If You Suffer From Depression or Anxiety, You Need to Watch This | Rainn Wilson on Impact Theory
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In this episode of Impact Theory, actor and activist Rainn Wilson joins host Tom Bilyeu to discuss his profound personal struggles with anxiety and depression, framing mental health as one of the world's most critical issues alongside racism and climate change. Wilson reveals that he suffered from severe panic attacks for years after college, experiencing debilitating symptoms such as shaking on subways in New York City and an intense fear of flying or being enclosed spaces. He describes a period where these fears would shift targets randomly, eventually affecting his ability to perform talk shows by freezing up before cameras. To combat this, Wilson utilized exposure therapy, famously appearing on Jay Leno's show in 2008 to act out a nervous breakdown as a therapeutic skit, which helped him realize the absurdity of expecting such an event to happen naturally. He credits his recovery to a combination of professional help, including cognitive behavioral and gestalt therapies where he engages with "characters" representing different internal voices through empty chair techniques, alongside practices like meditation and cold plunges that became popular in 2020. Wilson emphasizes the importance of processing emotions rather than numbing them through addictions or materialism, drawing on his own history of struggling with drinking, drugs, gambling, and pornography to soothe unexpressed feelings. He advocates for a shift from pursuing happiness based on external markers like wealth or fame—which positive psychology studies suggest has an inverse effect—to achieving "eudaimonia," the ancient Greek concept of human flourishing found in service to others. Rooted in his faith as a member of the Bahá'í community, Wilson argues that true contentment comes from rising to one's maximum potential through usefulness and helping humanity. He explains that whether viewed through spiritual or materialist lenses, serving others triggers natural neurochemical rewards like dopamine and endorphins, creating a "magic cocktail" for human flourishing while simultaneously addressing systemic issues like loneliness and disconnection in society. Addressing the current global crisis of isolation and climate change, Wilson shares how he moved from being a passive observer to an active participant by launching *An Idiot's Guide to Climate Change* on his Soul Pancake YouTube channel with Dr. Gail Whitman. He critiques academia for often isolating scientists who publish data without engaging in public communication, noting that humanity has known about climate threats since the 1970s and is still exactly where those early warnings predicted we would be today. Wilson encourages people to adopt a mindset of curiosity over defensiveness, famously stating he does not care if humans are causing climate change because burning fossil fuels seems like a "really stupid experiment" that must end regardless of political polarization. He urges individuals to get off their butts and learn the science themselves rather than dismissing it or engaging in divisive arguments, focusing instead on data-driven goals that move society toward renewable energy solutions. Throughout the conversation, Wilson highlights the power of gratitude as a primary tool for positive psychology and spiritual growth, noting his own tendency toward cynicism requires constant counter-effort to maintain optimism. He suggests practical ways to build community during times of physical distancing, such as meeting friends at coffee shops while maintaining social distance or connecting with nature through activities like tennis and camping, which he did extensively with his teenage son who is navigating the brutal challenges of adolescence today. Wilson concludes that overcoming mental illness involves hitching one's wagon to two pursuits: making oneself a better person by reflecting divine qualities like kindness and patience, and making the world a better place through service. By aligning personal character development with macro-level contributions to society, individuals can find equilibrium against anxiety and depression while fostering genuine connection in an increasingly fragmented world.
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[Music]
Hey everybody, welcome to another
episode of Impact Theory. I am here with
legendary actor and activist Rain
Wilson. Rain, welcome to the show, man.
Big it up. Big it up. Big it up.
Bill
Yeah, buddy. It is so good to have you
back, man.
Hey, it's great to talk to you again.
And I really enjoyed our conversations
uh back in the day when I was kind of
more actively with Soul Pancake and on
your first show and uh hearing your your
life journey is always inspiring and
congratulations on the success of your
show. It's great to be here.
Thank you, man. I I am so in awe of the
way that you move through the world and
really excited to have you back. One
thing I I want to talk about that I
think you're doing really well is this
is such a crazy time for people, stress,
anxiety, and all of that. you don't
assue the sort of messiness of the real
world. Um, you're in it trying to find a
way to do something that matters to you,
to the world. Um, and that is so cool to
see you leverage purpose and service as
a way through um, any difficult time.
And I I know recently you've started
talking about your struggles with
anxiety and depression, and I would love
to jump into that and and just
understand more about how you've found a
way out of it.
