No Mind Games: The Secret to Lasting Female Friendships Off Key Friends

I [music] think the reason why our friendship has lasted this long >> is because [music] we have mutual respect >> and we're very transparent with one another. >> Yeah, >> there's a difference between being honest and [music] transparent. >> Hello guys, my name is Anna Paul. I'm [music] a filmmaker, content creator, and a writer. You can follow me on my social media page. [music] I am an honor. Yeah, I am Ana. Yeah, that's it. Hey [music] guys, my name is Deborah, fellow advert. I am a wine vendor. I run a juice business and I'm also a voice artist. My social media handle on IG is I am Deborrafield. Yeah. Um, I think we met in [music] church. >> Yes, in church. >> In church. Yeah, that was right. That right. I mean, when I first saw I'm like, "Oh my god, who is this gorgeous girl? [music] She's so cute." [laughter] >> Yes. I mean, I'm attracted to fine girls, fine boys. [music] Not as a less less. So, please. [laughter] >> Yeah, that was important. So, I need to clear that. Yeah, that's our woman. Yeah. She's scared to go first, so I'll do her the honor. >> Thank you. >> Oh my god. Oh my god. A song by a millennial [music] artist. I'm a jersey, bro. Okay. Um is a millennia. Give me the money. Go. as it. Yeah. >> Okay. >> Um Okay. Sing uh a duet song with a singer and a rapper. Oh my god. Hey. Oh my god. Oh Damn. No. Not get to my mind. Okay. Okay. Do you want to go first? You should kiss. >> Okay. Something I secretly admire about Anna [music] is that she has a mind of her own. >> Like [music] she has her standards and she's not going to bring that down for anybody for any reason. >> And I really admire that [music] about you. >> Thank you, baby. Thank you. >> You're welcome. >> Okay. One thing I love about Deborah is you have the kind that Oh my god, you're so kind. Yes. I mean, I've had relationship with friends that um they're just so selfish. You know, a lot of times I find myself, you know, always been the bigger person [music] >> trying to, you know, you you're just so selfless. You don't care about I love people that don't care about money. I love it so much because I mean we have to register in our brain that money is just a tool. It shouldn't be that master and I love that about you when I first find you and I saw that [music] thing. I mean and also the way you treat people because what I watch out for people my first trait that I watch [music] out for people is how do you treat people that you're not going to benefit anything from them. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. And I and I see that in you that you don't treat people [music] based on their status or Yeah. I mean Yeah. I love that about you and you're so kind. Yeah, I love it. I love your art. Yeah. >> A round two, [clears throat] a song about mother. [music] Oh, mama. That was a good one. >> Okay. [music] >> [laughter] >> Yeah, [music] like it's two. I mean, you guys are supposed to give me bonus on that. >> Another one. That's the bonus. >> Okay. >> Okay. [music] >> Um, a duet song with two Africans. What is this do song? >> Um, two African Oh my god. [music] >> Yeah. Yes. >> Oh, Jesus Christ. >> Yeah. [music] >> Okay. To me, I think your your my first impression of you is um your beauty. >> Can we Does that add up? Okay. [music] Your beauty, the way you carry yourself. >> I mean, I I think the first time I I appreciate you was [music] your skin. I'm like, girl, >> I love your skin. What's your skinare brand? I was really really having a lot of issue with my skin. [laughter] >> So, I I approached you. I'm like, oh, what's [music] your skin? And then I love your shoes. Girl, you hate that. >> Okay. Yes. Yes. I get closer. And then what I love most about you is your intentionality, your mind. >> I love it. You're so intentional. You You're just free. You're [music] just living your life. And >> yeah, I love that. I love that. So, you're welcome. So, yeah. >> Okay. Something that I really love about Anna is that [music] she's a nonsense person. >> Yeah. Like the first time I met you, you were like I think you were having a conversation with someone. You're [music] like, "No, I'm not going to take that." I'm like, "Oh, okay. Okay. >> I like her. >> She don't play about her business. And she she's very Anna is a very [music] sweet person. >> Like getting close to her, I I got to see another side of her that I I would not see in church every day. You might see her. She might be very serious in someone, but deep down [music] she's a softy. >> Like she's she's a she's a soft she's like a mush ball. If >> I can say that. >> Oh, she's really sweet. And I like that about you. >> Thank [music] you. Thank you. And I love your advices. Like you need advice, come to Anna. [laughter] >> Yes. Yes. I put that like I admire the fact that when I talk [music] talk to you about something, >> you tend to like advice me. I see them like man are not 8 years old. >> Oh my god. I start monetizing that I get are very very good. I'll say that. And they help me shape my decisions. >> Thank you, baby. Okay. Yeah. A song with the word queen. Oh, Queen Elizabeth, [music] thank you for blessing us. Oh, Queen, >> is that your own song? >> You don't know the song. >> Okay. [music] You are my African queen. >> Yes. [laughter] >> I like that