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Showing Up at Less Than Your Best Is an Act of Selfishness

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The core subject of this discussion centers on the concept of a "performance gap," which exists between what individuals know they should do and what they actually execute in their daily lives. The speaker argues that a lack of information or knowledge regarding healthy choices is rarely the root cause of poor performance; instead, the issue lies in a failure of execution, implementation, and action. This disconnect is fundamentally driven by one's mindset, approach, discipline, belief system, and identity. To bridge this gap, the first actionable step recommended is to conduct an honest self-audit by listing the activities that truly energize and fulfill you—whether physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual—and then comparing them against your actual morning and evening routines. By honestly examining whether the things that fill your "bucket" are consistently present in your daily bookends, you will likely uncover significant areas where you are showing up as less than your best self. The speaker emphasizes that closing this gap is not just about personal improvement but is a critical act of service toward others, including family, team members, and clients. When you prioritize your self-care to ensure your bucket remains full, measurable outcomes such as productivity, optimism, confidence, energy, and focus naturally increase. This process requires vulnerability and courage to admit where the disconnect lies, but it is the essential first step toward leveling up personal habits and overall performance. Furthermore, the speaker asserts that mindset is not genetically encoded at birth but is a trainable skill that can be improved through intentionality, particularly by adopting a growth mindset. The video concludes with a powerful ethical argument: every time an individual shows up as less than their best version of themselves, it is an act of selfishness. As leaders and owners, failing to bring your full self to the table reduces the chances for your organization or studio to succeed and reach higher goals. Therefore, improving personal habits is not merely a lifestyle choice but a moral imperative to serve the people you care about and ensure that everyone around you benefits from your best effort.
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Lack of information is rarely the problem for any of us. Most of us, and if we're going to keep looking through the lens of healthy food and nutrition, most people know what to eat. They they know what a healthy decision would be, but they don't always do it. And that's what we call a performance gap. It's a gap between what we know and what [music] we do. So, very rarely any of us getting tripped up in any area of our life is it from lack of knowledge. It's from lack of execution, or lack of implementation, or lack of [music] action. And the the what connects those two things is our mindset, is our approach, is our discipline, is our belief system, [music] is our identity. Can you make a commitment to have slightly better personal habits for the rest of 2026 than maybe you had at the beginning of 2026? [music] But before we even worry about improvement, we need to take an inventory of where we are at the moment. So, here's your first actionable takeaway. I want you to take out a piece of paper and I want you to draw a vertical line down the middle. On the left side of the paper, I want you to come up with an exhaustive list of the things that and I'll put it in air quotes, "fill your bucket." Uh if you don't like that term, use any term that you want. The things that energize you, the things that light you up, the things that make you feel alive, the things that you absolutely love doing. And these can be things for your physical, your mental, your emotional, or your spiritual well-being if that's appropriate to you. But the things that fill your bucket and make you feel alive physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually, I want you to come up with an exhaustive list and write those down. These are the things you just love doing. Then on the right side of the paper, and this will take a little bit of honesty, vulnerability, and just a little dab of courage, but I want you to write down how you typically spend the bookends of your day. Your morning and your evening routine. I want you to write down what you typically do for the first 60 minutes after you wake up and what you typically do for the 60 minutes before you go to bed. Now, I don't want you to write down what you think you're supposed to do, what people on Facebook or Instagram or TikTok tell you you should do. I want you to write down what you normally do for the first 60 and the last 60 of every day. And then to complete this self-audit, you're going to compare the two sets of notes. You're going to compare either side of the line, and you're going to ask yourself the most fundamental question you can ask when it comes to leveling up your personal habits. And that is, are you doing the things you know you need to do to fill your bucket? In other words, is the stuff on the left side of the paper consistently showing up on the right side of the paper? Now, if you do this with a little honesty, a little vulnerability, and a little dab of courage, every single person in this room, myself at the front of that line, will uncover what's called a performance gap. And a performance gap is [music] the gap between what we know and what we actually do. And the very first step to improving your habits and your personal performance and production is to start to close that gap. In other words, it's to start to take the stuff from the left side of the paper and make sure that you're bookending your day with it. That you care enough about yourself, your family, the the team members at your studio, and the members that come into your studio, you care enough about serving all of those groups that you are going to make sure that you prioritize your self-care and that your bucket is full. And remember what I told you just a few moments ago, if you're willing to make that type of commitment, you will see your performance increase, your productivity, your optimism, your confidence, your energy, your focus. Every single measurable analytic will increase when you decide to prioritize your self-care. So, my goal is to help people close that performance [music] gap and start closing the gap between what they know they should be eating and what they're actually eating. Or what they know they should be doing and what they're [music] actually doing. And that all comes down to mindset. And the best part, mindset is trainable. Mindset is something [music] that we can all improve upon if we're very intentional about that. It's not something that was genetically encoded at birth. Mindset, [music] if you have a growth mindset in particular, is something that can we can all work on and improve, which is the business that I'm in. >> [music] >> And if that's not motivation enough to do it for your own personal pride and for your own personal production and performance, then you need to do it for the members of the team and the members that you serve. If you're taking notes, either write this down or take a picture of this slide. Every time you show up as less than your best self, it's an act of selfishness. As leaders and as owners, every time you show up as less than the best version of yourself, you give your studio less of a chance to be successful. You give your studio less of a chance to hit that [music] be on that path to 500k or to a marker higher than that. So, we need to improve our personal habits, not just to make our lives better, but to make the lives better of everyone it is [music] that we care about.