“Stop Being Broke!” | FreshAndFit on Dating, Gender Roles, And Money

don't get married until you're 35 making six figures a year in shape going to the gym consistently and half with 50 girls Russian fitter podcasters that mainly discuss gender roles dating and self-improvement except in a pretty controversial way Society will still prop her up and tell her you deserve that multi-millionaire six foot three guy even though you're ugly well there's a lot that we agree with there's also a lot that we disagree with anything it's possible we can walk outside of the door and get struck by lightning as possible I see that to say we feel like it's our duty as podcasters to have an open discussion and hear different perspectives on topics we might not otherwise get to talk about maybe we'll learn a thing or two we understand that this is not our normal episode but as always Joy we'll do our best to read as many of your comments as possible let us know what you think of this down below thank you guys so much don't forget to like subscribe and also a big thank you 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invest in real estate as well yes yes definitely okay so so walk me through your entrepreneurial journey and how you got to where you are right now so basically I'm from a small island called Barbados right and back in Barbados there's not much going on with entrepreneurship it's basically you go to school get a job get a career right so what happened was I started watching YouTube videos online at Saul green Stefan of course I saw other creators what was one of the first videos you saw me I'm curious you literally in uh I think are showing a house showing or whatever talking about your first uh entrepreneurship getting your first property I believe that was the first one oh my gosh so that was early 2017. yeah like the beginning that was sub 20 30 000 subscribers yeah videos yeah so that and you said that was an open house that one open house yeah I think it was you just talking about your feelings about real estate in that uh close to one-on-one with your audience pretty much and you're still an agent at the time too yeah and that was that was my first video by by the way that I took down wow I took it down you can't even find it anymore he was probably your only viewer in Barbados yeah that could be it that's so funny so hearing your struggles what you went through and learning for all the creators as well I was you know what I've decided I need to do more for my family and for myself so I knew Coming to America was my only option so I came from Barbados to America looked at real estate how to invest how to make money as an entrepreneur social media all that stuff and what happened was over time I was making money from my job saving for a property and what I do I house hacks my first property FHA alone wow I got a Triplex here in now Miami that's what worked out for a while but how much were you making at the time when you bought your tripod 15 an hour what what luckily for for me the job uh offered unlimited overtime so we're crazy hours 14 hour days every single day no breaks over a whole year save that money I bought my first profit yeah and so over time you're getting a time and a half right it was able to stack what job allows you to do unlimited overtime like that don't they usually cap you they do but remember it so they first came to Miami they were pretty much like brand new yeah and they were like you know what we have limited employees but we have a lot of work to do so you know what for you guys for giving you unlimited over time I said wow unlimited I'll take it so that started my savings Journey that's really cool what about you uh so before the YouTube stuff I was actually a special agent with Homeland Security so what I did was like criminal investigations with everything from like human smack human smuggling to human trafficking to drug trafficking anything like Mexican cartel related I started in Laredo Texas and then I moved to Miami to the Miami Field office started up the the podcast slash the YouTube stuff and you know they brought me in and they're like hey you know you're saying controversial stuff on the internet you got to pick one and then you know I ended up going the entrepreneur route and then you know the channel started to do well and when I left the government the first thing I did was actually buy real estate and uh I took like all my money out of my um tsp Thrift Savings Account for the government employees and I bought my first house uh and basically ever since then just been buying houses what was that like for you doing like you know drugs smuggling all that sort of stuff how is that for me I I would see stuff like that and not be able to comprehend it like I'd be able to go home and just be like I can't talk to anybody like if I see anything online like that I just yeah it was it was it was a tough job it's one of those jobs where you have to take it home with you yeah uh you know I'd bring like my laptop back and write reports and you're working all the time because you're working like odd hours right you got to take home car and everything so you basically live the job and especially when I was on the Southwest border we're working all the time because you could get called out you know if they catch someone at the bridge with drugs or they catch someone smugging in illegal aliens basically you're the think of it as like you got the Department of Homeland Security and then you got border patrol and you got Customs those are like the uniformed officers then we were the special agents which is think of them as detectives so you would follow up on any investigation that they caught because if someone is smuggling in drugs or someone is smuggling in illegal aliens or smuggling guns or whatever there's an organization behind that that needs to be investigated so I did that for almost a decade and then I left the government in 2020 uh and then because the podcast started to take off at that time so I kind of had to pick one how did you two meet we met through a mutual friend actually another YouTuber named solo tv84 shout out to him uh he we both live in Miami and he was basically like hey man you need to go with this guy a fresh prince CEO he's out there in Brooklyn the same area which is like the neighborhood that we both live in and uh we got on an Instagram call together and we just basically bonded over uh womanizing yeah basically talking about chicks and like oh you're good women me too okay let's figure this out so yeah but just add the little context here as well it's funny because back then right I got your course I'll make a channel for YouTube right and I was doing prank videos so plug your strategy towards prank videos and start blowing up so I spent hours on YouTube at Starbucks learning how to you know make thumbnails you know invest in like real YouTube and that started my journey on YouTube as well so thank you girlfriend wow for real man that was amazing that is not a plain testimonial everyone yeah so helped a lot that's that's OG fans yeah Academy you never really realized just like the impact of even just putting it like that one video the ripple effect that has throughout everything is insane is inspiring bro thank you I really appreciate that so I'm curious because you talked about a decade in that job did you ever see anything I'm sure you probably did that's just like crazy like any any story that comes to I mean there's a million stories I could think of uh because we used to arrest I was drug traffickers arm Smugglers cartel people I I think if I could give you one quick story that is going to take up the entire podcast one I remember was I was it was like a Sunday I was like on duty which is when you're on duty it means that like they can call you in for anything right like if someone something happens you got to go deal with it so they ended up uh border troyd caught this guy and he said I need to talk to her to an HSI agent blah blah I have some information to give so I was like all right so I was like whatever I'll go and I'll respond so I went over the station this is back in Laredo Texas go sit down and talk with him and he starts telling me about how he's like The Bodyguard for this cartel one of these high-ranking uh cartel guys but at the time it was the Los Zetas that ran that part of Mexico and Nuevo Laredo this is back like 2015 ish uh and he was uh guarding someone I think named Z4 anyone who was one of the top guys and he was telling me how like he was a sicario and he was a bodyguard and well he used to tell me what he said was like we used to get a bonus and the bonus was he used to get extra money for every Mexican Marine that he killed and what he would do is he would like slice off a piece of her ear or a finger or whatever he'd bring it back to his boss and he got uh extra money for every body part that he brought from one of the Mexican Marines because there was a war going on between those two factions at the time and he was saying like hey I want to provide information uh this is years ago now so it's it's done but I want to provide information I can't go back to Mexico they're going to kill me blah blah blah but just the thing that shocked me was just like how matter of fact he was about like what his duties were what he did Etc so I called another agent that was more you know versus at the time and he was like oh yeah I know this guy is so they came in and they took it over so I was like all right cool I couldn't handle that yeah like that that's to like the the disassociation between like that's that's a person yeah like their whole life led us to the point of being basically used as a bonus yeah like it's insane his job was solely to like they was to travel in motorcades right and his job was anytime the Marines would start to attack them or whatever his job was to create the version Let the boss get away because they all had armored vehicles and then he would you know create the diversion he just like started shooting at them or whatever and the more Marines he killed the more he was able to go to the boss and Mexican Marines in this case and uh get a bonus he got paid for per body part he brought do you think constantly being subjected to people like that and experiences like that it could give you a pretty desensitized view towards suffering or a cynical view towards life uh I would say it made me aware of the evils that human beings are capable of um so nothing really surprises me at this point um but it made me look at the world for what it really is and you know unfortunately there are some really bad people out there it's not all sunshines and rainbows do you feel like that is the way the world really is I mean I know that exists to a certain degree yeah um but don't you feel like the good outweighs that or do you feel like just being subject to that you realize like hey this is out there we gotta protect against this I I would say you know there's good people there's bad people uh there's a good outweigh the bad I would say man because there's so many criminals that don't get caught you know what I mean like like we you know we always had this funny quote when I worked uh in law enforcement saying we only catch the dumb ones but there's so many people that don't get caught or don't get prosecuted because it didn't meet a certain threshold or it wasn't sexy enough for the U.S attorney's office or whatever so I would say there is more good but there is a sizable amount of people that are bad as well which is it and I didn't realize that until I got on the job like just how many bad people should be aware what's happening in the world at least yeah it made me look at the world more objectively versus idealistically So based off of my very limited perspective because I never grew up experiencing anything like that as a very normal childhood by American Western standards yeah um I just believed in like the good of mankind and I still believe in it like I'm an optimist I think 99.99 of the people out there are good humans no one has bad intent but of course that's just my own that's yeah I mean and you would be right a good amount of the time but you know there are you know there are people out there that have nefarious intentions unfortunately and uh and the thing is the crazy part is like you you won't even know because a big part of for them why they're able to evade law enforcement because you don't know and they've kind of fly under the radar have you ever seen any criminals like that that you knew they're guilty they did it we know what they're up to but we just don't have enough on them to prosecute oh yeah like what are some of those examples yeah so what we've always said is that it's not what you know it's what can you prove yeah and at the federal level right so there's two different types of law enforcement to make it simple like you got the state and local law enforcement right who goes through the Ada or assistant District Attorney's office and then you got the feds right where you go through U.S United States attorney's office and at the federal level you got FBI DEA HSI who I used to work for and all the federal agencies when it comes to doing Federal cases prosecutors are very picky about what cases they're going to take because they have a very high success rate so you need to bring a lot more evidence to an investigation at the federal level than for the state level now with that said this is why the feds don't lose because when the ausa takes a case on they pretty much know they're going to win that's why when people do get convicted of a federal crime they do 89 of the time and they rarely take it to trial because the feds have such a good record I guess when it comes to Prosecuting cases interesting they're very selective on what they take though ausas are divas I've always said it because they only take the sexiest cases yeah reputation depending on what U.S attorney's Office you're in so like for example like the southern district of New York is one of the most famous Federal prosecutorial offices right that's where they went after the mafia that's where they went after the 911 guys you know uh Etc like all the biggest criminals organized crime typically New York uh southern district of New York so they have a very big reputation where they want to go after big criminal organizations right they're not going to take anything less than that so the ausas are going to be fairly selective on what they take oh is this guy endangered Community ah no it's good give it to the stage all right that's how it look at anything it also has anything to do with media attention as well for sure absolutely I've always said it it's marketing yeah the feds are Cloud Chasers I mean like if you know if the if an agency is able to go after someone that has a lot of money or a lot of status and put them behind bars for you know whether it was like fraud or you know some violent crime or whatever they'll do it if it's 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general Yeah so basically uh starting from Chick-fil-A making seven dollars an hour working at uh taking phone calls and then upgrading to uh Dublin insurance and then tech company I was making roughly 15 bucks an hour and uh I was on YouTube as well on the side making good money from that um and then I met Myron from doing the podcast with Solo TV to four yep so basically I had property they get 50 an hour and then my YouTube side business property was Cash Loan yes cool and then the YouTube side business why did you not go all in on that if it was profitable and like you said you were going viral when you're only making 15 an hour well it's funny because like at that point I made like a couple Bible videos but like every video was viral so you know it used to be make out of Revenue well like it doesn't always sell on every single video yep so for me it's like you know what is it going well yeah but I don't know if it can go all the way in as yet sure okay and then you and for me so when I I met him I had a Fitness business and I was still working for the feds so when you work for the feds you have to do something called Outsider approval right to get outside employment so I started my Fitness business once I got the green light you know because I got to make sure you don't do a conflict of interest or whatever like you know you can't work at a defense law firm if you're a criminal investigator right so they got to make sure they clear it et cetera so I started Fitness business and also like life coaching uh got that approved so I was doing that while simultaneously working on the job as well um and then as as YouTube started