Video summary
The core message of the address is that true excellence is not a temporary state activated only during games or when one feels inspired, but rather a permanent standard that must be permanently "on" in every area of life. The speaker emphasizes that while the Kansas football program possesses elite resources, facilities, and talent, these advantages are meaningless without the foundational commitment to excellence. This mindset requires shifting focus from fleeting motivation, which is an emotion beyond one's control, to discipline, which is a conscious decision made in every moment to align actions with long-term goals. By making disciplined decisions consistently, players can build a reliable foundation that supports individual and collective success regardless of daily feelings or external circumstances.
To achieve this standard, the speaker outlines three essential pillars: discipline, process, and progress. Discipline involves making choices that are congruent with the person one is striving to become, while process dictates focusing on the controllable elements—like laying each brick correctly in a wall—rather than obsessing over outcomes like winning or losing. Progress requires balancing short-term urgency with long-term patience, ensuring that the team incrementally improves every day so that their performance in December surpasses their September capabilities. The speaker argues that winning is merely a byproduct of adhering to these pillars; conversely, teams lose games through selfishness, arrogance, and poor execution, whereas they win through selflessness, humility, and precision.
Furthermore, the talk highlights critical habits that separate elite performers from the rest, such as being a great teammate, preparing rather than waiting, and possessing the ability to finish tasks consistently. The speaker stresses that football is a team sport where one must be the kind of teammate others would love to play with but hate to face in competition. This extends to the concept of "finishing," which means maintaining high focus and effort during the unseen hours when no cameras are rolling, just as one would in the fourth quarter. Confidence is not innate or given by coaches but is earned through demonstrated competence in these unseen moments and by keeping promises made to oneself, creating a positive cycle where belief reinforces performance.
Ultimately, the speaker prepares the team for inevitable adversity, noting that challenges are guaranteed and will reveal whether the habits built during practice have taken root. The fourth quarter does not create new abilities but exposes the true level of preparation, toughness, and mental resilience developed over time. Leadership is also framed as a shared responsibility where players must hold each other accountable to the same standards coaches do, fostering a culture where everyone steps up when needed. By committing to these difficult but necessary behaviors—being early, giving best effort, staying coachable, and improving daily—the team can unlock its full potential and ensure that their success is built on a solid, unshakeable foundation rather than luck or talent alone.
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See, excellence is not a switch that we
turn on and off. Excellence has to be a
switch that is permanently on.
And when you make excellence your
standard, again, in every area of your
life, when you make excellence your
standard, that now becomes the
foundation to which everything in your
life is built. And this goes far beyond
just the game of football. I'm a keynote
speaker, an author, and a former
basketball performance coach, and I had
an absolute blast talking to the Kansas
football program today. We focused on
the traits of what it takes to become a
champion, but with that, we talked about
what loses football games, and how can
we avoid doing those types of behaviors.
We talked about the things they need to
do in the fourth quarter to finish games
strong, things they need to do to find
their edge, how they can earn their
confidence both collectively and
individually, and figure out who is
going to lead this team to the season
that they all deserve.
So, I'm incredibly grateful to have
spent the last 24 hours observing you
guys and and sitting in on meetings and
watching you guys work out.
And there's a few things that are
blatantly obvious to me. First and
foremost, as you guys know, you are
elite-level football players.
I also hope you know and you recognize
you have an elite-level coaching staff.
You have an elite-level facility.
You have elite-level resources, and you
play for an elite-level university. And
I I know that that's been said to you
before, but make sure you understand the
difference between playing at Kansas and
playing for Kansas. Now, the fact that
you all are so elite makes me fairly
confident and have the humility in
knowing that everything I'm about to
share with you guys
you've probably heard before. In fact,
several of the things I'm going to share
with you, I've heard your coaches say in
the last 24 hours. But I'm going to tell
you guys the same thing that I tell my
my three teenage children, that I tell
every single elite athlete that I've had
an opportunity to work with, and that I
tell myself on a daily basis, and that
is repetition is not punishment.
