Shapeshifter Narcissist's Fluid Identity (Clip: Ohrid Seminar, May 2026)

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The core concept presented is that a shapeshifter narcissist possesses no stable self or mind, instead outsourcing these essential functions by absorbing the internal objects of others. Unlike a simple external analysis where one takes something from outside, the narcissist renders other people's minds and identities as internal components within their own psyche. By combining these appropriated elements on the fly, the narcissist creates an improvised, impromptu self that changes constantly throughout the day. Consequently, the individual at 9:00 AM is fundamentally different from the person at noon or 6:00 PM; they are not merely having a bad mood but are literally not the same person, as their identity is in a state of constant flux rather than being a stable entity with clear boundaries. This fluidity means that narcissism should be understood not as a static pond or puddle, but as a river that never begins and never ends, finding the path of least resistance without a fixed destination. The speaker compares this dynamic to Heraclitus's idea that one cannot step into the same river twice, noting that you can never interact with the same narcissist twice because they are perpetually changing. Other people are annexed, internalized, and digested by the narcissist, becoming an integral part of their mind in a parasitic relationship where victims contribute their own minds and supply to be processed into the narcissist's current form. This explains why many survivors describe the chameleon-like nature of the narcissist, noting how difficult it is to pin them down because they are like water or a fish that slips away. To achieve this constant transformation, the narcissist employs two primary techniques: mimicry and self-generation. Mimicry, borrowed from zoology where animals imitate predators or prey, allows the narcissist to copy others to blend in or manipulate situations, while self-generation acts as a machine programmed to suck in other people's minds as raw material. The narcissist functions like a factory that harvests these human "raw materials," grinds them down, and creates a finished product which is the narcissist at that specific moment. This process happens dozens of times a day, resulting in a dynamic phenomenon that cannot be captured or defined by traditional theories because the subject simply does not exist as a fixed entity to be analyzed.

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happens is the narcissist has no stable self or stable mind because the narcissist has no self and no mind but he outsources these from other people >> and one second and he does not outsource from other people the way Microsoft outsources from open AI not that way it's not analysis. Heis says, "Here's Agatha. Here's Mark. I'm sorry I don't remember your name. And here they are externally and I'm going to abscond with their minds. I'm going to take their minds, combine them, and this they will become my mind." No, that's not how it's done. Because as far as a narcissist is concerned, Mark and Agatha and Kit, they are internal. They are not out there. They're in here. So it's not that he's taking something from them. He is simply combining internal objects. He renders them internal and then he combines the internal objects to create uh but on the fly mind on the fly self improvised impromptu improve. It's all improv all the time. And this is done sometimes, dozens of times a day. Sometimes more typically two, three times a day. Two, three times a day is very different. Consequently, the narcissist at 9:00 in the morning is not the narcissist at 12:00 and definitely not the narcissist at 6 p.m. That is not the same person. This is not a metaphor. It's not the same person. He, you know, is is more angry in in the afternoon. It's not the same person. Can you wrap your mind around it? It's as much of a difference as between Mark and this gentleman. Completely not the same person. So narcissism is a fluid identity in the most profound sense of the word. We have fluid sexuality, fluid this, fluid that. That's a fluid identity. Narcissis is a river. It's in flux. >> [snorts] >> Like Heracletos said, you can never step into the same narcissist twice. I must have mixed my metaphors. I hope I mix my metaphor. That sounds really, really [snorts] sick. Okay, you know what I mean. You can never do whatever to the narcissist twice because it's in flux. Whereas our perception of human beings is that they are delineated. They're demarcated. They're boundaried. We think of human beings as some kind of puddle or pond. You know, they're there. They're there. They're stable. This is where they end and the world begins. This is where the world end. They begin. That's not the case with the Narcissist. It's a river. And and so other people are appropriated. They're annexed. They are internalized. They're digested. They become an integral part of the narcissist's mind for a time. They contribute their own minds. It's very um if you wish parasitic. It's a parasitic relationship. They contribute their own minds. Their own the supply they bring and and so on. The narcissist becomes these people. These people become the narcissist and the narcissist becomes these people. Many many victims and survivors would tell you about the chameleon character of the narcissist. How the narcissist shapeshifts all the time. How is very difficult to nail the narcissist down. How the narcissist is in a way slimy if you wish. It's you can't kind of it's like a fish. You can't because it's a river and like water it finds the path of least resistance and then it flows where? No destination. There's no delta. It's a seaternal river that never begins and never ends. Narcissists use two two techniques when they annex or appropriate other people. The first technique is mimicry. Mimicry is a term borrowed from psych biology. I'm sorry. In biology, especially in zoologology, we have mimicry where animals mimic predators and animals mimic prey sometimes. So mimicry is a major narcissistic strategy. And the second strategy is self-generation. Narcissist generate themselves all the time. It's like a machine that is programmed to suck in suck in other people's minds, process them, and somehow create a finished product. Think of other people as raw material. Other people are raw material. The narcissist is is the factory. The narcissist collects the raw harvests. Narcissist harvests people, brings the harvest in, and then grinds it and then creates a finished product. The finished product is the narcissist at that point and the finished product changes from minute to minute. This is it. It's in other words narcissism pathological narcissism is a dynamic. It's dynamic is not is never static. You can never capture it. It's dynamic all the time. which explains the fascination this topic has and also the object failure of all theoreticians, myself included, in attempting to capture this phenomenon because it is non-capturable because it's not there simply.