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Rule fourteen of spiritual warfare teaches that the enemy operates like a military commander who surveys his surroundings to identify and attack the weakest point in one's defenses, much as ancient armies would fill in valleys or scale cliffs to breach an impossible fortress. The devil does not strike randomly but instead prowls around our lives day and night, studying our theological virtues, moral character, and cardinal strengths until he finds a specific vulnerability where we are most susceptible to falling away from eternal salvation. This concept is illustrated by the historical siege of Masada, where Roman forces spent years filling in dirt between mountains to create an approachable path against a seemingly unassailable rock pillar; similarly, spiritual enemies patiently observe our lives, waiting for moments when we are hungry, angry, lonely, tired, or bored before launching their assault on those specific weak gates. The discussion highlights that these weaknesses often stem from deep-seated wounds rather than simple moral failings, as seen in the personal example of a mother wound that created an internal void filled by serial relationships and misguided attempts to find love. Everyone carries some form of trauma, whether classified as "little T" for minor incidents or "big T" for severe events like abuse or abandonment, which can remain open doorways if not properly healed through God's grace and therapeutic work. When these wounds are left untreated, they provide the enemy with a strategic entry point to exploit human frailty; however, simply acknowledging that one is wounded does not excuse sin but rather clarifies where spiritual vigilance must be doubled down upon to prevent exploitation by forces that know every detail of our history from conception onward. To counteract these attacks, the transcript emphasizes several essential antidotes including self-knowledge gained through deep introspection and prayerful examination of root sins such as pride, vanity, and sensuality found in early Christian writings like the Epistles of John. Daily mental prayer that focuses on loving God with total attention rather than checking off tasks serves to strengthen the soul's defenses, while frequent participation in the sacraments of Confession and Eucharist acts as a necessary shield against habitual mortal sin. Furthermore, living within an authentic Catholic community provides crucial accountability and encouragement, distinguishing between superficial groups where members merely pat each other on the back and true charisms that demand high standards and mutual support to help individuals overcome their specific struggles with anger, irritability, or distraction in the digital age. Ultimately, spiritual warfare is presented as a relentless conflict requiring active measures rather than passive hope, grounded in the belief that while an enemy demon may be assigned to each person at conception, God provides superior grace through community and sacramental life to crush Satan under our feet. The goal is not merely to avoid sin but to cultivate virtues like joyfulness and gentleness by understanding one's unique battle plan and working diligently against identified weaknesses before they can lead to disaster. By recognizing that anger itself can be a god-given energy for justice when properly directed, individuals learn to analyze their reactions immediately rather than letting them control them, ensuring that the peace of Christ remains sovereign over even the most difficult emotional challenges faced in daily life.
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What was your weak point that he got in and attacked you on? >> I mean, a lot of my sins came from a mother wound. So, a lot of my action, serial relationships, and things like that were a a result of me attempting to find love, what I thought love was, which was not actually what love was, cuz I didn't have a proper understanding, >> trying to fill the void. The greatest trick the [music] devil ever pulled was convincing the world he didn't exist. >> I didn't know this was a fight. That's why you're losing. >> Today we are [music] beginning either to domesticate the devil or else to deny him. He is [music] most powerful when he is denied. >> Welcome to the devil's in the details. The devil may be in the details but God is on the throne. >> Amen. Today we are covering rule 14 of spiritual warfare and discernment of spirits. And it was it's funny I'm reading I was kind of reading this before we started and uh we might get to it. The paragraph on the second page of the chapter >> is really really good. Um so I do want to read that for everyone in case they haven't read it. But um before we get there before I jump ahead >> let's talk about rule 14. >> Yeah. So