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When engaging in deep inner work to understand one's moods, confidence, or reasons for anxiety and depression, the abundance of available tools can often feel overwhelming and confusing. To simplify this complex landscape, a helpful heuristic suggests that feelings of shame, unworthiness, embarrassment, and sadness are almost always rooted in the mind dwelling on the past. Rather than analyzing these emotions as current realities, they are frequently the result of failing to recognize that past events have already concluded. The core truth is that whatever happened previously does not define who you are today, and you possess the agency to choose a new identity or access the underlying self that exists beyond any judgment.
The most effective step in managing these heavier emotions is simply to bring awareness to where your mind is currently located on the timeline of life. By recognizing that your thoughts have drifted into the past, you can immediately understand why you are suffering, as revisiting old events does not help solve current problems or figure things out. This practice involves noticing the tendency of the mind to retreat to yesterday and realizing that staying there prevents you from living in the present moment. Over time, paying attention to this pattern helps you associate being stuck in the past with unnecessary pain, while choosing to let go allows you to embrace the fact that today is a fresh start where you can define yourself anew.
Ultimately, the path to releasing shame and guilt lies in shifting your focus from the past to the present moment. When you realize that the mind has a natural habit of going backward, you can gently redirect your attention forward or simply stay grounded in now, which naturally alleviates the burden of old regrets. This approach does not require complex techniques but rather a simple acknowledgment that if you are feeling heavy emotions, your mind is likely trapped in history where it no longer belongs. By consistently applying this awareness, you learn to stop visiting places that offer no solutions and instead cultivate a mindset that looks forward, allowing you to experience freedom from the chains of self-judgment and embrace a lighter, more present state of being.
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I want to give a short little tip here.
When you're doing inner work on your on
yourself,
trying to figure out your moods,
confidence levels, motivation levels,
why you're anxious, why you're
depressed, etc., etc. It's a It's a deep
world. There's many tools that we use.
And with all those tools and practices
and whatnot, it becomes very, very
overwhelming and confusing.
I'm going to give a very short little
heuristic, a tip here, that simplifies a
lot of it. Now, it can be a little bit
overly simplified, but there's great
value in it, certainly at times.
And it's this.
You're feeling shame,
feeling depressed,
embarrassment,
unworthiness,
it's a little overstated, but there's
there's truth in it an awful lot of
time. It's not always true, but it's
almost always true.
If that's what's happening, just watch
where your mind is, and you'll find that
your mind is in the past.
Okay, so there's truth to that idea that
it's being
brought into the past, analyzing it, not
letting it go, failure to recognize that
it's gone,
it's over,
and today is a new day,
and that you can
choose to let it go.
The most important thing about whatever
it is that you're thinking about is that
it's over.
And it doesn't define you.
I mean, that is another kind of a
self-help soundy idea that you can
define yourself however you want to be,
or you can be a new you,
right? Or you can be the underlying you
that's beyond any of that self-judgment
at any time you choose.
Okay?
So, just keep that in mind to simplify
it all.
If you're feeling any of those heavier
dark emotions, more than likely your
mind is in the past.
Now, what you do with that, you
recognize it. You realize, okay, the
mind's in the past.
Has a tendency to go there.
Just bringing awareness to that is super
helpful.
And you can realize over time that every
time the mind does go into the past like
that, what you'll start to associate
that with
is those heavier feelings.
So, we start to pay attention to it,
bring awareness to it, and realize,
okay, if I'm in the past,
I suffer.
That's a way for us to actually learn to
become more present, or
even to look forward in our life rather
than to look into the past.
But certainly to become more present.
So, keep that in mind, the idea that you
can simplify a lot of this stuff by just
bringing awareness and recognizing where
your mind is. Sort of a timeline. And if
it's in the past,
probably almost always
not that helpful. You're not figuring
things out by visiting that place.
Okay? So, keep it in mind. Hope that's
useful. [music]
I'll talk to you guys again
very soon. Bye-bye.
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