Entrance Exam: Prerequisites for Admission to a High-Value Life

[music] in this [singing] moment. Yes. [music] I cannot say what's wrong or right. [singing] No, it's not [music] hard to fool me. No, cuz I'm addicted [music] to [singing] the good life. Yeah. [music] Lead the [singing] way. I follow. [music] No need [singing] to say I follow. So here we are back again with another video. Here is one of the main reasons. What I was saying is one of the my most viewed videos, my most watched videos, my most enjoyed videos. Enjoyed videos. There we go. Now we should not sound echoing. No, no, no, no. Hey, Logan Williams, why don't you go ahead and call in? Stop bashing women. First of all, let me explain to you, Logan. I'm not talking about your single mother. Okay? Anytime I see somebody coming in with a man screaming, sadly far too many guys today, you act like the mother that raised you. Okay. When a man uses the word bash, I'm automatically imagining somebody who wears lace underwear. That is not a masculine word. It simply isn't. It's not a masculine word. Men can communicate better than saying, "Don't bash women." Men can communicate better than that. Okay? We build the airplane while we're flying it, baby. So now here's a problem with uh girls like Logan have and I'mma go into it tonight because see high value men if you've noticed over the last over the last several years I've I've been talking about I over the last several months I've been talking about how how high value men act how high value men operate. All right. >> How high value men act, how high how high value men operate. >> And see the diff the difference between high value men. See when you start talking about when you start making distinctions, people get upset. People start getting upset. All right. Anybody who comes in and highlights me, I'm putting you in timeout. If you say anything, if you highlight me, if you type in all caps, I'm going to time you out. If you and after that, I'm going to block you. So, moderators, anytime if anybody starts talking crap in the in the comments section, here's what I want you to do. If anybody comes in and says no sound, video delay, anything like that, moderators, time them out. If I look up and I don't and I see the moderators not doing their job, I'm taking wrenches because I got a broad a broadcast to do. If they're talking about no sound video, this that or if they're typing all caps, time them out. Then I'll see it. Okay. So, here's what we do. You notice that when I was talking about, you know, before I started drawing lines between men and women, before I start drawing lines between high value men and other men, people were just like, "Way to go, Godfather." But soon as I said, "You know what? High value men, it starts with money automatically." I knew there were going to be guys that were going to get upset. Why? because they don't qualify. Now, why is that important? People tend to People tend to get upset about things they want that they can't qualify for. People tend to get upset about things that they want, but they can't qualify for. Back in the 70s, there was a hot nightclub called Studio 54, and they did something that was revolutionary. Before you used to go to a nightclub, anybody could get in. But Studio 54 understood that scarce, they applied market principles. They understood that scarcity, uniqueness, sells. So what did they do? They put up a velvet rope outside of Studio 54, put a bounce out there, and then the bouncer got to decide who got in and who didn't get in. They hand selected the crowd every night and there would be lines around the block. You could not get in. It didn't matter who you were. There were millionaires who couldn't get in this club. See why? Because where where everybody wants to be, everybody wants to be high value ladies. Men understand that women like men with resources and money. That's why you get so many people trying to change the game. Well, it's about looks, it's about this, it's about that. Uh, you can be a little bitty short bald man and if you're a billionaire, you got no problems. High value men start with money. And to become a highvalue man, to become a highvalue man, it takes a lot. To become a highvalue man, it takes a lot of work. You have to put in the academic work. You got to put in the hours. It takes a man for almost 40 years to become a high value man. I'm not talking about athletes, entertainers. I'm talking about average everyday guys. But see, this is where we flip things up. We flip things up today because women used to understand what it took to for a man to become high value. And they understood that it required that man to do a lot of work. Networking, everything else required him to do a lot of work. And the women who wanted men like this understood that they either had to get them early and stay with him through the lean years to get the ultimate payoff or they did not get him. Very few women got a high value man after he became high value unless you became part of the second wives club. meaning he divorced his first wife and then he went got up. But the second wife was always hot, young, pretty. That's the way the world has always worked. Now, before we get into it, man, we gonna have to get these likes up. Get these likes up. Get these likes up. We got to get these likes up over Man, come on now. We got to get these likes up over uh 1500, man. Got to get these likes up over 1500. Come on. Come on. Come on. And uh we got to keep it going. Check your cash app. I will. Thank you very much. See, and it also used to be that men have men have long accepted that in order to truly be high value. You can't just talk a good game. You have to show your work. Go back to the broadcast I did on high value and you'll understand exactly what I mean. that you have to show your work. You have to have the