saw
someone's face change at a register or
when a check came in, whatever it might
be. When you see the interactions and
the emotions of the people who are
responsible for your life and you picked
that up based on that, nobody sat you
down and taught you to be afraid of
money necessarily. You just absorbed it
and then you built a ceiling out of it.
This is something that I did. This is
something we all do. This is not a make
wrong or this is you're a bad person
because this is something that's
happened to you. This is just a part of
human nature. And unfortunately, some
people have been instilled in this
energy and these beliefs and others
didn't have that. And I felt like I
needed to overcome constantly myself, my
own limiting beliefs on what I
experienced from my sphere of influence,
which was originally my parents and
therefore then kids in my class and
therefore their parents and picking up
on all these nuances around what is safe
and what is not safe in my nervous
system around a belief around money. And
here's the part that messes people up.
Let me know if this has messed you up.
your mind will defend that ceiling like
it's protecting you. And so when you go
above it and you earn more and something
pulls you back down, it's like, okay,
your car breaks, some type of deal falls
through, maybe you didn't get the job
when you thought you were almost about
to get it, and you start spending your
money on something that you didn't need,
whatever it might be. you stop doing the
one thing that was actually working and
you call it bad luck or you call it, oh
man, this happened in my life and I got
pushed back down to a certain level that
I'm comfortable with. And this isn't
about luck. It's a thermostat. Your mind
would rather be broke and familiar than
wealthy and unrecognizable to yourself.
Because unrecognizable and unfamiliar
can be very scary. Even if it's
something that you desire and want, it's
hard to get to that place if you don't
believe you deserve it. So, here's the
tell to know if this is something that's
running your life. It's not always being
broke. That's the obvious version.
Sometimes it's making good money. It's
actually like, "Oh, I'm making good
money." And still opening your banking
app with one eye closed. Or maybe you
don't even want to check your banking
app cuz you're like too scared to see
how much you're making or much maybe how
much credit card debt you're still in
that you don't want to pay off.
Sometimes it's quoting a number and
immediately discounting it before the
other person even responds. So you say,
"Okay, here's how much I'm going to
charge, but actually I'm going to give
you a little bit off because of this,
this, this, and I'm going to go down
here." And it's before seeing how
someone responds to what you're offering
them. Sometimes it might be the money
showing up and then disappearing because
holding it makes you anxious, hoarding
it also makes you anxious, and spending
it makes the anxiety stop for a few
hours, whatever it is. And listen for
the sentences. You know, what are the
things that comes out of your mouth?
Is it I've always been bad with money? I
don't understand money. Someone else
handles the money for me. I'm just not a
numbers person. I'm not really a money
person. I don't really know too much
about investing. So, it's not my thing.
I'm just going to keep my money here.
This is not my world. It's not my
industry.
Every one of those sentences is a
ceiling with a nice voice.
You're a good person. You're a nice
person. You work hard. If you're here,
you want to personally grow. You want to
develop yourself. You're a good human
being if you're here watching this right
now listening to this.
But maybe this is something you've said
in the past. Listen, this is something I
I said every one of these and more when
I was growing up. And even when I
started to earn money, I was afraid of
it. I was afraid of feeling bad or I was
afraid of, oh, I'm making more than
other people. maybe I shouldn't talk
about this. Whatever it might be,
there's a ceiling
with each one of these conversations.
You believe and speak out loud.
And here's the good thing. There's a
thing that you can do right now, a
rewiring that you can do today, this
week, that will support you in
overcoming this. I don't want you to
just feel seen right now. I want you to
go find your ceiling. It takes about a
few minutes and when you find it, it's
going to give you clarity on how to
break through that ceiling. So, step
one, I want you to write down a number
for me. I want you to write this down.
You don't have to put it in the
comments. I want you to write it down
for yourself. Write down the most money
you have ever held in your bank account
for more than 30 days without spending
it. So, what is that number that you've
ever had in your bank account at one
time that you're like, "Wow, I've got
$1,000 or $500 and $10,000 or $500,000,
a million, whatever that is for you."
Put that number down. Just circle it and
have that number for yourself.
Not necessarily your best month, but the
most you've ever let sit in your bank
account or in cash if you keep all your
money in cash for some reason. That
number is not your earning limit. That's
your comfort limit. That's your ceiling
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to write down what you do if your income
doubled tomorrow. So overnight, boom,
double the income comes in or double the
sales or double the revenue wherever
you're at in your in your career or as
an owner of a business, whatever it
might be. If you're a freelancer, if it
doubled tomorrow, what would you do if
your income doubled specifically? Where
does that extra go? Does it just sit in
a bank account? Do you just hold it in
the bank? Do you go spend it on a bunch
of things? Do you put it in multiple
accounts? Do you invest it? Do you buy a
car? Do you buy watches? Do you buy
purses?
If you can't answer that in the next few
minutes,
then a raise wouldn't change your life
or doubling your income wouldn't change
your life. it would just disappear
faster. Money without a destination
always finds one. So, I need you to
start thinking ahead of time. And this
is what wealthy people do around their
beliefs.
When they have money coming in, they
specifically know where the money's
going. I have a vision for how I want my
money to work for me, for this business,
for the charities that I support, all
the different things for the future as
well. And therefore, I feel more
comfortable and more at ease when
money's coming in because I know exactly
where it's going. Whereas earlier in my
career when I started when I was poor
for a few years starting in this
industry, I just wish someone would pay
me because I was broke on my sister's
couch. And the first few years as I
started to earn money, it was more money
than I could ever imagine, right? And I
remember the first time I made $20,000
in a month, I go, I'm like the richest
man in the world. That's how it felt. It
was like this new level of adrenaline
and excitement that I never even
imagined cuz I was like, I never want to
be poor and broke and living on my
sister's couch ever again. That feeling
doesn't feel good. So, I was earning
based out of a scarcity. And I never
learned how to rewire that feeling in
the first few years. It took years of
pain and frustration and burning myself
out because I was so afraid to go back
and that's not a healthy way of earning.
