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"It's Better To Be Scary Than Hot"

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The discussion begins with a nuanced exploration of female preferences regarding male muscularity, clarifying that while many women find muscles attractive, this is not an absolute rule for all individuals or contexts. The transcript highlights a recent meta-analysis on predictors of mating success which suggests that men who are more muscular and bodily masculine generally achieve higher mating success than those who are less so. However, the speaker cautions against equating high levels of muscularity found in pornography with real-world attractiveness, noting that extreme body modifications may function as a "super stimulus" effective only on camera rather than in genuine social interactions. Beyond simple aesthetic appeal, the conversation delves into alternative mechanisms by which muscularity influences mating outcomes, specifically through intimidation and perceived aggression. A key example cited is the so-called "frat boy study," where male participants rated each other based on traits like fighting ability and intimidation levels. Interestingly, when women subsequently rated these same men for attractiveness ("how hot"), that metric did not strongly predict their actual mating success measured by the number of sexual partners they acquired. Instead, the data indicated that being perceived as scary or intimidating was a more significant predictor of reproductive success than simply being considered "hot." This discrepancy leads to an important hypothesis regarding the trade-off between long-term and short-term mating strategies. The speaker suggests that the physical traits associated with building muscle—such as aggression and dominance—are linked to behaviors conducive to pursuing multiple short-term mates rather than securing a single high-value partner. In this framework, number of partners serves as a rough indicator of one's ability to engage in casual encounters but does not necessarily reflect overall mate value regarding intelligence or emotional stability. The argument posits that once a man meets the baseline threshold for attractiveness required to initiate sexual contact, additional muscularity may function less about being "sexy" and more about signaling the capacity for aggressive pursuit, effectively making it better to be scary than hot in specific mating markets. The dialogue also touches upon the limitations of current research methodologies when measuring such complex social dynamics. The speaker notes that studies often fail to account for variables like female intelligence or general mate value, focusing instead on raw counts of sexual partners which might not fully capture the quality of relationships formed. Furthermore, there is a distinction made between different types of attractiveness; while some women prefer leaner men who are muscular but not overly bulky, others may be drawn to extreme physiques depending on the context. The meta-analysis mentioned appears to support the general trend that masculinity correlates with mating success regardless of specific aesthetic preferences held by individual groups, reinforcing the idea that evolutionary signals like strength and intimidation play a robust role in human sexual selection. Throughout the segment, there is an underlying theme challenging popular cultural narratives about what constitutes ideal male beauty versus reproductive fitness. The speaker emphasizes that while media often promotes hyper-muscular ideals as universally desirable, real-world data suggests a more complex picture where fear and dominance can outweigh conventional handsomeness in determining who gets to mate with whom. This perspective reframes the conversation from purely cosmetic standards to functional evolutionary psychology, suggesting that traits signaling physical power and potential aggression offer distinct advantages in competitive mating environments, even if they might seem off-putting or dangerous in a casual dating scenario at a bar.
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do women like muscular men yes yeah yeah I mean there there some some don't right but but there there's a variety of convergent and so I'm not speaking I'm not saying that like all women prefer muscles and I'm also not saying as you noted that as muscular as possible is optimal right in this and it's also possible that you know a certain degree of muscularity is sexy in some context but not in all right like the bodies that are popular in pornography might not actually look that great in real life right there's something about like the kind of super stimulus of like a super muscular lean dude um or someone who's you know had their body done to to a extreme degree that might work on camera but not you know uh in the real world but in any case muscularity there was a recent meta analysis that just got published on this or I believe it just got published it might be you know still in the kind of public uh awaiting review sphere but certainly certainly the results are out uh and they looked at kind of all the studies on predictors of mating success in all these different ways and it just sort of is the case right in the sense that regardless of what people say is attractive and what isn't men who are muscular have higher mating success than men who aren't right and men who are more bodily masculine in general seem to have higher mating success and so there's a couple different reasons why that might be I mean the first thought is pretty obvious it's like maybe guys with muscles are just sexier right and there are indiv ual studies where it's like you show women a bunch of bodies and you're like who's hottest in this crew and it's like a guy who's more muscular than average and leaner than average right not stage ready bodybuilder but certainly like pretty high standard right there's other studies that don't show that but there are other ways in which there are other ways in which muscularity can help you to compete for mates without making you more attractive so one route by which could be the case there was a really interesting study which you might have already read I'm sure one of your guesses it might have been him it was the frat boy study so they studied a bunch of Frat Boys I'll I'll email this to you afterwards because you're going to like reading it they studied a bunch of Frat Boys and they had them rate each other on like who would roll who basically like who who would be the best fighter who's the most intimidating that sort of question I can't remember the scale items they used and then they had women rate the Frat Boys as to like yeah yeah how hot are these guys Y and really weird result how hot the women said the guys were didn't have it wasn't a strong predictor of the male mating success now mating success is very hard to measure they M they measured it by number of mates so we'll we'll talk about this more in a second but at least in that study with those measurements the intimidation Factor was better right it was better than being hot it was better to be scary than hot and so one potential idea is that if you're a super jacked scary dude and you're talking to a girl at the bar everyone else is like all right that's that may as well be his wife like I'm like I'm not going anywhere near this situation she's off limits whereas if you're a super scrawny guy who is you know frail maybe maybe maybe not that's one idea but another idea and this is I think another likely hypothesis frankly is that and this goes back to the masculinity trade-off thing that we were talking about earlier is that maybe the traits associated with AC crewing muscles are also the same traits associated with aggressive pursuit of short-term mating right and so measuring mating success with number of mates in that case right they didn't look at how goodlooking were these girls how intelligent were these women how high mate value in general were these women right they they didn't look at that it was literally just how many people have you slept with which say what you will I mean that's an indicator of something it's but it might not be that much more of an indicator than you're not an incel right because after that it's like if you're if you're at least at the bare minimum level of attractiveness to engage in short-term mating and that's not a particularly low level right that is at least medium surely but once you're at that level if you want to in a modern mating Market you can have you could have a one night stand every week so it's like it might not be that great of an indicator but it is interesting in other news this episode is brought to you by element stop having coffee first thing in the morning your adenosine system that caffeine acts on isn't even active for the first 90 minutes of the day but your adrenal system is and salt acts on your adrenal system element contains a science-backed electrolyte ratio of sodium potassium and magnesium that helps to curb Cravings regulate your appetite and improve your 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