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Douglas Murray critiques the phenomenon of "mono-thinking," where an individual's entire worldview can be accurately predicted from a single opinion, arguing that this indicates a lack of serious thought rather than intellectual consistency. He suggests that when people are no longer surprised by their favorite thinkers or commentators, it signals they have outsourced their thinking to others, effectively living a pastiche of prescribed opinions rather than their own lives. Murray describes this state as deeply sad and tragic, noting the wasted energy and potential of individuals who merely replay someone else's life instead of pursuing the unique existence they hoped for. He references Philip Larkin's poem regarding being "shunted to the side" of one's own life, a sentiment he believes resonates with almost all unhappy people who feel pushed away from their intended path by external pressures or internal cowardice. To combat this stagnation and avoid living a borrowed existence, Murray advocates for surrounding oneself with courageous individuals across various disciplines and backgrounds. He recounts an anecdote about turning forty and hosting a dinner where he was surrounded by brave people from diverse fields, realizing that courage is contagious and essential to desired personal growth. This environment helps distinguish between different types of bravery—physical, mental, or moral—and encourages individuals to reject the path of least resistance. Murray emphasizes that while it is easy to choose safety, true resilience often requires actively seeking out those who demonstrate fortitude, thereby creating a buffer against the tendency toward conformity and fear-driven decision-making. The discussion deepens with an examination of self-perceived cowardice versus genuine courage through the story of a friend in Austin who spent his life fearing he was not a "hard man" despite engaging in masculine pursuits like fitness and shooting alongside Navy SEALs. This individual realized that even those performing difficult physical or intellectual tasks face challenges they have chosen, whereas being thrust into chaos by circumstances carries different psychological risks, such as PTSD. The friend's breakthrough came when facing genuine catastrophe; his "better self," which he had always heard clearing its throat in the next room, finally intervened to help him navigate a true test of character. Murray uses this example to illustrate that one can be more courageous than their own fears suggest and that confronting chosen dangers often yields different psychological outcomes than succumbing to unchosen chaos. Murray further illustrates the concept of courage with stark examples involving personal safety and moral responsibility, such as being mugged or witnessing abuse on public transit like the New York subway. He argues that while handing over a wallet in a robbery is rational self-preservation, doing so without regret requires ensuring one does not spend weeks dreaming of violent revenge against the attacker; similarly, standing up to harassers who parade women around train carriages could lead to civil society improvements but risks personal harm. Addressing critics who claim such intervention might get people killed, Murray counters that a passive stance where men record abuse on their phones rather than intervening is pathetic and fails to uphold societal standards. He concludes by urging listeners to consider whether they can live with the version of themselves that submits to fear or violence without consequence, framing these choices as fundamental tests of character in an increasingly fragile society.
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it's so interesting when you talk about
um
knowing one opinion that a person holds
and from that one opinion being able to
accurately predict everything else that
they believe yeah that mono thinking
just proves that you're not a serious
thinker well I I just it's fairly
obvious if for instance you say yeah
what's the problem with a big bearded
guy winning the weight women's
weightlifting I go okay I know all of
your other opinions as well and to be
fair that probably works your other way
around as well to a great extent the
interesting thing with most people is
where they're um slightly out of sorts
with their own political side and some
well that's exactly the point
that you if it's been a long time since
you were surprised by the opinion of
your favorite thinker or writer or
commentator or whatever it is that's
probably a reliable signal that they're
not really thinking for themselves yeah
if you're just permanently oh yeah it's
like an old leather pair of shoes here
we go again the the co things happened
and I can already predict such and
such's opinion on it you go every single
time all of the time every single time
you know the idiosyncrasies of this
person's very very particular worldview
well that's because it's not theirs yeah
of course it's everybody else's it's
outsourced thinking and that what's
really sad about that is that uh it
means that you're not really living your
life I mean you're living a pasti of a
prescribed set of opinions that's so sad
I mean it's so so sad the wasted
energies and wasted lives of people
who've just downloaded a set of opinions
and they just they're just running them
yeah well that's not your life it's just
someone else's life you're just
replaying what was that quote you Tau me
about about being shunted to the side of
the road of your own it's a Philip Lin
quote from a poem his yes a description
of a couple and he says that something
is pushing them to the side of their own
lives it's beautiful line terrifying
line horrifying line should make
everyone yeah judge themselves what's it
mean to
you oh well it means that there's a life
that you hoped to live you life you saw
yourself living and and you you got
pushed to the side of it and ended up
not living that
life I think a large number of people
have that almost all unhappy people I've
met have that feeling to some extent and
then you've got a choice of poisons one
of which is to choose the poison of um
other people held me
back another is to face up to the fact
that you in some way a
coward or a victim of circumstance or
something else but I think a lot I mean
you know you know one thing that young
people you know can be encouraged to do
is to set out the sort of Life they
would like to live imagine the sort of
Life they would like to live and then
aim for it and um working it out is
sometimes difficult sometimes not but if
you do have that image of your life as