So step three is I want you to raise one
number by 20% this week. So what does
that look like? One price, one rate, one
ask. And when you say it, stop talking.
So, if this is something like you're a
coach and you're trying to sell
something, I want you to
raise the number of your service by 20%
this week. And when you say the number,
don't explain it. Don't justify it.
Don't fill the silence. The silence
after your number is where the old
belief lives. Sit in on it one time and
something permanent changes. This is
very uncomfortable. I remember when I
was starting out in this industry, in
this in this business, and someone I
offered to do a consulting session for
someone at the time. It was around
social media back in 2009.
And I offered to do some a session for
someone that I knew for free. I said,
"Let me come in and show you how to use
social media to help you in in your
goals for your business at that time."
and I just wanted to do it for free to
show him what I was capable of doing and
trying to show him some results quickly.
At the end of this session, maybe it was
two hours, he went into the other room
and he came back and he wrote me a check
and handed it to me and it was for $100.
And at the time I was like, "Wow." I go,
I was just happy to do this for free
because I wanted to help this person and
I thought maybe I could help him improve
with his business. And he was like,
"This is going to help me so much. you
have no clue. Here's $100. And I
remember being so blown away that
someone would pay me $100 to do some
consulting and coaching for a couple
hours. It was like mindblowing. $100
that I can teach you something, help you
with something, give you value, and
you'll exchange, give me $100 in two
hours. It blew me away. Now, I started
saying, "Okay, well, let me what if I
try to do this every week with someone?"
And so I started marketing my services
back in 2009 for $100 for a session to
help people with their their social
media at that time. And it started
working and I got a bunch of people to
do this for me. And I was like, "Oh,
wow. They're all getting results." And I
remember thinking, "Okay, let me try
$150.
Let me try $200, $250." I remember that
$300. And I remember thinking, "Oh my
gosh, this is powerful. If I'm able to
show results for someone, if I'm able to
build credibility within what I'm
capable of doing for others, give them
results,
they refer me to other people.
If I feel like it's valuable enough
that, you know, they gave me $100 and I
helped them make $10,000, then surely
$200 is still a good uh service exchange
for service. $300. Okay, they're still
making a lot more money than the
exchange for this. and it's saving them
time, energy, and taking them out of a
frustration. Long story short, for the
next five years, I kept doing this. I
did this exercise and I would increase
my rates whenever I felt like I had
delivered the value for that time and I
got them value based on the money they
were spending me, based on what I was
charging, I just kept saying, "Okay, how
can I be more uncomfortable with my
ask?" And it went from $100 in a session
to $10,000 in an hour for coaching at
one point. And I remember I stopped
doing it after $10,000 an hour. I was
like, "Okay, this is interesting. I
wonder how much I could charge for
someone." This was probably 10 years ago
when I charged $10,000 in an hour for a
coaching call. And I remember doing this
one coaching call for an hour. It wasn't
even over Zoom or anything. It was just
a an audio call. And the person said,
"This is some of the best money I've
ever spent. Thank you." what you taught
me here is going to help me make a lot
more money. And so if I can charge
10,000 and someone can make a h 100,000
or they can make 500,000 from a taking a
few simple changes in their business,
for me that was worth it. But you've got
to practice this. And the first time I
did it, I was not sure if someone's
going to pay me more than $100. So the
more you practice this, the better it
will be. The first time you charge for
something that felt too high to say out
loud, you know, does it feel
uncomfortable? You need to have the
courage to back the results you can get.
And it doesn't mean everyone's going to
actually say yes to you. Some people
might say no. In fact, a lot of people
try to book me for speaking today and I
give them my number and they say it's
too much and I just say that's okay. I
don't need to speak at your conference
or at your event. So, you need to know
what your your number is for you. And
maybe I would take less if I wasn't
earning the money that I had now uh
based on what the market was willing to
offer me. But you have to be thinking
about that for yourself because people
like me don't make more than this as a
belief is holding you back. And that's
something that was holding me back for
years until I learned to have the
courage to develop certain skills,
overcome the insecurities and the the
fear of rejection and embarrassment by
going allin in developing credibility
for myself. Money belief number two, if
it didn't hurt, I didn't earn it. So why
do so many people work themselves into
the ground and still never build
anything that lasts? You know, I have a
few friends that um you know, their
parents worked very hard for 30, 35, 40
years in a career in an industry
hoping that they would have some type of
retirement at the end of the day. And
sometimes that doesn't always work out
and it always makes me sad to hear. And
it's because they either spent too much
constantly, they didn't know what to do
with their money, whatever it might be.
And sometimes people just overwork
themselves, they burn themselves out
because you weren't taught that money is
a payment for pain, not payment for
value. And that's what you were taught
is that money is a payment for pain, not
payment for value. Payment for pain
is challenging. And this is what a lot
of us heard growing up.
Look at the language of of what every
one of us heard growing up. If you're
watching this, you probably heard people
say, you know, if you want to earn
money, it takes blood, sweat, and tears.
It's hard earned money. Nothing worth
nothing worth having comes easy. None of
those phrases are about value that you
heard growing up. Now, I'm not saying,
listen, I work extremely hard, but I
also make sure that I have some type of
harmony in my life where I'm not burning
myself out constantly because that's not
a rich life in my mind. And that's a
belief system that just makes me get
sick and hurts the people around me. So,
there are phases and seasons and times
where I put in extremely hard work, but
I also know when to pull back and to
recalibrate. And it's thinking about how
can I add more value, not how can I work
harder. There's a difference there.
