Toni G 520 Psychic Medium

[music] Welcome to Psychic Medium Tony Green. I'm Tony Green, psychic medium, channel, hypnotist, healer, and I do many, many healing works. So I'm just going to quickly go over some of them with you so that you're a little familiar with them in case one of them is for you in case you want to say I think that'll help me. So first um is clearing work and then I also um do reconnective healing and the reconnection. I also do um angel healing where angels come in and start healing whatever is going on with you. As soon as I say it, my hand just starts going. [laughter] Um I help facilitate um meditations for healing, manifestations, all sorts of different things. Okay, that's quite an intro right there. [clears throat] This show does air live on WSCS and Rude Rangers TV for both of them on all of their affiliate channels, podcast stations, streaming channels, radio stations. I feel like I'm missing something. I should I feel like I should probably write down everything. Um, just all of every place they put it, it's there. Um, let's see what else. I'm the author of now eight books. I was I was out this weekend and someone said, [laughter] and I'm not I'm not bragging, believe me. Someone said, "So, what how's everything going?" I'm like, "Oh, so good." you know, the the show is now on being picked up by two different um things and I just finished my eighth book. And he he looked at me and he's like, "You just finished your eighth book?" I'm like, "Yeah." He [snorts] goes, "You say nothing." I'm like, "Oh, well, you know." And [laughter] he he looks at me, "Your eighth book." [laughter] He's like, I don't He told me later he was talking to somebody. He goes, "She, you see that girl over there? She just she just finished her eighth book." He goes, "I don't think I've I've read eight books, but I think what they they you know, my books are chneled and like this one, my one this one that I love so much. Um, they're they're not big books. They're they're channelneled little messages. Um, so I it's really different than like writing a novel or creating characters. And [snorts] um I just opened to a page for a message out of this book, When Denial Ends, the healing journey begins, which is actually one of the passages, one of the statements in the book. Um, uh, okay. So I just opened to a page to give you like one of the channeled channeled messages. It says a relationship is either healthy or it is not. Just like you are healthy or you are not [snorts] [sighs and gasps] here's another one. If someone is treating you worse than you treat them, they do not deserve you in their life. I love these. I am reading and rereading this on a regular just as a little reminder also for myself because it is um it's something that we forget sometimes. This book, it's not only about partners, family, friends, co-workers, um, partners, bosses. It's it's about all of it. Any statement in here, just about any chneled message in here can be applied to any of that and help you get perspective for it. Because the most important thing in this world is for us to maintain our health, our well-being mentally, emotionally, psychologically, uh to just be in that space where we are healthy. We're not left wondering. We're not confused. We're not in a state of delusion about a relationship or a friendship or a work situation. And hopefully this book, if you have had in the past or currently or you want to avoid it in the future, hopefully this book would be a very helpful resource for that. I am putting a program together um relationship [sighs] re recovery that uses um a little bit of hypnosis, a little bit of um hypnosis and such to recover from any toxic unhealthy relationship situation. It's actually together, but you know, anyway, that's that's this next. Every Tuesday at noon, I go live with this book, um, what if, a transformational guide. I'm trying to tilt it while I'm moving things over here. What if a transformational guide which is filled with what if questions to help you open [sighs and gasps] your perspective understanding maybe belief systems about the your existence. So this week's question tomorrow at noon central. What if you have angels that have been with you since you incarnated that help you, guide you, and heal you? So the the thing with this with every question in here is if this is true, what does that change in my life? How does it change it? And how do I how do I who do I become or how do I become knowing this? Or if I just believe it, if I just believe like if I believed, well, I know, but if I didn't know, if I believed there were angels that were helping me, guiding me, healing me, where would that put me? And how would that be? And tomorrow we're going to discuss this. Everybody's comments are welcome. And you you you are so free to join every Tuesday at noon right here where we are YouTube. and and then maybe even talk a little bit about what I know and what I've seen with angels because there's there's one particular angel that if I just close