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How To Stop Feeling Like Such A Failure | Alex Hormozi

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Alex Hormozi argues that achieving massive dreams begins with conquering tiny impulses and stacking undeniable evidence of one's capabilities rather than relying on empty affirmations or shouting confidence in a mirror. He emphasizes that many people fail to recognize the validity of their smaller successes, such as getting dressed for the day or sitting at a computer, which serve as proof they can execute tasks. By consistently performing these small actions and saying "no" to distractions like heroin or other negative impulses, individuals build an evidence base that disproves imposter syndrome. Hormozi notes that while self-doubt often infiltrates business ventures where there are many degrees of freedom allowing for excuses—such as blaming market timing on success—he found relief in fields with undeniable proof of competence. This process forces one to admit that the feeling of being an impostor is not about actual capability but rather a cognitive trend or addiction, leading to what he calls "imposter adaptation." The discussion highlights the critical balance between confidence and competency, distinguishing it from self-delusion where belief precedes action without basis in reality. Hormozi challenges the notion that one must believe they are a fitness person before doing push-ups; instead, performing ten reps provides immediate proof of identity as someone who can do so tomorrow. He uses Uber's early days as an example to illustrate how opportunities often appear risky and nonsensical until success is achieved in hindsight, noting that starting a ride-sharing service for minors initially sounded like a terrible idea due to perceived risks. However, he suggests that rather than trying to eliminate all risk—which is impossible even with safe assets like U.S. treasuries—entrepreneurs must learn to compare and adjust for different types of risk. This involves evaluating the likelihood of failure against potential rewards, acknowledging that while some ventures carry catastrophic risks like bank failures during an economic collapse, others are simply less likely to succeed based on available data. Hormozi introduces a strategic framework for pursuing opportunities by prioritizing those requiring no new skills or effort before moving to tasks needing only minimal effort, and finally tackling high-leverage activities that require learning new skills but offer the highest output per input unit. This methodical approach ensures that individuals focus first on areas with the lowest likelihood of failure, effectively ticking down options based on their probability of success rather than just perceived excitement or potential reward. He extends this investor mindset to personal life decisions, suggesting that people can apply similar quantified decision-making processes when choosing between learning salsa dancing versus coding. By adopting an "investor frame," individuals treat themselves as entities scoring and evaluating opportunities against limited resources, thereby normalizing the evaluation of risk-adjusted returns in both business and personal contexts. The transcript concludes by validating advice from world-class investors like Ray Dalio, whose principles became bestsellers because they offer a scoreboard for excellent decision-making that most people lack. Hormozi points out that while 99% of readers may not be professional investors at the level discussed, their ability to make decisions can still be quantified and improved by studying those with undeniable stacks of proof behind them. The core takeaway is that true confidence stems from a linear relationship between skill improvement and performance outcomes, where becoming better at networking or recording directly increases business success without needing malignant excuses. Ultimately, the path forward involves recognizing that risk cannot be fully eliminated but must be managed through diligence processes that assess factors like potential volatility ("crazy ex-boyfriend" analogies) to determine which opportunities are worth pursuing given one's current skill set and resource constraints.
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the first step to achieving a massive dream is Conquering tiny impulses I think it's exactly what we were talking about earlier it's like if you like I I got a there's a a tweet that I may actually you you were the one who made it go viral right uh which was uh when you quoted me quoting you to David Gogan yeah it's just this endless Human Centipede of [ __ ] homozy quotes um but he's like you don't you don't uh you don't feel confidence by shouting affirmations in the mirror but by stacking by having an undeniable stack of proof that you are who you say thank you without work yourself down thank you I'll quote you to you which is a new a new low so so that right yeah um a lot of people were like no but what if you don't have any successes like how do you get started and I still think that the the quote is 100 valid it's that they don't realize the validity of the smaller things that they have done up to that point and so it's being able to transfer your successes of like okay like did you get dressed this morning like did you did you get in front of the computer like you have evidence it's smaller evidence but you have enough evidence to make the claim that you can do this and then you do that enough times that you have enough evidence to make a claim that you can do this and support it and I think um that's where the big outcomes come from lots of of constrained tiny impulses they're saying like you know what I'm going to get this tiny Victory and I know how to say no to that I noticed a hair say no to heroin today or whatever yep um that would be a hard one you know a lot you're implicit probably larger um but that's the idea is just stacking as many of those pieces of evidence that give you proof that you are who you say you are that you can you have done what you say you can do yeah it's uh the the challenge of action or belief first is something that I've been playing around with so much and my friend James he wrote a book uh the c word like confidence it was a book about how to be confident right and um I do feel like a a big footnote summary could have been that quote from you and the problem is this is something that I've seen as well a good example coming from a world where I was successful in business before I was successful personally um I have a skill set now and my capacity within this particular skill set and the performance of what that does are intrinsically