Video summary
The video explores the ongoing debate over who should pay for dates in modern relationships, contrasting traditional expectations with contemporary feminist ideals of equality. One speaker argues that men have always been providers and that paying for dinner is a fundamental gesture of care and commitment, whereas the other emphasizes that women also invest significantly in their appearance, citing costs ranging from $2,000 to over $35,000 annually for maintenance like hair extensions, skincare, and gym memberships. This financial disparity suggests that when a woman goes on a date, she is already operating at a deficit, making the man's payment of the bill a necessary contribution rather than an optional act of generosity. The discussion highlights that while some couples now split bills to reflect equal rights, true equality in dating does not equate to political voting rights but rather involves understanding the different biological and financial burdens each gender faces.
A significant portion of the conversation addresses the concept of "due diligence" before a date occurs, particularly regarding online dating profiles where photos may be outdated or misleading. The speakers argue that if a woman presents herself with high-quality images that do not match her actual appearance, it is unfair to expect the man to pay for a meal with someone he feels deceived by. However, they also stress that men must take steps to verify a potential partner's identity through voice notes or video calls before investing time and money. The dialogue suggests that while catfishing is a valid reason to walk away from a date without paying, it should not be used as an excuse for men who are simply unwilling to invest in the appearance of women they genuinely wish to pursue. Ultimately, the consensus leans toward the idea that if both parties are being authentic and honest about their presentation, the man should still cover the costs as part of his role as a provider.
Beyond the financial aspect, the video delves into the deeper emotional and biological realities that shape these dynamics, noting that women bear the physical toll of childbirth and often manage the majority of household responsibilities without compensation. The speakers point out that society penalizes women financially through the "pink tax" and lower wages, creating an inherent disadvantage that makes splitting bills less equitable than it appears on the surface. Furthermore, the discussion touches upon the dangers men face when dating, such as the risk of violence from intimate partners, framing the act of paying for a date as a small price to pay for the safety and trust involved in letting a woman into their lives. The narrative concludes that while communication is key to resolving conflicts over money, the core issue is often about compatibility and shared values rather than just the bill itself.
In conclusion, the debate resolves around the idea that paying for dates is less about strict financial rules and more about demonstrating respect, responsibility, and a willingness to provide within the context of a relationship. While acknowledging that times are changing and many women now have the power and income to pay their way, the speakers maintain that the instinct to provide remains a crucial part of masculinity and partnership. They advise couples to focus on building a growth mindset together, where both partners understand each other's sacrifices and work toward a shared future rather than getting bogged down in arguments over who picks up the check. The final takeaway is that successful relationships rely on mutual understanding, honesty, and the recognition that money is merely a tool to facilitate connection, not the sole metric of a man's worth or a woman's value.
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[music]
The bill comes for the date. Who reaches
for it? The man [laughter]
or the woman? [sighs and gasps]
>> Man, you're going to get me cancelled on
our like second episode. Rich. A man.
Um, well, it depends. Are we talking
about a real man or a little [ __ ]
>> Yeah, we're talking about a man. Talking
about a real man.
>> No, I'm [clears throat] okay. And so I'm
going to let you answer first and we can
go from there. Who should pick it up,
Rich?
>> Okay. Well,
I'm a traditional man and I've always
been the type of guy that just pays the
bill. Like,
>> okay.
>> Almost every single time my whole life,
I've been the guy that paid the bill.
That's just the way I am. I have a
19-year-old son. He pays the bill. I
think that's just like a traditional
European thing.
>> But nowadays,
different. I hear it's different these
days. I hear a lot of people are going
5050.
>> So, I'd love to hear your opinion.
>> Well, let me ask you, how much have you
spent today to be on the show?
>> I haven't had to spend anything to be on
the show. [laughter]
>> All right. For me, just got my lashes
done, my nails. So, that's like 200
bucks right there. Not including the
makeup, the skin, like the literally the
hair styling tools I use today. So, if
you think about it, what are the costs
for you to maintain your appearance?