Repetition is the oldest and most
effective form of learning and skill
acquisition on the planet, and that will
never change.
So, if I say something today and you
have heard it before, there's a reason
for that. It's because it's true.
It's because it's important. It's
because it's valuable, and it's because
it works.
And if if you want to get better at
anything, and if you want anything to
remain sticky,
then the key is repetition,
repetition, repetition. And I'm also a
huge believer in the old adage that a
man never walks through the same river
twice.
Because the river's always different and
the man's always different, which means
my goal today is I hope that I say
something today, even if you've heard it
before, I hope I say it in a way
that lands a little bit differently with
you, and maybe the light bulb finally
goes off.
So, I'm going to thank you in advance
for your attention, for your presence,
and for locking in, and for making sure
that you guys listen with your eyes. We
hear with our ears, but we listen with
our eyes. Now, I have a few phrases
written down on some papers here to to
help uh make sure that I'm guiding this
talk and being really efficient with it.
What does this say?
>> Behave like a champion now.
Before you can become a champion,
you have to act like a champion. You
have to behave like a champion. You have
to show up like a champion, but you have
to do it every
single
day.
You have to do it on the field, you have
to do it off the field.
See, behaving like a champion is not
something you have the luxury of doing
when you feel like it, or when you want
to, or when it's convenient. It has to
be something that you do on and off the
field in every area of your life,
every
single
day. See, excellence is not a switch
that we turn on and off. Excellence has
to be a switch that is permanently on.
And when you make excellence your
standard, again, in every area of your
life, when you make excellence your
standard, that now becomes the
foundation to which everything in your
life is built. And this goes far beyond
just the game of football.
But excellence needs to be the
foundation. And once you make excellence
your foundation, then we can switch
gears to start to emphasize three other
key components
to being excellent in everything that we
do. The first of those will be
discipline.
The second of those will be process.
And the third will be progress.
So, first let's talk about discipline.
Probably a word you've heard ever since
you were this big. But I don't know that
very many people take the time to define
it. So, here's how I'm going to define
discipline for you. Discipline is making
a decision in the moment that is most
aligned with the goals that you've set
or most aligned with the man that you're
trying to become.
Which means you need to make every
single decision in the moment to be
congruent and parallel and in harmony
with what it is that you all are trying
to achieve, both individually and
collectively. With the man that you're
trying to become. And every time you
make a
a decision that is in alignment with the
person you're trying to become or the
goals that you all have set, then that
is a disciplined decision. And the goal
is to get as many of you making as many
disciplined decisions as consistently as
possible.
See, I'm a huge believer that motivation
is highly over indexed and highly over
glorified in our world today, especially
on social media.
See, the problem is motivation is a
feeling, discipline is a decision.
We don't control our feelings, we do
control our decisions.
Which means even for those of you that
skew towards being highly motivated
individuals, and I put myself in that
class,
We're not motivated every moment of
every single day of our lives. So, if we
rely on that as fuel, then we become
inconsistent. So, we can't control
whether or not we feel motivated every
single day.
Even for those of you that are super
elite, there will be days you don't feel
like practicing. You don't feel like
lifting weights. You don't feel like
going into a film session.
But, it doesn't really matter how you
feel. All that matters is how you
behave. And if you are disciplined, then
you'll make the decision to give your
best effort in that practice, in that
weight room, or in that film session.
So, we decide whether or not we make
discipline decisions. So, that means
you're in control. You're not in control
of whether you feel motivated. You are
in control of the decisions that you
make.
The second of those key pillars
is process. Certainly a word that you
guys have heard, again, probably since
you were little.
I understand that you have chosen a
vocation and you have chosen a sport
that heavily relies on outcomes. I mean,
let's be honest, the name of the game is
to win.
And I I I want you guys to do everything
in your power to win.
But, we can't get too caught up in
outcomes because we don't have control
over outcomes. If you had full control
over the outcomes, then you would easily
go 12 and 0 because everybody in this
room wants to win every single game. I
know that.
But, guess what?
