Will The Next Daejon Love Get You?

Hey, hey, Tony Gash is here. Popping in real quick on a little drive back to the house. Wanted to pop in. It's a charger behind me. I don't know if it's a unmarked police or just a charger, but saw a Dejon love video today and I had saw it, but I hadn't thought much of it. Want to touch on it. And the thing about it is you would think this will be obvious, but here's the thing. Women justify this set of questioning when you dealing with a man with money. So when you dealing with a man with money, which is what Dejon Love presented himself as, and the women didn't know or didn't have a reason to believe he wasn't a man of means. But when you're dealing with a man with money and he asks you where your money is, you feel the need to answer that because you coming into his life and you want to feel like somewhat of an asset. Even though you know you can't do nothing for him financially, if you assume his money is real, you at least don't want to seem like a bill and a burden. So, you may even lie. And I think that could have been how he played on these women because they're looking like, "Hey, this is my comeup." Like, I don't understand the NFL. I don't understand the roster, but this man is grocery shopping with this helmet. Like, he's showering with this helmet. Like, he really loves the game. This man love the game so much. He really live his thing. Eat, sleep, breathe. He live football. So they thought it was a come up. So that's why you answer them questions. And I'm going to tell you, and I don't mean to sound like Yoda, but a man should not be worrying about where a woman finances is because our goal need to be is to get to a place, work as hard as you can to take care of all that. And my wife will tell you like that's the goal. Take care of all that. And like I say, I don't mean to sound like Yoda the awakening, but still. So I want you to realize those questions are red flags. Now they red flags. But he asked that and when he asked that, he say, "Oh, you know, I want to know this this this." And the thing about it is without him having money, had he not had money, which he ain't had no money, but had he not had money in their mind, them questions would have been clear red flags. But because they thought he was a millionaire, it no longer made it a red flag. And I'mma tell y'all something now, cuz I did this before. I did this before. I was in college, came home, came home for the summer and somehow reconnected with a girl I dated in the ninth grade. But I dated her before I lost my virginity and either that or I was trying to do something with her and she wouldn't let me. It was one or the other. People was telling me she was sleeping with a older guy. I ain't know what was true, what was what was not true. But so dealing with her and she was real pretty body, everything. So I'm over there. I pretend to get a phone call. Boom. I hit the little button, make my phone ring, make the thing. Oh, let me take this call. Flip the phone over. I take the call. Hello. Yeah, that's me. Hey, how you doing? I'm doing good. Going good. Okay. All right. So, the Jacksonville Jaguars said that. So, what they So, what they say they want to do? They want to do 20 million for 5 years. Okay. Okay. 20 million for five. Well, I guess I'll take it. I guess I'll take it. And okay. Well, all right. Well, let me know, you know, keep me posted. Keep me posted. All right. Now, close the flip phone. Close the flip phone. Here go. Here go the girl. So, I went back over there. I went to the other side of the bed cuz we was in her section 8 apartment. I went to the other side of the bed and I don't know where her son was. I don't know if he was in school or he was with his daddy or what, but she had a son. So, I went back to the other side of the bed where she was and she uh I'm thinking about everything now. My mind racing. I'm like, man, that that other time when she trying to get me set up to get robbed. I'll tell y'all about that story another time. And so so I went back to com talking to her, confiding in her. So now this how you play the game. So now you put her in role of advisor. Hey, so what you think about this? Yeah. So So I went I said, "Yeah, that was that was my agent calling me talking about Jacksonville Jaguars offering 20 million for four years or five years. I can't remember. I said four or five years." And she was like, "Okay, well I mean that's good, right? Is that is that good?" I say, "Yeah, yeah, that's pretty decent." You know, coming into the league, you know, coming out of college, going into the league, she I knew she knew nothing about football, nothing about division one, division two. I was division two. Like, you ain't going to get that money coming out no division two, right? When you first go. And so I said, "Yeah, you know, it's pretty good." But now I knew I said if she got any gold digger in her, she f to be wide open, boy. She f to be doing any and everything, boy. And sure enough, she sure was when I tell you in and everything. And and I remember her sitting down and her talking to me and she was like, you know, I just don't feel right. Like cuz like I don't bring nothing to the table. Like I feel bad. I don't bring nothing to the table. What she don't realize I ain't have no table. And that was a lie. That I was going to nobody it. And I definitely was going to be making nobody 20 million. She ain't know that though. I was Dejan love before Dejon love. That's what a lot of you don't understand. That's what I try to tell you