money. You have to have the resources, network, the connections, and then you have to be able to show where it comes from. So when a man goes through all that, when think about everything a man has to go through to become high value, why in the world do you think why in the world do you think a man like that would then want to settle for an average woman? Never before, never before have we had never before that I can think of in human history have we had so many averageooking women wanting, expecting, demanding high value men. Oh, sure, they may have wanted them. They may have dreamed for them or fantasized them, but they never thought they should have them. They never thought they should that they should get them to where you can be 5 foot4, 200 pounds, thinking that you should be able to just pick high value men left and right and they should be courting you as if you are the catch. So tonight we're going to talk about it. Tonight we're going to talk about it. We guns, we're going free fire tonight. I get more heat, more more push back from average women, average looking women for telling them that highv value men don't want women like you. Now, see, high value men can't come out and say it because they have a professional or reputation to uphold, but they're my clients. But all you have to do is look at a man and look at the woman he chooses after after he has his money. It's all you have to do. Oh, all you have to do is look at um the the the woman he chooses after he has his money, not before. See, I've heard I had somebody in the chat room earlier today. What is this? What is he talking about? average women can't get good-looking men. Well, that's not true. And what what's the what's the old adage? You always get some woman coming here saying, "Well, my husband works at this place and all these high value men are with all these average women." And I come and ask the same questions. Why I where I go, I see average women with high value men. And I say, "Where and when?" And then inevitably it's some it's some sister coming through here talking about her high-v valueue husband who knows all these high-value non-black men and all their wives are just average. And my question is always the same. Well, one, if you really are married to a high value man, why are you even here? Two, do you know these people? Because again, non-black women have been taught to to get a man early on and ride with him through the lean years. See, if you want a high value man, you better get him when he's 18, 19, 20, 21, and then you got to ride with him for 20 years. Uhoh. Oh [ __ ] But that can't work, right? Because that means you working with a build. That means you working with a build. I ain't working with a build. You ain't try. The average black woman today does not want to work. She does not want to do any work. She wants it already pre-made. I got no problem with that. What do most women in here want? They want men who are making $300,000 a year or more so that they don't have to work. On my Facebook group, I actually have women asking a question. They're pushing it even further. Black men, understand something. Black women want you to be able to pay all the bills and never hiccup. And if you don't make if you mess up, they're suspect to leave you. Just know that cuz there's this whole thing about struggle and build and all that other stuff. And see over here on the high value side, we got no problem with that. I got no problem with what they want cuz I'm over here. I've always been a a driven man, an ambitious man. Then what's the other side? Women try to question you. Well, don't listen to guys like him and this don't listen to guys like me. So, you need to listen to bust down strags. Look, guys, understand something. You're going to when you're when you're trying to become the best, the top 10%, the top 5%, you're going to make people upset even when you don't try to. The truth of your existence is offensive because they want what you have, but they're not willing to do the work. So why do high value men why are why are averagelooking women so upset with high value men? That's the question. Why are average women so upset with high value men? Questioning whether who are you? Do who is he? Do you really hide the value? I have an entire career. It's posted on LinkedIn. Well, who is he? He He can't be what he says. I mean, we don't know. Let's say your bank account. Are you Are you serious, lady? Really? This is where it is again. The kill the messenger thing. A channel with almost 100,000 subscribers and a thriving business. And I got people questioning, "Wow, how do we know he's high value?" You don't. And it doesn't matter. What we do know is men like myself don't deal with women like you. This is not about Kevin. I'm talking about high value men. I am not talking about me in particular. And I will tell you some of the biggest reasons average averagel looking women are angry with high value men is because of the truth. Average-looking women are upset with the truth. How many times do you hear someone come over here saying, "Stop being so rude. You're so kind. That's so mean. Don't be harsh. Don't bash." And all those kind of things. And let's get right into it. You don't become a high value man by being a snowflake. High value men are competitive, assertive, confident, aggressive. They're in your face. And here's the thing. If you cannot handle a man like that, he won't have you in his world. See, sadly, so many of our sisters have been taught to think that we're your that we're your equals. No, you're going to have to be his second. You're going to have to be second. He's the star of the show, not you. You are the co-star. You have a defined role, but he's the star. The one time you're the star is on the wedding day. After that, you're the co-star. You're the help. You're the support, the