The Power of A Positive Mindset | Tom Bilyeu AMA

what is up everybody welcome to another edition of AMA live I'm your host Tom bill you and I'm here to answer your questions I hope that you guys have a lot of them today I want to dive in on this magically delicious Friday and by the way today's episode is brought to you by a brand new shirt which is no luck needed now oddly enough I can't believe it but this shirt has become mildly controversial which is utterly startling to me but nonetheless while it is unquestionable that good luck can befall you that bad luck can befall you that if that's where you're focused boys and girls you're in real trouble so I will say to focus on the fact that you don't need luck is a very smart place to start because if you're counting on it if that's part of your bet if that's part of your life strategy you're really in trouble so as they say the more you prepare the luckier you get which is another way of saying that it's about being prepared so no luck needed I'm sticking by it there it is if you want to get yours you can click the link in the description in both Facebook and YouTube alright without further ado the first question comes from Adam gray this is via the connect inbox you say that the way you think about yourself and talk to yourself is important but what advice do you have when the way you talk or think can mainly be negative what advice do you have to change from a negative to a positive mindset what things should you practice and learn okay so first and foremost the thing you should be practicing and learning is how to flip that impulse that you have to think something negative into something positive so you're gonna use the negativity as a habit loop trigger to think something positive so you're gonna want to have those positive things about yourself that you want to reinforce ready so that you're not trying to think of something positive as soon as you detect that negative thought you've got your positive affirmations as terrible as that sounds ready to go so the 25-point bullet belief system that you can download at impact Theory calm is a great place to start many of the 25 are things you can literally just repeat to yourself and I find those to be super empowering in my own life so I highly encourage you guys to get those commits the ones that are meant to be said like that to yourself to memories so that there they are there for you when you need them and then the key thing that lets me off the hook the reason that I don't over invest in my negative thoughts is because I know that while those negative thoughts serve me up to a point because they're gonna make me aware of something that I might not otherwise be aware of so I'm not trying to crush them down to zero I'm trying to use them as that flip but I do want to look at them first I want to look and see what's really there if I'm pointing out something that really is a weakness that I can shore up and then from there I use that as that jujitsu flip to get into the positive side of things and knowing that doing and believing what moves me towards my goals is the most effective thing allows me to like I said let myself off the hook to not need to get into that loop of negativity all right next question is from our boy seem land what is up seem this is from Facebook Tom when I was at the impact Theory house indeed you were I saw only highly motivated and efficient people how did you go about creating a team of linchpins and how did you persuade them to come work for you when all of them could be doing their own thing this is an incredibly difficult thing to do so I will say this very clumsily by stumbling into it by losing a lot of people along the way to my bad leadership having to figure out how to build a team because most of the team here actually started at Quest and I'll say that just over half so it's about 55% actually now that we've expanded but the original team was entirely people that came with Lisa and I from quest and so they had seen how we work they'd seen how I think they'd been around it for a while and I'll use a great example Cindy who I know is listening right now that girl is hard core so in the beginning I was because I had so many employees I did not have time nor was I thinking about leadership and management most importantly the way that I think about it now so I was just we blunt and really direct which was brutally difficult for her in the beginning but because she is a survivor type because she just kept growing and learning and pushing and striving to get better by the time that we came to impact theory she was just on another level so that is partly why because what you're seeing are the people that survived and when you start from a survivorship bias of looking at the people who made it through it's very tempting to say that you did a whole lot of things right but I will say more than I did anything right these were the people that were able to survive just how bull in a china shop I was and so that gets you a certain level of hardiness which is amazing so that's part of it now the part that may be way more useful for you I will say Reid principles by Ray Dalio understanding that setting a very high standard is critical then living up to that standard yourself by always setting the example and a big thing for me and this this is not I don't I don't think he said this I don't remember him saying this but this is definitely something that I believe in you need to outwork everyone in your team you just you need to make it abundantly clear that you're never going to ask them to do something that you wouldn't that you're gonna be the first one at work you're gonna be the last one going after it that you're just going to go way harder than you expect them to go and hopefully