Why Does Everyone Feel So Politically Homeless? - Ana Kasparian

what does independent and unaligned mean for me at this moment in my I guess Journey if you want to call it that is freedom not having this weird obligation to any political group so I can actually explore the issues and not feel pressured to think in one way or another you know I thought maybe coming out as someone who's unaligned would maybe get the cultish individuals off my back but that has not happened it's kind of amazing because you know they've been very critical of me and they've been pretty obsessed with claiming that I'm not pure enough to be considered on the left and finally I was just like okay fine then I guess I'm not on the left I'm unaligned because I'm certainly not someone that really fits in with the right either it's just I have far more nuanced views of some of these issues it doesn't mean that my policy proposals are completely different it doesn't mean that who I am as a person is completely different it just means that I have noticed some characteristics on the left that have essentially felt like ideological shackles it has prevented me from you know allowing myself to dig a little deeper and maybe even consider whether the other side has a point and so I just want to be in a position to do my job better than I had been doing my job and in that Journey so far I've realized that you know I've had incorrect opinions and perceptions of Republican voters overall I think that there are gradations there are differences it's not a monolith I just feel a lot more in touch with reality and the world around me and I love it there's something very liberating about that and so focusing on how good that feels has kind of helped me get past all of the bad faith attacks I'm dealing with because ultimately if you're an intellectually curious person you're you're going to have a hunger for learning more for exploring more for talking with people who don't agree with you and if you find yourself in this cultish mentality where your you know your social group is pressuring you to avoid doing that you're going to lose your mind and I really was finding myself in that situation why do you think everyone's so obsessed with labels why does it matter that you're from the left on the left now an independent now some this person's a Libertarian etc etc I can't speak for the International Community but certainly in the United States I think that politics has substituted religion to some extent people have almost like this religious zealotry toward their political beliefs and when that happens it's really difficult to have a conversation with someone without it immediately devolving into allegations of bad faith of you know lying deception all sorts of things and so maybe that's part of it but honestly I didn't really notice this as an issue in America until Donald Trump was running for president and then after he got elected as president and I am 1 million per guilty of honestly allowing him to kind of break my brain for a little bit um because I saw him as such a significant threat and to be clear there are things about Donald Trump that I still consider to be very terrible the inability to accept defeat the inability to accept that he lost the election you know the capital riots get a lot of attention but the capital riots were not as big of a deal compared to the fake elector scheme that was the real plot to overturn the election so those are things that I still believe I I'm still critical of trump however I do think that there is an orchestrated effort in Legacy Media to paint him as even more demonic and it's unfair to him and what it does is it makes his supporters distrust media overall so when the media debunk something and they do it accurately well Trump supporters aren't going to trust them because they have lost credibility forting him exactly exactly I think that you can be factual in your reporting you can be nuanced in your reporting and still get a message across without having to Omit certain information or cherry-pick certain elements of what Trump is doing and I'm just really making a an effort right now to be as honest and factual as possible as I do my job because really my number one love the thing that I was always passionate about since I was in Middle School was journalism and I think I forgot about that a little bit and became more of an advocate or an activist during the Trump era and I don't want to be an activist that's not who I am okay I want to explore I want to learn and I want to get people accurate information it's this weird Arc going from analysis to advocacy to activism uh and that you can't analyze anything or try to understand it without it seeming fact like a justification that it's happened you know why is it that people on the other side of the fence think the things that they do it doesn't mean that you need to agree with them but if you're not prepared to even understand well that this is why somebody from the religious right may see Donald Trump as x y and Zed or on the other side of the fence why is why is it that these people from [ __ ] Seattle or wherever they are why are they card carrying lgbtqia like all of this stuff go well because the place that they've grown up in etc etc if you don't play that game but the Purity spiral has become so pure that if you try to do that analysis it is seen as justification and that's so right that's so true I mean an issue that I keep running into on our show um and I'm trying to find ways to get around it or get the audience to understand what I'm trying to do what I go out of my way to do when I research stories now is I'm not going to take any Legacy Media or corporate media's Nar narrative on a story what I'll do is I'll read it and then I'll go out of my way to find like the original Source material let's say they're covering a trump rally for instance I will watch the entire Trump rally double speed because that man loves to talk and I'll get a fuller picture of what the story really is what he actually said in context so when he was being chided in the press for saying that if he doesn't get elected it will be a bloodbath that was a lot he wasn't saying that there would be violence he was saying that there would be an economic bloodbath he was referring to the Auto industry here in the United States and so I felt that they intentionally took him out of context unfairly did so and I wanted to make clear to the audience here's what he was really saying that doesn't mean that I am a trump supporter that means I'm just trying to get them accurate information because I don't want anyone in this country and certainly I don't want my audience living in unnecessary fear and what happens with the way the media covers him sometimes is it does lead to a lot of unnecessary fear he does things that are terrible let's AC accurately report on that we don't need to add additional garbage to it that doesn't make any sense and isn't really based in reality what's the story of your worldview trajectory over the last few years that's that's a big question for me because I'm going to just talk about it from like my own context and what I've personally realized about myself and I think that kind of gives you a bigger picture of the world around us right