Video summary
The video features Isome, a stylist and entrepreneur from Benin Republic, and Choice, a model known as "Big Choice" who hails from Lagos, Nigeria, exploring the unique dynamics of their friendship through song lyrics and candid conversation. They recount how they met when Isome encountered Choice while walking in Okafia Street after her mother had been searching for her, leading to years of living on the same street and developing a deep bond that transcends typical cultural boundaries between Nigerians and Beninese people. Their interaction is characterized by playful banter, musical references ranging from holiday songs like "Jingle Bells" to African hits by artists like Davido and Nicki Minaj, and humorous moments where they debate song lyrics or pretend to be zombies fighting for survival, highlighting their comfortable chemistry despite occasional misunderstandings about who knows which songs.
A central theme of their discussion revolves around the concept that Gen Z best friends do not apologize in traditional ways because they understand each other's perspectives without needing explicit verbal corrections. Isome explains that she only apologizes when she is genuinely wrong or has offended someone, rejecting the idea of saying sorry for mere reactions to hurtful behavior unless those actions were intentional on her part. Choice agrees with this sentiment but adds a nuance regarding money and spending habits; while they both admit to having different priorities in how they spend their cash—Isome often wanting to buy things immediately versus Choice focusing on wise spending—they ultimately support each other's choices rather than judging them, illustrating that true friendship involves accepting differences without constant conflict or the need for formal apologies over minor disagreements.
Beyond financial habits and apology styles, the duo emphasizes mutual protection and selflessness as key pillars of their relationship, particularly noting how Choice stands up for Isome when others try to override her due to her small stature. They discuss boundaries with maturity, suggesting that while one should not immediately leave a toxic situation or break up at the first sign of trouble, staying in an unhealthy dynamic without trying to fix it is also unwise; instead, they believe in respecting limits and understanding each other's flaws over time. This emotional support system extends beyond just fighting for one another physically but includes psychological safety where Isome feels secure around Choice because she knows her friend will defend her interests against external pressures or bullying from strangers who might underestimate them based on their size or background.
Ultimately, the video concludes by celebrating how these friends navigate life's challenges with humor and resilience, turning potential conflicts into opportunities for deeper connection through shared music and honest dialogue about personal values like love, loyalty, and integrity. Isome expresses her admiration for Choice's ability to coordinate things logically and make sense of complex situations, while also acknowledging that sometimes expressing deep feelings can be difficult even between close friends who have known each other since childhood or early adulthood. The narrative reinforces the idea that real friendship isn't defined by constant agreement or frequent apologies but by a steadfast commitment to stand together against adversity, whether it involves dealing with dramatic moments in daily life or facing hypothetical zombie attacks where logic and instinct guide their survival strategies without compromising their bond.
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We have different things to spend more
money on.
>> That's I'm choosing you.
>> No, I don't spend more money. I spend
wisely
>> girl. No, no,
>> it's okay. Ah.
>> Hi, [music] my name is Isome
for short. I'm a [music] stylist and an
entrepreneur.
Hi guys, my name is Choice. Big Choice,
not a little one. I'm a model and I also
fixing. You can also follow me on Tik
Tok [music] at Big Choice
6
[music]
in the street on the street of Okafia.
>> Yes, in Lagos
the beggar. So choice here [music] is a
waka waka. She likes she stresses her
mom her mom out like going out and all
of that. So [music]
I was walking down the street here and I
met choice [music] her mom has been
looking for her and then I was like
choice your mom is looking for you. Then
she [music] that was how we met
actually.
>> Oh no that was when we started talking
>> talking. Yes.
So, we used to live in the same street,
but
a song with the word dance.
Dance for me, baby. [laughter]
No. Dance for me. Dance.
Dance,
dance.
I'm so sorry. [laughter] I cannot
dance. Can I use the Euroba version of
that [laughter]
for me? My babyul
said [music]
dance.
>> Wow.
>> I'm so sorry.
>> Sorry.
>> All right.
A song with the word queen. [music]
You are my African queen.
Girl of my dream. You take me where I've
never been.
Oh yeah. [laughter]
On my birthday night.
Sh was supposed [music] to go home early
the next day.
She had a flat [music] battery. I had a
flat battery [laughter]
and her brother was calling [music]
and it was just
not funny. It wasn't at all.
[music] Say something. Okay. I think
yours when
we're both going through hard times
together, [music]
we're like [laughter]
legit suffering. But you know, I [music]
thank God I can't forget never. of my
children, my Christmas children.