one. >> The girl of my dream. You make me I love you. I love you. I love you. >> Okay. An African song from the '9s. >> Okay. your job. [music] >> Um, if you see my mama >> tell for London, >> thank God. >> Oh, nobody. >> Nobody. >> Nobody. No, >> we don't do it over here. >> We don't do that here. Nah, take it away. right now. >> Yeah. >> Nobody nobody no one does that. >> Like I said, [music] like she's she gives very good advice and I'm very practical. Like she answer I just this is how it is. There's no need to go further about it. >> Yeah. >> Call it speed. [music] >> It's the speed. We don't do that here. We settle it. >> Yeah. >> You get it? >> Yeah. Thank you. >> Oo it. Sorry. A song by a late singer/ artist. Yeah. Ooh. Okay. Thank you. >> Okay. [laughter] >> A movie soundtrack. [singing] Okay. [music] This this track from um the >> Yes, I know. You know? >> Yes. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. Yeah. That's >> Yeah, that's that's amazing. [laughter] >> That's it. That's it. Thank you. >> [laughter] >> Is that me? >> Me? >> Yes. Yes. With your act, >> yes. Yes. Kindness over kindness. Maybe not anymore, right? Yeah. Not anymore. >> But but you can still, >> but not not like big big trouble. Maybe she's just trying to help people, not knowing when to like I think I've leed my own lesson. [clears throat] >> But Deb, you still need to learn your own to be fair. Who is likely to get into trouble? I think Anna is you. [music] >> What kind of trouble? Let's decide it. >> Because >> what kind of trouble? >> Like somebody comforting [music] us. >> You know me, I don't have that mind. >> Oh, me. I'm going to come for you. I'm going to like What do you mean? Excuse me. >> But I I'll be in the back like >> just did you see your tiny? [laughter] >> And then I'm like, what's going on? [laughter] >> Okay, that's all right. Yeah. A song with [music] the word dance. I dance and we dance like we dance. >> When the spirit of the Lord is upon my soul. I dance like we dance. And we dance. We dance like baby. Dance. We dance. I dance. I dance like David. Hallelujah. Praise master cheese. >> Okay, my turn. A dwelt song with a male and a few and a and a um what's there? And [music] a female female singer singer. Okay. Um [clears throat] who is your guy to the Ednot? Snag my guy. My guy only me [music] like I will never leave your side. Okay. >> Yeah, that's it. [music] >> Yeah. >> Yes. [music] See what's savage. I need to listen to Nigerian song. God send me. [laughter] [music] Okay, let's not say that in camera. Come for me. Uhhuh. Uhhuh. Is it not? >> Am I dramatic? >> Let's give it to her. Let's give it Okay. Okay. [music] Take Give me my crown. Thank you. It's okay. Thank you. It's okay. Thank you. [laughter] >> Okay. [music] Um, a song that was made before you were born. >> Okay. [music] Okay, another one. >> Okay, moving on. Moving on. >> A song with the word [music] bad. >> I bad killer. >> Bad girl. [music] >> For bad guy from Barbados. I said we can help her. [music] >> Can I help? >> Oh, so you cannot do like backup sing. >> Okay. >> Thank you. [music] >> It's me. >> Are you sure? >> Zombie. >> I'm so >> Girl, I've been shooting [music] all kinds of guns. Sorry. No, no. Like not in real life. Like in video [music] games. Yes. >> Oh. Oh, okay. Video games. Is it real life or video games? >> In real life, >> you know, like [music] um I can use knife like to for zombies. >> Yes, zombies. You have to cut off their heads. >> Are you sure? >> Ah, I'm sure you can. >> I will not run because they are zombies. Although I'm very good at running. >> Okay. Okay. We'll both save you. I'll save you. Okay. She'll save me. I agree. [clears throat] A song that is trending. [music] Wait, wait, please don't start counting. A song that is trending right now is um um >> sing it. Sing it. Sing it. Is it? >> Yes. Thank [music] you. Thank you very much. >> Yeah, it is everywhere from social media. >> A song by a female artist. No. >> Love me JJ. Love me judger. Love me tender. Love me judger. Love [music] me tender. >> My sugar. My honey. >> My sugar. My honey. My tender lover. >> Love me tender. >> I hope now. >> Love me. Love me tender. My honey. My tender lover. >> Thank you [music] very much. Thank you. >> Okay. >> Mhm. >> Who's that woman? Is Deborah? [music] Yes. Debra is you is you know >> ah debra you know you know how to spend money >> how you spend money >> on what now >> on everything on everything >> like [music] >> on everything >> no I don't I don't do I have the money she have >> please [laughter] >> spend money on everything like we need four water we need four water >> because hydrating >> okay at the end of the day we always take that four water >> you are the one that finish your water >> do you finish four water >> I used to drink yeah I drink at least [music] Three bottles. I mean, you have to stay hydrated. You know, those weights are heavy. >> Yeah, >> cuz you spend more money. >> I don't. >> Yeah, but not recklessly. [music] >> Thank you. Thank you very much. >> Yeah. [music] >> Okay, let's pick a card. >> Hey. [clears throat] Okay. A song with the word God. God, you are so good. >> Blessed be your name. Blessed be your name >> in heaven. You are the Lord >> on earth [singing] and it forever forever. Oh Lord, how great thou art. >> They tell you