now I was so certain of myself you know I was so certain that we live in a country that is just riddled with hatred and bigotry and racism I was so certain that you know the left was fighting to protect democracy and the right was dangerous and they didn't value our you know system of government you know I just had all of these certainties in my mind and then certain things happened to me personally which woke me up like that was kind of like the Catalyst uh for me to actually start exploring a little more and I realized oh no no one really knows what they're talking about and it's actually a terrible position to think you know it all that you're certain that the other side is always wrong and your side is always right and so I can go issue by issue I mean I remember thinking you know all the people who are in prison right now or the vast majority of people who are in prison right now in the states are there specifically for dumb things like uh marijuana possession that turned out not to be true I genuinely believe that pursuing policies like cashless bail uh would be beneficial to society because if someone is poor and they did commit a crime it doesn't make sense for them to be detained pre-trial uh they lose their jobs their lives fall apart it's just unfair and I still believe that I just think that the way that those policies were implemented were uh faulty and the left is just unwilling to recalibrate at all we can still have a better system with the same uh objectives in mind but there's just a rigidness to both sides of the political aisle to be quite Frank with you and it drives me crazy because it prevents the possibility of solutions to societal ills that we do have yeah the vend diagrams are getting further and further apart of what anybody is prepared to talk to the other side on where did that certainty around bigotry and racism come from why were you so certain given that you spend your time analyzing stuff reading stories you would have thought that you would have been the front lines of uncertainty because look at all of the different viewpoints have been exposed to my world was small it was limited to one perspective I only associated with individuals who agreed with me which was a huge mistake uh the you know even though I was critical of Legacy Media at the time I didn't quite realize just how much information was being emitted in the reporting and so you know you would just get a sanitized version of various stories if it covered you know the Democratic party especially if you're reading like the New York Times Washington Post you know Legacy Media Outlets but when it came to the other side there would be a lot of cherry-picked moments a lot of sound Clips you know sound bites rather than Fuller context and it's not even that you know a fuller story would necessarily change me politically it's just that it might have given me a different perception of a specific ific story but I was really upset to realize that there's a lot of gatekeeping going on and since my media diet was so one-sided I decided to just diversify my media diet and go out of my way to actually speak to people real life people who uh believe things that are different from what I believe and understand what their logic is what the rationale is rather than reading the New York Times or the Washington Post and having some reporter tell me what they think their logic is where do do you think the left is at its best and at its worst at the moment I think the left is at its best when it like when the people within the left remember that we are trying to improve people's lives that it's not about appealing to one activist group or another or One race or another when we realize and remember that what kind of connects everyone on the left is that we want to lift people up we want to world where we have equal opportunities for people uh to thrive like that is what appeals to me when it comes to leftwing policies you know when it comes to economic policies I'm a big proponent of universal economic policies uh that anyone uh could benefit from I think the left has kind of moved away from that the Democratic party certainly likes to lean into the identity politics more than the economic politics it's unfortunate that you know with the Biden Administration I actually think that he did do a few uh good things when it comes to some of his economic policies I like Lena Khan who's the head of the Federal Trade Commission she's been doing a great job preventing monopolies or breaking up companies uh to ensure that consumers have more options so there's some good stuff happening as well and I do want to applaud Biden for that but Biden also did things that I think were not so great uh certainly some foreign policy decisions and uh certain reversals of uh Trump era immigration policies which at the time I didn't give Trump credit for because he wasn't really applauded for it and I didn't realize that you know the remain in Mexico policy was actually very successful and Biden reversing it did lead to uh the crisis at the border that ended up being a political liability that backed him up into a corner and suddenly he's hitting up Republicans in the Senate asking them to write legislation that Republicans would like so there's there are some flaws on the left for sure and I think it's important to be real about those flaws I think it's also important to be real about what we're getting wrong about the other side of the political aisle what has been the response from the left since you started talking about this and came out as underlined I love the fact that you had to talk about your like announcement like I identified I now identify as being un aligned it's been mixed uh so of course there have been people who I look I don't even know if they're really offended by it because the people who seem to be most offended by it are making content out of it you know it's it's a great way of uh just easy content to make some money uh but you know those people are particularly vicious and it's fine I don't care like they could be as vicious as they want that's not going to persuade me to go in a direction that I'm uncomfortable with but there have been a lot of former tyt viewers who stopped watching us after Trump got elected because they felt that we were going too far and that we weren't being fair and um I really love hearing from those people because they'll tell me things like hey we were paid members for X number of years and we loved like your reporting it was great it was awesome it was funny it was fair and then you just went a little too overboard with the you know Trump era too much of the you know trashing America trashing you know focusing on ident politics and stuff like that and so they just kind of stopped watching but now they're kind of coming back and they identify as Democrats they're on the left it's just that they are a little more grounded in reality and don't like the hyperbole that I think I personally fell victim to it is strange to me to see how seductive that seems to be to the left and like both sides of the Isle are fighting to become the people in charge of this country but if you hate this country if it's awful and terrible and everything needs to be burned down all the time that well why why are