So do the guys in the other jerseys.
They want the exact same thing that you
want. So, it's not a matter of wanting
to win. That has nothing to do with it.
I I know that you want to win. The
matter is who is going to pay attention
to the process and stick to the process
to give themselves the best chance to
win.
The best analogy I can think of
is if you were ever tasked with building
a brick wall,
don't focus on the wall.
Focus on the bricks.
Because if you can lay each and every
brick exactly where it needs to go,
guess what?
The wall will take care of itself. You
don't have to worry about the wall. You
set each and every brick exactly where
it needs to go and the wall will take
care of itself, which means
when you obsess relentlessly over the
process, the scoreboard will take care
of itself.
And that's the process.
And then the third pillar
is progress.
Is making sure that you
individually and collectively are a
little bit better today than you were
yesterday.
And that you will be a little bit better
tomorrow than you were today.
See, you guys have to understand, you
need to have short-term urgency blended
with long-term patience.
I'll say that again because it's vital.
You have to have short-term urgency and
long-term patience. Now, right now when
I'm saying long-term, I'm actually
talking about the finite confines of
this season. I'm not talking long-term
like your entire life or decades,
although this still applies, but I'm
talking about the confines of this
season.
I want you all playing the best football
that you're capable of in September.
But you know what I really want? You to
be playing the best football you're
capable of, even better football
in December and in January. See, you
guys have to realize, if you stick to
the process, you won't be fully cooked
as a program until December or January,
and that's a good thing. So, I want you
being the best you're capable of now,
but you have to respect the process
enough to know that if you
incrementally, systematically, and
progressively get better, you will be a
better football player and you will be a
better football team in December than
you will be in September, and that needs
to be the goal.
So, we have to make sure that we are
paying attention to progress. Now,
once we do those three pillars,
then you guys give yourselves the best
chance to make winning the natural
byproduct of that. Again, we don't
control winning, we do control
the process and the progress and the
disciplined decisions which give us that
best chance.
But, I want to take a step back.
Before we even concern ourselves with
winning,
you have to be aware of
and you have to do everything in your
power to eliminate or reduce what loses.
Before you worry about winning, you have
to stop doing what loses.
Now, I come from a heavily basketball
background, so I do not have the
football acumen or IQ that anyone in
this room has, but I'm going to do the
best I can to speak your language even
though basketball's the sport that I
know.
But, I've watched enough football to
know what loses on the football field.
Penalties
lose football games.
Right?
Turnovers lose football games.
Missed assignments, missed blocks,
missed tackles, miss football games.
Missed field goals, dropped passes.
On the field in the micro, those are the
things that that lose football games.
Now, let's be honest, football is not a
game of perfection. Life is not a game
of perfection. Those things are going to
happen. That is a part of playing this
game, but if you can drastically reduce
the occurrence of those happening, you
give yourself a better chance to win.
But, let's zoom out and look at the
macro.
You know what loses football games in
the macro?
Selfishness,
entitlement,
arrogance,
lack of toughness, lack of effort, lack
of execution,
and making decisions that are silent,
soft, and stupid. Those things will lose
football games. So, once again,
collectively,
if you guys can do everything in your
power to reduce the occurrence of those
things and in fact do the opposite of
those things. You know what wins
football games?
Selflessness,
humility,
hunger,
mental toughness, physical toughness,
perfect execution and precision.
So, those are the things that we need to
continually focus on. And And as I said
before, you can't just focus on them
when you feel like it,
when you want to, when it's convenient,
when you feel fresh. You have to focus
on those things every single day.
And it's not enough for you to focus on
that as an individual.
You need to look to your right and to
your left and make sure the guy on your
right and the guy on your left is just
as committed to doing those things as
you are.
So, that you guys start to hold each
other accountable
and police each other.
Now, there's a few more things that will
contribute to winning. So, we have the
major pillars in place. We've identified
the things that will cause us to lose.
We're going to try to stop doing those
things to the best of our ability, but
there's a few more things that will
contribute to winning. First of all, I
hope you understand that football is a
we game. It's not a me game.
