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In this episode of *The Ice Coffee Hour*, host Michael Yo interviews comedian Jack Harlow, though their conversation quickly shifts to a dramatic near-death experience that occurred during one of Yo's recent tours. While flying from Austin to Las Vegas after performing five shows in a row, Yo suffered severe food poisoning and dehydration, leading him to pass out on the airplane aisle for approximately 45 seconds upon landing between two nurses who found his legs draped over them. This incident forced him to remove his wedding ring due to nerve damage caused by sleeping with it on; he now wears a plastic version instead of gold because his finger locks up when the metal band presses against his nerves. Yo explains that while he is generally mellow and not funny in real life, performing stand-up allows him to tell heightened versions of true stories, such as this brush with death, which forms the core of his current comedy special. Yo's career trajectory took a significant turn after working extensively in entertainment journalism for outlets like *E!*, *Access Hollywood*, and *Extra*. He initially resisted moving from radio to television because TV contracts often allowed studios to fire him every three months, but he eventually agreed when producers built him a dedicated radio studio on set. His interview style evolved as he grew tired of being forced by bosses to ask gossipy questions about celebrities' personal lives or relationships that they didn't care about; for instance, he recounts an awkward encounter with Anne Hathaway where his boss demanded he question her opinion on Kim Kardashian and Kanye West, a topic she clearly did not wish to discuss. This experience led him to realize the importance of maintaining professional boundaries while still being authentic, prompting his transition into comedy where he owns his own content rather than working for others' agendas. The discussion also covers the changing landscape of free speech in comedy and society at large. Yo addresses "cancel culture," arguing that it is often driven by a small vocal minority amplified by 24-hour news cycles and social media, whereas historically, comedians like Eddie Murphy were able to say things today considered offensive without consequence because those words were acceptable decades ago. He believes in freedom of speech but acknowledges the responsibility comedians have when performing live versus recording specials; he admits that while his special includes strong language for comedic effect regarding family dynamics—such as joking about his son being a "motherfucker"—he always has clean versions available and is mindful not to offend his wife or alienate future collaborators. He emphasizes that audiences should judge the final product, which undergoes editing and refinement, rather than reacting impulsively to every line delivered on stage without context. A significant portion of the interview focuses on Yo's decision to move from Los Angeles to Las Vegas with his family after a traumatic incident involving a homeless person throwing something at his three-year-old son in Studio City. He describes life in LA as heavy and saturated, where everyone works in similar industries and conversations revolve around auditions and gossip, whereas Las Vegas offers a more balanced environment where people care about families rather than professional status or political affiliations. In the new neighborhood, Yo notes that he has met neighbors including football players for the Raiders, hockey team members, and even the governor of Nevada, creating a supportive community centered on parenting his two children. He contrasts this with his previous lifestyle in LA, where he felt pressured to maintain an image rather than live authentically, noting that while some celebrities might avoid him due to past interviews, he prefers building genuine connections based on shared interests like poker nights and family life. The conversation concludes with a candid exchange between Yo and Harlow regarding relationship dynamics and conflict resolution within marriages. Both men reflect on how they have learned the value of honest communication over bottling up frustrations or avoiding arguments for peacekeeping purposes. They agree that while picking battles is necessary, suppressing true feelings can lead to resentment, so it is healthier to address issues openly even if there is disagreement. Yo shares anecdotes about his wife setting traps with questions where any answer seems wrong and discusses how he stands firm on core values but remains flexible on minor preferences like wedding details. Ultimately, the episode highlights a shift from external validation through celebrity interviews to internal fulfillment found in family life, creative ownership of one's art, and living authentically without fear of judgment or cancellation.
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Welcome or not. Welcome, Michael. Y
[Applause]
I interview celebrities all the time.
Are you ready to play?
My pal Blake Shelvin.
Welcome back to the Ice Coffee Hour. My
name is Michael Yo, and this podcast has
made $3 million.
No, no, not not quite. We're close.
$225,446.
See, see, not a bad guess.
But, you know, it's okay, though. You
know, like I I want to like aim higher
and I want to make great things happen.
So maybe by the end of the podcast it
would make $3 million.
3 million.
Yeah. Maybe.
We need something to sell. We need
something to sell. But you know what? We
got uh we started a Patreon.
See? And I'm half black and Asian, so
I'm very in right now. Like ambiguous is
the way to go. I can be in anything, you
know. And I'm non-threatening.
There we go. Okay. Well, you know what?
If you want to see uh well more info,
our Patreon is down below in the
description. You know, when you walked
in, I got to say you had the nicest just
like look like Yeah. Your your
characteristics like your your facial
structure and everything. You're just so
smiling.
Are you attracted to me?
Are you Are you hitting on me?
I'm not I'm not explicitly, but you
know, it's a kind of like
I mean, I can I can talk to my wife, you
know, but I mean, she's okay. Cynia
ring.
Oh. Oh, you know what? That's
interesting you brought that up. So, so
I uh I passed out on an airplane.
This is a crazy story. So, I'm I'm I got
food poison. I was flying from Austin,
Texas to here and I got food poisoning
and I was on the window seat and I got
up and I'm and I passed the two people
and all I remember is taking two steps
and I woke up and a guy had my legs over
my head and he was looking through my
legs and he goes, "Are you okay?" And I
was so confused. I go, am I? I have no
idea. So, I passed out in the middle of
the aisle of a plane and I landed
between two nurses like each my head
fell in between two nurses on the aisle
and it was the craziest. I was out for
like 45 seconds on a plane in the middle
of the aisle.
What happened?
Food. I I guess the I was dehydrated,
food poisoning. I wasn't taking in
liquids and I just finished performing
like five shows. So, I was exhausted, I
guess. And I always take the first
flight out.
And I you know what I I
I don't want to sound morbid, but I
always think about how death would feel
like. And that's what it's like cuz you
I didn't I'm just out.
Two nurses standing over you.
Yeah. Yeah. Two nurses, but you're just
out. You don't know you're out until you
come back. And that I mean it was the
weirdest thing that I've never been
knocked out or passed out. But it was
something, man. It was crazy. It was
crazy.
Holy.
And so But what does that have to do
with the ring?
Oh, so when I fell Okay. Yeah. I was
just trying to shift gears. No, when I
fell, the ring came off and went on like
and I didn't know.
Did you get it?
No, because I didn't never knew I didn't
have it on because I was so out of it
till I landed and I was gone. So, my
we're trying to get uh I told And also
another reason the ring I have a um
what's it called? Uh my finger locks up
because of my ring jammed into my nerve
cuz I slept I sleep on my hand
and so I have trigger finger because of
the ring. So, I have to get a plastic
one now. So, we're looking for that. So,
my wife I had a gold one, but now I have
to get a plastic one.