to take off that's kind of why I had to make my decision of what I'm going to do at the time working for the government I was making about 120 130 000 per year so it wasn't bad I was and what I did was I took that money invested into the Fitness business and that's how I was able to get that kick started as well so I was able to double my income by the time I how do you have the time for that dude you know that's a good question yeah luckily um so shout out to my my mentor with the Fitness business Brandon Carter he basically taught us how to like scale it where it was all automated yeah Brandon Carter yeah fantastic yeah yeah I like him yeah um so I was able to have my Fitness business I was doing it um through an app yeah right so everything was kind of like there where the you know client was able to sign in how many calories they got to eat what they got to do for workouts it was automated then I'll check in with them once or twice a week and then um I was also doing the uh the government stuff and then the podcasting as well so it did start to get a little bit crazy and then you know obviously they brought me in or whatever so it's kind of like a blessing in disguise but yeah I was working government making about 120 130k and then I was making about the same thing with the Fitness business so I was able to take that money from the government invest in that business and scale it up and it was doing pretty well so by the time I left I was making like 300 and you had problems as well no I didn't buy my first property till I left the government got it because my goal right so when I left the government I was like damn I'm losing out on a six-figure career what am I going to do here I saw the first thing I was like all right I need to replace it with real estate which actually I watched your video how to buy real estate step by step which that helped quite a bit yeah yeah I did step by step by step which was fantastic so I pulled that money out of my my tsp and bought that first property and yeah ended up working out but my goal was once I got out the government I was like okay I need to replace that 100K per year with real estate passively so I've been able to like triple that now so it's great so I had a YouTube channel that was a fitness channel and then he had a YouTube channel with his pranks and then we started doing a podcast on how helping guys become more attractive and getting girls then we realized there was a void guys were like they were struggling with girls not just because maybe they didn't have game or whatever but they had a bunch of things not and not in line right to be attracted you know not focusing on money wrong wrong being broke being fat and thinking that they're going to get an attractive girl so we're like dude we need to do a podcast to teach guys how to become attractive and all aspects so they become the complete package so that's when we kind of like collided and then we changed my YouTube channel which was a fitness channel into the podcast Channel and then his channel we converted to I think the first channel that we have now so what did you find to strike us forward most with those viewers that started really helping your guys's success on the podcast like was there a specific topic or I think being relatable because most people are talking about Authority standpoint they're like so far gone I can't really relate to that person but us being regular dudes on the street you know wanted to become better men become successful yeah they kind of like resonated with that and then for example we showed results we'll go and double this all the time and we'll get going to the podcast like how they doing this once again we're in the field doing the work so them seeing that you know what it's possible I correlate to this person so I'm curious what prompted that because usually what happens from what I've seen is that and you go through a breakup or something like that and you realize like I really got to work on myself I got to get better at this I'm lacking in this area like what prompted that to make that change for you guys um to self-improof yeah so we live in Miami Florida and Miami is one of the most competitive cities when it comes to you know dating and getting girls because the problem is that as a guy there you're competing with all the most elite Men You're competing with athletes celebrities entertainers Etc like they're all there they all have a second home there and Florida has exploded in the real estate market so even more people are coming to Miami nowadays right and the thing is in our Niche right the the dating Niche or whatever self-improvement like a lot of guys that teach guys how to get girls live in foreign places they live in Brazil they live in Colombia they live in Thailand they live in Philippines you know uh they live in Eastern Europe where you know I'll be honest like a lot of the girls are hotter they have certain habits that aren't conducive to you know they have certain how do I say this characteristics that make them better girlfriends for long-term relationships right versus being here in the west so we're one of the few guys that are not only in the United States but we're in a very competitive city where the girls are super it's very competitive and the girls are super hypergamous and hypergamy is just the the want to date a guy that's better than yourself so we're relatable like he said because we're actually dating in the United States in the west um and we're doing it in a very competitive of City so that's kind of where uh the void filled in but we the where it came from was to get attractive girls especially in competitive cities you have to be your best version of yourself you have to be so what were the most common problems that you found in your viewers 501 hygiene hygiene and being fat yeah well let's let's stop there let's let's talk about being fat okay from what I've seen it doesn't really make that big of a difference if you could overcome that with confidence if you are so confident in yourself I've seen throughout my career in real estate some of the real estate developers there were overweight some of them severely overweight yeah and I've seen them with so many different women and they have no problem they're just charismatic they're funny you want to be around them they draw people in I haven't really seen that make that big of an effect so I'll say this right you have a point however think about desire yeah for example I'm half Charisma I might be confident but like desire wise does she really want me so for example a lot guys ever have money right let's see you know what yeah but then work myself I got money and what goes warming however what did what do they really want so my thing is like even though you're you're not in shape if you're in shape I'm telling you right now it broadens your horizons because once again you get more quality girls and as well they deserve you as the person couldn't you also argue that if you are overweight and you just that isn't something that's of importance to you that they'll see that too and they say oh it's not important to him but he's confident and he has his life together he has all these other qualities it's not going to make that big of a difference well so I'll be honest about this a lot of times when you see these fat guys with a girl one of two things either they have money or they're paying for sex or paying these chicks I've seen you I I'll tell you like because there's a lot of tricks there's there's a lot of there's an entire we I don't know if you guys want to go into this but there's like an entire sugar baby culture tricking culture where girls are pseudo escorts Etc so um like a lot of these rich guys that aren't like that that are fat or whatever yeah confidence and it you know works and everything else like that but we want guys to be a complete package because let's say you have money and you have confidence right but you're fat well you're gonna alienate a large portion of women that just won't give you a chance because you don't meet a physical requirement like you're fat like it is what it is you'll turn you'll just turn them off and on top of that the girl a lot of times you're not going to get that same you know visceral desire or attraction or arousal from that woman you're not going to get the best out of her and we tell guys we want you to get the best out of your chick yeah I guess my argument would be that there's so many people out there that it doesn't matter if you've you know maybe attract 10 versus 30 because 10 is still a lot when you consider this like seven billion people in the world I will probably agree that there's I'm just intuitively a larger contingent of women that are more attracted to a non-fat person yeah there are people that are attracted to a fat guy but I also think like I also don't know yeah I guess that's all well here's the thing like I would I would agree with that yeah so in today's day and age the issue is that girls are a lot more selective now than they ever were because women make their own money feminism has kind of come in and women are strong and independent they have this narrative that Beyonce's kind of fed them where they're not settling right strong and independent what do I need you for you better come in and bring some my life and what's happened is a lot of guys are ostracized in the dating game now because a lot of guys quite frankly just don't measure up for a lot of girls and a lot of girls have how do I basically an over-inflated sense of self-worth you can attribute this to dating apps you can attribute this to Instagram you can attribute this to the internet Tick Tock Etc all of this has kind of come in and made women feel in general that they deserve the most and they deserve a top tier guy because they might have data to talk to your guy maybe they met that's actually the top tier guy maybe they hung out with one maybe they got invited to a boat party maybe they met a celebrity here so women nowadays have access to the highest levels of men so a guy that was averaged five foot eight five foot nine making 50k per year might have been able to find a girlfriend or a wife 10 15 years ago but nowadays it's a lot harder for the average guy and has been shown in the studies right one in three men hasn't had sex in a year or is a virgin between 18 and 30 women swipe right only about five percent of the men on Tinder um guys are really suffering when it comes to dealing with opposite gender and women on the other hand you know it's it's great for them because you know with the internet social media Etc they're able to have access to men that they would have never had before so so being in the dating pool right now I don't really experience that I think a lot of girl rolls like you can say of course that yeah there is like this movement right now where it's like you know your dessert you you just should you deserve the most you're like that you're you're the best or whatever yeah the woman I see that just scrolling on the feed and everything yeah but I will also say there's a ton of stuff that's put out there on Tick Tock Instagram YouTube all that stuff that kind of shuts down women as well for example like an extremely attractive girl posting selfies on her Instagram and then girls comparing themselves to this woman you know like feeling poorly about themselves that does happen but still think about all the girls on Instagram right for example let's start going to Idaho she's maybe like a smooth seven or six on a scale of one out of ten and like she's legit like average girl however let's say for example she gets a damn from like Drake or three songs you know flight of California I'll fly you out that one experience transfers everything so my thing is yeah but I don't think that really happens that often oh you'd be surprised you'd be surprised by that you'd be surprised especially in La bro yeah you'd be surprised dude girls in major cities have more opportunities than ever before like the internet that has changed the game I talked about this in my book why women deserve less by the way but uh in general um like girls in big cities have more opportunities than ever before and the thing is is that they don't really have to prove themselves anymore like if they're hot they have an Instagram profile Etc guys that are Elite are gonna hit them up and say yo let's hang out and let's go into like a dream scenario right let's say you turn 18 right and all of a sudden girls are offering to fly you out to California to hook up with them you're getting offered to go on boats you're getting offered to get your bills paid you're getting offered to go on extravagant dates at Salt Bay's restaurant and you haven't done anything in life you just graduated high school what would you how what kind of person would that make you you would feel entitled you would think you're better than the other uh than the opposite gender you would think that you're special you would think that you deserve all this just because you exist and that is a lot of modern day women is it all no but a lot of them do have their mindset isn't it just the market value that people place on on looks at this point to me that just seems like that's existed since the beginning of time yeah but with social media and internet it's m simplified it to another degree because it used to be a girl had to step outside to be able to get that attention to validation now she doesn't have to leave the comfort of her own home she's able to effectively scale her dating options the same could be true about a guy a guy could build his entire career without ever setting foot out of the house could make a ton of money big difference men have to earn their value women are given their value so as a man even if you become successful make money you're still gonna have to go out there talk to the girl Court the girl not stink not be a weirdo not stutter over your words still display some semblance of confidence Still Still display some kind of competence so for men uh you have to earn your ability to date the opposite gender versus women don't I don't know about that I think if you're honestly just an attractive dude who's fit it's the exact same thing he's an attractive girl that's fit it's the exact like really no yes that's an experiment yeah go on Tinder right make your profile you're attractive you're a fit right yes fat not as attractive I guarantee you should get way more likely yeah but Alice I will also say guys libido is way higher so if guys are swiping on Tinder like they're oh the swipe on anything exactly anything but but that doesn't change yeah once I want you you might yeah those are very selective because everyone they'll swipe on they match yeah pretty much literally bro and they did a study on this they took a guy right that was like top tier looks in shape it said Etc model type looks put made a tender profile for him then they took a girl that was morbidly obese like 300 pounds not attractive at all but made a profile for her she had almost 500 matches the guy only had a little over 100 in a 24-hour period in a major city so that tells you right there and then that for men even if you're a top tier guy top tier men don't get the same amount of options as below average women and you gotta hope they show up for the date that they even like you because you know all that comes into play because once again you might be a cool guy to her but you might turn off by how you speak how you are and that's actually got to include as well here's the difference between men and women when it comes to dating when a guy goes on a date with a girl he's looking for a reason to qualify her uh you know what she's kind of fat but she's nice uh you know what I don't like her hair but you know what she seems really cool or I like her shoes like guys go on a date looking for a reason to qualify the girl right when girls go on dates or when girls talk to men they're looking for a reason to disqualify you and it could be the smallest thing oh his shoes don't match oh I don't like his belt oh he sounds kind of weird like girls are looking to disqualify men because they have so many options versus men don't have as many options so they're looking to qualify any girl I think a lot of it is really just confidence I think that's really what it comes down to is getting experience going to the gym being the best version of yourself of course yeah uh but I feel like a lot of people just kind of get stuck where they feel like even if they do that they're still not going to be attractive but imagine Graham yes the guy that's raised by a single mom right he has no one to look up to