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Dave Ramsey highlights a pervasive psychological error among millionaires and successful business owners: an internalized sense of guilt regarding their wealth, despite having done everything right to achieve it. Through his work with Entree Leadership coaching thousands of small businesses and conducting studies on the demographics of millionaires, Ramsey observes that many wealthy individuals suffer from damaged psyches due to what he terms "antisuccess" or anti-wealth movements. These negative narratives have stolen their pride and hope, causing them to question their morality even when they are objectively successful. Ramsey argues passionately that there is a lower percentage of bad people among the wealthy than in the general population; rather than being moral reprobates who got rich through wrongdoing, these individuals typically succeeded by serving more customers—whether selling chicken or pizza—and working harder than anyone else. The source of this negative sentiment is often traced back to communist college professors and a cultural shift that promotes envy over achievement, creating what Ramsey calls "hope stealers." This ideology suggests that equal wealth for unequal effort is fair, which Ramsey vehemently rejects as unjust; he insists that those who work sixty hours should earn more than those working six. He notes that this mindset has created an environment where success gets a bad name, fueled by movements like Occupy Wall Street and language from the 1960s American Dream era that promised upward mobility regardless of starting point but failed to deliver for many today. Consequently, even financially secure individuals in Generation Z and Millennials often feel disenfranchised because they compare their current standing unfavorably to their parents' generation or perceive systemic barriers like racism, sexism, and "baldism" as insurmountable injustices that excuse a lack of personal effort. Ramsey challenges the victim mentality by pointing out that while external factors like unfair stereotypes—such as southern accents being misinterpreted due to ignorance from shows like *The Beverly Hillbillies* or assumptions about footwear based on location—are real, they cannot be fixed by complaining. He recounts his own experiences facing prejudice and tax law changes in the 1980s that affected his real estate business, noting that while he was a victim of these circumstances, no one forced him to sign mortgages or take specific risks; those were acts of free will. Therefore, standing and screaming at "the machine" for forty years results only in a substandard life because it focuses on uncontrollables rather than solutions. He emphasizes that the only path to a higher quality life is controlling what can be controlled, acknowledging that while unfairness exists, one must choose resilience over entitlement or martyrdom myths. Ultimately, Ramsey concludes that avoiding pitfalls like gambling as an escape mechanism and rejecting a sense of entitlement are crucial for long-term success. He warns against looking up to role models who drink away their problems or use gambling to solve issues, noting that such behaviors indicate a value set that is not working because the "fruit" is absent. The discussion underscores that while society may be rife with prejudice and broken systems, focusing on these grievances does not change outcomes. Instead of succumbing to feelings of unfairness or believing the system itself is the sole issue rather than one's own meritocratic efforts, individuals must adopt a mindset of action over complaint. By outlasting stereotypes and controlling their controllable actions, successful people can maintain their integrity without feeling guilty for having achieved more through hard work and service than others have done.
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What are some of the biggest
psychological errors that people make
when it comes to thinking about wealth
and business building? What are the the
traps that people fall
into?
Uh, you know, one of the ones I've been
working on a lot with our entree
leadership clients, which we coach about
10,000 small businesses in under the
brand Entree Leadership that this book
is in. As a matter of fact, it's in that
same brand. and the uh and then of
course we work with uh people on the
financial side and so I've been and you
know I did the book millionaire uh baby
steps millionaires and is number one
again teaching people you know here's
what these millionaires look like we did
a huge study on millionaires here's what
they really look like and so in both of
those cases I'm spending time with the
wealthy or I'm spending time with a
successful small business person in
either case I'm uh
appalled at how much damage the uh
antisuccess movement has done to their
psyche. I'm appalled that they've
actually too many of them. They're
they're very successful on almost every
front. But when I look at them and say
you haven't done anything wrong, you did
everything right is why you're
successful. You are not a moral repbate
for becoming wealthy or becoming
successful. Quite the opposite. I'm
proud of you. You have done good stuff,
my son, my daughter. I And I'm amazed at
somebody that's got a $5 million net
worth and I look at them and say that
and their body language changes. Their
shoulders go back, their head comes up
because this communist negative
uh anti-wealth, antisuccess stuff that
is floating around has had an impact on
them and and impacted their spirit. the
hope stealers, I call them, has stolen a
lot of these people's pride, their hope.
Uh and uh and I I've started getting
quite frankly pretty angry about uh
these people that are spreading this
negative thing about successful people
because I got to tell you man I know a
lot of billionaires not just
millionaires and the percentage of
wealthy people that are bad people is
lower than the percentage of the
population. Now there is bad people
among them. But they did not get there
by doing something wrong. By and large
they got there by doing more right than
anybody else did. They served more
chicken. They served more pizza. They
served more business help. They served
more something than you did. Shut up.
you know, and uh man, but they it's
amazing to me to sit with a guy's got a
15 or $20 million net worth and a guy
like me from a redneck, a hillbilly can
look at him and go, "Dude, I'm proud of
you. You did good." And he goes, "You
know, I did." But nobody says that to
him. Everybody says, "You're a dog.
You're an idiot. You're a crook. You
must have done something wrong. The eat
the rich and all this stupid 1enters and
Operation Wall Street's language and all
that garbage that's out there. And it's
having an impact on success is now
getting a bad name, you know, and it
didn't used to have a bad name in
America.
Yeah. Where do you think that's come
from? Uh communist college professors.
