Is The Narcissist Happier With Someone Else? [RAW]

Is the narcissist happier with someone else? Sometimes we may ask ourselves if the narcissist is happier with someone else. Because they devalued us for such a long time. And it left us questioning ourselves, doubting ourselves. It affected our confidence despite everything that we were doing for them. And so it leaves us wondering if maybe they're happy now with this new person they're with. So I know it's something that we all have to think about. And I think that's normal with any relationship. You do want to know if the person you were with is happier. Especially when we're dealing with narcissists because they clearly had a problem with you. They made you feel like something was wrong with you. Or like you just weren't good enough. And because when you're dealing with a narcissist after they leave you, it's always going to look amazing. It's always going to look incredible. It's like they suddenly just had this big glow up. And they're so much happier now. Everything is good for them. And I dated several narcissists in the past. And they all dated many different people in the years that we were apart. Now when they were with me they seemed like they were much happier. But then afterwards once they got involved with these other people they appeared to become depressed. They seemed much less brighter than they were before when they were with me. And they also got involved in all kinds of things such as drugs. And yeah, they just weren't the same as they were before. I don't know what they're doing now or who they're with because I haven't looked on their social media for years. But every time I remember they were with someone new and they would always say the same thing every time. This new person is amazing. This new person is incredible. Or they would look happy in their photos. And they would be doing all of these things. They would be buying luxury items, designer clothes. They would be going on vacations. And in the comments everyone would say that they look good together. They're the perfect couple. So they've got everyone supporting them. They've got their friends, their family, everyone. But I always noticed this pattern. They would always end up destroying themselves. And they would end up destroying everyone that they're with. They would end up wearing less and less clothes. Getting lots of tattoos, doing drugs. And they weren't doing this stuff before. They weren't doing this when they were with you. But then they're doing this after they leave you. And they're doing this while we're healing? While we're focusing on our growth. While we're having our actual real glow-up. So, they are not happier. And they're never happy. Is the narcissist happier with someone else? That's not even the right question to ask. Because they're miserable. They're miserable with you. And they're miserable every day even after they leave you. So, don't think that there's something that someone else could do. Like someone else could come in and replace you. It's never going to be like that for them. This is what they do. They make you doubt yourself. They target your confidence. So, you've just got to look back and remember the person that you were for them. Everything that you gave to them and did for them. Because just look at how they reacted to that. They were never happy. They were never grateful. They never appreciated you. So, it doesn't matter what someone does for them. That doesn't make them happy inside. They are always miserable. They hate everyone. And honestly, it seems as though the more you do for them, the more they hate you. They don't appreciate any of it. Because they have no respect for anyone. Now, they may fear authority. They may fear the police. But, that's only because they don't want to go to jail. And if you listen to them carefully, they will tell themselves they don't actually care about the behaviors. For them, the only problem is if you get caught. And that's why they lie, they hide things, they make friends with people in authority, and it's because they're afraid. It's not because they respect authority. It's not because they're trying to be better. They don't care about anyone. And in their minds, everyone is beneath them. But yeah, like I said, it always looks like they're happier. If you see them in person with their new supply, they want you to think that they're happy with them. And of course, you know, they know that they've left you without any answers. They've left you in a state of confusion. So, they're expecting you to be looking on their social media, trying to figure things out, trying to figure out where they've gone, who they're with. And they've already curated these pictures for you to make you think that they're happier now without you. So, it's all bait. And it's all meant to punish you because they're resentful. No matter what you do, it could never make them happy. So, don't look at that. And just laugh at it if you can. But, if you can't laugh at it, don't look at it because this can damage you. When you're looking at someone who is toxic, and yet you're seeing it as something positive, it can [clears throat] really mess you up. Because you have to see it for what it is. If you can see it more accurately, you can then separate yourself from it. So, let's start seeing things accurately. Look at what they even have to offer to that other person. What do they have to offer? Friendship? Because maybe you had some good times with them. You were hanging out together. And there's always going to be good times in any relationship, even with a narcissist. But those good times are short. It doesn't last. It's fleeting. Most of the time these people are miserable, or they're bored. There is always something wrong. There is always a reason for them to have to destroy something. So, they're never going to change. This disorder cannot be cured. They could not retrain their brain even if they wanted to. Their brain doesn't function normally. They have no empathy for people. So, it's all just fake. Everyone around them is fake. All they care about is their image. They have no goals. There's nothing that they're really passionate about. Nothing positive that they're really trying to achieve. It's all just about their image. It's all about making themselves look good. It's all about just making themselves feel better. Because deep down they know what horrible people they are. Because they are pretending to be something they're not. And of course, you know, it always comes back to sex. Everyone always says, you know, sex with a narcissist is amazing. And you feel like, you know, it's just it's something that you can't move on from. It's something you can't forget. It's like yeah, but you know, now this new person is having sex with them. And now you're alone, you're lonely. And yeah, you know, what I'll say to that is they do use sex to manipulate people. You know, that is true, especially the somatic narcissist. You know, they probably are very good at it. You know, they've had lots of practice. They have lots of sex with lots of different people. So I I I'm sure they're bound to be good