this is the last rule of the first rules there. And and if we hadn't told you, I think we had, there are two sets of rules, and you really can't practice the second set until you've lived the first for a while because it's just too confusing. Um, so we're finishing this. We'll see where we go from here. I am wanting to write a book on the second rules called spiritual warfare and deeper discernment. I have started it, but I'm, you know, as usual, I've got two or three books started and two or three books. No. So I get that habit from you then because the same way. >> Okay. Well, I'm under con what? I have to be careful when I sign a contract because I have to be like, "Okay, yeah, I'm doing this." Just finished though. >> Spiritual warfare. I mean, turned in to an editor, spiritual warfare and discernment of spirits for the young at heart, >> young mind at heart. Uh that's aimed at like high late high school to college, you know. So, for those listening, you heard it here first. There's going to be a new version. >> Yeah. >> This year, thankfully, uh later in the year. So, um we'll uh we'll let folks know if they if they want to get and actually >> I don't know. Do you have like an email for this show where people can send in if they want to >> questions at my but I mean if you if if folks are excited about that book? >> Yeah. >> Just sign up for the emails at spiritualdirection.com because it all goes through there. >> True. But what I was thinking is is I don't know how much overlap there is on audience. the I can just make this offer now and I don't know when this show airs but uh if you're watching this and you are have been really helped by it as an adult and you have young adults or you know high school age upper end of high school and you want to be a part of the launch team what that means is you'll get an [clears throat] early PDF copy of the book, you'll get named in the book. Uh, and what we ask is you become a part of the prayer team. You once the book's available on Amazon, you buy one from Amazon and then you write a review. And the reason buy one is one, you're you're incentive to give it away. You can buy one from, you know, Sophia if you want to, but uh then [clears throat] there's multiple copies, give it away, give one or two away, and then when you write the review, >> it's a verified It's a verified review cuz they get kind of pick well I mean obvious for good reason. They get picky about those. They don't want people spamming. >> Um so if you want to be a part of that questions at my.com and you need to put in the subject line spiritual warfare and discernment of spirits for the young dudes do that launch team. Spiritual warfare and the discernment of spirits young launch team >> if you want to shorten it. S w a d o >> young swatos. Young >> launch team. >> Yeah, probably an easier way to do it. >> All right. Well, there's your offer there. >> All right. Rule 14. >> Yeah. >> Likewise, he conducts himself as a leader intent upon conquering and robbing what he desires. For just as a captain and a leader of an army in the field, pitching his camp and exploring the fortifications and defenses of a stronghold, attacks it at its weakest point. In the same way, the enemy of human nature, roving about, looks in turn at all our theological, cardinal, and moral virtues. and where he finds us weakest and most in need for our eternal salvation there he attacks us and attempts to take us. >> So it's a pretty simple idea. I remember when I was in Israel for the first time which was a long time ago. I went to Msada and it's this huge it's this huge I don't know what you call it pillar of rock in the middle of the desert. Um and uh King Herod built a palace on it and there's a sistern so they they don't get much water but they end they built this big way of capturing the water and it but it's I [clears throat] don't know if it's uh >> Didn't we go out there on when I went on this? >> You did not go to Msada. You never saw Msada. >> Okay. Okay. >> But when you look down from Msada, you can see the the Romans were uh had an encampment. the the remains of the encampment are still there. And obviously this is more than a thousand years old. And why they were camped down there is they were try going after the Jews who were rebelling and who were hiding out in Msada. And because of the, you know, how treacherous it is because it is, you know, I don't know, I'm assuming thousands of feet. It's spooky. I will tell you as someone who's not all that afraid of heights to be up there. And um so it's a very difficult thing to assault because it doesn't have any any uh you know just cliffs and you can I mean you can literally throw rocks at people you know and knock them off the the narrow trails on and or whatever arrows and whatever people had. And so they camped there in order to