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The Need For Strong Men In A Failing Society - Dry Creek Dewayne

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Dewayne Dry Creek argues that the strength of a nation is directly correlated to the integrity of its families, which in turn depends on strong marriages and effective fatherhood. He posits a hierarchical chain where the country's greatness relies on churches, whose strength rests upon families built by men who serve as leaders, disciplinarians, and providers. According to Dry Creek, modern societal failure stems from fathers abandoning these roles, failing to act as necessary "bad guys" when making difficult decisions for long-term family safety. He emphasizes that the next generation will inherit politics, finances, and the judicial system based on the character of their parents; therefore, fatherhood is paramount because children who lack a strong male role model are destined to repeat societal failures or create new ones through poor leadership in various sectors. To illustrate his philosophy on protecting women from emotional harm and ensuring they marry good men, Dry Creek shares specific anecdotes about raising his daughters. He recounts strictly vetting potential suitors by requiring boys to present themselves before he would allow them to date his daughter until she was in her late teens. This rigorous process continued for years with some candidates who were rejected because they remained "kids" rather than becoming mature men, a decision Dry Creek made to prevent future heartache and ensure his daughters' safety. He further demonstrates this protective nature by bringing a man into his office and slamming a large knife on the desk between them as a stark warning that if any of his married children were ever hurt by their spouses or others, there would be no court proceedings; instead, he vowed to hunt down and kill anyone who harmed her until she died. Dry Creek clarifies that while he is not a tyrant nor does he interfere in the daily lives or parenting choices of his adult children, his presence serves as an unyielding deterrent known from afar like Zeus watching from Mount Olympus. He asserts that true love involves looking out for a woman's entire future rather than just her immediate feelings, ensuring she marries someone who has grown into a good man. This protective stance is balanced with respect; he never meddles in their affairs but remains available if needed, creating an environment where his children know they are safe because of the formidable commitment to justice and protection that defines him as a father. The core moral lessons Dry Creek instilled in his own family centered on absolute honesty and non-violence toward women, enforced through severe consequences for rule-breaking. He established a household deal with specific penalties: if a child broke a rule by lying about it, the punishment was doubled compared to breaking the original rule. In one instance involving hitting his sister, he punished the boy not only for the physical act but also severely for attempting to lie about it, resulting in a combined penalty of forty-five lashes. He taught that a man's word is his most valuable resource and that lying destroys one's good name, which is essential for survival; thus, children were expected to speak the truth even when it was detrimental to them personally. Ultimately, Dry Creek concludes that these strict principles regarding honesty, respect for elders, and protection of women are non-negotiable foundations for a functioning society. He believes that without fathers stepping up to be the moral anchors who enforce discipline and protect their families from internal corruption, both individual lives and the broader country will continue to decline. By modeling unwavering commitment to truth and safety, he hopes his children learned that integrity is not optional but essential for maintaining order in a failing world where many men have given up on being leaders or providers.
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what have you learned about the importance of fatherhood you got SE I seven children seven children yeah what have you learned about the importance of fatherhood all right I believe God God made man okay and God created man and God gave man the word and the word at that time was don't eat of the fruit of those two trees okay that was a Syle that's all the word God gave man at that time then God gave man a work and the work was he said take care of this garden and then God gave man a woman to help the man okay that man and then the woman God gave him that became a marriage and then that man and wife had children and those children had children and then there became governments okay you see where I'm going in this country this country was founded this was founded as Christian country this is what I believe people can do whatever I believe that this country is only as strong as the churches even our founding father says America will remain great as long as America is good when America ceases to be good America will cease to be great this country is only as strong as the churches in this country the churches are only as strong as the families that make up those churches those families are only as strong as the marriages that those families are built on and those marriages are only as strong and good as the man that God built the marriages on as goes the man so goes the marriage as goes the marriage so goes the family as goes the family so goes the church chur as goes the churches so goes the Country everything is built on the husband and the father and this country is a failure today because the fathers and the husbands have failed how failing to be the failing to be the example they need to be failing to be the leaders they need to be failing to be the disciplinarians that they need to be failing to be the providers that they need to be um if you don't have if you don't have the backbone as a husband and as a father to be the bad guy you've got no business being a father or a husband there's times when you have to know this is not a good direction for my marriage for my family and everybody's going to be mad at me my wife is going to be mad at me my kids are going to hate me but in the long run this is a very bad Direction and I'm putting my foot down and we're not doing that and you become the bad guy but you do it for the longterm strength and safety of the family and we've lost that I mean we've lost that in in this country to a very large degree and and so I think I mean our next Generation our next