you think it should be lived and you end
up not living it it that that is
particular if you can feel yourself
slowly being pushed away from it I think
that's a terrible terrible feeling it's
like watching your own demise occur
second by second yeah fortunately I've
never felt it but I definitely fear it
where do you go to find or to avoid
cowardice or to find resilience or or
bravery because a lot of the time the
easier path is easier and it's the one
that's got the least resistance in
surround yourself with courageous people
surround yourself with um with brave
people and that can be bravery of all
sorts of different kinds and when I
turned 40 I had a a dinner uh which I
think you weren't invited to but it's
only because you weren't in town if I
remember rightly but I did get a lot of
my favorite people in the room at least
and it was interesting
that uh a friend made a speech in which
he said it's striking I won't say the
names of the people around the table but
some of whom will be familiar to
listeners but a friend of mine gave
rather very touching speech I was very
moved by which he said how noticeable it
was that Douglas has surrounded himself
with courageous people and it was from a
very wide ARR array of bits of the world
and different disciplines and so on and
I was really touched by that because I
hadn't particularly noticed that I'd
done it um but then I realized I sort of
had that actually yes I had must have
subconsciously but maybe now consciously
wanted to be around courageous people
because I think that courage is
something that rubs off on other people
I think it's enormously to be desired to
to be around courageous people and there
might be different types of Courage some
of it physical some of it
mental um so that that's one thing you
have surround yourself with courageous
people or at least not uh cowards not
kettin not the sort of people who just
say the same things that everyone's
meant to say and so on there there's
many ways people can get out of this
non-life that they are being shunted
into one of my friends it wasn't a
friend at the time I just met met him
for the first time but someone that I've
been interested in for a good while uh I
met in Austin a while ago
and he'd had a interesting story and he'
faced the cancellation over the last few
years and he sort of told me the story
and he said uh who sat on some
rooftop late at night talking about this
thing and he was regaling me with the
story he said throughout my entire life
I thought I was a hard man I like to do
man things and surround myself with
masculine people and I was into you know
like guns and shooting and fitness and
and friends with Navy Seals and all the
rest of it he said my entire life I was
scared that I was a
coward terrified that I was a coward and
he said uh in my darker moments I could
always hear my better self clearing his
throat in the room next door
beautiful and then this cancellation
thing came along and he said you know
even even the people that do really hard
things hard intellectual work hard train
training work hard physical work all the
rest of it there's a difference in the
kind of difficulty that they do because
it's elected right you've chosen to do
the hard workout but when the entire
world comes to bear on you in a way that
feels like chaos and catastrophe whipped
up into a whirlwind and he said uh yeah
I that was a genuine test and he was he
was very grateful he said my my my
better self stopped his coughing and
kicked the door in and came to help good
uh which but just yeah I could always
hear my better self clearing his throat
in the room next door well the thing
with that is uh um the difference
between um uh situations you find
yourself in that are dangerous through
choice and ones that you've uh didn't
thrust into yeah been thrust into and
probably know that that that the
consequence of being thrust into danger
situation is much more likely to lead to
um PTSD and things like that um than if
you choose
to um and uh I've been fortunate in my
life the most dangerous situations I've
been in have been ones I've chosen to be
in um and that's that's very different
um but yes I'm well I'm glad he found
out that he was more courageous than he
feared but think about that what a
beautiful line you know to be to be more
courageous than you feared you were
right you know this this almost this war
against
yourself yes that's right this fear of
your own nature well that but that it's
perfectly sense I mean there there a
horrible example I sometimes use but I
mean
um if you're ever mugged for your wallet
let alone you mugged with somebody else
let alone if you're mugged with a girl
that you were with or looking after and
you just handed it over there like
there's there's several reasons that
it's worth handing over the wallet for
one of which is like why do I need to
risk getting shot for like stabbed or
stabbed for 100 100 bucks and a few
phone calls to the bank yeah so that's
like the
reason to hand over the wallet what do I
care uh the reason not to hand over the
wallet uh is are you sure that you're
not going to spend the succeeding weeks
Dreaming Dreams of pornographic violence
against your
attacker and thinking thinking of how
you're going you would torture him if
you could get your hands on him and the
brutal way which you would have Revenge
if you ever find him it might be easier
to just get your head kicked in a bit
yes and are you sure you can live with a
virsion of yourself that is you handing
over the wallet I said this recently in
a piece of New York post about the
people on the New York subway where
there's this awful thing you've probably
seen where people you know like a woman
will be being abused by some Maniac
fentanyl adult you know um drug addict
and and you know people like either look
into their phones including men or they
will get their phones up and like
record and I mean somebody said Douglas
is trying to get people killed and I
wasn't obviously but what I was saying
was where are the men just like stand up
and like confront the guy if he's got a
Woman by her hair and is parading her
around the
carriage and yeah the the backlash was
like what do you know these people might
get killed if they step in but might say
yeah but also maybe will'll have a more
Civil Society if people don't think they
can go around and do this stuff without
consequence
um I'd like to see far more standing up
like that I think it's a pathetic
position for particularly for men to be
in to sit there like getting out their
mobile
phones but you know it's everyone's
choice I don't exactly know what I would
do in some of the situations I've seen
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