you're able to get them excited that you're able to make it abundantly clear that in this company growth is what we're looking for that we're not looking to beat people up for making mistakes mistakes for opportunities to learn so taking from Ray Dalio Zook we have a thing called an error log that people put in things mistakes that they made and the point of the error log is not to be people up or be punitive it is to make abundantly clear that a we don't tolerate hiding mistakes and then B we all want to learn from mistakes so hiding a mistake at impact theory is just a cardinal offence but learning from it is incredibly powerful and we want to foster that in the environment so if you set a ridiculously high bar you yourself are doing everything in your power to live up to that when you don't live up to that you certainly entered in the air' log you don't hide it from people you let them know exactly what's going on when they see that they're inspired by what you're doing and perhaps most importantly they believe in what you're doing they believe in what you stand for they understand the mission of the company and they want to contribute to that in a meaningful way and then they feel that they're they have the ability to express and find their purpose through that they have real meaning to the company and then I don't think it is unimportant that we also offer ownership in the company to every full-time employee and we offer profit share to every full-time employee so there you have it all right next up Andrew Kirby YouTube do you believe in self punishment and if yes why I believe in this ferociously this is advanced class [ __ ] and I know that most people are gonna have a seizure when they hear me say this but if you don't learn how to effectively not destructively because that's where most people go they get into an endless loop of self punishment which is totally ineffective but if you don't learn to punish yourself you will never get where you want to go now that needs to pale in comparison to the amount of time that you reward yourself they need to earn that reward if you're just lavishing yourself with emotional praise and you haven't done anything then I think that that will cheapen it it will ultimately mean nothing and quite frankly I don't think you can really been boozled yourself I don't think if you try to praise yourself for stupid [ __ ] I think some part of you knows you haven't done anything to deserve that praise but when you set a bar and you meet that or exceed that to then tell yourself hey you did it you said you were gonna do it you did it and that is worthy of praise and getting good at praising yourself is incredibly important and I think that most people have a very hard time doing both most people don't know how to effectively praise themselves they don't know how to get themselves first of all to do things that are praiseworthy and then when they do they don't take the time to emotionally reward themselves meaning you actually to feel it it can't just be intellectual you've got to actually feel that and the same with punishment if you say you're gonna do something even if nobody's watching and you don't do it then you need to emotionally punish yourself none of you will ever know whether I actually get out of bed in ten minutes or less or not but I say I do all the time but every time I miss it even if I miss it by seconds I just gave myself the chills even if I miss it by seconds I will punish myself for that because I said I was gonna do it and I didn't do it so the fact that nobody's watching is utterly irrelevant to me it has everything to do with myself now the reason that this is important the reason that I think that people need to do this is because that's how you shape your behavior so like water over time can create create the Grand Canyon or you can take a polishing rock and shape stones you can shape your personality you can certainly shape your identity and shape your behaviors if you learn how to reward and punish yourself I know a lot of people don't want to hear that that is the truth of the human condition next question Donna M Southwood Facebook hey Tom please share with us your meditation method I want to incorporate a meditation practice into my morning but can't find a method that works for me all right here it goes I stole it from a Navy SEAL he calls it boxed breathing and I have modified it slightly and the reason that I modified it slightly is I found that the way that he was doing it which is a breath in for parts all an equal time so you do an inhale you do an inhale hold you do an exhale and you do an exhale hold and all four sides of the box are equal in length now I found that that was dis pleasurable unpleasurable I didn't like it it made me feel like I was out of breath and it was super weird but I felt like well if I modified it because the concept of it was so beautiful in its simplicity that I thought well if I modified just slightly [ __ ] I don't feel out of breath would that work and I found that that worked powerfully and I went from feeling like I was out of breath totally unbalanced like this is [ __ ] weird to all the sudden I do a relatively long inhale hold or inhale excuse me a relatively short inhale hold the most rapid exhale I can do I literally just let the oxygen out and then I do a very elongated hold on the exhale I don't know why but I find that intensely pleasurable and so what I started doing was just trying to maximize the pleasure of each part of the breath cycle now the important part here is that you breathe from your diaphragm this is the single most important part of my meditative practice breathing from my diaphragm breathing from your diaphragm triggers the parasympathetic nervous system so you've got the sympathetic