Shift Into a Powerful Mindset at Any Time, in Any Situation | David Bayer on Impact Theory

[Music] your beliefs dictate your thoughts dictate your emotions dictate your actions which produce your results and your results when you look at them then just reinforce the original belief and so we're caught in that construct right but the linchpin is the belief system so the question is how do i actually change what i believe if my beliefs really do dictate my destiny right which is i'm not the only person suggesting that the question becomes how do i change my beliefs and in that is is an inherent challenge because by definition beliefs are that which are true right for us and so then then the question is how do we break out of this [Music] hey everyone welcome to impact theory today's guest joins us as an author speaker and seven-figure entrepreneur who is widely recognized as an expert on mindset and business but ten years ago he was addicted to drugs and alcohol and asking himself if this was really all life had to offer after discovering firsthand that money cannot buy happiness he embarked on a process of getting clean and not only diagnosing but solving the cause of his suffering starting a 12-step program and stumbling upon a book on buddhism in an airport bookstore made him realize that the root of his problem lay directly between his own ears after spending years studying and coming to understand his own mind and also working with a bevy of world-class teachers coaches mentors and spiritual leaders from around the world he has emerged with a system that he believes can help anyone get unstuck and achieve their full potential he's not the only one with faith in his methods he's been featured on businessweek fox news bloomberg radio msnbc and the los angeles times and according to inc his program called the powerful living experience is one of the top three must attend personal development events for entrepreneurs so please help me in welcoming the man who has helped countless people transform their lives the author of mind hack david bayer what's up how you doing man so good thank you absolutely dude welcome to the show thanks for having me absolutely so anybody that can go deep on the notion of getting unstuck is a friend of mine so i want to start there you've talked about how there are three areas of your life that you need to master and how does that help us get unstuck yeah so i mean there's there's three areas of your life that you know i think are important right one is um really mastering uh your your mind right your thought process and um and that's nothing new the real question is you know at one level how do we become more self-aware of the thoughts that are driving all of our process but more importantly how do we change our thinking how do we change the habitual patterns of thinking that we become addicted to and so that then cascades into you know our emotional responses that we have with with life around us and and our in our perceptions so how do we reorient ourselves in a way that is congruent with the life that we actually want to create or the business that we want to create or the relationships that we want to create or the health that we want to have because we tend to just continue to experience the same experiences over and over and over and over and there's nothing fundamentally wrong with us in the fact that that we live this sort of bill murray groundhog day type of existence right it's the way the technology and the operating system of the human being has been designed but now we're entering this really interesting period where i think personal growth is evolving into the next level where we're able to utilize the tech to really tap into higher levels of intelligence and become you know what a lot of people refer to as superhuman so what gets people stuck in the first place there are a number of things that get people stuck i mean let's talk about beliefs for a second you know what our beliefs beliefs are the meanings that we gave the experiences of our life mostly before the age of seven before a significant portion of the prefrontal cortex is fully formed we gave meanings to the experiences of our life or other people gave meanings to the experiences that we were having right i remember distinctly one time i grew up in orange county california and i don't know why in first grade they had to choose which mission we wanted to build along uh you know we had mission san juan capistrano interesting so at a paper mache and clay i'm building mission san juan capistrano in my garage and my dad walks in and he says hey let me show you a better way to do that the meaning i gave that experience was i didn't know how to do it right and just because of the way the technology works what happens is that starts to shape the lens through which we experiences the future experiences of our life so the next time you have an experience you know you're approaching that experience through the not knowing how to do it right and because the brain is a goal-achieving machine that's all we start to notice right is what we're not doing right and in really no recognition of what we're doing well so we get caught in this in this psycho-cybernetic loop and if you're not aware of it there's really no way out of it because in every new experience you're just going to continue to focus on that which reinforces the belief systems that you established or the meaning that you gave the experiences early on and you're going to ignore everything else you become trapped right in by your own thoughts by your own thoughts by by your own belief systems and now we're really understanding that those those meanings aren't just some sort of um like marshmallow fluff or kind of esoteric concept they're actually wired into the neural networks of your brain like we can't do that today but in the future i would imagine we'd be able to brain scan you and go oh those are the neural networks that light up when you feel like there's not enough time or money's hard to make or you're not good enough or you're not as far along as you should be and for years i you