Video summary
Bu bölümde, Bridgit, mükemmel bir Mayıs sabahında yürüyüş yaparken dinleyicilere hayatın kontrol edilemeyen karmaşası içinde bile seçim hakkına sahip olduğumuzu hatırlatıyor. Konuşmacı, izleyicilerin şu anki duygusal durumlarından bağımsız olarak hissetmelerinin tamamen normal ve geçerli olduğunu vurguluyor; hem kederli hem de mutlu olmanın her ikisi de kabul gören deneyimlerdir. Hiç kimse, ne en yakın arkadaşımız ne de bir terapist, bizi tam olarak anlayabilecek kadar derinlikli bir formüle sahip değildir; çünkü insan doğası gereği anlaşılmak için tasarlanmamıştır. Bu hayatın asıl amacı, bağ kurmak ve bu bağlantıyı pratiğe dökerek şefkatle hareket etmektir.
Bridgit, kontrolümüz dışında kalan olayların kaotik olabileceğini kabul ederken, yine de ilişkilerimizdeki çatışma, kafa karışıklığı ve bağlanma süreçlerinde seçim yapabildiğimizi belirtir. Bu seçim yetisi, şefkatle içimize dalmayı gerektirir; çünkü kendimize karşı duyduğumuz kopukluk genellikle bu içsel şefkati kaybetmemizden kaynaklanır. Şefkat, her birimizin farklı günlerde ve farklı şekillerde deneyimlediği benzersiz bakış açılarını kabul etmemizi sağlayan en yakın şeydir. Birbirimizle bağ kurdurarak öğrenir, büyür ve ruhun ne anlama geldiğini daha derinlemesine kavrarız; ancak bu anlayış süreci bu hayatın içinde tamamlanamayacak kadar büyüktür.
Konuşmacı, karşılaştırma yapmanın rekabet için değil, şu anki durumumuzu anlamak için doğal bir araç olduğunu belirtir, ancak bu karşılaştırmaların bizi kaosa sürüklememesi gerektiğini uyarır. Kendini fark etme ve basit, saf anları değerlendirmenin gücüne odaklanarak günün ışığına, umuduna ve ilham verici temel detaylarına dikkat çekilir. Geçmişte hastane yatağında dışarıyı göremeyen bir dönemde bile duvarın ötesindeki endüstriyel yapılar yerine huzuru seçebildiğini anlatan Bridgit, şu anki durumumuzla geçmişimiz arasında sağlıklı bir denge kurmamızı önerir. Bu süreçte, diş fırçalarken veya aynaya baktığımızda kusurları değil, uyanmak ve günü seçmek için gösterdiğimiz insanlığı ve cesareti takdir etmemiz çağrısı yapılır.
Sonuç olarak, bu sessiz ve ince bağlanma anları, ruhumuzu yükselten küçük espresso atışları gibi bizi hatırlatan ışık kaynağıdır. Şefkat ve basitlik yoluyla günümüzü karşılayarak, kendimize ulaşılabilir olan o şefkati kabul etmemiz istenir. Bu bağlamda, umudun bir tohumu olarak ruhunuzun yükseltilmesi ve insanlığınızın ilham alınması hedeflenmektedir. Bridgit, dinleyicilere bu yolculukta yalnız olmadıklarını hissettirmeyi ve onlara bugün için mevcut olan şefkati kabul etmeleri için teşvik ederek bölümünü sonlandırır.
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Good morning and welcome to Sunday
morning coffee with Bridget. We are out
walking on this beautiful May morning.
It's really gorgeous today.
It's beautiful weather and the sky is
very blue
and the sun is shining.
You might be able to hear the birds. I
hope you can from time to time as we're
talking.
Ooh.
What a time.
What a time. I hope that this
episode can help to
remind you
that even though
things outside of your control can be
hectic and crazy and
confusing
I hope this episode reminds you that
you have choice.
You do.
You yourself
as you are exactly as you are right now
imperfect
flawed
and maybe even down. Maybe you're
feeling kind of low.
However you are showing up right now,
however you are feeling right now
and it's natural.
It's completely normal and natural
to feel exactly how you feel
to be exactly where you're at.
Oh, you can be frustrated.
You can be disappointed.
And for some you might actually feel
exhilarated,
happy, optimistic, hopeful.
Wherever where ever you are, whatever
you are feeling it's valid.
100% valid because nobody,
not me,
not your best friend, not your partner,
nobody, not your counselor, nobody knows
exactly what the perfect formula or
combination of you is.
Nobody ever will deeply and truly and
wholly completely understand you
because you're not supposed to be
understood.