now. But I ain't get no money off of him. See me, I was lying for the behind. See him, he he he on something else. He he want the money. Me, I was lying for the behind. And so, and so I let her feel that. I'm like, well, you know, it ain't about that. You know, it ain't about that. like long as you a good person, you got a good heart, like that's really what it's about. I remember driving her to her job. I probably were 18, 19 years old. I remember driving her to her job. She worked at Ryan's. Y'all remember Ryan's? It's like Golden Corral. Ryan's was a Ryan was a is a buffet place. She worked at Ryan. I remember driving her and dropping her off and I probably either went to work or went home. I can't remember cuz I had a summer job working in a corporate office and I remember picking up from work and I was like, you know how everything going? It's like good. It was a long day. It was a slow day. I was like, how much you made? She say $12. I couldn't even beat that John Love if I wanted to. $12. I'm saying in my head I'm like, "Oh, okay. I'm trying to keep a straight paid. I'm trying to be motivational. Like I'm I'm trying to come up with, okay, what do I say to this $12? WHAT did you I'm like I'm thinking in my head, I'm glad you on section eight and that rent $5 because woo, you really down bad. And so like $12. I'm just thinking in my head cuz see my white girl when I was with the white girl in high school, she went to work at Longhorn and she'll call me after work and be like, "Hey, how you doing?" Like I'm like, "Ain't no, you know, everything good? What going on with you?" Nothing. Just got off of work. It was such a great day. Made $120. She was bringing home 10020. It was like 100 120 every night. I'm like, "Wow." You know, that's a lot of money as a adult to bring home 500 700 a week. You happy? She bring home that cash tip. So, I would Dejan love. I'm living good. I'm getting pineapple soda. I'm getting twix. I'm getting I'm getting birthday gifts. I'm getting NBA jersey. The matching hat. I'm getting picked up in her little car, getting drove around, get to go through the drivethru. Well, I'm living good, boy. I was in 10th grade. Y I was in 10th grade. She was in 11th grade. Well, I'm living good, boy. Come training camp. 11th grade. Yeah. Training camp come around here. She She pull up there. Training camp, bring me lunch. Got my old bologn sandwich and some Doritos. Little little my little pineapple soda. I'm sitting in the front seat taming lunch up. I remember my coach when I got out the car, he said, "Gasking, you want to be a lover or a football player?" Coach, you bad cuz that's a white girl. You bad with a white girl. But hey, but that was the come up. So that's what Dejon love doing. Cuz I'mma tell you, sisters, sisters will help you now. But that lot got to be airtight. That lie got to be airtight to get some help from her sister. You not been to get no help from no sister. If that lie ain't airtight, but that lie got to be so good. You hear me? So the black girl when I was telling her my dejon love lies, I couldn't even I couldn't even get me no money off because all she was making was $12. I'd have felt bad asking for something. I would let her borrow my daddy car. I was like, "Take me to work and you can hold a car." Like, "You need to get out here and get it. You need to get out here and figure something out." And then guess what? One day I'm over at the section 8. I look over, she got a duffel bag unzipped. Look, like I said, a bathing suit in there. So, I'm like, "What's that right there?" I'm like, "What? You went to the beach?" She was like, "No, that's uh That's my That's my outfit. I said, "What?" I said, "What you mean by that?" She was like, "I dance." I'm like, "Huh? You dance? What you mean?" She like, "Yeah, me and my friend, we met this guy and he drive us 3 hours away to Jacksonville to dance on the weekends to make some money." Oh, okay. So now, you know, I'm living in sin. I'm fornicating. So I'm trying not to judge. I'm not in a place to judge. So I'm like, "Oh, okay." So at that point right there, now now that I know you dance. Oh, now I'm f Now I'm f to flip and toss. Oh yeah. Now you got to do everything now. Woo! You dance? Okay. Yeah. Uhuh. I'm taking the gloves off on you now. I'm in there acting a fool now. And so I'm like, she danced. Never thought. And now that's the only stripper that I dealt with to my knowledge, but I had already, you know, we we hadn't already done went there before I found that out. So it ain't last much longer than that. And um I remember one time I was at home laying in the bed. She text me. She was like, "Are you going to come f me or what?" And I'm like, "H, it's 11:30." Like I even I'm in college but yeah my mom and dad ain't even going to just let me get up at I'm not trying to get up at 11:30 midnight to go over there to the section 8. I'm like y'all can't even have no man in the house. You f to get evicted. Like child it's midnight. And then one day I went over there and I'mma tell you boy. Woo. When I tell you that thing could make a good dirty burger that you know that dirty frying pan with the black with all the black in there. Woo! Thing used to make me a burger in there. When I tell you that burger was so goodoo never had no burger that good. Cheese on it, lettuce, tomato, ketchup and mustard. Then one day I was over there and she was like, "Yeah, e ho, they'll hate on you cuz we not allowed to have a man all us in here on section 8." And it was like just one little apartment. It wasn't