he's going through school it sucks he's depressed like that guy has no hope unless he has a change of person that he meets for example or he sees a YouTube video changes his life the guy's stuck so unfortunately most people are in that box and we also live in a gynocentric society where we push the female experience over the male experience we tell men to you know be more feminine be nice get in touch with your feelings and all those other you know soft stuff and the reality is that men need to be more masculine now than ever before but the thing is is that see we live in a society right where we lie to men and tell them get in touch with your feelings be nice be soft Etc girls even say this oh open up to me but the reality is they want a guy that's traditionally masculine strong and stoic women don't want guys that are feminine and emotional like them but see I feel like as long as you pick a lane and you stick with it and you're congruent with that and you believe in that people are drawn to that because you are your true self whether that's a little bit more feminine more masculine somewhere in the middle if you pick something you're like this is who I am take it or leave it congruency confidence and that unwavering ability to say this is who I am that's a masculine trait though being congruent sticking to your guns is a masculine trick but couldn't you say even if you're more feminine that maybe that's that airs more on that side of that oh then you'd be congruent by yourself the girls wouldn't accept that so like yeah so like women don't so the thing is is that girls will sit there and say get in touch with your feelings and be more feminine whatever but the reality is that they're not attracted to that what we've come to learn because we've interviewed over 2 000 women on our channel right we've looked at studies we've talked to thousands of men no one has spoken more of modern day women than we have in the west what I've come to realize this alarming Discovery is that women will say one thing but actually do something else or respond completely differently to things that were that are unconventional that guys typically don't think is attractive for example a girl will say I like nice guys but the reality is she's chasing the guy that doesn't call her back that doesn't sit there and negotiate with her and doesn't give her attention but the guy that gives her all the attention takes her on four dates gives her flowers treats you like a princess same with a guy a guy most men would Trace would would go after the woman who's not calling them back who's playing hard to get who's saying you know I think most guys would be happy to get anything they don't even get they don't even have the options but between the two if you have someone who's calling you all the time who's always wanted to hang out versus someone else who's maybe like having their own life they're doing their own things they're not calling you back all the time I think that's just a human trait no it's it's definitely more female and the reason why it's more females because women have way more options for men right if a girl's calling you all the time being annoying that's one thing but most guys don't even have that experience like only a small percentage men are in a position where they're able to filter out women like that you're calling me too much get out of here that's a smart percentage of guys most guys can't even get a date most guys can't even talk to a girl it is so bad that like guys resorting to like sex robots and like think about it the whole only Fan's economy is built off of men while getting sex why is that it's the current market that we live in and as well most guys know it is bro they want a girl but they don't know how to get a girl so what did they do jerk off go watch a sex movie It's just sad bro yeah I feel like a lot of people get to a point of that where eventually they get tired and that's when they make a change there's there's got to be some Catalyst for them to to want to make a change from what from watching porn or no not necessarily watching porn I think it's more so of of being unhappy with your current life and wanting to make a change oh yeah and seeing an outcome of that of course of course you have to find a way out though yeah and but most people can't find a way because they don't know how to yeah well I think I think a lot of that just comes down to just discipline and and pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone of course of course but yeah but in different Endeavors right so like like I would say like you know pushing yourself out of your comfort zone a lot of times is being able to tell girls no holding women accountable we live in a society where girls honestly aren't held accountable a lot of the time they're not told no they're not told that this is unacceptable Behavior right we got girls out here that want to have a boyfriend at home that's going to be strong and masculine and dutiful but at the same time they want to be able to go to the girls night out and club and you know talk to other men and get other phone numbers and still be able to court their options and I look at it like no that's unacceptable Behavior but if I say that they look at like that's misogynistic no that's just having boundaries and respecting yourself why are you giving a relationship to a girl it wants to behave like she's single it's weird because I have not had that experience of of having to like you know say hey honey don't go out tonight or yeah it's it's maybe I gravitate towards people who naturally are inclined to stay home well also you gotta remember you know multi-manner yeah but no status I didn't I didn't always used to be like that I mean I was grinding at like 18 years old but nothing and even throughout High School I mean I'm like five foot three not the tallest guy everyone I've dated has been taller than me yeah what do you have though ambition she saw you going somewhere in places in life high school maybe I mean I was playing the drums I mean that's really what I had going for me I was playing the drums there are qualifiers for anybody and I think really when it comes down to it I honestly probably would put confidence at the utmost like the most important thing if you're trying to find a mate I would say it would be confident but it was it was never the money though because I remember even being 21 I had just bought my first property could not get a date every date it would go on and I'd be swiping online I think I was on like Okay Cupid I was desperate yeah and you want to go on a date with me the few dates I did go on instant friend zone instant but I would go in I was nervous as unsure of myself and even that was me I think making a hundred and something thousand a year I just bought my first property I got a lot of things going for me even the ambition that you talked about right but I couldn't for some reason get myself out of my head of just like does she like me it's just it I and I feel like that once I got out of my head on that it really just embraced this is who I am that's when things really started to change well confidence is important but you have to have other things in place too I always say if anything you need to get respect from your girl first that that is a foundation from which everything will be built because if your girl doesn't respect you she cannot love you I would say if you're if you're defining it as a generally like a a general guiding principle I would say everything so far yeah it would make I think a lot is just having boundaries but I feel like it goes both ways doesn't it like for women I feel like they need to have a standard that I think their partner should hold on to as should demand for the woman oh here's the problem though here's the problem women standards are celebrated men's standards are discriminate or made fun of right so like if a guy says I don't want to promiscuous woman I don't want a girl that's fat I don't want a girl that's rude that's annoying that's crass that's considered insecure but if a guy if a girl says I want a man that's taller than me makes me more money than me successful ambitious you go girl you know you're worth you go Queen the problem is that male boundaries are disrespected female boundaries are totally respected and encouraged and even if a girl doesn't let's say a girl's fat obnoxious and rude and quite frankly doesn't deserve the caliber of man that she thinks she deserves Society will still prop her up and tell her you deserve that multi-millionaire six foot six foot three guy but even though you're ugly but let's just say that is what's wrong with that if with what if she feels like she's entitled to that what what does that do what negative outcome does that have well the problem with that is that number one she feels entitled when she hasn't earned it and then number two is that that sets her up for long-term failure because the reason why so many girls are perpetually single is because they overestimate their sexual market value and what I mean by sexual market value is their looks they think they qualify for a guy that's an eight or a nine top tier guy when there are five and the reason why they think that is because the amount of match with one of these guys on Tinder they might have slept with one of these guys on a drunken hookup or they might have went out on a coffee there with one but the reality is you were able to attract that guy but can you retain that guy and that's where many modern day women fail they're not able to retain these Caliber men they can just get social sexual situation with them and nothing else but then they think okay I deserve this caliber of guy I'm not settling or if they do it settle they treat the guy that's actually on their level very poorly because they think they deserve more so this delusion ends up not only affecting their ability to find a guy but ends up hurting the guy that ends up selling it doesn't feel like it's 50 fault for both sides it's also the guy's fault it is for not setting boundaries yes for accepting but it goes back to what I said men don't set boundaries because they're shame for doing something if I say if I I can get cancer for saying a girl is fat and rude I can literally they'll be like oh taking this down off Tick Tock that's hate speech that's misogynistic but if a girl says small dick energy I'm not dating a short guy completely no one bats an eye men can't have standards but women can let's pushing I'll go yeah I mean I'm a short guy yeah I understand that I'm not going to be everyone's cup of tea yeah of course but my thought is that you know out of seven billion people there's enough of a percentage that would be into what I have to offer for sure and obviously you've been able to amplify that by you know creating a great platform you know making yourself very financially successful Etc but the point I'm trying to make is that a girl can go on the internet and make fun of you for being short and say you're a loser and you have small dick energy but if you went ahead and you said well you're a fat you're gonna get canceled but I feel like guys say that all the time online and they get canceled no but defensive it depends on who we're dying if we're talking about random people online I feel like they already say that and here's the other thing a girl can make fun of a guy for being short he can't control that right but if a dude makes fun of a girl for being fat she can absolutely control that but we sit here and say love your curves you go girl Queen but if a guy is short uh well small dick energy short dude you can't control that I don't know I feel like you almost have an advantage now being short because you could really exemplify other qualities and people look at you for sure differently so I feel like you could always play to his strength optimistic yeah you're optimistic yeah most guys and here's the other thing too like what I'm basically trying to demonstrate here is that female standards are always celebrated male standards are always disrespected and looked at as discrimination why do you feel like it's that way well men can't speak openly about what they want like you said before men need to have boundaries right sure what I'm saying is that's the reason why so many men don't have boundaries is because it's Politically Incorrect and socially unacceptable for meant to have boundaries I'll give an example if I tell guys yo you have a girlfriend she needs to respect you she shouldn't be at the club you know shaking booty and hanging out with their girlfriends and going to Miami for girls trips they'll sit there and tell me that I'm insecure they'll say oh what's wrong with you what are you so insecure about no it's just common respect that you have a man at home why are you putting yourself in precarious situations that could hurt the relationship right but um but on the other end right like girls are totally like if a girl says I want this caliber of man I want this whatever even if she doesn't qualify for it so sign will prop her up and tell her you deserve that man like no one ever tells women no but we definitely tell men No so at what point though does trust factor into that like let's say for friends getting married or I don't know her friends celebrating a birthday yeah there's 15 of her friends going out she wants to join yeah at what point does trust play into that where it's like you don't want to tell them no don't go and hang out with your friends because you're going to a club I mean to me that just seems like well I was I was I say you you can't control a girl you obviously can't do that so you're gonna stay inside the only thing you could control is what you do and how you respond you want to go cool you're single when you come back but but there's got to be a line here right but yeah that's not manipulation at all but but let's tell me boundaries and not acting on that example hold on let me give my example sure go ahead uh one year relationship she's going out with her friends celebrating a birthday party sure thing 15 girls are gonna be there she's known forever you would tell her no you can't go to that because you're going to a club I would tell her you can go and do whatever you do but you will be single when you return but why why why does that make sense to throw out a relationship like that that otherwise is good because if she respects you she wouldn't have went in the first place but that seems like more like an ultimatum that you're placing on it's not ultimatum she has a choice to make okay but that's an ultimatum no no it's like no no she could do it she's completely free to do whatever she wants because the thing is is that she's putting the she's putting the relationship in a risky situation why why would she be don't you would you trust me because let's be honest here what are nightclubs for well here's the thing so I will say in general oh okay in general yeah nightclubs are for meeting other people okay all that sort of stuff I get that but I've also seen just as many innocent encounters where women want to go to both dance with their friends have a great time and I don't see the issue with that I think it really depends on the context I think it depends on context as well like if it's all of her friends and they're like hey it's you know so-and-so's birthday you should come and it's a really close friends of those birthday it's like you're not gonna tell the like oh sure it's not an ultimatum but effectively it is right you can't set that on on your well I suppose you could right on your girl though and and expect that like I don't know it's it's her friends right unless if she was leading the charge and she was like everyone let's go to the nightclub and she invites all of her friends but she doesn't invite you that might be a little bit different but you have to have some compassion for her because you also understand that she has a Duty or a diligence to her friends in the same way that she does to you remember we mentioned earlier right about there being bad people in the world right and you don't really know who the person is like being bad so for example in that environment there's bad people now she might be an angel she might be perfect or friends may be like yo Laquisha don't worry about your man at home just have fun tonight we're all lit we're all drunk and that one encounter of that one bad friend spoil the whole group I'm just saying the environment there can be tainted now is it gonna happen who knows we're just saying if you have a man at home why people in that situation why it's it's not a good look like you're going to be in an area where there's