Tyler Perry Says He’s Afraid To Get Married - Love Lessons

Hey, Tony Gos here popping in. Only have 45 minutes till my next call, but wanted to hop on here. First and foremost, if you're not in the Purpose Pushers community, make sure you click the link in the description and join us. Got a powerful group of leaders. We got challenges every month. So, hop on in there. got people birthing their book. We're going to be birthing companies, nonprofits, everything. And just holding each other accountable. So, if you out here solo and need some group coaching, some accountability, some networking, join the Purpose Pushers community. The link is in the description. Try it out for a month. You cancel it anytime you want to. You know, if it ain't for you, it ain't for you. God bless you. says, "Exit on out quietly. You ain't even got to explain nothing to me. I ain't even going to be mad at you." But yeah, so Tyler Perry went on a show and he said that he is not going to get married because he saw all of his friends, wealthy friends who lost their money, it happened from a divorce. And to me, you know, me being a a marriage advocate, it really and then maybe that's why he made why did I get married and why did I get married too? I think that's what they was titled. But me being a marriage advocate, it really hurts me that he took that approach that he said that that he jumped on that bandwagon because it's so many lame men that's saying the same thing by I can't get married. That's how you lose all your money. Marriage ain't a good deal for men. And it's like, man, hush. Like shut up. Like marriage ain't doing nothing to you. And see the thing about it is okay Tyler Perry said they say he worth a billion dollars or more. This what people got to understand. He don't have a billion dollars. He probably not even really worth a billion dollars. It just that's what they say cuz you could do your own valuation. Same thing like the lady from Uncle Nerish did a valuation said it was valued at the whiskey company in Tennessee said it was valued at a billion dollars and now she bankrupt. The company is tow up from the flow up being trying to sell it off. So how you was worth a billion dollars and then a year later ain't got a dime to your name losing everything. It just be numbers. Like I could go get a valuation and I went online to Upwork and got a valuation and they valued Tony Gaston's Academy at $1.5 million. I think it was probably, you know, five, six years ago. I did that. And he was like, it's hard to value it because it's in your name. He's like, it's not a company outside of you. That's you. So, if you not promoting it, then what is it worth? And same thing, it's like somebody may come and buy Tyler Perry rights to all his movies one day, like his portion of if he got, you know, back in points or something or if he own any of it. They may buy it, buy the catalog, but it ain't going to be for a billion dollars. And so it's like you really you can't really lose nothing because your money is not in stocks like and and the money you already made. You already made that money. That money that money gone like built that studio and all of that. It's like you really ain't got nothing to lose. But the sad and unfortunate part about it is broke men is repeating and playing this same saxophone. Broke men talking about marriage is not a fair deal to the man. And it's like, bro, you need marriage in this economy. You need one of these working women to help your butt out. Like you talking like imagine living on just your one income and you not no millionaire. It's like boy you need to be married. Boy don't make no sense. You might need two three wives. You might need to get in one of them other kind of religions and get you multiple wives. You need so much help out here in this economy. It's like my wife don't work. It's like right now I'm kind of wishing she did like like do you want to go back to school? Do you want to finish school? Is there anything you want to do? You want to be a RN? Like what is it that you want to do? Cuz this economy hard. So it's like men are saying they don't want to get married. What you got to realize marriage is about love. And if you marry somebody that you love and you marry somebody that you have spent time with, you done talked to, you done built with, you done did all that right there with, like you really get to know this person, and you marry her, you not going you not going to fall out. that marriage not going to end because you married her and you married her for the right reasons. And that what a lot of people don't understand like you got to make marriage about love and not about business. And so basically when when y'all men say that marriage ain't a good deal for you, what you really is saying is that you're not man enough for marriage. You're saying that you don't have the strength to be faithful. You're saying you don't have what it takes to love a woman, to cherish a woman, to wash her with love, to get her in a place and in a mind state that she wants to be with you and she wants to stay with you because of how much she loves you. That's what you saying. You saying that you can't do that. And that's what I want y'all to realize and understand, man. Like, it come down to where you have got to get to a place where you stronger, where you