nervous system and the parasympathetic nervous system and they exist in what's called a negative feedback loop it's like a seesaw so one side cannot be up without the other side going down so as you diaphragm breathe like I just did you will click yourself out of the sympathetic nervous system which is known as fight-or-flight and into the parasympathetic nervous system which is known as rest and digest so that seesaw mechanism is really the powerful part of meditating and I have found in the absolute worst times of my life meditation can get me back to zero every single time meaning I have absolutely no physiological remnants of stress or anxiety it is so amazing and so powerful that I only wish that I'd started doing it years earlier and it was mark Devine the Navy SEAL that I was talking about before that helped me realize because I thought of it as very weak and effeminate which growing up feeling like a weak effeminate kid getting tough and getting stronger has been a huge part of my journey so I didn't want to do anything that I felt was moving me backwards now he was one that slapped me around and was like look it just makes sense it's getting you out of that sympathetic and into the parasympathetic and so I thought well if it's good enough for a Navy SEAL then it's good enough for me I tried it and it was life-changing and there have been times in my life since I started meditating honestly don't know how I would have made it through if I didn't have meditation because that ability to get back to equilibrium to zero with what I call no background radio it's so powerful so meditation has become a huge way for me to manage anxiety which is really really powerful so there it is and I will do one quick cycle so you can see how deadly simple it is I normally sit cross-legged so take that for what it's worth but I'll do it just normally seat it now I do it with my eyes closed and I breathe in through my nose out through my mouth and it looks like this hey hey hey there it is all right nice and easy I did the second part of the cycle so you could see how long that I usually end up holding that exhale hold again I just do it until it's not pleasurable anymore I don't feel like I'm holding my breath it literally just feels like an exhale and it's so weird even in that short cycle I almost forgot I was doing an AMA that's how powerful meditation has become for me I I get lost so rapidly if I'd had this is the last thing I do when I meditate I put headphones on over the year headphones and I listen to the call map I do not do guided meditation some people love it I absolutely hate it and I listen to the sounds of nature and I find that insanely powerful and if I had had my headphones on I do fear that I actually would have forgotten I was doing this but that's how quickly you can with practice and I've been doing it now for about three years with practice you can get into a super chill state okay Lindsay shoots what kinds of things do you tell yourself when emotions are trying to overpower logic objectivity well it depends on the scenario but generally the thing that I go to over and over and over and over and over is that I can learn anything so I may not know it now I may suck at it now I may have just embarrassed myself now but now doesn't matter I'm going to judge myself to the lens of a lifetime not to the lens of a moment I can get good at this thing that all things fall to practice discipline perseverance grit everything no matter what it is you want to do all of those things will fall to that if you put enough time and energy into growing learning developing being willing to look at your weaknesses your inadequacies your failures that is the source of power so all of these things that I'm externalizing right now they are the things that I repeat to myself and for me even more than it's a process of repeating something it's a mechanism of taking action and I find nothing remedies insecurity faster than action going out and learning picking up that book going and watching that YouTube do whatever it is that you told yourself hey and get better at this thing actually going and getting better at that thing first of all you get lost in the act of learning and then second of all you see whoa I actually a.m. excuse me I am getting better at this and as you're getting better at that thing that's going to reduce all of that worry and negative thinking and all of that so believing that you can get good to me is the only belief that matters the most important thing that you could do with your time right now if you don't already is to spend time showing yourself that you can get good at anything and even if you can't do it with yourself yet prove to yourself that the human-animal can get good at anything and to do that you need only look at the laundry list of people who were like I was a total bozo when I was a child and then I went on to do this because people's natural inclination is to dismiss extraordinary people extraordinary talents extraordinary accomplishments by saying erroneously they were born extraordinary so as the great Lisa Nichols once said you don't get to make me extraordinary as a way of letting yourself off the hook and I love that and I think that that should apply to everybody don't make anyone else extraordinary not Beethoven not da Vinci nobody as a way of not having to live up to that standard first of all read da Vinci's biography it's in saying how much work energy and effort that guy put into getting good at painting it's it's pure insanity so same thing with somebody like Mozart who everybody said I mean by the time he was 12 he was a genius and he was playing for everybody yes because his dad not only happened to be a piano teacher happened to be a piano teacher that specialized in