a bunch of thirsty men offering your girl liquor trying to dance with her and put them and it puts the girl in a bad position here's the other thing too she could get drunk and something could happen and then next thing you know bam like she's yo boyfriend we didn't even know it's like legit bro funny bachelorette parties bro oh my gosh yeah a bunch of girls oh they're just chilling by themselves before there's a gang of guys in there in their room and I'm just saying bro things happen so don't be dumb about it be smart here's the thing here's the thing I refuse to give a woman the comfort of security with me as her boyfriend while she can simultaneously and behave as though she's single I have boundaries and standards and this is what it comes with it because the thing is is that if a girl truly respects you she's not going to want to go to the club she's not going to want to be around her friends that want to go ahead and do all this extra stuff because yeah like like she's not going to want to behave like she's single when she's with a man that she actually admires and respects and my thing is if she wants to go to Club that's cool but you no longer are in a relationship with me because I'm not going to look stupid sitting at home while you go out and behave like you're single that's this is the first point I actually would say I have a pretty strong disagreement fair enough look if you trust your partner and you trust their friends because also it's you your due diligence as your you know your partner's partner to get to know her friends and to understand who she likes hanging out with because she probably wants that too and if you can trust everybody and they're all going out to the club and she wants to have a good time I feel like there's nothing wrong with that but if you set this not ultimatum but if you make this apparent and it's a boundary at this boundary apparent in the beginning of the relationship such as hey if we're dating I don't want you going to the club it makes me uncomfortable uh would you do me the respect of not going to the club I think that's fine because that's just a preference at that point right and I think all preferences are probably you ever been to a club yeah website Club yeah people dance well drink what does that lead to dancing and drinking sex that is one of the potential outcomes but that that's not a one-to-one ratio it's not like you just so here's the thing I did it here's I think this is where I disconnected you can dance and do that this is where the disconnect is disconnect is this I think you guys grossly underestimate like how easy it is for women to get sex and since it's easy for women to get sex a threshold for them to cheat is also easier as well it's a slightest scale that works together like for men it's very difficult to get sex doesn't mean they always want sex though because it's always available it doesn't mean they're going to take it but here's my thing yeah I look at it if your girl is out dressed provocatively and seeking attention that is cheating and some people might look at me like whoa what do you mean it's because men and women are different a man has to actually go out there put his nuts on the line talk to a girl to initiate some type of interaction women don't do that women rarely if ever approach men how do they do it they do it by exposing their sexuality men show their Charisma women show their bodies how would that be any different from a guy driving down with like you know a Bentley convertible with a nice watch on because you still got to put in work you still have to put in work to get that girl even though the Bentley and the watch all it does it gives you another 20 seconds to to that is to build attraction if anything like it's still very difficult as a man even let's say you got a Bentley and a nice watch and everything else like that a girl will still curb you like but a girl on the other hand she could go into a club going ah and dudes will still smash her but if you go into the club you gonna go to jail you know what I mean like it's not the same thing if you do that with confidence you walk it through yeah I do they're gonna be like yeah oh because that is who you are but the thing is is that so people hate this but the reality is there is a double standard men and women are not the same there's behaviors that are completely unacceptable for women and there's behaviors that are completely unacceptable for men and that's okay and my thing is is that women get mad at double standards that don't benefit them that's where they complain about I look at it if you're in a relationship with a man you like that man Etc and he tells you hey these are my boundaries and you want to go out to the club with your girls and behave like you're single cool you are effectively single at that point and that man reserves the right to walk away from you and I think he should because as a self-respecting man that's providing a relationship and security to that woman it's extremely disrespectful for her to put herself in a precarious situation so the relationship she can't also provide her own security like she can also have a job have her own money and okay that sounds great on paper right but so does communism here's the problem now we're getting into the feminism topic all right women even when they make their own money and can provide their own security they still want a man that makes on average about 56 percent more than they do women don't seek their equals most of the time bare minimum they seek their equal they want men that are better than them in almost every regard height income strength competence confidence all these things because women look for security long term men don't care about these things so if a girl is able to create her own security that's great but that's not something that men really care about I I do want to bring it back to this club discussion we should revisit that sure do you think that it could be rooted in some form of insecurity not allowing your girl to go to the club because for me personally if if I was dating a girl and I truly I I believed her and I thought that there was trust between us I really couldn't care less as long as she's safe and I know that she will be physically safe she can go and do as she pleases you ever seen your girlfriend's phone or a girl's phone no I'm just saying right bro like people you can trust to a certain extent but environments you can't trust because for example it might not be here it could be your friend it could be somebody else yeah it could be for example her ideal type of guy oh my God that's like uh Dez Bryant you don't know who's in there it's like why be in that scenario we don't know what's gonna happen and like but I feel like that's life though it's like every scenario you don't know what's gonna happen no I don't think I need control over every single aspect of my life about mitigating risks though but the thing is the risk is already so mitigated and on top of that there's a risk of just thinking someone else's life is kind of your own when you put this ultimatum on them that's just not it no no it's just what you're wanting to tolerant what you're not willing to tolerate to me it feels like a lot of wasted energy on somebody else and you could be focusing that on yourself better yeah yeah just like thinking of this like what's in her phone what is she doing well he just used that as an example so you guys understand like what like kind of like what a girl's phone is like but right it's not and security it's here's the thing it's Security in knowing that a woman is a woman women are emotional creatures their actions are dictated by how they feel at the moment and the time okay so if they're with their friends they're drinking their friends want to go ahead let's go talk to those guys they're cute blah blah blah that one thing could lead to another and the thing like I said before the threshold for cheating for a woman is far less than that of a man I look at it if you're gonna dress provocatively talk to other men kiss another guy dance another guy that's all extremely disrespectful behavior that constitutes this cheating yeah I don't think you should kiss other people and I will but say hey like you're opening the door for it I'm gonna give you one they're gonna go to the club so I'm in Miami I have a lot of celebrity friends right this celebrity is always a Miami partying so one night we're out at this club Vendo and we're in our section just vibing having a good time goes like Oh my God I'll come to section whatever there's a bunch of these bunch of white girls from California right they're here in Miami the party have fun I think it's somebody's birthday and at least five of them have boyfriends so they come to section they get drinks whatever they're chilling and we're just talking right so some of our boyfriends like you have a boyfriend whatever we're just coolness we leave the club go back to their house bro I guarantee you I kid you not bro look who's our boyfriends what did it what are they actually doing at the house yeah you're doing the worst and some of them but slept with dogs I'm just saying this happens it is possible I'm not saying it's of course that's possible anything else we can walk outside of the door and get struck by lightning as possible I see that to say it's not the ultimately it's possible so if it's possible to happen if it really cares about you she'll not be an antibiant at all so you know what I have to go on my man's home I'm leaving with her to stay at an environment bro that's the Spectrum here's the thing that's also a small percentage no yeah I mean I thought we're like maybe five percent I mean what would you say out of a of the of cheating or of yeah but both of cheating and and women that would put themselves in that scenario well the new studies now show that women cheat more than men 50 of married women have a backup guy here's the thing guys we teach guys to mitigate risk when men get in relationships with women they take on far more risk than a woman does we live in a world now where if you get married to a girl she can clean you out take you on alimony child support you lose the marital home Etc guys take way more risk when they get in long-term relationships with women so I tell guys we live in a society where women are encouraged to be hoes to be promiscuous excise their options to go ahead and get the best guy that they can get to date multiple men at the same time they're encouraged to have all these bad habits that are not conducive to good long-term relationships so the only way that you can combat this through feminism and all everything else that's going on in the modern day world is you need to be very strong on your principle and very strong on your frame when a girl's with a man that she loves admires and respects and knows that this guy will leave her if she does some stuff like that that in itself is the power where the girl's not gonna say Okay I want to go to the club or whatever because she knows better she knows I'm with a winner I don't want to um put myself in a situation where I can effectively be single by going out to the club with this guy you need your girl to be more scared of losing you than you are of losing her and that's where I want guys to be I want them to be in a situation where the girl likes them more than they like the girl and I know that sounds evil but the reason why is because that's the only way you're going to combat the amount of options that women have the bad habits that modern day women have and practice with the you know dating multiple guys being promiscuous Etc you need to have the girl like you more than you like her because that puts you in an authority role a leadership role makes you the dominant in the relationship and it will have her be loyal to you respects because quite frankly the only thing that women the main thing that men care about when it comes to women is loyalty yeah that's really what we care about women on the other hand tall money charismatic Charming confidence is you dress well they smell well men all we want be pretty be loyal and she might like you but does respect you that's huge bro and what do you think the difference is between that how do you what would you call respect because we know boundaries she follows them bam she likes you should do whatever she wants that right there tells you really cares about you and that guys for most guys like you know what she likes me she doesn't respect me yeah that goes along here's the other thing too the reality is and this is why our podcast is so popular nowadays most guys don't have the balls to tell their girl hey I don't commit to girls that like to go to the club I don't commit to girls I like to go on girls trips Etc most guys are happy with whatever they can get so they'll tolerate disrespect they'll tolerate bad behavior they'll tolerate crass attitude disrespect in front of their friends beginning cursed out even attack sometimes because the need for getting laid is that strong where they'll tolerate female bad behavior all the time so I tell guys you need to be on point and not tolerate that bad behavior because it will make your life miserable yeah what yeah do you see on the men's side being bombs and losers and not and not having frame not being an authority in the relationship and not being willing to tell women what you like and what you don't like because most guys would prefer their girl not to be in the club however they can't tell her that because their sexual market value isn't high enough to dictate those terms so they can't tell a girl anything because they got the Girl by The Skin of Their Teeth so how are you going to tell her hey I don't commit to girls that go to the club you should be lucky I'm here and that's the problem and if you're a guy right that doesn't want to succeed in life become better you're selfish because once again let's see we want to get a family right if you're not your best version of yourself that means you're going to suffer so I want to say honestly speaking like if you're a guy that wants to succeed in life you need to improve most guys what do they want to do play video games smoke weed relax and that leads to what nothing so it's just sad man it's really sad so I think guys really need to be willing to have boundaries and enforce them and and a lot of guys don't have boundaries and worse yet they don't enforce them I agree I think boundary is important and I think obviously enforcing boundary is important because what would a boundary be if it wasn't enforced yeah but at the same time I think like look providing that not an ultimatum oh the club exam yeah I think if you go if you go to the beginning of the relationship and you establish the boundaries and you set precedent and everything I think that's lovely I think anyone can do whatever that's all you got to do it they want yeah okay yeah it's not like you're gonna drop this on her a year later and be like oh yeah by the way you can't go to the club no she knows when she first meets you what type of guy you work because here's the thing guys women know what kind of guys they could play with and what guys they can't play with facts okay they size you up when they meet you oh this guy's kind of a pushover I could get away with this oh this guy I can't do get away with this he's going to leave me you need to be that guy that's the latter if I do some BS he's going to leave me because as a man that's your only Power in 2023 women have all the leverage when it comes to dating nowadays but they still want relationships they still want to be with that guy you need to become that guy and let them know this relationship is contingent upon your behavior I will not tolerate BS from you and if you if you do I will go ahead and replace you with another girl and this more controversial topic that's why I think I should have multiple girlfriends monogamy is not in your best interest as a man what what led you to believe that well what I've come to realize look at all guys that are in marriages this is this is um human human evolution women respect men that have social proof and women respect men that can replace them so if you have other women the girls that you have will behave better because they know that they can be replaced at any time but couldn't you also say that you don't need more girlfriends or wives to to accomplish that that if you are go to what you do you have passion you're funny confidence like all of these things are qualities that you could you know find someone else if you if you that's true but it's sometimes you got to give girls a reminder and that's and the