like no whole project. It was like one little apartment and it was like two of them, maybe side by side, maybe four levels up. I don't know if it was two or four on each level, but all of them was on section 8. And you ain't allowed to have no man. So if one of them have a man, the other ones will call the owner and hate and be like, "Oh, such and such got a man in her place. Got a man coming in and out her place, got a man standing with her. We ain't allowed to have no man." And it's crazy how the system is, right? Like if you got a man in the house, you ain't getting no money. And so I got the same rule. Uh-oh. Uh-oh. Uh-oh. Uh-oh. Get it together now, buddy. What you got going on now? You need to get that thing together, boy. You need to hold Let me get on past you cuz you look we What you going through, man? Get that thing together, boy. Man, truck got the hiccups. What he going through? I just got my son car fixed. I'm in my son car. He had got hit in the parking lot, so I just got it fixed. Cost $1,000 cash, man. Talking about we don't take cards. Yes, sir. You're racist. You don't take card from black people cuz you know them them young black folks go call that card and say it was a that that was a fraudulent charge and now you upside down. I already knew why he said it if I gave him cash. I ain't worried about it, sir. Here go the $1,000. He like you ain't going to find nobody that would have did that for that price. Sir ain't even asking. I ain't even asking. Appreciate you. Thank you. And so that was what she she said. Yeah. So I can't really I am not allowed to have anybody stay tonight. But so sometimes if you stay tonight, you just have to sneak and try to sneak in real late and sneak out early before somebody see you cuz they'll tell on me. She said, "It happened to me before when my son daddy was over here." And I was like, "Okay, all right." So, I don't know if he was in jail or prison or what or why I was able to be over there, but at that time I had a girlfriend in in college and so I stayed with her one time for three nights and I had my daddy car and my daddy was supporting me. I don't know if my daddy thought I was going to the NFL too or what, but he was supporting me. you know, he's a loving guy. And he got on to me though cuz I let her drop me off and she had his car and she went to the bottom and in the bottom they got dirt road. So when she came to pick him up, the t the tires, it was a Lexus LS400. So it's a big body Lexus, Lexus sedan. And the tires had the chalk all over it. My dad was like, "Son, I'm let you hold my car. You bring my car looking looking a mess, man. Where you been at in my car, man? Don't do somebody call like that, man. I'm letting you hold my car. You got my car looking like this. I'm like, Dad, I'm sorry. You know, that was such and such. You know, she had went to the bottle in the car. Like, man, you let people hold my car and drive my car, man. Get my car back. And she came to pick me up and I'm at the corporate office. So, I got the business casual. I got on slacks and a button down. She come pick me up with them old chalky tires. I'm like, "Hold on. Where the world you been?" She like, "Well, I was in the bottom. I went to see my mama." I'm like, "Uhuh. You don't need you don't get to go see your mama no lessons now. Your mama need to come to you on the concrete. You riding through the dirt road. So listen, I was dejon love before Dejon love because before that I remember going on a college visit and they put me with a white girl cuz that's what they try to do to get you to hook to the school. So they put with a white girl and she supposed to come off something, but you don't really know if she going to come off something or not. So I'm talking to her and I hit her with a with a dejon. I say I said, "Okay, so yeah, so you from here? So you live up here?" "Okay, all right. Yeah, cool. All right." Right. Cuz one of the guys, he from that area and he used to date her or whatever and he told me about her and he putting with her and his ex-girlfriend from high school or something and she live in the area and she was a pretty she was a pretty white girl and she kind of had some rosy red cheeks. I remember that. And but she had a a perfect body like my like the girl in high school that I had dated. Probably still was dating. I don't know. And so I told her, I said, "Yeah, you know, I'm thinking about coming up here." I said, "I probably going to commit. They they giving me a full ride, so I probably will come on up here." And I say, "Um, you know, say the only thing is like I got a white Escalade and I just like when I leave to go home, I don't want to drive home. I'mma fly home. So, I just need somebody to be able to hold my Escalade while I'm while I'm home, you know? And so, well, her eyes lit up. She like, "Oh, okay." So, I was like, you know, being I met you and you you from here? I'm like, "You a hold Escalade for me while I'm home for the summer?" She like, "Yeah, yeah, for sure. I definitely would do that for you." I'm like, "Okay." But them eyes lit up. Boy, it wasn't 30 minutes later. We was out there doing what grown folk do and boy look here. And the thing he had no draws on. Didn't have no draws on. Y'all forgive me when I say thing. I don't mean to be disrespectful. I'm just talking about them type of women who be moving around and using that body for that right there. So that's what I'm trying to tell y'all. When I be giving y'all the game, I played the game at the highest level. I was Dejon before Dejon. It just again, I was telling lies for the behind. See me, I wanted to dig off in. I wasn't I ain't I wasn't trying to get no money and I I was always a simple man. Even when I changed my life, got married, wrote my book, my first speaking occasion, I told him, "Give me $65." I've always been a simple man. I said, "Give me $65." And she said, "What you want in your in your dressing room?" I said, "Give me some chicken wings and some pineapple." I It was over It was over the internet. So, I never got to see her face. But now that I know what you get paid for speaking engagements, I know that lady fell out her chair when I told her, "Give me $65 to for a speaking engagement at a university." 