teaching kids so he started playing at the age of two so by the time he's 12 he's got his 10,000 hours but he didn't start writing original music until he was late into his teens and early 20s by which time he'd been playing for almost 20 years so focus not on people being born extraordinary which honestly it's totally irrelevant there's the world is inundated with people that have talent and do nothing with it on the other hand if you focus on the fact that the human animal is designed from the ground up to be the ultimate adaptation machine that's where I think people begin to flourish absolutely up you're sure wow we're pretty high all right Hector Salazar Facebook any advice for somebody who is taking steps to make a positive change but he is getting all kinds of negative consequences for bad decisions he took in the past I really wish you were in the room so that I could pin you down and figure out exactly what you're asking so you're taking steps to make positive change which makes all the sense in the world do you feel that it's the steps to make positive change that are somehow tied to the negative consequences that I don't really understand so if you make a bad decision there are going to be negative consequences that's true not only for the past but for the present and for the future every time you [ __ ] up it's a [ __ ] because something bad happens so you just can't get caught up in that so stop looking at any one thing acutely and start looking at over a very long period of time could I do something now let's say that the negative consequences are actually reputation damage so as you try to claw your way out of the hole people just keep piling dirt on you piling dirt on you telling you you're a bad person that this failure of yours in the past this wrongdoing this horrible thing that you did means forever you should be punished that is a much more difficult hole to get out of and I will say I'm probably not the person to ask advice for that I'll give you my logic but I will also point you at I'm gonna remember her name Monica Lewinsky who did a TED talk if I'm not mistaken for those of you who don't know Monica Lewinsky she had an affair with then seated President Bill Clinton and she said that that the way that people shamed her for that has really haunted her and she probably has some incredibly powerful advice on that I can't remember it super clearly they say you don't remember what people say or what they do but you remember how they made you feel and I remember reading that or watching that video I can't remember even how I experienced it but the way that it made me feel was like whoa this woman has amazingly powerful insights into this so I will say go check that out makes me want to go rewatch reread now here's my logic on that at some point in fact I'll just quote Lao Tzu the guy that wrote the Dao de Jing he said if you worry about whether other people think about you you will always be their prisoner so unless you're prepared to be other people's prisoners at some point if they are hurling dirt on you if they're constantly trying to Ribery you under the earth that you're trying to claw your way out from then you're never gonna get out you've got to just stop worrying about what they think so they can't actually affect you they can only try to influence your mindset so and even even now if people hate you slings and arrows you could get a job digitally you could go be a freelancer on up work or whatever people don't even have to know who you are so truly in today's world they are not gonna be able to stop you from getting a job but they can really mess with your head but only if you let them so I will say to that do not let them you've got to understand who you're trying to become believe in your ability to get there to become that person to understand that to continue to beat yourself up for something in the past is not going to serve you and so for that very reason let it go and if you can and need to make atonement if there's something that's haunting you internally so atone for it all right next up Curtis had zicke YouTube how do you operate with the mentality to be the hardest worker in the room while still empowering your team to be the best at their position this comes down to holding a standard setting a standard holding everyone to it as well as just going all-out for your own thing and when you're not afraid to be criticized by other people then suddenly it's not damaging to criticize other people so let me tell you right now nickolas are in if he sees me doing something that he doesn't think it here's to the ethos of impact theory or he sees me doing something that isn't as efficient as it could be or has any advice for me whatsoever I want to hear it I will not shut him down I'm not gonna glare at him for bringing it up nothing you've got to foster an environment where criticisms can come from any direction any level of the hierarchy anywhere anywhere and if you fail to do that then the organization is going to crumble but if you actually are willing to take criticism from anybody regardless of position then suddenly you can hold people you can push them you can point out when they're doing something that isn't held to that standard without creating that resentment without creating that bitterness that's the key all right Saab sourabh sourabh chadov SAR objetive we're going with that hey Tom can you please speak about your visualization process how do you go about doing it I am absolutely horrible at visualizing I don't know what it is I actually consider myself a hyper visual person I really enjoy and really respond to art movies just imagery but for whatever reason closing my eyes and imagining something one of two things happens either I actually have a really hard time