Video summary
Tony Gaskins opens his video by addressing a heartbreaking recent tragedy where a young Broadway star, who played Nia in *The Lion King*, was stabbed to death by her ex-boyfriend. He uses this case to highlight a disturbing trend where men refuse to let women leave their lives, often resorting to extreme violence when they feel rejected or abandoned. Gaskins emphasizes that such actions are not acts of love but rather manifestations of deep-seated control issues and emotional immaturity. He notes that while age gaps can sometimes exacerbate these dynamics, the core issue lies in a man's inability to handle rejection and his descent into sadistic behavior when faced with a partner trying to exit the relationship.
The speaker argues that victims often fail to recognize the red flags because they rationalize their partners' instability or lack of resources, hoping for change that never comes. He warns that these individuals are frequently "playing crazy," using posturing and threats to intimidate partners into submission rather than addressing genuine mental health issues. Gaskins stresses that once a man crosses the line into physical violence, it is not a one-time mistake but a sign of escalating danger where future altercations will inevitably become worse. He urges women to prioritize their safety over emotional attachment, advising them to leave immediately upon seeing any sign of aggression or instability, no matter how much they love the person.
To prevent such tragedies, Gaskins advocates for establishing strict boundaries and "deal breakers" at the very beginning of a relationship. He encourages women to clearly communicate that any physical contact or threatening behavior will result in immediate police involvement, ensuring the partner understands the severe consequences of crossing that line. For men, he calls for radical self-discipline, including meditation, proper nutrition, regular exercise, and spiritual growth to manage anger and prevent degenerative mental states. He suggests that if a man feels the urge to harm someone, they should seek professional help or remove themselves from society entirely rather than acting on those impulses.
Ultimately, Gaskins concludes that playing with dangerous individuals is a fatal game that must be avoided at all costs. He shares his personal commitment to maintaining a regimented lifestyle through water fasting and strict routines to keep his mind sharp and spirit aligned, warning that neglecting self-care leads to mental decline. His message is a plea for both genders to take responsibility for their actions and seek accountability before it is too late, reminding everyone that God sees the heart and that true healing requires growth rather than violence. He ends by encouraging viewers to join his coaching community for support and to finish his educational courses to build a life free from fear and destructive patterns.
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Hey, hey, Tony Gaskins here. Y'all got
to forgive me. Maybe can't see me too
well. I'm leaving my office.
Just finished in the school community
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But I wanted to touch on this because
I've been seeing this a lot more here
lately and it's so sad and heartbreaking
to me.
And I want y'all ladies to think about
this. Like
it's a lot of men that
is not letting these women leave.
And to y'all men,
if you might see this, man, you got to
heal and you got to get your life
together, bro. You got to do better than
that. Like, that's some real punk stuff
to take a woman life because she don't
want to be with you. Like,
you you you got to grow. You got to
heal. You got to do better. Cuz I'm
going to tell you like this, man. your
life going to be so miserable
when and you going to pay the price like
yeah you can ask for forgiveness and all
of that but God know your heart you know
you going to reap what you sown
and
you got to do better than that man I
seen the young lady she's uh she was a
Broadway
star she played in the Lion King she
played Nia,
she was 26 if I'm not mistaken,
and
exboyfriend, not boyfriend, but
exboyfriend,
I think, stabbed her to death
and I believe I read that he was 35.
And that's just that's real unfortunate
if this man really was 35
or 37 or something like that. I you know
what I when I read he could have been
37. When I read it I said to myself,
well see there he outside of the age
limit.
And that's why I try to tell y'all that
too. Not to say that it won't happen
with somebody in
the age limit. It definitely can. But
what I be trying to tell y'all is that
you run into more problems
when they are outside of the age limit.
So now here you have this guy.
You got this guy
and what is this other southern what
here? You got this guy
and he is
he taking
and he don't want to get left because
he's like you're a child like you 10
years 11 years younger than me and you
trying to leave me I'm going to spank
you
but as a dad
he would have tried to spank his
daughter with a belt.
And as an adult, he spanked her with a
knife.
So he took and stabbed the woman to
death
because he wanted he was trying to
control her. He was trying to raise her.
And she probably innocently
gave him a chance thinking, "Hey, I'm 26
or whenever they started dating, I'm
this age. the guys my age, they not
stable. They don't have good jobs or
they don't have no money. Yes, this guy
is older, but this this this she
probably came up with all the reasons of
why she wanted to deal with him, but she
couldn't at her age. That's the thing,
too, that I'm telling y'all. Don't let
these women die in vain.
study, evaluate, learn what you can from
their situation because you got to
understand it.
He had several more trips around the
moon than she had. So, it was red flags
and signs that he showed that she did
not see.
