We Need To Improve Our Marriage...

What's going on guys? >> Welcome back to another video. >> So we haven't done one of these in a long time. The last time we did it you guys actually really really enjoyed it. So we are going to be doing I think this is a part three, right? We lost track but either way you guys love it so we're going to be doing it. We're going to be answering very very deep questions. You have what? Like 10 of them? >> Yeah, I don't even know what these questions are so >> This is going to be good. This is going to be good. I didn't read all of them. I'm not going to lie. I did read like the first like two to three but again chat GPT really be carrying because that's where I got these questions. >> [laughter] >> Chat GPT can do everything. >> So am I asking you these questions or are we going back and forth answering both? >> Yeah, just read them out loud and then we'll answer them and we'll just keep it moving. >> Okay, so the first question is what's something you've never told me because you were afraid of how I'd react? >> Something I never told you. I feel like you know everything about me. That's that's the crazy part. I'm dead serious. Like You're saying that like you know something. What do you know that I don't? >> I don't know but it says something you've never told me because you were afraid of how I act. >> I've told you everything. Like I'm not afraid for you to like judge me or anything cuz I know you won't. You know what I mean? Like I I I've told you everything. If something comes to mind, you know, later in this video then I'll I'll I'll tell you but I really don't have anything that I've been scared to tell you. >> So you haven't been using my shampoo? >> No. I used the Head and Shoulders one and you know that. And I thought that was for us. I thought that wasn't yours. >> The what? >> The Head and Shoulders shampoo. >> No, it I got that for you. >> All right, so then it's mine. You've been using mine and you never told me. >> What do you mean? You know I use it. >> Oh yeah. >> Question number two. >> didn't answer yours. >> I don't really have what's something you've never told me because you were afraid of how I'd act. I could tell you a time that I did tell you something. >> Let's hear it. >> When I told you that I used to uh >> Oh my no, we're not going to bring that brings it back to like literally high school. That brings it back to like 2016. We're not going to go down that road. >> just mad at me because I was sleeping. >> Well, because yo you lied to my face, yo. Like that was >> I never said I didn't. I just never said that the situation, like I went and did it. I didn't think you would have really cared that much, honestly. >> If I You know what? We're not going to go down that. The next next question. Next question. >> If our relationship could improve in just one area over the next year, what would you want that area to be and why? >> More More quality time. >> Really? >> More quality time. And that doesn't necessarily mean like more like going out or anything like that. Just more time just us like bonding, doing things like we both enjoy. >> Okay. >> Not that we don't already do that, but like I would like more of it. What about you? >> Honestly, I thought you were going to say something else about me. I thought you were going to say something about I thought you were going to say like you need to work on waking up earlier. >> Bro, I don't have to say that. Besides, I mean, I feel like you've been pretty good like getting up. You've been getting up at a decent time. >> Really? >> Yeah, before you used to get up at like 12:00, 1:00 and I used to be like, bro, like we have things to >> No, I feel like I would get up like at 11:00. >> Now Now you're getting up around like 10:30, 11:00. Which I'm cool with. I'm fine. >> Yeah. >> Cuz then you're you're ready downstairs by like 12:00 noon. I feel like that's >> to be like, girl, that's so late. But I go to sleep like at 3:00 a.m., okay? >> No, literally, she'll send me TikToks at like 2:00, 3:00, 4:00 in the morning. >> awake at 3:00 a.m. I can't help it. >> I'll literally check my phone in the morning and I'll be like, why did she text me at like 3:00 a.m.? >> I really think I have undiagnosed ADHD, for real. >> Bro, you got something cuz go to sleep. >> [laughter] >> What's wrong with you? >> Okay. Yeah, I will say that, too, like I want to I want to take more trips with you. Like I feel like we don't like go on dates like that. >> Okay. All right. >> Like like a like a staycation, like go for a weekend to like a resort in Florida or something, like >> Okay. So, I feel like that goes with like more quality time. >> Mhm. When do you feel the most loved by me and when do you feel the most disconnected? >> When you're probably being like super like clingy. And normally I would not like clingy cuz all my like exes would be clingy and I'll be like, "Yo, you're so freaking annoying. Get away from me." >> I remember that though. You told me that you hated clingy women. I was like, "Good thing I'm not. I like doing my own thing." >> The thing is there's like there's a good clingy and then there's a bad clingy. There's a clingy where it's like I need to know where you are 24/7, constantly hitting me up, like literally like up my like leave me alone. I need like time to breathe. I don't want you up my every single day, every hour, every second. >> When do you feel the most disconnected then? >> The most disconnected, I would say probably when you're like locked in on your phone for like whatever reason. It could be a good reason or a bad reason, whatever. It's just I don't know. Like I'm it's just a thing in general with people. Like if I'm talking to you and you're on your phone and you're not paying attention, like that irks me. But that goes with everyone. It's just not you. >> Yeah, but I feel like I rarely do that. >> No, you rarely. You rarely ever do it. But there's