Every single one of us or every single
one of these is about suffering. Get
these kind of beliefs that we heard
growing up. You know, money doesn't grow
on trees. You've got to work extremely
hard to earn more money. So your
subconscious starts to run the math when
you hear these things that more money
must require more suffering. Or you
might have heard people who make a lot
of money are greedy, evil, and bad. And
you're a good person. So why would you
want to earn more money if you're going
to be associated with everyone else in
your life that you are greedy, evil, and
bad? You don't want that. Your belief
system, your nervous system does not
want people around you, your friends,
your family, the people that make you
feel safe to say, "Oh,
now you are unsafe because you're
earning more money. You must have done
something bad to get it." And since
you're already maxed out, more money
must not be available to you. If you're
already burning yourself and working
yourself extremely hard, you're
thinking, "I can't work any harder, so I
can't earn anymore." And that's the
trap. And you notice what it does to
you. It doesn't make you lazy. It just
makes you more busy. More busy. More
busy. More busy. It makes you pick the
harder path on purpose because the easy
path feels like you're getting away with
something. Like you tricked people, like
it wasn't supposed to be this easy. And
here's the tell for you. You know this
belief is running in your mind. When you
feel guilty taking a Saturday off or a
Sunday off, you build the complicated
version when the simple one would also
sell. If you're a business owner and you
feel like, oh, I have to do all these
extra steps and make it so challenging
to show proof that I worked really hard.
It's almost like in school they teach
you to like show the proof constantly of
how you got to the result instead of
just here's the answer. I never liked
that where it's like you had to show
it's almost you had to work harder to
show the evidence and the proof of how
you got the answer to the teachers than
just saying here's the result. I I just
learned it. I memorized it. I understood
it. I read it. Whatever it might be. I
heard you say it in class. Here's the
result.
And we've been conditioned through all
these different areas of our lives to to
prove
the results instead of just no, I got
you the result. Here's how I did it. And
so you take the client that you knew on
the first call would be a nightmare
because they ask every question. They
try to ask for every discount. They try
to make your life so hard. And instead
of just saying, "Yes, I'm willing to pay
for the price and here's what I expect
in return." Awesome. You describe your
week by how tired you are, when Monday
starts and you say, "I'm exhausted from
last week." Um, not by what you actually
move forward in your life or what you're
excited about. These are all tells. And
when something goes well without a lot
of struggle, you just don't quite quite
trust it. You're like, "Huh, what's the
catch?
Why was this so easy? And this is
something I lived for for years when I
started out. I was the guy who was up
till 2 or 3:00 a.m. every single night,
7 days a week. And it was just like, I
have to work harder. I have to work
harder. I have to show people that I'm
getting little sleep for some reason to
like prove that I'm doing something. It
was like prove that I'm working harder
for getting these results. And I felt
like I was
had to prove this in every room that I
walked into. It's like I had to explain
it. And this is one of the reasons why I
was still stuck. Sure, I was earning
more, but I was getting more and more
physically tired. I was exhausted and I
was getting irritable. Like emotionally,
I was getting more irritable because
discipline pointed in the wrong
direction.
When it's pointed in the wrong
direction, it just gets you to the wrong
places faster. That's what happens when
you are doing the wrong things. So that
first four or five years, that first
season of my business experience, I was
just exhausted trying to and really I
think I was trying to prove to like
mentors and thought leaders in the
industry that I was deserving or worthy
of kind of being in this world uh and
being accepted in this kind of space, I
guess. And instead of just showing like,
hey, I can get results and I don't have
to burn myself on every end. And I think
when I was starting out, it just felt
like everyone was doing that. So maybe I
was surrounding myself with other people
that also had these limiting beliefs and
they're like, I have to prove this. So
the rewire is something I want you to do
this week. This is the action. Money
doesn't follow effort. Money follows
value. And when you can imprint that in
your nervous system and in your mind
that money doesn't follow effort, money
follows value, you can start to apply
this in different ways. And listen, I
think it doesn't mean you're not going
to have moments where you're not working
hard and you're not giving effort. That
is still true. You're still going to
need to work hard at different times and
give effort, but it follows value. And
sometimes that can be effortless.
And most people have never once
checked which one that they're selling.
So here's the assignment for a few
minutes.
It's going to sting a little bit, but I
want you to think about this. This is
step one of this assignment. I want you
to find your real hourly number.
Take what you earned last month,
divide it by the hours you actually
worked in the month, not the contract
hours, but the real ones. And you know,
if you were working late at night or if
you were working all weekends or if you
were doing calls on Sunday to catch up
or calls in the car, whatever it was,
um, most people never do this math. And
so the number is always a little bit
lower than people expected. So think
about the amount you made last month and
the hours you put in.
And step two is to split last week into
two columns. Column one, hours somebody
would have happily paid for and column
two is hours you spent because you felt
like you should be working. And be
honest because no one's going to read
this. You don't have to put this in the
comments below. For most people, column
two is bigger. And that gap is your
entire income problem sitting on one
page. And step three, move one hour from
column two into column one. One hour
this week, that's it. That's the whole
move. Because once you do it and watch
it work, you'll never again really be
confused being busy with being valuable.
And one more thing on this is when
something comes easy to you, stop
discounting it. Stop saying like, "Oh,
this was actually pretty easy for me. I
just made a phone call and I got the
result. I just did this thing online and
boom, it worked pretty quickly. The
skill you don't even count as a skill
because it's just how your brain works.
