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Tony Robbins argues that true freedom is impossible while one plays the victim role, emphasizing that valuing liberty requires letting go of past grievances regardless of physical victimization. He shares a personal anecdote about his mother, whom he describes as intense and potentially abusive but never labels such to avoid placing her in a specific negative category; he reveals she was an experience he kept secret until fifteen years ago when speaking with young African-American and Hispanic children from troubled backgrounds. By telling them stories of people who overcame similar hardships, including details about his own mother that no one else knew, Robbins moved the group to tears before helping them realize their biographies do not dictate their destinies. He illustrates this by asking if he would be providing billions of meals or working so hard today without the hunger and drive instilled in him by those difficult circumstances, asserting that while he is a good person, his specific path was essential for his current achievements. The conversation explores how painful childhood experiences, such as being heavily bullied and isolated at school, initially feel unbearable but often develop into sources of strength and self-sufficiency once viewed from an adult perspective. Robbins describes a psychological journey where individuals move from unconscious incompetence regarding their trauma to awareness of how it held them back, and finally to recognizing the wisdom within those events that propelled them forward. He uses the concept of quantum superposition to explain this mental state, suggesting one must hold two contradictory truths simultaneously: wishing an event had not happened while being grateful for its occurrence because it was meant to be part of a higher purpose or soul contract. This perspective shifts the focus from needing forgiveness from others to understanding that situations are designed to teach us how we choose to use them rather than simply happening to us. Robbins challenges the common notion that there is much to forgive, proposing instead that at a deeper spiritual level, everything serves a specific function within our life contracts. He acknowledges the difficulty of balancing turning pain into motivation without wallowing in it or denying its existence, noting that this alchemical process requires transcending and including past trauma rather than just using it as fuel alone. While some realizations come naturally with age, he notes that insights can be accelerated by spending time with mentors who have walked similar paths; his own seniors provided him with foresight about life stages at forty or eighty years old before he experienced them personally. He admits to initially dismissing their advice but eventually realizing the fundamental truths they shared were accurate once he lived through those experiences himself, allowing him to project deeper meanings onto future challenges without waiting for every lesson to unfold naturally over time. A significant portion of the discussion addresses the fear that enjoying life might diminish one's drive, a concern Robbins dismisses by stating that true achievers never lose their motivation; rather, they simply learn to operate with more elegance and grace as they mature. He emphasizes finding joy and fun in success while maintaining high performance, noting that gripping tightly to outcomes creates unnecessary cumbersome effort whereas letting go allows for greater ease. This philosophy extends beyond personal achievement into the realm of health, where Robbins highlights a serious case of mercury poisoning he faced recently that caused memory loss, extreme fatigue, and could have been fatal if undiagnosed. He uses this experience to underscore that even top performers must stay vigilant about their physical well-being because health issues can sneak up unexpectedly regardless of one's current status or success level. The podcast concludes with a strong recommendation for proactive health monitoring through advanced lab testing rather than relying solely on annual physicals, which often lack the depth needed to detect early signs of disease. Robbins explains that comprehensive tests can monitor over 100 biomarkers and screen for thousands of diseases including various types of cancer at stage one, providing five times more data than standard check-ups. He stresses the importance of receiving detailed reports from expert physicians who offer phone consultations for critical findings, ensuring individuals do not have to guess what is happening inside their bodies. By partnering with specialized health services that make these extensive panels accessible and affordable compared to traditional costs, listeners can gain immediate insights into potential issues like mercury poisoning or early-stage cancers, ultimately empowering them to take control of their longevity and vitality before minor symptoms escalate into major problems.
