Video summary
In this video interview, a woman claims that there are plenty of available women for relationships today but expresses confusion as to why Black men do not approach her in public spaces like Dallas. She describes herself as fun, fit, and feminine, noting that her single friends share these traits yet also struggle to find partners. When pressed on the specifics, she admits that while she receives attention from other ethnicities, specifically Indian men, Black men rarely initiate contact with her. She attributes this lack of interest primarily to the fact that she has a thirteen-year-old son, suggesting that men cannot possibly know about the child unless they are constantly watching her, which she finds illogical since he is not attached to her hip.
The interviewer challenges her narrative by digging into her dating history and personal conduct, revealing significant contradictions in her story. He points out that her last relationship with a Black man ended because he wanted her to move to his city while she refused, choosing instead to remain in Dallas with her son who lives elsewhere. Furthermore, a former college acquaintance reveals that the woman was not considered "nice" during her university years and was even described by peers as having a difficult or "witch-like" energy. The interviewer argues that people can sense this negative energy, which likely deters men from approaching her, contradicting her assertion that she is now ready for a relationship after attending therapy for two years.
The core conclusion of the discussion is that the issue lies not with a shortage of women or Black men's inability to find partners, but rather with the specific energy and readiness of the women themselves. The interviewer asserts that many women claim they are ready for marriage while simultaneously exhibiting behaviors or attitudes that signal they are not. He emphasizes that men are human beings who can pick up on these subtle cues and respond accordingly, often walking away from women who project an unready demeanor. Ultimately, the video serves as a critique of women who complain about a lack of suitors without addressing their own contributions to the problem, urging them to reflect on whether they are truly prepared for the commitment of marriage.
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Hello.
>> Hi, Kevin. Can you hear me?
>> I can.
>> Awesome. Oh my god, it's so nice to talk
to you.
>> Um, I'm 27.
>> Are there enough women for relationships
today?
>> Um, so I personally think so. Um, I come
with a child. I had a child really
young, but my girlfriends who are
beautiful.
>> Wait, what is that? Is that me?
>> Uhuh. You said you came with a child.
You come with a child. You had a child
young.
>> I had a child. I'm 25 and my son is 13.
So, I had a child really, really young.
Um, but my girlfriends who are fun, fit,
and friendly, feminine, um, they're
single also. Um, so yeah, absolutely. I
just think there's the guys who are
picking these women. Um, I just feel
like they're not um picking the right
type of woman, right? No,
>> hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold
on.
>> Okay.
>> You are you the right kind of woman?
>> I'm not that type of woman. Let me tell
you why. Because um well, in college, I
was. Um but um after college um I uh
went to therapy and I am not the type of
woman anymore. I am um very you know I
I'm fun, fit and fray as well.
>> I don't know what you're talking about.
Are you wanting to be married?
>> Oh absolutely. Yes.
>> Okay. So you're putting yourself in the
category today as the right kind of
woman that these men should be picking
from.
>> Absolutely. Yes.
>> How tall are you?
>> I'm 5'4. Dress size.
>> I am a size eight. Six or eight.
>> How much did you weigh the last time you
weighed yourself?
>> Uh about
150. 145. 150.
>> And are your friends
your weight or more?
>> Uh they're less. Most of them. Yeah.
>> All right. And they're all all roughly
your same age.
>> Yes. Yes, we're all the same age.
>> And how many how many women are you
talking about? Um, probably about five
women.
>> So, with you included?
>> Yes.
>> So, five women included and and and all
you're all white material that men just
ain't choosing.
>> Yes, absolutely. Um, I mean, I we do go
out and we do get, you know, guys that
want to talk to us, but I guess for for
me specifically, um, guys don't I don't
know. I I would say black guys don't try
to
>> black guys don't try to date me. Um I
haven't really dated a black man a long
time which I really
>> You mean a black man don't try to date
you?
>> I'm saying like when I'm out in public I
don't get um pursued by a black man um
often. So
>> where you going?
>> Hold on. Hold on. I'm going to question
this. I'm going to question all this.
