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When it actually works out 😊

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The speaker takes viewers on an adventurous ride using a newly received Traxus e-bike, utilizing its pin-lock socket system which allows for easy removal and reattachment of the prosthetic leg without needing bulky separate sockets. This specific model features fat tires and a throttle assist that is particularly beneficial for the creator, who sometimes experiences pain or stiffness in their remaining leg. The throttle provides a safety net, allowing the rider to coast home effortlessly if conditions become too uncomfortable, ensuring they do not feel stranded on the road. A significant portion of the video focuses on the speaker's recent decision to move away from Colorado Springs after living there for most of their life and experiencing various traumatic events within that city. Despite initial fears and a tendency to suppress emotions, the creator made a conscious choice to leave in order to force themselves into a new environment where they could finally breathe again. This relocation has been described as one of the best decisions of their recent years, marking a turning point in their ability to stop fighting against their feelings and instead begin processing them openly. Throughout the journey, the speaker reflects deeply on their lifelong habit of suppressing emotions, viewing feelings as dangerous or something to be denied in order to appear better or move through difficult times faster. They explain that for thirty-two years, they judged themselves harshly for feeling sadness, anger, or confusion, often diving into despair rather than acknowledging these states. However, with the help of therapy and a new mindset, they have learned to embrace the bittersweet nature of grief and anger, realizing that allowing oneself to fully feel these emotions without judgment actually leads to peace rather than chaos. The video concludes with the speaker returning home safely, noting the physical effects of the cold wind on their phantom limb sensation while expressing gratitude for the support of their community and sponsors. They emphasize that giving oneself mental space to acknowledge, grieve, and process emotions—even in small increments—is a vital part of the human experience that many are not taught but desperately need. By practicing vulnerability and connecting with others when safe, the speaker has found a revolutionary sense of safety within themselves, proving that it is possible to feel okay while simultaneously navigating deep grief and anger.
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good morning my beautiful internet friends I just wanted to show you real quick what Peak athletic performance looks like this is what I look like the majority of the time let's go on adventure so I was recently sent the Traxus ebike and I want to take you guys on a little bike Adventure today and talk to you about something that's been on my mind I used to do videos like this all the time that were more like vloggy follow me around day in the life and they kind of went out of style on YouTube but I felt like doing one today step one you guessed it put on real clothes for public consumption also get my leg on [Music] she's so cute no one's going to be listening to a single word that I'm saying we're going to do a little something different for today's video I wanted to take you on a biking adventure and I was going to find some like picturesque place to sit down and talk about this thing that's been on my mind but I got to that beautiful place and there were other people around and the thought of like doing the influencer thing and setting up a camera and a mic it just it just felt like it would be ruining the experience for everybody else so what we're going to do instead is I'm I'm going to take you on the adventure as I am talking about this thing okay something kind of cool about my leg this is a pin lock socket meaning all I have to do push the button pop it off and previously I've made videos about having a separate biking leg I no longer need that because I have a pin lock for every day it's not as like bulky around my knee and so I am actually able to Pedal without having to bring an entirely separate socket which that is a relief fine Mom I'll bring my jacket do you hear my dogs very upset in the background that they aren't coming with me don't make fun of me for the way my helmet looks it's safe so a couple of months ago I made a very knee-jerk decision to move out of Colorado Springs where i' lived basically since I was 10 years old I was in a relationship for a decade married for seven the entire time we lived in the springs and there were additional traumatic things that happened in that City and I always took this perspective of I don't want to leave if I have a bad feeling towards a place but after one conversation with someone where I was like I really I just feel stuck here right like emotionally I feel stuck I'm just I'm going to do it and so very quickly I found a place I signed a lease so that I would like force myself to actually do it I was genuinely very scared to move for a lot of reasons I talked about that in my moving video but it was I think the best single decision I have ever made for myself in recent years because oh my God I have been able to start actually breathing for the first time I want to say in decades one of the many things I like about this Traxus ebike is that it has that throttle so that especially when I'm like getting started right I can just hit that throttle and then like find my balance get pedaling from there it makes a surprisingly large difference in the ease of getting started I like many of us have always had a very complicated relationship with my emotions I learned at a young age suppress those suckers right you don't want to feel things uh feelings are scary they're dangerous they're bad don't do it just say no which led to some very unhealthy and somewhat dangerous coping mechanisms throughout my life and in the past couple of months with the help of therapy for the actual first time in my life I started feeling emotions without judging them or always trying to intellectualize them and one of the most interesting things to me is that everything has been so deep deeply Bittersweet and I think that's something I used to fight like if I was in a good situation I'd be like I should be happy I'm judging myself for not being better if something felt a little sad I might completely dive into like the depths