know struggled in the current model of personal growth because it's one of those things where like the the current model lends to self-awareness and when i'm speaking on stages i say you know how many of you are aware now of your limiting beliefs and everybody raises their hands i say how many of you have done the events you've done the programs you've done the coaching you've done the different protocols you've done the modalities and make no mistake i'm not criticizing them right this is an evolution of our own ability to change ourselves and everybody raises their hand right they've been in the work but now they're acutely self-aware and they have no idea what to do about the patterns of thinking that they're aware of that are causing the stress anxiety and overwhelm and holding them back so that's where i was at one point and and if there was like a question or or a quest i was on it was how do i go beyond self-awareness and actually begin to change the way i think yeah that i think is super powerful so i want to back up and sort of give people the bricks that you're laying down here so that this can all stack on itself so basically people get themselves stuck by the beliefs that they decide and you've talked very powerfully about that we'll need to go into that a little bit here but so they decide to make a belief often those beliefs are made when they're young which i'm super freaked out by how much our youth impacts us i do not like that that is a deep problem that i have with the universe um but we start forming these beliefs and then we get in these loops literally the the whole notion of being stuck is that you've got these beliefs they're hardwired into your brain they become the easier thoughts to think so you're going to your brain when it goes into the default network is just going to go into these loops of negativity beliefs i'm not good enough i'm not doing it the right way to build even more evidence for it right gain more momentum and so now you're headed down the wrong path so now how do we begin to unwind this stuff so you say all right personal development 1.0 does an amazing job of getting people self-awareness teaches them the tools and tactics to look inward identify the emotions all that stuff how do you now get to the 2.0 what is personal development 2.0 how does it allow us to leverage that um self-awareness to get to the the phenom state yeah that's the question right um and i think there's a lot of roads to the mountaintop i have the perspective that i have because that was my journey and i had to start figuring out how to how to walk in the darkness because that's kind of what it's like what darkness like meaning when you're caught in this psycho-cybernetic loop can you define psycho-cybernetics yeah so um it's this idea that um what you believe uh will dictate your thoughts on a moment-by-moment basis so if you believe that you know money is hard to make as a simple example you're not going to have ideas or thoughts around money that would be lending to making it easily right uh and so so what you believe dictates what you think you can't get like an apple from an orange tree and what you think you then experience is an emotion right and then that emotion then dictates what actions you do or do not take and they're always aligned right your beliefs dictate your thoughts dictate your emotions dictate your actions which produce your results and your results when you look at them then just reinforce the original belief and so we're caught in that construct right but the linchpin is the belief system so the question is how do i actually change what i believe if my beliefs really do dictate my destiny right which is i'm not the only person suggesting that the question becomes how do i change my beliefs and in that is is an inherent challenge because by definition beliefs are that which are true right for us um and so then the question is how do we break out of this my way of breaking out of it was at one point to understand and i'll start to kind of walk you through the structure of it to understand that there were only two states of emotional beingness that i could be in at any given point in time i would either be in a powerful state of being states like joy curiosity excitement calm peace passion or i would be in a primal state of being boredom anger frustration some form of fear i'm always in one of those two states and i'm never in two states at one time those map beautifully to the sympathetic nervous system and the parasympathetic nervous system right so in any moment we're either in fight or flight or we're in rest and relaxation through my journey what i realized was the only cause of that switch to be flipped was my own thinking the meaning that i was giving the experience the experience itself wasn't dictating whether i was in a primal state or a powerful state whether i was in sympathetic fight or flight or parasympathetic rest and rest and restoration or relaxation it was the meaning i was giving the experience and so that meant that all of my personal suffering was within my own control i needed to start controlling the meaning i was giving the experiences of life as we started doing this work early i didn't see this initially in the work that i was doing with myself but as we started building a team of coaches and as the coaches were coaching people what we consistently saw was that the quality of the thinking that was causing people to move into a primal state which was really the only problem because when you're in a powerful state you're connected to creativity to inspiration to vitality to energy health automatically operates everything that we want is in a powerful state of being when you're in a primal state you don't have access to any of that so when entrepreneurs say to me for example what's the number one thing you would suggest to grow my business i would say notice by moment by moment what state of being you're in and use whatever tools or technologies you have access to to move back into a powerful state that's where things just unfold and i'm not saying you don't have to take consistent