know, you realize, you understand that marriage is about advancement. Like this what this what Tyler Perry and Shannon Sharp and Stephen A. Smith all these millionaires I don't know if Shannon is a millionaire. He could be working for nothing right now because of that lawsuit. But this what these guys not understanding is like y'all could change the world with that generational wealth. like having a wife, having kids, and they got kids now. All of them got kids, but you teaching your kids not to marry. You teaching your kid that marriage ain't safe. Marriage ain't secure. Marriage ain't wise. Marriage ain't something you should do. That's what you teaching your kids. So, you sending the wrong message to your kids. Man, this lady out here airing up her tire in that old vehicle and got a baby in the front seat in this heat. It's 91° and I know she ain't got that car crunk up and turned on. I can tell how that car look. Man, I feel bad for her. My goodness. And so this what you got to realize and understand that it's not going to be easy. It ain't meant to be easy. But if you can take and give what it takes to get married, to stay married, man, listen to me. You going to be able to figure something out out here. Now, yes, it's hard being married cuz you got to take care so much. Like, I got to take care of my wife, take care of my kids, take care of my mom, take care of my mother-in-law. You know, a lot come with being married. I ain't going to cap with you. A lot come with it. But, and it's hard. Like, yeah, I ain't got the money I want. I ain't got Tyler Perry money. And and ironically, a lot of single men, they do get to the money because they could tend to themselves. They could just focus on themselves. Whereas, as married men, we got to tend to to our wife. We got to tend to other things. And that's a real thing. And so, that's what you got to realize. You know, I have to tend to the world. So, I got a lot going on. I got to think about my wife and all of that there. And that's not easy. It's not the easiest thing in the world when you have to account for somebody else heart, somebody else feelings, you know, their emotions, and you depending on them for certain things. And it's hard in those times, you know, and You got to go through that. That's part of it. That's part of being a man. That's why God put us in that place. And as a man, it's like when you married, you learn really how to lead. You learn how to have tough conversations. You learn how to relate because you now learning how to relate to somebody 24 hours a day. like you learning what it takes to really be a man. And it's going to make you better in your business because when you got to learn how to keep things copatic, keep things together with somebody that you got to be around 24 hours a day. It's going to be a lot easier trying to figure out, how to be around somebody and work with somebody for 8 hours a day, 4 hours a day, 10 hours a day. because you done learn how to deal with somebody for 24 hours a day. And so that's what you got to realize and understand. It teaches you things that you can't really get nowhere else. You can't get that nowhere else. You ain't going to be able to. So you got to realize that it's things that God put in place in marriage for us to grow us, to teach us, to help us. And you got to help me. You got to help me. What time is it? 11. Okay, let me let me get going cuz I'm supposed to have more of this water drunk. Let me drink some of this here water. Y'all give me a second. trying to drink the whole water. My wife got me this whole bottle off Amazon. Got 74 oz glass, too. And then the bike got the times on it. So, right there where I'm at I'm at about 2:00 p.m. and it's about to be 2:00 p.m. in uh about 30 minutes. So yeah, about 30 minutes. So about right on time. Drink them a little water. That water help, you know. I'm trying to drink a gallon a day. I don't know if I get through a gallon. This ain't a gallon. This This 74 oz. gallon 128 ounces. So I'm going to need to go home to fill this up, keep on drinking. But this a good start, though. So that's what I want y'all to realize. And it's unfortunate that Tyler jumped on that bandwagon and he probably going to be making movies about me now trying to talk bad about me trying to write what he assume is exposing us married men and how he think we live. But it's like listen rather be married than to be single because marriage is hard. Marriage hard, man. It give you a challenge in your life. It's like, man, it'll be so easy to live by myself and to just go out here and sleep with random people, sleep with who I want to sleep with, deal with this person, court that person a little bit, sleep with them, find an excuse to break up with them, go to the next person, and you just rinse it and repeating. That's going to get old. It's going to get old. taking somebody who done been out there been out there heavy. It's going to get old. You need to find you somebody. Find you your person and make it happen. Make it work. Get with your person and lock in and make it work because that's what it's going to take. That's what it's going to take. So, I want you to realize and understand, get to that place. Know where you at. Know what you going through. Like, understand what it's going to take. Understand that you have to be a man. And