How to Win The Game of Life

Imagine spending the next 30 years climbing the ladder, making money, building the career, checking every box that you thought that you were supposed to check, and then at the end of your life realizing, "Holy I won the wrong game." Because you could become incredibly successful at building a life that you never even actually wanted. Most people actually do that. And I don't know about you, but if I get to the end of my life and realize that I was playing the wrong game, there is nothing in the world that scares me more than that. So, today I'm going to teach you how to win at the game of life. And I'm going to give you five things, five things you can actually do starting today. Because here's what I've realized, most people are losing a game that they don't even know that they're playing. Nobody told them that there was a game. Nobody told them that they were the ones who get to write the rules, and so they spend 30, 40, 50 years chasing somebody else's scorecard, and then wondering why they feel like they have nothing, and they don't feel like they're winning in life. So, by the end of this episode, you're going to know what your vision of winning actually is, and how to get there. So, let's dive in. Let me tell you where this idea came from because I've been full steam ahead on my event that's coming up in December called Freedom Live. And we were touring the facility this week and checking out the room. We're going to have a room that can hold over a thousand people, and I was meeting with my team and we were building everything out. We're building out the event and who we want there and all of this stuff. And I kept thinking to myself, "What is the main goal here?" And the main goal is to teach people in that room how to win at the game of life. How to get out of their own way, how to achieve every single thing that they've ever wanted, and how to fully live up to their true potential. To teach them how to get out of their unconscious patterns, their habits, their beliefs that have been capping all of their success their entire lives, and then break free from all of those so they can live to their true potential. So, my belief that I have in life, and you don't have to have this belief, it's just mine, is at the end of your life, you're going to meet somebody. I'm going to meet somebody, right? And I'm probably going to meet God. And then right next to God, there's going to be somebody else. I'm going to meet the version of me that lived up to my full potential. Like who I could have been. The version of me if I unlearned everything that I was taught. If I unlearned every pattern and every habit and every limiting belief that was never actually mine to begin with. The one who was just fully completely aligned and true to himself and lived up to his full potential. And my goal is at the end of my life when we meet and I look at him, we look like twins. That's it. That is really how I define winning. Now obviously there's some spiritual stuff and God and all of this stuff, but that's how I define winning as the actual time that I'm here in life. Like how close am I to the version of me that I was capable of being? And it's not about money, it's not about followers, it's not about a number in a bank account. It's about unlearning all of the things that were programmed into me that are not truly me so that I can rediscover my true self and then from coming from that place win in all areas of my life. In my relationship with my wife, with my children, in my professional life, in my health and fitness and in my body, in my bank account, in my fun. Because I don't I don't think I'm going to be perfect. I don't think anybody's ever going to be perfect. But I want to be as close to perfect as I possibly can. I want to be as close to my true potential by the time I leave this place. And we will be right back. Hey real quick. If you're someone who sets a goal, gets really fired up for a couple weeks, and then somehow ends up right back with the same habits that you swore that you were done with, this is for you. Listen to me for just a second. It's not because you're lazy, it's not because you don't have enough discipline. It's because you're trying to create a new life with the same identity that you've always had. See you have to understand you will always act in alignment with who you believe that you are. So, if deep down you see yourself as somebody who quits, somebody who never follows through, somebody who always falls back into the same old patterns, then you will keep proving that story true over and over again. And until you change that old identity underneath it, nothing will change. That's why on August 27th, I'm hosting a completely free live workshop where I'm going to show you how to identify the patterns that have been controlling your decisions without you even realizing it, how to break those patterns, and then how to shift your identity so that the actions that you want to take finally match the life that you say that you want. So, if you're ready for change, and you don't want to stay the old version of you, go to 2026workshop.com right now, or scan the QR code that's right here to save your free spot for August 27th. So, go ahead, save your seat, and I'll see you there. And now, back to the show. Like, and I want to give you something real that I should kind of ties this in. Let's less than a spiritual idea. There's a woman named Bronnie Ware. She wrote a book that was called The Five Regrets of the Dying. And the number one regret of people who are dying is I wish I had the courage to live a life that was true to myself and not the life that other people expected of me. Not I wish I made more money or I worked harder. I wish I had been me. The number one regret of people who are about to die is I wish I had been me. Do you understand what that means? The most common regret at the end of life, when they're looking back, is that they could not do anything about it, but they realized they were living somebody else's life. And so, this is why this hit me so hard, because you and I, we come into this world like a blank slate, infinite potential, no beliefs, no fear of failure, no fear of judgment, no idea what you're supposed to be. And I'd argue that like 99.9% of us come into this world with roughly equal chances at the moment that we're born. I'm not talking about like your circumstances. I'm not talking about the