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In this discussion, Bonnie Blue addresses concerns regarding her family's involvement in her adult film career and her evolving approach to privacy. She confirms that she no longer films at home or brings clients into her residence, a decision driven by a desire to maintain a clear separation between her professional life and her personal sanctuary. This boundary ensures that if she ever needs a mental break from the industry, she can retreat to a space free from the memory of intense sexual encounters on specific furniture. Furthermore, Bonnie explains that while transforming one's identity could theoretically protect children from societal backlash at school, she believes in radical transparency; she would never want her family or future children surprised by her profession but instead wants them to hear about it directly from her before any external judgment occurs. The conversation takes a significant turn when Bonnie reveals that she took her entire immediate family—her parents, grandmother, sister, and boyfriend—to the screening of a recent documentary featuring explicit content involving gangbangs and sexual acts. She admits to feeling physically sick during parts of the film where she described being "railed" by multiple people, not because of shame for what was on screen, but out of genuine concern for her father's emotional reaction in front of journalists sitting behind them. Despite these moments of discomfort, the experience ultimately reinforced her strategy of protection; knowing that their friends and community members had already seen the documentary meant no one could shock or judge her family later, as they were fully aware of what she did from a young age. Bonnie also tackles the hypothetical scenario of raising children in this industry versus traditional paths to intimacy. She states clearly that if she had a daughter who wished to enter sex work for financial reasons and opportunity, she would not disown or forbid her, though she warns against making it look like an easy path compared to hard labor jobs held by people like her father. Regarding sexual debut, Bonnie argues strongly in favor of losing virginity with a professional sex worker rather than through unsafe environments involving alcohol, drugs, or lack of consent discussions. She suggests that even if one's son were interested in this lifestyle, she would recommend finding a reputable and kind-hearted provider to ensure safety and avoid the trauma associated with exploitative workers who do it solely for money without regard for their clients' well-being. Finally, Bonnie addresses potential conflicts between her career and religious values or traditional views on sex. She asserts that if her children chose to become religious and decided to wait until marriage before losing their virginity through a "traditional" method, she would fully support that choice despite not being religious herself. While acknowledging the difficulty of reconciling decades of industry experience with strict abstinence, she maintains an open-minded stance, noting that while some might find such a shift challenging given her history, it is ultimately up to the individual's conscience. Throughout these topics, she emphasizes education and honesty as the primary tools for navigating complex societal expectations and personal choices within her unique family dynamic.
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Are you worried about Bonnie as a
mother?
>> I I would definitely worry if you were
still doing it.
>> Yeah.
>> I mean, certainly like bringing punters
into the home. I'm guessing you probably
wouldn't do that.
>> No. Like even now I never film at home.
I always film at a venue. Um and I have
filmed at home before, but I no longer
enjoy that. I was like, "No, I know what
my home is." You know, I want to keep my
home my home, and I want to be able to
separate from that. And not that I've
ever needed that separation, but I'd
always like the fact if I needed it, I'm
not somewhere where I think, you know
what, I've just been gangbang banged on
this sofa. It's a separate place and I
can if I need a break. I've got the
opportunity to have that. You could
probably go quite a long way in sort of
transforming your identity to protect
the kids from the backlash at school.
>> Um different I mean Bonnie Blue
obviously isn't your real name anyway,
right? Um but um how are you going to
talk to them? How would you talk to them
about what how you living? how you've
got this amazing house, you know,
>> no idea. Maybe a very early age. I know
that would be very young age for them
because whatever age you think your
either kids start swearing or they start
saying different things at the
playgrounds or start watching content,
it's probably a lot younger. So, it
would really depend on the society in at
that moment in time. Like you said, the
current age is 11 that might go even
even younger. Um, I don't know how the
conversation would go to be honest. I
don't know what would be, you know,
depends how long if I'm no longer in the
industry, how much is still out there,
how much I'm still being spoken about,
how much I would have to disclose. Um, I
definitely want would want to disclose
everything. I'd never want anyone
telling my children or surprising them
with what I do. I'd want them to hear it
from me. And that's sort of how I deal
with my family at the moment. Anything I
plan to do or anything I do, they hear
it from me. Even with I did a
documentary recently and it showed a lot
of sex. It showed um a lot of the gang
bangs, a lot of the things I get up to
and I actually took my family to the
screening and some of the journalists
was disgusted that my I had taken my
family there and it was hard to watch it
with them for sure. It was
>> Did you know it was going to be as
explicit as it was?
>> Um I'd watched a rough edit and I knew
there was going to be sex in there. I
did not know it was going to be as
explicit as it was. Um, and I was
thinking during it, like I was sat next
to my dad, my grandma was there, my mom,
my sister, her boyfriend, and there was
times where I couldn't look at the
screen. I had my head down.
>> What What was that sensation that came
up for you?
>> It was me showing my saying,
"I've just been railed by x amount of
people."
>> No, that's what was on the screen. What
was the sensation that came up for you
when you were sat in the seat?
>> Um,
I just felt a bit sick. And it wasn't
because of what I'd done. It was just uh
this is the first time my family have
really been exposed to this right now
when they're sat front row in like this
cinema room and they've got journalists
behind them.
>> I'm trying I'm gonna just keep my sort
of foot on this point for a second.