>> For a guy to maintain our appearance,
like my costs, like they're not that
substantial.
>> Yeah. Let me help you. Not anything
compared to a woman's, right?
>> Yeah. Like I don't I can't think of any
cost like other than like normal
grooming, right?
>> Yeah. So, correct me if I'm wrong,
right? But men want beautiful women,
beautiful skin, great makeup, ageless
face, sexy body that smells good and
feels smooth, right? Do you know how
much it costs to have that?
>> A lot. [laughter]
>> All right. So, as a woman and also a
financial adviser to other women, it's
not cheap. Okay. I did some calculations
myself and it comes to about anywhere
from $2,000 to $3,500 a month. Okay.
>> $3,500 a month. Yeah, that's $42,000.
And that's on the lower that's on the
conservative side, you know.
>> 42,000 a year.
>> Oh, yeah. And you know what? I even
asked Dr. G, who I call Chat TBT, okay?
And it can be up to to the high top top
tier, like 70 grand, right? Think about
this charact $70,000 a year
>> to get on the high. Okay, we're we're
talking about like the highest end.
Okay, those are like probably Hollywood
celebrities. But even then, right, even
30 grand, 30 to 42 g. Think about this,
okay? Hair extensions, girls, you know
this. Come on. Hair extensions, hair
color and the products, right? Nails,
lashes, brows, laser, skin treatments,
Botox, Sculra, daily skin care, serums,
all the products. Then you have to add
the Pilates, the collagen, the gym
memberships, the, you know, um, meal
prep and a kick-ass wardrobe.
>> [laughter]
>> You're scaring me.
>> Hey honey, look. A beautiful
highmaintenance girl didn't just sneak
up on you, okay? You guys looked on an
app, okay? You looked at her across the
room and you chose her because she
looked great, i.e. expensive,
right? So that's what you're what's
that's what's coming to the table. By
the time she sat down at the dinner
table with you, she's already operating
at a financial deficit. just to go out
with you, right? So, paying for her
pasta, barely a tax rebate in my
opinion.
>> Think about it though. Think about it.
How much you guys get ready compared to
how much we get ready.
>> Yeah. Hey, listen. I agree with you. I
agree with you. Like, it doesn't cost me
anything and it doesn't take me anything
to go on a date.
>> But I'm hearing these days that
more and more people are going 5050.
People are going Dutch. Women, it's 2026
and women want to be,
they want to have equal rights with men.
And this is, you know, a feminist
feminism movement. And
>> wow,
>> women want want the ability to say,
"Hey, you know what? We deserve equal
rights." Well, why not split the bill?
And I'm an old-fashioned guy, so I still
pay the bill. However,
there are situations and we'll talk
about them where
>> Mhm.
>> if I was to go on a date
and and and I just wasn't happy that I
feel like maybe I shouldn't pay the
bill. So, I want to talk about that. And
one question I have for you is
does that mean that you expect a man to
pay every single time?
[sighs]
>> All right, let's go with the first one.
Equality, Richard means I can wear pants
and vote. Okay, equal. When we talk
about equality, when we're talking about
dating, it's very, very different from
voting rights, from political rights.
This is shivery. This is values, okay?
It's the least that he can do, right? In
the real world, think about this. We
have consulting fees. We have taxes. We
have penalties. Dating and relationships
really should be no different. Think
about this. if you pull me out of my
busy schedule so I can you can sit
across from me, experience my aesthetic,
you know, this entertaining personality
and potentially access the vault that
obviously requires a deposit and dinner
is just just the basic level covered
charge, right?
Yes, I do think that the man should pay
every time.
Okay, but what if the guy feels like his
time is being wasted?
>> You don't get to browse for free. This
is not a 30-day trial, right? A man
complaining about his time being wasted
on a date is like a day day trader like
you complaining that a stock didn't
pump. Let's be real. He is taking a
gamble on the probability of getting
laid. Think about that. What are men's
primary motivation? When a guy comes up
to me and he says, "Hey, how's it going?