If you want to play a me game, play golf
or tennis or wrestle or box. Just mano a
mano, but you guys haven't signed up for
that. You guys have signed up to play a
team game. Which means one of the most
important qualities you can have is
being a great teammate.
And I know that sounds cliche and again,
I know this stuff you've heard since you
were little, but I hope it sinks in
differently. You know my definition of a
great teammate?
Is being the teammate you'd want to play
with.
Is being the teammate that you love to
play with, but would hate to play
against. That's a great teammate.
A great teammate is someone that's
selfless. Someone that supports,
encourages, pushes each the other guys.
That it's not about them, it's about the
group.
You don't have control over whether or
not you're the fastest guy in the room,
the strongest guy in the room, the most
talented guy in the room. You don't have
full control over that. You have
absolute control over whether or not
you're the best teammate in the room.
And I don't care if you're a a future
NFL first-rounder or you're a walk-on,
you have the ability
to be the best teammate in the room. And
I would highly encourage every single
one of you to make that commitment. And
I'll tell you this right now, if you do
happen to have the potential to be an
NFL first-rounder and you are an
exceptional teammate, you're what Hall
of Famers are made of. You're going to
make a whole lot of money playing this
game. But don't ever sell short the fact
that being a great teammate, being a
great locker room guy, that those things
matter.
Here's another major separator when it
comes to winning. There is a huge
difference between waiting and
preparing.
The overwhelming majority of human
beings just wait for things to happen.
The elite prepare for things to happen.
Do you wait for practice to start or do
you prepare for practice to start?
Do you wait to go see Matt in the weight
room or do you prepare mentally and
physically and emotionally to go to the
weight room? Do you wait for film
session or are you doing things to
prepare for the film session?
When you learn the difference between
waiting and preparing, it's a huge
separator. It's a game-changer.
Something else that massively
contributes to winning is becoming a
finisher.
You've got to finish.
And finishing is a habit. Everyone in
the world starts stuff. That doesn't
make you special.
Only the elite finish.
I want you to finish reps in the weight
room. Finish workouts. Finish plays on
the practice field. Finish practices.
Finish film sessions. What does
finishing a film session means? It means
you're just as alert and present as
focused in minute 15 as you were in
minute one.
Anyone can pay attention for 1 minute.
Can you be locked in for 15 minutes or
20 minutes or however long your film
sessions are? Learn how to finish. And
when you learn how to finish in the
small things, then you condition
yourself to finish in the big things.
Because ultimately the goal is to be
able to finish games, to finish seasons,
to finish in the fourth quarter.
But as I'll talk about in just a moment,
that doesn't just magically happen. You
have to consistently condition yourself
to do these things.
So there's a checklist, and I see a lot
of you taking notes, which is awesome. I
want you to write this checklist down.
This checklist, and this is for players
and coaches.
I'm going to tell you now, if every
single person in this room can check off
everything I'm about to say, every
workout, every practice, every film
session, and every game,
you guys are going to be really happy at
the end of this season. I can't
guarantee it. I can't promise it, but
I've done this long enough to know if
you do what I'm about to ask you to do,
and you can check this off at the end of
every practice, workout, film session,
and game, you guys are going to be very
happy
come come January. The first is, was I
early?
I'm not asking you if you were on time.
You better be on time, but I believe in
being early. I I come I have old school
values. I think if you're on time,
you're late.
Was I early? Number two, was I prepared?
Number three, did I give my best effort?
Number four, did I have my best
attitude?
Number five, was I coachable?
Number six, was I a great teammate?
Number seven, did I get better?
And number eight, did I make us better?
Every single person in this room, if you
can check every one of those things off
with every single team activity you
have, the only byproduct even possible
is to win, and to win at a very high
level.
So that's how we behave like a champion
now.
What's this say, my friend?
>> Make plays when it matters most.
Everything I just shared is
is true and I I hope helpful. But, let's
be honest, at the end of the day,
football comes down to execution.