Yeah. Now, what do you think about Jack
wearing a ring? Is he wearing a ring
today, Jack? Wow. Jack usually wears a
ring on his ring finger
on my ring
on the right hand.
And I said that's bad. If he's dating,
he shouldn't be wearing a ring.
Especially there.
You shouldn't be wearing a ring.
I'm not. I'm I'm searching. You know
what I mean?
Oh, you said So, you're a player?
No, I'm not.
No, you're a player.
Certainly not. No, no, no. Far from it.
I am searching at the moment, you know,
looking for my lucky lady. Okay. And I
wear a ring of my favorite musician. So
I Who's that?
Rex Orange County is his name. Yeah.
Yeah. So I just wear a ring that he it
was like part of his merch.
It's weird, right?
So you just cuz you like him. You wear a
ring.
I like Yeah. Yeah.
Okay. Okay. And Okay.
Yeah. I like weird. You know, I think
it's pretty normal. You wear a ring,
too, right?
Yeah. But I'm married.
I'm married and I wear the day we're
both wearing rings. What if someone wore
a ring that said Jack Selby on it?
That's pretty weird, right?
How do you feel about that?
Honored. I would feel honored. Be
honored. Yeah. Honestly, I think
it says his name on it, too.
No, it's just it's it's just a logo.
It's just a logo. Okay.
Yeah. Yeah.
Hey, you know what? Good for you,
guys. Maybe I should cut in here and we
should say who Michael Yo is and how the
heck we met him. So, Greg, take it away.
Me?
I'll take it away. So, Michael Yo is a
comedian. Um I the first time I ever saw
him uh was on YouTube from AGT and my
first reaction was me and my uh
girlfriend at the time which is now my
wife. We were sitting there we were
looking through all the auditions and it
was during the um pandemic time and we
saw this comedian go on and we were like
we looked at each other and we were like
dang comedians have it tough this year
because there are no crowds. So imagine
going up to a stage performing uh and
not having a bunch of people laugh. Uh
so that can sound pretty intimidating.
But aside from that, uh Michael I
believe also does shows here in Vegas
around the country. Um I believe did you
have a show on Sirius?
Yeah, I have a show on SiriusXM. Uh it's
a radio show. It's on Pop 2K. So we play
like Britney Spears, Backstreet Boys and
all that fun stuff. And then uh have a
new TV show uh on Apple coming out
called Amber Brown where I play
ex-husband. So that's July 29th.
Who's that?
Huh?
Who's that?
Amber Brown. It's a fictional character
and I play her dad. She's the daughter.
So and my wife is Sarah Drew who is on
Grey's Anatomy or was and she was uh I
forgot her name on Grey's Anatomy, but
she was a big deal on Grey's Anatomy,
but she plays my wife and yeah, so it's
struggle of me getting back into their
life and she's already engaged. So, and
it's a family show and it's on Apple, so
that's huge. So, that's going to be fun.
Yeah.
Have you always been funny?
You grow up and like you're not funny.
I'm not funny. Like my friends,
you're comedian.
I know. But I'm not funny in real life.
I'm funny on stage. Because my friends,
the first time I went on stage, they
were like, "Are you sure you want to do
this?" Cuz I I toured and I went to
Houston. It was the first time all my
friends saw me in Houston. They go,
"Dude, you're not funny, though. What's
going to happen?" I go, "No, I'm funny
on stage. I'm just not funny in I'm a
serious guy. Not serious, but I'm kind
of just like mellow. I'm chill in real
life. But when on stage, I don't know. I
just love to tell stories and things
like that. So, you know, on stage, I'm
great. But
So, you're just really clever. Like,
you're able to tell good stories in a
funny way and like come up with good
jokes and stuff when it's when it's
calculated, but like off the hook that
maybe
Oh, I'm terri like uh what? Off the
cuff.
Off the cuff. Yeah. Like I do they
invite me to do all these shows where
you got to think of stuff real quick and
I'm terrible at that. Really?
Yeah. But there's a lot of people that
like that. I'm more of a I don't write
anything, but I'm more of here's a whole
story about something that happened.
Like I have a whole story about me
almost dying from COVID. Like I got that
big story in my special that's out right
now. And it's a 12minute story, but it's
funny because I thought it through and I
know the beats and all that stuff. So
how does that work when you're writing
out a script for this? How do you insert
the jokes in a way that you wouldn't be
able to do like on the cuff?
I don't write a script. It's I tell a
real story and then heighten it. Joe
Koy, he's a big comedian right now. He
was my mentor and he goes, "If you ever
sit down to write a joke, stop. Sit
down, write a real story, and heighten
it." So, I just tell real stories. So, I
that's why I never write down stuff
because I know the story is true and I
know all the beats to it. Then, I just
got to find the funny parts in the story
and just heighten those, you know?
How do you find the funny parts though?
Like let's say you're telling a serious
story about you almost dying from CO. At
what point are you like, "Hey, I've got
to slip a joke right there."
Okay. Well, well, I like to get a laugh
every 20 to 30 seconds. So, for
instance, this really happened and it's
not even joke for him, but it's just
funny when I told her on stage when uh
the paramedic put on um you know, they
gave me oxygen and they told me to say
goodbye to my family. So, my wife is
holding my son at the door and there's a
window separating. I got CO. I can't
touch him. So I put my hand on the
window by my son and I'm gasping for air
like and my son puts his hand on top of
my hand looks at me and goes
to see and that really
I was not expecting a joke there.
No
blind see nobody does but that's what
really happened. So the truth sort of is
funny and then of course I heighten it
where I'm like this little dude making
fun of me man screw you man. But the
comedian image like his timing is
incredible. So, it's kind of like I find
those moments. I I talk about how the
doctor tested every drug on me and I
have jokes about that. How they told me
I was the first patient in LA with CO. I
had jokes about that. So, I I just take
a real life situation. If something
happens or if I make somebody laugh, I
go, "Okay, what made him laugh?" And I
go back and then kind of write around
that.
When did you realize you had a talent
for that?
I guess when I was on Chelsea lately,
her show was really big. I was a
reporter on the show because I worked
for E, so I would interview celebrities.
And then once we got to uh once I got to
know all the comedians, Joe Koy was
like, "You're really funny. You remind
me of myself. You should try standup."
And I tried it and at Miami improv. And
the first time I went on, I did 15
minutes. And that's a long time for your
first time ever going on. And I fell in
love with it. I got off stage, called my
mom, and said, "This is what I was born
to do." And my mom was like, "Really?"
You know, cuz you're not funny,
basically. You know, that's a they they
don't they've never seen me as that. But
on stage is just something different.