Uh yeah, thank you uh for for saying
that and for bringing that up. So
there's a number of different fields
that I'm interested in besides the whole
writing, acting, producing,
directing kind of Hollywood stuff, which
you know comes and goes, has its ups and
downs. But um you know, one is my wife
and I do all this work in Haiti uh with
girls education. I'm really passionate
about that. I've been doing a bunch of
stuff about climate change. I think
we'll talk a little bit about that. But
this is another one uh that I'm really
uh an issue that I'm really passionate
about which is uh mental health. And uh
so I have this company Soul Pancake that
I co-founded and we did last year a
documentary about mental health um
called uh Laughing Matters and it's um
it's comedians talking about their
struggles with mental health because
there's there's a link between comedy
and anxiety and comedy and depression as
you know you know with Robin Williams
and and you know there's addiction
issues and you know all kinds of all
kinds of stuff in that in that area. So,
it was really an honor to be able to
explore that. But this issue is so huge.
In fact, I would say that um you know,
there's just there's a handful of issues
that are kind of the most important in
the world as I see them. And you know,
we've got racism is a huge one. Climate
change is another one. But mental
health, especially with young people, is
huge. It's off the charts. When you
start looking at the numbers, it's a
very simple Google search. I won't
repeat them for you right now, but you
can just type in suicide, anxiety,
depression, young people, teenagers,
etc. And you see that, you know,
suicides have gone up by a third over
the last 15 years. the number of uh
teens, genzers, 20somes suffering from
uh depression and anxiety and
loneliness. Loneliness is through the
roof. This is one of the biggest issues
that they're dealing with on college
campuses.
Um the the numbers
is that even before uh co kicked off.
Oh yeah. Oh yeah. This has been this has
been it's been for years. And older
people like ourselves, Gen Xers or
boomers, like really have no idea how
deep this [ __ ] runs cuz it is very very
real. Um, a lot of lives have been
touched by it. So, this is one of the
things that I'm really uh passionate
about and been working with Soul Pancake
on some uh some uh content around. But
yeah, through the course of this I've
spoken about my own personal struggles
with this and
um you know I guess for me uh one of the
things that's that's central to this
discussion is that for any young person
who feels like they're depressed or
they're suicidal or they're anxious, you
feel like you're the only one in the
world feeling that way. you really
there's a certain measure of isolation
that goes with the disease of mental
illness where you feel no one else could
possibly understand what I'm going
through. So it's really important for
people for speakers, thinkers, writers,
celebrities to speak about their
struggles. Uh this has really helped
people um um as I've gone along. So
yeah. So,
you know, I don't know how much I want
to get into specifics, but I will say
that, you know, when I got out of
college, I was really lost for many
years. Um, I suffered from severe
anxiety attacks. I would get anxiety uh
attacks where I would be on the subway
in New York City like shaking. and was
afraid that people were going to think
that I was like a crack addict cuz I was
like sweating. I'm kind of sweating
right now actually, but that's more from
the
the LA weather. But um uh you know, I
would be shaking and sweating on the
subway. Um uh panicking or days I
couldn't get out of bed. Sometimes I
would just fall to the ground. Um these
came and went for years. Sometimes they
would be attached to a thing. So all of
a sudden it would get attached to flying
and then I would have this terrible fear
of flying. Then it would go away from
flying and then it would be enclosed
spaces and I would get it around
enclosed spaces. Then it would just kind
of randomly happen. Um
how did you as an actor on the stage?
How did you deal with that? That's got
to be a pretty big trigger um to
literally be on stage in front of
people.
Yeah. Yeah. In fact, it was a big deal.
I um I it never happened on stage, but I
would get that fear, you know, that when
you get that cold, chilled ice water in
your veins, like heart thumping fear
like, oh, oh [ __ ] this thing is about
to happen. I would get that terror that
I was on the stage because I did theater
for 10 years before I came to LA and
eventually did The Office. So, um, I did
a lot of different plays, a lot of
different styles of acting and
characters, and I was terrified that one
of these days I was going to seize up on
stage, forget all my lines, and start
shaking and sweating.
Do you have a guess as to why it didn't
happen?
Well, I think
I think that it's like people who
stutter. Like, I have a couple friends
that stutter, and when they're acting,
they don't stutter. They're actors who
stutter. So in real life they stutter
and when they're on stage playing
characters they don't stutter. So what
is that about? There's a certain part of
the brain that you're using. There's a
certain consciousness and focus that
you're bringing to the words that you're
saying that um I think allow you to not
stutter and to not succumb to panic
attacks. Um, but I was going to say
jumping ahead,
this all came back years later when I
started doing talk shows and I had, this
sounds crazy. It sounds absolutely nuts,
but I started having a debilitating
fear of doing talk shows. This is like
in the when I started doing the office
the early 2000s you know this was I did
my first one in like 200
five 2006 between like 2006 2010 right
in there when the office was just taking
off and I was doing Conan O'Brien back
when he was at Rockefeller Center and
stuff like that and I would not sleep
the night before. I would have night
terrors and I would have a debilitating
fear of freezing on camera. not having
anything to say and uh and just kind of
shutting down and even stuff happening
with my body. I had so I actually
it never actually happened but I would
have to like work on my material. Talk
shows are a really weird thing. This is
different. we're just having a
conversation, but a talk show with a
live studio audience that's being taped
and then that uh what's being taped is
just going to be fed through. And this
was back in the day when people were
actually watching network television.