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how would you say people should let go
of their past more effectively if you
want freedom if you value Freedom you
can't possibly have it as long as you
play the victim role and even if you
were physically victimized and you know
my mom I don't look at it that way she
she was physically uh intense and you
could call abusive I I prefer not to use
that language because that also puts in
that place I never even told anybody
about that experience until maybe 15
years ago I was now in New York and I
was with this group of young
African-American and some Hispanic kids
all had single mothers all from really
troubled backgrounds and I started
talking to them about various things and
I trying to get across that biography is
not Destiny I was giving different
examples of people but I could just see
him I could just mind read look at this
big tall white guy and he's wealthy and
easy for him right so I told him
everything things I never told anybody
and every single one of them was crying
their eyes out I was crying too um but
then I got them to see that like
none of that none of that is makes you
who you are none of that controls where
you are in your life I was like I If my
mom had been the mother I'd H she'd be I
would not be the man I'm proud to be so
and she did many beautiful things but
you know if I was a well-fed kid would I
be providing 30 billion meals for people
would I work this hard to Fe feed people
that I'll never meet and never know and
will never say thank you to me I'm not
looking for it no I mean I'd love to
believe I do I'm a good person you're a
good person but I wouldn't have had that
hunger without that so that's where that
belief comes from that's like life has
been happening for me I I don't know I
don't know if you can relate to this in
my bed as you could and maybe your
viewers or listeners can it's like have
you ever had something happen in your
life that was horrible I mean it was
painful you'd never want to go through
it again in a million years you wouldn't
want anybody else to go through it that
you care about but after 5 or 10 years
you look back and you say I never want
to go through it again but now I see the
wisdom in it it's like it's like it made
me care so much more it made me so much
stronger it made something in me more I
mean I'm sure you can relate that can't
you yeah for sure I mean the world in
which something happens to you when
you're younger so for me uh School
wasn't that fun quite heavily bullied
quite alone quite isolated and at the
time you kind of just get through it you
don't really realize it's just life
right that's just childhood to you the
what is watered the fish question and
then you grow up a little bit you kind
of realize H that that probably wasn't
so good that probably wasn't so healthy
and then you learn a little bit more
about yourself and you start to realize
well look at all of the ways that I've
had to compensate for that look at all
of the ways that it's held me back look
at all of the beliefs that I have about
myself and and God I if only if only
that hadn't happened then I would be
here or I would be there and then you
realize well the light side of all of
that dark stuff is usually the stuff
that I'm most proud of myself for so
the fact that you were maybe a little
bit alone in childhood means that you're
very self-sufficient when you're an
adult or the fact that you didn't have
any to support you means that you have
no concern about working on your own and
continuing to take a bet on yourself so
on and so forth so you end up having
this really strange Loop where you go
from
unconscious incompetence in that you've
somehow been uh through something that
you really hate to this sort of
awareness of how it's held you back to
this awareness of How It's propelled you
and then you have to get to this really
difficult place which is okay so this is
a thing that I kind of wish hadn't
happened and yet I'm grateful that it
did and it's a it's like a you know the
idea of quantum superpositions it's like
it's like a psychological superp
position that you need to hold in your
head at the same time you can't collapse
it down into one you need to hold both
of these things it's like yeah that's
[ __ ] like that shouldn't have happened
I'm like I really wish that that and had
you have been able to see you had you at
36 been able to see you at 12 You' have
picked them up and given them a hug and
said I believe in you and you don't
deserve
this but it needs to happen to you if
you're going to become the sort of I
don't hold them separate yep I put them
together and when you put them together
all you have left is the truth and the
truth is it had a higher purpose it was
meant to be now I I don't believe like
everything's meant to be I think
situations are meant to be and then it's
our job to choose how we're going to use
them or be used by them right I think
that's the difference but I think I
don't I don't there's nothing to forgive
I know there's nothing like people say
this but you have so much to forgive F
that forgive there's nothing to forgive
I mean it's like if I get to a deeper
truth a deeper spiritual truth A Soulful
truth it's all like Soul contracts like
so we're all here for something more
than ourselves and it's not until you
realize that that you stop the childhood
thing of I need to forgive people or I
need to you know maybe you want to think
about what you want one of the people to
you want them to forgive you for you
know or you can make an apology CU we
all screw up we all do stupid things we
all do things we're not proud of at
different times the secret is do you do
something about it or do you just
ruminate or beat yourself up or pretend
it isn't there well that balance is
really really difficult you between
turning pain into motivation and
recognizing that it's there so you're
not denying that it's there but you're
also not wallowing in it but you're also
not just using it as the only pain but
you're also realizing that you've had to
alchemize it transcend and include it in
wi Barian language you know this it's
again it's a delicate balance and I
think that this is there's a few things
in life and the older that I've got the
older I've got 36 um the the more the
more I've kind of realized that a lot of
a lot of realizations just come along
for the ride as a byproduct of getting
older and we can do a lot of the things
we can read the books we can go to the
seminars we can attend the online events
and we can expedite some of these
realizations but there's some insights
that are just hard one by time some some
of that's true with I think you're right
about that but I also think it can be
accelerated by who you spend time with
I've had the great privilege of having
some great mentors through all 18 to 20
years my seniors so you know some I knew
when I was you know 20 and they were 40
and now they're 80 and you know 82 83 84
and I'm going to be 65 holding on to the
coattails in their way I'm no but I mean
because they giving me a a look at the
pathway of life you know we're not all
the Same by any stretch but there's
certain fundamental things you go
through I remember some of them were
telling me things you know like when
you're 40 you're going to think this
reveal this I was like you know read
between the lines you're full of it you
know what you're talking about but there
were certain things that they turned out
to be really true so some of those you
experience but then once you've
experienced enough of them you don't
have to wait to experience everything
you can start to project wait a second
here there's some real deeper truth here
yeah and one of those I think is it's
not hard i' I'd invite you to consider
you don't have to hold both the holding
both is like the piece of being afraid
that if I really enjoy myself I won't
have the same level of Drive once you're
a [ __ ] achiever you're just going to
you're the drive is never going to leave
you it's just a matter of now you can do
it more elegantly if you choose to
agreed you know yeah there's a
cumbersomeness to doing it when you grip
very tightly and uh yeah this ease and
Grace thing uh finding more joy finding
more fun uh learning to let go that's
something that I'm really really
obsessed by at the moment a quick aside
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