creating a concrete image of it or - I'll imagine it going wrong this was something that haunted me as a kid in Tacoma there's ditches along the sides of the road which don't really exist in LA but in Tacoma they're everywhere and I used to imagine in my little head because I was obsessed with a movie called rad that I was riding a bike along the ditches and every time you get to a driveway I would imagine myself on that bike doing a backflip now every single [ __ ] time I imagine that the person crashed even as a kid I was like what is this this I still don't understand that is so weird to me so in visualizing things for whatever reason this may be unique to me or entirely in I have no idea but I don't find that very powerful narrating on the other hand describing it in my mind the crowd welcomes me they want to hear what I have to say I rock the talk everyone at the end stands up cheering that's the kind of thing that I do literally that would be what's playing in my mind but I'm using the words and so the visualization that goes along with the words is they're sort of vaguely in the background but the thing that I'm really focusing on are the words so there it is Cody Montgomery Facebook what would you say to someone who has a ridiculous fear of failure and fear of rejection this is what just popped into my head and I would say go get really [ __ ] good at something I'm gonna guess that you just don't have the confidence that's born of competence so if you go spend the time don't worry about whether anybody thinks you're cool or anything for like the next 10 years and just focus on learning something and becoming extraordinary at something that you really care about put your head down fall in love with the work fall in love the process of getting better if you do that I think you will find that your fear of rejection goes away over time so because the only real answer to stop fearing that is either to recognize there's power in it if you're willing to learn from it but no one wants to stay in that mode forever so hiding in that is still the sense of I can one day get out of this I can one day transcend that which is going to require you to getting good at something so whatever it is that you're you know forcing yourself to realize oh this failure is actually gonna teach me something it actually has to teach you something and you actually have to get better at something so the ultimate goal here when I really think about it is you've got to get good at something go get good at something that you really care about and I think that even as you begin to take steps down that it's not gonna be binary you're not gonna be afraid and fearful for 10 years it's going to begin immediately reducing in its severity and intensity so that's my advice all right Fahad Salaria how do i enhance my dark side so I can use it to reach higher levels of my crown okay so like you can decide to look at the beautiful things the things you're grateful for the things you're trying to bring to this world that are gonna be incredible that are gonna help people buoy them uplift their spirit you can also focus on the things that you're [ __ ] up the people that want ill for you the people that don't think you can do it and you can place that firmly on your shoulder that ship and think about those people in a very limited amount of time because if you spend a lot of time there becomes corrosive it will hold you back will actually stop you from succeeding your life will be filled with bitterness and to have the energy that you need you're going to need joy excitement okay those are gonna be the things that carry you through but there is a neurological principle at work here if you want someone to be able to endure more pain you need only let them express rage and anger so I don't know why we're wired that way but we are wired that way and if in very acute moments you're not able to lean on [ __ ] you I will not be held back I will prove you wrong I am going to do this no one can tell me I can't not myself not anyone else and you embody that rage in that anger then in acute moments where you need it and the beauty is not enough to get you through you'll have what you need but it comes down to thinking about it obsessing over it in acute periods so take the time to think about it the people that want you to fail all of that push yourself let it kick you in the ass let it hurt think about the times you failed think about the times you embarrass yourself think about the times that people late hate on you and then refuse to buckle under that aaron reeves hi Tom I'm currently reading relentless by Tim Grover and it is incredible what is your advice for getting more aggressive in your goal in your gold chasing when I'm naturally easygoing and relaxed well it looks like basically what I just ran people through but I'll take a different tact here just to give some additional information I think the plague the scourge of modern times things come easily and because of that nobody has to learn how to want nobody has to learn how to take that want and then turn it into a crushing need nobody knows how to take an ember create a fire and then a raging inferno people don't know how to do that they don't realize it's a process they think there's something hiding within themselves that they need only excavate and then finally they'll have the energy to see things through but it doesn't work like that the way that it actually works is you've got to learn to build that fire you've got to learn to create that want and then that need and then let it become an obsession once you are obsessed and you must get that thing you want then you'll actually get it but if you don't know how to build that kind of crazy burning need in yourself you're just never gonna do it you're