my eyes is there and then other angels that come in and the other day you guys the other day I did something I make it sound so naughty And all of a sudden these three beings showed up like and there was like so much going on that I I wanted to ask them like who are you? What are your names? But there was so much going on that I couldn't I mean there's a lot of things that when I do them in meditation or healing or whatever it is that I don't share. People think I'm crazy as it is. [laughter] All I can say is you ain't seem crazy yet. [laughter] If I told you my my things, you would be like, "She needs to be locked up." Okay, there's that. There's that. Okay, we're going to start. Wait, I don't think I'm done. Okay, I have Oh, for these books. Um, you can go to my author page and they are available if you want the download for, um, when denial ends, the healing journey begins. that is on Gum Road. I believe all of that is on my website, I think. But also, if you I have some hypnosis CDs that are on my website that will take you to Gumroad and then you can find the book if it's not. Okay. Next, if you'd like to skip the line, you can skip right ahead of everybody else to ensure that your question gets answered. All you have to do is go to buy me a coffee. Van and Rebecca, thank you so very, very very, very much, are in the chat as moderators and they can help you with those links. Any links. And also, if you do go to buy me a coffee, please put bought you a coffee and then your question right with it. They're going to reach out to me and let me know right away that you did that so I can help you skip the line. It's like going to, if you like roller coasters, it's like going to Great America and having a pass to be at the front of the line. When I took my brother, we did that. It was not enjoyable for me. He loves roller coasters. I do not. I just get flopped around like a rag doll. Seriously. Okay. I get I do um corporate events and galleries, retreats, uh groups, theater events, charity events. Yes, I do travel for them. Um, so if you have anything like that coming up, reach out and we can chat. Um, don't get scammed. I will never ever ever reach out to you. I barely remember to get back to people that reach out to me. It's just a thing. It's not intentional. I'm going to start with songs from heaven. [snorts] These are songs that come through me through to me. I write them down. Um, and they're songs that typic they're from a loved one. It's either a song you know they they know you loved they loved you listen to together. It as soon as you hear the song, it makes you think of them. It could be the answer to a question or or just maybe the next time you hear it, you think of them. Um, [clears throat] that song, Blurred Lines, you know you want it. That song, which not one of my favorites, but whatever. Whatever. Um, the song that goes um up all night, sleep all day. It doesn't go all They don't They don't do that little thing in there. It's just all because it's a rock song. It has a little bit more masculinity to it. [laughter] Uh, love Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday. That song, uh, rock me like a hurricane. [laughter] When this [clears throat] song came through, I was doing something and I was like, am I doing it wrong? What are you trying to tell me here? But it's a song that ain't working. That's the way you do it. Get your guitar on the MTV. That ain't working. I said that song. Then I realized it was just for the list. Um the next song is uh the heat is on. You know, some songs if you say it, if you sing it, you're you just start doing the the heat is on. Like you just start moving with the s. That's one of them for me. Uh oh. Here she comes. Watch out, man. She'll chew you up. Oh, here she comes. She's a maneater. That song, it has a whole new meaning in 2026, doesn't it? Like when somebody says that we literally have to wonder is that literal the world we live in little upside down little crazy. Okay. [clears throat] Okay. Take me down to Paradise City where the grass is green and the girls are pretty. Won't you take I'm so sorry for that. >> [laughter] >> I did that intentionally because I know I can't do the other side of it. Is that funny? Somebody probably just went, "What in the world was that?" Okay, I'm going to just ask quickly if there are any other songs. [snorts] [sighs] I don't know if this is a song, but they just keep saying that's no joke. That's no joke. Okay. And normally I would do names, but they're asking me to channel a bit with a few predictions. So, we're going to go straight into that. So, these predictions, um, if you know anything about my predictions, some of them happen a little bit further down the line. And I always get terrified to say them. And the reason the prediction comes in so early is so that people have time to prepare and to do what they need to do. And it's up to them. You cannot change people's minds. As we have said in the past, there will be many, many things going on with the water. As