And there was actually one episode I
need to find it somewhere. It's in the
annals of of the YouTube videos that no
one cares about or watches anymore. It
was like me on Jay Leno in 2008 or
something like that. And I I told him
about my fear of talk shows and that my
therapist wanted me to act out having a
nervous breakdown on national
television. And I actually did it almost
as like a skit and people thought like,
"Is this supposed to be funny? Is this
real?" It had a little bit of a Charlie
Kaufman edge to it. You weren't sure
what you're supposed to think. But I I
literally went on the floor on Jay
Leno's show and I was like shaking and
like uh and I said, "Thank you so much.
just was so therapeutic because I went
through my my biggest fear which was
having an anxiety attack uh on a talk
show.
I have to see that interview now. That
that is crazy. Did it actually help?
Like was there something therapeutic?
Like was it exposure therapy or
you know it did help a little bit. It
did help. It showed me the absurdity of
like rain. You're not going to be seized
by tremors and have giant flop sweat and
shake, you know, in a fetal position on
the floor of a national talk show. It's
just it's not going to happen. Um, it
didn't completely go away. It's not like
I was magically cured after that, but it
definitely took a step in the right
direction.
And have you had a process beyond that
like meditation or um cold plunges?
anything to to help with that or is it
just over time you've done so many of
them that now it's not as troublesome?
You're so 2020 meditation and cold
plunges. Um
that that really is a time stamp.
Those are those actually are great
tools. You know, I've done a lot of work
around it and uh a lot of therapy and
meditation. I do meditation.
Tell me about the therapy. Is the is it
therapy exposure therapy or is it talk
therapy? cognitive behavioral therapy
like what what was actually useful as
somebody who has struggled profoundly
with anxiety. Um I find the
breakthroughs that people have had to be
super useful.
Well,
generally I'm a big proponent of therapy
because my parents didn't know how to
talk about emotions, let alone to teach
me about how to process feelings
that my wiring was all screwed up by the
time I got to my 20s. That's what I was
finding out. It's like my internal
wiring. So, it took me years and
fortunately I was making enough money as
an actor that I could afford therapy and
I had pretty good health care. So, that
that helps. But the process of learning
about how feelings work, you know, and
they need to be expressed and they need
to be felt. And you know, if you're sad,
you need to cry and you need to let it
out and you need to do self-care and
allow yourself to be sad and process
that. So, you had a a guy, a young adult
with all these unprocessed feelings.
Then you factor various addictions in on
that as well. You, you know, there was
my drinking phase, drugs phase, porn
phase, gambling phase, you name it,
whatever I could kind of become addicted
to at the time. Um, trying to soothe
those feelings that were not being
expressed, trying to numb them, trying
to escape them through taking things
into my body and into my senses. Um,
that that didn't help. Generally just
learning about how feelings work was
very helpful. The guy I've been working
with for the last
6 to 8 years, he does a thing called
gestalt therapy which is very
interesting. It was very big in I don't
know the 50s or 60s and it kind of waned
but it's really interesting. So
it's some people do call it like the
empty chair work and that's essentially
gestalt therapy. So for instance,
there's the part of me that's
debilitated by anxiety. So that and
according to Gestalt therapy is a
character that resides in me. I have a
lot of different there's a chorus of
voices, a chorus of characters that
reside in each one of us. You simply
engage in a conversation with that
character. So it's this kind of actors
actually do really well with it. It's
kind of like role playing. So, you have
myself, there's the therapist over here,
and there's an empty chair. So, I'm me.
Then, I have a conversation with my
anxious guy. I'm like, "Tell me about
yourself. I remember sometimes I've been
just debilitated by anxiety. I couldn't
move. I um was tongue-tied, sweating, in
panic attacks. Like, who are you and
what what are you about that you kind of
take me over in that way?" And then I
get you literally get up and you walk
over and you sit in that other chair and
you talk back to the empty chair. That
guy talking back to rain to reasonable
rain and that guy. You don't know what's
going to come out. You don't you don't
try and plan it. You just try and just
It's like improv. You just step into the
shoes of that person. And by the way,
you can do this all with writing, too.