You have to be able to make plays, and
you have to be able to make plays when
they matter most. But, here's what you
need to understand.
In order to make plays when it matters
most,
you got to make plays when it matters
least.
If you want to make plays when the
stakes are high, you have to make plays
when the stakes are low. If you want to
make plays when everyone is watching,
then you got to make plays when no one
is watching. See, these things need to
become habitual. These This just needs
to be the way that you do things. Again,
the same way I don't want ex- excuse me,
excellence to be a switch you turn on
and off, I don't want execution and
precision to be a switch you turn on and
off.
These can't be negotiable. This can't be
do I feel like doing my assignment on
this play today in practice. Your
feelings are irrelevant. You have to
condition yourself to have a high
standard of excellence and to execute as
precisely as possible in your role and
your assignment every single day.
See, the best teams are at their best
when the best is required.
But, that does not happen magically. It
happens through conditioning. It happens
through intentionality and being
purposeful. Which takes us to our next
one.
How about this, my friend?
>> The fourth quarter doesn't create you.
You know what the fourth quarter does?
It reveals you or exposes you.
The fourth quarter
is not when you build habits. The fourth
quarter reveals the habits that you
already have. See, you're not in the
fourth quarter going to magically ascend
to some level of performance that you've
never had before. You're going to sink
to the level of your training. You're
going to sink to the level of your
toughness. You're going to sink to the
level of your preparation. So, the
higher you can raise the floor, then the
more potential you have in the fourth
quarter.
And that goes back to what we were
talking about before, the ability to
finish.
Playing well, playing hard, playing
smart for three and a half quarters is
not good enough at your level.
For many of you, that was good enough at
the high school level.
Cuz you guys are unbelievably talented,
incredibly athletic. For many of you,
many of the things that I just shared
with you, I'll be honest cuz I know I
worked a lot at the elite high school
level. You could get away with in high
school.
You can get away with having less than
perfect footwork in high school because
you were physically superior to the guy
lined up across from you.
That ain't the case anymore. And for
those of you that aspire to get paid to
play this game and start playing on
Sundays instead of Saturdays, it
definitely will not be the case.
So, it's vital that we are conditioning
ourselves now in every single thing that
we do so that these things are revealed
in the fourth quarter.
And that will help give you confidence,
which is the next one that we'll talk
about.
Here, I'll go over here. What do we got,
my friend?
>> Confidence is earned.
>> Confidence is earned. Confidence is not
something you're born with. It's not in
your genetic code. Confidence is not
even something your coaches can give to
you.
Now, your coaches can, and I know they
do. They support you. They love you.
They challenge you. They encourage you.
They push you. But, your coaches cannot
give you confidence individually or
collectively. Confidence has to come
from within. But, here's the beautiful
part. You're in control of that.
Because confidence is earned, confidence
is created, confidence is built.
But it's also not a permanent fixture.
Confidence will ebb and flow.
Every single human being on the planet,
even the most elite athletes, will have
moments
where they feel a little rattled, feel a
little shook, where their confidence is
wavering. That's part of the human
condition. No one is immune to it.
But there are things we can do to
increase our confidence. And I'm going
to give you that list right now. If you
want to increase your confidence, and
this works in any area of life, but
obviously we're talking about football.
First thing you do is you make
disciplined decisions consistently. We
covered that earlier.
You start making disciplined decisions
consistently in every single area of
your life, and your confidence will
build your confidence will build. I can
promise you that.
Confidence also comes from demonstrated
performance.
Now, certainly that demonstrated
performance needs to be on the practice
field, needs to be in the weight room.
Like you need to build your competence
by having the confidence of knowing,
"Hey, I know how to run this play. I
know how to make this block or this
tackle." You have to do those things
over and over, but a good portion of
your confidence will come during the
unseen hours.
The hours when no one's watching.
TV cameras aren't rolling, the
cheerleaders aren't dancing, no one's
looking. The only person there is you,
and you can build and strengthen that
confidence by improving your
demonstrated performance during those
unseen hours.