you move forward, you will see more tsunamis. You will see more water spouting up in the middle just in the middle of oceans and lakes where water comes up. [clears throat] We are going to see tsunamis on the west coast. Tsunamis on the west coast. We will also see many many volcanic type of actions whether it be in the water or with actual volcanoes. We are going to see earth opening. The earth opening you're going to see the upheaval of people who are iconic. It will be irrefutable. Those who have been considered iconic, that have been praised, that have been looked at with the eyes of admiration are now going to take their leave due to their own inappropriateness. You may or may not know this is happening to some of them. Behind the scenes there are many things that are happening in the form of tribunals that the common people are very unaware of. [sighs] As you move forward, some may become aware of these [clears throat] tribunals going on. Others may never want to admit it. Wherever you stand in this, it is okay. But please do not deny what is right in front of your face. Allow yourself to accept and move on. You will see. [gasps] You will see. [sighs and gasps] You will see there are a number of tricksters out there. meaning they're trying to make it seem as though it's this when it's really that. It's this person when it's really not. It's this situation when it is really not. Do not be fooled again. Do [snorts] not allow yourself to believe what you know in your heart is not true. In 2027, you will see revelations come in that are very, very powerful. They will not be mass revelations in the sky. They will be individual revelations brought down to individuals on this plane. There are revelations that will come while you're sitting, while you're thinking, while you're meditating, perhaps even while you're sleeping. The knowing will be intense. In 2027 and throughout 2027, you will see the mass of individuals on this plane start to shift into their higher being elves into the being that they are meant to be as if they came to this plane and nothing bad had ever happened to them. In 2027, you will see a number of beings and you may be one of the beings that has a shift. If you do not have the shift by 2028 or into 2028, you will start to shift into that higher being individual. This comes with letting go of some controls and some histories that you have carried as your story. The sooner you can let go of what you think your story is because of what was, the sooner you will shift. We want for all to shift. That is your divinity. That is your birthright. That is your purpose. Okay. And there we have it. [sighs and gasps] Okay. We're going to move forward. Now, if we were in another setting and not on a social, I would ask you guys if you had questions regarding that um channeling. And if you do have questions, please Oh, Rebecca says, "Chills, goosebumps." I love it. I love it. Rebecca, did anybody else feel anything as that information was coming through? I was kind of fighting one or two of the things out of, you know, you know, if you know, you know. Um, [clears throat] but if you do have questions about anything that they've put in, you can ask the question. The channeling will come back to answer it. Okay. You're welcome, Heather. I'm going to go to the uh Did anybody weird but so truthful? Uh Heather says, "Thank you." Heather says, "That was so amazing. If anybody has donated to buy me a coffee, please put it in now along with your uh with your question. It's so funny. As soon as I get done channeling that, I get like this thing across the bottom of my YouTube thing. And we know, we know. But it's okay. It's okay. [snorts] Okay. If you've donated, please let me know on the bottom. Let uh Heather or Fawn knows. they're going to text me and let me know just in case I personally miss it because I don't ever want to miss somebody who has donated. Um, and thank you so much Everett and and Katherine for your donations last week. Completely uh grateful for that. So so grateful for that. And if there is no buy me a coffee right now, um I'm going to go to the first question from Eliza. Hey Tony, hope you had a nice fourth. I did. It was so nice. Do you see me and my boyfriend going on vacation soon? You know, Ali Eliza, the first thing I get is that's up to you. you're going to have to do a lot of the the like prep for it or deciding or um like doing the arranging of it. So, if you're down for that, I feel like it will happen sooner rather than later. Um and that would be something you can figure out if you want to take on that role or not. Um, and I hear expense. So, please make sure you're thinking about all the things. Okay. Love Aana says, I'm trying to make sure I didn't miss anybody's question. Aana says, um, "My close friend Ja has suddenly become distant and our friendship now feels like a betrayal. What are her true intentions towards me?" At the moment, she doesn't have any. I don't know if they mean she doesn't have any true intentions or any intentions