It's fun. Now, how do you improvise on
stage if you're not funny in person? How
do you shift to character? If like,
let's say something happens and you have
to stop crowd or something.
Okay, so crowd work I'm terrible at.
Like, I know what I'm like, I know what
I want to accomplish. I know how to make
people a part of my show, but I know
exactly where it go is going. Where
there are some comedians that can just
my friends like I think you saw one of
them at Mad Apple, Harrison Green,
he can just riff with the crowd. like
that's what he specializes in, you know,
and like I've known him for 10 years and
he's so amazing at that and he's a great
storyteller and he's a great comic, but
he's more of a boom boom boom boom. He's
hitting you with jokes fast. I'm more of
like, so this happened to me today and
I'll take you through a story and you'll
get emotionally attached to it and then
I'll give you a joke. So he's a
different style of comedian, you know,
but he's a crowdwork comedian and I love
those. Joe Koy was a crowdwork comedian.
I Ian bag is a crowd word comedian. Me I
kind of I know exactly where I'm gonna
get you.
I'll I'll go to you and say, "Oh," and
ask you question, but I know where I'm
going with it. You know what I mean?
It sounds pretty crazy when you say
like, "Oh, you were interviewing
celebrities at E and then you won an
America's Got Talent and performed in
front of like no crowd or whatever Alex
said." And then, you know, now you're a
touring comedian. Can you walk us
through like where you started and how
you got to where you are now?
So, I started on radio. I was a radio
DJ. a huge show on radio in Miami. I was
on Y 100 and the show did so well and I
never did TV before. So the president,
from what I understand, the president of
E at the time was in town. His name was
Ted Harbor. And he heard my radio show
because his daughter was thinking of
going to the University of Miami. And he
heard me interview I interviewed Nick
Lachche when he just broke up with
Jessica Simpson. That's how long it was.
And he goes, "Nobody could get that
interview." And this kid got it. How did
he do that? And it was a great
interview. So he goes back, his casting
people come out to meet with me. They
offer me a job on TV. Never been on TV.
Never wanted to be on TV. And I said no
for like six months because I love
radio. I was like, why would I want to
be on TV? Because I got to move. And
your first TV contract they ever give
you, they can let you go every 3 months,
but you can't leave. And I built up this
huge show in Miami. I was like, I'm not
going to leave where y'all can fire me
in three months. So finally six months
went by where I said no and they called
me and go, "Okay, what can we do to get
you here?" I go, "Let me keep my radio
show. Build me a radio studio." I'm
like, I'm like, "They're never going to
do that." So they built me a radio
studio. And it was right across from
Ryan Serest. So Ryan Serest was across
the hall. This is when American Idol was
huge. And I was like,
and when you see somebody from afar,
you're like, I could never be that. And
then when I moved here and he was p I
knew him, he would pass me every day go,
"What's up, man?" It makes it a reality
like, oh, I can do what that guy does.
You know, it may take longer to get to
where he is, but I can do that. And
that's how it kind of all took off. And
then they put me on TV and it just kind
of took off from there. I was on the
Kardashians. I did um uh Chelsea Lately,
and I was at E when it was huge. And
then I and then I worked for Extra,
Insider, ET, uh Access Hollywood. So I
worked for all those shows and I would
just my specialty was interviewing
people like celebrities.
Yeah. What were some notable people that
you had interviewed?
Well, I mean, Tom Cruz. Tom Hanks is
phenomenal. Tom Cruz is awesome. Will
Smith before all the trouble. And I I
don't care what people say about him.
The nicest guy you will ever meet. I
know he had a breakdown on stage or I
don't know what he was going through.
Always treated me with respect. Was so
nice to everyone. And he uh Yeah, he
messed up.
Yeah. You keep his name out of our
pocket.
I'm kidding.
I was going.
He uh he's always been great. But then I
mean The Rock, Kevin Hart, Will Frell. I
mean just about There's not one person
that you could think of that's, you
know, has a big career that I haven't
interviewed.
Leonardo DiCaprio.
Amazing. So I interviewed him. I
interviewed him. Um it was what was the
movie? Um
uh God, what was it called? Started with
a D.
I can't remember the movie. Jango. No,
no, actually. Well, I've interviewed him
for that one, but it was this No, it was
the one that was It didn't start with a
D.
Inception.
No, it was the fancy one. Boss Lurman
did it, I think.
Oh, Great Gatsby.
Yes. So, it was We were at The Great
Gatsby. Interviewing him. And man, let
me tell you, the dude, it's so
interesting interviewing people like him
because you sit down, you go, I'm
interviewing a legend. I mean, he's not
one,
but when it's all said and done, he's a
legend. And that's where I get kind of
like stoked about it because you're
interviewing a person that when history
is done in acting, he's going to be a
legend. And he's great. He's nice, you
know? I mean, he's not like going to
make you laugh or anything. He's a
serious actor where like a Ben Stiller,
a Chris Rock, or Kevin Hart, they'll
make you laugh during the interview.
He's all about the work. You know what I
mean? I mean, you'll have cute moments
with him, but it's not like you're
breaking anything with Leonardo. Do you
come up with your own questions to ask
or are there preset question that they
know ahead of time?
Well, this is why I got out of it
because there are some things they want
you to ask and it's your job to ask but
you could ruin relationships. You could
piss off actors and because you got to
ask about their personal lives because
really honestly nobody gives a about the
movie. Nobody cares about your movie,
you know, really. Honestly, nobody.
Maybe Top Gun,
they care about it, but they don't care
about the shots and they don't care
about, oh, so how long were you in the
plane shooting? They don't care. Tom
Cruz, who are you dating now? What's up
with you and your like, that's what they
care about. And if publicists don't say,
because when you get there, publicists
give you guidelines. They go, you can
ask. You can't ask about X. But if a
publicist doesn't say that, you have to
ask because your your boss will call and
go, "Well, they didn't say give you
regulations. You so you could have
asked. Why didn't you?" And I just got
tired of I don't care about your
personal life. I don't even care about
your movie. You know, I just do this
because I love interviewing people. And
then it got to it got to a point where
it was just I would think of the fun
questions and then they would have the
gossipy questions, the ones that's on
the front page of magazines. then that
sucks to be that guy that breaks the
story about somebody's past relationship
or if somebody died in their life or
something like that, you know.
So, what was like a question that you
asked where it really didn't go over
well?
So, Anna, what was her name? Uh
Anna Ferris.
No,
Annaway.
Yes.
How do you do that or The Great Gatsby?
Look, but so uh she was in Rio. It was
it was a cartoon called Rio 2, right?