you doing that it's not a very hopeful vision for the future it doesn't it doesn't fill me with an awful lot of like Blue Sky Thinking and gumption for what's going to come well I I started thinking about my own life and how that mindset was actually having a real world impact on my life in in terms of like just this defe attitude feeling as though I don't have all these opportun ities that people used to have in this country and look some things have devolved in this country like that's certainly true however there is a reason why so many people from all around the world are trying to come in to the United States this is a land of opportunity even still and I want to find ways to empower people to get after it to go for their dreams to not have a defeatist attitude or mentality I don't want to infantilize people I think people regardless of their race regardless of where they come from have the capacity to do amazing things and what I am just disgusted by right now with one faction on the left it's not everyone on the left but it is a faction they are very successful themselves they've gone to wonderful universities they've gotten a great education they have lucrative careers but their lucrative career really hinges on spreading this message that there are no opportunities left in America okay everything is uh all all of our systems are set up in a way to discriminate against certain groups of people they're never going to be able to make it unless we burn the system down and what that does is it puts ideas it plants a seed in people's heads and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy and I don't want to feed into that I want to find ways to empower people while also understanding hey there are some systemic flaws that maybe we can reform and make better yeah is this strange denial of anyone who wants to improve their lives as like you you are already fine as you are and the only problems that you're going to face are the ones that are from out there there's this odd centralizing of yourself in the discussion about other groups and minorities this sort of white savior complex that seems to come through an awful lot and I don't know it just it's it's not even thinly veiled it is just the like soft bigotry of expectations like poor minorities don't worry I will come and save you it's like get the [ __ ] out of the way it's got nothing to do with you here so yeah I I know exactly the dynamic you're talking about I mean I think that the best way to help people is to empower them right so I always give this example because I care about education so much and not to Center myself too much but when I started Elementary School I didn't speak a word of English I had I only knew Armenian because that's what was spoken in our household and I just remember feeling so much shame when I entered kindergarten because I had to take like a a little test to see you know where I stood with language with um you know math things like that and I don't know I just felt a lot of shame but I also remember that the school I went to had you know an extra curriculum attached for English uh as a second language speakers right and so they went out of their way to provide additional coursework or course material to catch me up with my with my fellow classmates and I I feel like if we see students falling behind what can we do to help them catch up right if we see that there is a disparity among black and white students in AP classes or honors classes okay what can we do what kind of additional help can we provide for the students who aren't making it to the honors program s so they can get there instead the policies now in certain Progressive cities across the country is to do away with the honors program I don't agree with that at all when I was in fifth grade my teacher and she was the most pivotal educator in my life her name was Maggie Robson she was from England she was a total heart ass okay she was so hard on the students but I thrived in that kind of environment she had a huge sign in the front of the class that said I can and I will and she had no patience for self-pity zero and at that time in my life I was a very sensitive kid I reveled in self-pity and she just wasn't having any of it and she taught me to just have a stronger sense of self-esteem confidence and this idea that if I really put my mind to it I can do what I want to do and I want to instill that in people rather than instill defeatism in people's minds it's so much more hopeful right as a kid who maybe doesn't have that much self-belief or a person that's down on their luck you want you want sympathy in as much as you want somebody else to see that things are hard but you want that in service of you becoming better not in service of them getting offended on your behalf and saying don't worry I'll step in and do this thing yeah it's uh it's strange one of the Dynamics I've been watching which I think is really interesting is that if even if you're somebody on the left or probably on the right too although I don't know how pure the Purity spiral is if you criticize the left you're essentially a supporter of trump it's it's impossible for you to highlight the shortcomings of the left without being a supporter of the other side I think the level of expected Purity on the left is very extreme I think that is I I think that's true but there is also a a component of the right-wing electorate that is very like they're they're certainly purist in regard to Donald Trump I don't know what percentage uh but you know if you are critical of trump they'll accuse you of having uh Trump derangement syndrome and at I I think I did at one point I don't think I do now I think I actually see Trump for who he is I do see his downsides and we do talk about his downsides quite a bit but I'll give you an example I mean I I watched his uh speech last night uh it was a dinner to celebrate you know Catholicism it's an annual dinner so KLA Harris didn't go she had some other scheduling conflict but he did his thing I watched the entire speech beginning to end and you know I I I understand why some voters find him appealing right there's an element of his personality that comes across as Charming or funny and I love the way the media just tries to pretend like that doesn't exist they'll cherry-pick some of the moments of his speech that make him look bad and it doesn't give you a fuller picture of who he is and that's a problem because it leads to less understanding in regard to Republican voters and what it is that they might find appealing about him yeah it's uh it's fascinating to think that 50% of the country thinks that the other 50 50% of the country are horrible and they're both doing it in both directions like I just I don't know it doesn't seem to be a particularly good foundation to build anything on top of yeah can I actually tell you a funny story I've never shared this with anyone but bring it on when I moved into where we live now uh on the day that we needed to move my husband was actually uh in a fire academy so he was unable to help me which was something I was very salty about at the time you know because I'm like a pretty petite woman and I'm like dealing with a lot of heavy boxes and stuff D in distress a little bit a little bit but you