The Narcissist Will NEVER Come Back After They Do This

The narcissist will never come back after they do this. Hello survivors. I hope you are all doing well on your healing journey. In this video, I'm going to talk about things narcissists do which may then result in them not returning to you. Now, I know we often talk about the hoovering, which typically comes after some form of discard, where they begin texting or calling you, liking your posts on social media, or talking to mutual friends about you, hoping that it will get back to you. But sometimes the narcissist won't hoover you. They won't return. They won't come back. And that is what I'm going to be exploring in this video. Before I get into it, please give this video a thumbs up and comment down below. Let me know if you have been hoovered by the narcissist or if you haven't heard from them for quite some time. Let me know what has been going on in your situation. I'd love to hear from you because I'm interested in learning more. And if you would like more personalized support along your healing journey, you are welcome to book a consultation with me. Just go to narcsurvivor.co.uk. So, let's talk about this because usually narcissists do tend to hoover their victims. They like to re-engage and reignite the flame because they want to get more supply from you and they enjoy having that control. So, why would a narcissist suddenly decide to walk away for goods? Why wouldn't they come back today? I have three reasons for you. Because if a narcissist does these three things, they will not return to you. One, if they rage at you, if a narcissist rages at you, there is a possibility that they may not return to you because they were angry about something. They didn't like it. They weren't happy about it. They experienced displeasure and dissatisfaction. It may have provoked annoyance or frustration. They didn't get what they wanted or the result that they expected. Things didn't go the way that they hoped it would. And narcissists often feel entitled. They believe that they should have whatever they want. So, if you deny them of something, if you set a boundary, if you said no, if you didn't let them have their way with you, if things didn't pan out in the way that they might have seen in their minds, then they're not going to be happy about it. They're going to be mad, bitter, resentful, and they may hold a grudge against you. So, why would they return to you? Why would they make an effort? Why would they try to improve things with you when they believe that it's you who owes them something? It's you who wronged them. It's you who needs to make it right. If they were to return to you, it would be like saying the tab is settled, the bill is paid, the deed is done. So in this case, they won't return because they want to feel justified in their rage. They want you to come to them and seek their forgiveness because deep down they believe they're right. They don't think they've done anything wrong. But if they do think they did something wrong, it's because of you. and they usually know if you're still trauma bonded, so they know if you will come back. Two, if they cheated on you. If the narcissist cheats on you and you're not aware of it, the relationship may continue. But once you find out about it, the relationship is likely to end because now you have something on them. You know what they're really like. You possess damaging evidence, secret information, or proof that they have done something wrong. They may not believe that it's wrong. They may believe that they were entitled to cheat on you, but it doesn't make them look good and they know it. It's embarrassing and it makes it very difficult for them to continue manipulating you because now you're expecting better from them. You're expecting them to come clean and fix the mess that they've made. And they don't want to feel obligated. They don't want to have to do anything for you. So, they disappear and they may not come back because they already know that if they do come back, then they're going to be the ones who are putting in the work. And they don't want to put in the work. They want it easy. And it may be easier for them to go off and manipulate a new source instead of sticking around and trying to repair things with you. Three, if they blamed you for something, if they want you to believe that you've done something wrong, they may delay, obstruct, or prevent you from getting information. They may refuse to answer questions. They may refuse to cooperate or give a direct answer because they may be trying to hide information or to buy time because they don't want to be held accountable for something or they don't want to face the consequences of their actions. So they may have shifted the blame onto you and then they just took off. They disappeared, leaving you questioning if your memory or perception was correct because they understand that if they're engaging with you and they're forced to answer questions or give you an explanation for their behavior, then they may end up revealing certain information to where they end up exposing themselves. And that is why they prefer to keep everything vague and distant. They don't reveal too much about themselves. They keep everything private so that they can avoid exposure or consequences. And it can also be used as a punishment because if they're not acknowledging your perceptions, your story, your side of events, then it may leave you doubting yourself. And then you're just stuck in this uncertain situation where no progress decision or change is happening, which works in their favor because it gives them control. when they don't put all of their cards on the table. So, those are three things that when narcissists do them, it makes it less likely that they will return to you. What can you do now that you know this? My advice is to disengage. Recognize that they are playing a game. They are manipulating and controlling you or they're afraid and they're trying to evade. The more you try to pursue them, the more embedded you will become in their web of lies and deceit or they will just keep running away. They're not going to have a direct and honest conversation with you. It's not in their best interest. It's too risky for them because you have the power to expose them, to show people who they really are and to trigger a narcissist to collapse. So, they're not going to let you get too close. They're going to keep you at a distance because they know you don't agree with a lot of the things that they do. you don't agree with what they did to you and they know that they have ill intentions. They know that they don't mean you any well. So someone like that has to keep things private. They have to distance themselves from you. And in some cases they may never return to you. But even if they do, it's usually only to toy with you so that they can feel powerful. The power comes from confusing you, stalling you, and slowing you down, leaving you questioning yourself. Because anytime you're not shining a light on their darkness is a moment that they get to breathe. I hope this video was helpful for you today and that it provided you with the clarity that you were looking for on this topic. If you would like to show your support of my work, please give the video a thumbs up. And you can donate by going to paypal.me/narksiviver. Subscribe if you're new to be notified when I upload a new video. And for one-on-one consultations, go to narc survivor.co.uk. Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.