You can just do conversations by
writing. And some people take to that a
lot more easily. And then that guy might
say like you you know you're a piece of
[ __ ] and nobody likes you and so you're
you're terrified of being found out as a
total fraud and unlovable and so I'm
there to protect you and and if that
happens like I'm going to I'm going to
I'm going to protect you and you're
going to I'm going to seize you up and
I'm going to overwhelm you so that I'm
just by the way I don't know that any of
this that I'm saying is is the truth.
I'm just giving an example. No, it's
super helpful.
And and you can do that with all of
these different characters in your head
and um they then they cease to have that
as much control because they're not
these characters swimming in the sea of
our unconscious that sometimes leap out
with their tentacles and grab on and
control us. They're much more like, oh,
when you hear that voice, you you start
to feel the anxiety like, oh, there's
Mr. anxiety guy again or you try and
control it's like oh there's my control
freak I wonder what he's trying to
control or there's my angry act reactive
guy going again you kind of it allows
that kind of distance to know that I
don't have to be a victim to these
characters that live within me.
There's a concept I forget uh a really
famous negotiator I'm forgetting his
name but he talked about a similar
concept where he said you go to the
balcony. So, you're going to the balcony
to get that distance to be looking down
on yourself so that you can be more
objective in the situation and really
figure out what is true, what's not
true. Um, and and you know, talk
yourself down as it were. It's
interesting. That's a really powerful
I've never done it, but that sounds like
a super powerful way to begin to develop
self-awareness, which is certainly what
a lot of people struggle with. The
interesting thing for me is I didn't
have anxiety when I was a kid, but I was
woefully unself-aware. And then as I
began to develop self-awareness, I began
to have thoughts about, oh, what do
people think of me? Am I going to make a
fool of myself? And and that was sort of
planting those first seeds of anxiety.
But then you sort of become blind to
yourself again of not understanding like
what's really driving this. And that
notion of learning to process through
your emotions, I think is really really
powerful. Um, so we've got the empty
chair technique, we've got journaling,
um, which that that certainly is
something closer to what I do. I found
journaling to be incredibly powerful.
Um,
have there been other breakthrough
moments for you? And I'm asking you
particularly in the context of service
and faith. Um, so you know between the
bajai faith and if there's anything
there around that about the nature of
life and maybe stillness or something.
I'm obviously guessing, but um and then
service, you know, seeing how actively
you pursue um
mattering purpose. Uh I wonder if any of
that is tied up in into getting to the
other side of anxiety and depression.
Yeah, that's um yeah, we haven't even
gotten to the depression part, but the
um so my my personal faith, a member of
the Bahigh faith has definitely inspired
uh this idea that we rise to our maximum
potential when we're of service to
others. And not only our maximum
potential, but our our greatest
usefulness and living in that potential.
and usefulness
uh gives us the most kind of rich human
satisfaction.
And I know for me cuz I spent a long
time when I first started getting famous
various points in time just trying to
satisfy myself and my ego and I was
miserable. In fact, they do studies on
happiness and this is part of mental
health is you can um I'm sure you've had
some happiness experts on but there you
know there's so many books about it and
and the whole field of positive
psychology is really exciting uh field.
It just started in the '9s. I mean when
I was going to college there was no such
field as positive psychology. Now
there's thousands of books about it and
um and they're they're really exciting.
But one of the things that is
um 100% true in positive psychology,
it's irrefutable that one of the worst
ways to achieve happiness or
contentment, whatever you want to call
it, is through materialism.
And yet we live in a culture that tells
you over and over and over again, if you
get this car, if you get this amount of
money, if you have this amount of of
success, this amount of fame, this
amount of um promotion, uh then you will
be happy. You will achieve happiness
once you get to that certain level. And
yet the pursuit of that, the pursuit of
like I need to make 165,000 a year to be
happy or I need to own the new Tesla to
be happy or once I get this kind of
girlfriend or spouse or whatever then
I'll be happy. The pursuit of kind of a
materialistic
uh view of happiness is um has an
inverse effect. It it decreases your
happiness. It makes you less healthy. I
mean you can do again I don't have the
exact specifics on the tip of my tongue
it's a simple Google search um and
conversely happiness contentment
selfin enrichment I always talk about
udemonia udemonia you know you've
probably heard about that and talked
about that before I think we spoke about
it before the idea that the ancient
Greeks had a word for happiness called
udemonia which is human flourishing
you know and I love that umbrella
concept like what creates the the the
largest human flourishing
let's let's focus on that um forget
happiness human flourishing but from the
bahigh faith from the study of positive
psychology
helping others being of service
maximizing how much you matter actually
is the number one u uh cause of human
flourishing
So, um, I just when I kind of get into
my [ __ ] of like, oh, I'm not acting as
much as I should be, or people only know
me as Dwight, or uh, I'll never have a
career again, or, you know, I need X
show to make X amount of money so that I
can go on X vacation or or something.