help meet. See, averagel looking women don't understand high value men because you're not around them. Averageelooking women are around average guys and they understand average guys. Average guys are willing to kind of negotiate with with you. They're willing to partner with you. High value men are not or not. Averageelooking women don't like the truth. Understand something. That's where it comes from. But before we get into it, are the likes up? Oh, we're not even halfway at the likes. We're not even halfway at the likes. So, you know what we're going to have to do? Get it up. Come on. We're gonna have to get the likes up before we do something else, man. You think what it takes to be a head of the head of a company, the owner, the somebody in charge of, you know, dozens or hundreds of people, right? It takes a lot. It takes a lot to be in charge of that kind of stuff, man. It takes a lot to be in charge of that kind of stuff. That's what it does. It takes a lot. So when you're an averagel looking woman, think about a lot of average looking women. They know they're not nine, eights, nines, and tens. They want to be. No one in in today's in today's culture, in today's society, most people can't really be honest and tell the truth. It's a very PC world. Men pay a high personal price for telling women the truth, so they avoid it. Highvalue men don't. High value men don't care. They don't give a French toast. They don't care because they have enough resources, network, connections, friends, and everything else to withstand a few upset people. That's number one. Why are average women so upset with highv value men? Because highv value men openly tell the truth. They want beautiful women. They want beautiful, feminine, hot, cooperative, submissive women. That's what they want. Young, beautiful, hot, inspirational, cooperative, submissive women. They don't want middleage battle acts, nagging questions. They don't want nice, cooperative, submissive, feminine, unattractive women. They have enough to wait to get what they want. See, high value men will wait. They're they're not they don't have to decide. They don't have the pressures that a lot of average guys have. they can do what they want to do. And a lot of average women are angry because they simply cannot get a higher value man. You can't get them. You cannot get them. You cannot get them because you aren't what they want. And that bothers a lot of women. It bothers them so much to where even when I you I have somebody come in here ask me where where do I rank and I give you a ranking you question everything question this I'm wrong this person's wrong that person's wrong what does your ring finger say how many how many truly high value men are trying to marry you not date you hook up with you marry you and that's what it comes down to so when high value men start telling the truth, averagel looking women get angry. And what do they want to do? And see, and this is what's really unique to the black community. In other parts of the world, women accept the fact, hey, I don't look good enough to have a multi-millionaire. I don't look good enough to to have a to be a stay-at-home wife and have a driver and have a maid. And even if I did look good enough to to be a stay-at-home wife, I don't look good enough to be a woman to stay at have a stay-at-home housekeeper and a maid. I mean, really, you got middle, we have attract, we have pretty black women who are eights thinking that they that why not be living a luxury life. No, you don't get a luxury life with a $300,000 man. You get a nice life. I mean, where does this madness come from to where a an everinccreasing amount of women are thinking that all I have to do is land me a Henry, lay back, produce a couple of children, and then I could just sit here for the rest of my life while he goes out and works 12-hour days while the kids are with the nanny and in private school. And then I could just get driven around town and do what? No. See, high value fantasies are on both sides. Men have them, women have them. Like the day I was calling in talking about highv value men, and I had men, men who hadn't had jobs in two years, guys who were 20 years old, and I cut them off. You're not high value. You don't even know what you're talking about. ladies would Oh, that's right. It's one of his best shows. Can you get a bad chick? Uhhuh. But then the other side of it, are you a bad chick? Can you seriously get a high value man? And the and the harsh reality is for for the majority of you, no. Tonight we're going to talk about it. >> [clears throat] >> How many times have you guys ever How many How many times have you guys ever gone to a club or something like that or a hotel or restaurant and they had valet outside? Okay. It is valet's job to park some of the best cars in the city. And as a valet, you can be handed the keys to a Bentley, a a Bentley, a Ferrari, a Lamborghini, a variety of exotic cars, and you can drive them from here to there. Okay. And someone will pay you to do that. But that's only because that's your job. Those very valet cannot go to the Bentley place and test drive a car. Cannot go to the Ferrari or the Lamborghini dealership and test drive a car off their own name. Why? Because they don't just let everybody test drive those. You got to prove that you qualify to be there. You could say, "Oh man, I drove a Countach the other day." Great. That may have been over at the hotel, but over here, we need to we need to know that you have insurance. We need to know that you are somebody who can really purchase this. Go try to test drive a Bentley. See what happens. Some men can afford to do what other men can only afford to park. Some men can afford to do what other men can only afford to park or valet. Well, ladies, that that holds true to you, too. You may be able to have an