know I got it done I got it done and so so the one last thing I needed to get out of the truck and into our unit was his bicycle and so I'm like gra trying to get his bicycle like up the stairs and all of a sudden this man stops me his name's Jeff and he's like hey let me help you out with that and he starts helping me out he stopped everything he was doing to help me out and then Jeff and I became very close you know one of my neighbors who I really like he was my favorite person in the entire building and years go by one day we're in an HOA meeting homeowners association and one of our like one of the people living in the building said something about Trump that was negative I don't remember what it is and Jeff Whispers in my ear H she's gonna start trashing Trump I'm out of here and it hit me that he's a trump supporter we had never talked about politics before and I'm like so I got to know Jeff before I knew what his politics were incredibly kind guy he helps everyone in this building with anything they might need and so that woke me up to wait a minute the not all Trump supporters are like dangerous evil individuals and yes I it was stupid that I thought that to begin with like I'm embarrassed admitting that but it's just how I believed and that kind of was one of the moments where it like a light bulb went off and something was telling me you just you need to scratch beneath the surface a little more because you don't have a realistic view of what's going on here shock horror people are people outside of their political opinions exactly headline of the day yeah talking about that do you think some people on the left are scared of speaking up against immigration or homelessness or crime or whatever for being seen as trumpists 100% yes yeah I I was hoping that by being willing to talk about some of these things publicly it would Empower others who I know feel the same way to speak out publicly uh but I think the opposite unfortunately happened because of course I got attacked pretty viciously for it and what that does is it it serves as a warning shot to everyone else hey if you uh don't want to be treated the way Anna is treated then you better shut up and so what'll public humiliation will continue until uh political ideology improves yeah yeah that's exactly right and so what what'll typically happen is I'll get a lot of private messages from you know liberals from democratic voters and they'll thank me and they'll say thank you for you know drawing attention to this and look I don't blame anybody for not wanting to deal with some of the stuff I've been dealing with lately but at the same time nothing is going to change unless more and more people on the left are willing to you know maybe fight back against people on the far far left on some of these issues like the police abolitionists the prison abolitionist those folks they're just not rooted in reality and I don't think that they are proposing policies that are beneficial to society overall everyone seems to know that but on the left in general people are unwilling to speak out against it what are the biggest third rails for on the left speaking out against the left homelessness crime immigration what's the what what what are the top few I I I really don't want to get into it but you know um nuances in regard to transgender rights uh because it's different from gay rights obviously you know I'm I'm a big supporter of gay marriage I think they should be treated equally as everyone else same with transgender individuals but then you also have certain issues where transgender rights uh Clash a little bit with 's rights and so those are difficult questions and how do you proceed in a way where everyone feels like they're respected and that they're safe and protected and it's a difficult question I've tried to Broach it it's just really difficult to because you know transgender activism is very intense and very maximalist so you can't really get into Nuance without uh expecting a lot of backlash after the last few weeks can you see the incentives of how people slide from the left to the right this sort of denial by the Purity party the right is welcoming with open arms disaffected Democrats please come here yeah I do actually uh so if you're grounded in your values and I I do think I am you're not going to be seduced by people who are just nice to you right like I actually really respect the fact that the right is welcoming that they are willing to you know forgive past transgressions and say Hey you know we will take you in with open arms not everyone on the right but generally speaking that is what I noticed whereas with the left there seems to be this weird obsession with exclusivity Purity and purging people who are you know heterodox or whatever and so I I've noticed quite a bit of that on the left but I really do value who I am as a person and I just don't think that I'm going to change my political views entirely based on who's mean to me or who's nice to me but I will say this I don't know if it's a strategy or if it's just who right-wingers happen to be but their willingness to welcome people is honestly how you build power it really is and the left just fails to realize that I don't know why they want to treat Politics as if it's like this cutesy little exclusive Club but that's certainly how they treat it but then there's also this uh Paradox because you look at the current Democratic party like KLA Harris's campaign for instance and she's like luring in the who's who of bush era Republicans and I don't like those folks I I don't like neocons I think that in fact I became politicized when uh the neocon were in charge during the bush uh Administration and the idea that I now have to just hold my nose and support kamla Harris even as she is talking about the value of having Dick Cheney endorse her and campaign with her it just like grosses me out so it's like a weird Paradox because while I'm being trash pretty viciously there's like this insane support for what the Democratic party is doing in bringing in never Trump Republicans it's almost like Trump is at the center of everything it feels it certainly feels that way yeah yeah so it's like if you're an enemy of Trumps then you are welcome but if you are someone who believes in a lot of leftwing policies but you're critical in in certain ways well you're not pure enough we're going to purge you we're going to purge you where does that degree of Purity come from I have no idea you tried to think about sort of what this mechanism is this underlying Dynamic it could be fear right uh fear of betrayal I think that you know one thing that has really given me some clarity about what drives people is Jonathan Height's work uh when it comes to moral foundations I love that book I loved codling of the American mind too that was an excellent book as well but what I appreciated about that is I was able to learn about my own inherent biases and also I was able to learn what you know moral foundations the left has that leads to certain behaviors and certain beliefs so the left tends to score very low on loyalty and so that that was really interesting I took the test I don't know how accurate it is but I scored the absolute highest in loyalty and so it's just when I see members of the