family that you're born into, or your health at the time of birth or any of that. I'm talking about this raw material that we come in at, a blank slate. That part's pretty close to the same for most of us. And then our programming starts. Your parents program you not because they're bad people, because they're just running their own programming. Your teachers program you, your friends, your religion, your town, your first heartbreak, the internet, all of it programs you in some sort of way. And slowly over 20 or 30 years, you become somebody else. You're not your true self anymore. That's your conditioned self. And it's a a costume that you were basically handed so early that you never even knew you were wearing it. Because it's just like who you've always been. And like I watch my son every single day. He came into this world with zero beliefs about himself. Zero. None. Not one. Everything he will believe about himself in the world and about who he is, he's going to get from somewhere. And I'm going to have the biggest chunk of it that's going to come from me. And that scares me in like the best way possible because it made me look at myself and go, "Okay, wait. Where and like what like what am I still running? Like programs that I never chose." And this game of life is not you versus anybody else. It's you It's not you versus your brother. It's not you versus the government or your co-worker. It's not you versus the world. It's you versus your old conditioned self. Your true self versus your conditioned self. That's the only game that's being played. Are you going to free yourself from your old patterns and your conditions and realize your true self and realize your true potential? And so, here's what you really need to realize. You are playing a game and you can write the rules of this game. I like to look at life as like a game because it takes so much pressure off of yourself. And it can make it a whole lot more fun. When you see a challenge come up in your life and you see your life as a game, you can actually see like, oh, this was brought to me for me to conquer and struggle and grow stronger from. But, the difference between this game, the game that you're playing of your life, and every other game is like, if you play pickleball, somebody else wrote those rules. If you play basketball, somebody else wrote those rules. You show up and you're handed a rule book and they say, "Hey, this is how you make a point. This is how you win the game." and then you go play. But, in your life, nobody hands you the actual rules. But, I would bet everybody listens podcast, you've been living your entire life under somebody else's rules. You have been playing their game under their rules when this is your life and you get to make the rules. You get to define what success is in the game, how to win, like what actually winning looks like, and then how to play the game itself. But, most people don't even actually know that. So, let me ask you a question. Like, have you ever actually defined the rules of your game? Have you sat down and written out what a win for you is? Cuz most people never have. They just borrow somebody else's. They'll play their dad's game, they play their their friends group game, they play society's game, and then they never really question it. But, what I need you to understand is you can win at somebody else's game and still feel like you lost. And I see it over and over again. Extremely successful people that feel like failures. And it's like Tony Robbins says, "Success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure." There's a a researcher named Ken Sheldon who studies goals, specifically goals that come from you versus goals that come from outside of you. And what he found is super interesting. When people chase goals that are actually truly deep down aligned with them self that come from themselves, they have more sustained effort, they work harder, and they feel better when they get there. When they chase goals that are absorbed from other people or what they think they're supposed to do, they don't work as hard, and when they do achieve them, they don't really truly feel fulfilled by ever achieving that goal. And so the translation of that is you can hit a target and feel nothing because it was never your target. It was somebody else's. So you need to get really real with yourself and decide what do you want in this world? What are the rules of the game, and how do you know that you won? Because here's the thing, you cannot win a game that doesn't have a definition of winning. You can just play it forever and feel like you didn't really get anywhere. Right? So what do you want to do in this situation is start to audit what is actually yours and what's somebody else's. The problem with the conditioned self is it doesn't announce itself. Like it doesn't even feel like programming. It feels like personality. It feels like, "Hey, this is who I am." And so here's the audit. Take any belief that you have about yourself and ask one question, "Where did I learn this?" And try to see if you can find it. You know, if you say like, "I'm not good with money." Okay, where did you learn that? "I'm not a creative person." Where did you learn that? Who told you that? "I'm too much." Where did you learn that? Who made you feel that? If you could trace back to a person or a moment or a memory or a room that you were in, it's not yours. It's an install. I did this a few years ago, something I'd been carrying my entire life. I always believed that I had to like like rest had to be earned. Like if I wasn't producing, I wasn't worth anything, right? And I thought like for years I just had really great worth at work ethic, and I was proud of it. People like congratulated me for this work ethic. But when I traced it back, it wasn't my work ethic at all. It was a kid who figured out that the way to get his his approval from anybody was to achieve. And nobody really like sat down and taught me that. I made it up from what I saw happening around me and how I got recognition. And that's a survival strategy from like 30 years ago that I never updated. And so do that. Take three beliefs this week, today. Write them down and then trace them back to where they came from. And then here's what I want you to do. I want you to do what's called a life review now. Okay? The you know, people always talk about hey, when you die, you have a life review, you meet God, you