This is when Kanye West and uh Kim
Kardashian were on uh like Vanity Fair
or one of these big magazines. It's the
lady that wears the glasses that double
wears Prada
uh Merryill Streep.
No. Yeah, but she was playing this lady.
Okay.
I don't know what as that lady Jack name
double glasses.
What?
She has the big butt. She's like huge.
She does the Met and it was the first
time they ever put like a reality star
in the industry was like, "Oh, this the
the magazine's going downhill." But Anne
Hathaway was on the magazine. So my boss
was like, "You got to get her to talk
about Kanye West and Kim Kardashian on
the magazine." And in my mind, I'm
going, "That's the dumbest. Who cares
her thought?" Because she was on the
magazine doesn't mean she cares about
that and
it didn't have anything to do with it.
Nothing. Yeah,
that's not that's like me asking y'all
about a person that podcast when y'all
podcast it's like well what do you think
like you're like I don't even know them.
Why would I care?
I asked her that question.
She was really nice. So you had to climb
you had to kind of walk up to this
platform where she was and I'm walking
down the platform and can I curse on
this?
Yeah. Yeah.
Okay. She goes, "Why the [ __ ] would he
ask me that question when I don't give a
[ __ ] about the Kardashians? I don't give
a [ __ ] about who the cares on a magazine
blah blah blah blah blah blah and I got
really angry and I was about to go back
up and then I go no she's right cuz
that's what I said to my boss before I
she he made me ask that question
why did you defend yourself
because she was right like
so why don't you say like I agree like
well because I was already down the she
was on a platform so I was walking down
she thought I was already down
but I was midway
did she think you could hear her
she had no idea I So, she was just like
blasting me. And then the problem is her
publicist calls our boss and we never
ran it. So, I asked this stupid question
for nothing. And I got tired of doing
that. You know,
I thought they were going to twist to be
like Anne Hathaway doesn't care about
Kim Kardashian and Kanye West.
I mean, they could have.
Yeah, that's what I was saying. and they
could twist it,
but they're not going to give you the
footage because when you do a junk it,
they keep all the footage and if they
say it's okay, they give you the
footage. They wouldn't give me that.
They didn't give it to our team,
so we couldn't run it. And that's like,
so you ruin a relationship, a future
relationship to interview somebody
because
just like I would imagine, you know,
finance or whatever you do, it's all
about contacts. And if nobody wants you
to, my contacts were celebrities. And if
nobody wanted me to interview him, I
lose my job. And so you could scratch
Anne Hathaway off the list, you know.
And uh after a couple of those,
so you were worried about like damaging
yourself to the point where you've
ruined connections with people,
ruined connections with publicists
because now you're that guy.
Yeah.
You become that guy. Oh, when he he he's
not going to do a fun interview. He's
going to do it, but then he's going to
ask
crappy questions and make the celebrity
mad. Do we want to really put him in a
room with Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie
when he's going to be that guy? I became
like for a little bit I was that guy.
But I worked for the biggest
entertainment outlet so they had to take
me anyway
and the publicist like you could just
feel it. I was at and you and that
sticks with you no matter where you go.
Even when you're not working, I would go
I lived in LA. I would go to places
where celebrities were and you could see
them kind of like, "Oh, is he going to
rat on what we're doing?"
Really? They'd notice you and just like
recoil and
Yeah. You saw Jack. I'm very I have a
look to me when I walk in the room. I
mean,
no, but they they would Yeah. Because
they knew
that, oh, if I do something, this guy
could report it on TV. And I hated that
feeling. I had that moment with Rihanna
where she was like freaking out. I was
in this room. We were in this VIP thing.
It was only about 20 people. was
backstage at a concert and you know I
could tell you could just feel it. She
was like I saw I walked in I could see
her just kind of roll her eyes and
literally I went up to her and go yo I'm
not I'm not here for that you know and I
just got sick of being
that guy where and also it's wasn't my
dream to interview these people my dream
is to have my own podcast interview
people where I own everything and I
wanted things to you know I was living
everybody else's dream it's interesting
to interview everybody and they're
living out your dream and this is not
your dream at all and then that's why I
said, "Okay, I started comedy. Let me go
on AGT." Uh, there was no audience. They
called me the night before like, "Do you
want to wait till next year?" And I go,
"No, I'll just do it." And then I did
the first episode and then I got COVID,
almost died. And then that was like,
so I was sick the whole time. It took me
10 months to get well. So, I was sick
during the second round and then I
wasn't I didn't move forward and it was
this
weird situation. But it's more about now
moving forward for me, betting on
yourself. Mhm.
And I never really did that before.
Yeah.
Because
my job was not to bet on myself. It was
being told what to ask,
going to somebody, hearing about their
life dreams, and then going back and go,
"Oh, I got your question." Like that was
the big deal. If I asked got a great
answer to a question my they wanted, you
know, and it's like
like,
do you ever keep in contact with those
celebrities after you interview them?
Like maybe you hit it off and you're
just like, "Hey, let's hang out
sometime."
You know what? I I've never been that
guy. Really?
I mean, I have my phone is loaded with
celebrity names. But I've just never
been that guy because I I um I always
want to be the guy when I do go to a
celebrity. It's for they're not ever
going to say, "Oh, I was partying with
that guy and I don't want him to work. I
don't want to work with that guy." I
always want to keep a certain image with
people that when I do call, they're
like, "Okay, let me listen because he's
never asked me for anything. This must
be serious." Like like for instance, The
Rock. I love The Rock. And it's a thing
where if I ever call The Rock, you know,
hopefully it'll pick up and it'll be
like, "Okay, he never reaches out.
What's the deal, Michael? You've always
treated me well in press. I've treated
you well. What What project do you
have?" You know, so that's that's the
kind of situation I want to be in with
these celebrities.
Wouldn't it be better though to get
buddy buddy with The Rock and just say
like, "Hey, let's if if he's free, hang
out, go to the gym."
Not his gym. Have you seen that dude? I
mean, I don't I don't really And here's
the thing. It It's very interesting. I
don't like people.
Like, I I mean, I love performing. I
love doing my thing, but I'm not a big
hanger outer. Like, I have my close
friends, but they're all in Houston.
So, I mean, I'll do poker night and
things like that, but me going out,
like, I'm married with two kids. I don't
go out anymore. Like, I I got to watch
these kids. My wife is so awesome. So,
that's my life right now. And since I
travel so much, I got to when I'm in
town, it's kind of just that.
Got it. I know I sound like this boring
married guy, but it's crazy. You know,
it's it's it's a very exciting life
because we get to do a lot of stuff, but
it's also, you know, it's like once
you're at home with kids, it's that's
your focus, you know.