reason why I say that is because she has a constant reminder of her value with Instagram with guys hitting on her with the internet Etc so you kind of have to like go coming back to that thing where she needs to like you more than you like her unfortunately for us as human beings I wish it wasn't like this guys by the way I really wish it wasn't like this but I've done so much study on this and I figured this out women want men that other women want to be with right and other men want to be that's just how it is you go into any nightclub where all the girls concentrated in the VIP sections with the guys a minority of men are having sex with the majority of the women women look for the same traits and Men typically regardless of how they say that they're special so my thing is if you have other girls that is a very honest indicator that you are attractive and if a girl sees you with other women and she sees that you're attractive she's going to respect you and she's going to want to fight for you even more so when she knows that there's competition it's human nature look you don't have to cheat we're just saying in fact you can attract other girls is very important yeah yeah I mean I think you should have multiple girls as a guy so that girls don't get comfortable but that's my way on it you could do it maybe where you might flirt with another girl or maybe she's like damn this guy or maybe you make yourself available foreign to me because that's not something I could ever do I just I couldn't everyone's different about it yeah but what I've realized is when I have multiple girls the girls that I have behave way better because they know that they can be replaced versus when I have just one girl she starts to get comfortable disrespect can happen it's cetera now can you do in other ways maybe you're not as available all the time her mind is racing you know I've always had a woman's imagination is your best friend as a man right but there's nothing more solid than her seeing you with other girls knowing that damn okay this guy is it and the way women May select is the way women May select is based on doubt do I have the best guy that I can get and if she feels like she has the best guy that she can get bam she's gonna turn off that radar looking for other guys and you win but the way that she needs to see that a lot of the times is by through other women women are very strong social creatures right if we all go to a club right and let's say Graham sees a hot girl right he's like hey guys uh chick is hot I'm leaving we ain't gonna be like oh what are you doing but he's not he doesn't need our opinion he's just gonna go leave her she's hot he likes her cool women however they're not like that they meet a guy at the club they're gonna go to the bathroom they're gonna have their powwow oh I met this guy what do you think he's here's this scram what do you think blah blah blah they're gonna need a co-sign from the other girls but let's say you were in the club and you had two girls with you and then you talked to her well she's not gonna need to consult with her friends to the same level because she already saw you with women so she knows off RIP by you being with other women okay he's not a creeper he's not a serial killer he's not a weirdo these beautiful women have signed off on him so he's doing something right this is why men that have women men that have sex a lot of girls are respected versus on the other side you see a girl with a bunch of dudes you're like oh what the hell for example Dan Bilzerian yeah you know that's why guys respect him because he has a bunch of chicks around them but when a girl has a bunch of dudes there's like what is this is porno I'm good I don't want to be around this so women respect men that have other uh women because it's a sign of social proof and status I think you're talking about a really unique contingent of people also in like that Miami life here in Las Vegas and when I was living in Southern California that was not my my experience in the dating scene I think for the most part two people in like I said in my experience and through my friends and my friends that are girls as well like you kind of just want a one-on-one relationships that's that's what most people just desire that's what fulfilled people the most is what made them the most happy now how much upbringing plays into this because I feel like in like like what Jack was saying a lot of upper like in in your area is very much like family oriented yeah um nothing crazy I know Miami would be the exact opposite I grew up with two parents they were married together did you guys grow up with yep I grew up in a two-parent household Muslim household parents are still together and I saw them and I was like okay this looks like you guys look super happy and that's kind of like what what shaped I guess my belief in like okay this is kind of what I want to achieve but I want to do that as well that we're not only in Miami for example we travel a lot and as well we were other places before so I get what you're saying with the Miami clubs like what type of environments are you going to you're going to clubs you're going to like Barnes and Noble I mean like there's probably a different group of people here's here's an uncomfortable reality women will share a man if he's high value enough girls would rather share a guy that's a winner than have a loser all to themselves and with feminism coming in where women earn more money than ever before they're more educated than ever before they have higher status than ever before there's a dwindling amount of men that are able to compete for their attraction so what ends up happening women become victims of their own success they go up the totem pole doors close man you go up the totem pole doors open so women whether they want to accept it or not are sharing the same small percentage of men so what I'm saying is that I get what you're saying where two-parent household nuclear family I agree with that I think that's the backbone of the United States but we're quickly going into a society where most men are not going to qualify for most women yeah and most girls would rather stay single than settle down with a guy that's below them in their eyes that's where we're at nowadays and if you talk to any attractive girl in a major city that's how a lot of them think we've interviewed two thousand girls from pretty much all 50 states 30 plus countries whether it's the United States Canada England UK even even the poorer countries like Ukraine or Romania whatever women still want to gravitate towards the highest status men it's just the way just just the way they may select so the days of being an average guy and being able to find a girl it's getting tougher and tougher for the average guy see I just don't have enough data like yeah yeah this is so beyond yeah I know I'm like I'm used to or like accustomed to or what I've seen so I can't comment because it's like it's it's so far out of what I've experienced yes right understandable understandable and and for people that like and I've noticed that like people that aren't like in a dating scene right now or have been haven't haven't uh been in a relationship for a long time and they're just kind of getting back into it like a lot of these things I say shock them they're like what the hell like is it really changed that much and I talk about this in a book extensively like how the dating Marketplace has changed drastically thanks to feminism thanks to the Internet thanks to Instagram thanks to social media in general like things have changed where it's made it a lot more difficult for a guy to get a date and even in the past five years has changed drastically how so what way um making it harder for guys yeah well now you have only fans you have twitch you have uh Instagram Tick Tock how does it make it harder because as a man you're competing right with all these other guys that are giving her attention access so so women what happens is this a girl has a social media following right even an average girl two thousand five thousand ten thousand followers she now thinks that she qualifies for the top tier guys because she has somewhat of a social media following or people are hitting her up on the Internet so again she thinks that her value is higher than what it really is because the internet constantly reaffirms that and tells her oh my God you're so beautiful look at any I take an experiment if you guys have any female friends which I hope you don't but if you do go ahead ask her can I see your phone look at her Instagram DMS look at her text messages you guys are gonna see like I think one of the biggest things that like awares guys on like how many options girls have look at a girl's phone man and you guys will see what I'm talking about those aren't necessarily the the DM she wants to get or like exactly you're right but what is it numbers in her head you know what I'm attractive like all these guys gonna be up I'm hot that leads to what her saying you know what yeah but that's like you know the creepy guy like in the corner of the bar coming up to him be like hey I think you're pretty but she's still getting validated though but then there's one or two that are blue checked her out she's celebrities that hit her up is like whoa this this is me I did this oh I'm amazing I'm special like I'm telling you bro it does something to their psyche where because women are naturally solipsistic right studies show this and they're thinking the world revolves around them and naturally narcissistic because beauty is their main agency so you take someone that's naturally solipsistic naturally narcissistic and you give them the amplifier of social media and the internet and attention from random dudes all over the world telling them they're beautiful beautiful and they're Queens no matter how they behave bro that's a recipe for disaster look at what they post why would they post that attention I don't know see I look at it from a very logical standpoint of you know anything for the algorithm and I think if they want to grow their five like I don't know 99 of these girls don't monetize yeah no but they don't make money why would they do that what's the bottom line of it it's attention attention like let's do the same thing they'll post pictures of the cars watches like I I see the same thing guys oh my God I love your car it's like you are bro I'm a car head yeah it's different if you post your body as a guy in the gym you're gonna get a bunch of dudes hey you looking slow bro yeah but but that's a but that's a similar ego boost of you feeling better about yourself other you get other people's approval rather whether it's male or female doesn't that have a similar not to the same degree as a dude right let's say you got a top-tier Instagram you've private jets and all this other stuff right you got to talk to your Instagram you're still not going to get a fraction of the attention as an average chick and here's the difference you had to earn that car you had to earn that watch you had to earn that ability she takes a random pick on the beach with a bikini and they're like 10K what's your cash app what someone could have inherited the money they could have they could have won something I mean there's a whole bunch of scenarios too where someone would have money but beauty is far more common the beauty is far more common than guys that inherit money let's be honest I think a lot of beauty is just in the it's corny yeah in a way I mean some sometimes it's just like but you are drawn to a certain person over another but as a guy like I said earlier let's smash anything yeah girls can get any man they want yeah men can only get what they can yeah there's a saying girls get who they want make it who they can in a nutshell it's it I'm telling y'all man I go into detail about this in my book by the way why women deserve less I'll read it bro uh but I talk about it because like so many guys like will sit there and give a girl money they'll give her attention they'll give her likes they'll give her all this stuff and she never liked them in the first place okay I got a uh sure random question on the philosophy of all of this sure from a casual I wouldn't even call myself a casual viewer but someone who obviously sees the title of this book why women deserve less yeah oh and hardcover as well exactly and audio coming Auto audible coming soon the general uh idea of this conversation yeah I could see a lot of people hearing what you guys are saying yeah and developing some sort and although maybe they're not heeding what you're saying like to the T of incel type Behavior oh man I really could see those can we go no no no I'm not doing this just to be a contrarian I'm just saying when you nearly solely at least on this post podcast yeah talk about like how women are being propped up and how men are the ones that like you gotta grind you gotta work and they just get it handed to them and stuff like that like how is that supposed to it doesn't seem encouraging it seems more just like oh look at this poor hand that we were dealt and boom like you know like it doesn't sound like you're propping them up propping men up yes no we're giving them the uncomfortable realities that no one gives a about you you're a man you have to go out there and earn your value but understand that women are given their value and we don't play the same game do you think that that has that will yield better results absolutely than coming from a place of like look sure maybe this is the way that it is but at the same time this means that it's your time to go and be badass like work out get strong I talk about that in the book I talk about like how you have to prioritize yourself you got to get in the gym make your money become the man right and then the girls will be a byproduct but the problem is that guys think I can be mediocre and still get a girl but yeah but I think it's some of that though you could still have a great job have passion be who you are and then go on a date instantly get friend zoned because you don't have that Charisma you don't have that tension you don't know how to talk to them so I think a lot of that is really just practice yeah that too and socializing that's why we say you got to go on multiple dates and deal with a lot of girls I have a rule I tell guys don't get married until you're 35 making six figures a year six months of one year Savings in shape going to the gym consistently and having sex with 50 girls 50 50. yeah that sounds like too much work 50. and and listen you could be spending that doing something that that will better your own life right so you got to get all those other things in place too but filling to you but whatever the heck you want right you said that's a lot of time it's not it's not really I'll tell you why yeah it's something you spend working on yourself and figuring out what women actually want and what their nature is you can save you money and time in the future let's say for example you spend your whole life on business your career right yeah that's all you know you find a woman it's attractive you like her you marry her guess what you're not knowing about female nature I hope women can be or what women actually want you're giving all these stuff you're kind of spoiling her she's like you know what oh I don't buy him anymore I'm Gonna Leave she cheats on you divorces you think I'll have your stuff but if you knew a woman were from the very beginning he had experience oh you know what she's actually not a good person she actually wants to use me for my money I don't want her let me tell you where the 50 girl thing came from wouldn't you sift that out though in the beginning you can't because you don't know here so let me break this down for you this is why I said 50 girls yeah by the time a girl hits puberty she's getting hit on by guys constantly whether it's kids at middle school high school the weird teacher at a party somewhere when she goes off to college Etc women have thousands of interactions with opposite gender guess what happens that's a lot of practice they get a lot of practice and figure out which guys are cool which guys are weird this dude has this weird tick this guy has money but he's lame Etc women become black belts experts at Discerning male value men however don't get nearly as much practice because you actually have to go up to her you know formulate some kind of sentence come up with some pickup line Etc most guys don't get the Reps in that they need to women however get all the Reps in right and in today's society not only do girls get the Reps in right through social media guys coming up