action and work your ass off to create success but you do it from a powerful state it's very hard to do it from a primal state and what we were seeing consistently was that the quality of thinking that was causing people to move into a primal state when we really looked at it worked with them around it was that 100 of the time it was untrue the only thing they were thinking they were thinking was untrue i'm not good enough i'm not smart enough i'm not good enough i'm not smart enough there's not enough time now we can start to talk about like the larger metaphysical philosophy behind all of this right uh but i'll give you a prime example i was working uh personally coaching a 29 year old egyptian muslim young man super successful had his first multi-million dollar business at 19 years old was large running one of the largest companies in this category at 29 years old and i've been coaching him and he was out one night in south beach with a bunch of movers and shakers and vice president of the sports team number one dj fashion designers whatever it was he called me the next day and he said listen i moved into a primal state last night and i couldn't get out of it so i need you to coach me on it because i know his his vision for his life now the most important thing for him is to operate from a powerful state of being i said okay so what what happened he said well i was there and i noticed that i started having anxiety so i know i moved into a primal state i said what'd you do next he said i took a look at the thinking that was causing it i said what did you find he said i was thinking that i don't belong here i was like okay got it so then what did you do and what we teach we teach a couple of things but what we teach at the highest level of this work is that you're able to actually see the thinking that's not true is not true and that's different than a lot of the other modalities i tried to use to evolve you can change your state you can reframe something you can come up with a better story they're amazing tools out there like breathwork plant tech i mean there's a bunch of stuff out there which we can get into right hack yeah it's nice there's a bunch of stuff out there right but i'm we're very focused on the personal technology not the third party tools right but i've explored a lot of them so what we believe is the fastest way for you to eradicate a limiting belief is to actually see the limiting belief is untrue and the moment that happens there's a reorganization in your brain like you can't unsee it once you see the lie is a lie right there's a huge shift it reorients you to the experiences of your life it reorients you to you to money to relationships so i said to him so what happened when you saw that you were thinking i don't belong here and he says it seemed true he goes now i knew it wasn't because he bought in to what we teach and i said okay great so i'll coach you on it you know with coaching you have a lot of leverage and you don't always have to use the leverage i'm going to give you an example of but i knew he was a spiritual his faith was very important to him so i said let me ask you a question you believe in god don't you he said yes i said the omnipotent omniscient kind of all-knowing type of god he goes absolutely and i said then how did your god put you in the wrong place on friday night where you actually don't belong and there was a pause and i heard him on the other end of the line and he goes oh my god and i said what is it he goes i belong everywhere i am that's a fundamental reorientation to the experiences of your life and what i believe is that's the deepest most permanent fastest way to actually move through the crazy unreality that we've created for ourselves as a result of adopting a bunch of other crazy people's beliefs when we were kids right to start reconnecting with what's really true and so in that moment of seeing that you actually believe everywhere belong everywhere that you are you move back into a powerful state and now you're moving forward with your life in a powerful way it's interesting so i've heard you talk a lot about the idea that basically whatever happens is what is meant to happen and in terms of the leverage of coaching somebody like me that would never work because i don't believe in an omniscient god so i'm like there are just too many things where the outcome is just bad it's it was all bad but i think that you're very right that you can always reframe it and find something good out of it so you can find something good out of terminal childhood cancer right but i would say objectively that one falls into my human suffering bucket i'm going to say no that's just pretty bad you can learn something from it no question you can reframe it absolutely sure so how are you able to have a breakthrough with somebody who is an adult who like me doesn't believe that everything happens for a reason like is it just reframing are there other tools like what do you lean on yeah so what do you believe in in other words in in your context in the container that you've created because you're creating it right like we don't know if there's a god we assume there's a universe we're sort of in it i mean we call it the universe but that's just language right we're just making up names for [ __ ] so um the the question would be do i go back to einstein if he actually said it which i think he did uh which is you know the most important decision you make is whether you live in a friendly or hostile universe so that perspective is a belief in how the human being technology works in in in other words whatever you believe because of the way this whole structure and system works and and how meaning then creates emotion and and uh neurobiological chemical cascades in your body right like all this stuff like you in that sense without even getting really woo you're creating a reality right i agree so then the question would be what do you what do you believe in drives everything because you know for me i look at morehead as a mathematics i don't i use the word god but what i believe is that intelligence itself