How's your night?" What do you think
he's hoping for at the end of that night
by coming up to me?
>> Yeah, he's hoping to get lucky.
>> Yeah. Right now, if a woman actually,
and I say actually wanted to get an
orgasm, she'd actually stay home, manage
her own portfolio, and she'll actually
get a 100% guarantee on that investment.
Okay? We don't need to be going out
talking to men to get lucky. We just
don't. We just really don't. Right? So,
if you're going to come up to me, take
my time, talk to me. What are you
bringing to the table?
[sighs]
>> Well, I think I think there's a lot more
in relationships
than just and being with someone than
just money, first of all. What about
emotional support? What about uh someone
to talk to, someone to lean on,
>> someone to build a life with, someone to
have kids with? someone to build a
future with, someone that you can grow
old with. Money at the end of the day is
something you can't take with you. It's
only something you can use as a tool to
make your life better when you're here.
So, I just feel like there's a lot of
poverty all over the world. And I would
say like what 90% of the world is in
poverty. So, there's a lot of
relationships in those countries where
people aren't rich, but they're together
and they're happy. What do you say about
those people? So if 90% of the world is
under the poverty line, that means
there's people out there that are in
happy relationships, married, having
kids, living lives, and their partner
isn't rich. Their partner might not be
always buying dinner. They might not
always be taking the bill.
>> So who who would be p who would be
taking the bill? The woman?
>> The woman?
>> Maybe. Maybe. Sometimes maybe they share
it. I have no idea. I'm just trying to
be devil's advocate. I'm trying to talk
about, you know, that I I think this is
a Vancouver problem. I think this is a
North American problem. I think this is
a there is like this this thing where
there's a lot of gold diggers in
Vancouver. There's a lot of gold diggers
in California. There's a lot of gold
diggers in lots of different places. And
I think,
>> okay,
>> I have friends of mine that have been on
dates. One of my friends has been on
nine dates with a girl and they never
did more than kiss
>> and he believes
>> he believes that she used him for
dinners.
>> So my thing is as a guy, why would you
always want to be paying for dinner if
you could be put in a situation where
you're literally being used for dinners?
And this is like a thing that happens in
Vancouver.
>> But how long does that really last? It's
like using a guy for dinners because you
have to tolerate talking to that guy. I
mean like for a woman you're a woman. Do
girls do this?
>> Talk to me. Like let's we the men want
to know. Do women do this? Do they go on
dinners with guys and use guys just for
dinners? That's what I want to know. Is
that a thing?
>> It could Okay. It might come up maybe
the first second time, but you have to
understand we have to like deal with the
guy sitting across from us like eight to
nine times. Like
>> yeah, [laughter]
>> like I wouldn't be able to tolerate
that. So I don't know. I can't speak to
that.
>> Yeah.
>> Maybe there are girls.
>> Like dating is a two-way street and guys
get their time wasted and money wasted
all the time
by women who just want a free meal.
So, as a guy, I can see why it's so like
>> And doesn't he want a free meal? Come
on, Richard. He wants a free meal. It's
just not food. [laughter]
>> Listen.
>> Okay.
>> I'm not going to deny that men don't
talk to me.
>> I'm not going to deny that men when
they're dating typically want one end
destination. Okay? I'm not trying to
deny that. But men are also looking for
a partner. Men are also looking for a
wife. Men are also looking to have a
family. Men are also looking for, you
know, a shoulder to cry on once in a
while, even though men will never admit
it. So,
I just think that there is
this pressure that's put on guys that
they have to pay the bill or they're a
loser.
But we're living in a world where more
than ever women have a lot of power. So,
why aren't they covering the bill more
than they have in the past? Or maybe
they are
>> right. I haven't run into it as much,
but I don't know. Maybe you could tell
me like your experiences like um
>> No, I love this. Let's talk Let's
actually talk about equality. I want to
rewind there, though.