at all. I feel like this is more about her than it is about you. I'm not going to say she's going through something because I don't feel like, you know, sometimes when people go through things, some people will back off. They'll they'll um they'll back off. They'll go through it and then they come back. Um, I want everybody to remember we are going through astrologically we are going through some really crazy things that haven't happened in over 80 years. and the way they're landing like I think something with Mars and something with Uranus and something with something a full moon all of them havinging and a retrograde and all of it happening on the same time and something else in there too. So, it's going to be a bit of a chaotic and weird time for people. Um, depending on where it falls within your chart, there's going there you might say something or do something or what whatever. Um, so for you guys, be be mindful of your words. Um, but I feel like your friend Ja, I feel like she's going to come around again, but it's never It might not be the same. It It might not be the same. I feel like I just feel like it might not be the same. And sometimes relationships or friendships come in and they just get us to a point and then we move on from there. Um, don't feel betrayed. I don't feel like this is supposed to feel like a betrayal to you. I feel like it's supposed to be more of a just a letting the old guard down and bringing the new guard in, if you will. Sometimes we outgrow people. Sometimes we don't realize we're moving in one direction and other people are moving into another direction. Okay? And if you, you know, I had a I want to be very careful about how I say this. I know of someone who made a choice in their personal life as far as a relationship goes and due to that relationship stopped sharing like personal information with most people. So this person and no no judgment from me um this person chose to be in a relation a certain type of relationship but she knew people wouldn't accept it or would you know think not highly of it. So just pulled away from some people and didn't share even that she was in a relationship with other people. So sometimes it has nothing to do with you. And I'm not saying that's Ja's situation at all. I haven't looked into what her situation is. I'm saying sometimes we don't know what's going on with another person and why they're doing what they're doing. And sometimes it's just none of our business. We just let them be who they are. Okay. Pat. Hi Tony. Hope you had a great fourth. I did Pat. I hope you did too. I've hit a low point on all levels. Can you tell me if I'll be on an upswing now or soon? Thank you. Yes, you will. And Pat, I'm so sorry to hear that. I know it's very um it can be very challenging, especially when we're recovering from surgery and we may have lost, you know, family and friends like you have. So, um I want to do a clearing for everyone to just take the heaviness. We're going to heal, clear, release this. If you feel it, please put it in the comments. Oo, take all the heaviness from us. You will be on an upswing soon. Within a month, within a month to a month and a half, you will kind of be back where you were, but in between that month, month and a half, you're going to be making slow steps forward and it's going to be increasing for you. Um, I'm I'm just going to tell you, you're going to have something come in that's going to give you some relief, a bit of relief, and from there it will start to go up. Now, this might be a dream. It could be something someone says to you or it could just be like you have one day where you or where you kind of feel back to your old self and then from there you start to build. The number one thing I can say when we are in a situation like that is get out. Get get out of the house. Do not let your four walls come down on you. You need to get up. you if if you can only make it to to a window, open it and sit there. If you can make it to a porch, get to the porch. If you can make it to uh wherever it is, if you have to check your mail five times a day to step outside, just check your mail five times a day. The idea is the energy in your home could be the same as yours and you want to get out and bring new energy in. Okay? It's really important. Just touch a tree. Especially if you have any pine around you, just touch that pine. There's a reason pine trees were brought in in Christmas when we can't open our windows. So, if you know, you know. Um, okay. Pine oil, by the way, is my number one oil that I put in my diffuser when my home starts to feel heavy. The first thing I do is I get my pine oil. I start putting it in. And I have my home is surrounded by pines. So I might find some pine, get a little piece of charcoal, burn it a little bit, whatever. Although I don't like the smoke. Sometimes I'll do that just to do it. It's fun. Okay. Next. [laughter] Ah. [sighs] Okay. Okay. Here we go. Where was I? We're going to come up a little bit. Barely. So full. I want to ask