That's actually the most valuable thing
that you own. You can't see it because
it's normal to you and you feel like,
oh, everyone should be able to do this,
but the thing that you do best that's so
effortless, that's the thing to lean
into. And
I remember this for me. For me, it was
like building relationships
and connecting people. I just felt like
it was so easy for me to ask questions
early on in the business world. I would
get into rooms that I didn't feel like I
was supposed to be in or other people my
age weren't in these rooms. I would
somehow get in these rooms and I would
just be so excited to be meeting people
and asking them questions about how they
succeeded and the challenges they had to
overcome. And I I just so curious and
excited that people wanted to share with
me. And it's like they would just give
me all the answers on how they became
successful just because I was curious
and excited about them. And when I would
ask them you what's your biggest
challenge right now that would help you
accomplish your goals that you're trying
to accomplish right now? They would tell
me, you know, I'm looking for someone I
can hire here. I'm looking for an agency
that can help me with this. And I'd be
like, oh, I know the perfect person. And
I would call them right then and put
them on the phone with that person and
say, "Hey, I think you guys could be
good for each other. Why don't you tell
them what you're struggling with and if
this is something you can offer value
in, I'm going to follow up with an email
and connect you both." And that just
became something that was natural to me.
And I just assumed everyone was a giver
and generous in that way. And everyone
had a network like this. And people were
just like so thankful that they would
say, "How can I help you in return?" And
the more I did that, every year I just
added goodwill and added value to so
many people that business came back to
me, opportunities came back to me. So
think about those that thing that comes
so effortless to you. That is a skill
that could be earning you so much more
money if you go all in on it. So, end of
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more makes me a bad person. Wanting more
money makes me a bad person. Why do so
many good-hearted people feel guilty the
second things start going well?
This is a challenge because again when
you start doing things better than your
friend group or you start earning more
than your friend group or maybe one day
you start earning more than your parents
ever earned.
It starts to be a different dynamic.
There starts to be a different dynamic
in your school, in your friend group, in
your community, in your family, and all
of a sudden people look at you
differently because somewhere along the
line you got handed a lie that money and
being a good person pull in opposite
directions. We've seen this in movies.
We've seen this, you know, in your
community. You've seen this on the news
that anyone with a lot must have had it
taken from somewhere else. Like they
must have taken it from somebody. They
must have stolen it. They must have been
fraudulent. Whatever it might be, that
wanting more means you're ungrateful for
what you have. And you should appreciate
what you have and not want more. And if
you believe that even a little bit, your
mind and your nervous system
will never let you become the thing that
you judge. This is challenging. So if
you've just felt this, if there was just
an energy growing up that your parents
said these things about other people
that weren't them, ah that person
probably did this to get there. Oh, that
person did this bad thing and they have
a lot of money. uh what whatever it
might be, it just builds in your your
your wiring in your mindset, your wiring
in your nervous system. And you don't
want to be judged as one of those people
who earn more and did it the wrong way
and is even associated with that world.
It just doesn't feel good because more
than what you want, you want to be a
good person. Sure, you might want to
make more money, but more than that, you
want to be a good person. And your mind
thinks it has to pick one. You're like,
I want to be a good person, so therefore
I can't be earning this much more money.
So, it picks broke and moral every time
or picks, okay, I'm comfortable with
this amount of money because this is
acceptable within my friend group or
within my family or this is what you're
supposed to be earning and I'm a good
person. You'd rather have that. This is
something I I think everyone wants to
feel like they're a good person or most
people. I want to feel like I'm a good
person, right? But I also know I want to
earn more so that I can give more.
Here's the tell is like one hides better
than the other because it looks like
humility. You start hiding it because it
looks like humility. You start to
discount anyone
when they ask you to or when they don't
ask you to. You start to discount
people. You apologize for your own
prices. You you you say the thing went
fine when it was like incredible. You
try to like discount how good something
went. When somebody compliments you and
you you you hand the credit to timing or
I got lucky, right? It wasn't that big
of a deal. Whatever it is that you like
to say, I was in the right place at the
right time. It's not that's not modesty.
That's you making yourself smaller so
nobody else feels bad. And your bank
account is listening. Your your
connection to your
emotional, psychological, and nervous
system is is connected to your bank
account in some ways. So, here's the
rewire. I want you to try this this
week. Here's what I had to learn. It
took me a little bit of while. Money
doesn't make you anything. It magnifies
already what's inside of you. So if
you're a generous person with more
money, it gives you more to give. A
selfish person with more money, that
person's going to take more or going to
be less generous. The money didn't
decide, the person did. Who you are
decides. But knowing that doesn't kill
the guilt that's inside of you. And you
know what kills the guilt? It's giving
the money a job before it ever arrives.
So, here's the assignment. I want you to
pick your percentage today. Not when you
start making more money or when I make
this then I'll start doing this. I want
you to pick it today. And whatever you
currently make, 1%, 5%, 10%, whatever
the percent is for you, a quarter
percent. The number matters less than
the decision. Write down who or what it
goes to. then automate it so you never
have to decide that again. So, here's
why this beats any affirmation you could
say in the mirror. And I'm all about
like being positive and having positive
mantras and affirmations, but when you
automate things, it sets things up for
greater opportunities in the future. So,
once a percentage of every dollar is
already spoken for, making more stops
feeling like taking. It starts feeling
like funding. It starts feeling like
investing. It starts feeling like
generating for someone else or yourself
in the future, whatever it might be. And
the part nobody warns you about is your
ambition actually goes up. It doesn't go
down. Because now a bigger year isn't
about you. So stop asking whether it's
okay to want more. Start asking what you
do with that money. And when you start
to see clearly that, okay, when I make a
certain amount of money every month, I'm
going to put a certain amount away for
these different things. I don't care if
it's for a charity, for a side project,
for your future investments, whatever it
is, start doing that now. That way when
you earn more, it's automatically going
into the future of what you want to
create instead of, well, I don't know
what I want to create with this this
money, so I'm just going to hoard it in
my bank account and stash it and one day
I'll figure this out.