>> Let's also think about this. You said
all they've done is kiss, but yet she's
giving him her time. She's going out
with him. But what is he doing? He's
looking for what? That that meal ticket,
right? And she hasn't given it up. He's
looking for a relation. Maybe she's
waiting for marriage. He was looking for
a relationship, but he never got more
than a kiss. And he went on nine dates.
>> And then eventually he was like
>> And then eventually he was like, "Okay,
this is just becoming weird because I'm
just taking her on dates for dinners and
that's all there is. There's nothing
else." And
>> girls, oh man. and it's not amounting to
anything other than just going for
dinners that he's just spending like
$200 $300 per dinner and you know it's
gotten to the point where
>> you know he just got tired of it and he
stopped calling her.
>> Well, this is where communication comes
in, right? So, this is not this is not a
money problem. This is a communication
where during those times you're either
talking between saying where's this
going? What do you want? That's up to
him. That's his problem. He didn't do
his due diligence. He That's what a
relationship is all about. But let's go
back to the equality stuff though,
Richard. Right? So you say, "Oh, it's
equal. Women are being powerful." Think
about this. Equality
doesn't mean I'm your unpaid surrogate,
your cleaning lady, your personal chef,
your emotional support system, your sex
slave, your baby mama, and your sugar
mama on top. Like, what the trauma bond
is that? Right? Women already have a
second unpaid full-time job of creating
and managing the family and household
creating as well. So until a man can
birth half the baby and sustain its life
from his breasts, you can pay some
bills, you can pay for dinner, right?
We're let's talk about actual
relationship right now. We're getting
into that. You want to talk about equal
rights. Let's not forget that women are
at a financial disadvantage in society
to begin with. Have you heard of the
pink tax?
Right? We are financially penalized just
for existing. Right? My razor is made of
the exact same cheap exact same cheap
plastic as yours, but because it's pink,
it costs $4 more, right? Even my shampoo
costs more than you, right? So, so and
society makes it that way. Also, society
pays me less on the dollar than a man.
We know this. We know about the
ceilings. We've talked about this. Let's
not go into that. But come on, Richard.
You can roll out of bed, splash some tap
water in your face, put on a gray
fleece, and they're going to call you
distinguished. Right? If a woman does
that, she's going to get pulled into HR
and ask if she has the flu. Okay? My
daily operating costs in my in who I
present is triple, right? So, there's no
equality in that already, right? When it
comes to money and paying to look to
look good, right? Now, let's look at who
actually keeps the whole operation
afloat biologically.
Richard, you men love to act like they
are, you know, equal stakeholders in
this joint venture, right? When really
your entire biological contribution to
the survival of the human race, right,
is five minutes of enthusiasm in a
single microscopic cell.
>> Roll
[laughter] of enthusiasm.
five minutes
>> and [laughter] it now rules reverse,
right? If you acquired an egg from us,
you'd still completely be useless
because you couldn't birth a child. You
need a woman for that. Us, we can take
your sperm, have a baby,
and be powerful.
So, what do we need a man for? If it's
not the physical biological, then he's
got to be showing up equally in other
parts, which is providing. Now, money
doesn't just mean provision. I have guys
that I know that don't actually have a
lot of money. They're not considered
rich at all. He works three jobs, and
even as a friend around me, I have a lot
of guy friends that don't allow girls to
ever pay around them. But him
especially, I respect him even more cuz
he has less, but he's still just as
generous. You know, I always ask him,
I'm like, why do you do this? like, you
know, it's you don't need to. You're so
generous. He's like, because it's just
in me because I'm a provider. That
instinct of a man to provide is what
really ultimately a woman needs. A man
provides, but the woman provides the
other things, right? It still applies
the same way.