The reason Steph Curry is the greatest
shooter to ever play the game of
basketball
is because in empty gyms, he has seen
that ball go through the basket more
than any person that's ever walked the
earth. It's cause and effect, it's not
accidental.
So, if you want to get better at
something, then you have to see yourself
doing it and being competent at it, and
that's what we do during the unseen
hours. That's what we do during
practice.
That's what we do before and after
practice.
The next way we build confidence is you
learn how to keep the promises you make
to yourself.
I would hope that you keep your word to
your teammates and to your family and to
your coaches, but I sincerely hope you
learn how to keep your word to yourself.
If you say you're going to do something
and you do it, your confidence
increases. If you say you're going to do
something and you don't do it, your
confidence decreases.
I love the attention that you guys pay
to to to quality nutrition here. I I
really I think that is is phenomenal and
that plays a massive role. If you tell
yourself you're going to eat the
colorful high protein high carb
breakfast that was shown in the picture
yesterday and you actually eat that,
your confidence will go up. If you say
you're going to eat that and at the last
minute you go for the picture of the
food you're not supposed to eat, your
confidence will start to go down.
Keep the promises you make to yourself.
You can fool everyone in this world, but
you can't fool yourself. The man in the
mirror. So, make sure you're keeping the
promises you keep to yourself. And the
last way that we build confidence and
arguably the most important is that
little voice in your head.
How you talk to yourself. And if any of
you are sitting here now thinking, "I
don't have a little voice in my head."
Who do you think just said that?
Yeah, it's the little voice in your
head. We've all got it. We all talk to
ourselves. And I can make a pretty
compelling argument that the
conversation you have with yourself in
quiet is the most important conversation
you'll ever have in your life.
Now, I want you to hold yourself to an
incredibly high standard.
This is not being casual. However, I
want you to learn how to talk to
yourself in a way that is empowering.
In a way that shows belief. In a way
that that you're supporting and you're
encouraging yourself.
See, one of the reasons you guys are in
this room is because you're probably
incredibly competitive, you're
unbelievably driven, and those are great
qualities. We want to throw gasoline on
those. But usually what goes hand in
hand in that is sometimes that voice in
our head, we can be very critical to
ourselves.
We can beat ourselves up after we miss a
play or drop a pass or whatever it may
be.
And no one's saying that we want those
things to happen. No one's even saying
those things are okay. But what we're
saying is after you make a mistake like
that, how do you talk to yourself? If
you beat yourself up,
your confidence will erode. If you
empower yourself and you say, "Man, I
can't believe I dropped that pass. That
ain't going to happen again. That's not
like me. I'm the best receiver in
there."
then your confidence will improve. And
the framework at which we use is you
have to learn how to talk to yourself
the way that I hope you would talk to a
teammate or the way that I hope a
teammate would talk to you.
I would hope, and again, I don't even
know who our receiver is in here, but if
you're a receiver and you drop a pass, I
would hope that these two guys aren't
critical of you and getting on you. I
hope they come over to you and give you
a fist bump and say, "Hey man, it's
cool. You're going to get the next one.
We believe in you. You got this next
one." So, you have to learn how to talk
to yourself in the same empowering
language that that you would talk to a
teammate instead of being critical. And
that's how we build our confidence. And
the beautiful thing about confidence is
it's circular.
Once you start doing these things and
building your confidence, then it starts
to grow. And then your belief starts to
grow. And then you become almost
bulletproof. And that's the very first
step to having that next play mentality.
All right, next one. Let's go uh second
row. What do we got there, my friend?
>> Find your edge.
It's all about separation. Well, first
and foremost, I hope you make your
preparation your separation.
Again, you don't control whether or not
you're the most talented team in the
country. You don't have control over
that. You know what you do control? Are
you the most prepared team in the
country?
You don't control whether you're the
most talented player at your position,
even in this room. But you absolutely
control whether you're the most prepared
person in your position.
So, make your preparation your
separation.
It's my opinion, and that's all it is is
just that,
that after two five and seven seasons,
there's a chance some people are going
to sleep on you this year.