>> Yes, sir. Absolutely.
>> Because because I'm not going to just
let you just put because All right.
Who approaches you then?
>> Like Indian guys, people like in my
field. Uh really
>> Okay. Are you going out with your
friends?
>> Um not not a lot. Uh my friends are like
scattered all across um the states.
>> Okay. So when you go out, you're saying
men don't approach you. Black men don't
approach you. Where are you? Where do
you go?
>> Um I mean I do travel. I travel uh alone
sometimes, but when I'm in I'm in
Dallas. Um I don't really care, but I'm
in Dallas and so I I do go out like to
uptown area, downtown area. And so um
>> so who your last boyfriend was? What
>> was that? What what was his ethnicity?
>> Uh last guy I dated uh was he was
Indian.
>> How long did it last? Uh, not long. Um,
probably probably about three three
months I would say.
>> What's the longest relationship you've
had?
>> Uh, probably college, honestly. Um, I
don't really give people a chance. Um,
probably a good year and a half.
>> So, how you going to say that black men
don't approach you, but then in the next
breath you say you don't give people a
chance? What I what I'm saying is um the
people that I do date um I don't want to
be with um a non-black man. So I don't
really give them like the opportunity to
like actually be with me like we date.
>> So why do you think black men don't
Okay, let's take I'll accept the
argument. Why don't black men approach
you?
>> Uh I think it's because I have a child.
I don't know. That's what one guy told
me. This this guy that um that I was
dating. Uh I was in a in Austin and so
this guy that I was um I was out you
know just have having you know fun with
um
>> how do they know you have a child?
>> Um because I mean um I
>> your kid ain't attached to your hip. So
how would they know you have a child?
>> Right.
>> Um
>> because when we are talking and we're
getting to know each other but
>> they have to approach you.
>> Yes.
>> Yes. Um, so on my date, so I used to go
Yes, I got it. Um, I used to be on
dating apps and so I do disclose that
information and so
>> I don't worry about dating apps because
that's not the real world.
>> Okay.
>> You said black men don't approach you,
right?
>> I mean, uh, I'm trying to understand
where you go and what's happening. And
what you're telling me is what black men
don't do. And I'm asking where do you
go? I still haven't got a sense of it. I
just know you live in Dallas.
Where do you go where black men don't
approach you and they can telepathically
recognize you have a child?
>> I mean, I do go out, like I said, in
uptown, downtown area, restaurants, um,
bars. Um,
>> I'm just I'm going just be honest. Uh,
Indian men aren't known to being uh,
step to it letharios.
So, if black men aren't approaching you,
and I ask you why you think they're not
approaching you, says because you have a
kid, they can't know that,
>> right?
>> Um,
your child's father,
are you guys on decent terms?
>> Uh, no. Um, no.
>> All right. When was the last time you
had a relationship with a black man?
in college.
>> And how long did that last? That was a
year and a half.
>> Yeah, that was almost two years.
>> Why did that end?
>> Um, so it ended because
he wanted me to stay in the city that we
went to college in. And so I wanted to
move back um to where I am from and
where my son was. So
>> he wanted you to move when?
That doesn't make any sense. He just
wanted you to move.
>> No, he wanted of course. So, um, he
graduated first and so he after I
graduated, um, he wanted me to move in
with him,
>> me and my No.
>> Okay. So, your son knew him?
>> No, he didn't.
>> For a year and a half, you dated
somebody.
>> I dated someone. My son was actually in
another city with his father and my and
his family in my family. So, yeah.
You sound pretty complicated, man.
>> Okay.
>> I'm just what I'm gathering. I'm trying
to understand. I mean, your son was gone
somewhere. He wanted you to move. You
didn't want to move. Okay.
So, instead, you decided to be a single
woman with a child in Dallas.
>> Yes.
>> And how long ago did you graduate?
>> Um, undergraduate 2016
December.
>> So, five years.
>> Yes.
>> And in the five years, let you tell it.
Black men don't approach you.
>> They don't.
>> But the last black man you had, you
ended your relationship with them.
>> Yes.
