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The Stage of Life Most Men Get Stuck In

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The discussion begins with a re-evaluation of religion and mythology, distinguishing between rigid dogma and the profound insights found in mystical traditions. The speaker argues that while religious texts often suffer from mistranslation or are codified by those projecting parental figures onto a divine creator, they remain valuable repositories containing brilliant mystic experiences. By treating ancient pantheons like Greek gods not as literal deities but as archetypal emotional patterns, one can access universal structures in human psychology that predate individual experience. For instance, the myth of Hephaestus being cuckolded by Ares serves as a powerful metaphor for the pain felt by intellectual or creative individuals who are shamed when their partners engage with more aggressive masculine figures, illustrating how these stories function like Rorschach tests to reveal deep-seated personal patterns. Central to this framework is the assertion that archetypes such as father and mother are metaphysically real near-universal structures rather than mere symbols; humans do not arrive in life as blank slates but inherit recurring psychological templates based on evolution or spiritual nature. Relating to these stories allows individuals to reconnect with missing pieces of their inner child, particularly when they have lacked ideal parental figures. The speaker cites Joseph Campbell's *Hero's Journey* model—a cyclical path involving stages like meeting the mentor, descending into the underworld (the belly of the beast), and receiving divine revelation—as a practical tool for navigating life transitions. By mapping personal struggles onto this twelve-to-seventeen stage arc, individuals can identify their current position in the journey and understand that difficult periods are necessary steps toward wholeness rather than random misfortunes. A specific application of these archetypal stages is illustrated through Odysseus's encounter with Calypso on his island after years of wandering following the Trojan War. In this myth, the hero faces the "temptation of the feminine," where a goddess offers him eternal comfort and marriage in exchange for staying away from his true home. The speaker draws a direct parallel to their own experience when facing an offer to sell Charisma on Command while feeling frustrated with its current trajectory; recognizing themselves as being at Calypso's island allowed them to reject the easy exit despite knowing it would be hard, because they understood that returning to community and struggle was essential for growth. This realization led naturally into the subsequent stage of "atonement with the father," followed by apotheosis or connection with the divine, demonstrating how myth provides a roadmap for enduring hardship without losing one's sense of purpose. The conversation concludes with the speaker identifying their current phase as the "refusal to return" within Campbell's model, where a hero who has achieved enlightenment finds themselves comfortable in an inner world and reluctant to bring wisdom back to society. The podcast itself is framed not just as entertainment but as the mechanism inviting the host out of this secluded state and back into the universe, fulfilling the final stage known as bringing the ultimate boon to the community. Throughout the dialogue, there is a consistent emphasis on using these ancient narratives to decode modern existential crises, suggesting that understanding where one stands in the hero's journey provides clarity during times of loss or temptation. Ultimately, the argument posits that engaging with mythology offers a structured way to integrate fragmented aspects of the self and navigate the inevitable rocky montage required for spiritual maturity.
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What do you think about sort of mythology? Is it a It's not the full dose of religion with some of its sort of stodginess and inaccessibility? >> So, here's here's my broad view of religion, spirituality, etc. There are these mystics all around the world. Jesus, Muhammad, Rumi, you know. Uh they get it at various levels. It's tough to translate. It's I like how do you say it? First off, how do you how does it come out of your mouth in a way that is honest to your experience? Extremely challenging. And then for somebody who hasn't had that experience, they're going to write it down now in a book and codify how everyone else needs to be. So, I think that's what's going on with a lot of the big hit books is that there's a mystical insight from somebody who got it at a very, very, very deep level. Difficult for them to speak, difficult for other people to write down 60 years later, and then we're a lot of people that aren't uh directly connected with that experience projecting their mother and their father onto the creator of the universe that he's upset with me and he wants to punish me, and a lot of that made it into the text, you know. So, I don't treat the Bible as uh literally every word is true. I but I treat it as a repository that has been mistranslated some of the time of a brilliant mystic. Like somebody who was who got it. And I treat other texts like that. Like there's some level of understanding integration that the person who came up with this had. That's why it survived so long. That's why it was so meaningful to people even if they couldn't describe why it was so meaningful to them. So, Greek, Egyptian, these pantheon gods are really useful for relating to you the archetypal emotional patterns of life. So, for instance, the story of Ares, Aphrodite, and Hephaestus. Hephaestus is the craftsman god. He's got a lame leg. He's a craftsman. You might call him a brainiac. Uh, he's not a physical powerhouse. He's the only god that is crippled. He is betrothed and wedded to Aphrodite, the goddess of beauty, but she cheats on him all the time with the alpha and Chad, Ares. All right, so they have a bunch of kids, but the story of Hephaestus and Aphrodite and Ares is that Hephaestus learns that he's being cuckolded. He creates a cage above the bed. Ares and Aphrodite go at it. He drops the cage on them and then brings in all the other gods to laugh at them. And it's like an archetypal exploration