it's unfortunate that we have men taking this stance. And I'm going to tell y'all boys like, you have to stop being scary and you have to stop being a punk and you have to stop being a victim because look how you talking. Oh, marriage ain't no good deal for me. I don't really understand that because when you married, and this just me talking to the men, ladies, y'all forgive me for this, but when you married, you got a chef, you got a maid, and I ain't saying like no real maid, but you got a maid, you got a assistant, you got a a sex partner, whatever you want to call sex play. Like you got a best friend. Like you got everything in one person. Like unhel me. Drinking my second smoothie of the day made by my wife. Bottle of water made by my wife. Had breakfast this morning. I made my breakfast just two boiled eggs. Lunch I already ate. Wife made it. dinner. Wife going to make it then get to get him a little bit of Nookie cookie for dessert coming from a wife and it's like listen that's somebody you get to explore with thing you trying to do in there. You get to have it all and you get to have it safe. When you are out here sleeping with different women, you don't know what spiritual diseases she has, what physical diseases she has. And yes, you could live with herpes and it's manageable and all of that. And everybody they say got herpes, 85% of people. So yeah, you can live with it and all of that, but don't you at least want the choice to know if that's what you f to sign up for? Do you love her enough? Do you like her enough to contract that from her? Like, yeah, you can live with it and have a seemingly normal life, but do you want it? Do you want to contract it from her? Do you care enough about her to do that? That's the risk you taking is you can contract something from a woman that you barely know, that you don't care for, that you don't love. And so you got to ask yourself, is it really worth that? Is it worth that to contract a disease, a spiritually transmitted disease or a sexually transmitted disease from this woman? And then if you say, "Well, I'mma lock in. We going to be together. We just we ain't doing no paperwork." It's like, then you must not believe in God. Because if you're going to be with her and be fornicating, then why not do the paperwork? And people say, "Oh, well marriage is between that just between you and God." The Bible say obey the laws of the land. So if the laws of the land says that you're not married if you don't have paperwork with the government, then you're not married. That mean you disobeying the laws of the land and you're not technically married. So therefore, you're in fornication. And in fornication, you are outside of the will of God. So you're saying you want to go at this life alone. You want to do it your way, how you want to do it. That's what you saying when you say that. So, you got to realize and understand that. You got to realize that y'all forgive me. Making me a little coffee. So once you realize and understand that and you get that through your mind and y'all forgive them old junky right there. That's the boy summer program. All they uniforms and all their uniforms and duffel bags and all of that. I'm get online sell that stuff. So hey, you know what? I might get with Manny Packy y'all. Send them uniforms to Philippines. have me a team in the Philippines called TGE. Yes, sir. So, the boy summer program, I'm planning to switch that to learning centers. So, essentially, it'll be like a place like this, but just a square, not all these rooms, and it'll have computers down the down the runway, down the side of the wall on both sides. And I'm going to put them in walking distance of middle schools and high schools so that the kids who don't want to get out there in the streets, they really don't want to be in the streets. They get to be able to say, "Hey, I'm in Tony Gaskin's mentorship program. So, I'm going to the center." So, that's what we setting up. So, when the Lord bless you, if you ain't got nowhere else you giving to, click the link in the description. We love to have your support the boy summer program. You going to get to see what what your donations go to. It's not going to be a Dr. Umar situation where I'm raise it all up, buddy. Then you don't get to see nothing for decades. No, you going to get to see it. I'mma show it to you. We just still looking for the thing. So, I got to hire a realtor, find me the right place, but I also got to have the money in place so that we could go ahead get the computer, take care of the rent. I may just take care of the rent the whole year up front. So, um, think about us now. Y'all forgive. I'm making me a little little coffee. Making a little coffee. Yes, sir. It's telling me to add water, but I got water in Got. Add a little bit of my water out of here. So yeah, so this the thing and it's sad that we got a Christian man that's going to take and say what he's saying because I thought Tyler Perry was a Christian. But you can't call yourself no Christian if you gonna sign up to live in fornication. You just can't. You can't do that. Now, if you going to be abstinate, okay, cool. All right. Now, that's different. And I'm going tell you like this right here, and I don't mean no offense. I don't mean no offense by this, but for me as a man, I feel like a lot of, not