left publicly trashing each other like prominent figures publicly trashing each other in bad faith specifically it really disgusts me it genuinely does and even as all of these various public figures on the left are trashing me right now I just I'm not going to do that on my show like I haven't done that on tyt I'm not going to do that on tyt because it just the whole thing grosses me out it's just not who I am so I think moral foundations might play a role in the different beh behaviors that you're seeing on the left and the right I understand what you mean about this fear and especially the Loyalty point that I often think that if you know one of someone's opinions and from it you can accurately predict everything else that they believe even though they might not genuinely believe it you have this reliable model that kind of projects out where Anna we don't need to worry about Anna she was on board with x y and Zed last time but if there's a little if you're this sort of perfect round sphere we know that if we roll you where you're going to go but if you've got a of little sort of Jinks out of you and a couple of dents and divots you go well H and Sh actually she she didn't quite agree with us so much on that so she's like an unreliable Ally moving forward I'm not I'm not so sure that I actually do trust her on this thing so rather than potentially put your faith in someone who is with you most of the time but not all of the time it's easy to just cast you out but even though you said you know you're not uh your political allegiance doesn't lie with whoever is nicest to you uh you can certainly see the dynamic how people would feel put off by the left's distaste it's all well and good saying I don't go just where people want me but it's very hard to stay somewhere where people don't want you that's 100% true yeah I I I do think that the right is winning I think there's a reason why if you look at voter registration for the first time there are fewer registered Democrats in America compared to uh you know registered Republicans uh but that's not because they're registering as Republicans it's because they're no longer registering as Democrats and just they're independent voters they consider themselves independent voters that's a problem within the Democratic party that I think they need to come to terms with and maybe change their behavior so it stops happening L exclusionary less elitist exactly and it's actually been the most shocking to me that they are unwilling to recalibrate in any way ever every single person I know who I'm friends with from the left this is probably the number one gripe internally and it's the thing that everybody has to sort of say quietly like I can't actually talk about it fully because even calling out the fact that there is an elephant in the room is enough of a problem to cause you to be casting that the unreliable Ally radar kicks off one other Dynamic that I really wanted to get your take on that I thought is interesting we do sometimes see people slide away from the more extreme versions of the left right there's been a variety of arcs where people have gone fully from left to right or from left to Center or whatever we've very rarely seen people go in the other direction why do you think that is I don't think that's necessarily true I don't think it's to the same extent as someone going from left to right but I mean there had been people who you know claimed that they had been deradicalized and now they're Democrats right uh I forget the name of this guy his name was David Weissman I think it might have been but he was a hardcore Trump supporter he was on Twitter and he was you know tweeting I guess negative things and Chelsea Handler of all people decided to be nice to him and she deradicalized him but it's but like that goes back to what we were saying right like for some people those Dynamics really do mean a lot to them so if someone is willing to be kind to you even if they have a different political opinion and if they're willing to have a conversation with you well there is an opportunity for persuasion there and I wish the left overall realized that right these people are not our enemies I'm talking about voters here I'm not talking about you know people in positions of power when it comes to ordinary Americans these people should not be viewed as our enemies because they think differently than us they should be viewed as our fellow Americans participating in something that we're supposed to Value which is our Democratic process so if we stop treating them like they're parayas and we actually are willing to have have good faith conversations with them there are opportunities for persuasion maybe there aren't maybe they're not willing to be persuaded and that's fine but this idea that we should cut ourselves off from anyone who thinks a little differently from us that is a losing strategy it just is they're certainly not going to be persuaded if you just castigate them the second that they try and talk to you yeah you can disagree with your own side but if the other side rejects you too you go okay well I guess I am politic Ally homeless I am just sat in the middle now because there isn't anywhere for me to go it it does seem oddly like a kamakazi ideology uh for the future of a party if you continue to spiral the Purity round and round and shave off the people who don't wholeheartedly take on board the things that you want and uh yeah you mentioned earlier on um when you guys some of your audience had thought that you'd pushed too far on Trump and that that had been sort of disaffected to them they felt like it it wasn't maybe as objective previously do you think that the audience that you've built now is ready to hear you with an alternative perspective what what's that me like this is this has been you know my Evolution if you want to call it that has not happened overnight I mean this has been a slow painful thing that's been happening for a few years now and so I think that the audience members who were not interested in this Evolution have already left and they've found you know programming that makes them feel comfortable programming that they like and that's great you know that's their right the people who have stayed behind some of them are still very critical but I really respect them and it's okay that they're critical I'm willing to take their criticism because they are willing to hear me out they are willing to hear what I have to say they are willing to hear opinions that might differ from theirs and I have tremendous respect for anyone who has that kind of mindset so I love my audience I'm very grateful for the audience we have and I'm you know sad that there was you know a small portion of our you know audience who decided to leave but that's their prerogative and I'm not going to continue to be in some sort of like ideological prison uh to appease people I I want to find what the reality is and I'm going to get things wrong still but I also want be honest about when I do get things wrong and I want to correct myself and I want to build the trust that I feel that for a few years I just didn't deserve that's a really reasonable like a a shockingly reasonable take and the fact that that's kind of a radical position probably tells us