>> I've had situations in the past where uh
you go online dating,
you see a bunch of photos, and then the
woman isn't actually when you meet them,
it isn't actually the same person in the
photos. If I'm going on a date and
someone doesn't look like
>> Yeah. Like catfishing. If I'm going on a
date and someone doesn't look like their
photos,
>> I'm not paying for their meal. [sighs]
>> Okay. Well,
>> and it happened to [laughter] me. It has
actually happened to me.
>> Well,
it was very disturbing.
>> But it's
>> Why is it my fault?
>> Because you didn't do your own due
diligence. Okay, look. And
>> you're in a dating app and someone has a
bunch of photos of themselves and those
photos are fake. How am I supposed to
know
>> that? Like how am I supposed to do more
due diligence? Like send a private
investigator over to her?
>> No, let me teach you. When I'm looking,
and I know this because I play for your
team, when I'm looking to take a woman
on her on a date or date her in general,
I talk to her on the phone. I ask for a
FaceTime. I get an idea of who she
really is. Why? Because I'm actually
looking to date, right? That's what
serious people do when they look to
date, right? So, you should know what
she looks like before before
complaining. I mean, my goodness. And
you know, if you're going to say, "Oh,
that requires too much effort." Okay.
Well, then you're paying the penalty for
not doing your due diligence, Bradley.
Sorry, but you didn't try to talk to
her. You didn't try to get to know her.
You don't have an idea. Exchange
Instagrams.
>> Yeah. It's a guy. It's one of the most
terrible experiences ever. Going on a
date with someone and having them not be
who you thought they were and now you're
sitting here talking to this person and
you're like, who am I even talking to?
>> Like you passed me and now you want me
to talk to you. Like unreal. It's just
unreal.
>> You know what's unreal? If you don't do
your due diligence. So boys, if you guys
are listening to this, do your due
diligence. Ask for her Instagram. Ask
for a voice note. You'll know if she
sound if her voice matches what she's
who she is. You'll know. Due diligence.
>> Okay. Don't you think it's unfair that a
man takes on all the financial burden?
If a woman in 2026 wants equal rights,
why not pay half the bill?
>> Okay, we already talked about this. I
take we take on so much of the burden
domestic also, right? Having the baby.
Do you know what actually happens to a
woman's body when she has a baby? Organs
literally evicted from its current
locations. My lungs and my stomach
literally gets shoved to my throat so
the baby has room to expand. Okay? And
then the baby acts like a parasite.
Literally, it's like siphoning calcium
directly out of my teeth and my bones
just to build its own skeleton.
Don't forget childirth. Okay, Richard.
You've never had to experience that.
organ prolapse, tearing, hemorrhaging.
Think about this. Like all that, okay,
is not even equal. Okay, Richard, you're
literally like an angel investor. You
threw $5 in and now you want to be CEO
of the company and have 5050 shareholder
equal rights. No, honey, it's already
not. Okay, it's already not equal at
all. And also, one last thing, let's
talk about the worst case scenarios.
Okay, your case, worst case scenario,
she used an old photo. She doesn't look
like I mean, is she already dead that
you can't afford one dinner? You're not
going to see her ever again, right? But
look, your worst scenario is she used an
old photo. You got stuck paying $100 on
tapas and you have to go home alone.
>> No, she photo I'm not paying.
>> Okay, but that's your worst
myself. I'll pay for myself, but I'm not
paying for her if she uses a different
photo. Not an old photo. I'm talking
about a different photo. Like a photo
that's not even her. Like this stuff
happens. And it happens, I'm sure, for
girls that are meeting guys, too.
>> I'm sure it happen.
>> Does she have a good person? Does she
have a good personality? Is she a good
person?
>> I don't remember. I just remember
looking at her because you look nothing
like your photo. Like this is So you're
you like I'm talking to a stranger right
now. Like just end it right now cuz this
is awkward.
>> Was she ugly? Was she terrible to look
at? Was it hard to look at her? Because
if she was decent, you would be okay.