to them whatever they're also encouraged to exercise their options to date a lot of guys women nowadays are more promiscuous than ever before so as a man how are you going to be able to go out there and pick a girl that's marriage material and or girlfriend material for a serious relationship won't know if you don't have the same amount of reps and practice here's the problem guys go out with a girl the girl will behave in a manner that she thinks the guy will like the guy's an idiot he doesn't have enough sexual experience hesitate enough girls doesn't know how to tell a hell from a housewife and he ends up committing to this girl marries her gives her a house Etc gets divorced destroyed alimony paying child support because he didn't understand how women think and female nature they make the Cardinal mistake of thinking that men and women are the same and we are not but you only get that through experience and I say if you haven't had sex with 50 girls you're going to be decently okay at being able to tell a girl that's worthy of relationship which one isn't because women have an inherent Advantage from the amount of reps that they get throughout their lifetime I just don't know if it's intercourse that's like the actual metric of like oh I understand how women's mind works and also one more thing no it has to intercourse and I'll explain why it's the football okay I wanna I wanna hear you explain why and at the same time also if girls are constantly receiving like guys that are like complimenting them trying like hitting on them or whatever like in Middle School et cetera like you just said wouldn't that require a guy in the equation that's doing the exact same thing but it's many different men is my point wouldn't you just grow numb to it after a certain point like it just becomes like a you know it kind of pings off of you and that's the point but that's the point they get they get practice to the point where they're judoing guys out of their way naturally versus you as a guy you don't know what you're doing because but when you talk to a girl as a guy she's a black bat of social dynamics at that point an 18 year old girl could walk into a room size up the room immediately because not only do women have social uh superiority over men but they're also able to detect a man's value immediately off of how he comes off you guys said first at the beginning of the podcast confidence is the most important thing you wanna know why because when a man is confident it's a symbolizer for accomplishments in his life and girls look for what security that is why confidence is so when you peel the layers back that's why confidence is so important but girls are able to detect that from your tonality the way you convey yourself body language Etc and girls have this experience way more than you by the time you actually go up to her at the party and talk to her that's why it goes like older men because they're more experienced than what they're going through in life and they know what they want intercourse to answer his problem the two sizes the token because the girl intercourse it has no it has to be a guy right but okay what you're saying like the girls they get all this experience sizing up guys or whatever yeah the person that they're talking to in the first place is a guy that's getting experience but they're not every guy yeah and you know it's funny the guy that she's talking to either he's a player he's older or he knows the game if you're saying it's very limited selection of guys that are getting all these small different group of girls yes a bunch of experience yeah they get very good at weeding out losers because most guys are losers but the point is that they get the experience girls get good at weeding out losers men never get the experience of weeding out loser chicks because they'll take whatever they can get because they don't get the same experience I I don't know for me I feel like it's it just seems like a like an arbitrary number and I think you can find somebody without 50. of course can you can you can you have 20 and meet the girl of your dreams and get married of course what I'm saying is that generally generally speaking you're going to be in a very good position if you have those five things in place that I mentioned to get out there and get married if you can make it happen perfect if you want to get married in today's day and age with all the risk going on I think those are the minimum requirements now is Everything 100 like let's say you make 90k per year like can you still yeah you know you're 10 10K off fine but what I'm saying is that you need to have experience with women the main or under I've just always believed that if you have purpose passion you do what you love you're excited about life you have friends you go out and socialize every now and then I feel like that will naturally attract people to you and then from there as long as you have you know the time and the resources to spend with another person it'll happen naturally that does help 100 and 100 that could happen to anybody yeah we're just saying is it likely coming that way for most guys probably not yeah men have to do that deliberately a lot of times these things that you mentioned it's really tough for a lot of guys they have to like put it in their head and deliberately go out and do it it's not it's very tough to do these things naturally yeah they have to be taught a lot of times they've got a job that they hate school didn't go well you know we're just saying the average guy isn't having that type of success being real with you dude the average guy can barely get a date girls flake like crazy nowadays and we have something else it's funny because we didn't notice either until we coach guys who's like this is really happening dude we were like you we're like this came out I've been this can't be real but it is it's sad because the thing is is that guys like us suffer from the Apex files you would think oh yeah it's just it's not that hard like yeah Girls Are Easy not man like a lot of guys are struggling and the more I interview girls on our show we see why every girl it's it's crazy when I ask girls describe your dream man six foot plus over a hundred thousand dollars per year yeah I want them to have a degree all this other stuff man that's less than one percent of the population matches up what they want and all the girls are chasing the same guy and worse yet they think they deserve them but to be fair that could be like a different like the girls that you're having on your podcast yeah like they're from Miami I've seen a couple of the clips no a lot of them from other states and other countries everywhere bro and different education levels I feel like it goes the other way too the guys are going to say who do you want you also have a supermodel and girl to come on the podcast in the first place was that I'm sorry you always have to think what kind of girl would agree to come on the podcast the first one at the same time we've brought a bunch of professionals on yeah I feel like a lot of people come on just to disagree and here's the other thing too okay you know what you know what's funny I love when guys say this like or people say oh you guys don't bring on Career women that are smart that are educated you wanna know what what happens when girls are educated and make money even worse they have even higher standards yeah and then what about the guys you say that you see this all the time with guys because me and my house like because I had like I live in a house with four other dudes and they don't necessarily struggle to go on dates and stuff what'd you say pause pause man I'm just kidding don't worry about it no but I actually have a good time with ping-pong oh it's lovely yeah uh but uh none of the guys usually have he thinks it's fraus trouble like going on on dates with girls and that's just been my experience and all of my friends at home like it's never been like you just kind of either get a dating app or you just have to have the confidence to like it's a numbers game you just try and try and try and then it will work out I think it's just a lot of practice but if you think about the guys that you talk to when you're Consulting those are guys that are like struggling so you're kind of getting in a sense a biased perspective a member celebrity friends oh guys that are regular guys I have friends all over I have a full school do we deal with and we're famous yeah exactly nobody's safe I'm saying right now your friends bro I guarantee you bro they do issues of girls wait are you still in college no oh okay I thought I was okay I thought Graham was yes they can get girls but are they happy are they actually fulfilled are they like being who they really want to be my thing is like you can get a girl let's see respect to you that's the big thing like here's the thing the numbers show it man there's more sexless men now than ever before limits are swiping left on Tinder 95 of the time dating after a failure for most men most guys can't get a girl to respond to their DM on Instagram In fairness okay the Tinder profiles I've seen of guys are terrible you're right DMS absolutely right but but again it comes back because to me the bar is set so low that like if you could do anything below the like anything above the average it's like that sets you it's two different things it's two different things it's you got a sliding scale on both sides so you got guys that are mediocre right and staying mediocre because they're watching porn no good pictures don't understand how women really think Etc then at the other end women's standards are going up because they're making more money and getting more status so it's creating what a bigger device between the two so you know it is what is but a lot of guys are struggling the data shows it man it's it's pretty much it's it's uh what's the word it's indisputable at this point that a majority of men are struggling to attract the majority of women and a majority of women just simply don't like a majority of men I mean it's got to a point now think about it the rise of only fans the rise of girls putting their cash apps in their Instagram the rise of girls being able to make money simply for posting feet pictures this wouldn't be going on if guys were getting late I just feel like it's a market if people are gonna pay for it it's a business if they're not hurting anybody I don't see the oh well I'm not talking about the morality of it I'm saying that it's eve the fact that it's even available speaks Vibe because my argument is that guys are struggling with women but that doesn't mean every woman would would automatically do only fans I think a lot of people out there would say you know what I I envy the money I could make but no no do that my argument is simply that there's such a void in men being able to meet and attract women that women are able to negotiate in bad faith and monetize off of it that's what why is it bad faith I feel like if they're providing a product or a service and someone's willing to pay for that service they're both consenting I don't see that being an issue well here's the thing they're they're selling you a dream when you're when you're you know we talked about this with our friend Andrew used to run a webcam company what you're selling to the guy a lot of the times is attention and the possibility of meeting the girl and that's what the girls do is they create this illusion they're going to meet you one day they're gonna you're gonna build a family you're getting this attention so girls give you that right without ever actually you know intending on delivering it to you how is your business broken down right now so you want to talk first or about the yeah so uh we do YouTube as you know yeah we go live on our podcast we have super chats we have as well ad revenue and for example uh we have like super thanks and donations and then we have twitch as well we have uh Rumble and pretty much out to rumble rumble.com that's fresh and fit yep go support them um and then we have as well real estate on the side yeah and so I have 12 real estate properties uh I've been buying crazy the past like two years getting you know obviously we had the interest rates were low so it's free money yeah so I bought I got four properties in in Miami and then another eight in Connecticut and I'm looking to expand so the real estate stuff is what I do on the side I still have my Fitness business as well uh we do Consulting courses we have sponsors too as well yeah so I have another YouTube channel called fed 1811 where I break down criminal cases more True Crime stuff for people that like that type of thing I do serial killer cases terrorism Etc and I give like my professional background in it like I'll watch the documentary or I'll cover a case and I'll give like a former investigator's perspective on I do vlogs for example our lifestyle excited Studio we travel I have a network called Studio Network where I bring people millionaires from around the world talk to our group give them advice how to network and become successful pretty much like that's another revenue for me as well yeah but yeah the podcast takes most of our time because we six we shoot six shows a week yeah so Monday Monday we do money Monday where we talk about you know Finance personal finance making money entrepreneurship then we bring in the girls for after hours we have all the girls at the table the crazy stuff and then Wednesday womanizer Wednesday teach guys tips on how to date whatever it may be some kind of topic right like five signs she's cheating on you or something like that then we'll bring the girls in again and then Fridays either they're calling sure something Fitness related and then we have the show right after so it's like daytime show and then we do after hours which is the nighttime show and but I will see each Show's like two to three hours the thing the beginning of our career we should be shot seven days a week yeah yeah four shows a day yeah non-stop like two two hours a per podcast so now we do do six podcasts a week which takes quite a bit of time and then we got our Clips Channel as well which that one's doing really well soon patreon to 46 million yeah patreon and locals can you talk about how much it's currently making right now are you able to do that I suppose read the feds maybe bro yeah let's just say we can buy a couple Rolexes a month there you go yeah I mean I'm pretty transparent I make six figures a month so I you know I uh between my real estate property and everything else so doing pretty well um all the money I make I pretty much take it and I just go buy houses with it either um I try not to buy houses cash I've done it before when like a deal there was no other way to get a deal or if it's at the end of the year and I want the tax benefits uh but yeah pretty much okay most of my income that I make gets immediately invested into uh real estate I also have some crypto uh precious metals and then I just started buying uh Rolexes and APS but that I only buy pieces that I know that are going to hold value sure and I bought a Lambo and I went broke yeah and you like cars yeah I saw the svj that you have very nice car how much can you walk us through the finances of of buying an svj how much was the cost can you break it down well I think for most people you understand first it's about trust yeah for example those type of cars get that loan almost impossible unless they trust you as a as a you know as a lender yeah so what I did was I built my relationship with these lenders over time so I bought a small car first and my first car was Range Rover then I got the um McLaren by 70s and got the Evo like a Lambo truck then I got the Rolls Royce truck then I got the svj so that trust was built over time which just mean to give me loans now regarding the uh svj that's a lease under my business and that paid I mean I'm only payment for that every month and that goes towards my taxes as well so that by itself is kind of like a business expense businessman yeah can I ask how much the lease payment is you really want to know I do okay first time being set on here oh wow is exclusive I don't share my numbers I have a reaction to it 14k a month how much 14 km 14 000 yeah oh lee it's I still dropped my 2002 Honda how much down how much down did you put on that you really want to know I do because 14 000 I thought it would be higher to be honest with you so 50k that's why wow he put a lot of money down yeah yeah he's more interesting 1.2 million can you do like at least buy it at the end of that you could are you going to no the thing is though like for me where I'm