Who could you take care of with a little
bit more money or putting a little bit
of money away every single month? What
would you fund that you care about? What
is a cause that inspires you? What is a
pain that you experienced as a kid, as a
teenager, as a young adult that you wish
no one ever has to feel this pain ever
again? What is the thing you've had to
overcome that you want to eliminate?
There's got to be a cause. There's got
to be something that you could be of
service to with just a little bit every
month, a small percentage. And when you
earn more, just think of the impact that
percentage could do every single month
in the future. What problem could you
solve instead of just feeling bad about
instead of just complaining about
instead of just talking about or
criticizing about online? Instead of
judging the government for what they're
not doing or what they're doing right
and wrong or judging people who have
money of what they should be doing with
their money or judging your friends or
family for wasting my money, whatever it
is, what can you take ownership and
responsibility of that you're not doing
yet that will then empower you to make a
difference in that pain for someone
else. You're not chasing money at that
point. You're building capacity and
there's nothing to apologize
in that. This is a key. When I started
earning more money early on, I remember
thinking to myself, okay,
I've made a good amount of money. I
wasn't like, you know, millions in the
bank or something, but I had made a good
amount of money where I was like, all
right, I'm not on my sister's couch. I
can pay for an apartment. I'm going to
be if I make no more money for the next
two years, I'll be okay and I can
survive. And I remember thinking to
myself, okay, but now what? Now that I'm
out of survival mode,
what do I want to do with my life, with
my time, with my money? And I went
through this process. This was probably
15, 16 years ago. And I was really like,
you know, I suffered in school. Every
day was miserable. I don't think I
remember having one good day unless it
was like we were on a field trip all day
and it wasn't in a classroom. That was
maybe the only time I enjoyed school or
that one hour a day where we're in gym
class. That was like, you know, I just
remember being in the back of every
class, watching the clock tick every
single second for hours every day,
waiting for 2:30 or 3:00 or 3:30 or
whatever the the the school day ended
and just dreading it. Every single day
was dread until the clock was like the
final bell where I could get out there
and play some sports.
But as an adult, I remember thinking,
"Oh my gosh, the way that I got off my
sister's couch was through education,
was through wisdom, was through
knowledge from mentors that I had access
to, essentially teachers of life. And
these teachers gave me the information
and the challenges to go take action, to
develop the skills, to develop the
value, to therefore go earn money. And
without those individuals, without that
school of greatness that I was getting
before I launched the school of
greatness, I wouldn't be where I was at.
And I said, most people in most kids in
the world don't even have access to
schools. I at least had access. And so
early on, I said, let me find a charity
or charities that help kids around the
world who don't have school, that don't
have the ability to even dream because
they don't have a place to go to learn.
And that's why for the last 14 maybe 15
years we've been investing in Pencils of
Promise. Myself personally, my company,
we invest every year in helping build
schools, fund education for kids all
over the world. And it's something that
excites me to know that some of the
money, a percentage of the money is
going towards other people who we can
really make a difference in their lives.
So, the end of money belief number three
is wanting more makes me a bad person. I
want you to eliminate that, but you
eliminate it by making sure you're doing
things to help others and serve people
with your money as well. Money belief
number four. I need people to see that
I'm doing okay. I need people to see
that I'm doing okay. Spending to prove
instead of spending to build.
Why do so many people who look rich have
almost nothing behind it?
Because the spending was never
financial. It was emotional. And most
people aren't buying things. They're
buying a feeling. You know, we've all
been We've all done this before. You
know, I've bought things in the past
because I'm like, "Wow, this is going to
feel amazing." And it does feel amazing
for a period of time. And maybe those
new clothes or those new shoes or
whatever, buying a watch or a car makes
you feel like, "Yeah, I earned this.
Look at me. I feel good. There's an
upgrade." All these different things. I
don't think there's anything wrong with
buying something nice for yourself for a
feeling. But most people aren't buying
things. They're buying a feeling. The
feeling of finally being somebody. The
feeling of being taken seriously. The
feeling of not being the kid who had
less than everyone else. I know that's
how I felt. And when the belief running
your mind is, I need to prove I'm
enough. Then every dollar gets put into
that fight before it ever has a chance
to become anything. You're thinking,
when I make this money, I'm going to go
buy this thing. And it's just tied to
that belief system. And I've watched the
difference up close for years. People
who look wealthy buy things that lose
value. They're trying to look rich.
People who are wealthy buy things that
make value. One group buys the car, the
other group buys the thing that pays for
the car. And the second group is almost
always quieter about it. So here's the
tell. You'll feel this one in the in the
timing. The urge to buy gets strongest
right after something makes you feel
small.
A meeting that didn't go your way. You
didn't get the job opportunity. You got
rejected by a potential client. An old
classmate posting the vacation that they
just went on and the trip of the
lifetime to Europe. Uh a comment that
you can't stop thinking about, a
negative review,
and then the purchase arrives and the
feeling lasts for a few days, right?
It's like, okay, this feels good. I feel
better about me because I got this thing
because I didn't get this thing this
feeling in another way. The wild part is
the people you're trying to impress
aren't really thinking about you that
much. Maybe there's a few critics here
and there. Maybe there's a few people
talking behind your back for a moment,
but they're busy most likely trying to
impress someone else or trying to look
good in front of you or look good in
front of others. And it's a whole
economy built around a wound, an old
wound that holds people back. So, the
rewire, the thing that I want you to do
this week is I'm not going to tell you
to never enjoy your money. I really
think that money should be something
that you use to enrich your life. If you
want to buy anything nice, buy it.
