Video summary
The video addresses a complex situation where two individuals who were living together prior to converting to Christianity are now both believers and planning to get married soon. The central question raised is whether continuing to cohabit until the wedding date constitutes living in sin, even if they have stopped engaging in sexual immorality. The speaker argues that simply stopping physical acts of fornication does not automatically resolve the spiritual issue, as the arrangement still creates a situation where God's honor and the sanctity of the marriage covenant are compromised while waiting.
The core argument presented is that believers must avoid even the appearance of sin and should not make provisions for the flesh by remaining under one roof without being married. The speaker emphasizes that staying in the same house, sharing bedrooms, or merely sleeping in different rooms within the same dwelling does not constitute true separation; it only delays the inevitable temptation. Consequently, those who are not yet married but plan to wed soon face a clear binary choice: they must either get married immediately to honor God and their commitment to one another, or they must separate physically by moving out until the wedding takes place.
To illustrate this point, the speaker references a pastor named Philip Anthony who attempted to solve the issue by sleeping on a couch while remaining in the same home. The video firmly rejects this approach as insufficient, stating that unless there is a completely separate living space with a locked door, such arrangements do not honor God or protect the couple from temptation. The underlying principle is that a believer's will and desires should be subordinate to God's standards, and allowing a partner to remain in a situation that could lead to sin is tantamount to wanting God to honor one's own sin rather than seeking His glory.
Ultimately, the conclusion is decisive: there is no middle ground or prolonged waiting period for couples who are already living together before marriage. If the goal is to walk in holiness and avoid stumbling blocks, the couple must act immediately by either tying the knot today or separating their residences until the wedding occurs. The speaker urges young believers to do the right thing without hesitation, asserting that true honor for God requires removing any opportunity for compromise, ensuring that both partners are treated with dignity and protected from spiritual danger before they can fully unite in marriage.
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for let's say like individuals who might
Okay, like let's say for an example,
right? Let's say you have a guy and a
girl.
They were together, living together
prior, whatever is the case is, and
during their during their time of them
living together, they both have came to
Christ, and they both made a decision to
Okay, we're going to get married
ultimately to not be living in you know,
like sin. Stop fornicating, and you
know, like
stop fornicating for the most part, you
know, like stop committing sexual
immorality, and have plans on getting
married. Would you still consider that
as still living in sin? Cuz I heard a I
heard a lot of people or not a lot of
people, but I hear like people say, "Oh,
yeah, it's still sin. Like it's a
stumbling block." Or whatever the case
may be, but I mean like your take on it,
like I I know the Bible says that a man
is to leave his mother and father and be
joined to the wife, but if two people
were already living together prior
to them coming to the faith, it's like
how does one go about that when they're
both willing to you know, like uh you
know, like be under that oneness under
God?
>> Hold on. Ask the question again. Two
people that are living together.
>> Right.
>> Um they weren't married. They come to
Christ.
>> And they both like plan on getting
married.
>> Mhm.
>> Like as soon as possible, like not
really prolonging it as in like oh,
well, let's wait another 2 years or
whatever else the case is, but you know,
like as soon as as soon as possible,
they're going to tie the knot.
>> Mhm.
So, should they Are you asking should
they do it?
>> Well, no, not should they do it, but in
a sense it's like until that time frame
comes. Like let's say they already have
like a set out date. Like a month or
two.
>> So, it So, so
uh
Earl and Mary are living together.
They want They They become believers,
and they want to get married, but
they're not getting married till
December.
Right. Okay, so what what I you asking
what should they do then?
>> Well, Yeah, in a sense. Like, you know,
like is it still like since they are
since they already been living together
and they already are planning to get
married
like in December as you put it.
>> We got two choices.
>> You know, like is it Okay.
>> They have two choices. One, stop living
together until you get married or go get
married today.
If you want to have a ceremony in in
December, fine.
But you got two choices.
Get married today
or separate until you get married.
That's it.
E- either you're going to honor God or
you're going to make honor or you or
you're going to want God to Either
you're going to honor God or you want
God to honor your sin.
Right?
>> Right. So, even if Right. So, even if
So, even if sexual immorality is out of
the picture, right? Like no fornication
is taking place and none of that. It's
still It's still either separate and
leave or or like I get married tomorrow
in a sense.
>> So, so even if they stop having sex
um should what should they do?
Do not avoid the very appearance of sin.
And Paul says don't make no provision
for the flesh. So, here we are, we're in
the same house.
Um she's going to wear what she's going
to wear. I'm going to wear what I'm
going to wear and we're going to act
like we got We all of a sudden all of a
sudden now we have self-control. No.
Either again, are you going to honor God
or do you want God to honor your sin?
>> Right.
>> So, if you don't want to get another
place
then, you know what? Go get married
today.
Go get married today. And then have you
have your ceremony in December or
whenever you're going to do it.
But we're we're not we're not going to
Shall I join the Holy Spirit to a
harlot? And do I want to make her
into a harlot? No.
So, your honor for God should cause you
to honor her as well.
I don't want her to be treated this way,
not even by me.
My desires
and my will should not go before the
Lord or before how I should see her. And
I want others to see her.
Amen.
Right. Okay. Now, are you Earl
in this thing? Are you Earl?
>> Yeah.
Yeah, my name Earl.
>> All [laughter] right. Okay, cool. So,
listen. So, so, so, young brother, do
the right thing. Do the right thing. You
either getting married today
>> Yeah.
>> or
uh separate until then.
Go Either you go stay with your parents
or she go stay with her parents or or
something.
Amen.
>> Yeah, uh cuz I was hearing um you know,
like not to really bring any any other
pastors or whatever else the case is
into this conversation, but I was
hearing a sermon from uh Philip Anthony
and um he was basically saying that, you
know, like he was kind of like in like
the same boat in a way with, you know,
like his wife and then he ended up
sleeping on the couch for the time
being. I know it's still under the same
roof, like you said, make no provisions
for the flesh, as Paul says, um but, you
know, like he was like that he kind of
like separated himself from the bedroom,
you know, like he was
>> That ain't That ain't separating
yourself. Listen, unless she got a a a
separate interest to the bedroom and a
lock on that door, that ain't doing
nothing.
That's not No. No, no. So, rather than
burn,
get married, as Paul says. Uh because
I'm sorry,
her being in a different room is not
going to cause me to not want to be with
that person sexually.
So, again, I'm not And I'm not
equivocating on this. You got two
choices. Get married now
or separate now.
That's it.
Amen.
>> Yeah. Yeah, I hear you. Thank you,
Corey.
>> All right, brother. You take care.