of Despair and in this process of making peace with what I feel Everything feels Bittersweet and I've begun to actually grieve so many things that I think I desperately needed but had no idea having to walk away from a relationship that I thought was forever I invested every bit of my being into I did everything that I could there is so much to mourn there is so much sadness there is so much anger there is so much confusion at times and moving away from all of those memories having some space even from people who I love very very dearly but we're so entwined with all of that I've begun to feel happiness that is just happy I've begun to actually process things so I just stopped to adjust my seat height cuz it felt a little low I was like on the side of the road I was pulled off plenty of room but two different bikers were like hey are you good hey are you good so lovely when people are nice and watch out for each other it is turning into quite the beautiful Colorado day all right so I made it about 15 miles so far we're in a pretty little dirt bike path and I no longer hate myself for having emotions I think this is so like this sounds so hypocritical for me to say out loud because I have always very much promoted feeling things publicly personally whatever I think the reason for that is because I struggle so deeply with that in myself so I preach it very loudly it's okay to feel things it's okay not to be okay it's okay to take a break from life for a while you know be angry that's important all of that but in reality the like 32 years of my life I've just hated myself for feeling things deeply and like denied that and it is absolutely lifechanging to be able to be really angry and feel that fully and be like I am freakin pissed and then it like actually moves through my body I don't have to do anything about it right I don't have to act out in anger but I can be mad and be lifting weights and be thinking all kinds of angry things and it doesn't make me a terrible person and then maybe 20 minutes later I am genuinely happy about something without it all feeling so diluted because I'm not denying myself feeling so I recently started weight training again which is something I very much enjoy however I do find it extraordinarily annoying that I'm now hungry 24/7 like I can't go 2 hours without eating something I feel like which is why I bring protein bars everywhere I wanted to talk about this it feels very self-indulgent right being a YouTuber is pretty self-indulgent sometimes but to encourage you if you are someone who resonates with any that I said but allowing yourself to feel things even if it's for 2 seconds at a time that might extend to 4 seconds next time right even if it's in little pieces I think is such a vital part of our human experience that not many of us are taught giving your self mental space feel that acknowledge it grieve it be mad about it cry about it I believe does allow us peace on the other side and I have begun to experience peace in my life since moving and since doing some of this work for the first time ever it's revolutionary for me to actually feel okay while also being deep in grief and deep in anger and hurting I feel safe with myself that's a new one one of the things that I find bizarre about being an is that if I'm cold right if I'm a little chilly it's like 40 out it's not bad at all I don't even need a winter coat but my legs are a little chilly when I'm biking and there's something about Phantom Sensation that gets wonky with temperature where if my meat leg is like a little cold right my non-existent Phantom foot will be ice freaking cold fully immersed in an ice bath just freezing so as I'm pedaling it feels like one of my feet is like getting frostbite thankfully it's not cuz it doesn't exist there's some quote from a movie that's just been ricocheting around my head that goes we cut off so much of ourselves to be rid of things faster the idea that we're hacking off emotions and hacking off pieces of ourselves because it's uncomfortable because it's difficult because we want to be through it we want to be done we want to be better we want to not feel this way and in doing so we disable ourselves we deny ourselves Humanity feel the things ask for help connect with people be vulnerable where it is safe for you to do so that's what I've been trying to practice it's been working very well and we are safely back home I did underestimate how cold like 38° feels when you're moving in the wind cuz by the time I got back I could like not feel my fingers lessen for next time also I just want to say a quick word about the ebike that I'm using thank you so much to trxus for sending that to me for sponsoring today's video if you have ever considered getting an ebike I would highly recommend you check them out Link in the description the model that I have is their fat tire it's the lyx one I'll put the link to the actual one that I'm using in the description as well but if an ebike is ever something you've thought about getting whether you are an Adaptive biker like me or not I think they are absolutely amazing I could not bike without them because as you guys know sometimes my leg gets a little finicky gets a little painful and I get really scared of being stuck places stranded on the road somewhere and using this ebike makes me feel safe because it is assist of pedaling so if I want to Pedal it's going to help me with that and if things go to hell and it's way too uncomfortable I can literally just throw throttle all the way home this bike in particular I believe it has at least 33 Mi of just pure Throttle No pedaling necessary as someone who really likes biking I think they are the bees needes now I know I know real bikers don't like them but I am a okay with that if it allows me to still go outside and do stuff thank you so much for going on a little adventure with me today I hope you're hanging in there I hope you're taking care of yourself I hope the new year brings beautiful things for you and I will see you there thank you so much to my patrons for supporting these videos thanks again to trox for sponsoring it and to you lovely viewer yes you watching this video right now thank you so much for spending a few minutes out of your day here with me today and Leo scratching his ear meaning that my camera is probably shaking you could be anywhere else in the world doing anything else what you chose to hang out with me here for a few minutes and I really appreciate it I love you guys I'm thinking about you and we will see you in the next video Mah bye guys [Music]