That's your right. It's your money. I
enjoy mine and that's part of the point
of building it because what's the point
of working hard, working and adding
value to others to to generate an
income, saving it all in the bank and
never using it to experience life. This
is not what this is about. I have nice
things. I have, you know, nice trips.
Um, but for 15 years, I lived in a
two-bedroom apartment, and I was fine
with that as well. I didn't need a
house. I didn't need a car for many
years. I didn't have a car and I walked
everywhere. So, I've lived in both
scenarios. But you have to know which
one you're doing right now. So, put the
put two things between you and the next
big purchase. One is the 72hour rule.
So, if you were like, I really want to
buy this purse or these shoes or these
glasses or whatever this thing is, this
watch, this jewelry, this car, give
yourself a 72-hour rule. Anything
significant
waits three days. No exceptions. None.
If you're buying food, that's different.
But if you're trying to buy some big
purchase, give yourself three days. And
in those three days, ask one question.
Am I buying this to feel something? Or
am I buying this to build something?
Again, am I buying this to feel worthy
or enough or like I made it? Or am I
doing this to build something? The
purchases that are really about proving
something almost never survive 72 hours
if you give yourself a few days. And
it's not about willpower. That's the
feeling wearing off before you've ever
paid for it. Step two is learn to see
the second price tag. Now, this is a big
one. Every purchase has two prices. What
it costs today and what that money could
have become. So, here's a rough shortcut
you can run in your head. Historically,
money invested around 7% has tended to
roughly double about every 10 years.
That's an average. It's not a promise.
No uh no year looks like the average,
but it's close enough to think with as
this model. So, $1,000 today isn't just
$1,000. Over 20 years, it's closer to
four. I'm not saying that to make you
feel guilty about spending. I'm saying
it so you see both prices before you
choose on what you buy. Most people only
ever see one price. I'm going to buy
this thing. Here's how much it costs.
And then do one last thing this month.
Make a purchase that no one will ever
see. An investment of course, a skill, a
share of something small, whatever it
might be. Make an investment on
something that you're going to invest in
yourself that will support you.
something that will never get a single
compliment. What is that thing? It could
be an investment in yourself. Again, a
training, a course, whatever it might
be, uh a share of something, whatever.
That's how you'll know that you finally
am building for yourself and not for an
audience that's even watching. That's
end of money belief number four, that I
need people to see that I'm doing okay.
And money belief number five, you don't
talk about money. the silence that keeps
every other belief alive. Why do people
make real progress with money and then
slide all the way back? Because the one
belief no one ever says out loud. We
don't talk about money. We don't talk
about Brun. No. Isn't that a song? We
don't talk about money. That should be a
new song that most people have. But we
need to break that belief. It's rude.
It's private. It's bragging. When I talk
about money, it makes people
uncomfortable. So, everyone stays quiet.
We don't talk about it. We never talked
about money growing up. My parents
didn't talk about it. My siblings don't
talk about how much they make in their
careers. We don't talk about money. We
stay quiet. And here's what that silence
actually is costing you. You have no
idea what anyone actually makes. You
have no idea what anything should cost.
You have no idea how the person ahead of
you got there because you've never been
allowed to ask. You've never been able
to talk about it. It's been taboo. So,
you learn money the same way that you
learned it as a kid by guessing, by
watching, by mimicking, by absorbing
whatever is in the room, whatever the
energy is. Okay, I don't want to ruffle
any feathers. Secrecy is how bad money
beliefs survive.
Secrecy is how bad money beliefs
survive. Nobody challenges them because
nobody says them out loud. And it starts
with your own numbers. Most people can't
tell you what they spent last month.
They have no clue how much they spent
last month, how much they've saved, how
much they're investing, how much debt
they have. They have no clue because
they're afraid to look at it. They're
afraid to talk about it. They're afraid
that you know about it for judging them
because you're farther ahead, for
judging them because you're behind,
whatever it might be. They can't tell
you what they owe or what they own. Not
because they're responsible, because
looking feels worse than not looking. I
know this feeling.
When I was living off three credit
cards, I didn't want to look at how much
interest I was paying every single month
because I felt ashamed. I felt guilty. I
felt bad. I felt less than. I felt like
I'm failing every single day, every
single month. I haven't paid off my
credit cards. I am failing. And
therefore, I just wanted to go spend
money on something to feel better about
me, to fulfill the hole that I was
lacking. For me, I never like buying
things was not like a thing. I didn't
want to go buy clothes or watches. Like
I could care less about those things.
For me, it was like, I want to go buy
some food. I want to go buy some sugar.
I want to buy some pizza, some ice cream
that's got to make me feel good because
I have this hole inside of me that says
I'm not enough. That says I'm I'm
behind. That says I'm lacking. That says
I'm a loser. And no one wants to feel
bad or wrong. We don't want to feel that
way. So, we will do anything we can to
take that pain away. Think about who you
talk to about money right now. Do you
talk to anyone about money? Do you share
everything? Do you not share everything?
Do you tell your friends everything? Do
you not talk to them? Do you tell your
partner, your girlfriend, your
boyfriend, your spouse, how much you
make, how much debt you have, the
financial mistakes you've made? Are you
married and do you not know how much
your spouse makes? Like just and think
about this for now. It doesn't mean
there's a right or wrong, good or bad.
It just means there's a belief and these
beliefs either serve you or they hold
you back. For most people, the honest
answer is nobody. You don't talk about
money with nobody. We don't talk about
money. Do and the conversations they do
have are all kind of like compliments or
surface level or whatever it might be.
Or they compliment you on wow that's so
expensive that you got that. You know
how the rig how the system might be
rigged. It's all against you. You know
the government is rigged. Corporate
America is rigged. I hate all of this.