who is my future long I I don't know if I'm going to be able to answer this for you barely soulful I don't know that I can give you what you want in this it's a very I I just I don't I when I read the question I think you're looking for something specific and I'm I'm not I don't know, I'm going to read the question. Um, hi, I want to ask, who is my future long-term romantic partner? We have choices. We always have choice. There's not one specific person we are destined to be with. There is probably at least one person in every city that could be our future long-term partner. And it depends on how we choose, how wisely we choose, and if we just take whatever's in front of us. Um, I do believe there are people we are destined to meet and have some sort of relationship with and sometimes we take that relationship just a little um too far or too long or whatever it is. Uh, so I don't believe I'm going to be able to answer that for you because you have free will and choice and can decide that as you go. And I I mean that with with all of my heart. Um, I could say someone and you could meet somebody before that and go, "Nope, this is who it is." And I've had that happen where someone has come come in for a session and said I said I see you meeting this person with this name and yada yada yada [snorts] and they met somebody before and said nope it's this person and then they get involved with this person very meshed with them and then down the line the other person comes in they're like oh why didn't I wait and so I think it's very important to know one relationship may not be better than the other relationship. Um, it might not be whatever. So, there's not I I it's just important for people to know there's not one specific person for us. There are many people that could be our partner. Emma, hello [snorts] Tony. I recently met a wonderful group of friends during my internship and we've become very close. That's awesome, Emma. I'm so happy to hear this. Are these friendships meant to become lasting and trustworthy connections? Some of them, yes, some of them will be. As long as everybody continues to grow in a healthy way, has healthy boundaries, keeps healthy perspectives, I believe. Yes. I want to remind everybody, no person is the answer to your problem. They may have an answer for your situation, your problem, but they are not the answer to your problem. That's not a person's job. Um so yes, as long as everything stays very healthy within it. Absolutely. Absolutely. Ishita, I hope I'm saying your name correctly. Hey Tony. For the past six months, I've been experiencing persistent mental fog and have lost enjoyment in things I used to love. What do I need to understand or do to move through this? Um, I'm going to [sighs] do a little a clearing here for you and anybody else who might be experiencing this. Release this. Take it now. Um, I'm going to say this. The more you do things that you enjoy, even if you have to try something new or do something new, the faster this is going to lift from you or release from you. Okay. And then um the more you so so Okay. So when something happens or we get in a certain space, we're thinking about that, right? Where we are, what's going on. And the mind the the brain does what the mind tells it kind of. That's the the the simplest way of saying it. So if you keep saying, "Oh my gosh, I'm so tired." You're programming yourself. Oh my gosh, I have so much brain frog frog fog. You're programming yourself. Oh my gosh, nothing's working out. That's a program. Once once you if you just have to say that once in a certain emotion and it can stick, it can completely stick for you. And then you have to deprogram yourself to get out of that. Now, I'm not blaming you for where you are or I'm not saying that this is because of your thoughts that you're here. But once we think about it at least once a day, it really becomes solid. So, we want to start going in the opposite direction. maybe take a cooking class, something that we don't really we we wouldn't normally do or something that we wouldn't normally um something brand just brand new. And it can be anything from taking a class to going to an event to going to uh a different person's meeting up with a different set of people. [clears throat] um in in a different location. When when I travel, one of the things especially when I'm traveling to where everybody the person I'm meeting is very familiar with the surroundings is I get to be at new all new places. It might be like in in the area you live in, it's the same old same old. You go to the same places, same things, same this, same that. But when you go to a new place, no matter how old or how used to these places these people are, it's brand new to you. And it makes your brain operate differently. It makes your mind look at things differently. And that's one of the most beautiful things. Even if you just have to go outside of your town to find some place new or just find some someplace new inside your town that's that's very bright and