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The video explores the deep cultural significance of Caribbean Carnival, moving beyond superficial perceptions to highlight it as a profound act of self-love and historical reclamation. The speaker explains that while outsiders often view the event merely as a raucous party involving scantily clad participants, its roots lie in "pretty mass," a tradition born from mocking slave owners who excluded Black, Brown, and Chinese people from grand festivals. Over time, this practice evolved into a celebration of the oppressed, where participants proudly display their skin as the centerpiece of their outfit before adorning it with jewels and feathers. This transformation turns the event into a powerful statement against shame, inviting individuals to embrace their natural bodies and celebrate their heritage in an act of collective joy and liberation. A central theme of the discussion is the importance of exposing children to this tradition from a young age to foster self-acceptance and dignity. The speaker recounts curating a special experience for her family, including her seventeen-year-old nephew, fifteen-year-old daughter, seventy-seven-year-old mother, and her husband, who was experiencing Carnival for the first time in Toronto or Los Angeles. She addresses common criticisms regarding "inappropriate" behavior by reframing movements like twerking not as lewd acts but as a way to connect with one's creative center and the rhythmic harmony of nature. By allowing her children to witness this celebration, she aims to teach them that all body types are worthy of love and that they can participate in their culture while maintaining respect and age-appropriate boundaries. The narrative emphasizes that while the speaker's children do not currently attend the main parade, they will be invited to Kitty's Carnival in the future as they grow older. The video captures the unique atmosphere where participants feel like celebrities, surrounded by a community eager to capture their glory and essence, creating a healing and communal experience that is difficult to describe without living it. This shared moment of being the main character allows individuals to step into a different light, recognizing their own beauty and worth within a supportive environment. The speaker expresses immense pride in passing down this foundational principle of celebrating all kinds of bodies to her niece, nephew, and daughters, ensuring they understand the sacred nature of self-expression before adding other layers to their understanding as time goes on. Ultimately, the video serves as both a personal testimony and an educational piece defending the integrity of Carnival against misconceptions. It illustrates how the event functions as a temporary sanctuary where cares are set aside for a day of complete jubilance and communal connection. Through this lens, the speaker argues that denying children access to such a rich cultural tradition would be a disservice, as it offers a rare opportunity to see beauty in diversity and freedom from societal constraints. The story concludes with a vision of future generations continuing this legacy, carrying forward the values of love, celebration, and the unapologetic joy that defines the spirit of Carnival.
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I'm stressed. We're not stressed yet. Tribal carnival. This is just the beginning. Ash Majesty 2020 season. >> Why would you say this to me? >> Are you ready? >> Hey, come on. >> I was judging them. Why does her costume? WHERE IS THE LOVE? THIS VIDEO AND HECK, this whole channel is powered by Squarespace, the all-in-one website platform that makes it easy for entrepreneurs to stand out and succeed online. Whether you are just starting out or managing a growing brand, Squarespace makes it easy for you to build a stunning website, engage with your audience, and sell anything [music] from products to content to time, all in one place, all on your terms. Check out squarespace.com for a free trial. Play around, see if you like it, and if you love what you built, go to squarespace.com/shambbouty because that's how you're going to get 10% off the purchase of a website or a domain. That's squarespace.com/shanooty for 10% off. Hi lovers. So, unless you have been under a rock, you know by now that myself and my sister Lauren Morrison decided not just to participate in Toronto Carnival, as we have been doing for about 20 years, but to actually curate the experience for a select group of people who wanted to play with us [music] under the costume that we designed. The experience was honestly [music] life-changing and so special and monumental and so special that we wanted to include our entire families. Lauren's son, my nephew, [music] he is 17 years old now. So, this was his first carnival experience on the road. Her daughter, who is 15 years old, it was her first carnival [music] experience on the road. And my mom dressed up in a costume at 67 years old. Not new to her, but true to her. Because when you got a body like that, why not? Plus, my children also took part. Another big first that's really important to note is this was the first time that my husband Jared Brady, American [music] Jared Brady, got to experience carnival of any kind. I have done carnival in a couple of islands before, including Trinidad, and so I've seen the gamut of it. I've done it in uh Los Angeles as well, too. And he has never done it in LA nor Toronto. So, for him, this was truly a first time experience. And you could just see for yourself. The man had a time. >> So pretty. [music and singing] [music] Z, are you ready? [music] >> I have to look happy. >> Yes. >> Looks amazing. >> Stand at the camera all the time. >> Why would you say this to me? >> [music] >> had it. You had it on like F56. >> I don't know what I'm doing with this camera. It's my birthday present. >> Show me your pose. >> My kids have been participating in carnival before they were even one years old. And year after year, I have to see comments online from people who say that it's disgraceful, that it is absolutely lewd, inappropriate, awful, bad parenting, etc. that I choose to expose my