figure out a way to assault this impossible to assault uh structure. The way they figured out to do it was there was another hill kind of separate from it with a cliff and they just started to fill in the dirt and they filled in the dirt. They filled in the dirt and then they assaulted it and when they got in all the Jews had committed suicide because they didn't want to be taken by the >> That's crazy. I didn't I don't I feel like I've I've heard that story before, but it's a little insane to consider the Romans. You know, it reminded me of the when we built the island here at the retreat center and Kyle is >> driving a thousand truckloads of dirt, but they didn't have dump trucks back then, >> right? [laughter] So they're coming by hand and they're filling up between these two mountains. >> Uhhuh. Right. No, it's it's crazy. >> And the Jews watching it the whole time thinking this is coming, >> right? Well, and of course >> they could have also waited them out. They could have waited them out because they had water, but they didn't have continuous supplies of food, but they they're just brutal, right? So there's still some remains of the wild, you know, the the way they the way they got up there. But the the thing that this just reminds me of the devil, you know, so he camps out in in essence and he's just constantly watching and trying to figure out, okay, I can't get up this way. Can't get up that way. If I get up this way, okay, okay, there's three ways up. This one is the most treacherous. Not doing that. They'll see us coming this one. You know, just that kind of scheming is why I never forgot in connection with rule 14. >> Yeah. >> But you know, and of course this echoes what St. Peter said, you know, devil prowls about like a roaring lion >> seeking whom he may devour. So what does it look like in a practical sense? And I was thinking about going back to your story. Maybe I can even talk about some of my own, you know, issues, but you know, you were baptized. you you converted to call Catholicism. Do you mind or do you know are you aware of of answering the question where did he what was your weak point that he got in and attacked you on? >> That's a really good question. Um I mean a lot of my sins came from a mother wound. Uh, so a lot of my action, serial relationships and things like that were a a result of me attempting to find love, what I thought love was, which was not actually what love was because I didn't have a proper understanding >> trying to fill the void. >> Right. Now, Stephanie is your stepmom. You call her your mom, >> right? Right. >> But you're talking about biological mom. Yeah. Situation. um [clears throat] because of the wounds that were done then. Uh cuz obviously I conver if I I mean a lot of the timeline is still kind of foggy at certain points, but if I recall correctly, y'all ended up getting custody of me and I converted later. Is that right? >> Yeah, cuz you we you you ended up in a police station. >> Yeah. >> And then we found out that she didn't have you in school. >> Yeah. >> And by the way, her her name has changed and all this and nobody we don't >> and we're not bad. >> We don't despair it. you know, she she suffered a lot in her life. >> It's it's there has to you have to recognize what was done so that you can understand why, >> you know, certain behaviors persisted and existed. You know, that's why I've been going to therapy for as long as I have, multiple different times, multiple different therapists, and thank a rockstar one right now, super faithful. >> But, um, yeah, so I think that that was probably one of the primary means of the enemy kind of getting in. >> Yeah. is just and I think that and you know to back up I think that's true for a lot of people. I think you know there's the outright sin that we commit whether you know it's it's uh pride gluttony lust name it these tendencies that we have as well as you know these wounds you know everyone's wounded everyone who's listening you're wounded in one way or another you know maybe as we we kind of we're trying to figure out language I I've noticed that we do this here at the retreat center >> where we talk about these things because a lot of this language has been co-opted by kind of bad actors in the psychological space. >> So I like using little T trauma and big T trauma. >> Yeah. >> So everyone you may have little T trauma. You may have big T trauma >> but there that is if if not treated meaning if not given to God and worked through with God for whatever reason God permitted that to happen then that's going to be an open doorway for the enemy in one way or another whether how you view the world or how you interact with stuff. So all that to say, I think my big tea trauma uh was a major opening. >> Yeah. >> And so yeah, cuz we got custody of you and then of course we're