right unbound intelligence is all there is and that unbound intelligence when you say is all there is what do you mean like the very fabric of space time sure like if you talk about space-time or the ether or the hindus call it the akasha or the fifth element or in the beginning there was a thing right uh for me it's in it's intelligence and it's mathematical in its expression uh and so i believe in math right if you go back to um like euclidean geometry right there's a very like kind of spiritual concept around all of these things and looking at things like sacred geometry and how how something is expressing itself and these really deep sophisticatedly intelligent patterns right which one could suggest is just chaotic like it's the way that this all unfolded it had to unfold this way because it was the only way it could all work or it's supremely intelligent so so the first thing i would want to do is understand what do you believe so that then we can have this conversation within that context so what do you believe i believe purely in evolution so whether that is divinely started or not because i will be the first to admit there's something that i don't understand and it is something big and it leaves me an awe and wonderment and so i am deeply moved by the mysteries of the cosmos like that [ __ ] to me is so beautiful and so the the states of awe or compassion or connectedness or like you don't have to pitch me on that i'm in man it's just i don't think that one i don't think that what makes this experience beautiful or or even useful is that it is all happening exactly as it was meant to happen i feel like hey something put the the expansion of the universe the expansion of species started and it all has to obey the laws of physics okay cool so now operating within that i find so much power in going how does the mind work so what is it that that i can grab hold of what are the levers what are the dials i don't need them to be divinely inspired and they certainly can be either way is fine by me like i don't have a a dog in that fight um it is simply i just need to know the truth and so what i have experienced thus far tells me that people in in some pretty beautiful ways grapple with spiritual concepts as a way to like make sense of everything sure so love it respect it don't have any beef with it the concepts that have an equal amount of beauty for me come down to biological truths and so once i understand the biological truth and i can understand the way that synapses exist and work in the brain and the way connections are made the way connections atrophy so that i can make something atrophy sort of at will i can make new connections at will by doing things practicing something eating it and so once i understand those levers then i can start pulling so a lot of the things you talk about i feel like yeah that's super powerful we agree on the thing without agreeing why the thing exists sure that makes sense yeah absolutely so that's sort of the framework with which i operate yeah you so we're going back to this question right that i think i think you're alluding to this idea where i believe that life is working in infinitely intelligent ways for our greatest growth our greatest prosperity our greatest evolution that at any moment it's a moment of perfection right that that that it is supposed to happen and so um so in that we can we can live with acceptance we can live with surrender we may not actually see it in the moment how it's working for us uh but we can choose to trust that it is if we want to um looking back last statement you made i agree with like totally you can decide to view this as something that is working for me right how the tony robbins question i love this how's the worst thing that ever happened to you actually the best thing and that reframe just asking a different question changes everything so i'm with you on that it's a choice yeah i think it's important for us to you know take a forensics approach to our own lives to like uh observe deeply to discover what we believe is true for ourselves went so far in my life when i look back over every single experience that i thought was a tragic experience at the time of course because of cause and effect it's been the same part of the journey of the things that i cherish most of my life um so so we get to create those frames right and and what i would suggest is those those frames do become our reality they they do become our experience because of the way the technology works right i mean at any moment in time i read some something recently and the numbers always change but they were talking about the part of the brain that pays attention right the reticular activating system and something like eighty-eight percent of what's going on in any given moment you're not paying attention to like i'm not paying attention to your wrist right now it's still in my way right it's a beautiful wrist but i'm you know that that which we tend to pay attention to is aligned with what we believe and so that's all we get so if you want you know more happiness if you want more wealth if you want deeper relationships if you want to have more joy you want to have more fun you want to you know achieve your full potential and really make an impact in the world then what's really important is to get clear on what that could look like for you and to make sure that what you believe is congruent with that outcome because if what you believe is not congruent with that outcome just neurophysiologically you're working against yourself right yeah talk to me about the power of clarity one of the few people that i hear talk about this and i think it's so [ __ ] important yeah so like where to start with with the power of clarity we talk about a number of things right the power of decision the power clarity the power of gratitude the power questions most people know what they don't want but they don't know what they do want you know if you say to somebody what what what do you want they'll spend maybe 10 seconds sifting around and then start telling you exactly all the stuff that they don't and so it's