interaction with a high value man, but if you but if he is not if he doesn't take you seriously to wife you, it don't count. And that bothers a lot of women today. Why? Because your standards, you want more. You want better than you look. And when somebody like me comes along and talks about high value this, high value that work and all this other stuff, you have no problem with me talking about that or the guys who are doing that. But you have an issue when it's something that you feel like you should. Here's the thing. A lot of women feel as though or they're entitled or they think they deserve to get it because you make a $100,000 a year because you went to an Ivy League school. And men do not and have never picked a woman that way. High value men pick women off of their looks. So tonight we're going to talk about it. Now understand something. If you choose to call into my show or my program, it is voluntary. This is a broadcast. It is going to be repeated, replayed, or whatever. If you get up here, you're you're waving your rights to privacy because I find it interesting that people think they can get on shows and go, "No, you invaded my privacy." They don't no privacy on YouTube. When you decide to call into a live show, you don't want to be on YouTube. You don't want to have your privacy, then you book a session. When I speak of high value, I'm not talking about Kevin. I'm talking about my clients, the guys I interact with, the guys I network with, the guys I the men I deal with. This platform is getting a lot of attention. Uh, oh, by the way, if you guys didn't notice it, uh, Thursday night, Thursday night, same bat time, same bat channel, the show, me and Alpha Male Strategies will be here 1000 p.m. Eastern Standard Time. High Value Extravaganza. Me and Alpha Male Strategies here. Um, also I'll likely be on the room I'll be on the Roommates podcast this season in season four. in my Facebook group, The Mix, they're close to,400 people. Every day it grows people trying to get in. And why? Because over there, I have CIA men and FBI women. And I personally decide to pick a pair. And here's the thing, once you're in the group, you still have to maintain I I mean what I say over there. I don't allow guys to be on some BS talking high value this or that and you ain't that. Yeah. Question I just asked. Where do you work? How long you been there? Cuz high value doesn't hide. In the real world, high value doesn't hide. It's in your face. You know when you go to a restaurant and you are filing six deep out of a car and then somebody else is getting out of a car with suicide doors that they are have more money than you and they have no problem pulling in front of you, parking valet, doing whatever. High value men are tired. Don't make excuses or feel ashamed of their work. They've done the work. They deserve to get they deserve to have fun with it. They deserve what they get out of it. And if you want a high value man, then you're going to have to become a you're going to have to become what he wants. And that starts with looks, your face and your body. This is when the conversation starts. Well, we can't call high value money, says the guy who can't make can't make the money requirement. Well, we can't call high value money. We got to look at character, says the woman who can't make the looks requirement. I'm There are more people trying to change observable reality than just accepting I can't afford a Bentley. I'm in I'm an Accord. I'm a Honda. What did one The one woman from Philadelphia said it the best. Who wants to be average? If you are overweight and allowed yourself to get to the size to where you weigh more than the men that are at your height, again, if you weigh more than the men that are at your height level, you're overweight. If you're 5'4, a man that's 5 foot4 should weigh roughly 140 pounds, 145. If you are five foot four and weigh more than that, you weigh more than a man. Ain't nothing high value about that. And you can talk about Meg the Stallion and all this other kind of stuff. She got shot in the foot by a 5 foot one dude who had to carry a gun to protect himself from her big old self. I mean, let's get into it. Let's get into it. Let's get into it. We're about to open the call lines. I want to hear from the averagel looking women who seem to think that I have don't know what I'm talking about. Seem to have a problem with this. I mean, I don't understand. I really don't. But I'm willing to listen as to why you can tell somebody something else. You can always talk about, you know, I got co-workers and all this other stuff. Yeah. But where your man where your high value husband [clears throat and cough] high value men put barriers up against themselves. High value men make it to where they don't have to listen to these conversations because they honestly don't care what you think. They really simply don't care what you think because they don't have to. They simply don't have to people. Uh let's see how many people have lost their channels this week. Six people have lost their channels this week for take for using my content. I'm not playing with y'all. When I say don't use my content, I mean it. Don't use my my permission. Six channels in two days. And they were all channels that were monetized. Don't play. Let's see. [music] >> I cannot say what's wrong or right. No, >> it's not [music] hard to fool me. No, cuz I'm addicted to [singing] the good life. Yes. [music] Lead the way. I follow. No need to say no. >> Where [music] we are heading now, baby. I follow through to the edge [music] of it all. To the edge of it all. So tell your [music] goodbyes cuz I'll find a better one. Yeah. So the [music] >> Yeah, guys. I've had people deciding that they they think they can just come to my platform and copy my content and do what they want to. I got two people in federal