at I don't keep any of my cars that long but this car especially because like there's only one of eight of these cars in the color and it's different now I'll say this though my plan was to actually get the car have a year and sell it but knowing the value of the car now is going up and they're not making any more V12 aspirated Aventador so this is the last version that they're making I might keep it but once again I I gotta run the numbers more see more from that but like right now I might keep it how many miles do you get a month drive a lot um because it can't be that many it's got to be like 3 000 miles a year for an svj well the thing about me I have a relationship with the company the lender so I could have a different lease than most people have is this is different yeah he has a good relationship with the car people because it's tough to get those cars and then especially in Miami like there's people that want to get it so he cut the line on a bunch of people was able to get one because he had bought a McLaren he had a Lamborghini before he had like a relationship with dealers and I pay off how many he says or I sell them but yeah I'm still aggressively buying up real estate I just didn't see where you get the cash flow right now like if you're buying deals you have to buy like an eight to nine percent return to make sense over five and a half percent treasuries I'll tell you this I'm I'm getting 12 to 13 cash on cash returns in Florida in Miami which is like crazy good but yeah the houses are a little bit more expensive like you're gonna need at least 150k or whatever to be able to put a 25 down payment on these houses uh but Connecticut I'm finding good deals over there too the only problem is that it's a blue state but the benefit for me in Connecticut is uh my family is my management company so they run it I pay them and then they you know I invest I buy and then they go ahead only risk to you is if a lot more rental inventory comes on the market that's my biggest concern is that a lot of people right now if they don't need to sell they're going to rent yeah and rental listings are exploding in terms of what you could get and I'm worried that if you rent out today you're gonna be getting a lower rent a year from now just because there's going to be more on the market more for tenants to choose from that could be the risk that I see yeah I look at it like when you own though you're in a good position because sure let's say yeah because no matter what like you can either always increase the rents get another tenant or if it's that bad you could go buy another house what you might not necessarily be able to increase the rents or yeah or again that's why I said get another tenant but the other tenant might be at a lower rate depending on yeah depending on where you're at like what what I found was shocking was that and I didn't really look at rental listings or anything here in Vegas but Alex's rent was going up 300 I'm thinking okay let's just take a look at what's available and you're finding places now that are bigger nicer better location for less money and they're everywhere and we're looking and they're coming in the market like several a day yeah within a few minute distance from here cheaper than what he's currently yeah Vegas is a unique thing because you guys are building out it's true you guys are like like there's endless land to build on because you guys are in the middle of a desert right versus like some of it but the other part of it is simply people locking in at low rates can't get the price they want for sale they'll be they'll be landlords and so there's just more coming in the market that people you know weren't thinking of two years ago yeah somebody has the same problem yeah they're just like building out even more it makes sense so it's a risk but I think you know if you're cash selling 13 you get a lot of margin on even if you break even you're still paying down the mortgage exactly getting benefits so it's like and it's appreciating at a good rate too especially Florida Florida is great for appreciation so are you all in with the stocks right now then in the next ones no no I'm a third stocks third real estate third cash okay basically and the cash I want to buy more real estate but I'm just like in a weight and see approach it right now okay yeah okay because I'm just not finding any deals like yeah I want to lock something in at six and a half percent you could find that but but it's kind of for all the work and all the extra stuff it's just not worth it for that like if I could get it guaranteed 10 return I would do it given it you know commercial if you thought commercial maybe that's what I'm looking oh you're looking at commercial okay okay all right yeah that one you could be a little bit more creative with increasing otherwise maybe you're increasing rent or doing whatever yeah you got to get yeah oh you know who we had right before you guys with Ben Mala I don't know if you know oh yeah yeah he came on our show he's awesome he's hilarious yeah he's funny yeah yeah yeah yeah oh he's hilarious funny listen he's resting all of us yeah yeah I'm sure he was but he was telling me to build get some land and build a commercial space there's more margin in that yeah and it's like can you buy yourself a job for a year and a half two years yeah is that worth it yes and you got to get a construction company and everything else so I told them like if I'm not doing YouTube and I and I have all the time in the world I'd love to do something like that and like be on the job site every day and just like be a part of it I loved it yeah it just doesn't make sense if I'm if your time is split yeah and you got to be yeah you got to be honest because then they'll get lazy like they won't do what they're supposed to do Roi on a video you make bro versus like all that work is is it really worth it uh at some point it will be like I like to thank the real estate for me is always a good fallback and I I want to replace income so if I could be like if I buy this real estate and it could replace X income so if the channel something happens here then I always have that to fall back on it's like mentally I feel better with that okay yeah and YouTube that's the same way I was when I left the government I was like I'm replacing my government salary with the real estate and I was able to do that now I got another goal of what I want to make passively but that's the beauty where like real estate like how many doors do I need to control to make XYZ amount of money a month yeah and YouTube is grind is as you it is so many factors outside of your control it is time consuming and the one thing that I've just grown exhausted of is constantly thinking about the algorithm yeah just like you finish a video you feel great for an hour yep video is doing well fantastic I could Zona for an hour have a bite to eat relax but all night I'm thinking like what's the next topic what's up next what did I learn from you yeah you weren't as good as your last video oh I did say that yeah yeah okay I gotta take the course only as good as your last video don't forget that guys that is true I've got more selective now about the videos I posted because for years really since 2021 I've been posting three videos a week um regardless so if there's nothing in the market that's happening I'll find a topic to talk about I'll come up with something that I could talk about and Jack knows it's like every year I've been like this is the year I'm gonna go down to two videos a week and I've been looking for it but then I keep doing three yeah but I'm down right now to two videos a week nice so and here's another thing too like it's got more competitive with the pandemic right so many new YouTubers and it's like yeah like I was watching you back in you know when I was still agent right because I was like all right I want to make more money or get better with my credit uh but now there's all these other Finance YouTubers that came on the scene right yeah fantastic that that's the part that's hard for me yeah because it's difficult for me now to compete with all these other channels who like I feel old in the space at 32 I feel like I'm ancient and here's some 21 year olds who's coming up who has all the time in the world who's dedicating their life to making this one video yeah and they knock it out of the park and I'm looking at that thinking that seems exhausting I don't have the energy for that anymore yeah so it's it's tough to compete the thing like back in 2018 when I was doing this when you would post a video there were maybe only other 10 other people posting like exactly those videos so it's easy to stand out but now when you have a hundred other creators each posting one of their best videos and you're spending a month on it but you get 100 people all spending a month on it now you have a hundred pieces of content the bar sits so high that for me to do that I just don't have the energy to what the pandemic effectively did was it created a bunch of new YouTubers ourselves included and the production quality went up people spent more time at home so they were watching YouTube more than television and now I would I would say YouTube has effectively replaced cable television oh yeah you know what I mean yeah so more more people tune into YouTube now for entertainment than like regular TV cable whatever it may be uh you know fi uh what is it HBO all that stuff people don't watch that crap anymore they stream their entertainment if anything and Netflix and YouTube so like the concert creators have like kind of come on a point where they're damn near TV level production oh yeah widely known as like famous people because that's people watch I guess stop we get stopped all the time I'm sure you do too like we get stopped all the time hey you know sign my book or you change my life or my I broke up with my toxic girlfriend because of you you know she went to the club and I got rid of her I don't know you know what I mean yeah it's really it's really great uh you know to get that that satisfaction but yeah it's competitive now man how long do you guys sing uh see yourselves going in the current route because it I I feel like in for YouTube in general I think I mentioned in the program it's like a five to seven year life span yes and I I'm approaching six six and a half years so I'm like the end of my life in terms of like YouTube that's a good question man um well people are already starting to copy our uh our formula with like bringing girls on and uh debating them about intersexual Dynamics uh whatever podcast I've started to see them a lot on Tick Tock yeah I wonder why so um you know a lot of people are doing what we do which is fine I mean hey competition is great uh we're just going to continue to innovate because our biggest thing where I don't think anyone touches us is we also talk about we don't just talk about girls and debating girls and showing how delusional a lot of them are we talk about how to make money how to be attractive how to actually uh arouse girls like what what it takes to be like that dude for the girls so um in command respect for we bring on crazy guests that we bring our crazy guests to bring on let me ask you this do you feel like potentially the borrower has to keep getting set higher and higher and higher like competition so now people have to get more outrageous more outrageous I'm worried it's going to get to a point where all of a sudden Something's Gotta pop because you can only get so crazy until eventually something happens and then the whole thing comes crashing that's like Prime videos yeah always go on a travel each video but I think for us like we had an evaluable for example like let's say for example you get bored of watching the girls watch money Mondays yeah or that you can watch you know daily videos so it's kind of like on some level the college shows or when we bring in special yes a variety of options you can choose from yeah we literally hit like every topic we bring in people that are canceled we're bringing people we talk about geopolitics we talk about making money girls real estate investing how to become a millionaire uh you know had a detective a girl isn't worth your time how to get how to get a date on Tinder like we talk get your credit scores up so like we talk about all these different things so like you'll be able to find that's why we call ourselves the number one male self-approving podcast because we understand that yes girls are selective nowadays but you got to be that guy that they select what are some of the things you guys think you can personally improve on that's a good question my speech and also as well for example um my fitness for example when I first came to um America is really skinny I started eating food here got fatter and over time I got Recon place it but now it's more like if I focus on my fitness and my health I feel like that's more important to me than anything else in the world so thanks for sending speech uh build us some more mass I want to own it I want to weigh more than some of these these these whales that come on my podcast and talk smack about me uh I don't think more what's that you prove about building more yeah I'm about 200 pounds and six foot three so I need I need to make some more gains get back uh you know uh because I still stay in good shape but I train like four or five times a week but I need to put a little bit more muscle mass on and then I would say man we want to be Rogan level to be honest with you we want to be at the level where you know we're we're like up there with Rogan like at the Top If we don't get canceled yeah we don't get canceled that is hopefully do you worry about that that's always a thing yeah when you make content like this where you know you're very critical about other things we don't we're not just critical about women we're critical about a bunch of different things right the politically correct you know liberal side of the internet we're very critical of that so whenever you make content like that there's always that risk of that that's why we're on Rumble as well rumble.com fresh fit so the rumble uh but yeah and I think Rumble is going to be huge in the next couple of years as well because more and more content creators are going over there but don't you think now that you have to do shouldn't you be a lot more careful in terms of what you say just because you have a bigger audience you have more eyeballs on you now it's worth it to almost scale back in a sense in terms of controversy just to build something that that is bigger and more sustainable so we obviously we play around it and we the thing is we don't want to dilute the content right we want to give the guys the raw information that they need so what we do is is we'll typically go live on YouTube and then like as before we get into the crazy stuff we'll be all right guys you got to come on over to rumble now so that we can really give y'all the sauce um but you know you have to dance around certain words and everything else like that play the YouTube game but uh but you know we're very aware of the fact that like you know they canceled Andrew Tate they cancel snake oh they canceled a couple of our friends and anytime you make content that we make where you know you're seeking the truth they're gonna get mad and it is what it is so yeah what's something you guys think you could work on like more inwards uh speaking like like like internal like you mean like intellectually like like the way that your brain works mentally something like that uh we just want to make the podcast the best I'm constantly researching like stats on intersexual Dynamics I'm constantly researching human evolution and psychology like self-development type yeah yeah I'm always reading Finance books so I think for us to get to that level where we're like one of the top podcasts in the world we're there now like we got we're recognized worldwide but I want to be like up there like one and two I think something development never ends of course yeah uh so no matter what happens you have to always learn more and become better but overall for me I think personally um just like being better at like I guess networking with people um and internally I would say maybe just keep reading keep learning more and never keep innovating keep pushing the envelope because a lot of people are trying to do what we're doing now so we got to continue because I mean I've said it before we're the trendsetters here so where no one no one else was bringing on girls and having these tough discussions with them until we started doing it yeah so we just got to continue to