I figure we should mention cuz I don't
think we mentioned this before, but you
guys are neighbors
and that's how this whole thing like
occurred and how you, you know, you met
each other and what
Yeah. How was it? I was walking to the
gym and I think I saw you unpacking some
stuff and I wanted to be neighborly and
go say hi. were you came up he
introduced himself to me and I was and I
was like oh that's awesome. So, a couple
days later, um, you know, I I knocked on
your door and just said hi and asked had
some questions about cuz I knew you were
in the podcast world and just had some
questions and then it kind of just went
for you in automatically invited me to
poker night which was
Oh, yeah. That's right.
I couldn't make it cuz I was performing.
But it's it's awesome the more you learn
about where we just moved, how it's just
phenomenal. First of all, I I when I
look back on LA, anytime I land in LA or
go back, I want to get out cuz I love
the space here. I love I just love the
lifestyle. I love performing here. I
love flying out of here for my job. It's
the best.
Yeah. Now, I got to ask, why did you
leave California? Got to get that little
audio clip in there.
Oh, yeah. So I left California because
we lived in Studio City and after COVID
after I beat it, I was walking my son in
our neighborhood and a homeless person
like we lived in a really nice
neighborhood threw something at my son
and he was three. So that's when I told
my wife and she said, "Let's go visit my
parents in Vegas and we fell in love
with it. rented something for two years
till they built our house here and then
just moved in like two months ago or
three months ago. And man, talk about a
difference. Everything's easier out
here. Everything's cheaper out here.
People don't care what you do. You know,
the hard thing to me personally about LA
is I tell people is if everybody
everybody does the same thing if you're
in my industry and you live around and
you talk to those people all the time.
It's almost like if everybody worked in
the same restaurant and everybody wanted
to be the general manager of that
restaurant. So every conversation is
like, "Oh, who's on fries? Who's on the
cashier? Who's on?" So it's like, "What
audition? What'd you do? What did you do
today? What' you do?" So that's a
heaviness that that's on you. And once I
moved here, after I do an audition, I
won't get asked by anyone. Nobody cares
about my audition. Nobody cares about
anything. And that's what I love about
Vegas, you know, like people. It's the
first time in a long time they talk to
you about your they ask you about your
kids, your family, and it's pretty cool.
And like our neighborhood, this
neighborhood is like great people and
like my kids have met so many other kids
and the parents are like there's some
amazing people that live in this
neighborhood and I'm meeting all of them
and it's like
like this is a hot spot, you know, for
talent, for connections, for everything.
Who else have you met here? Because I
I've never introduced myself ever to the
neighbors in LA.
Who else do you do you want me to say?
Who
Yeah, sure.
The governor lives like three houses
away. Really?
The Yes, the governor.
I heard that that he lived in this.
I know. He lives like right up the
street.
Really?
The governor? Yeah, I see him at the
gym. He's at the gym.
Wait, which one is he? Cuz I I go to the
gym. I go to the gym.
Well, he he goes at like 5:00 a.m.
Okay. No, I definitely
certainly not.
Yeah. Whe And whether you're a Democrat
or Republican, Sisilac, he he lives
here. The
No, I definitely have not seen him.
Yeah. The guy that created the Dune
video game lives here right up the
street.
Really?
Oh, dude. He's a He's a massive like
See the guy with the Corvette I always
see.
He lives If you were to go straight up
from your house
the where they built all that stuff in
the front of their house.
Yeah.
Yeah. He lives right so he's created all
these electric companies and he sells
them. I mean it's it's it's crazy. Like
football players, basketball players for
the Raiders for uh the hockey team live
here.
That's nuts.
Yeah. And because they all the great
thing is I meet them
because we all have kids, you know. So I
think that's what gets me out more than
you is because our kids play with their
kids and it's all this it's and it's
So you're saying kids are good for
networking.
Great. And I think
Jack, you should have a kids and I think
and I think that's the most important
thing you're going to learn on this
podcast for this neighborhood. Kids in
Vegas are great for networking. Before
the podcast, we were talking about like
how people put certain like societal or
like restrictions on what comedians can
or can't say. And you being a comedian,
I know that this is a kind of like a
controversial uh and debatable topic.
What do you think about comedians making
jokes that maybe could be seen as like
too far or feeling they can't be too
edgy or anything? And are we moving in
that direction?
No, I don't think we are. I think
certain people are. The here's the
problem today is a very small group can
make a lot of noise and get people
cancelled, you know, because most people
don't care what other people say. They
just they live their lives, you know,
and that's one thing when I lived in LA,
it's very left. So all you hear is that,
oh, you get really like used to hearing
one side and then when you move here
where it's 50/50, you're like, oh,
people don't really care. You know, you
I people like, "Oh, when you move to
Vegas, oh my god, people going to go
nuts. They're going to be waving Trump
flags in front of your house." No, it's
not like that. So, you learn that it's
just a very small group of people that
do that. Now, there are certain
comedians that will push the envelope.
You got Dave Chappelle talking about
transgender and he gets in a lot of
trouble for that.
And I feel that it's interesting
comedians, bigger comedians, will always
say nothing should ever stop you from
saying what you want to say. The
comedians that are saying that are
loaded making 2025 million dollars a
special, right? People like me coming
up, I I watch what I say. I always say
what I want to say, but I'll try to find
a less offensive way to say it because
I'm still trying to come out,
you know. And so I think that's the
that's where we are. The people that
have made it, the Bill Birds, the the uh
the Dave Chappelle's, the Sebastians,
the Well, Jim Gaffigan doesn't push that
line. Jim Jeff is one of my personal
friends. Like he will push it because he
doesn't care.
But now, don't you think that these
people all made their careers coming up
by saying those things and now that
we've moved in a direction that's
against it, they could get away with it
only because they're so big by doing
that already?
Is it is it that we're more sensitive or
we're more involved? See, this is where
I go back and forth is if you watch
Eddie Murphy's Raw and Delirious,
it's so out of out of tone for what
we're mean, he drops F-word. He's
talking about all kinds of things you
could not talk about today, you know?
So, I think I think he shouldn't
apologize for that back then because it
was very acceptable back. You look at it
today, you go, "Oh my god." If you've
never seen Raw Deliver, go back and
watch that and it will blow you away.
Was that the one in the 80s?
Yes.
Yeah. I've seen clips of He's hilarious
though.
But if you watch the whole special,
you'll be like,
"Whoa." Like, there's no way, no way you
could say that today. You talk about
cancelled, nobody would put you on TV.