important to have clarity on what you want to create to have clarity on the type of partner you want to have in your life to have clarity on the things that you want to learn because i believe that clarity is intimately connected to imagination so as we're getting clear on something we're beginning to see what that thing is right that we're getting more clarity on and and we now know there was a study done in 2009 at harvard where they brought in piano players to play the piano and they studied what parts of their brains lit up and then they just had them imagine playing the piano and the same parts of the brains lit up and there's a study after study after study that shows that the brain doesn't know the difference between imagination and reality so is you're getting clear around something you're actually building neural networks as if that image or that experience had already occurred i mean this is really powerful because so often people don't know how to achieve something and because they don't know how they don't spend a lot of time getting additional clarity they don't spend time imagining what the future would look like with that thing or being that thing or creating that thing because it gets stuck on the how and what i would suggest is that if you're willing to invest time in getting clearer around something or imagining you build neural networks that represent the memory of an experience that has not happened yet that's [ __ ] powerful i mean we're talking about like next level mental technology because if you had experienced the thing already would you know how to do it so what i would suggest is that it's that change in the neural networks of your brain that you can achieve through clarity which is part of this kind of imagination category i mean dispense it talks about it with meditation and visualization other great teachers talk about it in in this way you're able to start building neural networks of experiences that have not happened yet that i believe then give you access to the thoughts the ideas the perceptions and if you want to talk about like creating the synchronicities that actually close the gap between that future and the present moment all right say that in like a real basic [ __ ] way like give it to people and like [ __ ] ground ground don't let not knowing how prevent you from spending time getting additional clarity or imagining because that's actually what's required to happen in order for you to know how yeah that that i like your your whole notion of getting don't let the indecision right be born out of the fact that you're not sure how this is all gonna play out right so i thought that was so powerful like to start moving and in the moving in getting the clarity some of it will come to you and moving forward some more you talk about fog right it's like people get stuck because they're not clear so but but getting more clarity people get paralyzed by not knowing some kind of never attainable omniscience around the topic and so they they stop right they move into indecision they move into some form of procrastination and the way you get more clarity is the same way you drive in fog you've got 10 feet of clarity the way you get 10 feet more is to move forward 10 feet right you're never going to know right we're all looking for this sort of i heard one of your guests recently talk about how fear is wanting to have a predictable outcome around an experience that you've never had before right and that's what we're all looking for but that's not the way that it works you get as clear as you can then you take action and more clarity unfolds for you how do you help people unwind the fears around that is it all attacking the beliefs like what are you really worried about i'm worried i'm not good enough that kind of thing yeah for us it's really looking at what is the thinking that's causing the emotional response which is fear and knowing that what's actually happening and again this is just what we're suggesting what's actually happening is you've activated neural networks that represent a dissonant concept and your nervous system is experiencing that dissonance is fear your nervous system is telling you it's not true it's not true that you're not good enough it's not true that you need to get it all done it's not true that you're going to end up living under the bridge it's not true any of those things aren't true walk me through the journey to discovering all of this stuff so were 10 years ago were in addiction but you rock it i mean look i only know the sort of external side of your story so i wasn't there so i'm sure it wasn't as easy as one would believe seeing how far out of that you've come but like what were some key points on that journey um like a few moments that felt like whoa this is like a lightning rod moment were there those or was was it just sort of a gradual stacking of mild insights what did that process look like and how did you keep yourself going so i was in the depths of my addiction like i remember about three weeks before i realized i had a problem which is amazing uh to see that it i had these experiences and didn't realize i had a problem until three weeks later it was the last time i was ever going to buy pot uh bought it from my pot dealer smoked it on my back porch had still had a bag left after rolling a joint filled the bag up with water so that i wouldn't smoke it took it the whole foods and dumped it in the garbage can and three hours later was back at whole foods pulling out of the garbage can and drying it out on my back porch right okay that's addiction it's addiction and so um you know in in the beginning it was just about trying to figure out how to untether myself from these addictive patterns of behavior and i started working that 12-step program and uh and about three or four weeks after i started working a 12-step program i go to the airport you know you have those like book moments like a book decides it's developing a relationship with you and like i go over i grabbed this book off the shelf and it said awakening the buddha within on on the back of the book it had the