She didn't pick it up. She didn't know
that was a red flag. her mama would have
knew cuz her mama older than him.
A woman his age would have knew, but she
didn't see it all. And sometimes women
who deal with a man they same age could
see the red flags but continue to deal
with the man. Because you got to think
about it.
Have you ever killed somebody?
Hopefully the answer is no.
Picture if you were to do that in a
crime of passion.
It don't just happen from happy golucky,
happy golucky, happy golucky, boom, you
take their life.
And the reason why he was a ex
is probably because of the signs that he
showed
leading up to this and this was the next
step.
Now, this is where if I was the
president,
men who do this will get done dirty. The
president could do what they want to do.
And I'm telling y'all boys, if this type
of guy you is, you better you better
you better not try that on my watch.
And if I had the skills that a that a
Green Beret or Delta 6 or whatever they
call them them special them special ops
guys, if I had the skills them guys got,
I'd be going and hunting these guys
down.
I will be hunting them down and we gonna
pluck off all their toenails one at a
time. I'mma get all I'mma round up all
the the gay men in the community.
Let them do them dirty. We going to pull
one hair at a time off his head, off his
arms, off his legs, off his whole body.
Like you literally will go through the
worst, most experienced thing you've
ever experienced in your life
for taking a woman life. Boy, you going
to go through it. But guess what? You're
going to go through that in hell if God
don't let you go through
something worse while you living and
then go burn in eternity. Because see,
some people are incapable of repentance.
Because some people so far gone that
they've already chose their side.
They've already chose the demonic.
They've already chose darkness. And
they're not going to repent. Or they
will repent faking thinking that they
can fool God just to see like just in
case there's a heaven, I'mma I'mma say I
repented. That's what they try to do.
You can't fool God. you're going to
burn.
And it just breaks my heart to see that
this young lady lost her life. Man, that
breaks my heart. And this is happening
every day. It just she hit the news. It
don't always make the news, but this
happening every day.
And I'm telling y'all, men, man,
y'all some punks. If you got that in
your spirit, you got that in your heart,
you need to go get bent over and get
what you want and get that pain took out
you. You need you need to go get dead
dirty. Like you want to take somebody
life, you be better off jumping off a
bridge. Like go take your own life
instead of taking somebody else life.
Like go find you something else to do.
and leave people children alone. Little
demon
rebuke you in the name of Jesus. It just
it's sad. It's sadistic. It's
disgusting.
And that's what I'm trying to tell y'all
too. To y'all boys out here. You got to
control yourself, man. You got to
control yourself and you got to get to a
place and get to a point to where
you doing the right thing to where if
you know you you got a temper, you know
you acting up, you know you get angry,
you get mad, you got to start adjusting
and putting you a system in early.
You need to be meditating
every morning. You need to be reading
your Bible every morning. You need to be
touching grass, feet in the grass, or on
the concrete, in the dirt. You need to
be walking or running 30 minutes a day.
You need no sugar.
You don't need no carbs because that's
gonna turn into sugar.
You need to be eating clean and healthy.
Whatever your blood type is supposed to
eat in the highly beneficial category of
the blood type diet, you need to be
tearing it down
every day. You need to drink a gallon of
water a day or how many of ounces of
water you supposed to have for your body
weight. But you need to get your life
together.
You need to stop watching porn. You need
to stop masturbating.
You need to be in bed by 1000 p.m.
You need to sleep 8 to 10 hours a night.
You need a checkup at the doctor every 6
months. You need your teeth clean every
6 months. You need to floss every day.
You need a three-step skin care routine.
You need to shower every night. Your
life need to be so regimented
because you are insane.
You are insane
and your brain is degenerative.
So, you have to create a system. I'm
talking from experience.
I know how my brain is. I know my brain
will deteriorate if I'm not taking care
of myself. I know I become mental
and mentally ill if I'm not eating right
and sleeping right, drinking right. I
start to decline.
I'm on a water fast right now. Resetting
my mind, my body, my spirit. I done
crossed 24 hours, I believe, cuz I
didn't pay attention to when I started
the fast last night. But I done crossed
24 hours. I'm on a water fast, so I
ain't had no food today. I ain't had no
sugar today.
Had a black coffee and then water
all day. And I'm tired now. It's 10:41
p.m. Ready to go to bed. But to go home
and if I if I don't get right in the bed
and go to sleep, my brain will mess
around and give me energy because my
brain think I need to go look for food
cuz I ain't ate in 24 hours. So it'll
give me a burst of energy to go hunt.
And so I have to go in and go to bed.
Like even right now this blue light
ain't having the blue light but I I
misplaced my blue light glasses. I don't
know where I put them at. But this what
I need you to realize and understand.
You got to understand this right here.