9. The minimum you going to get is 500. So I gave her 90% discount. I know. She was like, "What in the world?" She probably paid me out her pocket cuz see back then back then they used to pay you out of pocket back then. Back then they'll pay you out of pocket. Back then back then you'll take not pay you out of pocket. back then you get a little paper check that is handwritten on. So I've always been a simple guy. Y'all giving just told me to take this exit. I forgot where I was going. I'm like am I going home or I going to the office? And so I did that right there. And it almost cost me. I was living like Dejon Love. And now I got a little bit more money when I got to college, but never like no $1,000. It might be $200. I'll get a $100, $200 at a time. Get get some jersey, get a little bit of money, get, you know, get some clothes. Outfit might be a few hundred on a holiday, but nothing crazy. Nothing crazy. And I noticed like the man pretend to be rich and then the woman felt like she got to prove herself. So she like I got to prove that I bring something to the table. And a lot of these women could have been lying about their credit score and they savings and they income cuz they don't want to look like a bum. And then so when he say hey my check got held up. So I seen how he did it cuz I'm like how do you pull this off? And he was basically saying he about to switch teams. He bought a car. They added some extra stuff to the car. He done paid for the majority of the car. And now he need Now he need four 5,000 more. And he need And he want to get the car ASAP. and he need her to get the4 5,000 from whoever she got to borrow it from cuz he know he going to be able to pay it back cuz when they make the playoffs they going to get a bonus. I'm like wow. I'm like wow this this this man is creative. I'm I'm like my goodness. Like this is this is next level. But I ain't I ain't think that deep into it now. My goodness. So that what he said. That what he said. And I'm like, "Okay, well, all right. Okie dokie. You know what we going to do?" So, I want you to think about this and I want you to realize and understand that because Dejon Love did that and he had that chromium doium and he got away with it. Meaning he got 1.3 million. Yeah, he got caught. But it's not that it's not that deep. Like he got caught. Every everybody go to the feds. Everybody get caught. Everybody do a little prison time. That's women doing time for fraud. So, it ain't that deep. And then he got to 1.3. Every man don't need 1.3. Some of these some of these folk, men and women do this kind of scamming, they might just want 130. They might just want 13,000. They might just want 1300. Cuz think about it, get 1300 from you, you ain't going to lose no sleep over that. You going to move on with your life eventually. You going to move on with your life. You done came off that 1300 done and then he going to do that to 20 other women. He eating. He eating. So the thing about Dejon love now this what I love about the Lord. The Lord will let you get exposed. So because Dejon didn't got exposed, now the millions of impressions that his videos are getting is putting all of these women on the dating apps is putting them up on game and they seeing the stuff that he telling them and I'm guaranteeing you. Wow. But over there at the air pump with the with the Virgil Ablo Mercedes Maybite that two-tone. Wow. Better get that thing ready for the night. So it take and they all it's right now is thousands of women. That's like, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on. This guy I'm talking to just got $400 off of me. Talking by talking by he need this, he need that. He going through this, he going through that. Hold on. I met him off the day nap now. Hold on. Hold on. So now all is thousands of women coming into the realization that they're being played. And that's what we got to be thankful for this exposure. That's why I'm talking about it so much because I want to drive it home. I want to get it out to many people as possible. Like yes, you could be scammed. And see, I'mma tell y'all. See th this is the thing that women have to switch. And it's also a play. This also is to teach women a lesson. Stop being so thirsty for a man with money. Stop being so thirsty for a man who can provide for you because that desperation is what's getting your deed down. So the same way I was it I was at a age to where I wasn't thinking about money and and the young ladies didn't have no money cuz I was 18 19 years old. You know from the age of 15 to 21 I was in the game. So ain't nobody have no money. But I tried my wife though when I met her. She bought me a pair of work boots. She bought me a pair of Air Force ones. And then after I wrote my book, published my book, she she bought me a mosqueen outfit, brand new, cuz she worked and had a job. And she