going to the Catholic church. >> Yeah. >> And when we were when the whole family was together with your mom, we were going to Protestant churches >> and you went through this process of you and I having these conversations and you're like, I don't get this or I don't get that. >> Yeah. Well, we Anglican at one point. >> Yes. Yeah, I was an Anglican seminarian, but then you decided to convert. I don't know if you did it for me or for you. >> No, it it was well when I tell my story, this is part of it. It made at that time still does, but the primary um cause for my conversion was purely uh intellectual. >> It made sense to you. >> Yeah. When you explained apostolic succession and I was looking into that stuff, I was like, how does anyone not? this is like thi >> this is all I need to know >> right uh yeah good >> so that's but it was you know and we've talked about this before the head heart language is or knowledge is different so but it was that's why >> but as you were converting so we kind of found this out retrospectively ro we had a great guy named Robert who's a a air force guy who uh who helped my sponsor >> your sponsor a super smart guy helped you through stuff But as you were converting, you were either sexually active or overly physically active. >> Yeah. I don't remember at the time. I mean, probably. >> Yeah. >> Um I don't remember specifically. And it's interesting because I, you know, I've I've talked about this before and I've thought about it and I think that I mean, Robert was awesome and I think it's just an unfortunate either I think it comes down to two things. either my sin was so attached or deep that if they talked about those things, I just didn't hear it. >> Yeah. >> Which is possible. Or they just didn't talk about those things. >> Yeah. Well, and I wasn't in the classes with you. I don't But we did do some theology of the body work at home. Regardless, in the end, what wrecked your marriage in in big part was and well, I I don't want to say it. I mean, you've been public about it. So, you describe what? >> It was impropriy. I mean, I never uh they it was an emotional affair is what they >> Yeah. Okay. So, you never had a sexual one, but >> but you went to a treatment center for sexual addiction. Why was that? What was the >> I Well, I hit rock bottom. Are you asking what the center was or what the cause was? >> Well, I'm asking I'm just trying to hone down on this issue. >> Yeah. >> And how you got taken out? So, I you know what? Actually, we don't have to go there. Here's the bottom line. What got you was that you were, you know, you had other virtues. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> I you you were a good son and you know, up to that point >> given what you had to deal with, right? >> You know, your mom was I don't know how you would describe your relationship with your mom, but I think you've been open that it did a lot of damage to you um for various reasons. So the issue you had was a open door on the sexual side. >> Mhm. >> Rel sexual relational. >> Yeah. >> It was p interestingly enough it was primarily relational but the self inebriation was sexual. >> I got you. >> Does that make sense? >> Okay. You just nailed it for me. But in the end then you had a rel a serious relationship and a marriage. But that started out with it was the enemy had a entree into your heart cuz you weren't fully converted. >> You were just kind of you were culture well you're better than cultural Catholic but not much better. Would is that fair? >> Yeah. I think you're being generous. I mean I I I'm pretty harsh on my past self because >> Yeah. But but I remember if I could argue with you and I'm sorry to cut you off but I already did. So >> is you know like you you would I would you we would be together at one point and you'd say I had a really bad day >> and you wanted to go to church. >> Yeah. No, there was always a um man, it's making me emotional thinking about it. um was always a draw on my heart. uh which I think was a grace and a blessing because I don't want to credit it to myself because I was such a wreck in so many ways and offending God so deeply in so many ways and yet he was always there you know come to me >> and I felt it you know cuz it's like yeah I had a bad day I want to go to I want to go to church I'm just going to sit in church >> yeah and I remember you even sitting and weeping and we didn't know what was going on but I was grateful that that You wanted to go there to deal with your darkness. Yeah. So you had So you had better than a cultural Catholic sense, but you had this big huge open door. We probably used it on this show before. I if I've overdone it, I apologize, but maybe you haven't heard it. Is we used to live in Bessemer, Alabama, which has the it's always in the top 10 list for the violent crimes and under 