We are here on this planet at this time
to be connected, to understand the
meaning of connection, to
work in the practice of compassion
as we connect
to allow ourselves to have some
conflict, to have some confusion
and to move through those things because
relationship is the whole point
of this experiment.
This lifetime, this timeline
for you personally and for all of us
inter-
personally.
And through connection we have these
experiences,
which is why it's confusing.
And it doesn't have to be overly
complicated
if you can afford yourself the
opportunity to
sink into
this truth, which is you are
so incredibly important.
>> [laughter]
>> See? Rosie just said, "You're
important." You're important. You are
important to this lifetime of
experience.
The experiences that you're cultivating.
You have choice. You may not have
control, but you have choice.
You have choice in connection. You have
choice in conflict. You have choice in
confusion.
And you have choice in compassion. We
have lots of C words here. Can you think
of any others?
Mhm?
>> [snorts and sighs]
>> Be conscious
of the compassion that you seek within
your soul.
Cuz that's part of why when you feel so
bad, so down, so low, you feel the
disconnect.
You've lost that innate connection to
compassion
for yourself, to yourself, and through
yourself, for you.
And compassion is the closest thing
we'll ever have to understanding,
to allowing each one of us to be
different on different days and
different ways,
and to allow us to experience the same
scenario,
but in such a variety of ways that we
cannot possibly comprehend
how different and unique our own
personal viewpoints are to that exact
same, seemingly same experience.
But we can cultivate
through compassion
connection.
And in relationship with one another, we
learn and we grow and we understand
a little bit better, a little bit more,
a little bit deeper
ourself and what it means to be a soul.
Why we came
to this human body,
and why we are sharing in relationship,
in connection,
this moment.
These moments.
In these times,
what I find works for me
is to notice
the simple and pure
moments that I have
to connect with beauty,
with hope,
with the basics
of the day that inspire me. Like when I
see the sunrise,
I take a moment and I breathe it in and
I'm like,
"Ah, [sighs and gasps]
yes.
Look at that.
The color, [clears throat] the hue, the
vibration.
And in some mornings, the lack of. In
some mornings, I wake up and there's not
sun shine directly in my window, but
there's light.
There's a calming, soothing, cooling
color to the sky,
a calm to the day,
a hue of peacefulness when the sun isn't
shining vibrant in all of its colors in
the sky.
So whatever the day brings, whatever
that morning through my window shows me,
I
feel
the connection.
And I appreciate
the moment.
And maybe it's because of all that I've
been through.
Could be.
I remember being in a hospital bed and
not seeing outside. Well, I looked
outside and I saw a brick wall and then
the top of a roof where there was like
some kind of machinery or equipment or
I don't know.
Furnace e
air conditioning thing or something. It
just was very industrial.
But not seeing the sun, not being able
to get out of bed
and walk to a different room and see
that the sun was shining outside
and that there were some clouds in the
sky and it was
a pretty day. But not even being able to
go outside, not even being able to open
a window.
And now comparison isn't something we
encourage necessarily, but it's a
natural thing.
Comparison not for competition's sake,
but to understand where we're at right
now is natural. I think that is natural.
As long as the conflicted parts of
ourselves don't cause chaos.
Don't hurt us in those moments when we
compare.
>> [snorts]
>> In the gap in the space in between
there's appreciation that grows. There
is a
deepening sense of gratitude that
supports
that scaffolds up connection
and allows us to begin the process of
understanding, which we will not
complete in this lifetime. You will not.
I promise you that.
You will never be understood and you
will not understand in this lifetime.
You will not.
Because the moment you leave this body
and you're in that in between space,
all that escapes.
There's no need for it.
There's no longer an edge.
There's just peace.
And so for now, practice those moments
through compassion and simplicity
as you greet the day.
As you face the mirror, as you brush
your teeth,
not to focus on the flaws,
but to acknowledge the humanity and the
courage it takes to wake up, to get up,
to move into, to choose
the day.
Gently,
maybe sheepishly,
>> [sighs]
>> maybe not all that excited,
but nonetheless, you're moving into
what's next.
I see you.
I feel you.
Through this connection, this
relationship,
please
receive the compassion that is available
to you today
as you move throughout those quiet,
those seemingly very, very subtle
moments
of connection, of compassion, of caring,
because they're here.
Like little shots of espresso
to boost you,
to remind you of your soul and your
spirit and how bright of a light you
are.
This is Bridget. Thank you so much for
listening to Sunday morning coffee with
Bridget.
I appreciate you being here. I hope your
spirit has been uplifted and your
humanity has been inspired
at least with a seedling
of hope today.
Thanks for listening.