>> It was hard to look at her.
>> Okay. Okay. Looks, guys. Okay. Are we
listening to this? I think we're all on
the same train of thought.
>> It was a terrible experience.
>> Men want you for your looks, which we
put money into our looks. We we've we've
showed up. The least you can do is pay.
We're not talking about We're not
talking about those examples. Okay,
fine. But what about people who actually
show up who are regular people who are
not catfishing? Okay, now what are you
looking? You just admitted that you are
looking at a girls for their looks. You
want So we put money. I just explained
how much it costs for us to put into our
looks. The least you can do is pay for
dinner. And let's also talk about worst
case scenario. That's your worst case
scenario. You know what my worst case
scenario is? It's literally a Netflix
true crime documentary.
My apex predator is technically the man
sitting across from me at dinner. So
when when a woman is murdered and the
killer is actually known nine out of
10en times it's a male. Okay. Now 55% of
all murdered women are killed by an
intimate partner or a family member.
Okay. Every single day 133 women are
killed by a man in their own home or on
a date. I have seen shows where like
they go on a Tinder date, guy like cuts
her up and puts her in her freaking
luggage. Okay, so Richard, you look at
your first date as a financial
investment where I am literally risking
my life just to let you take you take me
out. So the very least you can do is pay
for dinner. [clears throat]
>> Yeah. No, I I listen, I have a sister, I
have a mother, I have a daughter, I have
a girlfriend. I I the last thing I ever
want is for them to ever experience
anything dangerous and crazy like that.
And I'm not going to deny that there's
bad guys out there. It's very, very
dangerous. It's a crazy world. So, it's
frustrating because the bad guys kind of
affect the good guys
because most men for the most part are
not looking to hurt anyone. They're just
looking for a nice girl. They're looking
for a partner. They're looking for
someone they can build a life with. But
it seems to me like nice guys finish
last. And it's very hard for a nice guy
to find a girl these days.
>> Really? Because that nice girl that
catfished you because she didn't look
very nice. But I asked you several
times, could she have a good heart? You
just said all these guys want someone to
come to settle down with and build the
home and be a nice girl. That girl
probably was such a good heart. In fact,
she probably would have offered to pay
for your dinner cuz she's so cute. Like
good. In fact, who paid for that? Did
you pay or did you not pay?
>> For which one?
>> No, the girl who catfished you.
>> No, I paid for my dinner, but I didn't
pay for her dinner. [laughter]
>> She Oh, man. Okay. Okay.
>> Like, why would I pay for her dinner?
She was not even the person that she
Okay. Okay. She was not who she was
pretending to be someone else.
>> So when I met her, I was kind of like
shocked. So in my brain,
>> I don't even remember what happened, but
I don't even think we went I don't think
it got to dinner. [snorts]
>> Yeah. I mean,
>> now that I'm remembering, I remember
saying, "You don't look anything like
your pictures." And then
>> her saying something and I was actually
quite angry and irritated and I was
like, "Yeah, let's just end this now."
and I just left. [laughter]
I was like, "No, you know what?
>> I'm not even gonna sit down and eat with
you because you lied to me and I don't
want to talk to you and I don't want to
go on a date with you. And you are
definitely not as good-looking as the
picture. And this has happened to lots
of guys. Lots of guys I know. I'm not
the first guy that that's happened to.
And it's happened to me more than once
now that I'm looking back like through
the files now that they're all coming
[laughter] back to me. Some of those
things that I've like, you know, like
hidden, you know, didn't want to talk
about those things. But yeah, over the
years it's happened.
>> So then this brings me to the thing of
that men, you guys don't care about the
it's not about the money really. You're
in there. You want a nice woman. You
want someone that's nice that's going to
settle down. But let's be real. You want
a woman that looks good.