100,000 population. and and having habitual sin like you had is like living in Bessemer, Alabama with no front door and nice things all in the house for everybody to see. >> Yeah. >> Which you're just going to get pillaged and you got pillaged. The enemy said, "Hey, here's this girl for you." >> And he knew and you know, we don't need to, you know, obviously despair and none of that, but that a very wounded person otherwise it wouldn't have been attracted to you anyway. Yeah. Yeah. >> Very wounded person and then you s then you joined your woundedness together and it was a disaster. >> Yeah. >> Um so that's just like the worst example. Okay. Now, so that was years ago. Now let's bring it to today. And I think about if I if I was on and I had thought about this before the show. So, I don't even know if I could come up with, you know, like what where do I have to be careful? I think, you know, I have to be careful in a couple of places. One is uh efficiency. >> Mhm. [clears throat] >> With those that are closest to me. And and so the closer a person is to me, so I mean particularly Jordan, Stephanie, the more I I I grew up this way, the more utilitarian I can be. And it's just not good. >> Yeah. It's funny. I was explaining this to somebody recently because they they kind of had a question and uh an experience. They didn't really know how to take it. And I had to say, you got to understand, you know, and I'm not saying this is a good thing. I'm not saying it's an excuse. You know, we we kind the Burks kind of assume that if you're in the inner circle, then you know that we love you and we don't have to say it all the time, >> right? >> You know, it's like I'm not saying that's a good thing. I'm not saying it's a bad thing. Yeah. That's just how this circle works. >> Yeah. I mean, my dad my dad didn't tell me he love me till my middle brother, who was sort of like the prodigy of the family, attempted suicide, >> you know, so and that was pretty late in the game. >> Yeah. >> And I he was pretty shook up by cuz everyone thought this kid's going to be the golden boy, the middle one, I won't say his name. And uh and so that Yeah. So I never heard that from my dad though though though he's a good man. God rest his soul died as a Catholic. He converted before he died. But so that efficiency is one of my weaknesses and I have to be very careful uh which is a task orientation. >> Mhm. >> Um I think the other area is um physiological issues. So you know as we sit here I'm suffering and I'm better than I've ever been in my life. I am stronger. I'm, you know, I work out Monday through Saturday pretty much. And this morning worked very hard on the treadmill and very hard in weightlifting. You know, both um did personal records in a bunch of categories and weightlifting, but I don't feel good. >> Yeah. >> And so, but even before this show, I have to be super disciplined. uh like I have to be very ordered about all the things I have on my plate and it has to be just dead clear this is the next thing otherwise I go into a fog and then I can go okay I'm just going to you know watch a YouTube video or something like that which which is >> it's it's funny because I'm I'm purchasing the latest light phone and it has a little more capability than the previous version and I am dead serious about getting off of the smartphone except in very specific instances because even though I have all my notifications turned off um it is still just too much of a draw to kind of you you get in this fog where I'm not feeling great and and it and then it's like okay I'm going to look I'm going to watch now what do I watch >> Catholic stuff yeah >> you I don't do porn I don't do anything like that >> but those are my things that the enemy knows He can get me to waste a bunch of time or get distracted on things that are not primary to my mission and he can do harm to relationships. So, by the way, both are in my rule of life. So, it it's not like so I know they're there and I have specific things I'm doing against them both for Lent and just in normal in my life. What do you think your things the enemy can push on? I mean, it's not like he, you know, not like we're revealing anything he doesn't already know, by the way. Well, it's interesting, you know, when I when it switched from, you know, uh, pornography and all of that nonsense. Um, I remember when it happened, the switch, and I was like, whoa, I'm dealing with anger. I have an I have an anger issue, you know, not like I'm not lashing out at anybody. Yeah. >> It's not like I'm necessarily quick to anger unless it comes to electronics and then I'm very quick to anger. >> Uh, but you can you have an irritability thing, >> but I do. Yeah. So, so, but it was interesting at that point. >> I don't [clears throat] know where you got that, by the way. It was interesting