four noble truths of buddhism it said life is full of suffering the suffering will happen to you there's a way out of the suffering and the way out of the suffering is the eightfold path of virtue and i don't know what the eightfold path of virtue is i'm like but it's more efficient than 12 steps they only have eight so um so i start i read this book and i'm like wow the things bill w was talking about in 12 steps are very similar to what buddha was talking about and then an employee left a book on my desk called kingdom principles by miles monroe and i was like christ is saying the same thing then i went to barnes noble and i kid you not on the second floor of the barnes noble i walk over to a section that i didn't know existed called self-help and think and grow rich was sitting on the floor and i just happened to pick it up i read the back of the book bought the book so my journey began right and um yeah it was a gradual progression it was picking up these individual distinctions it was it was realizing that we're always sympathetic or parasympathetic it was realizing that that my emotional responses were being dictated by my thoughts not by the actual experiences uh it was starting to to to to become more self-aware through the work that we did i mean carol and i went to india three times did really deep intensive work there what what does that mean when you go to india we're in an ashram yeah we were at an ashram more like a university it was like a five-star ashram and and so are we taking classes yeah taking classes doing breath work meditation um some of the breath work we did there was really really really deep and it allows you to tr like get into the parasympathetic like what are the being wholly unfamiliar with this kind of training um oh you've never done breath work i have but like through sam harris or so listen this is i'm because i'm aware of when i get into tom's uncomfortable world at this point now so like my my you know i don't know what i can give you my theory about what happens with the breath work that we did yeah but you know i experienced what it was like to be a turtle i had a conversation with krishna are we talking like true true like dmt-induced kind of things yes but just breath right i'm assuming this is in meditation yeah how long breath takes a breath okay uh is the breath work different because i know you've done a lot of meditation is there um a different experience to breath work versus meditation is it actually like a where you're getting hypoxic or something yeah it's a very active breath work right that do you know wim hof's method i've done wim hof smith is it something intense like that we are yes but for an extended period of time okay and at that point what i think happens is we begin to detach from the mind and then these other experiences show up right i mean i had never really contemplated what it was like to be my mom's you know tortoise but for whatever reason that's what i experienced right and as you begin to experience these things you know experiences change the brain right in fact the only way you change the brain is through experience right like moment by moment by moment we're recording right what's going on and we're bill we're either reiterating the neural networks that are there we're building new neural networks or pruning out old ones and so these are experiences so you know to what extent there's value experiencing being a turtle i don't know but i've had the experience so it's in here now um and so you know and a lot of people use plant medicine for that right exploring different experiences or dmt um so yeah we've been on a we've been on a a journey of personal exploration and the one thing that that we started to see consistently as we were working with people around their beliefs which we believe create the quality of their life moving forward in every area like i can sit with someone and hear what they believe and tell them what their life looks like i could get real creepy and follow someone around for three days without them knowing i could sit down and pretty much tell them what they believe right your beliefs dictate your destiny and that's not some you know quotable right it's it's the fact that it's at the core of behavioral psychology right your beliefs dictate your thoughts dictate your emotions dictate your actions to take your results which reinforce your beliefs and what we consistently saw was that as we first started giving people permission to change their beliefs by realizing their decisions right the beliefs are just decisions and that you could just decide something different and the whole machine would start recalibrating around it and reorienting around it if you were willing to give yourself permission to make a new decision about life or money or relationships or whatever it is but then after that we consistently started seeing that the quality of the of the belief was that as we actually worked with people they would say oh it's actually not true oh i see that it's not true for me it doesn't need to be not true for me but as we worked with them with our methodology they would go wow it was it's not even true and it was never true back then my dad was just well-meaning and wanted to help me build a better mission san juan capistrano he didn't tell me i didn't know how to do it right right and so as we saw that then we started finding even faster ways right now you got to be open to it you got to be open to the idea that any time you're moving into a primal state it's only being caused by your thinking and the quality of the thinking is that it's not true even though in the moment it's really true for you right so and that's how we started creating these really radical breakthroughs and that was my experience i now listen i i move into some form of suffering daily right it's part of the human experience i still have my amygdala and my limbic system and my right like we have pulled them out but um i'm very quickly able to reorient myself because it's a beautiful binary structure how did you get good at that practice the most important thing in my life