just a way I feel disconnected. >> yeah. >> Like I said, it's it's not it's rare, but >> I feel like when I feel most loved by you is when I'm stressed out and stuff and you be like helping me around the house or >> I knew you were going to say that. I was going to be like, "Bro, all I got to do is wash the dishes." Like >> I'll be like, "He really does love me." >> god, acts of service. >> Mhm. And then when I feel most disconnected is when the same thing when I'm struggling and like he doesn't help me and I'm like, "Oh, okay. So you hate me." >> But the thing is when you are struggling sometimes I'll ask you like is there anything I can do to help you? You'll be like, "No. No. No." >> Cuz if I say no then I'm not struggling unless I'm mad at you. >> Okay. >> Okay, what's a dream you've quietly given up on that you still think about sometimes? Oh, I know. >> Baseball player. Easy, simple. >> What about mine? You should guess mine. >> Yours is going to be singing. >> No, I haven't given up on that. >> Acting. >> I haven't given up on any of them. >> Then it's definitely going to be this one. Tattoo artist. It's the tat all right. That makes sense cuz that's the most recent one. >> Yeah. I just feel I never even gave myself a chance with that one. >> I still tell you you should. >> I don't know. It's like a lot of work and I just don't think I really got that in me. >> Guys, I even offered to buy her all the tattoo stuff at one point and she still just did not want to do it. >> Don't get me wrong. I could see myself doing tattoos and stuff, but I just feel like it's a lot of physical labor and I feel like my body these days gets really physically tired. Um >> Damn, grandma. >> You know that though. >> Damn, grandma, auntie. That's crazy. >> Shut up. Like I I my joints and everything hurt a lot, all the time. >> Yeah, you're making this grandma. I'm going to drag it now. >> Shut up. So yeah, that's why I feel like I don't know if I'd be able to do that. >> That's that grandma, auntie body. >> Shut up. If we could relive one day of our relationship exactly as it had been, which day would you choose and why? >> Oh my god, probably like the second or first day we got to Jamaica. >> I WAS GOING TO SAY THE SAME THING. >> [laughter] >> OH MY GOD, Jamaica was so Guys, we You know how many times we bring up Jamaica? That Jamaica trip was just so freaking fun. >> Ain't nothing compared to the first day we got to Jamaica. I will never forget it. That was the best feeling I've ever felt in my life, in my life. >> Yo, I'm not going to lie. We should have probably tried to get pregnant at that point. I feel like it would have happened cuz everything was just perfect. Everything was great. >> That would have been a time getting pregnant. And everybody was telling us to get pregnant too, remember? >> Life was great during that time. >> Oh yeah, it was. >> It was like peak, like prime. >> I never wanted that to go away. I never thought that it would, honestly, but man, we need to get back to that. >> That was good time. All right, Jamaica trip loading up. >> Right, we need that for our soul. >> For sure. >> What's something you think I misunderstand about you that you've always wanted me to understand? >> That whenever I'm like upset or just stressed out, I feel like you tend to think a lot of it falls on you and I always tell you it has nothing to do with you. Just like let me be in my feelings. I'm mad, I'm angry for, you know, whatever reason it is at that time. It just It has nothing to do with you. And I try to like always reassure you that it's it's nothing with you. Like if I'm stressed out just just let me be. >> Can I be honest though? >> What? >> I feel like a part of that is just childhood trauma. Just kind of like putting myself out there a little bit, but >> know why you do it. >> Yeah, I just feel like whenever anyone's upset around me, I absorb that energy and I just feel like I need to fix it. >> it has nothing to do with you. >> Yeah, I know. I think also for me, I sound angry and I'm not angry. I'm just hurt. And I feel like you always think, oh like I have an attitude. It's like I don't have an attitude. I'm just like sad. And I feel like you take that as like anger and like aggressiveness and it's not that. I'm just like sad. >> It's just like it's it's with everything in life. It's the way you say it. It's not what you say, it's the way you say it. So, it's like if you say it with kind of like a tone, it's like all right, like what's with that attitude for? You know what I mean? And that's just I've been I've always been told that since a little kid. It's not what you say, it's how you say it. >> that's something [music] I have to work on. >> [laughter] >> I could take accountability. I'm a grown woman. Okay. >> Grandma. >> Shut up. You start reading the rest. You read the rest cuz I don't want to read no more. >> If we met today for the first time, do you think we'd still fall in love? Why or why not? >> Yeah. >> Why? >> Cuz I just feel like our personalities are just so like we mesh together so well. >> You flirting with me? Trying to crack. >> [laughter] [gasps] >> No, I would say the same thing. Like yeah, like we just like that we just we vibe well. You know what I mean? Like even though like we're like complete opposites, like I'm a very like >> True. >> business serious type of person and she's more like on the other side of the spectrum like goofiness like so serious. >> For yeah, for some reason we just like we click really well. >> Opposites attract, I guess. >> No, literally. I feel like we're the definition of that's like proof. What's one fear you have about our future that you've never fully shared with me? >> I think that because I know your goals, I don't want you to go all Wolf of Wall Street on me. >> [snorts] >> Honestly, that's one of my fears. >> [laughter and gasps] >> Bro, I'm not That's It's not going to happen. I promise you. It's