generation is going to run the politics you're going to run the finances they're going to run the judicial system everything in this country and they're going to be the result in a very large degree and there's going to be those who don't agree with this but they're going to be the result of whatever their fathers made them or whatever they become because they didn't have a father and so I think fatherhood is Paramount I think it's Paramount for the future of a society speaking of doing things that make your family mad at you I heard that you didn't let your daughter's date until they were in their late teens is this right right and that you grilled the potential suitors when they started dating them every boy had to come to me tell me the process tell me the story there well they they would come you know the boys would come hey you want to you want to and she was taught you got to go talk to Daddy we don't even talk about this you go talk to Daddy two of my son-in-laws today for years they would come and like I'd like to and they would they'd come to me and they're like I'd like to you know write your daughter I'd like to I'm like no nope well what about this no why not it's like look you're a good you're a good kid but my problem with you is you're a kid all right grow up and two of my son-in-law state there were literally years they kept coming back and I'm like no let me see what kind of man you're going to become okay my daughter's not marrying a boy and a lot of boys they grw up to not be good men so why let her get into an emotional attachment with a boy who will never grow up and why am I not protecting her from that heartache in the future and both of them now are married to my daughters but there there came a point years later I'm like okay I've watched you all right you grew up you can contact my daughter now how did that go down with the daughters I don't know they wouldn't come fuss to me but I think my daughters appreciated knowing they had a father who was not just looking out for them today their feelings today their whatever but looking out for their entire future and putting them on the right Road I brought a man in my office off one time and I had a desk along the wall we sat down in front of the desk he was sitting in front of me I pulled out the middle drawer in my desk pulled out a buoy knife about that long slammed it on the desk between it I said do you have any questions he said no sir no sir I don't have any questions I said all right then put it back to the door closed it and we got up and left they never had any questions my daughters are married all my daughters that are married are married to good man good men and I've told every one of them at the wedding I've pulled every one of them at the wedding aside I said if you ever hurt her they will never find your body I said there will be no court there will be no um what they call it a uh you know you go down and you swear out a uh you can't come with so many Fe a protective order I said it won't be any of that if you ever hurt her they won't find your body she'll be my to the day she dies and they all they all know everybody knows you know it's just like and I think they appreciate it and I think I'm sure they appreciated that on the wedding day yeah oh yeah well I didn't tell them he may have later but that's okay but you know there's I I think there's a lot of women out there would just say man I wish I'd had somebody in my life that that had that kind of commitment to my safety and to my future why do people think that you were saying that is it because you're a tyrant is it because you wanted to domineer over your daughter's lives or is it because you love them and you want the best for them and you want them to be safe and protected and happy just that because I'm not every one of my children when they got married you're adults and I never interfere in their decisions never I never say you can't go here you should do that I never tell their husband you should get this job you should do that you we don't interfere in how they raised their children my children are not raising their children the way I rais them I never say anything about it it's you're an adult I raised you being an adult you're a parent those children are your children I'm not a tyrant at all but they know from a distance Zeus is looking from Olympia and he will throw that Thunderbolt down to some tries they know that it's like dad's always there he's never meddling he's never in the way he's never in our Affairs but if he's always there if we ever need him what do you think were the most important lessons that you taught your kids or what do you hope that your kids learned um your word do don't your word is your bond don't lie now I I would go to jail for this today but my kids are grown and gone uh we had a we had a deal in the house and it's like and I spanked my children okay there there it is there's there's a set penalty for breaking this rule if you do if you break the rule you're going to get that penalty if you lie about it the penalty is doubled so it's like my boys it's like you don't hit girls you don't hit girls all right and so you know if if uh you know if they haul off and smack their sister comes in you know he hit me she's crying there's red mark on the side of her face call him in it's like did you hit her now if it's proven that he did hit her you know there's going to be like 15 legs I mean the the penalty was severe you don't hit women all right if he said no I didn't hit her oh son don't do that no I didn't hit her and then two of the other siblings come and say he did we saw it well he got the 15 licks for hitting his sister but he got 30 licks for lying about it so he got 45 licks total it's like lying is the worst thing do not lie go through life you be honest you speak the truth even to your harm even to your detriment you do not lie and you don't hit women so don't lie don't lie uh your your word is your a man's most important a man's most valuable most important resource is his good name if a man ain't got a good name he ain't got nothing so don't lie be respectful you know be respectful to others be respectful to your elders even if even if they're not respectable they still been through life enough you know their position earns them what their behavior want you know over the span everybody uh I tried pretty much every every Green strength that I 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wisdom thank you very much for tuning in if you enjoyed that clip you will love the full length 2hour long conversation with Dwayne right here [Music]