You would be thrown out of the United
States of America probably if you said
the things he said in that special. And
he apologized for it. But to me, you
shouldn't apologize for it because you
filled up movie theaters with people
wanting to see that, you know, and it
was acceptable at the time. what what
people the cancel culture gets confused
with things were like when people have
to go back and apologize for things a
lot of times whether it was right or
wrong it was acceptable you know I'm not
saying really getting super racial and
just being wrong at all periods of time
what I'm saying is certain words were
acceptable at a time it's not right but
at a time it was very acceptable you
know uh talking about certain certain
genders were okay at a time today. It's
kind of like, okay, I'm going to say
this, but I know I can get backlash. So,
now it's on the comic.
Mhm.
Is it right he's going to get backlash?
It depends what he says. You know, I I
believe in freedom of speech. And what
people forget is if I say something to
you and you don't like it, you have the
freedom of speech to go complain. So,
people always take the other side out of
the equation. They go like when you hear
news anchors, they're trying to cancel
me. It's like, no, you said what you had
to say. Now these other people are
saying what they have to say, you know.
So if you look at it that way, cancel
culture is normal. Because at
is it? Because it seems like a new
thing. I don't remember this being a
thing like six years ago
because there was no 24-hour news. There
was no social media. Somebody somebody
if it took work to cancel somebody,
nobody would do it. It t it's harder for
me to cancel my gym membership than to
cancel a person. Like literally, you
have to write a letter to your gym. You
have to bring it. They have to meet with
an adviser. Advisor tries to keep you to
stay. You say no. They're like, "All
right. Well," and they try to work out
the exit deal. This
10 seconds. If it catches fire, the
person gets cancelled. If not, no big
deal. They move on.
Yeah. Don't you think that's dangerous,
though?
It's terrible.
Yeah.
It's terrible. But also as a comedian,
you can't stop what other people do
because now everybody has an opinion.
You know, you remember when you used to
have to actually know what you're
talking about. You remember those days?
I don't remember.
Yeah. Yeah. No, but if you specialize in
finance, specialize in comedy, if you
like these people work years for people
to trust them to even get on TV. Now you
hold up your phone, you're an expert.
Like when people when people go, I do my
own research. That's very dangerous,
especially about medical stuff. Like,
no, talk to a doctor that actually does
it as a profession. I actually went to
school for it. But you have people just
googling
whatever Corona virus, reading what they
want to read, and then that's what they
go with, and then they get mad if you
don't agree with it.
Right.
So, I recently went to a Bruno Mars
concert, and they took away all our
phones. And I heard some comedians are
doing this, too. And uh,
you have to.
So, yeah, I was going to ask you, so do
you agree with this? And if so, why?
100%. You're seller. Not here, but in
New York, they take away everybody's
phones. They put them in a green bag and
you got to tap it to leave. Because this
is what frustrates me. When you're on
stage as a comedian, when I'm at the
comedy seller tonight, what I'm saying
on stage is not the final product, but
you're judging what I say like it's the
final project product. Like my special
that's out right now, that's the final
product, you know? So, it's kind of like
me going to a writer that writes all
these negative stories about comedians,
turning in their first draft and going,
"This is your first." Well, no, I got to
correct all the mistakes and then an
editor has to read it and then he sends
it back to me and then I got to do it
again. I got to rewrite some of the
stuff. But comics don't get that
leniency. It's kind of whatever you say,
it's done. This is what you think. It's
like, no, that's why we go up in
practice cuz you could say anything and
somebody now you could say anything and
people take it wrong. You know, I have a
joke about my son and my daughter and I
go, "My son uh bumped my daughter once,
right?" You know, and she was playing
with a toy and I got really angry. And
then I make a quick joke. I go, "But my
daughter could hit my son in the face
with a brick." And I'll be like, "Oh,
good job." You know, because it just
shows the the father thing versus the
mother and son. People are like, "This
is right after Johnny De like this the
nicest Jo. I'm the nicest human." And
they're like, "You're teaching sexism.
Your son's going to beat women. Your
your girl's going to beat up men." Like
they're going bonkers about it. Like
Like this is
Why do they even show up to the comedy
thing?
No, it's on YouTube. They
So, oh, it's just reposted and it's the
YouTube comments.
It's the YouTube comments.
Oh, man. The comments. like people go
and I'm never like to be honest with you
my YouTube when I my special came out
three months ago I had 3,000 people on
YouTube like I it was a dumping I never
even I never looked at it and then they
go you should really put together your
YouTube if you're going to put out a
special so for me I put out the special
and then three months later you know I
I've gone from 30,000 views for a
channel like for the eight years to now
in just three months I got 120,000
people and over 37 million view so for
me That's great. And because I never had
anything before, but I got to get used
to just random people getting really
pissed off about I'm not used to that,
you know? It's just they really get
upset and I'm not even a canceled type
of comic. But to see people overreact
about a joke about my son and daughter.
It's a joke, but they take it as real.
But you could use that as content
100%. And I am for my next special. read
some of the comments and let them know
how freaking ridiculous they are and how
dumb they are.
That's good.
I like that.
Yeah. And I'm getting so much material
from that. I mean, these people, you
know what's amazing to me that people
have time to write paragraphs and
paragraphs to you on a comment who does
that? Do you have no life?
I mean, I've done that before. Not
negative, not negative. It's all never
negative stuff, but like sometimes I'm
really deep involved in the video and I
just want to like
I've I've written long long things too,
but it's usually in No, it's it's in
response to someone saying like some
sort of critique to me and I try to like
understand what they're saying and then
I give them a nice, you know, a
wellthoughtout message back.
But why? You don't even know these
people.
Because I I don't know. I'm sensitive.
Maybe I
But the thing is your response is
public. So even if you don't know them,
other people who see that comment will
see your response because like they're
talking to hundreds or thousands of
people. one person has like they have a
misread on what you said or whatever and
then they comment about it other people
can see that and just latch on to that.
But if you don't respond and defend
yourself then that will happen and it
will be like an echo chamber. But if you
do respond people will see your response
be like you know that's reasonable and
then not like get that thought
themselves. I responded I go this is a
joke and I said first of all my daughter
is one she
be funny if if you commented back my
daughter will beat up your daughter.
Yeah. Right.
But yeah, so that that's the thing is
like I found humor like when people say
I don't like that. I'll just Oh, you
know, me neither. You know, you write
cute stuff like that, but it's just
amazing like when people just sit down
and just write and write and write to I
but it's a new thing for me on YouTube,
you know.
Yeah. What was it? I was listening to a
podcast um and uh they they mentioned
something about how the news cycle
changes completely every 36 hours.
Yes. And so 36 hours from now, unless
there's an update, like no one's going
to care anymore and people stop running
the story.
And that is true because
24-hour news changed the whole game. I I
I'm older than y'all, but I was in the
day when there was you waited till 7:00
to hear your news. And whatever they
said that night, that was it.