There's a good chance you guys are going
to be underdogs.
And I hope you relish that opportunity.
I hope you love that.
Because honestly, it doesn't matter what
anyone outside of this room right now
thinks about you.
All that matters is what you guys think
about yourself.
And having that, and I know they're our
core values, pride and belief and
relentlessness.
See, you don't control preseason
rankings. You don't control what people
on social media say. You certainly don't
control what the talking heads on ESPN
or any of the sports shows say. You have
no control over that. So, we learn how
to disregard that and we put all of our
focus on the things we have control
over.
And if you want to have an edge, then
you give every ounce of heart, soul, and
love you have into the things you have
control over. And most of which we've
already covered these. You control your
effort. You control your attitude. You
control your preparation. You control
your toughness. You control your
conditioning.
Conditioning is huge.
You realize every moment that your
coaching staff has to spend conditioning
you is a moment they're not spending
teaching you?
So, take it upon yourselves to get in
great shape.
Because every time they're spending time
doing something that you have the
capability of doing a lot on your own,
that's taking time away from things they
could be doing for you. So, then you're
in essence, you're losing your edge.
Your edge is all about doubling down on
the things you have control over. And
for you guys individually, taking
something that you're really good at and
making that skill set great.
Some of you take something that you're
great at and make it world class.
Double down on the things, especially
for those of you that are planning to
play this game on Sundays.
Take the things that you're already good
or great at and learn how to level those
up. That, my friends, is how you get an
edge.
I know
Coach Kay said this one yesterday.
What does it say, my friend?
>> Adversity is coming.
Tough days are coming.
There are very few guarantees in life,
but here is one that is absolutely
foolproof. And that is adversity is
coming. Now, adversity comes in small
doses, it comes in large doses. I mean,
adversity can be a whole lot of
different things, but no one is immune
and no one is resilient
to adversity. So, you have to know it's
coming.
The only question, and again, Coach
covered this brilliantly yesterday, but
it's worth the repeat and the double
click
is how are you going to respond to it?
I already gave you guys the list of
things that lose football games. And
even though every single one of us is in
full agreement and we all know those
things, those things are still going to
happen. They're still going to be missed
assignments, missed tackles, dropped
passes. That is part of playing the game
of football. Now, we're going to try to
reduce them as much as possible.
But in addition to reducing them, if we
have the humility to acknowledge that
they're still going to happen anyway,
then the only question is, how do you
respond to that?
How do you respond when things don't go
your way?
Everyone in this room is capable of
having a great practice.
But the world is binary, which means
everyone in this room is also capable of
having a really bad practice.
Because we're human beings. There'll
just be times where you're just not at
your best. Now, hopefully the guy next
to you will help pick you up.
But but here's my question. You You got
on the practice field and you don't have
your best practice today. But then you
guys have to go in and do a weight room
session with Coach Matt. Then my
question is, do you also go in and have
a bad weight room session cuz you're in
your feelings and you're pouting and
you're upset cuz you didn't play well in
practice? Are you able to move to the
next play and say, "That was not my best
practice. I'm going to get it again
later, but right now I'm going to
refocus the lens and I'm going to go in
there and kill the weight room to the
best of my ability.
How do you guys respond when you turn
the ball over?
How do you respond when the other team
you make a mistake and the other team
breaks open a big play and scores? Like
what is your bounce back? What do you do
the very next play? And the answer to
that question will define who you are as
a man, who you are as a football player,
and what you guys will accomplish this
year. So you have to be able to
recognize that adversity is coming.
Don't be surprised by it. I mean, how
foolish is that? I've just told you that
the only thing guaranteed in this world
is you're going to have some adversity.
So why would you possibly be surprised
by it? I've already told you it's
coming, so be prepared and brace
yourself
to be able to bounce back from it.
And the last one, my friend right here,
how do we got?
>> Who will lead you?
>> Who will lead you guys?
I hope the first thing you didn't do was
all look over your right shoulder at
your coaching staff.