have a life review, all of that. And what's crazy about it that is I don't think that you need to get to the end of your life to have a life review. Right? Like why would we wait? Like let's do it now while we can still change the ending. Because at the end of life we can't change anything about it. So once a week you sit down and you just run the tape from the past week. And you just ask yourself three questions. Number one, where was I my true self last week? Where did you feel the most alive? Where were you feel aligned? Where did you feel like it was you were just the most like yourself this week? Next one, where was I my conditioned self this week? So where did I kind of like where was my people pleaser coming out? Where did I do something I didn't want to do? Where did I do something that's just out of conditioning? Okay? And then the last question is what's one thing I'd redo so that you can figure out and the next time that this actually happens, this is what my my choice is going to be. That's it. It takes 10 minutes. And this is not like beat yourself up session where you shame yourself and guilt yourself because you fell back in old patterns. That's not what this is. You know, when people describe a life review in near-death experiences cuz I've watched a lot of videos on it, almost all of them say the same thing. When they sit down and they have, you know, they they die, they talk to God or whatever it is and they come back to life, they had a life review. There There no judgment. It was only love. And so just review your week the way somebody who deeply loves you would review it with you. With honesty, with love, with zero cruelty, and just be curious. Because your life is just a bunch of weeks that you run until you run out of weeks. It's just one week after another week after another week, and then eventually you run out of them. And if you review every week for the next 30 years, you won't get to the end of your life and be surprised by what you see. Okay? And then the next thing, your focus is becoming the twin of your highest potential self. Like stop playing other people's games. Stop comparing your finances to a guy whose definition of winning is completely different than yours. You're comparing your body to, you know, someone who's a fitness influencer whose entire job is their body. You know, you're losing a game that you never signed up for. So you need to change the scoreboard. So every night, just ask yourself one question before you go to sleep. Did I get closer to him or further away today? Or her, right? Did I get closer to her today or did I get further away from her today? And what we're talking about is that true self. Is that twin that you're trying to build yourself into that if you do happen to go through this fictitious thing that I just talked about, which is you get to see who you could have been at the end of your life, are you going to be twins or is there going to be a huge gap? Right? That's only the real true scoreboard that matters because I believe that when you are truly, fully, 100% your true self, everybody in your life benefits from it. Everybody else's life is better, and that's how you can truly win at every single pillar in your life, all of the things that are most important. Right? And the beautiful thing about this is whenever you mess up, you can always win tomorrow. Right? There's no losing streak that takes you out of this game. You mess up today? Cool. Fix it tomorrow. Just get better tomorrow. And then the last thing that I really want you to do is I want you to play like you chose this life. I want to give you a frame that kind of changes everything in the way I think of of things, right? This is just my belief. You don't have to hold on to it. You can if you like. I like to think that before I came into this life, my soul saw all of it. So, like before you came into the life that you have, your soul saw all of it. Every challenge, every success, every person who would love you, every person who would break your heart, the whole thing from start to finish. And your soul looked at your life and said, "Yes. That's the one. That's the one that I want. That's the one that I need to learn that I'm supposed to learn next. Like, I need this one to get to my next level of soul college or whatever it's called, right? And like sit with that for a second. If you're the person, the soul inside of the body that you're in, and you chose this life, how would you view your next challenge if you actually believe that? Cuz that would mean the hard part isn't the thing that came to ruin your life. The hard part of what you're going through is the curriculum of your life. It's the exact same thing that you came here to learn. Your life is a perfectly crafted curriculum for your soul to learn whatever it's supposed to learn here. That heartbreak wasn't a detour. That bankruptcy or, you know, failure in business wasn't a detour. That childhood wasn't a detour. It was the level that you picked. And so, the practical piece of all of this is next time something punches you in the face in life, and it probably will, maybe even this week, right? Instead of asking like, "Why is this happening to me?" No, say, "What did I come here to learn from this?" That's it. One question, simple question, extremely powerful. And I want to be very clear on it. It's not about pretending that things aren't hard when they're hard. They are. And some of them are brutal. It's about refusing to be a victim of a life that you signed up for. And so, I think the greatest strategy tragedy in our lives would be to to to end of our life and realize that we did not live up to our true potential. And so, I want you to understand through this episode number one, you are playing a game and you can win it. Number two, you have to define what winning looks like. And number three, you have to come up with the rules of that game and live every single day to try to be the type of person who comes back to their true self, let's go of their conditioned self, and actually starts to win at each of the categories in life that truly matter from a place of full alignment. Hey, thanks so much for watching today's video. If you love this video, click this one right here. This is the one that you need to watch next. And if you want to make sure you don't miss any more of these episodes, click that button right there. Make sure you subscribe and check out the next one.