Okay. Yeah. Uh but if that's surely
those communist college professors were
were they in tenure when the people that
you're speaking to were going through
college? Yeah. Yeah. They've always been
there. I mean honestly truthfully
there's very little pe there's very few
people that believe that communism is a
better system than capitalism unless
you're on a college campus. You can't
find them. You can't even find them in
communist countries that think it's
better than capitalism. There's nothing
more there's nothing more capitalistic
than a good communist. Right. uh
honestly. And so uh but this idea of
equal wealth for unequal effort and call
that
fair, that's not fair. Guy works 60
hours, he should make more money, guy
works six hours. That's not fair. You
make the same money and you work. That's
not fair. My kids used to say growing
up, "Well, that that's not fair." I'm
like, "Fair's where the Tilta World and
the cotton candy is, kid." You know, you
want some fair, go get some.
Yeah, I I'm very grateful that where I'm
from, the northeast of the UK, it's spit
and sawdust, blue collar stuff. Yeah,
there was no airs and graces. And in
some ways for the British people that
are listening and the Australians and
maybe some of the Canadians and maybe
the working-class Americans as well, uh
that has some pains. Um because if you
try and stray from the beaten path a lot
of the time that's locked down on that's
not exactly supported. You don't you're
kind of in a role model desert a lot of
the time. There's not that many people.
I was having dinner with some Aussies
and they said tall poppy syndrome.
Correct. And uh I said well that's not
an Aussie thing. That's an Aristotle
thing. But okay. Yeah. Still it's a
little older. It's a little older than
Australia is. Yeah. Yeah. But still it's
you know that poppy that you can't stick
your head up. You must be cut down. Yes.
And in envy and jealousy. Yeah. Yeah.
Yeah. Yeah. Exactly. Um
I I really didn't like that. But one of
the things that it gave me was uh people
like the sort of person I didn't want to
be like. And avoiding pitfalls are
almost as important as expediting
successes. So, okay, I don't want his
relationship with his wife. I don't want
the way that he drinks his problems
away. I don't want the fact that he
seems to be using gambling as his get
out of jail free card for all of the
problems that he's got, etc., etc., etc.
And uh it's not working. Your your your
ideal your value set is not working. The
fruit is not there. And you look at that
and go, "Okay, I don't want to do that."
Correct. But uh one of the things that
it does give you is no hes or graces or
expectations, no sense of um
entitlement. Precisely correct.
Precisely correct. There's no there's
zero entitlement. What myth of martyrdom
are you going to have? You weren't
promised anything. And I think uh I
wonder whether
the anti- wealth movement in America is
kind of like a bastard love child of the
American dream from the 60s. That if you
give people blue sky vision, white
picket fence, this is the sort of world
that you can get. It doesn't really
matter where you started. You can ascend
into the middle class and maybe even
above. That's a big hope. And if you get
to the stage where the world doesn't
deliver the thing to you that you
expected or that you hoped, uh even if
by pretty much all metrics, Gen Z and
millennials financially, even adjusted
for inflation, are in a a pretty good
spot, intergenerational competition
theory, they compare themselves to where
their parents were at their same age,
their ability to access things like
housing, and their uh level of
comparison across the internet. Even if
they are wealthy, they don't feel that
wealthy.
comparatively and that means well maybe
there's something wrong with the world
maybe this is unfair in some sort of way
maybe the system is broken maybe work
actually isn't the the solution to these
problems maybe I shouldn't be resilient
maybe the system is the issue as opposed
to the meritocracy or my efforts that
I've put in or the way that I've
approached things yeah the I get the uh
disenfranchised feeling I I understand
that I've been there myself uh we were
just talking about that but the um you
know the mean old banks took Dave down,
right? The mean old IRS took Dave down.
The president changed the tax law and it
affected the real estate business in the
80s big time. Shut down the entire SNL
industry because of that. And so I was a
victim. I was a victim. I was a victim
of all these things. And uh and yet I
was the one signed up for the
trip. I no one made me sign those
documents. No one made me sign those
mortgages. No one made me do any of it.
It was it was an act of my free stupid
will. And so I had to kind of get
through that. So if you're going to
stand and scream at the
machine, 40 years later, where are
you? You're still standing there
screaming at the machine and you've had
40 years of a substandard life. So it
just doesn't work for me. It's it's
impractical to me. the philosophy that
philosophy is uh I'm gonna be a victim.
I'm gonna scream about this. I deserve
better. The the the system is broken.
You can yell about all that if you want,
but you're not controlling any of the
controllables. Your only option to have
a higher quality life is to control the
controllables. And uh are are there is
there racism? Yes. Is there sexism? Yes.
Uh are people uh less likely to believe
a guy that is bald than a guy who has a
great head of hair? Yes. Uh there's
baldism. And so uh there there's all
kinds of things that can hold you back
that are unfair. But I can't fix that
since I choose not to have a hairpiece.
I can't fix that. So I've get to do it
anyway. I can stand and yell about how
unfair it is that people that, you know,
the people in the radio business thought
because I was broadcasting from
Nashville, I must not be wearing shoes
and being a double wide because they had
ignorant stereotypes of southern
hillbillies, right? And they because
they'd watched the Beverly Hillbillies
when they were a child and thought that
was real. And so, you know, ignorance
ignorance is what all uh prejudice is
based in. And and so are are those
things real? Did I get did I get uh as I
grew a 640 station network, did I get
unfairly characterized as not being
smart because I had a southern accent?
Oh, like every
day. And I can yell about that, but I
don't think I'm going to change the
stereotype of some Yankee in Cleveland,
Ohio. The only thing I can do is go, you
know, outlast him and then he ends up
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