when I get into that whole stuff, which
you know that comes and goes every week,
um it's kind of like how can I be of
service? How can I how can I help
people? How can I take the skills that
God has given me, that nature has given
me, and put those to their best possible
use? So, I let that be um I try uh and
let that be a guiding light in my life.
Yeah, that to me is really interesting
because it jives with what I'll call
sort of the physics of being human. You
know, when you think about um and I know
that one thing you don't love is uh
reducing things that feel a little that
I want to be true to your words that are
sort of a spiritual god-inspired moment
like holding your child for the first
time. Um, for me I share that same sense
of wonder and beauty, but for me I love
recognizing it as the neurochemistry,
you know, just like the the cocktail of
what's going on in your brain that it
is, but with that same reverence and awe
that you bring to it. So understanding
like the physics of being human is when
because we're a social creature, you
have this natural reward that's built in
when you are using a set of skills that
you have worked to build up and now
you're helping not only yourself but
you're helping somebody else. And when I
think about human flourishing and
udeimmonia, that to me feels like that
magic cocktail where you will, whether
you want to or not, you will get a burst
of feel-good chemistry when you start
heading down that path. Um, and so that
is again one of the things that I find
so interesting about you is there seems
like this throughine in your life of
even even at the height of fame for you.
I feel like you'd be leveraging that to
do something for other people as well.
Um, and that gives this sort of
equilibrium. That's from the outside.
I'm sure that it feels differently from
the inside, but from the outside, it has
that throughine that seems to provide a
lot of sort of emotional stability. Um,
and you know, when I put it in the
context of what we're all going through
now in this time of isolation where I'm
sure a lot of people are really
struggling, um, is service something
that you think will see people through
and how in this time can they leverage
that? What can they do to to reach out
and feel more useful and connected?
Yeah. So, uh, and by the way, I just
want to go back to a little bit about
what you said about the physics of being
a human being. You know, whether you're
u an atheist materialist, and I'm
talking about the use of the word
materialist, not as acrewing material
items, but just seeing the world as
molecules.
um or whether you're a spiritual uh
person that believes that there's some
larger force at work beyond time and
space uh some creator let's call it God
whatever um
this it it spirituality works through
dopamine spirituality works through
endorphins and the reward system in the
brain and it works through physics so
it's like when people there was a
scientist who uh in the last decade
discovered like a point in the brain
where people would have uh religious and
spiritual epiphies and say aha I've
disproved spirituality because I
actually found the point in the brain
where people experience spirituality and
this disproves it. It's like, "No, of
course not, you idiot. This is we're in
material bodies." You know, when we see
beauty, we experience it through the
eyes. When we hear something beautiful,
we experience it through the ear. And
then it and there's neurons flashing
around in the brain. So, it all works
harmoniously. The physical, the
spiritual, it all is combined. So, going
back to service, um, yeah, so there's
selfish reasons to be to do service. I
want to do service because it makes me
feel good. Um but you know even if you
look at human flourishing a little bit
broader than that there are other
reasons to to there are other ways to
flourish. Um beyond just like oh I'm
getting a a nice dopamine rush because I
helped this homeless person out. Uh and
that is also and the other component to
service is like look around look around
at the world because things are [ __ ]
up right now. They always have been. You
can you have those authors, you know,
like Pinker, other people that are like,
"Oh, the world is great. We've had less
wars and less deaths than we've ever
had." Yeah, okay. I get it. However,
just go talk to one of the billion
people in the planet that are going to
bed hungry every night. And okay, maybe
it used to be two billion 80 years ago.
Uh but people are hurting. There's, you
know, systemic racism. There's there's
there's climate change coming. There's
uh economic uh
in injustice everywhere. And so the
other reason to do service is to try and
make the world a better place because we
need it. And if you want to maximize
your compassion
uh for others, then you want to devote
yourself to trying to uplift and and
help other people just because it's good
for the species and good for the planet.
It's also good for your human
flourishing on a micro level as a human
as a human being. And it's your human
flourishing on a macro level. You know,
we have these two paths in the Bahigh
faith. There's a it's called the
two-fold moral. You have a two-fold
moral purpose. We refer to it. You try
and make yourself a better person. So,
part of my goal, Tom, as I go through
life is I want to be a better person.