good and has a food that you might like. That's where you want to be with it. >> [snorts] >> Another thing is um taking and journaling all the good nothing negative because when we think something it sits one way when we write it it's stronger so just everything good if you can only write down one thing it's just one thing write it over and over and over again okay that's what I have for you, love. And I feel like this is going to lift again. Um, it's going to start to lift today and into tomorrow. You should feel a difference, love. Okay. Um, you guys, don't forget I'm on almost all of the socials, like the the bigger socials. Um, so you can join me there. Every day I try to put out um readings and clearings. If you go to one of my socials, the TT one, it has all the clearings. They don't like um some places take it down after a year. All of them are on the TT app and you can go back and you can get clearings for trauma and pain and relationships and money, money, money, money, money, money. [snorts] So, you can go there and just kind of scroll through and you will find them and be able to use them for yourself. That's why I put them there. Um, and [snorts] I am going live on that app also when I can. Alrighty. Uh, thank you, Fawn. Thank you, Rebecca. Happy summer, Mimi. Okay, Mimi said it's hot out here in Las Vegas. Will be 110 degrees on Wednesday. Will we have blackouts in the energy grid? [sighs and gasps] I I feel as of right now that's a no. As of right now, that's a no. I don't feel like you will, love. I don't feel like you you will. Heather says, "Hi, Tony. Hope you had a great Fourth of July weekend. You also I hope all of you had an amazing Fourth of July re weekend." Okay, here we go. You put your question in. It can be about life, love, career, finances. If you want to connect with a loved one on the other side, uh, put put in their name and their relationship to you and I'll do the best I can. Okay, Deborah, I've been feeling down. Anything particular to clear? You know, I'm going to say this. Um, for those of you who know, I won't need to say what they turned off, but they recently turned something off that's been on for a bit. It sits in another country. I'm just putting it in the chat for those of you who are in the chat. And while that was on, I think it was I'm not sure, but it felt like everything was going so fast and it was difficult to get a straight thought and a lot of disruptive sleep and a a number of other things. But now that it's been turned off for a little bit of time, things are slowing down. I don't know if anybody else has noticed this. I I really don't know if anybody else has noticed that, but I feel like I I definitely did. Um I definitely did. And they're building a new one. I don't know why. [gasps] Maybe that one didn't do everything they needed it to. Or maybe they're trying to open something else up, which is even crazier. Um I don't it's it's not it is what it is. But um anyways, uh so until they get that built, which I think they're more than halfway through. They're saying they're just starting it. They're more than halfway through. Trust me on that. Uh I believe until that gets turned on, we are going to be kind of in the space we are now. I think the back to normal time that we are experiencing can have that effect on some of us. Okay. But um Deborah um let's again work on the heaviness, the [sighs] anything that's causing this. Let's just clear it for everybody. Whoopsie. Oopsie. There we go. Let's clear it for everybody. Yeah. And Mimi says, "Haha, I don't think I've read eight books." And the funny thing is it was a doctor. So I know he's read a ton of books and still does. So it was very funny for it was a funny joke. It was a very funny joke that he ma made. Okay. Um I have the little brother. Hey Tony. Hope your weekend was great. I want to know, is Chanel trying to avoid me? I wanted to buy some soap, but never but she never followed up. Uh, I feel like she's not trying to avoid you. Um, I feel like again, you know, we don't know what's going on with other people, um, and what's going on in their lives that are causing them to kind of be in that mode. Um, I would uh give it a day or two and try again and see what happens. Um, but don't don't take it so personally. I feel like I feel like there's something else going on there. Um, and that's that's what I'm going to say for that love. Okay. Okay. Let's see. Where are we? Okay. Uh Darlene says, "Do you ever see me selling my house boat and details like when, where, how much?" Darlene, you're so funny. Um that's a lot. That's a That's basically a whole reading, love. That's basically a whole reading. You would have to book something private for all of those questions that you have for that. Here's what I can tell you. If darlene, you have to be ready to sell it. You have to have something concrete on the other side of it. So, I could say, "Yes, I can see you selling it. I'm just making this up. This is not predictive. You're going to sell it in March." But then