>> Of course,
>> you've just you've you want a woman that
Okay. Okay. So, let's talk about the
more normal people who are not catfishes
and and regular people, right? So, and
we're not going to talk about you cuz I
know you're, you know, a traditional
guy, but let's think about the men out
there that want to go hes on a regular
presenting woman. Like, it just doesn't
happen. I've never seen it. I but but
like
>> I listen I'm a lot older than the
20-year-old crowd these days. So I don't
know. But from what I've heard, it's a
lot more normal these days for a guy and
a girl to go on a date and for them to
pay for themselves,
>> more so than ever before. But I didn't
grow up in that world. So I don't know
for sure. I'm just
>> speaking out loud. Like for me, I'm
still in the younger generation
>> and I have always just kind of paid and
being a man, like you said, I'm a
provider. So, I've always provided for
the people around me, the people that I
care about. And I think that's what most
men feel that type of of of uh like they
have that urgency like they have to uh
provide for their family. They have that
>> deep down inside of them like they feel
like that's their obligation.
>> It feels like an obligation as a man to
to provide for my kids, my girlfriend,
my parents, my friends, my family. That
feels like our obligation. And that's
why
>> we work so hard, you know, to be able to
provide. But a lot of times what happens
to men, and I know it's happened to me,
and I'm sure it's happened to a lot of
other men, we work so hard that our
girlfriends or our wives don't like the
fact that they get neglected cuz we work
so hard.
>> But the problem is we work hard so that
we can provide for our family. But then
we work so hard that we provide for our
family that it becomes a problem and a
roadblock in our relationships. And this
has become something that I know I've
had issues with um in the past and even
currently in my relationship. And I'm
sure it's something that a lot of guys
complain about because women want a man
to pay, but they also don't want them to
work. They just want them to just hang
out and stare into their eyes all day
and chill on the beach and go shopping,
you know, and go for nice dinners. But
that's not how it works. Like the men
actually have to go work to be able to
provide to do those things. And I feel
like a lot of women don't appreciate
when a man goes to work. And that when
they do go to work, sometimes that gets
used against men. And then women use
that as a reason to cheat and do other
things because they think they've been
neglected while their man's working
providing for his family and for his
wife or his girlfriend and his kids and
his people around him. So I think that
that's a major problem and something
that needs to be discussed. What do you
think about that?
>> Part of the reason why I was laughing is
because you know I mean as we know I
don't date men anymore. And so when you
say, "Well, they just want us, our wives
just want us to come home, look into
their eyes, go shopping, go to the
beach, go to the I was like, yeah, and I
will be doing that with my wife as well
as make the money." You know what I
mean? Like that's what a woman's going
to do. Ladies, boys, take take uh notes.
But um on the other end, I get it. Um
just the working. So here, this is where
I would say financial planning, right?
So this is where communication, this is
where building with your significant
other comes in. When I look for a
spouse, I look for someone who has the
building mindset, the growth mindset
already. That person is going to
understand and know, okay, you know
what? We're sacrificing here so that I
we can have that luxurious life. Like
I'm not going to be buying like the
Birkin bags and the Louis Vuitton,
right? Because when I was having a lower
income, I was investing that money,
multiplying it, right? so that I can
have that luxurious life, you know,
later on, right? So, it's that growth
mindset. It all comes to mindset. So,
really, if you have a partner that's
nagging on you, I feel like maybe that
relationship's not going to last that
long anyway. Why? Because I want a
partner that understands, okay, we're
going to do this. Maybe we could build
together. You know, I ideally it'd be
really cool if you guys could support
each other in your business. That's what
I'm going to do. I'm going to pick
someone who can who understands that I
do the late night networking. I go to
networking events. I'm out with happy
hours. I'm doing this. I'm doing that.
I'm out. I'm socialable. So someone
who's nagging all the time that you're
so socializing and you're out and I'm
like, this is literally how I get my
back. Realtors will understand that,
right? And so like I think that's also
where choosing your partner, choosing
compatibility comes in. This is not a
money issue. This is a compatibility
issue.
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