all that we need to know about how the internet works it's wild I saw you know I kind of watched uh dispiritedly I guess from the sidelines uh over the last couple of weeks The Fallout and reaction and reaction and so on uh the accusations of you sort of grifting your way toward the right or something in the hopes that a rumble deal is going to come your way it seems wild to me that the internet believes the only way that anyone can ever change their mind is if they're grifting and it seems to me that you're pissing a lot of people off by taking this position so you're not a very good grifter like if this was a grift I don't understand who you're picking up it doesn't seem to me to be a pot of gold at the end of it well let me just start off by saying to some extent I deserve it uh and it's because I engaged in that kind of commentary and those types of accusations so let me just take full ownership of that Anna have you done some iwaska or something recently what's brought this is like I don't know you're ascended I see the truth myself in The Matrix what's going on I just I don't I don't I maybe it's just I'm aging I don't know uh you get older you get a little bit wiser I I hope that's what's happening but but there is something a little deeper um so one of my closest friends passed away during covid not from covid but his name was Michael Brooks two weeks before he passed away uh we were talking and he struggled with depression at the time I did too and he asked me to work with uh a Woman by the name of Susan who he had been working with for some number of years and she really helped you know turn his life around uh helped his career he had started his own show because of her and he just thought that I could really benefit from talking with her and she's big into meditation and all I and I was not I thought it was all like woo woo BS but I really respected Michael and he bought me a session and I was like okay fine I'm going to do this for him she's changed my life and she has helped me see the humanity in everyone and I remember you know one of the things that he instilled in his viewers was this notion that you should not be vicious to people you should be vicious to systems of you know unfairness Injustice inequality but never be vicious to people love people see the humanity and people and I at the time agreed with it but didn't really practice it and by working with Susan I finally really realized what Michael was trying to do and she was able to instill in me what he had already been practicing and think that that's a huge part of it I'm going to have a conversation with her um for my substack uh so people can get to know her and the journey that I went on with her because I think it explains a lot of what I've gone through as well but it's it's a lot of work that I've done on myself like really getting to know why it is I behave in certain ways and what I can do to maybe make the world a better place through the work I do you know to some extent rad I don't want to do harm with the work I'm doing and I realized to some extent I was doing harm and so I'm just trying to write my wrongs it's a type of harm I very first off I really appreciate you saying that it's not uh easy to identify when you're making changes especially in adulthood it's cool for you know a young person to change their perspective on things but when you get to be an adult you're supposed to be fully formed should you not have sorted this out already should you not have got your meditation practice and understood understood your position in the world but it seems hopeful to me hope inducing to me that somebody who was as politically involved as you could actually come out and be I'm a real person this is not just me you know spewing talking points about one thing that you can probably predict in advance if you just see the title of the episode or the the the title of the topic that we're talking about it's oh we know where this is going to go it's like oh this is interesting genuinely gives me a new perspective on things I wonder if there is a business for your uh meditation teach a friend in like detoxing people from their political addictions I wonder if that's a like an actual Avenue that may need to go down once the Trump era is over maybe I mean she's she's amazing and you know she's I mean she's very much on the left okay she is not like some she's not independent she's not a right-winger but the thing that's kind of amazing about her is the fact that she sees the humanity and everyone and we both agree that the only way that this country heals is if we can find ways to bring people together even if they disagree politically right and so I'm trying really hard to do that that is the hardest thing on the planet to do at this moment because people like to dig in their heels and it's not just that they believe in their political views it's that they attach morality to their political views good bad yeah exactly you I saw another criticism one of my favorite criticisms uh was that you shouldn't be complaining about the weaknesses of the left so close to the election you basically shouldn't say anything negative about your party at this crucial time that if you're going to have a revelation uh now is in opportune Anna can you not just shut the [ __ ] up yeah I'm not a political activist and I'm also not an operative uh for either political party so um I will completely ignore that criticism because it doesn't apply to what I'm trying to do right now and what I'm trying to do again is not activism I wanted to be a journalist when I was young I pursued that career path I succeeded to some extent and then forgot about it and that was one of the biggest mistakes I've ever made so I I want to do the news that is my number one priority and I want to do it well I want to do it accurately and I want to do it fairly yeah I think this this overarching Dynamic of vote for us because the other side is bad and scary not because you actually love or really believe in your own side I mean there's a bunch of polls that showed this I think it was about 2012 when things started to cross over it was largely a protest vote it was a vote not for them as opposed to a vote for us and I don't know in some ways we can sit here and go how can it be that we're so tribal and divisive could you believe it and you go well what did you expect look at the incentives online look at the way that the algorithms work look at the sort of content that gets pushed to the top of your feed look at the rhetoric that is most opportune uh most successful you know we have a negativity bias there is more saliens psychologically paid to things that are bad than things that are good okay so you just use the bad and put it over there and then you get to improve your number of clicks I had this really great conversation this guy called Stuart Russell so um for about the last two maybe three decades or longer uh the textbook used in like 80 languages around the the world is on artificial intelligence is written by this guy Stuart Russell so he's The Godfather grandfather of of of AI and um he wrote a new book called human compatible where he's talking about how algorithms are interacting with humans I always need to remind myself of this so there's two ways