linked right there's almost a linear relationship as I become better at networking with guests with recording with doing all of the other things the show increases when I run a business there were so many degrees of freedom between my inputs to the business and the success of the business that someone with like malignant imposter syndrome could always explain away how things had gone well so I would say oh it's because we timed the market right oh it was because of like this member of staff that we brought in I mean I trained him but really he would have been great without me or whatever and um self-doubt can sort of wheel its way in in very sort of Nefarious ways when you do that um then switching to something where you have a relatively undeniable stack of proof even undeniable to the part of you that wants to deny proof right which is that imposter syndrome after a little while it's just a crushing weight that you cut I call it imposter adaptation so you know if you continue to disprove your imposter syndrome in the real world and it persists you have to admit to yourself that it's got nothing to do with your capabilities and everything to do with your addiction to feeling like an imposter this is just a trend of how you think about the world you're looking for competent you have competence without confidence which is a lack of belief and confidence without competency self-delusion right so you need to have this balance between the two but people when they say well surely bill self-belief becomes before action I'm like well not particularly not if that's not your nature I don't think like you're asking for delusion there and it is significantly easier for you to think I am a fitness person if you just went to the gym and did 10 push-ups then I am a fitness person when I go to the gym tomorrow and do 10 push-ups like where's the show me spit and sawdust where's the [ __ ] reality of this you know I agree good opportunities only look like opportunities in the rear view mirror today they look like Risk how does someone get around this this um asymmetry between the fact that in retrospect it seemed totally obvious and yet the thing that you're looking at right now looking forward you go that might not be obvious in retrospect again it's tough because um a lot a lot of the big wins you're like like Uber's the classic example right like let's start a business where strangers pick up girls who are 16 you don't even drive them to their friends houses like that sounds like a terrible idea right like it just it but in retrospect you're like no it'll be totally fine because there's going to be a mutual rating system and blah blah blah right taking out the fact that there are people who've been captured and whatever what we'll put that to the side right um and the thing is is like just because we're on the investing side what we found is that there are always reasons to say no to a deal you can always find reasons to say no because there's nothing that's risk-free even treasuries have risk the U.S economy could collapse and treasury should be worth nothing like and you could create a really compelling argument lots of influencers spent a lot of time doing that right um is it likely maybe I don't know but it's probably less likely than than a bank failing because if the US fails all the banks by default are also failing so which one you know which of these is greater risk so then it gets then you start comparing risks rather than trying to eliminate risks and so if we're looking at opportunities that's why I like Risk adjusted return is one of the things that a lot of investors look at which is like is there a way that I can appropriately adjust this risk to normalize different opportunities and I think that that single skill set is one of if not the most important important skill sets as an entrepreneur because fundamentally it's betting like that's what we're doing we're making bets every day we bet with our time without their money um with the limited constraints we have or limited resources we have against unlimited opportunities because that's the hard part is that there is unlimited women in the red dress now there's some fours and there's some sixes and there's some eights but you have to both rate the girl right the opportunity and then also how crazy is she right or whatever you know whatever risk factor you want to you know associate with this is she going to stab me in my sleep I don't know right does she have a crazy ex-boyfriend I don't know about I don't know right and so that's why we do the diligence process but like the the way that we because I just just tied up this chapter in the book that's coming out is when we're organizing opportunities that we're going to pursue with a business we look at what are the ones that we have the absolute highest likelihood of success that we have we we need no new skills and no new effort if we can do that or the least amount of new effort and no new skills that would be the first thing we're going to do and then once we take off all the ones that take basically no effort and no extra skills we're like okay which ones take more effort and still no skills and then once we do that then we're like okay now we can start learning a new skill and of the different skills that we could learn which of these is going to give us the highest leverage as in most output for the least amount of input and that's pretty much how we tick down which of these opportunities we want to pursue because those have the lowest likelihood of not happening does this work in the personal world as well the school is an investor that isn't in business that's just thinking about life opportunities do I want to learn to salsa dance or code I think that the investor frame is a is is simply people who have been scored and Quantified on their ability to make decisions and so I think that we can learn a ton from how investors make decisions overall it's like why Ray dalio's book principles became like a bestseller even though 99.9 of people reading the book aren't even investors or definitely not investors at his level but the principles of good decision making are just Quantified and we have a scoreboard for these guys being excellent decision makers whereas most other people you don't have a real scoreboard so we can't tell how valid is their advice and I think that's what makes uh taking advice from really world-class investors who've been doing it for decades um as a great source of information because we can validate that they have a stack of undeniable proof that they are who they say they are what's happening people if you enjoyed that then press here for the full don't forget to subscribe peace foreign [Music]