kids to this cultural tradition. That is because people view this cultural tradition as a humping fest. A dry humping fest at that where people have no clothes on. They're scantily clad. They're drunk. They're high. They're in the streets. It's party. It's revalry. And while don't get me wrong, of course, any mass celebration is going to include components of that. But that is not the reason why I participate in carnival. And it is certainly not the kind of carnival that I expose my kids to. Now, myself and my sister as curators this year had a lot of opportunities that we took up to not just participate in carnival, but to learn the history of it. And my favorite lesson of all came from the understanding of how pretty mass came into play or pretty mass, which essentially is originally carnival is about the jab jab. It's about dressing up in these big lavish costumes or covering your body in paint. It's sort of this big grandiose expression of self. And this actually came from mocking slave owners who excluded black, brown and Chinese people from participating in any kind of big grand festival. So they made up their own private festival in which these masters were mocked. Now over the years carnival stopped becoming a way uh to make fun of the oppressors but instead to celebrate the oppressed. And that is where pretty mass came in. Pretty Mass essentially said, "We know that there are parts of this world that tell you that your skin is not beautiful, that your body is not acceptable, that you must hide, that you must feel shame. But on this day, we want your skin to be the main piece of your outfit. Be proud of the skin that you were born in. Show it off, and then decorate it with jewels, with feathers, with glitter, with rhinestones. And it's such a beautiful expression of black and brown bodies coming together in an act of self-love and collective love. One of my favorite parts about carnival is the fact that it's not just a day to celebrate one, but to celebrate many. My friend Naomi Cowan, who's a singer, put this perfectly where she said, >> "I always see around carnival time in every country, and it's carnival is woman." >> Because what I do love about a good carnival day is >> the girls get a chance. It's like a wedding day. >> You get a chance to head to toe glam because it's just like the girls just get their moment. >> They do get a moment. >> But that's the thing. I do think everybody should have a moment in their lives that gives them that kind of glam. >> And for some people it's carnival. For some people it's your wedding. >> Seeing yourself in a super different light, >> you know, and recognizing like whoa. >> I don't know. It's just >> absolutely >> like every girl is a celebrity at Carabano. Yeah. So, everyone is the main character. >> Good, good, good, good. And >> one of the most fun kind of underrated parts of Carnival is that while you're walking, you're like Mickey Mouse. Everybody is pulling you to have a moment with you to capture you in your glory and in your essence. And for people who have never experienced that type of praise before, it's such a healing, beautiful, communal feeling. And again to experience that not just in uh by yourself but to experience that in connection with so many others who are dressed the same as you is genuinely an experience that you can't describe until you experience it. So why would I not want my children to be a part of that? To see the beauty of black and brown bodies celebrated, to see them free up themselves, to see the joy, the liberation, letting all cares go to the side for one single day of complete jubilance, of complete communal connection that yes, can include some twerking. And why are we acting like that's a bad thing? Our hips are our greatest connector to our creative center. And I'm not saying that in a woo woo way. It's the literal truth, right? Like that's where our reproductive organs are. That's where our creativity can come from. When we loose up our hips, when we move them back and forth or up and down or in a circle, we can find our flow. We can connect with the great rhythm and harmony of mother nature. And I want for my kids to feel comfortable exploring that. Those two truths can exist at the exact same time. And for some parents, I understand that that's too complicated to hold or to try to communicate to a child. I however feel very equipped to offer my children the opportunity to see these two realities and to still be treated with respect, age appropriately with dignity and divinity while still celebrating their culture and witnessing their mom do the same. Now, do my kids attend the parade? Absolutely not. Will they attend Kitty's carnival someday? Absolutely. And I can't wait till that day comes. I got to just time up my travel to make that make sense. But nonetheless, I'm really proud of the ways in which I get to connect with my culture through carnival. And I'm really, really proud that I get to pass on that tradition to my niece and my nephew and also to my daughters from a very young age so they can understand the foundational principle of self-acceptance, of love, and of celebration of all kinds of bodies. And then as time goes on, they can add other layers to it. But for now, that right there is so sacred and so beautiful. How could I deny them of that opportunity to see and experience that [music] I can't sleep you [music] The other guest is cool. [music] >> [music] [music] >> We're going on the boat. >> We're going on the boat. Right, Gyro? >> We're going on a boat. >> Have you done this yet? >> Never. >> All right. I don't need to see anything. We are in the middle of Niagara Falls. >> We're not going to die. OH, [screaming] >> YOU KNOW, >> WE COMMITTED. >> WE DID. >> WE COMMITTED. >> Popping in to show some love to the sponsor of this video, Squarespace. Now, if you guys have seen my latest website, you know that there are a lot of moving pieces, a lot of moving parts, which means a lot of money. Save yourself all of that. Get everything you need in one spot with Squarespace. You deserve to have a growing, thriving business that's not overly complicated. So, how do you do that? 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