What does that mean? I want to reflect
more of the qualities of the divine. And
you can call them leadership traits or
character virtues or whatever you want
to call it. It's fine. For me, I'm I'm
going to look at it in that sense. I
want to be more kind. I want to be more
compassionate. I want to be more
patient. I want to be more honest. I
want to be more giving. I want to be
more loving. I battle with this stuff
every day. It's not like I don't have it
all figured out by any means. Ask my
wife. But I want to I'm working on this
path and I'm also working to make the
world a better place. I want to make
myself a better place and I want to make
the world a better place. And if I if I
hitch my wagons to those two pursuits,
going back to anxiety, going back to
depression, going back to loneliness,
I truly believe that's the answer.
That's the way out of any kind of mental
illness. It's like I'm going to make
myself a better person. I want to make
the world a better place. And everything
that I'm doing, I've got these two
chariots and I'm going down this road or
I'm going down this road or I'm going
down both together.
Yeah, I'm I'm with you on that. This
when I think about, you know, what we're
going through now and like you were
talking about loneliness was epidemic
before we came into the pandemic. So,
how do you, you know, begin to deal with
sort of the really overwhelming sense of
being lonely and disconnected as you get
into a time like this? Um, and I think
you're right on the money. I think that
having the having established your value
system, that's actually a really
powerful insight and I'd be very curious
to hear more about what your value
system is and if you um have sort of
intentionally documented that or if it's
you're playing by ear. Um, but having a
value system, living by it, um, you
know, you're calling it sort of traits
of the divine, and I think we're saying
the same thing, just like you said, I
use maybe slightly different words. So,
um, leveraging that we're a social
creature that will get rewards by um,
trying to uplift the group, right? So,
by doing things like that, you are going
to start to feel better. You are going
to start to feel more connected. Um, how
have you, given that we're still
physically distancing, how have you done
that? Is it the um reachouts that you do
on social media over Zoom or Skype or um
do you have techniques that are working
well for you to allow you to serve,
allow you to connect? How have I done it
in the pandemic? I I don't know that
I've been very successful, you know,
honestly. I've tried to increase my
prayer and meditation. Uh increase kind
of gratitude.
You know, I'm sure you've spoken to
people about gratitude on your show, but
gratitude is the number one tool of
positive psychology. And it's really the
number one tool of people of faith when
you think about it. Because when you're
praying, you're giving thanks to the
divine. You know, you're saying God is
great. allow Akbar what however you want
to look at God or the divine and saying
thank you for this beautiful day or
thank you for the stuff I have or thank
you for me being alive and having my
senses today. So uh increasing gratitude
is a huge uh help in increasing
happiness and human flourishing. So my
tendency is to get very dark and cynical
and I can look at what I
I think anyone
that's on this path has gone through uh
dark and cynical times. And you may not
perceive me as that, but I can be pretty
pessimistic. So, it takes a lot of work
for me to counter my natural impulse.
See my I would say my natural impulse
and a lot of people's natural impulse is
for self-satisfaction
uh pleasure, increased status, increased
comfort, uh kind of pessimism, things
aren't going to work out, negativity.
So, I've had to do all this work to
counter that. You know what I mean? Uh
it's Seisphus pushing the boulder up the
hill. But gratitude is um is that who
Seephus was or did he get the fire? No,
that was Icorus. I don't know if pushed
the You were right on the money.
Seephophist pushed the rock up the hill.
I was all of a sudden I was like, did I
get my did I [ __ ] up my my Greek
mythology metaphors here. Um, but
one thing again that positive psychology
in the study of mental health issues
shows us is we need connectivity.
Um,
yes, we need it for increased uh
endorphins
and uh and dopamine, but we need it to
thrive and this is a very difficult
time. Um, so how do we make community?
You know, we I just try and like do
social distancing with friends at
Starbucks and have a coffee from six
feet away. do that a couple times a day,
you know, play some tennis, get outside,
connect with nature. I don't know that
I'm being very successful. But again, so
we talked our western society in 2020 is
trying to convince us that buying stuff
and acrewing stuff will make us happier.
We're being fooled by this as we spend
hours a day. You know, when you get that
the weekly updates of like how much time
you spend on your screen and you're just
like, "Oh my god, what the hell am I
doing?" So, um trying to put the phone
away whenever I can. Um and increase the
connectivity.