not gonna have the energy to do it now keep in mind you don't have to want something like that it's not a moral imperative we live in an amazing time of abundance so if you just want to relax and chill by all means take that path I'm no longer the person you should take any advice from but if that's the path that you want absolutely and many people that is what they want but on the other hand if you want to play in a world stage if you want to see just how much potential you can wring out of yourself then that's the path you're gonna have to walk to learn to create that burning need Vinay palak Shah hey Tom I have been a failure all through my life what I what do I have to do to restart my life and be successful so here's the great news you don't have to restart your life so it's gonna be a building process and just right now you're gonna start building something new so decide what it is that you want and then identify the steps you need to take in order to get there so whatever it is your particular failure going to need to identify failure of what you want versus what you've gotten so in fact I just read something on Mel Robbins page say that I thought was ingenious and it said congratulations you've survived 100% of the worst moments in your life I thought you know what that's actually really true so looking at your life as a failure you need to flip it man like what how to use Tony's words Tony Robbins how's the worst thing that ever happened to you actually the best like what have you learned from it what are the things you look at currently as failures that you could flip and begin to look at as empowering lessons things you've learned from that while hurtful you're glad you went through them because it gave you something a piece of knowledge an internal fortitude whatever it is that you are going to need in order to move forward and build this new thing that you want to build so that's step one just reframing all of that to making you the person that you are now which is the kind of person of it ask that kind of question which has enough self-awareness to actually build on like you've got a lot going for you a lot more than you think but you're framing your life is a failure and in framing your life as a failure you will continue to see only failure in your life so step number one flip that step number two goal get a goal a very specific goal identify the steps model yourself after somebody walk that path and along the way make adjustments to make sure that it fits your life there it is Charles Rowe face book what's up Tom I'm curious how you take lessons you've learned from books and then not only remember them but implement them in your life I try to use them immediately that is my secret that when I read something that's incredibly powerful I want to talk to people about it I want to put it into use I bring it up to you guys I talk about it in a maze-like the thing that I just talked about from Mel Robbins write reinforcing it in my mind so when I from Mark Devine when I learned about meditating I didn't wait a month or six weeks I did it that day so taking immediate action is the key when you do something that those are the things you're gonna remember but you've got to do them so take action dr. Jack Callahan YouTube do you have any advice for feeling unproductive and unsatisfied despite seeing more results ooh yes I do all right dr. Callahan here's the problem if you're working your ass off and getting results and your motivation is going down you're chasing the wrong thing plain and simple so find something that intrigues you then engage with it then in that process see if it turns into a real fascination meaning it's giving you more energy than it's taking that just doing it being around it is fun it's enjoyable the harder you work the more rewarding it feels the very thing that you're asking is part of the process of finding the right thing to pursue because the right thing to pursue is something that gives you that energy that makes you feel alive finding that thing like this is something that I find man I don't know what happened if if we just in fact I know exactly what [ __ ] happen because this is exactly what happened to me and what I lost years and years and years and years and years of my life - I was not careful how I defined success and like a fool I define success as money and so I chased money and in chasing money I gave myself over to it completely and I chased it and I chased it and I chased it and I took immeasurable amounts of pride and being able to suffer and endure and push far past what anybody else was willing to do for something that was eroding me and hollowing me out now my willingness and ability to suffer is one of my most powerful traits but when I let that distract me from the fact that I was being robbed of energy that I was being robbed of my sense of self-worth my feeling of being alive that became a real problem so you need to be very careful how you define success and I will say that success is fulfillment success is brain chemistry it is not momentary happiness certainly not entirely it is a deep sense of purpose and meaning and well-being that fulfillment technique the idea that you built this incredible set of skills that you believed in that was giving you more energy all along the way and now it lives in service of other people so find that thing find that thing that in interest you engage with it see if it turns into a fascination if it turns into a fascination go down the process of gaining mastery and in that it either will galvanize into a passion or it will dissipate but if you follow that process you can create that thing in your life that's going to give you the energy and not take it away Orlando Ramos from Facebook hey Tom happy Friday happy