was at my first speaking engagement in the crowd with with my sister. And my sister going to raise her hand and ask a question. Can you step from behind the podium to show your outfit? Why must you look good? Why was you look good? I don't know now. I don't know. And so, and the lady who booked me, she was over to the side. She said, "Don't do it. Do not do it." I stepped from behind the podium. The girls in the crowd went my wife out there in the crowd. He mine, he mine, he my wife used to be a little ghetto now. That's mine. That's mine. I'm like, man, should have left her at the house. I could have got me one of the M Cookman girl, brought her up but up here with me. She up here messing up the game. But guess what? I had I had to bring her because she paid for the book to be published, which was $1,300. I was a little I HAD A LITTLE DEJA LOVE IN ME. $1,300. And she bought me the Air Force Ones I had on. $100, hundred and something dollars and a mosqu outfit. Probably $250. My wife was carrying me. Guess what? I guess the girl got more sense than I thought cuz now I'm carrying her. My wife ain't worked in 20 years. She turned 40 this month. My wife ain't working in 20 years. So see you see you see how like the devil and God you see how what God getting ready to do in your life the devil will emulate it. So, the life my wife has being a stay-at-home mom with a provider man who take care of her 100%. Pay all her bills, all her luxury, all her leisure, her Pilates, her all her hair, all her nails, all her my wife don't make a single dollar. And so the life she got and the sacrifice she made for me early is the life that them women wanted. They didn't just give Dejon money because they wanted to give a black man money. That it wasn't slavery guilt. They thought they were investing into a man that was going to one that was going to sit them down. They thought they were investing into a man and that he was going to build them up and make them more of an asset to him cuz they thought he was going to take that money and flip it. But now here's the lie that we've been told that a lot of people believe in that actually is not true. So, we have all been thinking the man was just he was able to get money from all these women because he had the 18year-old financial investor. But I seen a few videos where he just begging for money for a car. He asking for money for a car or for jewelry or for this or for that. Cuz he talking to one girl. He was like, "I love my I love my jewelry. I love my jewelry. My jewelry got my number on it and I'm about to pay such and such for the number and I'mma have this number." So, I'm like, "What is he talking about the jewelry like this? He's saying that he can't sell it or he asking her for the money because his money tied up cuz he got to buy his number." I'm like, "What do how much you love your jewelry have anything to do with anything?" So the man just was rambling and you know what these women they tired. They feet hurt, they back hurt, they head hurt. They tired. They just was ready to be sat down. They they just was like, "I want to be sat down. I want to be a stay-at-home mom, a stay-at-home wife. I want the life. I want the life these other girls got on Instagram. I want the Gwagon. I want if he got like the one young lady said that he got her I think a Porsche or something or a Corvette or something. He got her. So she was like she gave him 11,000 but she say she had watched him spend hundreds of thousands with her. So she was like you know what am I going to do? And and so he was asking these young ladies like, "What's your credit?" Like, a lot of women got good credit. A lot of women good with their credit. So he asked them, "What's your credit like?" So therefore, he was able to get them to make him an authorized user on a credit card and say, "Hey, I really need" And you got to realize now, most women going to have buried their head in the sand. We not hearing the depths of this stuff. So most women buried their head in the sand. And I hope they all come out. If you see this, you follow me, you one of the women, come on out, tell your story. Send me an email. Come on here. Let's talk about the story. We ain't going to make fun of you. We just want to hear the depths of what he was doing. And so I guarantee you he had women put him on as a authorized user on a car and said, "Hey, let me use this car. I'll pay the bill." And it's a lot of times in the times that he was doing it, it's a lot of women with credit cards with a $20,000 limit, 30,000, 40,000, 50,000. Like I remember I had clients who had multiple credit cards with $50,000 limits. And that's how they would fund themselves and pay them pay their bills and float themselves until they made money, until they got money back. And so it was one of those things. So I say that to say it's like I say that to say it's like he had some women that he was on their card and he using their card and then he told one of the girls he said he said when you get he said let's say you on Tinder and you on Hing He say you got like 50 70 options. He said you on both of them. You got hundreds of options. So that's why he has so many videos on deck. And that's why I try to tell y'all destiny is not a dating app. It's a matchmaking app because you don't have hundreds of options. The men don't have hundreds of options. The men have one option and he has to hit interested or passed and then the woman has to hit interested as well for him to be able to write her. So he don't have hundreds of options like Dejon