Beyond feeling sick,
>> I I What was the emotion that came up?
Like what did you what was the feeling?
What was the sense beyond physically how
it manifested in your body?
>> I was just hoping like my dad was okay.
Like I think
>> again that's not an emotion.
>> Yeah. But I apart from literally feeling
sick and thinking like, "Oh my gosh, I
hope my dad's okay." That was all that
was going through my mind and what I was
feeling.
>> What were you worried he might feel?
>> Um,
I don't know. Like potentially be
disgusted, potentially think this is
>> humiliated.
>> Yeah.
>> You mentioned front row, so they've got
journalists looking at them. So was that
feeling of like behind.
>> Yeah, it was it was hard. And I would
just like I always want to protect my
dad. Like my dad is super sweet and
I I don't wrap them in bubble wrap at
all. They're fully aware of what I do
and to the extreme and they're fully
supportive.
Um yeah, during the whole documentary I
sort of like oh I felt so nervous. I
just wanted to say to him like how do
you feel? Are you okay? Like
>> okay so you did feel nervous there. I'm
the reason the reason that I say it is
>> I want my family to be proud of me and I
was worried them seeing that might take
that taking that feeling away. Um, but
there was other parts of the
documentary. My mom, dad, my grandma,
they're all laughing. They're they're
finding it funny and they're happy and
the other parts they just looked away.
But I'm really glad they watched it
because their friends have going to have
watched it. The everyone in that town
would have watched it and if anything
was to say anything to them, they're not
going to be shocked or surprised because
they've watched it and they know what to
expect. And that's how I' I guess I
would treat my children is just always
being very transparent with them and
sort of not hiding things from them
because I know they'll find out. How do
you feel about your daughter doing what
you do for a living?
>> Um if I had a daughter, I would explain,
look, I'm very different. Most people
are going to be very hurt by this.
They're not going to be able to deal
with this mentally and physically. But
if they wanted to do that, I would not
disown them. I wouldn't be like, no,
don't do it. Like I said, the main
reason I got into it originally was
money. Um, yes, that has shifted, but
they would have so much money and so
much opportunity to do anything they
wanted. Um, and not many people are like
me. So, I can't imagine my daughter
would want to do it just because,
you know, not many people do.
>> You're the LeBron James app.
>> Yeah. Um,
>> but if they did do that, as long as they
understood it's not cuz I think
sometimes I make it look very easy. I
make it look like it's a breeze in the
park. And because for me that is and I
think that's what can be damaging on
society or it can be hard for people
online because they see me going, "Oh, I
earn loads of money and I'm really happy
and I love my life." Most people try and
copy it. They're traumatized. The
families are upset. Um, so yeah, it's
just making him aware it's I do say it's
easy cuz I think of my dad working hard.
He worked two jobs. He worked night
shifts. He had to work in terrible
weather conditions. I'm like that's hard
work. me lying on my back ain't that
hard. So, it's not hard, but it is hard.
I was just thinking of that scene in
Black Adder. Do you remember Black Adder
goes the second series, the TUDA one,
where it starts off with a a man who's
saying, "Oh, daughter, we're so poor."
Blah, blah, blah. And she says, "Yes,
father. I'm going to go to London. I'm
going to make my fortune." He says, "No,
I want you to go on the game. Just make
a living lying on your back. It's so
much easier." Um, what would you think
about your son um having sex with a
future Bonnie Blue, aged 18, losing his
virginity? Yeah. No, I'd be recommending
it.
>> You'd be recommending it
>> 100%. 18 year olds when they lose their
virginity. It's an unsafe environment.
They've probably been drinking. They're
under the influence. They haven't
discussed consent. They haven't
discussed the choking, the hair pulling,
and all of that. And that could be
damaging for him the next day. It could
be the girl comes forward and says, "You
hurt me." Or it can just be damaging for
them cuz they're made to feel insecure
or they're laughed at for whatever
reason. Them being sent to a sex worker
is a very safe, controlled environment.
Um, would you worry about your son,
because you've said you're an outlier,
would you worry about your son
contributing to the trauma of that
woman? Because most sex workers are not
like you personality.
>> I'd probably want to know who they're
going to because you could also go to a
sex worker that's just an escort and
they don't do the crazy things I do. Um,
or like you mean every single person is
different and I'd want to I'd want to
help them. Um, because yeah, I wouldn't
want them to go into someone that
absolutely hates it and is doing it
purely for the money and they feel
traumatized from it. So, I'd want to
help the guy and make sure they go to a
se a good sex worker. What would you say
if your children of either sex?
>> Yeah.
>> Um, say they became uh religious and
they decided that actually they wanted
to wait until marriage to lose their
virginity and do it the traditional way.
What would you say to that choice?
>> That's fine. Like I think it sometimes
is lovely when people are really
religious. Um, I don't have an issue
with it. I don't I personally will never
be religious. Um, but yeah, if they
wanted to, they would. But
>> never say never, Bonnie. That might be
the new challenge.
>> I'm burning in this building right now.
Um, but it's,
yeah, if they became religious, I mean,
I can't imagine my children would. Um,
but if they did, that's fine. I think
those that do, I think, oh my god, it
sex you've thought about for about, I
don't know, 25 years is going to be
terrible. It isn't going to be good.
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