The taxes is rigged. Whatever it might
be, rich people are rigged. They're
stealing everything. Whatever it might
be, whatever the belief is, how we're
all just trying to get by. You know,
that's not a money conversation. That's
a group argument to stay exactly where
you are. And it's really a group
agreement to stay exactly where you are,
arguing about things that you just don't
like in the world. And here's where you
got to rewire things. I want you to do
this this week. There's two assignments.
One with yourself and one with somebody
else. First, go learn your four numbers.
What came in last month? What went out
last month? How much did you spend? How
much did you bring in? What you owe? And
what you own. That's it. Four numbers.
What came in, what came out last month,
what you own, and what you owe. Maybe
you don't own anything right now except
for some clothes and a little bit of
jewelry or something or a car. Um, but
just take inventory of everything you
own and everything you owe. Do you have
debt? Do you have loans? Do you have uh
receipts you still haven't paid to
friends? Whatever it might be. Four
numbers. It takes about
30 minutes to get this information and
it's done. And I'll tell you what
happens when you do this. The anxiety
doesn't go up. It starts to go down.
It's just because you have the knowledge
of what you've been spending, what
you've been bringing in, what you own,
and what you owe. Just that knowledge.
Maybe you don't like seeing it right
away, but at least it gives you clarity
because vague fear is always bigger than
a real number. And when you have clarity
of these numbers, now you can create a
game plan. And you cannot negotiate with
a feeling. You can absolutely work with
a number. It may be challenging to
overcome, but at least you can start to
work with it with a real game plan. And
second is I want you to have a real
conversation this week with someone.
Find someone further along than you and
ask them these three things. What would
you do if you were me right now? That
means you got to share where you're at.
What did that actually cost you?
And what's the mistake you'd undo if you
could? So, what would you do if you were
me right now? What did something that
they have actually cost you? That car,
that watch, that nice thing, that home,
what did that cost you? And what's the
mistake you could undo if you could
notice that none of those are what's
your advice? Right? They're specific
enough that people answer them honestly.
And most people will tell you that
they've just never been asked. You know,
most people don't ask these things. And
while you're at it, go find out what
your
work pays somewhere else. So, the job
you're at right now, if you're at a job,
if you're a business owner, this is
something different. But if you're at a
career or work, go ask where this job
may pay you somewhere else. Like how
much it pays for the role you're in at
another company. The same role, the same
service, but maybe a different market.
People stay underpaid for years for a
number of reasons, but one of them is no
one ever told them the number like
here's how much you can actually make
somewhere else or in this space. Now, it
all depends on the job market. Um, you
know, what you've created, how many
years you're in right now, but you can
ask in other places like, hey, how much
are you making? Ask your friends who are
at the same level of career that you're
at, how much are you making here? just
to get a better understanding and that
will give you more knowledge, more
wisdom and more information to be able
to hopefully take action on certain
things in your life right now. And
that's the end of money belief number
five. You don't talk about money. For
me, money is something that I like to
talk about often. And I almost like to
make people uncomfortable by asking
these questions. I don't know why. Maybe
it's just more my personality, but I
like to ask people to see like how
comfortable they are. And maybe because
I've been an entrepreneur for so long
and the entrepreneurial community talks
about numbers more than the non-
entrepreneurial community. So I invest
in masterminds, I invest in coaches, I
go to business conferences and people
are sharing the numbers in these circles
and in these spaces. So I've just felt
more comfortable because it's something
I've been a part of and invested in
learning about for a long time. But I
want to give you a 30-day challenge,
one number a week. So if you're sitting
there right now and you're feeling all
of this, if you're feeling like, "Okay,
where do I actually start?" Louis, I'm
not going to give you a list of things
to feel for the next 30 days. You're
going to get four numbers, one a week.
That's the whole challenge. Because
every belief we talked about today
survives on you not looking.
Week one, what you actually keep. So,
what came in, what went out and what's
left, what you actually keep. Now, what
you earn, excuse me, not what you earn,
but what you keep at the end of the day.
Because you might earn a certain amount,
but then you spend so much that you
actually don't keep any. Those are two
completely different numbers. And only
one of them builds anything. So, that's
week number one. what you actually keep
after what you bring in and the expenses
that go out. Week number two, your real
hourly earnings. So last month's income
divided by the the hours that you
actually worked. Then ask whether you're
being paid for effort or being paid for
value. And value is the results that you
get more so than the effort. Week three,
what you're worth somewhere else. So
find out what your role or your service
if you're a business owner pays in
another market. So if you're at a
career, you can ask around your friends,
hey, how much you making? You know,
maybe that's just an uncomfortable
conversation that just gets you
open-minded to exploring that. Now, it
doesn't mean you're going to go
necessarily make that right away. Maybe
another company hires you, maybe not.
But it's just to see where other people
are at in your space, at your age range
or your experience or your value and
what they're making. If you're a
business owner in an industry, maybe
you're in an industry right now that's
just not paying you well for your
services. Maybe there's a different
industry that if you were in sales in
one industry and it's not paying that
well, but a different industry, it could
pay you double if you were a salesperson
with a higher ticket price offering. You
might be able to earn more in a
different industry. Now, jumping from
one industry to the next, maybe it's
easy, but maybe you need to learn a
certain set of skills in order to be
able to move over there and transfer
those skills. Maybe you need to develop
relationships, whatever it might be. But
it gives you information of what could
be possible somewhere else. And week
four, your ceiling, the most you've ever
let sit in your bank account for 30
days. What is that number? That's the
number your mind has been defending this
whole time. the mind feeling like, "Wow,
that's so much. I don't know if I could
ever go beyond that." Now you know what
you're up what you're actually up
against. Four numbers, 30 days. And one
thing running underneath it all
every week, say one of those numbers out
loud to another human being. It's the
fear. It's the insecurity. It's what are
people going to think of me? That's
actually the part that breaks the
programming. You learning to have
courage to be able to speak up and be
seen by others about where you currently
are. This will change the game. When you
stop feeling guilty and insecure and
embarrassed and not enough and a loser
for where you're at, and you start
feeling comfortable with where you're
at, maybe you don't enjoy it, but you're
comfortable to talk about it. That gives
you a place to grow. You're not hiding
anymore. You're actually saying, "All
right, now I can create a game plan to
allow me to start building from where
I'm at now." When I was on my sister's
couch for a year and a half, living off
three credit cards, I didn't feel
worthy. I didn't feel enough. I felt
like a loser every single day. But it at
least it didn't keep me from putting
myself out there and asking people who
were 10 years ahead of me, 20 years
ahead of me, who had earned and overcome
those challenges. I asked them
questions. I shared with them where I'm
at. I talked about where I was
struggling financially. I was willing to
reveal myself. It didn't feel good in
the beginning, but it gave me a game
plan. It showed me where I am and where
others were and where I wanted to be.