all, it's never all, but I feel like a lot of the men who are very very against marriage are sexually confused. I feel like a lot of them may be bisexual or a lot of them may be actually more so into men and they afraid to get married to a woman because that's going to become like a prison to them. And I think that's the case with a lot of them. And it it breaks my heart that they are going through that that they feeling like that. And I'm going to tell you like if you a single man, a man, a single man, and you wondering like, "Hey, is marriage for us? Is marriage the thing to do?" Like, go to my mentor. Book a session with me. Tyler Perry, book you a session with me and sponsor about a hundred men who feel like you since you don't want to get married. and sponsored about a hundred men to do a session with me so I could talk to them about the benefits of marriage. Marriage the greatest thing you ever going to do in your life. It's the hardest thing you going to do in your life if you're going to do it right and be faithful and you going to love that woman and treat her right. It's the hardest thing you going to do in your life. But it's also the greatest thing you going to do in your life. And I want you to realize and understand that point blank period odd ain't no if hands and buts about it cuz it's going to do more for your life than anything else in your life. It's going to bless you like none other. And that's one thing you got to realize and you got to act and you got to remember like okay I'm married. My wife don't watch these videos. So if marriage aren't the best thing for you I could tell you she wouldn't know. She don't watch my videos. She don't eat my videos. But I'm telling you, as a married man, man, it's a sweet life. If you going to lock in, it's a sweet life. And I hate to say that to women cuz a lot of time women feel like they got a short end of the stick. And maybe women do got the short end of the stick. But think about it. They say only they say 70 80% of women can't have a release during intercourse. That's not the case for a man. We having a release every time you intercourse. And we having that thing in 30 seconds to a minute. We feeling good. You hear me? And then you get to get that thing when you want to. And now Yeah. Okay. Yeah. You all right? You go around two, you go five minute, 10 minutes, long as you want to go. But it's like we blessed. Like you got cooking, cleaning, conversation, confidant, just booty walk around. See boot in the thong anytime you want to touch on it. You got somebody you could just game plan. You could pillar talk. You lay there. You talking about all that woo woo woo everything you want to do. And it's in house. It's secretive. Got somebody that's going to protect your name. That's going to prepare for you. Somebody that's that that hold it together when you falling apart. Like I got to get on the road for two whole days. I'mma be gone. The whole work and waking day of Thursday, the whole day of Friday and half of Saturday. And my wife, she going to be happy. She going to move around. She going to do everything and she ain't going to have no issue. She going to do everything she got to do and live life and just do what she got to do. And she ain't going to miss a beat. Ain't going to miss a beat. And that's what a lot of people don't realize and understand. It's like, come on now. Like really think about this thing. You feel me? Think about this thing. like that what she f to be doing and just holding it together. My son is secure. He he got what he need. His mama there. And anytime I want to do something, I want to launch something. Purpose pushers community link in the description. Make sure you join us. So, I want to launch that right there. Boom. Guess what? Got my wife that I could sit and talk to about it. Hey baby, what you think about this right here? The wood. And think about that. Got that right there. I'm on here on the purpose push community right now hitting the thumbs up on all the quote of the day and all that right there. Questions of the day, but I'm able to talk to her about it. My book, Single is Not a Curse, that's inspired by my wife. She gave me that idea. She said, "Listen, you know, it's a lot of single people that follow you. They going through. they want to be in a relationship, like write a book for them. Help them understand what they could do in this season of their life while they waiting on love. And so that book wouldn't have came to life without my wife. And anything I need to do, anything I'm thinking about, anything I'm going through, any of that, she there for me. You just cannot beat marriage. and text my wife right now. She at the nail salon just let her know send her some more money to her card and use my other card to pay for her nails. So it's like, hey, that come with it. But guess what? Nails ain't free now. Nail a free come tonight. Yo. Hey. What going on with you? How you doing? Pier still on. What going on with you? You know what I'm saying? Like that's marriage. Like you not married. You got to go find you some random boot out here. Got to go pluck you some off the street home. You got to get that woman who was out there pumping her airing her tire up behind me when I pulled in. You got to go get you something like that. You diving in there, you're dirty, stank