had on Bumble where the women selected him or on Tinder and Hinge where he could select them. You don't have that. That's why I did that. And then I had a dummy in the comments talking about, "Yeah, Tony, they saying Tony say get online because he got a dating app." For one, our hours is nothing like a dating app. So if you're used to a dating app, you going to hate Destiny because it's way slower. Two, it's no money being made. We have not made a single dime. It cost to build. It cost to promote. Like there's no money. There's no money being made, dummy. So shut up. Just cuz somebody do something don't mean it's a ulterior motive for it. The reason why I do it is because I've been preaching stay off dating apps for existence, but every person I talked to was on a dating app. So I'm like, if none of y'all going to listen, I'mma just create something that's going to be safer. Something that's going to be safer and slower because that's what I am. I am a solutionoriented person. That's why I created it. I'm already a millionaire. I already have money. It's not like, and I hate to sound like Dejon Love, but it's not like we just going to go in this and get rich overnight. We may never get rich. It may never grow. It may never build, but we already building other things. My developer is who rebuilt my mentor.life. He's also who built blackandfitit.com. I'm also about to ask him can he rebuild my other site friendlin.com. We also have a stat tracking app for basketball people who play basketball parents called the score app.ai. We also have quoting life quote app and I'm forgetting stuff. I also have ask Tony G.com which is a chatbot trained by my stuff. I also own coachfile.app for life coaches to manage their client files. So I don't have one business. I have multiple businesses. I also have tony gaskkinsacademy.com. I also have YouTube channel. I also have the purpose pushers community which is a paid community. that's purposebased. And yes, it's not a big stream of income, but it's diversification of me living my purpose and helping other people live their purpose. And instead of charging somebody whatever hundreds per hour, if they can't afford that, they could be a part of a community for a few dollars and yet still get coaching. So I'm diversified in real life, not like Dejon Love where he just talking. You could go to my websites and sign up. You could go see it for yourself and be a part of it. Go to blackandfitit.com. Spell howigh it sound. black and a dfit. Fit t.com. The dot was available. Go to the purposearch.com. A rc is how you spell arc. thepurposearchc.com. So stay out of my comments, dummies, and and you don't have to tell me when you done listening. Leave and don't let the dough hit you where the good Lord split you cuz I ain't never changed. I've been out here talking since 2007, went viral in 2010 and my message ain't changed. Now time the thing what you got to realize is there are updates to our world. The fact that every single woman who is single is struggling in the dating world. The the women who get on dating app they already on dating apps whether I got a dating app or not. But you see what they was open to the day John loves. That's what they were susceptible to. So that's why we took and created something that's safer and slower. It's more vetted. You connect it based on your compatibility, but it's at a much slower pace. 50 guys can't write you. You can't write 50 guys. And so that's what you got to realize and understand. And so for those of y'all, oh Tony, it sound like my video. I was like, why it taking men so long to commit? And I'm talk and I what I said dating apps, social media, pornography. And I'm telling the the ladies, if you want a man today, you have to change your mindset. You're going to have to get on social media. You may have to get on a dating app depending on your job, where you live, what you do. It's just a change of the times. It would be wrong of me to keep beating a dead horse and telling you to only do what you've always been doing, which still has not worked. So, it's nothing wrong with meeting somebody online. You just have to have rules for it. And the dating apps as they were, the dating apps as they are, I still don't stamp it. And I said that in that video. I still don't stamp a single other dating app. I only stamp destiny because of how it's created. It's created to protect you. The sign up process alone will make a scammer not want to get on there. It don't mean that everybody who get on there is going to be completely sane or whatever cuz we had a guy on there who does some type of security or something and he went to look up somebody who he saw their thing and I guess felt like the app was moving too slow and he wanted to connect with her. And so you still going to have people who could do stupid stuff no matter what. But what we trying to do is minimize that. We also got it to where you in the chat and you stay in the chat. So now you in the chat, you don't have to change your number. You could talk to them right in the chat. And I I think we got video in the chat on the pro version or that's just for me to teach classes. But you could do all of that. And so that's why I created it. And it's like, would I love for it to grow and become the number one most intentional dating app? Absolutely. And if it grow and it's making sustainable money where we could hire a staff and we could dial it in more, we could market it more intentionally and we could make it the most intentional matchmaking app. See the thing