And that's cool.
[laughter]
I remember that um was my brother.
[laughter]
>> Wow.
Picking a card. Yeah.
A movie soundtrack.
>> [laughter]
>> You don't know.
>> It's not
[laughter]
one movie that time is be like huh? You
don't know it. You know the sound here,
but like before that it's like
want to do evil.
>> No, I think that's for kids.
>> No,
there was one movie I watched. [music]
>> Oh yeah.
See, we should leave below. [laughter]
>> My turn. Yeah,
>> it's just been for this one. I'll just
cry. [music]
>> A holiday song.
>> Jingle bell, jingle bell, jingle all the
way.
>> Is that a holiday song?
>> Yes. Now,
>> this [music] is Yeah. Mhm.
>> Christmas holiday.
>> Okay.
>> [laughter]
[laughter]
>> choice.
She's overly dramatic. That's [music]
me. Thank you. Okay. Okay. So there was
one time
I [music]
did not step on choice [laughter]
but [music] not like step. I just I I
knew that my leg I felt my leg on us but
[music] not like step step.
[clears throat] Choice went [laughter]
calm down. I didn't even step on you. Ah
no she's very dramatic. Bear in mind
guys [music] I was the one that felt the
pain not her.
[laughter]
I'm not going to agree.
You see they argue. [laughter]
So yeah, [music] let's see dramatic.
This is fun.
A song by a late artist.
Oh Jesus. My bad. [music]
>> [laughter]
>> Oh no.
>> No. I [laughter] wanted to say um lap
your pill. Did you slap your pill? No.
No. Don't laugh. No. It was so ready to
like the last minute.
>> Sing
like you got your pe. That's what I say.
off my p.
[laughter]
>> This is wickedness. [laughter]
[laughter]
>> I picked the ad cards [music]
>> card literally
cap. [laughter]
Okay, my turn.
A song with the word love.
Baby girl. [singing]
That's all. [music]
Ouch.
I can't remember.
But it's like, you know, yes. No,
there's a point for me now. He rhyme
that sang the song.
He's going [laughter]
big choice. [laughter]
Choice doesn't let things go. Yeah. Once
you do anything to her, she wants to do.
>> [laughter]
>> So
that's a lie. How is that a [music] lie?
>> I'm always on my own. Trouble just come
and fight me.
>> That's why you always get into trouble.
[laughter]
>> I'll be on my own and trouble come and
get into trouble.
>> Run from trouble. But no, you stand.
>> Why should I have trouble? You stand
there.
>> Okay. Okay. [music]
an African song from the '90s.
[music]
[laughter]
>> This is not
>> You should have [music] just
[laughter]
I don't know
said you not getting any
[laughter]
>> sorry [crying]
love from where is she [laughter]
>> next time
[laughter]
my son my
A breakup song. [music]
Oh,
I'm alone now in the corner.
[music]
The last dream that I order
should [music]
have been me.
I show him the things I showed you.
[laughter]
I'm at Brooklyn. [laughter]
Sorry.
>> Oh yeah.
Huh?
What is that? You do. You do. No. I
don't. Why do you think you don't? We
both spend more money. But like we have
different things to spend more money on.
>> That's I'm choosing you.
>> No, I don't spend more money. I spend
wisely,
[laughter]
>> girl.
>> No. No.
>> It's okay. Ah. Gosh.
>> Is [laughter]
not okay. I'm a girl. I always have
something to buy.
>> Yes. Now
>> I'm a girl. I always have something to
buy.
>> Yes, you do. But not like just anything.
M you just want to spend that money. If
it's in your pocket, you just want to
bring it out and then
now it's meant to be [music] spent.
>> Okay. Okay. [laughter] Okay. If that's
what you tell yourself to sleep, choice
leave you.
>> Yeah.
>> Really? I'm coming back strong.
[laughter]
My return,
guys. H
trust me I don't like this round
a [music]
do song with two Africans
and black bones
black bones no
see [music] we have to like [laughter]
>> she has to think
>> no see
>> she wants she has to time [music] to
think
>> that time is it's very short for
[laughter] my my brain to like ah no
this is very
>> when I said [music] should have said
[laughter]
>> oh my turn
>> wow
a song [music] with the word you
>> what
you
fa babe
>> [laughter]
>> Nobody else to sing a song. Fiona, I
don't I really don't know the many
lyrics, but I like [music]
Fiona.