Friday right back what has been the darkest moment you've experienced since starting impact Theory personal with the company or both how did you climb out of that god the honest answer is really dumb and the honest answer is when we first started I was having to deal with the IRS and I hated it so completely and I was joking about it so much I don't think people really understood like how dark that was for me because I went from quest where I had all of these resources and it was amazing and yay and then I come to impact theory and there were seven of us and I am a huge believer and do the things that nobody else wants to do do the hard things and that was a really powerful challenge for me and even as I explain it now I'm reminded of what I did psychologically to deal with it I don't spend a lot of time in darkness like I really want to give you an amazing answer I don't spend a lot of time there less than 20% so but that was the lamest thing that I went through but yeah man like even when I think about like horrible [ __ ] that I'm not willing to share on camera even that stuff I don't spend a lot of time in the darkness of it it's powerful in that you get to see who you really are it's powerful because you get to see your belief system at work you get to find out if it's real like I can tell you the everything I say on camera I can say with as much bravado and aggression as I do because I had been [ __ ] tested and like I wish I knew her name in the Lord of the Rings the character who holds the ring for a minute and she turns into basically a god only to then hand back the ring and she in that moment realizes that she could be as powerful as a god she could take over the entire world but instead she gives the ring back she embraces that humility I was tested to see if everything I believed about myself that I teach that I preach if it was real or not and that's why that was the the moment that really let me step out front with aggression so yeah I don't spend a lot of time in darkness that's the punchline in fact I have to take myself there because it can be a powerful motivator but I don't live there so I crawled out with the belief system yeah all right Eric Lanoue Facebook Tom I love the way I feel on keto but how would you adapt if someone whose job in lifestyle requires a lot of high intensity exercise I think you're gonna see in the coming years that being keto adapted is probably far more effective for people that have to do really intense long-duration stuff because you're able to leverage your body fat for that now where it starts to break down and we are we are very much the edge of my understanding here in terms of where this is gonna play out but I'll give you my logic this is what I'm thinking so the early studies right now seem to indicate that even for fast twitch stuff that you it's either that you're able you're using the stuff that's already stored in your muscle glycogen or that you're actually able to get the energy out of your stored fat fast enough to keep the ATP performing at the level that it needs to perform again where we've exceeded my level of like real knowledge so somebody in the feed like if they really understand and can link to like an article or something be amazing but the stuff that I read certainly for ultra long distances seems like it's all leaning towards ketogenic people performing better the only thing I'm a little weak on is like what would it be if it were older like a sprinter or something like that I don't know if people have looked into that too much yet so I'll stop there I don't know enough to keep going but yes I will be very intrigued to watch this play out in the coming years all right Nicole Paige youtube hey Tom I'm curious what your thoughts are on quantum mechanics this is amazing again we're gonna be way outside my realm of real understanding but I love talking about this [ __ ] I know you've spoken about conflicting thoughts about the law of attraction but what about the science based research so I'm gonna say that the law of attraction is 50% amazing and 50% total [ __ ] and so I don't think there is any science-based research on the total [ __ ] side which is there like I'm just gonna think and something is gonna come to me so yeah that that just like even with quantum mechanics which is largely about probability which has nothing to do with essentially prayer which is where that side of the law of attraction breaks down which is like hey I just want it I'm just thinking about it and therefore it's gonna happen I don't think that that is in any way shape or form aligned with what we know about quantum mechanics that we don't understand all of quantum mechanics yet but I'll give you a for instance I don't think the brain is so powerful that it can get the what seemed like right now random probabilities of not random probabilities but like just vanishingly small probabilities of something happening like me walking through this wall now at a quantum level from a quantum probability perspective if I walked into that wall enough times I will eventually all of my quanta will jump at the same time the other side of the wall it actually will happens like speaking at a mathematical probability equation and dr. michio kaku who I just interviewed I can't wait for you guys to see that interview dude is [ __ ] fascinating he said there actually is a quantifiable probability that all at once you will teleport to Mars just from a quantum event perspective that that actually has a mathematical probability but he said it takes longer than the life span of the universe that's about how I think about that what I'll call the [ __ ] side of the law of attraction it it actually there is a mathematical probability that I could sit here and think about a pizza and the