at that time when I noticed the switch >> and and thinking, "Oh, this is new. This is something this is something new." And and thankfully now it is just an irritability thing. I don't I don't tend to get um very angry anymore. And even if I do, it's purely internal. And I've never lashed out. I've never had that issue. I've never had that side of anger. Um, but if I do get towards that, you know, on a scale of one to one to 10, if I'm at like a six, I don't think I've ever gone higher than that. And I'm analyzing now as I say it to make sure that that's true. >> You did as a cop. >> Oh, sure. Yeah. Different different context. >> Yeah. >> But, um, now even if I get up to like a six, which I don't think I've ever gone higher than that, it is purely internal and it's not controlling me. It's it it I immediately go into analyzing mode, which is what's going on. Why do I feel this way? Is this rational? Let me talk to somebody. They can tell me if I'm crazy, [clears throat] >> you know, I need to how do I need to correct this? >> And then most of the time it's just me being mad that I'm mad, you know, which is the bitter irony of that situation. >> I'm just frustrated that I'm frustrated over something silly. And I have to remind myself, especially recently, remind myself, okay, God's I think you said it and it struck me and I know it because I I recommended the book, but God's permitting this. And if I get mad, then I'm mad at God, right? He's permitting this. [clears throat] >> So, yeah. So, that's but that's still my biggest thing, I think, is is just dealing with that irritability. And it's and it's not, you know, and to be totally fair to myself cuz we are our own worst enemies and beat ourselves up worse than anyone on the planet ever could. It's all rational. You know, it's what do I have to do for the foundation at the same time? How do I juggle these contractors and these things that have to be done for the retreat center at the same time? How do I maintain personal relationships at the same time? how do I, you know, do all so it's all rational good stuff and okay this happened so now I'm delayed on this project by who knows how long or so and so won't call me back how do we get this thing fixed you know oh a pipe burst you know how do we can we get in touch with somebody you know what I mean >> so I I offer that for people because I think that a lot of folks >> take anger and it's just oh it's bad and I think it is good to recog Oh, I know it's good to recognize sometimes. No, anger is a recognition of an injustice of some sort. It's an indicator. >> Yeah. >> And it's okay. You just can't let it control you. >> Yeah. Well, and and I will say a lot of people, you talk about the gifts of the Holy Spirit. Uh I always ask, is there any place in the Bible where the person is filled with the Holy Spirit and they're angry? Are you aware, by the way? I you know I'm going to go out on a limb if I if I'm wrong. People can laugh at me in the comments. I could have sworn there's at least two cases. >> There's only one that I'm aware. >> Okay. One >> Old Testament. >> Yeah. >> You want you know >> I don't remember what it is. >> It's Saul, King Saul and and the prophet >> and and uh yeah. So yeah, it says he was filled with the Holy Spirit and he was angry. H >> uh it may have been um I don't know if if uh when uh Isaiah was deal was it Isaiah? No. Um who's dealing with the prophets of Bal? >> Oh um Elijah. >> Elijah and the prophets of Bal. I I don't know if there was any energy there but anyway >> I I love his taunting. I I don't know if he [laughter] was angry because he had some really funny taunts the entire time. >> Right. So um [clears throat] in scripture of course the New Testament says be angry and do not sin which presumes the reality presumes that it's possible to be angry to sin and angry not to sin. >> And I always my favorite definition of anger is the god-given energy to do the right thing. >> Yeah. It's it's like I said recognition of injustice. >> Yeah. So, so those so all of the reason I'm just processing through this in front of the world and admitting things uh is that this is how the devil works is that he he already knows these things about you and me and and and he's constantly watching and trying to find opportunities to exploit these areas and which is why I'm working so hard on the opposite virtues in my rule of life or my plan of love which I do an examination against every day. Am I joyful, gentle, you know? >> Yeah, >> that sort of thing. >> Well, and it's people need to know it's a commonly held belief. This isn't a dogma. This isn't you you'd be you'd find it hard to even find it written down in most places unless you have a library like ours where we have text that's has been out of print for who knows how long. But it's a commonly held belief that