Get you some help. And I'mma tell you
something, ladies. I'mma tell you
something. I coached a client today.
She told her, "Man, don't don't do this
right here particular thing again. I
better not find this again or see this
again. He did it again. She dumped his
butt." I talked to her. I said, "Listen,
it wasn't even all that now. You need to
give that man another chance. It wasn't
even all that. Now you But guess what?
I'm glad she did it because I rather you
be safe than sorry. One thing I'mma tell
you and I want to remind you of this and
I've been saying this my whole career.
Do not
play with crazy.
Do not play with crazy. If the man show
you, if he pretend like he crazy, leave
his butt.
on. I mean, the first sign of crazy that
he show you, run because nine out of 10
times he faking. He just posturing. He
just trying to scare you. He trying to
be tough and he want to he want to whip
you in shape. He want to make you his
lap dog. Leave his butt. Let him boohoo
cry. Let him snot out the nose. And then
you put his butt through all kind of
hoops.
Take your butt to my mentor.life and you
got to book 12 sessions with Tony.
Whatever he charging, your butt got to
pay it. If you want to get back with me,
absolutely not f to fool up with your
crazy behind and you want to jump bad at
me growling at me like you a Kane Corso.
I know y'all call it Kane Corso, but I
listened to the man pronounce the other
day.
Absolutely not. We're not doing that. We
are not doing that. We getting life
right. Get your butt together. Get out
my darn face and go get on them coaching
sessions. And if and if the man say you
not ready,
then I'm not being with you because you
tried me like a baser. I don't know what
kind of crack you think I'm smoking that
you could jump bad with me like that.
Absolutely not. And that's how you got
to check his butt. You got to put his
butt in place. And you got to let him
know this is not no dog on game, boy.
Not playing with your behind.
You cannot play with crazy. And if he
act crazy enough to where you can't just
leave, you can't just walk away like get
away. Call the police. Call the police.
I don't care if he lose his job. And
this what you could let them know
beforehand when y'all first start
dating. Just say, "Hey, the one thing
about me though now, you know, let's
talk about deal breakers." And you get
his deal breakers here. What his deal
breakers are. And you let him know what
your deal breakers are. So he know,
okay, these my deal breakers. All right,
those your deal breakers. These right
here my deal breakers. Huh?
So he know
not to play with you.
So he know not to play with you. And so
now you done told him, "Hey, Playboy,
you do this, you do that, this, that,
and the third."
Hey, make sure y'all get over there Tony
Gas Academy, get the recession ready
course. It's only $25. It's a eight
figure blueprint now. It's going to
bless you. But make sure you finish it.
Make sure you finish it and make sure
you implement what's in the course. And
so you let them know, hey, Playboy,
don't try me like no basil. Like, nude.
And you go through the deal breaker so
that he knows
if you ever put hands on me, I'm calling
the police and I'm going to press
charges and I'm going to make sure you
lose it all.
If you jump bad
like you about to do something to me,
I'm calling the police. So now he knows,
no matter how much you love him, no
matter how long y'all been together, no
matter how deep in y'all are, now he
knows
that if he try you, he going to jail.
Point blank period. He going to jail.
Now he know. So when he know
now
when he know now you at a place to where
Okay, I see.
I can't play with her.
She don't play the radio.
Her butt ain't playing with me. Her butt
the dog on
call them boys on me and call them boys
in blue.
And so now he know,
all right, don't try no more.
Don't try like that again.
Now he know. And so guess what?
He can't play.
He can't play dumb. He can't act like
you ain't tell them. You ain't show
them.
You ain't You ain't You ain't let him
know. He didn't know.
He just
He just got beside himself.
He got angry. He didn't know that it was
that serious.
He apologized. He ain't mean to do it.
No, Playboy, you're going to jail.
have your mama bond yacht and this how
you prevent
being murdered.
If you don't do this, you going to end
up murdered.
He going to keep going. I'm telling
y'all from being a former psycho, a
former nutcase,
every single time the altercation
will get worse and worse.
And before you know it,
you'll be
up a creek
without a paddle
and you will be absolutely
lost for words.
You won't know. You will not know what
hit you,
what did it to you.
You won't know what's going on. You will
be like, "What in the world
happened to me? What did I do?
What am I going through?
What happened?" And you will not know
what hit you
and you'll be up a creep.
So listen to me when I'm telling you.
Do not play with it. Do not play with
it. If he show you any sign of
craziness,
go on about your business. Y'all forgive
me. I'm looking for my memorabilia.
Super Bowl Buck Super Bowl tickets that
I had in my office before we cleaned it
out. My home office. Can't find them.
But hey, made it home. Time to go to
bed. I know my wife already in bed. My
son already in bed.
God bless you. Keep the bed up.
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