[laughter]
I'm just see I'm just waiting for him to
say you lose this one so that you happy.
[laughter]
You said I was just stay waiting for you
guys.
>> Ch.
That's a [music] very tough question.
>> Choice is dramatic.
>> No. And she can die of drama. Like she
can just not drama. I think shock cuz
[music] like zombie is coming and then
first of all I just want to let you all
know that I have survivor instincts and
it [music] kicks in quick. So I'm not
going to see a zombie and be like
[screaming]
>> run.
So you keep running. Yeah.
>> You want to do kill it.
>> You try to kill it like it will keep
pursuing you [ __ ] So, how do you try
to kill it?
>> See, I will look for stone, look for um
stick, do something to attack it. Not
like running so I can eventually kill
it.
>> If if the zombie is stronger than you.
>> So, you not run to save.
>> See, that's I'll try at least. I'll try.
No, no. I'll try at least. At least
>> if I [music] use a stick to hit it and
then it hits the right spot, it will die
now. But running from it, it will
eventually kill me cuz I'll just keep
running because you're not faster.
>> I'm going to slash [laughter]
fast running. So
>> before I think of killing, I first
[music] run to safety. So who do you
think is?
>> She will be more logical.
I have survivor instinct.
>> I'm fine. At least I'm not zero.
[laughter]
I'm not happy.
It doesn't cut anything.
>> Get this one, please.
A [music] song with a dance routine.
I am a
[laughter]
Can you know a song? [snorts]
[laughter]
>> Oh yeah. Aoto. Now watch me do
[laughter]
>> you guys. Yeah.
>> Just give like I actually
>> Is it a dance routine?
>> Mhm.
>> It's a school song.
>> And it's a song. Sh.
>> See, I sang two song before. Enjoy. Try.
>> They try.
>> My friend. They're my friend.
That's why you're my [music]
turn. My turn. My turn.
A song by a boy band group. I don't
listen to boy band and I don't know
anyone.
Can't think of any.
[music]
>> I don't listen to myself.
>> [laughter]
>> Big choice.
>> What do you mean?
>> You do.
>> What you mean?
>> Choice will literally tell you.
Leave that boy. It's not good for you.
Please leave that boy.
>> Other advice is best than that.
>> Okay. You can actually like say [music]
something like oh do this
don't talk to him for like [music] few
weeks or so he'll come back to insenses
or something not like leave him like
just leave the relationship
[laughter]
remove your hand wash your hand no so
that's just an instance not like it's
better [music] relationship today
[laughter]
this
Okay, the thing is before you [music]
speak out to somebody
that I can't take this anymore. And if
somebody's already making you feel like
that, it's not better to leave him than
just stay and continue feeling like that
all the time continuously because why?
>> Yeah, but there are things you can
actually like [music] do. If you really
like the person or love the person, you
should try to
>> you really liking or loving the person
doesn't [music] change the fact that
he's treating you back.
>> But you try. I'm not saying you.
>> So you think before [music] anything
anything you talk to another person
about it, you've not tried doing
something else. I feel like
>> you must I've not tried [music]
>> the one that I want to tell you. Have
you [laughter]
>> leave that man?
That is the best advice to every
[laughter]
child. [music]
>> A dual song with [music] an African and
a non-African.
Um,
Davido and Nicki Minaj.
I see it now. Nicki Minaj. [music]
My only girl around too.
I cannot see tattoo.
[laughter]
[music]
>> A song with the word baby.
Baby, baby, baby. Oh yeah, baby.
>> That's why this guy is my friend cuz
what I cannot do is give you my [music]
side.
Warm me up.
>> Nobody
[laughter]
will never apologize to you.
>> Choice will never apologize to you.
tries to admit that [music] she actually
did something to you. Yeah. But she will
not open her mouth to say sorry like
even indirectly to just say to [music]
she will not say anything like that. So
me
that's a lie [music] guys because first
of all [laughter]
why is everything a lie?
Okay I'll only apologize when I know I'm
wrong or I offended you. Yeah I will.
You only have to apologize when you
offend somebody, not for any other
reason. So
>> the ones you are talking about is
probably maybe
if I react to something that you you did
that made me feel bad or something then
I like reacted to it. Then [music] I
like have to apologize to
>> you know your reaction can actually like
hurt me. Yeah,
>> it hurts me first. [music]
>> Okay.
>> But apologize when I'm wrong though. Why
do you have to apologize when you are
wrong?
>> Why do you apologize when I'm not wrong?