Yeah, I think uh wise moves. Wise moves
for sure. Do you when you're working
with your son, do you think about it any
differently given the age that he's
going through this at? Um are you
recommending the same things for him? I
know there's a lot of parents out there
right now that are struggling with the
same thing. You know, it's we all
thought this was going to be brief and
this has become I mean this is crazy.
Um on so many levels this is crazy.
Yeah. My son is 15 almost 16 and it's
brutal for teenagers right now. I I
really truly think they have it the
worst and the parents of teenagers. We
only have one. You can imagine having
being a parent of three teenagers or
something like that. It's because all
teenagers want to do is be with other
teenagers and they can't. And you you
may think, you know, a Zoom classroom
kind of scratches that itch a little
bit, but it's not uh panacea toward
toward that. So, it's incredibly uh
trying. We I went camping with him. We
went six days out in the wilderness. I
don't have any answers around this. It's
really tough and my my heart really goes
out to the, you know, the single mom
with two or three or four kids um during
this time. It's it's brutal. This is a
real test.
So, as you um
walk us through what's going on, how
you're leveraging service and how
powerful that can be to help people at
pretty much any point in their life. um
when I look at the ways that you have
done that from creating soul pancake to
just entertaining people and now moving
into um what you're doing with climate
change super curious to know and what
you're doing in Haiti and trying to
empower women through the arts. I mean
it's really a pretty extensive resume of
cool things you've done to to be of
service. Um walk me through what you're
doing now with the climate change. I
think it's really interesting because
you've framed it as I don't know [ __ ]
about it, but I'm not afraid to go
discover and like really take myself out
there and just take you guys along on
the journey. Um, which I love because so
many people will dismiss something like
that saying, well, I don't know about
it. So, um, you sort of being the the
pied piper of, well, let's go discover
it together. Um, what made you pick
that? Is that a general technique that
you use of just like, hey, I'm just
going to go learn?
Well, so you use the tools that you have
uh to try and make yourself better and
to make the world a better place as we
talked about. And one thing I've really
haven't known very much about and I was
just a slackivist, you know, it's just a
keyboard social justice warrior was
about climate change. Just kind of like
reading an article
about how terrible climate change is,
posting it on my Twitter, then a bunch
of people are like, "Oh, that's
[ __ ] It doesn't exist. The
weather's always been changing. That's
one I really love. Yeah. Not like this.
Not over a hundred years. Over 20,000
years. Sure. The weather's been
changing. Not over 120 years, idiot. Um,
so I I was doing the minimum, you know?
I was, yeah, I have an electric car and
I was tweeting about it. That's the
minimum. So I was like, how do I use my
platform? how to use my voice to to not
only get the message across, but for me
to learn more about it. I need to get
off my fat ass and actually do
something. So, you know, fortunately, I
have a lot of young Office fans who
loved Dwight and they also know me as
kind of an idiot and, you know, I can
just be coarse and uncou and weird and
uh sloppy and um you know, offbeat and
these are my qualities. So, how do I
harness that? I I started to get to know
these scientists, especially this one
Dr. Gail Whiteitman, who's uh an amazing
uh amazing social scientist who studies
climate change. And so she kind of
interacts with climate science and
climate scientists and connects them to
municipalities,
cities, governments, big business, you
know, the the government of the
Netherlands and, you know, about effects
of climate change and what we can do and
whatnot. and she was like, "Let's just
let's we're going up to Greenland.
There's a bunch of scientists I know up
there. Come meet me." We shot this whole
series on Soul Pancakes YouTube channel
called An Idiot's Guide to Climate
Change. That's where people can find it.
Um we've done five of the six episodes
have aired so far. The sixth is airing
very soon. And um it's uh it's a it's a
we shot the whole thing for like
$67,000.
the entire thing.
Like I just did this Amazon show called
Utopia that's coming out soon and that's
like that's literally like the mustache
wig budget for for that show. I mean we
did it for super cheap. But for me it's
like get off your butt and actually do
something. A learn about the science. We
can all learn about the science. It's
not that hard. It's all right there. Um
and
communicate about the science. Um one of
the failings in the whole uh journey,
humanity's journey around climate change
is the scientists have really failed us.
Um up until about 10 up until about 10
years ago,
scientists always because academia is is
so messed up and just how academia works
and that's a whole other conversation.
Um, scientists really viewed it as their
role to research and discover data and
post their data and that's it. They
would write they would see these warning
signs that humanity is headed for the
precipice and they type up their data
and they put it in, you know, the
journal of science and that's that's it.
I'm done. Do I get my raise? Do I get my
tenure? Do I get to transfer? I I
publish this thing. Can I go to another
college university
again? And so these uh scientists are
not viewing their their duty and their
role to their being a member of the
human species. The information that they
have been accumulating. Remember that
we've had this information about climate
change since the late 70s and early 80s.