And by getting the wisdom and experience
and the knowledge from others and having
the comfort level to communicate these
things, it didn't make making more
scarier. It made it something easier.
And that's what I want for you. And it
doesn't mean it always happens
overnight. You know, it took me some
years to figure these things out and
start building. I had to overcome
myself. I had to develop more skills. I
had to learn how to add way more value.
and get much bigger results for people.
I had to learn all these different
things that took time. When you do this
day over day, it's going to be able to
bring more to your life. And you'll be
making decisions with information
instead of fear. Because when you don't
talk about something, it probably means
you're afraid of it. And when you make
decisions based on something you're
afraid of instead of something you have
knowledge around, you're probably going
to be living in scarcity much more
because of that fear. And everything
downstream of that fear changes. So I
want to leave you with this. You're not
behind because you're lazy or not
motivated.
And you're not stuck because you aren't
smart enough. I'm telling you right now,
I was in the bottom of my class and I
felt like I was one of the dumbest
people that I was always around.
I guarantee you, you watching this right
now, you're probably way smarter than
you think. And you can probably beat me
on every school test that there is. So,
I know you're smarter than me in a lot
of ways.
It's not about being smart. It's about
having courage to overcome the emotional
fears that are holding you back. and you
didn't fail some test uh of wanting it
badly enough.
I know you want something bad. You've
been carrying beliefs that you never
agreed to. These are just things that
have been passed down and it's never
something you wanted. It's just
something that became a part of your
emotional nervous system. And the only
reason that they've held up this long is
that nobody ever read them back to you.
Well, now
hopefully this has hopefully this
experience, this moment, this
conversation, I'm reading these things
back to you. I'm saying these things
back to you that you've probably
experienced or felt some of these
because the people I've met with real
wealth and with peace in their heart. I
am telling you right now, they aren't
necessarily more smarter or more
talented than you. Some of them are.
Some of them are actually really smart
and really talented. But I'm telling
you, a majority of people that I've met
who have a lot more wealth. They're not
smarter or more talented. Again, there's
a few, but not all of them are like way
smarter and more talented than you. I
guarantee I'm not. But I have developed
a skill set that has allowed me to
believe I'm capable of earning more. And
that is the difference. There's people
who are going to be so much smarter than
me that could out debate me on
everything, that could out, you know,
test me on everything, that could be way
more talented in a lot of things. But if
there is an emotional belief that is
holding them back, that has a ceiling of
what they believe they're deserving of
earning, then it just means they're
going to be limited on what that
financial ability is. And most of them
aren't even working harder than you. I
guarantee you're working your butt off.
I know you are. They just stopped
guessing. They know their numbers. They
say them out loud. They write them down.
They're clear on what they bring in,
what's going out, what their goals for
the future are. They ask the questions
the rest of us are maybe too polite to
ask, or they don't want to ruffle any
feathers with their friends or their
family or their community. And that's
something that you can start today. You
don't have to wait to feel confident to
ask questions or to learn your numbers.
Not with a windfall, not with a perfect
plan. You don't you don't need to have
everything perfect to start today with
one number you've been avoiding and one
belief you finally put down. If you want
to go deeper on everything we've
covered, I wrote a book about this
because this is the book that I wish I
had when I was in my early 20s when I
was suffering emotionally and
psychologically and in my nervous system
around money. And the book is called
Make Money Easy. The link is in the
description right below. And if one of
these five beliefs hit a little too
close, then tell me which number in the
comments, cuz I like reading as many of
these comments and commenting as well,
because the moment you can see the
belief, you are no longer the one being
run by the belief. And that's where all
of this starts. Again, the book is
called Make Money Easy. This is the book
that I wish I had where it helps you
identify your money style. It helps you
develop a powerful money mindset so you
can earn more. It helps you create a
money map to reach clear financial
goals. It helps you appreciate your
value and discover your hidden skills
for greater earning potential. And it
helps you find money mentors
to support you in believing what's
possible for the future. So when you
change your mindset around money, your
entire life becomes richer. So the link
is in the description or you can go
online and get it. Make money easy. It's
also translated in a lot of different
languages, Spanish, Portuguese, many
other languages. Check out the book if
you feel like this has added value. This
has supported you. This book goes deeper
in helping you break down the beliefs
that are holding you back and setting
you up for financial freedom. I hope
you've enjoyed this episode. Let me know
the belief that has held you back the
most below.
Start taking action because you're
worthy and deserving [music]
of earning more. What if everything you
were taught about building wealth was
designed to keep you broke? The people
who often talk [music] about money
around you have never actually built
wealth themselves. Think about it. Your
parents taught you what [music] they
knew. Society taught you to get a job,
save a little when you can, retire
someday if you're lucky.