what a lot of dummies don't understand is that the devil is working and the devil is always going to work. What we have to do as Christians, as the body of Christ, is we got to go into the marketplace and we have to purify the marketplace. So when I see dating apps, I don't want to do a dating app. I didn't want to do dates. I did it because my audience kept begging me, Tony, please make your own app. Tony, please make your own app. Because they were on the apps. So, if a app is not for you, great. Here go a cookie. Congratulations. But guess what? There are many Christian women and Christian men who don't have anything against a app and they're on the app. I got a lot of respect. for Caleb Curl. Caleb got on the app. I don't know if he told y'all that. I could be telling business. He ain't tell. But when Caleb told me he was on Hinge, he's off of it now. But he tried it out. And every now and then he'll try it out cuz it was hard to meet people where he was. So when I say, "Okay, this man is smart. He's successful. He's hardworking. He's sober minded. If this type of man is on a dating app, then I need to stretch my mind and realize that not every single man on there is trash. And I'm wrong for coming out with a message and saying every man on a dating app is trash. because now I started to meet quality guys that I'm mentoring and coaching who were on dating apps. So that's what growth is. That's what maturity is to realize that everything is not a one-sizefits all. So I'm not going to stay arrogant and egotistical and stuck in my ways when I see that the world is changing because a dating app is not inherently sinful. Because the dating app, you're not selling your body. You're not posting your vagina bare naked. You're not doing sex videos. It's it's no different than a social networking thing except for it's only for dating. So, I had to realize Tony, you doing like Dave Ramsey. I had to realize I was becoming the Dave Ramsey. I got a coach in six minutes, y'all. So, I got to go in a little bit. I had to realize I was becoming the Dave Ramsey of dating and relationships because Dave tell you don't get a credit card. Don't get a credit card. Don't get a credit card. Now, his own students Anthony O'Neal has a credit card. Who is perceivably financially responsible, financially successful, but now he has a credit card. So, what happened? What changed? Why? How is somebody who your student for years go get a go do the very thing that you preach not to do? Why? Because he evolved and he learned it's nothing wrong with a credit card if you don't abuse it. So what I had to learn is nothing wrong with a dating app if you don't abuse it. If you have rules and regulations, you have standards that you're going to stand on, things that you're going to abide by, it's nothing wrong with it if you're going to do it safely and wisely. And so what I did, I know that the people in the space who created all the dating apps out there, none of them are relationship coaches. So I know they got into the space for money. So I say if I'm going to condone getting on a dating app because you got to realize it gets very depressing for me to talk to thousands of women and women are crying women are hurting women because they don't have love. So, it gets depressing for me to keep saying, "Hey, go go go go out on Friday night, sit at the bar, you know, have your salad, have your water with lemon or a little margarita if you drink, go to Starbucks, do your work there, walk around the mall." Like, I'm saying the same thing over and over and over. And then every woman say, "Tony, men don't approach no more. Men don't approach." So, what am I supposed to say then? Well, just sit in Indian style and just intercede and pray all the day and maybe God will sanctify and consecrate the UPS man to come to your door and knock on the door and you and him could get married because he just come out of a divorce like Toré Robertson. You could be Sarah Jakes. Like what am I supposed to say? So at that point it's and then I'm talking to women. They live in a city where it's five men and they already slept with all five of them or they done dated all five of them or all five of them is best friends with their brother. So what I'm supposed to say then it's like my hands was tied and all I'm doing is trying to help. So I say you know what I guess a dating app is we living in a world of AI. We living in a world of social media. The old school is not going to have to work no more. It's not going to work. So, I got some clients in my matchmaking program and they be so impatient and I'm like, "Listen, you've been single for 40 years. You come to me and you expect me to find you somebody in 3 months?" Like, I'm trying, but it's hard. And I'm making the matches and I still got to be extremely safe. So, it's going to take time. It's going to take time. And again, they be boohoo crying or they get angry. They get frustrated. So y'all got to realize what's on me. So I had to create the matchmaking app out of necessity because I'm hearing the the the cries, the the welps, the yells, the screams, the hurt, the frustration. That's also what birthed the purpose pushers community because I'm like a lot of women unfortunately are not going to get married. And if you're done with marriage, if you're done with relationships and the video is about that, shut up. Stay out of the comments. Nobody need your negativity. Nobody cares about what you're doing with your life. Nobody cares if you're done. Don't rain on somebody else parade. If