at it by now. And they will use sex, they will use their body. They'll do everything they can to make this person happy. But I can guarantee you they're not happy. It's all pretend. It's all a show. And then it just gets to a point where they can't pretend anymore. Because the novelty wears off. And then that's when the abuse starts. So they begin to moralize this person. They call them names. They put them down. So what you're seeing in it has nothing to do with connection. It has nothing to do with love. It has nothing to do with a relationship. What you're seeing is the toxic cycle of narcissists. So they're not going to stay with that person. Eventually they will be with someone else. And they will be doing the same thing with that person. After they're done After they're done with the person they're with now. And if you could talk to that person, you would share the exact same experiences. Because they would have experienced the same thing. So they would have started hitting them at the same time they started hitting you. They would have cheated on them around the same time they started cheating on you. And they would have never admitted to anything. Just like they never admitted anything to you. Because it's always the exact same thing. They do it all the time. And it's because they don't know anything else. There's no happiness with a narcissist. They can't create happiness. They can't sustain happiness. The only thing they can do is destroy it. They destroy happiness. So, this narcissist I promise you they will never be happy. It looks like they're happy. But that's only because their image is the most important thing to them. It's all they care about. Immediate gratification. Immediate attention. But what do they have to offer? They've got nothing to offer. Many of them don't have a proper education. They don't seem to work a lot. Or really try to excel in their work. They're not normally family oriented or goal oriented. They don't have any goals. And that's why they're so envious and jealous of you. They don't like it that you have goals. They don't want you to see uh to to do well. So, they destroy your goals. They take your attention away from your goals. They put it down. They just keep you busy doing stuff for them. But it's so bad you're not doing what you really want to be doing. You're not achieving what you really want to achieve. And I spent a lot of time and attention on my ex narcissist. But there was always something wrong. They were never happy. There was always a problem. And they were either angry or they were depressed. There was never a sense of peace or calm. And it was like this all day, every day. And there was nothing I could do to help them. No matter what I did, it was never enough. They were never satisfied. And I did so much. But what I do know now is that they're never going to find anyone who will do even a fraction of what I did for them. So I know they're never going to be happy with someone else. And you should know that they weren't happy with you. And they weren't happy before they met you. They were They were in a bad relationship before. So there's nothing that we need to do. You don't have to warn this new person. You don't need to destroy the relationship. You don't need to contact them. It's not going to make a difference anyway. Because if their ex-boyfriend or girlfriend contacted you when you were with them and they told you that they're a narcissist would you have believed them? You wouldn't have because you liked them. And you were glad that you met them. You didn't want the relationship to end. So you just assume that their ex must be crazy, a stalker obsessed with them or jealous. And that's why that may have been exactly what the narcissist told you they were. Because they already [clears throat] know how it makes them look. But yeah, it's not your responsibility. You just need to take care of yourself. And don't worry about if they're happy. Just focus on your happiness. Because that's the ultimate revenge. You do not need them. You don't need someone who makes you feel less. Someone who brings you down. Be indifferent. And you're not indifferent now because you still believe in them. And as long as you believe in them, it's going to affect you. Because you're placing your trust and belief in something that's not good for you. So be indifferent. Don't care about how they are. You shouldn't want to hear from them. Because that is the ultimate revenge. I don't want to say the only thing that really makes these people feel better is thinking that you or someone else needs them. And that's why they lie. That's why they deceive, they manipulate. Because that is their supply. But the truth is that you don't need them. You never needed them. They needed you. And that's why they wore a mask to get in with you. And then once this new relationship fails, they will wish they could get a hold of you. But then they will go to another relationship, but then that will that will that will fail as well. And if you look at their social media, you will see it. Because they're never alone. They go from one relationship to the next. And they're never happy by themselves. And then as years go by, they have many relationships. And all of these relationships are so amazing. They're so wonderful. And they're so much happier now. But then, these relationships always seem to end. And then they're with another person and they're doing the same thing again. So, don't ever worry about if these people are happy or not. You just have to remember what you experienced with them. Remember all of the effort that you put in, everything you did for them. Remember what you got back. Remember what they had to offer. Remember what they brought to you. Remember what they brought in your life. Misery, pain, abuse, destruction. Now, somebody who affects you in that type of way, they're never going to be happy. It doesn't matter who they're with. But you, the entire time, I mean, just remind yourself what you were doing. You were fighting for happiness. They were making everything miserable. They were making life hell for you. And you were the one trying to fix everything, trying to make everything better, trying to make them happy. But no matter what you did, it was never going to be enough. These people can't be happy. And they're always going to envy and resent your happiness and your goals because they know it's never going to be like that for them. So, let them go. Let them move on with this new person. Knowing that it's not going to go anywhere anyway. So, you have no reason to feel jealous or to feel like you're missing out on something. The happiness is within you. So, it's time for you to focus on your happiness then. Focus on what makes you feel good. Focus on your healing. And do the things that you couldn't do while you were with this abusive, controlling narcissist. So, again, I hope this video has been helpful for you today. If it has, please give it a hype. It helps to support my work. And subscribe if you're new here. [clears throat] Check out the website. It's narc survivor.co.uk. 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