he said that algorithms uh become effective at serving you content that you will click on so the first one is to learn your preferences uh I know that if I serve this thing to Anna that she is likely to click on this no no no yes no no no yes no and begin to get better at serving that to you and predicting your preferences but the other way is to nudge your preferences to make you easier to predict because it's a bidirectional relationship between the two and what you're you're not just taking individual users siloed off what you're doing is it's all users everywhere and learning what other people like you did and it doesn't know whether it's moving your preferences or you're just getting better at clicking on what it predicts but one of the easiest ways to do this if you're in the middle and you sometimes fall left and sometimes fall right on different topics one of the easiest ways to make it EAS to work out what you're going to believe is to just push you further to one way you go okay if you're right in the corner you only have so many directions that you can go whereas if you're in the middle it's actually a little bit more difficult to predict right you like 80s Jazz and pickle ball and cricket and you know God knows what else it's like no no no let's just make politics their entire life and then I don't need to predict anything and let's actually make one particular brand of politics their entire life and let's make one particular you know length of video type of video your type of Creator Etc so in some ways you know I keep asking this question because I think it's I'm fundamentally interested in human nature and fascinated about the Dynamics that cause people to behave the way that they do but it's not that surprising when you sort of tie together the last 15 20 years or so of Technology of politics of culture of incentives and our predisposition what did we expect was going to happen that's yeah that's a great point I in addition to that you know we used to have community-based clubs and basically opportunities for people in various communities to get together in real life whether it's going to do recreational things like play tennis with people from your neighborhood in a park you know those kinds of things I think have fallen by the wayside certainly during covid when everyone was like forced to be in indoors and isolated uh people became became more atomized and what that does is it leads to a situation in which individuals are kind of detached from their Community from other individuals and they're instead getting information about the world around them from technology rather than from real life and look I I gotta be honest I would never be an eight hour a day streamer I could never do that because I don't want to be in front of a computer or a camera all day I like being outside I like talking to my neighbors not necessarily all my neighbors but when I walk my dog I love talking to real people and understanding like what makes them tick what are they stressed out about I'm connect I feel more connected to human beings today than I've ever felt in my life and there's something really magical about that because people are amazing regardless of what their political beliefs are people are amazing everyone's got a story everyone has some sort of struggle it's just I don't know I I feel that the fact that so many people are atomized now is really a disservice to themselves a disservice to our communities a disservice to this country I we got to find ways to get people out Outdoors okay outdoors and speaking to you know their neighbors to their Community just understand what's actually out there rather than having someone else narrate to you what's out there this is the opinion that you should have this is what the world is like out there don't don't worry about going out there to see it for yourself you just get you can live Your Existence vicariously through me exactly exactly this is the best this is the best advert for like Sam Harris's waking up app ever you know it's like do the do the do the meditation or get the good coach and just the world becomes better I feel more connected to the people around me I've let go of beliefs that I that weren't serving me anymore just be openhearted I think that's a good first step be openhearted put your guard down a little bit and just explore I mean I can't imagine having this close-minded you know attitude my entire life I there's so much out there that I would miss out on and so you would have lived your your entire existence imagining catastrophes that never occurred right that's true how you would have how you would have lived I I'm going to try and tie two things together that may not work but just bear with me so do you remember it was a couple years ago and there was a girl filming herself in the gym doing pretty average glute Bridge and there was a guy over the far side and she sort of narrated over the top that this guy was looking too much and then I think he came over and offered to help her maybe unload the weights from the barbell that she was struggling with or whatever it might be and she put this up with this sort of me toes kind of narration that maybe this guy was being a bit creepy and the internet if you told me before that was going to happen here's the video what do the comments like 5050 I would have said it could be everyone saying that she's crazy for doing it and that this is unfair and the guy GL bed over three times in 90 seconds while he was in the video or the internet could say yeah totally correct I I couldn't have predicted it it turned out that the internet went for the one where this is a little bit oversensitive this guy did nothing wrong and you're sort of treating him poorly by doing that that was really formative or interesting to the way that I see how big inflection point events occur and then people take their cues for how they should behave in future from what happened at that big event so that one thing that happened there's been a number of other videos not too dissimilar to that but think about how many young girls saw that video and then looked at the response and realized oh if a guy glances over three times in 90 seconds I don't need to feel scared I don't need to feel uncomfortable so this sort of barometer for where comfort and discomfort sits has been reset in some regard but kind of like how uh eventually a million years into the future there will be so many laws prohibiting so many things because they never get repealed they only get added that nothing will be legal and everything will be illegal I kind of think of it like that that you're sort of accumulating these experiences because in future that same video could happen or a similar video could happen and in that one it's unacceptable and then the unacceptable level gets reset and that's where it is and then it becomes more sensitive and it becomes more sensitive very rarely becomes less sensitive in that regard so when you're thinking about demonizing the people that are out there realizing the humanity etc etc like you very much are in the actions that you take the things that you post online the sort of rhetoric that you do your beliefs about other people you are encouraging the kind of world that other people need to live in