March comes and you're like, "Oh, but where will I live? What will I do? how will I all the fear comes in and then then you're not gonna sell it in March. You're not going to put it um up for sale. So Darlene, what I can say for you is the moment you have a plan like here's life, here's boat life, here's the plan after boat life. this is really going to happen. I'm really gonna I have this set up. I'm gonna go live here. I'm going to do this. I'm done being on the water. That's when you'll sell it. But until that point, you will not cuz this is what you know. This is safe. It's secure. And if you were to sell the your your house boat, you have to know wherever you're going to land or however you're going to land, you're going to be okay. And independent is very very important for you. Being very very independent, being able to survive no matter who or what is around you. I think those are that once you have that answer, you'll have the rest of the answers. And if you don't have that answer, you're probably not going to make a move. It's like fight, flight, freeze. When it comes to your housebo, you're kind of in that freeze mode where you are not ready or willing to let go of what you have right now. So, you're frozen there. But when the answer comes in or uh resource or a or a uh a a a stability in something else, that's a sure thing. That's when you're going to do it. I could give you five different dates or time frames and you you if you don't do the work to set up the stability or the landing station like a place that you can afford and comfortably live in, you're not going to. So the other thing is that you may not do it because you don't it if you sell your housebo then the next option might be an apartment or a uh senior living community and that's what's financially viable. But then you don't want that. So then you don't do it. You you say no here I have my independence. I have this. I have that. I'm gonna stay in this situation. And that's really, darling, that's the whole situation. It when somebody says, "When am I going to meet someone? When am I gonna move?" It's all about when you have that solid thing, when you know you have that landing space. And and another way to look at it is when where you're going, you can see it be better than where you are. That's when you move. Right now, you don't see anything that is better than where you are, so you stay. And that's that's not good. Okay. And Eliza said, I want to go back up to what Eliza said. Uh she had asked earlier if they're going if her and her boyfriend are going to go on vacation. I said, "You're going to have to do a lot of the prep, yada yada." And she said, "If I'm prepping, does he want to go?" Here's where I'm going to say, Eliza, back up. He's the man. Let him be the man. This is the thing that a lot of women do. We want to push the steps. We want to make the moves because we want to have it be a more solid relationship than it might even be ready to. Eliza, when a man is ready to go on vacation with you, he will tell you. He will make the plans. He will take care of it. If you're wondering, that's not healthy. That's not a healthy place for you to be. And are you doing this to solidify something? Because if I'm not sure someone wants to go on vacation with me, then where really are we in this relationship? And I know that sounds a little Yeah, but let the men do the men things. Don't take their masculinity. Don't become the doer, the planner in the relationship unless you're really really in like already married and then you become part of the planner um or engaged in the beginning or near the beginning of a relationship. Back off. Allow. Allow. Believe me, men are not wilting flowers that are afraid to make a move. If they really, really want someone if that's the person they know they're going to be with. They're making the plans. They're doing the things. And believe me, I've made all the excuses for guys. Well, maybe it's this. And my friends, we would sit and come up [laughter] with reasons why they weren't. Well, maybe he's just afraid. Maybe he doesn't want to say it cuz he doesn't know what I'm how I'm going to react. Those are women things. Men, they know they do. That's it. If they're not saying and doing it might not my my my this keeps going. >> Okay. I found this on the web and >> God stop. Um I would say don't prep for something he did not bring up. Don't don't think about something. Go on a trip with your girls. Get a girl. Get a get a female friend. Go on a trip with your girls. Uh, and don't and just You could You're free to do whatever you want. Don't What I'm hearing is don't pay to play. Don't say, "I'll take care of it because you want this to be at a certain space." If it's going to be there, it's going to be there. Take your time, sweetie. You don't need to jump into that. And I know as females, we sometimes want to do that. We want to be in that space. You're setting a precedence that's not healthy for you. Thank you guys so much for [music] being here. >> [music]