somebody else is still actively seeking love, they want love and they want strategies and tips and tools to do it. Stay out the comments. Let them keep their head up and keep going. this the wrong channel for you because we talk about love and relationships. So for those of y'all who think I pander to women and try to do anything to keep women over here, I'm telling you to leave. Pack your stuff and leave and don't let the door hit you where the good Lord split you because I got to teach the message that God gave me. So if somebody has a desire for love, I'm going to be here to talk to you about it and tell you what you need to do. And as I get the download, as I see things change, I'mma update you and I'mma tell you this is the update. This is the change. You got to do it wise. You got to do it smart. Here go the rules. And so I got a whole vid I got whole videos on how to do online dating. How to do online dating correctly. I also got videos on why you shouldn't get on a dating app. And so whichever side you want to take, I got the information there for you because ultimately it's your choice. So I'm not gonna tell you not to do something knowing that you going to do it and then you go do it and you're naked and afraid. So I'm going to prepare you so that you girded and armored up so that when you get on there, you safe because I prepared you for what you was going to do. So that's why I make the videos with the rules to how to do the online dating and it's not about money. Money is a byproduct of being obedient to God and living your purpose. So if God want me to become a billionaire or a millionaire off of a matchmaking app, then so be it. I'm not going to tell him no. But the Lord know what I do with it. He know the blessing that I already am and he know the blessing that I'll continue to be. So, I ain't gonna argue with the Lord. But guess what? As of right now, Destiny is slow trickling. It's growing slow. We had a couple thousand people sign up. We growing the the male user base. And guess what? It's not a lot of men that's signing up. Meaning, it's not equivalent. It's more women than men because the men who are not serious, they not getting on there. So, it's taken us longer to get all of the intentional single men who are serious and ready and want to go through the process. And that's exactly why I created it. But it's so many women that's impatient and frustrated and still want instant gratification and don't realize that's not how life works. So, you got to wake up and smell the folders in the morning and you got to know that life don't work on your time. You got to get in place, get in position, and when it's time, God going to bless you with what he need to bless you with. But I'm a minute late for my call. Make sure, put the link in the description. Join us. Whether it's purpose pushers, if you don't want love and relationship, get in the Purpose community. If you want love and relationship, join Destiny link in the description. If you need one-on-one coaching, somebody say, "Tony, I need coaching cuz I'm not joining the dating app." Okay, congratulations. Here go a cookie. Click the link for a one-on-one coaching session. Then God bless you. Whatever you need, I got it. I'm out here just trying to serve and help. Serve and protect like the police supposed to be doing. God bless you. Keep your head up. Keep going. Don't get mad. Scratch your booty and get glad cuz I'm going to tell you like this right here. Ain't nothing changing over here. So you might as well shut up. Don't even get in my comments with your opinion cuz I ain't changing nothing. I'mma stand on my message and ain't nothing change about my message but what the Lord tell me to change. And when I change it, I'll tell you why I'm changing it. But it ain't nothing you say gonna make me change my message. Gonna make me shut up. Gonna make me back down. Gonna make me sit down. Male or female, woman or child, man or child, dog, gorilla, horse, I'm not changing for nobody but the Holy Spirit. So understand that right there. And hush. God bless you. Keep your head up. And I'm going to tell you like this right here. The reason why I don't say like and subscribe on the videos because I don't care if you like or subscribe. And so if you don't like my message, buy the unsubscribe button is for free. So understand that right there. You want to get pandered to. You want to hear what you want to hear. You want somebody to lie to you. You want somebody who only going to say what you agree with and what you want to hear. This not the page for you cuz I'm going to give it to you real and raw. Male and female. Any anybody could get it. The men get their toes stepped on. The women get their toes stepped on. At the end of the day, I work for the Lord. Point blank period. And that's not changing. I have been out here 20 years and still ain't change. Ain't nothing change but a update. Just like the software update on your phone and your computer. And so you update when you get new data. When you get new information, you got to update. As long as you're not changing your morals and your values. One thing you will never hear me tell you to do is start having sex before marriage, to start getting in adultery, to start worshiping other gods. But a dating app is not a sin. You getting on a social networking app is not a sin. You fornicating is a sin. You adulterating is a sin. You lying and cheating and stealing and killing is a sin. So, I ain't going to lead you to sin, but I'm going to lead you to growth and to change.