That was the news. And they would run
one story for a month if it was a big
story. Now news outlets
hype up stories so much and put all
these experts on that will disagree with
what they say and fight with other
people and that's what it's become just
opinions you know and they got to do
that to keep people interested because
if a news anchor just comes up and tells
you the facts you're like okay so what
am I going to do with that I want to
hear people argue about that you know
and that's where we are so and what
proves what you just said
there's presidents that'll do stupid
things and say crazy things and 36 hours
later they could say something else and
you totally would forget about the thing
they said before,
you know. So, there's ways to take
advantage of it, too. If you are that
character, you know, where you don't
care and you're going to say whatever
you want to say, they'll forget about
you. You know,
you're you're one natural disaster or
one hurricane or anything away something
bad happening from people totally
forgetting
Yeah.
about the dumb thing you did.
Do you have a review process for your
jokes? Like do you do you have a person
who maybe says, "Hey, Michael, not a
good idea. Soften this up a little bit."
Do you do you have like someone
My wife
kind of, you know, and I have a couple
comics that travel with me and we always
throw stuff off of each other. Like my
wife is very sensitive to topic matters.
So my last special, I didn't let her see
it
till I shot it
and then my family, my mom, dad, they
they tried to cancel me. So I'm not
worried about outside. Oh yeah, cuz
what happened now? We got to hear it.
Tell us.
You know what? I I had a joke where it's
not me saying it, but I call my wife a
bee in it. But I don't mean it wasn't
me. I said the joke is I survived COVID.
I'm going through that. And I go, my
wife is taking care of my kids. I'm
hearing my son ask where daddy is, and
I'm getting breakfast, lunch, and dinner
delivered to my room. And then the crowd
starts laughing. I go, man, CO ain't
that bad. I feel like a husband in the
50s now. I said I feel like a I'm like,
get those kids away from me, [ __ ]
Where's my dinner? You know,
now you're not calling me.
Oh my god.
But but
I get I get what you say.
You know what I mean? I'm like I'm not
if I was 50 like if I was in the 50s.
You're making fun of these.
I'm making fun of what they call women.
But my wife didn't hear it like that.
She was like, "Oh, you call me a bitch."
And then my mom watched my first special
four years ago and she was there and we
watched it together. Now that all these
reals are coming out, people making
reals and in one of those I called her a
[ __ ]
but it wasn't it wasn't me again.
Similar similar situation, you know, and
then so you got to and then the biggest
mistake I made in this comedy special
and my wife told me not to do it.
Yeah.
And I did it. I call my kid
uh a [ __ ]
What's the
No, but I should. That alone's enough
for Alex just to Alex is laughing. Alex
is laughing. Alex finds funny.
But it's funny in this in the bit.
But I had a clean version where I don't
say that. And I was like, man,
[ __ ] is so funny, dude. But I
was like, now that I watch it, I go,
"What if my son gets old?" He says, "My
dad called me motherfucker."
I don't think he's going to care.
Hopefully, he doesn't. But I didn't. But
I guess my thing is I didn't have to say
it because I could I could have said
this this little like it goes uh it was
when after he touches the window. And I
go, "This little [ __ ] making fun
of me, man. [ __ ] you, dude." And then I
go, "But the comedian says his time is
incredible." I could have said I had a
version that worked just as the last
word of saying I go, "This little dude's
making fun of me." Cuz the joke is the
thing. And then I go, "This little
dude's making fun of me. Screw you,
dude." But the com So I had the clean
version.
But but that's not as it doesn't have
the same punch.
Yeah. It's showing that like, you know,
he's not your kid. It's like
disassociating that
he's not because I'm not making fun of
him. I may will you go talk to my wife
and let her know right two house just go
talk and that's the thing and then you
worry about oh if my wife is like that
she must have heard outside noise from
other people that's saying he called you
a [ __ ] in his special
I don't think so I feel like I would
never want to offend her family right
now but I didn't call her that I was
like if this person in the 50s
no I I get it you get it right
yeah like if you say this little kid is
making fun of me I feel like that comes
off is even more genuine as though like
there's tension between you and your
son. But if you disassociate you your
relationship from this like you know the
silliness of the situation by calling me
an MFer, you know what I mean? Then it's
like it's completely detaching it.
You're just talking about the
I find the extreme so much funnier. Like
you have to take it to like that where
it's it's it's like obvious. It's so
obvious but it's so extreme. Like that
to me is where the humor lies.
So that's the thing. I was watching my
special back. I had both version. I go
man [ __ ] just hits.
It does. It just fits, man.
You could have done it the other way and
got 90% but
it was like more 60. But when you say
the mfer man, they're like
when you say this little guy, they're
like
that's I I agree with you on that.
You know, so it's it's I'm not even
worried about getting cancelled from the
outside. I'm worried about like now I
have this new joke I'm working on for my
next special where it talks about how
women can't make men great. I mean, how
men can't make women great. But then I
get to the point where I talk about
women, how you make us great, but you
drive us [ __ ] crazy, right? So now
I'm kind of like, okay, what can I talk
about? What how can I dance this line
where my wife's not going to get offend?
Because now obviously I'm talking about
that side.
Yeah.
You know what I mean? This is I'm
talking in real time now. So that's
where I'm like for my wife. I'm like,
okay. You know, like my wife, the thing
I'm talking about now is my wife loves
to set traps for me and every woman does
in a relationship. They will ask you
questions where both answers are wrong.
No matter what you answer is wrong. My
wife was like, "Miss Wyoming, blah blah
blah." So all her friends are like like
beauty Miss USA's, Miss Universes.
That's all her friends, right?
And when we lived in LA, they would come
to the house and they would look at the
screen and go, "Oh my god, she's
beautiful." Any answer I say is wrong.
If I say she's beautiful, you're like,
"Oh, you think another woman's
beautiful."
If I go, "She's ugly." Like, "Oh, he's
lying. He's lying to me." So, like those
So, those are the elements I'm trying to
beat out now. Like, what
or people I've dated in the past, but I
don't like to talk about people I've
dated. So, it's basically my wife, what
she does to drive me crazy. You know,
like when you first get when you first
uh start dating, when they say your name
is sexy. Then when you get married about
after seven years when they say your
name you know you're about to do
something you know like take out the
trash you know
like at the beginning it's like Michael
you're like oh this about we're about to
get it out and later when they say it
like after years go by they go Michael I
was like what I got to do now
what is it now
it's funny
that's
that's funny but you got to remember
there's a real woman attached to that in
real time you know so it's
now here's the thing can You make up
stories so that she doesn't feel like
you're you're talking about your own
relationship?
No, I never make up stories. What I will
do is put it in other people's words.