not That's not possible. >> Yeah, but I don't know if I don't know if they're going to understand that. >> Bro, I already walk around like I'm the Wolf of Wall Street. That's the thing. >> No. No. No, you don't because the way he acts like he just got money and then left his girl that like helped bring him up. >> You know my Leonardo DiCaprio? >> Mhm. >> Um I get That That's the thing though. Like I've been broke with you and I've had a crazy amount of money with you and I was the same person every single time. >> I get it, but that's still a fear. That's just sometimes what's scary. >> Don't fear it because it's not happening. I I can't find another grandma like you. You know what I mean? Like >> You're not funny calling me grandma. >> I don't know what to I don't know I would say that you get tired of my shenanigans and then you just end up leaving me. >> What shenanigans? >> I don't know. Like you just get tired of me in general. Just like overall. >> Nah, that's not going to happen. >> You say that, but how do you know? >> Cuz I know. Cuz I'm not the type of person to quit on someone. Unless you like do something I already told you unless you do something crazy. >> Like do crack? >> Yeah, I would. Yo, [laughter] I ain't going to be with no damn crackhead. Like no. I don't play like that. >> Doing crack is crazy. >> I will smack some sense into you. >> No, that's valid. That's valid. In what ways have I changed you for better or worse? >> You helped me see things for what it is instead of La La Land. I don't know how to explain it. Just like >> Just fantasy. Everything's like dream like dreamland. It's like No, this is real life. >> Yeah, and like >> Everything's Everything not sweet. >> You showed me what reality looks like. Even though I still, you know, believe that God can make things happen. >> Of course. >> I'm super I think more realistic now than I was before we met. >> The thing is you can always ask God for everything and you can beg and pray and whatever it is that you want to call it, but the thing is you have to do that and pray and you have to work at the same time. You got to work as you're you know, praying to God. You know what I mean? He's not just going to do everything for you like that. You got to you got to show him, too, you know? [music] I hope that makes sense. I don't want to go into a whole religion. >> Yeah, right. >> But, you know, you got to work towards it, too. Everything is not just like, "Oh God, do this for me." cuz you're just begging at that point. >> Mhm. >> Um I would say for me, you definitely changed my life in way too many ways that I can count on. >> I don't know if that's good or bad. >> [laughter] >> No, no, no, they're good. Like, I'm not going to lie, you helped me with like finances because you know, I used to I used to spend so much money. It's It was ridiculous. Um you helped me with that. I've been a lot more patient ever since I met you. Um more so patient [music] with you than anybody else because I don't have patience for stupid people. I'm not going to lie. Like, I really don't. They But whatever. With her, like, I have the most patience in the world now. Um and honestly, I feel like you've changed me in a better way for like enjoying like the little things in life. You know what I mean? Like >> struggle with that a little? >> I It's a work in progress, okay? Because again, there's like there's goals I want to work towards and stuff like that and I'm not going to stop until I reach those goals. And once I reach those goals, then I'll be like, "Okay, I can chill a little bit." But in the moment, I'm trying to teach myself like slow down and enjoy like the little things. So, yeah, you definitely helped me with that because um before I was like >> I thought you were going to mention your diet, not going to lie. >> Oh, not the diet? I That might be number one. >> [laughter] >> I drink sugar-free stuff and diet sodas now, bro. Like, this is actually crazy. >> When I met Isaiah, I used to be like, "How are you so skinny? Like, what the heck?" >> I used to Well, it was because when we first met, I was in high school, so But you know, I did get bigger and now I'm getting smaller again. >> Mhm. >> But yeah, you definitely helped me with my diet. I can't even lie. Uh this is the last question. Imagine we're celebrating our 50th wedding anniversary. Damn, granny. Uh what do you hope we'll be able to say we accomplished together as a couple? I'm going to answer this one first. A healthy marriage. >> Okay. >> I'm going to leave it short and simple like that. If we were together for 50 years, married, I'm most proud to say that we were a healthy marriage, a good marriage. Cuz people stay together just to stay together, and I feel like that ain't good. You didn't really accomplish anything, really, did you? >> Mhm. Yeah, I I would say as a couple, also, to not steal your answer, I guess, I would say also generational wealth. >> That was my second thing. That's what I was also going to say. >> Yeah. >> Like setting up our kids, kids, kids, you know, for life and stuff like that. Which that's the goals that I'm talking about that I like I'm not stopping until I get there. And then she tells me like, "Yo, slow down." So. >> Yeah. What was that What's that saying? "Rome wasn't built in a day" or something? >> wasn't built in a day." That's empire. But yeah, that's uh Those were deep. >> Yeah, that was good, huh? >> Those were really deep. Let us know what you guys think about those questions. Drop them down below your opinions and all that stuff. Uh if you guys enjoyed the video, make sure you guys smash that thumbs up button. Anything else you want to say? All right, so now we're going to go book a trip to Jamaica, and I'm >> Don't play with me, cuz >> to get her pregnant, and then you know, we're going to live happily ever after. >> [laughter] >> Me and grandma, we going to be living good. See you guys in the next one.