You know, we had the when you you can go
back and look at studies from like 1982,
I forget which one, and we're exactly on
track, exactly on track with what
scientists were discovering in 1982 in
the Reagan years, back when both the
Republicans and the Democrats thought
that this was a great threat. Um, back
when it was not so polarized. So
scientists need to share their data uh
more forcefully and in different ways to
uh to help us move forward because now
we have this whole science anti-science
kind of thing going on. And it's it's
partially the fault of of academia. So
I've been rambling, but anyways, there
you have it.
Not at all, man. It's interesting to see
your thought process and to see what you
get interested in. And one, I love
tackling the big challenges you listed
at the beginning of the interview like
here are the big things that I think are
really going on. And so to see you in
there um not accepting, you know, the
deviation from your own value system. So
it's like, hey, I feel like I should be
doing something about this, so I'm going
to get off my ass. I'm going to go do
something. I don't know about it, but
I'm not afraid to learn. I'm also not
afraid to look stupid, which I think is
incredibly important. And so going in
and and your challenge to not letting
things be so divisive, I think is um
really important. I fear
it seems to be falling on deaf ears. Uh
but I I would love to amplify that
notion of people really looking um you
know what works and just being obsessed.
Elon Musk said it best for me when it
comes to climate change. Like are humans
causing climate change? I I almost don't
care what the answer is. It is a really
stupid experiment since we know that we
have to find an alternative to fossil
fuels. Burning through them all and
sending, you know, carbon dioxide into
the atmosphere until the bitter end, not
knowing if that's going to be a problem
just seems like a really stupid
experiment. And I thought that is the
perfect way to look at this. There's no
there's no great outcome here. So
putting your time and energy into
solving or not forget saying it like
solving the problem just moving to
something that is renewable
is certainly the obvious answer. And so
when people begin to entrench and it
becomes us versus them. I'm on this side
or that side. It's like I'm on the side
of what works. I always want to be on
the side of what works. What is our
goal? What's actually moving us towards
our goal? And that you can always count
me on that team. And if I realize I've
been running in the wrong direction and
there's data to show me that I'm running
in the wrong direction, then you know
I'm happy to switch it up and trying to
get people excited about that idea. Like
be data driven. What is your goal? And
are we marching towards that goal? Yes
or no? And if you're making prog, if you
can state your goal and you're willing
to state it, your goal is, I will say,
honorable, it should be both exciting
and honorable so that you can get people
behind it. And that in getting people
behind it, you're actually making things
better for the world. So if you have an
exciting and honorable goal, then you
just ask, are we actually moving towards
that or away from that? And
if we could get people excited about
that instead of excited about I'm on
this team and I just dunked on somebody
on Twitter and made them look a fool,
uh, I think we'd be in a much better
position. But that would require people
to do what you're doing, which is go out
and say, "Look, I don't know about this,
but I'm going to go learn." And, um,
that to me is is exciting, man. It was
so neat to see you do that. And as
always, your your content is is quality.
Your your personality is beyond
disarming. Um, so it it's it's a great
ride. Um, where do you want people
engaging with you and all the cool stuff
that you're up to these days?
Well, they can certainly check out An
Idiot's Guide to Climate Change uh on
the Soul Pancake YouTube channel. Um,
and uh follow me on the social media.
Uh, I'm working on a book on all of this
stuff. So, eventually hopefully
Do we have a loose title?
Oh, it's a it's a terrible title. My
working title is the worst working title
and I feel horrible but it it um uh the
in its um
I don't even remember what it is now.
Well, the last one I remember Bassoon
King. So, you you definitely have a tall
order to top that.
My life story is in the my memoir that
came out four or five years ago, The
Bassoon King. That's a good that's a
good laugh. But my yeah my new book is
something like uh the upcoming spiritual
revolution or something like that. It's
kind of like
um how do we harness the power of
spirituality
to change the world going all the way
back to the to the Bhagavad Gita to the
vas to the upanishads to you know the
writings of the Buddha to the to the
Bible the Quran uh are there tools in
there that can make us better people and
make the world a better place? So
I love it man that's awesome. Well, I
cannot wait to see what you put together
on that. Um, I certainly have enjoyed
the last two books of yours that I read,
so I'm about it. Can't wait.
Excellent, Tom. Great talking to you
again, man.
Dude, same. Everybody, this man is not
only funny, but he has got a just
absolute treasure trove of insight. So,
I highly encourage you to spend time,
read his books, check out his content,
all of it. It's amazing. And if you
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