just as we are given a guardian angel at the moment of conception >> that the enemy basically um >> assigns >> assigns a demon to you >> at the moment of your conception. >> And that what does that imply? There's a demon >> that is following you >> knows you >> from the moment that you were born knows everything about you. They are far more intelligent than we are and they use that, you know, they know every single weakness. That's why I love I mean I can just read it now >> but this that paragraph >> that you have in here. [clears throat] The enemy pitches his camp to prepare for his assault on you. He watches you day and night without rest for he needs no rest. He learns your sins, your weaknesses, your proclivities, and your inclinations with respect to the structure of the fortress around your soul and the gates of the entry. These are the virtues or lack thereof in your life. He sends out scout demons to test every gate. They push on them to see if they are strong or weak. If they're weak, the demons take note. Then they go back and make an assessment with the lead demon. They determine your weakest gate. Prepare for an assault when you're hungry, angry, lonely, tired, bored, I would add. >> But it's it goes back to the Council of Trent when we read in I think the introduction episode of when [clears throat] we started this thing. >> You know, the the they are relentless. The war with him is endless, you know, and if you're not taking it seriously and if you're not recognizing that there is [clears throat] someone who is assigned to me to make sure that I fall, that is their job to to do that and they are really good at it. you have no excuse to not, you know, work as hard as you can to to counteract it and to give yourself grace when things mess up because that's still a grace from God and an opportunity to learn so you can improve and gain virtue. But there has to be an active measure in place. >> So [clears throat] let's wrap the series up with like antidotes, okay? >> The most important antidotes. So, one, you got to have self-nowledge, and that's just you can't snap your finger, and you can't go to a psychologist to get that. You they can help, right? >> But you have to have it at a foundational level. So, strongly recommend you get my book, Navigating the Interior Life, that gives you a beginners's guide to a self assessment on root sins according to the Joanine, you know, tripartate pillars of sin. It's it's it's not it it's an entrylevel, you know, it's it's uh pride, vanity, and sensuality. And it comes from the epistles of John. Now, the the church later developed the seven, you know, deadly sins, if you will. And um but you if you've never done it before, you're going to have enough trouble just with the three. So, start with the three with navigating the interior life. There's a whole section that helps you to process through that >> later go to Kevin Vost's uh book the seven deadly sins >> and it and then you know probably minimum of a year after you tried from navigating the interior life and you start battling give yourself a year you won't >> Kevin's book is very good uh but it'll be overwhelming you know for those who have never done this work so that daily mental prayer >> if you're not spending time with Jesus is not give me prayer, not fix this, give me that. It's the kind of prayer that is is the illustration used by the saints and doctors are it's it's prayer that has that is best mirrored by the holy marital embrace of husband and wife. Because when you're with your wife, when I'm with my wife or you're whoever, you're not like checking off to-do lists. if you're not doing anything but focused on loving your spouse. So that's mental prayer. I wrote a book called Into the Deep. One up you behind Jordan >> on [clears throat] into the deep teaches you how to do that. There's a film series. There's a film series on into the deep that's free spiritual warfare or spiritual direction.com >> pray >> pray I think uh pray or prayer one of the two. There's a film series on this book that shows it's a retreat context. Stephanie was part of that. She did a great job on the rule seven and renunciations to kind of you know get this into a small group. Um so daily examine >> I was going to say >> against your root sin and your new strategy to overcome that daily mental prayer. Um, and I think those are the of course sound sacramental participation. You got to be going to the Eucharist or Eucharist as frequently as possible, especially if you struggle with habitual mortal sin. >> Confession as frequently as possible. >> What did I say? >> Eucharist. >> Both. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. No. Yeah. I mean, if you're if you have mortal sin, habitual mortal sin, you need to go as often as you need to go. And it's, you know, as often as it happens in order to get past that. Otherwise, you're just, you know, if you're not availing yourself of the sacraments, like I said, you have no front door >> in downtown Bessemer. >> Yeah. >> And you you're going to get plundered and pillaged. Um so, daily mental prayer, examine, understanding your root sin, regular sacramental participation. [clears throat] That's your the beginning of your journey. If you are wanting more help, I I would say I have to have community. I think we're wired for community. We live in community here. God be praised. Um [clears throat] >> can I say something on that? >> Yeah. >> So, you know, uh one of our co-workers just a couple days ago crashed and flipped his car, rolled his car, car on fire. He's fine. Praise be to God. Uh, and it just so happened that I had canceled a trip to another filming that we heard. >> You were supposed to be with me in PA. Yeah. >> And, uh, it was really evident why because I helped him. >> You were the one. >> Yeah. You took care of, got him to the hospital, you know, got him home. >> We live in a rural area. People are wondering, well, why wasn't it an ambulance? >> Yeah, >> because we live >> and the and the fire department did come check him out. I wasn't I used to be a cop. I'm not an idiot. I know I know how to do that stuff. Um, uh, I've been driving around the past couple days because his mom was out of town as well. >> Yeah, she was with me on the filming. >> Uh, anyway, point is in the midst of all of that, I kept thinking, man, I don't know how people live on their own. I don't I cannot fathom. >> Mhm. >> He would have been stuck. >> Yeah. >> He would have been completely stuck. [clears throat] >> Mhm. >> You know, and it's what a blessing that we have community in that way. Now, that's a very tangible physical way, but what you're talking about is also >> spiritual. No, I I was talking with Father Bonafice 6 this weekend, and we did a two-part film series on devotional journey into the mass, Chris Garson's great book that we commissioned and Father Bonafice, the hidden power of silence in the mass. We did two film series on that. I was talking with Father Bonafice and, you know, I said, you know, I don't have enough motivation to care for myself. And so the you know like I think everybody needs to be in community by the way but my reason is >> is that my love for others and helping them to the Lord and I know that there's some defect in this is more motivating than self-care if that makes sense. >> And so why do I write the books that I write you know to help others because I don't like to write. >> Yeah. >> You know there are certain things about what we do that I like. this I like a lot you know >> but um anyway community is super important and if you are not part of a Catholic faithful Catholic community and I don't mean a club you know there are there's a difference between a club and a what we call a carrorism so you know and this can happen in any spirituality in the church where you get a bunch of lay people around and to feel good about themselves there's no high bar there's no requirements they just read the spiritual uality and kind of pat each other on the back. I I guess that's good. >> Um I'm not interested in that kind of shallow stuff. >> What I need is accountability. I need people watching me all the time, you know, and just knowing that I need encouragement. I need to give encouragement. I need, you know, a lot of this sort of thing. So, um, if you're not a part of a community or you're a part of what you think might be a club instead of a carism, check out apostova.org. Api, v i ae.org. apostova.org. About 4,000 members worldwide. We have priests, religious, and lady. I think we have like 27 priests or something in the >> in literally worldwide. >> Yeah, it is. >> New Zealand, Australia. >> Yeah. Croatia. >> Croatia. Yeah. Japan. >> Yeah. >> Um, so no matter where you are, but anyway, I pray this series was a blessing to you. Pick up the book if you haven't yet. There's also some insights in the back of the book that basically summarize what's next, which we were telling you what's what's next. And we pray that uh you find the freedom the Lord uh died to give you. >> Yep. And the shows, just in case that sounds like a a series finale, it I guess it technically is a series finale, but the the podcast will continue. Yeah, that's right. >> So, if you have any questions about any of this, feel free to send it in. Um, we did get some great feedback from a Protestant who listens to the show who was finding it super helpful, which was really encouraging. >> Questions at my Avala, right? >> Yeah. I wish I could remember the name and shout them out. But, uh, until next time, Romans 16:20, the God of peace will soon crush Satan under your feet. The grace of our Lord Jesus be with you. Amen. >> Amen.