of the pain of the academically inclined guy who is try who is hurt by the aggressive masculine man who takes something that he loves and then moves into his zone of power, which is intellectual and shames him. And you see this play out I've I've heard Brennan Lee Mulligan, who you might be familiar with, who's a Dungeons & Dragons guy, very smart, tell his very personal story of he was a smart kid. The tough kids pushed him around, made fun of him, but he got really good at insulting them so he could just cut them to the core because he was smart enough to do it. And so there's these patterns that if you look at these archetypes almost like Rorschach tests, which is which one of is calling to me? I don't know, but there's something about I'm curious about Ares. I'm curious about this. You look up the story, you read it. What do I make of it is a beautiful way to start to recognize some of these archetypal patterns in your life because they have existed for thousands of years before you. And I could go on and on and on and about all the different ones that have been valuable to me, but >> symbolic. Does the the story is more than just the story? It's less than literal. Is that kind of the What what's the >> Okay, so the key that Jung, Peterson, etc. would say is that these are these are like metaphysically real in a way that is not just metaphorical or symbolic. That there are How how can I describe this? That there are near universal structures in human psychology, for instance, for father and for mother. That we do not come in utterly blank slate, and there are recurring patterns based on you could call it evolution, or if you're spiritually based, just like this is what it is to be human. That by relating to these archetypes, seeing how they strike us, we can learn the pieces of ourselves that are missing. So, maybe we didn't have the world's greatest mother or greatest father, but if we relate to an archetypal story of a good mother or of a good the wise father or something, we can get we can re-come into contact with the piece of us that we felt should have been there when we were kids, but we couldn't put our finger on, we couldn't describe, and so we can't explain the pain that we're experiencing of the loss. These stories help us reconnect with that. In the same way that the hero's journey inspires young men to go out, be heroes, understand that there's a sacrifice and a rocky montage that they have to go through, these stories give you steps uh and and relationship with oh, that's what was missing. Or oh, that's what's up next for me. I'll give you one small example of this is I was Joseph Campbell has this hero's journey that he charts out, and it's basically a clock where you start up here, 3:00 you meet the mentor, you descend into the underworld, it's the belly of the beast, it's the Garden of Gethsemane at the bottom, you come back up, you get the divine revelation, you come back to the community. I had been charting where I was and he had like basically I think 12 to 17 different stages, and I found myself It's like oh, this is belly of the beast. I am lost, utterly lost. And shortly after that I was like, what's up next? Temptation of the woman. So, in the story the Odyssey, and stop me if I'm rambling. >> No, dude, I want more more myth. >> Okay, more myth. In the story of the Odyssey, that Odysseus has gone through everything. He had 600 men, they're all dead. He's washed up on this island, he still hasn't arrived home after near like 13 years after the after the Trojan War. He still can't get back to Ithaca. And he's defeated and he lands on this island. Every island he's gotten to has been torturous. And there is a beautiful nymph named Calyx up Calypso, a goddess, who just wants to marry him, have sex with him, and keep him there. That's it. Just stay. And so he gets to the end of the journey and he's offered, "Just stay with me." He's with a goddess. And he stays for a while, but he ultimately makes the decision. He's like, "No, I have to go back. I there I know it's going to be hard. I know it's been brutal to get here, but I have to continue." And this is what Campbell calls the temptation of the feminine, temptation of the woman. And I found myself here, went through the bottom of this arc. And a buy offer comes in for Charisma on Command. And it's dude, you just ride off in the sunset. You could just put it away. It's you're frustrated with it. It's not working. Just you could take the money. I'm dividing it up in my head, how many years, how much of this. And I knew where I was in the journey and I was able to go, "I know this and this isn't what I want." Even though it's going to be hard, I want the struggle. There's something There's a home that is calling me. And so I was able to navigate that with a bit more understanding. And then I knew after that comes atonement with the father, right? And so there's this other stage that I had to go through and I could go on and on and on. And then I knew after that comes apotheosis, which is the connection with the divine and then the ultimate boon. And right now I sit at the return, which is the refusal to return is basically where I'm at right now. So after you get the grail, the lamp, the thing, and you've done all that work, often times the hero is like, "Well, that was really hard. I don't think I want to go home. I finally made myself comfortable in this other secluded inner world. I don't think I want to bring this back to the community." And sometimes there's a chase, sometimes someone has to pull them out of it. But I was like, "Oh, maybe that's what this podcast is for me." This is Chris inviting me back to the universe. >> If you struggle to stay asleep because your body gets too hot or too cold, this is going to help. Eight Sleep just released their brand new Pod 5 Ultra, which includes the world's first temperature regulating duvet. Pair it with their smart mattress cover, which cools or warms each side of your duvet by up to 20°, and you've got a climate-controlled cocoon built for deep, uninterrupted rest. The new base even comes with a built-in speaker, so you can fall asleep to white noise or stay awake listening to me, and it's got upgraded biometric sensors that are running health checks every night, spotting stuff like abnormal heartbeats and changes in HRV. 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