They're going to lead you. That's their
job. That's what they get paid to do and
they're
excellent at being able to do that, but
that's not what I'm concerned with. I
want to know who's going to lead you
guys. And notice I didn't ask
who the captains are.
I didn't ask who the seniors are.
I didn't ask who's got that shiny gold
car outside. Like I'm not worried about
any of that. I want to know who in this
room is going to lead when leadership is
required.
When leadership is necessary, who's
going to step up and lead?
And I hope at some point every single
one of you right now is thinking me. I
want to take that responsibility on. I
want to be able to step up and lead.
For those of you taking notes, I want
you to write this down. I want you to
circle it, underline it, and go buy a
highlighter and highlight it. A
player-led team will outperform a
coach-led team in the long run.
You have an elite coaching staff, and
they're going to do everything in their
power to pour into you and put you in a
position to be successful. But, as they
said yesterday, if they believe in you
more than you believe in you,
there's a finite ceiling on what you
guys are capable of of achieving. And
I'm going to say the same thing when it
comes to leadership.
If the only people leading this group
are the people in the polos and the
coaching staff, you guys have a finite
ceiling on how good you're going to be.
When you guys start to lead each other
and police each other and hold each
other accountable, now we've got
something really special.
When you guys are running a play on the
practice field and somebody messes up an
assignment, I know they're going to get
on you. That's what they get paid to do.
But, when are you going to get on each
other? When are you going to tell him
that it's not cool that he just messed
that up or tell him, "Hey, you're doing
something wrong with your footwork."
When you guys start to hold each other
accountable to the same degree that the
coaches hold you accountable to, now you
got something really special. And we've
already established you guys have the
ingredients to win at a super high
level.
You have the talent, you have the skill,
you have the athletes, you have the
facilities, you have the resources, you
have the coaching staff. You have
everything that you need. So, on some
level, you are in massively in control
of your own destiny.
Now, it's just a matter of doing all of
the things that I just shared with you.
And again, I know none of this you're
hearing for the first time.
There's a huge difference between saying
and doing.
And the last thing I I'd tell you to
write down is every single thing I just
shared with you
is very basic in principle. Not a single
thing I shared with you is easy to do.
None of it.
If it was easy, you'd all already be
doing it. I wouldn't even need to be
here. And honestly, you really wouldn't
even need a coaching staff.
But, that's not the case. This stuff is
really hard to do, but it's also the
separator.
99% of people walking the earth will not
make the commitment to do the things
that I just asked you guys to do.
A large portion of elite college
football players won't make the
commitment to do the things that I just
asked you guys to do. So, you're in
control of your own destiny if you're
you're willing to do those things.
So, as I pick up these papers, let's
just go ahead and quick review. I want
you guys to figure out who is going to
lead you. And I hope that some of you
are ready to step up and say it's going
to be me. I want every single person in
this room to know adversity is coming.
It might be coming this afternoon, it
might be coming this morning, it might
be coming in the fourth quarter of your
first game. I don't know exactly when
it's coming, but it's coming. So, I want
you guys to be prepared
to have some great responses. Next, if
you don't already know what your edge
is, you need to find your edge, you need
to develop your edge, and you need to
use your edge for the betterment of
yourself and your career, but more
importantly, for the betterment of
everybody else in this room and for
Kansas football.
If anybody in here is lacking
confidence, that's okay, because that's
part of the human condition, but I want
you to know that you can earn it, you
can build it, and you can create it. And
I want every single one of you to do the
things I shared with you to earn your
confidence.
And just remember the fourth quarter's
not when we develop habits, it's when
they're revealed. It's not when we
develop mental tough- toughness, the
fourth quarter's going to reveal whether
or not you're mentally tough already.
So, let's start working on that today.
Football's a game of execution.
So, make plays when they matter most,
but the only way you make plays when
they matter most is when you make plays
when they matter the least. And then
lastly,
start behaving like a champion now in
every single thing you do in every
single area of your life, live to that
standard. And with that, I say thanks,
guys. I appreciate you very much.