boom of pizza will appear in my hands which would be [ __ ] rad and I really wish there was a quantum event where I could eat that pizza without getting fat but there is a probability a quantifiable probability of that but I don't think it has anything to do with me thinking about it so I don't think that me thinking about it makes it more probable I think the laws of physics gives it a mathematical probability all right I find that I really want to keep going on that but I'm gonna stop there its way interesting I don't know nearly enough about it but while it's fascinating Jase Bella ran this is from YouTube Tom how do I tell the difference between a falling game a failing a failing game plan and a game plan that just hasn't won yet I hate this question so [ __ ] much and it's gonna be our last question do you know why I hate this question because it's so [ __ ] hard this is like that secret thing I never wanted anyone to ask me and you [ __ ] alright so I'm gonna give you I'm gonna give you an answer because this this is so important to figure out okay you've got to be able to get good at taking what you know about life watching other people and what they're doing the current moment that you're living in and being able to ask and answer the question what's the probability if I execute against this well that I'll succeed and what's the probability that I'll be able to figure the changing sands out as I go and get to the end and what's the probability that I will have the energy and effort to keep going and get to the end and maybe most importantly do I care enough about this that even if I'm wrong and I never get to the end and it is a failing game plan that I had fun doing it okay those are the important things to ask now Brian Johnson who we also interviewed and his episodes gotta be dropping soon it hasn't dropped yet right okay so that dude so fascinating and he said look if you've been given the task of programming a robot to cross a thousand miles of sand dunes rather than plotting teaching it how to go from point A to point B far and you know traverse all the obstacles far better to teach you how to deal with shifting sands because that is the only thing that you can guarantee it's gonna have to deal with because as soon as it starts moving the terrain will change weather will change it everything so even if you map out the terrain exactly and teach it how to overcome all those obstacles the second it starts it actually influences that so I think that as we're going that the main thing the most important thing and I'll get really concrete because I think about this with comics all right there's no [ __ ] money to be made in comics you literally have everybody going into the world of comics which is one thing that we're doing and it's just an incubation thing to get to the to get to film and TV right so it's like R&D okay so if I know that I'm competing for shelf space in stores with by the way people at the store level are doing it as a hobby they don't necessarily care about making a massive profit so they aren't even acting like in a normal way from a pure profit motive perspective and the companies aren't making the books from a pure profit motive perspective it gets really [ __ ] weird so it's like okay can you be successful in that like is my plan and my method to go into comics as an RD to get to film and TV is that gonna work what do I have to do and so I look at that and I play out the scenarios okay scenario one I am able to at least break even okay this is how we play out scenario one scenario two and I guess this is a long way of saying that because it can be really hard to tell if you've got a bad game plan or a game plan that just hasn't worked yet I tried to play out the multiple scenarios so that I can look for telltale signs of which is which and I can lean on to another one jump from one lily pad to the other if you will so you're constantly running these probabilities like okay I don't know enough right now to know so right now I think that I can crack the nut and become profitable or break even or maybe even profitable in the comic world I'm arrogant enough to believe that I see and understand something that other people don't see and understand but I know how likely it is that I'm deluding myself so I'm constantly like checking as I go okay the six things that I thought we're gonna make me successful as I do the first one did it work and if it didn't work [ __ ] like try the next one if that doesn't work as well at some point I'm probably thinking okay that's not the right lily pad and I need to jump to something else so I'm moving multiple things forward right now to give you an idea so we've got things that are like okay that rely on the comic world as R&D and then we've got other strategies over here that don't rely on that just in case I'm wrong okay that's so [ __ ] interesting thank you for asking that question even though I hate it because I don't think I have a super-powerful answer because it's so like there's nothing anyone could have printed out off of that other than I guess always be checking to make sure that you're right and not delusional have multiple paths to make sure that you're going down those are big ones and then making sure that even if you're failing that you're having a good time so that at the end of the day at least you had fun okay with that I'm gonna wrap it up thank you for that question no one's ever forced me to like make that concrete in my own mind and that's just the beginning that's something I should think a lot more about alright guys thank you so much for joining me this is always amazing may you work your asses off this weekend but at things that you love so get after it enjoy your weekend 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