that we are Jesus people that your show gods. Okay. >> God gr you for this detonence. [laughter] [music] SK 10 just a >> what's >> Let's get the part started. That one >> that's portable and >> what? >> Yes. Yes. That's Dave's shimmy 59. But Dave not Dave is a Nigerian. >> Yeah. >> Yes. Is that a sense to just have gone for? >> He's a Nigerian. Yes, it is. >> Oh, please God, [music] I beg. >> God forbid. Okay. >> God forbid in Jesus name. Amen. >> Okay. So, I think that uh what will I miss? What will I miss? What miss your voice? Your girl. [laughter] >> Oh, yeah. I'm going to miss that. [music] And um I mean I'll miss learning from you, right? >> Yes. I get to learn so much from you. You [music] know the soft part and all. Yeah. >> Thank you. >> What else? [music] What else? Not break up. So we don't want to think too much. Thank you. >> Do you want to go? >> So um God forbid I love magic. >> I love magic. [laughter] >> But if we stop being friends, I think I'm going to miss the fun part of you. She always is making me laugh. Like >> you just She cracks me up all the time. >> Really? >> And [music] I'm going to miss my very good advisor. >> Yeah. >> But like you tell me you can do it. Just go for it. Do it. Do it. If your mind says you should do it, just go for it. Like I'm going to miss that part of [music] you. >> Yeah. >> I'm going to miss having to have my gym buddy. >> Yeah. Right. Yeah. True. [music] >> I don't want that. Please. Please don't break up. >> Yeah. We're not going to anyways. F that. Okay, let's go. Oh, a love song. [music] In case my husband has seen this in future. Hey [laughter] Thank you, [music] baby. [laughter] >> An R&B song from [music] the 2000s. Oh, Jesus. from the day that I met you. >> Oh, baby, I love [singing] you. >> Oh, baby, [music] I [music] want to take notes. >> Take notes. Do you want to go first? [music] >> Okay. I think the reason why our friendship has lasted this long >> Yeah. >> is because [music] we have mutual respect >> and we're very transparent with one another. >> Yeah. >> It's a difference between being honest and transparent. And I think we us there is no um there is there's what's the word? We always like show up for each other. >> Yeah. >> Regardless of whatever is happening >> and [music] >> we have respect for one another. Yeah. >> We love each other and we pray together. >> Yeah. Yeah. [music] True. True. So, so for me I would say that um [music] um I mean because we are two good people. >> Yeah. >> Yes. Of course we're going to have issues >> definitely. >> But I I believe that we'll handle it maturely. Yes. [music] Yes. So yeah, it's just two people. No mind games. I mean for work. >> Thank you. [music] >> No pretense. >> Okay. Woo. A song about your present [music] relationship status. God I beg who go all to Jesus. I surrender to him. I look all good. >> Oh yes. Oh yes. [laughter] Thank you. >> Okay. >> We we're looking [music] on to that author and the finisher of >> a song with [music] >> the word. >> Money. >> Give me the money. >> Life is all about the money. Good. [music] >> Thank you. Thank you. >> Yeah. >> I [music] I love your spirit because we somehow are in sync and >> it's hard to [music] find people like that, especially our gender. >> Yeah. >> And I love that you are selfless. >> You're resilient. >> You're a go-getter. >> Thank you. >> Even when you're breaking down, [music] you show up for your business. You show up when you need to be on set. Yeah. >> I love that about you. [music] >> Thank you. >> And I love that you love God. >> Fine girls that don't love God are not my friends. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. That's true. Yeah, [music] that's true. I love that. >> I love that you love God 100%. [music] I love that you What I love most about you is your humility. You're so humble. I mean, [music] I've I've been that, but I hardly see ladies. I mean, a lot of times when [music] girls are pretty and they are doing things, I think it just gets to their head and they forget that we are all humans and they forget people the way they look down. I love that you're so humble and I love um Oh my god, there's something I wanted to say but I forgot. >> Give me a minute. Okay. Okay. I love a lot a lot of things to be honest. A lot. And I mean I've told you. Yes. Okay. This is what I wanted to say. you know when I first met you you realized that because of a lot of things that has happened in future and you know so I'm really really a bit um taking my time getting close to people so so when I first met you and you know you were just doing your thing I'm like let me calm down this guy is not pretending this she's acting like this acting like this because I've seen people like that you know they just do everything to [music] get to you and then the end of the date you see another side of them so when I first met I'm like oh hope this guy is not pretend but I just realize that you're just doing your thing and it's not just to me. I see the way you behave around other people too. Yes. [music] So I I love you so much. >> Thank you. >> Oh my god, I just touch your soft skin. [laughter and gasps] >> Okay. Yeah. >> Hi guys, >> you're watching Offkey Friends >> at Lumi Africa. Don't forget to like, share, subscribe, drop a comment. 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