Why People Like To SHAME Single People [RAW]

Hello everyone. In this video, I'm going to be talking about why people like to shame single people. People always like to ask you, have you been seeing someone? Are you dating anyone? Do you have a boyfriend yet? Do you have a girlfriend yet? And the people who like to ask these questions are typically the ones who already have a relationship. So, these tend to be people who have already settle for the bare minimum. Am I the only one who has noticed this? Let me know in the comments below. Because from my experience and from what I've seen, it seems like people will pass over some of the best opportunities they already had in their lives. potential partners who were driven, disciplined, hardworking, people who had it all together. They will ignore those people or they will be passive with them. They will overlook them. They will be for recreational use, just something that they use for fun, something for short term, and then they discard them. And then they typically end up with someone who isn't about anything. Someone who doesn't have a good job. Someone who doesn't have any plans for the future. So they overlook you for something less than you. They never actually find something better. But then when they were with you, they found all of these problems with you. But now they're suddenly grateful for what they have. They're appreciating the little things now. And I think the reason for this, it's because very few people really want a relationship because they don't even understand what they're getting themselves into. And that is why if you look at most relationships these days, they are nothing but chaos and dysfunction, disappointment. And then what do they do? They retreat into fantasy. They imagine a person who's really just like someone they already ignored or overlooked or someone they found all of these problems with. Because while they may want love, they're not willing to give love because they don't even know how to do that. They don't know how to give love. And it's because they were never unconditionally loved. Their emotional needs were never met as a child. So now they're just looking for attention and validation. But now they're left to settle for someone who is easier to control, someone who doesn't have too many options, or someone who is just using them, which isn't what they really want, but it may make them feel more comfortable and secure. But what they really wanted is is what they already overlooked. And this is why they like to shame single people because they don't want to confront this in themselves. But many people have been brainwashed into thinking that they want a relationship. And then once they get it, they're not happy. It's not what they wanted. But they do not want to face the reality. So they get angry at single people. They project these things onto you because it's easier for them rather than them having to understand what they're feeling and why they're feeling it. So they make you feel like something is wrong with you to make themselves feel superior and in control when really they're actually insecure because they need to have this sense of certainty. They need to feel like they are doing the right thing by being in a relationship with whoever it is they're with because otherwise their reality doesn't make sense. And maybe their entire sense of identity is based on this relationship. So they don't even know who they are without it. And single people become reminders to them of that because maybe you're not so dependent on other people. Maybe you are able to guide and direct yourself without external input or influence. Well, it's not like that for them. So, they target your confidence. They make you feel like what you're doing is wrong, as though you shouldn't be alone. when really there is nothing wrong with that. And they know there isn't. That's why they get mad because deep down they know their feelings are the problem. So they try to irritate you. They try to get under your skin to make you feel how they feel so that they can feel like you're wrong and they're right. Being in a relationship is good. Being single is bad. when really it's because they envy your freedom. They envy your independence. They envy your resilience. They envy how you're working on yourself and how [clears throat] you're not tied up in something already because you can have options. There's all of these possibilities for you. You have an open road ahead of you. Well, for them there's chaos, roadblocks, obstructions. They don't have the freedom of choice like you do. They don't get to choose how they want to live their lives. So, it's not as flexible as it may be with you because they have this other person to deal with. They have responsibilities and maybe they wish they could just go and do whatever they like, but they can't. And they may assume that you're going to go off and surpass them. You're going to get a more attractive partner, someone who is more successful, someone who can take you places, someone who you can grow with. Well, they're just stuck with what they already have. And maybe you're just more innocent. You believe in a brighter future. You believe that good things can happen for you. You dream about your ideal partner while they're stuck dealing with an unpleasant reality, a reality that they refuse to accept because they can't deal with their feelings. So then they project these feelings onto people who aren't going through what they're going through. People who are single, people who still have hopes and dreams, people who are open to the possibility of meeting someone in the future because maybe they wish they could go back to a time like that before they got into a relationship. And maybe if they could, they would choose differently. But this is how you know that some people are battling feelings of regret. It's like they have biased remorse. because they're not as satisfied with their relationships or with their own lives. So, they target your sense of satisfaction with your own life because that's what they're missing in theirs. But this is how people can appear to go from one relationship to the next. They can never be alone because they want to avoid this feeling of inadequacy. And when they're with someone, they can pretend everything is fine. They can put on a show for everyone else, but really they're not happy. It's a performance just for you because they can't accept who they got. So all they can do is play pretend that act like they've got it all together when really they're falling apart. And this is how it is. Many people in relationships these days are being held back from doing what they really want to do. Maybe they would like to travel. Maybe they would like to have a certain type of job. Maybe they would like more freedom but they can't because maybe their partner doesn't want to or doesn't approve. So there are many sacrifices in relationships and people do become bitter. They become resentful and that is why they shame you because they see that you don't have to make these sacrifices. So when their minds is unfair when really they made their own choices and everything in life comes with sacrifices and rewards. It's just that they don't want to take accountability for their own actions or decisions and it's much easier for them to blame you. But for them to blame you, they have to pretend. They need a false narrative. And this can leave you very confused because we all have different interests. We all have different lives. So why should we all have to be the exact same all the time? And people who are in relationships or people who are successful in other things, they will all do the same things as anyone else such as scrolling on their phone, going to the toilet, feeling anger, anxiety, and depression. And it may actually be even more pronounced than it may be for a regular person because in their minds they finally achieved the dream that they were chasing. They've got everything they wanted, the perfect family, friends, money, success, and yet they're still not happy. So now they really think there's something wrong with themselves. Because at least if you don't have those things yet, you have reasons to not be happy. You can blame it on not having enough money or not having a relationship or the car that you would like. And yet at the same time, you also don't have all of these distractions. So you're able to focus on yourself rather than worrying about managing everything. You know, here's what I'm seeing in the world today. It's like everyone just wants to fit in and once they do, they feel trapped and then they start to shame people who don't fit in because they're envious of them. They're not really happy in their group or community. And yet so many people are so terrified of not fitting in when nothing is going to happen. [clears throat] You're not suddenly going to die just because you didn't fit in with people. But this is just our biological wiring because there was a time where we couldn't survive without the tribe. We needed each other because we didn't have houses. It was difficult to get food. and there were predators. But it's not like that anymore. You don't need to have lots of people. You don't need to be in a relationship. So don't feel bad for being single. And don't try to force yourself into a relationship just to make other people happy or because you feel like you have to. do what you want to do because it doesn't feel good to be forced into something. It is better when things are natural and organic. So focus on your own life. Focus on getting to know yourself instead of waiting on hand and foot for whatever other people expect you to be. Because even if you do set out to achieve everything they expect of you, they're never going to be satisfied. They will always find something wrong with it and they will always shame you. So whether you fail or succeed in their expectations of you, it's not going to make any difference anyway. There's never going to be a time where you can just relax and feel good about yourself or have the things you wanted. You could just do that right now by ignoring their expectations and just living your life how you want to live it. by remembering that they are projecting how they feel about themselves onto you and it doesn't have anything to do with you because you were fine before they started to criticize you and shame you. So just keep going with what you're doing and try not to let it get to you. So yeah, this is what I've noticed with people who seem to shame single people. and what I advise you do in response to that. But let me know your experiences. Have you felt shamed for being single? And uh how did you respond to it? Drop it down below in the comments. I just like to let you all know that, you know, many people are single in the world today. I I think it's one in four people are experiencing isolation. So, you're not alone. And, you know, we do have the supportive community on here. So, read the comments, comment below, and let's support each other. Thank you for watching, and I'll talk to you in another video very soon.