remind everyone why we said the trends why we're number one in this and quite frankly none of them are going to keep up because we're going to continue to innovate and do different things what insecurities do you have like in general yeah not being the best yeah that's what I'll say is like the biggest I want to be up there like top podcast why more guys need to hear what we're talking about because I can't tell you how many DMs I get a day saying I was going to self-delete nor on YouTube I was gonna I had a date planned I was gonna end it all Etc I watched this video I finally understand why my girl doesn't like me anymore and the thing is with human nature in general right all these inventions we have it comes from the males the humans need to know right sometimes just knowing why something happened or understanding why something happened will keep you from doing terrible things to yourself so if we're able to connect the dots for someone or tell them yo this is what you need to really focus on versus focusing on this girl you need to focus on yourself Etc it gets rid of that helplessness and puts guys in a better position we live in a garden day now where like men are like almost second-class citizens no one gives a crap about men no one cares about their problems no one cares about their struggles no one cares about you know what they're going through and it is what it is but we give it we give it to them raw like hey you got to self-improve and this is what you need to focus people still do all of that though without being the best I feel like there's to reach as many people as we want to we got to be the best that they have to want to listen to you look up to you and want to be a part of what you're doing when we ask questions such as like what is something that I think you can improve on internally or what is something that you're self-conscious about like what I'm what kind of answers I'm more so Desiring like if I were to answer those questions what's something I think I can work on internally is being more comfortable like if I'm going out in public I'm not I just don't feel 100 comfortable all the time I'm dominated by my mind a lot of the time you know what I mean like I I like I know it's probably a smart thing to acknowledge this person or say hello to this person but my mind's ah you shouldn't do that something like that's something where I'm saying internally something I could do better right maybe being more present and then so that's the kind of the answer I was trying to solicit from you guys with regards to that question that's your answer though yeah I know but then I asked like what is something that you can work on internally and your answer was like I just want to be the best I want the podcast to be the best there's nothing that you like more compassionate maybe more understanding more sympathetic something like that I'm not saying that these are problems I have diagnosed in you I'm just curious in the way that your brain works what type of that that won't that won't that won't get to the goal if I'm more sympathetic or compassionate like no one cares about my problems or me or caring about like say oh my God I'm so sorry for y'all my our job is to give guys the cold reality of how the world works for men and give them Solutions I feel like it it humanizes you to a certain extent like mine I'm too uptight a lot of the time and I can't relax and I'm two in my head I I'm really afraid to let loose don't know exactly why but I'm like really rigid and I'm trying to break that but that makes you who you are though yeah I don't I but I don't know if that's necessarily a good quality I think I think there's a lot of qualities about letting go being uh not attached to a certain outcome and being okay with going with the flow and a very like structured rigid and I think there are benefits that I'm missing out on true but the person that those traits are those I want to say things that held you down in that way maybe who you are today but those things you probably wouldn't be especially in this spot right now but I do but I do feel like there's aspects that I do want to experience that I haven't and I feel like by letting go a little bit being a little less stiff I could enjoy those things okay yeah I mean you've been on YouTube for a while you built up a great platform for us we're not there yet so we gotta continue to be rigid and like you know keep going hard like I look at it like I look at people that are like our competition I hate them I look at it like we're gonna beat your faces in like I'm very very competitive so I look at it like not only are we going to continue to outclass you guys and remind you why we set the trends we're going to make you guys look stupid in the process and just lap y'all that's how I look at it like I'm very I guess you can call it a negative way to look at it but I hate my competition that's what fuels me I feel like it's just the beginning for us sure yeah we're trying to take over we're trying to wake more guys up keep guys from being simps yeah but don't you feel like there's also something to be said about lifting other people with you yeah we're listening we're I'm talking about competition for what no them why but what if they have the same Mission as you because the end-all be-all isn't like sure maybe it is to be the best but I would assume it's also to help what you diagnosis we're the best at what we do I don't think they are we're gonna we're gonna I look at it like their competition that's cool we're gonna continue to remind everyone we're the best and also if that was the case they would have did it before us not after us we refused to lose but here's the thing someone could see what you're doing and say you know what they're messing up in these places I'm gonna I'm gonna take what you're doing but I'm gonna fix these few things like when I looked on YouTube originally it was Grant Cardone Tai Lopez a few people like that I was looking at what they're doing I'm like I like it there's an audience for it but I can do it this way and that's how like that was my entire approach just seeing what they're doing but like putting my own spin on things and I have a feeling a lot of people will see what you're doing and find here's a few blind spots that they're missing maybe they're they're they're too controversial they're too this maybe have to take a more middle approach I'll attract a way bigger audience well you know what I said yeah they do the same with that thing as us so they didn't answer anything well I think eventually you're gonna get someone who is able to see what you're doing and then put a different spin on it so ever so slightly and you'll be able to see that I think those are the people to work with possibly yeah we'll see but so far now yeah I mean for us like we use hey for me personally I use haters feel like I'm gonna smack you guys and we're gonna beat you like that's how I look at it then when I was an athlete in college that's how I looked at it uh and that's how I look at it now like anyone that's trying to come in our lane and do what we do I'm like cool yeah congratulations you guys have just motivated me to embarrass you even more and do even more so like we're trying to get bigger guests yeah we invest more into the podcast to get better equipment Etc I look at his fuel because I I truly think that we're the best we're gonna stay the best and we're going to continue to remind everyone whatever but like I think the things that me and Myron do no one else can actually really do yeah I feel like a rising tide lifts all boats in that sort of sense where like the more people get into a certain Niche or an industry generally the more attention it gets the more people are able to grow and prosper because of that that's just been my experience the finance would be a great example of that the finance space and the more people watching Finance the more my own content gets recommended so it generally there's this like this benefit effect where people circulate from one to another to another oh no they can raise on their own no I mean hey like I said before competition like like for me I look at competition as like cool we're gonna beat their faces in I'm just a very competitive person there's no oh yeah a friendly rivalry no we're going to end you guys we're going to remind you why you guys are inferior to us so that's how I look at them approach yeah like I look at it as like motivation like we're gonna get better cameras than you guys we're gonna get uh better guests better production quality we're gonna film better content we're gonna script our stuff better have better questions whatever it may be so I look at it like we're just going to provide more value to the audience like my goal is like how many more lives can we impact than you guys that's all look at it and my and to me like the most satisfying thing is when like when someone sends me a message like yo you changed my life yo I was gonna do this to myself and not not doing it anymore like the more messages I get the like that the more of that that we get than our competition that's a W for me we wish them all the best very nice but they're gonna take it out all right so overall what I want to say if you guys feel I feel like I have to sum this up to some degree please I respect what you guys do okay I I appreciate the fact that you guys feel like you have cracked the code to to dating and you you feel an obligation to preach to in your minds improve other people's lives I respect that tremendously I think everybody needs to do what they find to be right at any given moment in their life now if I were you I would potentially go about it in a slightly different way I would try to be a little bit more compassionate because in my opinion if you're going around and you call a girl a hoe or you you are demeaning towards certain people I think that it will yield the inverse effect that what you're setting out to achieve in the first place I think you're going to convince other guys that girls can be hoes and oh I shouldn't talk like yes sure you shouldn't tolerate but make it more of an inwards experience rather than yeah that's their own problem it's more so like a yeah I'm confident I know what I deserve sort of thing then like oh these people they have problems they don't know what they're doing that's what I would say that's it and I think overall I'm happy you guys came here and I'm happy to discuss these things yeah fair enough I mean I I look at it like guys just need to protect themselves from girls that don't deserve relationships because when guys get in bad relationships that's how they get their lives ruined so we're our goal is my thing is I want a guy to be able to like meet a girl size her up identify if she's worthy of relationship or not and then allow him to make the decision versus having the wool over his eyes and making a bad decision again you're saying too 100 however I would just say like understand like most people I'm not gonna receive it well if you water it down I owe 100 and as a provocateur you're gonna get so many more eyes right so like if your end goal is what it seems like it is you'll probably get more ice therefore more conversions so you probably will have here's another thing too but there are un like uh consequences such as like the byproduct of like some guy getting the wrong idea after watching your content yeah and here's the other thing too that I've noticed from because we talk with both men and women with men you have to give them a very direct and concise solution to the problem and a lot of times you can't sugarcoat you got to tell them yeah you're a fat POS you gotta change your life you gotta you gotta really Inspire them right so I yell at guys all the time like for being loose you guys Watch Daytime show how I impact them to like not be losers but with women you know it needs to be sugar coated and said in a certain way and they're more cared about the tonality versus the message being said so many women communicate very differently but with men I notice I have to kick them in the ass to get them to do something right to be stop being a fat POS or stop being a loser to stop smoking pot whatever it is with women I don't really care what they think because it's not for them anyway my thing is for the guys to watch the podcast and realize how women think for when I do the podcast and I tell women like you know what we talk about or I we have our debates I don't do it for the girls because they're not going to change anyway I know they're not gonna because they already get everything they want I do it for the guy so that they understand this is how females think they don't care what you think so you need to go in and do what you want to do and date the same way they do treat them as Expendable Commodities just say they treat us like Expendable Commodities sadly but it's true that's the truth when it comes to like dating for men in 2023 if you if you made a segment directed towards women and I'm talking about in a in an empowering way in such a such a way how do I want to say this in in a way of just like you got to respect yourself you set boundaries too if you want to attract this sort of Guy this is who you have to become these are ways that you could improve yourself uh you know these are things that that you can incorporate into a communication here's how you can talk to guys as well I think there's a lot of things that you could bring to the table from here so I will say this with that because because we have had I get a lot of messages from women that are married a lot of couples watch our show actually and it's funny how like the the people that watch our show the most that females they typically are in a relationship or they're married by a guy right um here's the thing that I've noticed with women when you tell women the unflattering truths about what it takes to get a man and keep it most importantly not just get him but keep him which most modern day women suck at they get mad a lot of women can't handle the truth if I tell them something along the lines of be respectful don't talk too much don't be annoying no one really cares about your opinion like that you know uh cooking food you know when his friends are around make him look good serve everyone a drink when I when I say these things right don't be promiscuous respect yourself dress modestly don't go out to the club with your friends most modern day women are gonna look at me and say what is this 1951 but then they'll turn around right and they'll expect you if someone intrudes into the house to protect her if someone steals a bag they expect you to chase that guy down and beat him up they expect you to breathe to be the breadwinner and pay most of the bills they want you to be a traditional man which is cool I agree men should be traditional but they don't want to be a traditional woman that's my issue so when I tell women you want a traditional man that's going to be chivalrous and treat you well you need to be a traditional woman you don't want to do that traditional man now most women do that that's what I'm gonna do that's the problem they want a guy who pays the bills assertive dominant whatever because attraction isn't a choice this is what women are hardwired to want regardless that's why if she makes 100 per year she still wants you to make 156k per year because they can't choose that they want a guy that does these things so my thing is if I tell women the truth you need to be a traditional woman to an extent don't be a protect your youth protect your fertility get a guy when you're still at your Peak don't chase a career in college girls are going to look at me and say ugh what are you talking about but this is the truth this is how you actually get a guy and keep him long term the problem is that modern day women are great at attaining a guy but they suck at retaining a guy after they have sex most girls can't handle the truth when I tell them oh and then accept the fact that he's gonna probably want to have sex with other girls that's the biggest one they can't accept have a lot of fun though I mean we could agree to disagree on certain things I appreciate your fair enough yeah fair enough final question how happy are you guys out of 10 . 10 or 10 10 out of 10 man love life womanizing chilling traveling you know cars hanging out with you guys any good I want yeah access glass up networking appreciate it thank you guys thank you guys so much for coming on thank you for having us man it was it was great I really was awesome thanks for giving us a time like this fair enough brother cool thanks for watching guys and until next time peace