[laughter]
>> I give you that one. I give you
a remix song, not the original.
Um
arrest songs
which magics
[laughter]
don't cry.
I'm sorry. Sing the song.
>> Love don't cost a dime. Love is crazy.
You amaze me girl. You amaze me.
>> Oh me there with you. I realize love the
best indeed.
>> When I see you,
>> I blessed indeed. [music]
>> Go.
Oh,
so sorry.
So, my turn.
>> [music]
>> A hip- hop song from the 20s.
Oh, 2000s.
I was thinking of Chris Brown, but I
can't I can't bring any of the song
down.
Well, not I'm not just the only friend
in here.
>> Yes. Not to hear my own now.
>> Why can't you start [laughter] with your
own? Why do you have to sing?
>> You can actually do that, too.
>> You always go mute first. That's [music]
why I jump in to answer.
>> Okay. So, she's selfless and yes, that's
what I'll miss more about her.
>> She literally dropped
Not everything but do what is within her
power to [music] make sure you're fine.
So cute.
So choice.
Yes, [music] my love.
Choice stands up for me. I have a very
small stature here and people tend to
like want to override me.
So most of the time when [music] we are
like together and all that she always
like no don't. Yeah.
>> So she she always stand up and I always
[music] wonder around you because of my
stature.
>> So you're using me for that.
>> No like I need I always want to be
around people that I feel [music] safe
with. Yeah. So you're one of those. You
>> love me because of my Leave me alone.
>> [laughter]
>> So yeah,
a song by [music] your favorite rapper.
I don't have any.
[laughter]
I don't
um
daddy. Oh yeah.
[music]
Shakira
got this one. Uhhuh. Wow. S [laughter]
without chop pepper. Chop pepped
when you in secondary high school.
Mama
>> that song I don't know how did I even
remember I all the time.
>> Okay. I think cuz
we respect
boundaries [music] more like kids.
That's what I think though. How did you
feel
over the years? [music] I mean 8 years.
We tend to listen.
We tend to [music] listen to our flaws
and
we understand [music] each other. So
yeah.
>> [music]
>> the national anthem.
[laughter]
That should not happen though.
>> That's what I know.
>> Nigerians call Oy
[music] to serve our father's land
with love [singing] and strength [music]
of faith.
The labor of our past shall never be
[laughter]
with heart and might [music]
the labor
[laughter]
>> the
the world [music]
>> one
nation bound in
peace I uni E T
I Niger my country. [laughter]
>> See [music] you guys. You guys I'm not a
Nigerian. I'm from Ben Republic.
>> That's not your owner.
>> Why? Why? That's a national anthem.
[music]
It's just that it's
>> Mhm.
>> It's not the national.
>> It was.
>> It was. Yeah. [music] So, are you going
to give me your not
[laughter]
Not my phone.
A song with the [music] word money.
Money. Make
[snorts]
I can't think of anyone right now. I
can't think of anyone.
And you didn't even say money. You said
Euroba. No, you said money.
>> Give me the money. You know, give me the
money.
>> You did not say it. That's what I'm
saying now.
>> Yeah, that is what she just corrected. I
didn't I lost it.
So,
I love choice.
I'm not going to send you because you're
looking right into my eyes. So, I love
you. Yeah. Because you can [music] be
intentional.
>> You don't think so?
>> That's the first time I'm hearing that
though.
>> You don't think so?
>> Sometimes.
>> You don't think so? Sometimes.
>> No, sometimes I can't be.
>> That's I [music] said you can be not
like you are like is your own personal
like you can be. So,
>> oh sorry
not to touch this thing.
>> Just look at
>> I
you cannot You don't have to look into
my eyes.
>> I don't know. There's something that is
hard for me to expressive.
>> Don't look into my eyes.
>> Like be ready.
>> Look somewhere my ear or something.
Okay. But look up.
I love Mario here cuz like I mentioned
>> you love me. Why do you not love me?
Which one is Mario?
>> Did you say me? Ah,
>> it's not choice to say that. I don't say
>> I said you.
>> You said choice.
>> I said choice first then I said you.
>> I said love me. Love me. [laughter]
Not me.
>> Love me.
>> Okay. I love you. Cuz like I mentioned
earlier, you're selfless.
>> You have modeling love. You know how to
coordinate things like put one or two
together to make sense.
It's always
they bust my
sorry by adding those things like
[music]
I have to give a shout out to my mom my
daddy my sister and my brother my sister
my grandma.
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