all you don't know how many men have been in there in the last week and here you go diving in there just just maggot diving. You diving into the the the bottom of the trash dumpster with the maggots. cuz you sleeping with this random woman you met at the club, this woman you met at the gas station. And then if you not planning on getting married and you got a steady woman, you ruining your name because you're lying to her, you're leading her on. She is ignorant. So she thinks that if she keep doing all the right things that you're going to give in one day and you're going to marry her. That's what she telling herself. That one day you're going to give in. You're going to fall in love. She going to suck the meat off the bone and you just gonna fall for her and marry her. And every holiday, every time she with her friends and family, every time something come up, she anticipating you proposing. And she got so much cortisol in her blood stream cuz she waiting on you to propose and every holiday come and go and she get her heart broke. And that's what you got to realize and understand. So now her heart broke. She sit there, she like, "Man, I thought he was going to propose and he ain't proposed. What am I going to do?" And that's the thing that you got to realize and understand. It could mess you up. It really could mess you up. And you out there living that life. And then the thing about living that life is one day you could take and here you is boom. She put that thing to your head. She put that fire on you cuz she sick and tired of waiting. Or she catch you cheating. She catch you cheating and next thing you know, boom, you wake her dead cuz you want to lead on. You want to play with them. And so here's the thing. There's something to say about a man signing up for the challenge of faithfulness. You challenging yourself, you pushing yourself, you testing yourself. Just the the mental fortitude, the fortress that you build around your heart and your mind, the vulnerability that you experience with one person to let your guard down and to let her in wholly and fully loving, caring, trusting, cherishing. I got a colleague who says victory goes to the vulnerable. And man, that's powerful. That's powerful. And that's what you got to realize. That what you got to realize, man. So, I want you to think about that. Want you to think about that. And Get that through your spirit, you know, get that in your spirit and get to the place to where you understand that. So get that in your spirit and once you start to realize and understand and you get to see just the benefits of marriage and it's going to be pros and cons to everything. It's always going to be pros and cons. You know that's that's a part of it and you got to realize that. you know it it's that's that's going to happen. That's going to happen and that that comes with it. So once you realize that and you see like oh you know what yeah stuff go with it but at the same time you still can make the most of it. you still can make the marriage work. Because I'll tell you like the hardest thing about marriage is you. That's the hardest thing about marriage is you. You curving your appetite for lust. That's it. Like you developing the mental, the emotional intelligence. So like as men, especially if you got a past, you got a background, we don't trust. So I got my wife location on my phone. She got mine, we got the boys. So if I'm seeing her riding around and she ain't told me where she going, then my mind could easily go to, man, I wonder if she going to meet up with her ex-boyfriend or I wonder if she going to meet up with her male friend from high school or from college. Like I wonder what she doing, you know? I wonder if somebody if a dude shot his shot at her, if she gave her number, you know, I wonder what she got going on. And you being able to have the mental fortitude, the emotional intelligence to say, "Hey, I'mma just trust. I'mma trust. Come hell or high water, I'mma trust. No matter what, I'm going to trust. And I'mma give her the the room to show me who she is. I'mma give her enough rope to help herself or to hang herself. It's up to her. I'mma let her show me who she is. I'mma trust her to no end. And I'm gonna trust that if she doing something, it'll get messy and it'll come out. And if that's the case and it comes out, I could walk away knowing that I did everything I could to love her, to trust her, to honor her, that I did nothing to deserve her cheating on me or lying to me. and I'm going to move forward with my life without stressing about that. And you get the opportunity to do that. You get to do that. And that's what I want you to realize and understand. So it comes down to it to where you have to be man enough. Well, I got to go got to coach in two minutes. You got to be man enough to get to that place and to realize and understand that this is going to grow you. This going to strengthen you. This going to make you better. This how you going to build. And you got to understand that. You got to realize that it's not going to be easy. It is not going to be easy, but once you get that through your your skull and you start to realize and understand that right there, that's going to change everything for you. It's going to change everything for you. 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