>> I lived in Dallas most of my adult
career.
>> Okay.
>> Um
I don't witness this phenomenon. Are you
Do you go to church?
>> I do.
>> Uh
outside of kid, what is another reason
you think black men know about you?
So, I recently talked to like one of my
past um guys that I in college and so I
asked him because we're still in contact
and so I asked him I was like, "Hey, why
you know because we are still in contact
and because we know each other."
>> I got it. I got it.
>> I'm like, "Yeah, so why why you know why
wouldn't you like pursue me?" And so he
just told me, you know, he [laughter]
someone told me they see me on the with
you. But anyway, nevertheless, um um so
um you know, I asked him like, "Hey, why
wouldn't you like date me?" And so he
told me that, you know, back in college,
I was, you know, I wasn't the nicest
person.
>> I was going to say, ma'am, come on.
>> Yeah. But that's why. So that's why.
>> So you weren't the nicest person.
Meaning you were what? Mean.
>> Um Yeah.
Because what you the bottom line is what
I'm gathering from you is people pick up
on energy.
>> Okay.
>> And if you're saying black men don't
approach you, what kind of energy are
you giving to black men?
>> Right. And that's why I mean now I mean
now I'm giving good you know better
energy uh because I've been to therapy
and
>> time out. Time out.
>> Yes sir. You're the very woman that said
you believe that there are there are
enough women for relationships today.
>> Yes. Absolutely.
>> And listen, and you believe your friends
are just like you. But right here, we
just shown that you have not been
available for relationship for a black
man because you were giving off energy
that needed therapy
>> and the in the past.
>> Is that true or false?
>> That is true. in the last How long have
you been in therapy?
>> Uh, probably about two years.
>> Okay. And are you still in it?
>> Yeah, frequently. Um,
>> yeah.
>> Well, the point I'm making is you're the
fourth woman that's come on and said,
"Yeah, there are plenty of women." But
if 65 to 70% of the men said, "Uh-uh."
>> And you can say that somebody from
college who knows you and has no dog in
a fight can say, "Uh, you was kind of a
witch."
I love
>> you not realize that. Do you see my
show? Do you see how some of the sisters
talk about men? Many men are human
beings that can pick up on that.
>> Yeah.
>> See, the message is the message has been
what you and a lot of other women have
been. Oh, there plenty of us. Y'all
ain't the brother. No. Every woman y'all
talk to something's been wrong with you.
No offense, but you're not ready for the
thing you say you want.
>> Okay. Would you say any of the women
that you see me speak to, Have you
watched the entire show?
>> Yes, sir.
>> Would you say any of the women that you
see me speak to are really ready to be a
wife today?
>> No, sir.
>> Thank you. So, that's what the men are
saying.
>> Okay.
>> And it is and it is incumbent upon the
women who want to be wives to be a wife.
He who findeth a wife findeth a good
thing and obtain the favor with the
Lord. The the presupposition is your
wife or you are found. A man this has to
be looking for a wife.
>> Okay.
>> So
this even video no screaming, no
yelling, no projorives and even bears
the same thing out. You guys are walking
through the world thinking one thing and
men are seeing something different and
the men are responding to the very women
that think everything's okay on their
side.
>> No, the problem is on y'all's side.
Okay.
>> I mean, can you understand that's what
the men are saying?
>> Yes, sir. I I totally understand. Um
>> Okay.
>> I totally understand.
>> Uh well, did you have something else you
wanted to input?
>> No, that was it.
>> Okay. Thanks a lot. Have a good night.
>> Thank you. You too.
>> Bye.
>> All right. Right. So, guys,
it doesn't have to be a Yale Facebook,
but ladies, at the end of the day, think
about what I'm saying. The message has
been, "Oh, we're all good. We're ready.
All right." But the men are the ones
that have to walk across, approach, and
they have to pick up on they're getting
whatever the woman is today. If you
think that the men, the stats are wrong
or whatever, then please in the comment
section, let us know. Let the men know
where and what city and state are all of
these women who are ready for
relationships
because that number is only going to get
more skewed.