on a moment-by-moment basis which sometimes i don't make the most important thing but most of the time i do is noticing what state i'm in and if i've moved into a primal state observing the thinking to see what it is and going into an exploration of the thinking knowing that it's not true if it's causing me that emotion and i do it over and over and over again and then i supplement it i supplement it with doing cold work i supplement it with doing breath work i supplement it with my nutrition so you know that that has that that philosophy has sort of become a pillar of my personal growth and my personal evolution yeah that's super powerful so now putting this in in a framework of you get triggered by something so you said that there you go into a primal state daily and you start your amygdala and all that walk us through that process that you go through to then get back into that powerful state yeah so something will happen um a team member who i've spoken to three times about the same issue will incorrectly do the thing for the fourth time i'll notice that i'll get frustrated and i'll look at the thinking uh now again my should mean something different than yours should i think but but what i believe is that what what i'm thinking in that moment is that i shouldn't have to continue to coach them there are things that i need to do that are more important the fact that they can't get this thing done properly is going to be a huge disruption and i'll start going down a rabbit trail around it right and i'll notice that i've i'm doing that and i'll go okay got it so if if if that whole category of thinking is is making me feel stressed or anxious or overwhelmed i know those things aren't true this doesn't threaten the organization it's not taken away from the things that i should be doing if this is what showed up this is what i should be focused on that's what great leaders do there's a reason for this even though i may not be able to see it yet how can i be an even better leader for this person what is it about the first three times that i explain this thing to them that is not clicking for them and i can start to move into some form of empathy some form of connection some form of leadership and you know as as leaders the the the irony around all of it is that when we approach our teams who are who are where we have that type of experience with them from anger from frustration from irritation we're actually not good coaches for them we can't move them forward into doing the thing properly but when we when we realize that the frustration is coming from us and that all the things that we think should be that are not in that moment should not be because they're not in that moment and we become present to that moment into that person from a powerful state that's how we are able to feel good about ourselves and actually support the people around us yeah that's cool and that's something that you're able to help your clients do faster and faster and faster is there like uh um do you break that process down into steps like step one identify the thinking step two for sure that's that's the our approach in a nutshell which goes much broader and much deeper right this idea that you're you're in one of two states that you you if you want to be creating a life you love or a business you love or a team you love or a mission you love and be successful it's from a powerful state all right so to give people the steps step one step one is notice when you've moved into a primal state step two know that the only thing that's causing you to move into that emotional state which is sympathetic is your own thinking step three take a look at what the thinking is step four play around with or be willing to be open to the fact that if it's moving you into a primal state it may not be true right step five would be if that's not true then some form of the opposite must be true what what might that be and step six would be well what evidence do you have for the fact that that would be true what happens over time is the brain starts to even get acclimated to this process so like i don't go through the six step process every time right i notice i have an emotional reaction and i reorient myself fairly quickly and like i said i'm a human being so i get hooked on things that are triggers you know for me all the time i just don't get hooked as frequently and i don't spend as much time on the hook no i'm not super powerful yeah where can people learn more about you well people can go to our website uh davidbayer.com we've got our mindhack ebook there which they can download for free and we've got a ton of other information videos information about our powerful living experience uh you know for people who are really want to go deeper into their into their personal growth and not just become self-aware but go beyond self-awareness and really learn how to change their thinking i love that man yeah what's the impact that you want to have on the world we see a world where the biggest problems are being solved and in our language that's that's restoring intelligence to humanity really helping humanity evolve to the next evolution of who they are which is an evolution of the nervous system it's an evolution of intelligence um and so that's our goal you know my my experience was was suffering so we want to help people end their suffering and then go beyond that to have a powerful living experience i love that man yeah guys if you're looking for somebody that can really articulate the steps of how to make change this is your man it's pretty incredible the stuff that he gives away for free is already extraordinary and then people really vouch hard for the events and stuff that he does so if that is something that you want to do in your life get unstuck man dive into his world you will not regret it all right if you haven't already be sure to subscribe and until next time my friends be legendary take care david my man thank you so much dude can anyone become a great entrepreneur yes but do they do they have what it takes are they willing to do whatever it takes a lot of people give up