and the one that you're going to live in as well so basically I just think seeing the humanity and everybody else allows the volume to come down so that we don't have this hyper sensitized future that everybody's got to tread carefully on that they move through in case that they mess up in one regard or another I I I think that that's mostly correct I I think it's a mistake by the way to take the mass reaction to a specific anecdote as a sign of how you should behave right and because look let's just keep it real how she felt about that man does not speak for all women so if I'm at a gym and the exact same thing happened to me well I would view it as oh he's trying to assist me and by the way I mean yeah guys are G to look it's called human nature it depends are they being disrespectful are they saying disgusting dehumanizing things you know if that's not happening and they're just simply you know doing a quick glance I mean I'm GNA expect it to some extent you know what I'm it's GNA make it might even make me feel good if I took some like time to look nice but I really during the MEO era the thing that started to bother me you know it started off with very serious like sexual assault sexual harassment cases and then it turned into Aziz and Sari had a bad date and that woman who went on a bad date with him tried to make herself out to be like some victim of sexual assault when she wasn't and then that kind of started to change my my view of that entire me too era because then you'd have like women demanding certain consent like almost like written consent right or verbal consent I I would it's I would I don't if a guy asked me may I kiss you I would not I I would say no immediately because I would be so turned off by that like I so anyway but that's just me there are other women who feel differently for me so I just I hated how that era led to a situation in which one or two women saying something led to like all men thinking all women think this way there was another story about a man who was trying to help um a woman who works in media I I don't remember what her name was this was several years ago he was trying to help her with her bag which she put in an overhead compartment on a plane and she flipped out because she felt that this was a sign of the patriarchy that a man didn't think that she would be capable of getting her bag herself and it's like listen lady you speak for yourself guy wants to help me get my bag I am grateful man wants to open a door for me fantastic I do that too I do that for people who are you know walking right behind me I'll hold the door open it's not that big of a deal so one woman having a you know freakout session online about something is not indicative of what all women want yes I I mean the me to era I think and where we're at now which is this sort of odd no man's land where we we're still we've still got a lot of the lingering effects of that and I think guys are still very tentative about their interactions with women um there was this phenomenal quote talking about how um telling men to not be pushy doesn't work because the guys who need to hear it most won't take any heed and the guys who could do with being a little bit more assertive and forthcoming will take it to heart that this sort of message when it lands it doesn't land evenly and it isn't distributed evenly either so I think um yeah I I really wonder what the future of male female sort of Dynamics interpersonal Dynamics has in store it it doesn't seem particularly good at the moment I know that a lot of polls show that women say that they would like to be approached more but there is an also awful lot of data that suggests guys are terrified like guys already hey hey before me too guys were terrified of approaching women just because right for evolutionary rejection fear and then lay it on top is what if I end up on the headline of some newspaper or what if I this woman shouts at me for trying to help put the bag up but she's cute but maybe she's single but maybe she's not and you know like what do you know like this is just again people are going to get things wrong and I think that uh broadening the like boundary within which you can get things wrong is probably a good idea I think that the guard rails have been brought in an awful lot and that you can step outside of them politically relationally uh whatever it is that you're talking about it's a very small uh area that's acceptable for you to to speak inside of yeah yeah that is so true and I think the key word is Grace in fact uh Susan the woman I was referring to earlier who I've been doing a lot of work with when she I I was talking to her about the anxiety I was feeling about an upcoming debate with a conservative and I she knew my typical style was at the time which was far more combative far more you know angry I'm I'm ready to fight kind of attitude and she's like what if this time you try to be meet his arguments with Grace understanding don't come at it so aggressively make your points but you know don't go in it looking for a fight go in it looking to have an exchange and that was the best advice she gave me because it was a substantive exchange it was a debate I definitely made my positions very clear and they were different from his and I remember the reaction to it from both the left and the right was very positive yes it was it was very positive and I was really happy to see that and I'm like this is the way this is the way because it's not like I we all need I think the main lesson from today is that we all need a Susan in our Corner yes yes she's amazing and so when it comes to the issue of dating or uh men approach ing women I think we can all maybe meet people with Grace if they make a mistake don't automatically assume it's coming from a predatory place or a bad place in some cases it does and I think when that happens it's pretty clear uh but if I just if you're a woman just put yourself in a position of a man who wants to approach you but is terrified you know guys are going to make mistakes and it takes balls to approach a woman it really does to to make it clear that you find her attractive and you'd like to date her um I I'm so lucky that I'm married right now and that my husband's married right now like we don't have to deal with any of it we talk about this often like dating in today's era seems torturous yeah you've reached a relationship escape velocity and you're you're now safe Anna kasparian ladies and gentlemen Anna I really appreciate you I really appreciate the fact that you're prepared to own pretty embarrassing sort of failures in the past and it's super exciting I'm a fully paid up fan and uh I'm really looking forward to seeing what you do next where should people go to keep up to date with everything you're getting on with uh you can go to uh I just launched a substack where I write about some of the issues that I want to talk about in a more nuanced way that's over at casparian dos substack do.com uh you can also follow me at tyt that's uh youtube.com thee Young Turks and all my socials are at Anna casparian he Yeah Anna I appreciate you thank you thank you thank you very much for tuning in if you enjoyed that episode there is something else you will absolutely love right here go on give it a tap