Like I I
Yeah, I will do that. I was like
I don't want to say almost got in
trouble right now.
I setting you here as other people. But
if you guys are watching every based on
a true story.
No, it's true. Cuz I was about to say my
wife would watch and go really.
No, but uh it's uh 5:30. Oh, got it.
Okay. So, that's Michael's heart out.
You have a heart out right now.
I have a heart out because I got booked
on a TV show.
So, and they're going over the final and
I'm very happy about it. So, they said
they're going to call like any second.
So, that's why I got a bounce. But, it's
uh this has been awesome.
Yeah. Thank you so much. We could keep
this going longer. But, you know what?
Another time.
Let's do it again. And then next time we
won't get into the house thing. We can
keep it
I want to hear more about your wife.
Oh my god. She's last he wants to talk
about you just got engaged though.
Yeah,
dude. That's awesome.
Yeah, thanks.
That's awesome. Yeah,
I could start making jokes, too.
No, no jokes. I'm kidding. That was a
joke.
Just wait. Oh my good. We We'll talk
off. But it's it's awesome.
Yeah.
Just let her do everything. If she's
into weddings or whatever, if she's into
that, like my wife was really big into
no matter they'll ask you for your
opinion. They don't want it. just be
supportive like you they'll be like do
you like this color or this color and
you'll pick a color and they'll be like
oh I don't like that I like this one
like okay
that's what I told him and he said and
he said he will stand his ground for the
wedding now I got to defend myself on
this there are certain things that I
feel like I I would be inauthentic to
myself if I back down there are other
things that uh
you know I'm totally fine with whatever
Macy wants uh I'm good with that like
for for a wedding
for example if you don't care about
or if I'm indifferent. It there are
certain things that I I'm really
passionate about and I feel like I will
stand up for those things and other
things that I care more about uh you
know Macy being happy for a wedding. I
think this is about her and you know
creating that that day that she's always
wanted. Um for me it's uh you know I I
care more about her being happy in that
moment. So if she's like between
I'm not talking about the wedding.
No. What are you talking about?
I was just talking in general. Yeah.
When we were at the gym, it was funny. I
asked Graham the question like, you
know, are there certain things that you
that you stand for where if Macy did
something that you necessarily didn't
agree with, but it wasn't the most
important thing, you know, do you stand
your ground or do you ever give it to
Macy and just say, you know what, I'll
let you have this one. And then you
said, no, I will not not be myself.
Yeah. I mean, that's kind of the truth.
I mean, I don't even know if there's a
necessarily a right and wrong for this,
but sometimes for me personally in my
relationships, I like to maybe take some
things to the chin and maybe step
outside of go outside of like what I
truly believe just in order to avoid an
argument, which I know sounds, which I
know sounds extremely unhealthy
to like bottle that stuff in, but in my
opinion, certain times you could do like
a cost benefit analysis and say bottling
in causes this much damage, but also the
potential argument causes this one that
I've worked on. And I'll be personal
here. That's something I I really worked
on. Uh
in the very beginning, I took that
approach
and I bottled things up and I it's not
worth it. It's not worth it. I did the
same sort of risk versus reward. Within
a few months, it got to a point where
where things were just bottling up and I
just wasn't happy. Mhm.
And I got really good at being honest
and open and and sharing my thoughts and
and if Macy will ask me a question um
instead of either skirting the issue or
just not bothered eh it's I'll be
completely honest. So if she ever asks
me something like Graham did did uh are
you upset right now? I'll just flat out
say yes. Um and why? And I feel so much
better about it and I think our
communication is so much better. Uh that
does mean of course that there is some
conflict if there is something that you
know either we disagree with or
it's not worth it.
I do the same thing Grim. Yeah.
Yeah. There's very little that is not
worth it. Um it's just you know on a
magnitude of 1 to 10 usually it's minor
stuff. Um it's stupid stuff too. I mean,
really stupid, but uh I just feel better
about sharing my true thoughts and if we
disagree, we'll talk about it. But
that sounds that sounds healthy. And I'm
sure that there's a healthy balance on
both sides of like, you know, maybe I'll
just avoid this one cuz you got to pick
your battles. And then other things
maybe where it matters a lot more to you
than you know, you could choose to
engage in this.
Yeah. So, sure. There are some things
for me where it's, you know, let's just
say I'm um frustrated or something like
that. There's certain things for me
where where I know internally not even
worth bringing up. Like I'll be totally
fine.
Uh it's not worth discussing. But
anything that it is of any significance
for me I'll always be honest.
I think you got to rephrase it, Jack. I
don't think you can, you know, be like,
yeah, you know, not worth it. You got to
be, you know, you I think the way to
phrase it is like you got to really look
at the difference that you're having and
really think like is this really
important in life and like completely
let it go versus like bottling it up as
like Graham was saying in the beginning.
Um because sometimes when I think about
those little things it's like yeah
really doesn't matter. Let's get over it
and then that's that's basically what it
is.
Yeah. I don't mean bottling it up. I
just mean just like you know what
letting it slide. And because for me I
No, no. Not letting it slide, Jack.
That's worrisome.
For sure. Like you're saying that that's
bad.
No, but I personally if I accept that I
am letting something go, it doesn't
bottle up for me, nor does it build
resentment. And I I I'm able to
determine when if I do bottle something
up, it will build resentment versus when
it won't. You know what I mean? And
obviously, it's a net negative if I do
end up choosing the building resentment
side. I don't know. I think our
communication's gotten a lot better uh
for for both sides. Uh you know,
and and me being more open is something
I've really worked on and like trying to
uh hear another person's side in
general.
I do remember that actually in the
beginning of the relationship how you
kept on like like I I could see it on a
personal side where like you know like
obviously there's there's something that
bugged you or whatever. Yeah. You know,
don't worry about it because you like
avoiding the arguments. So, and it does
seem a lot you know healthier or
whatever now.
Yeah. Or whatever. I
All right. Well, any where Wait, where
did Michael go?
So guys, Michael had a call because he's
going on a show, so he had to leave and
we are extremely grateful that he came
on the ice coffee hour. Thank you guys
so much for tuning in. We have a Patreon
link down below. Michael,
yo, Jack, tell us about the uh the
Patreon. What happened? You just
completely redid it.
So, yeah, we restructured the entire
Patreon and uh we changed the perks
around and I think it's really cool. Let
us know what you guys think down below.
Oh, we got some really, really cool and
interesting ideas I think you guys will
really like.
Yeah. So, check it out to see what those
are. And I also told Jack, is it a
jacket too expensive? And he lowered the
price.
That is the exact opposite of what the
truth is. That is exact.
So,
that's not No, no. Okay, with that said,
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