court right now. So I'm I'm letting you know folks, I'm not playing with you. I think a lot of folks just think this is a game and they think that these videos are just they want to. When you sign that that uh YouTube form, you got your information out there. I've already I'm not going to say anything. Keep playing. Keep playing if you want to. Now, if you want to use my content, request permission, and if I grant it, you know, cool. If not, I I'll keep taking y'all's money. Anyway, I'mma leave that there. We're the only group of people that feel like that we can just because black people, we have just no chill. It's like, I see it, I'll use it. Nah, you can't have that. [music] >> [music] >> Money world. [music] Money world. I [music] Funny [singing] [music] other [singing] [music] way. And we love the narrow money. [music] Money world. [music] [singing] [music] >> [singing and music] [music] >> Money. [music] Money work. [music] Money work. >> [music] >> The zone [singing] [music] money. [music] Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Money world. Money world. Money world. [music] >> Gabriella. >> Okay, Gabriella, I need you to unmute. >> Hello. Yes. >> Hi. Good evening. >> Hello. How are you? >> I'm doing very well in yourself. >> Good. Uh, what did I get wrong on the topic? >> Um, I don't think it's per se that you got anything wrong. I do believe that a lot of average women shoot too high and don't correctly rate themselves or aren't prepared for the kind of life that they should leave. Everyone wants, you know, what they the glitz and glamour that they see on television. >> Okay. Um, so I think just a lot of average women don't understand that, you know, they won't be able to get a high value man, >> but that doesn't mean they won't be able to get a good man. And that bashing men consistently bars you from not only getting a high value man, but also bars you from getting an average good man. >> Okay. So, let me play devil's advocate because this what I hear from a lot of women. All right. Uh, Gabriella, I can I I I I'm not qualified for a high value man, but I can get a good man. >> Okay. But what separates the good man from the high value man is the amount of resources and everything. A lot of these women still feel like they can still get it. Like I can I can get him and then I'll I'll practice on him, but then I'll still be secretly wanting this high value man. >> You see what I'm saying? >> They don't appreciate the good man that they have because they still feel like they should have royalty. >> And and I feel like they don't understand that. I mean, at least this is my perspective. Of course, there's other perspectives. I could be wrong, but I don't feel that they understand that a good man might have high value character. He does not have the money to be high value. Um because he's just an average man just as we don't, you know, we might not have the looks to be a high value woman. We don't. Um but that, you know, just because first off, I think it's super disrespectful to practice on someone. Um, you know, if you're not happy with what you have or what you're going into, don't go into it. Have real realistic expectations for your relationship and for who you are and the kind of life you want to lead. I also think that a lot of average women don't understand that like, yeah, they might not get a man that has the most money now, but you know, is he at least ambitious? Um, does he at least want to make more money? Is he working towards that? Are you helping him with that? Are you encouraging him? Are you, you know, making sure? >> Let me ask you something. Let me ask you something on this thing because I >> have you ever heard, have you ever heard, witnessed or seen women who were average women, they were with a good or an average man, but then they were abusing it >> because they really felt like they could do better. >> Yes, I've seen that multiple times. Okay, talk about that because see see what we often hear is women are told to settle and this and that. But what we don't hear is what I just said. Women who will have a decent man who's really on their level but they don't feel like he's but they don't feel that that's the best they can get. So they abusing speak on that because you say you heard of a lot of times that's jacked up. So for for example um people in my family they for specifically an aunt um you know she has and she's still with this man. It's not that she's not with this man. um you know she has a very average man and she is although she's a very pretty woman um and she has gotten high value men in the past. She is not good at marriage and she has you know said it multiple times that's why the man she's with she has not married although they've been together for 15 years and he has proposed but she is emotionally abusive and I >> What do you mean she's emotionally abusive? What does that mean? For me, it's just like, you know, she always is is yelling and like cursing at him. And, you know, you mean emasculating him? >> Yes. Yeah. She's >> She does that in front of you guys. >> Well, you know, not necessar she doesn't do it in public. She kind of does in front of us, but we're kind of like her daughters. Um, so we're, you know, she she had us often when we were growing up. So, it's like, you know, we're her kids. Although I didn't >> have you ever spoken to him one-on-one and asked him how does he how does he feel about being treated like that? >> I haven't I don't like him. Um but that doesn't mean he's not a you know a good person in other sense. I just particularly don't like him. >> Um so I wouldn't I wouldn't want to speak to him >> like past things he's done um you know before they get together and different stuff. I just I don't like his character overall and the way he like treats he treats her very very well. He treats her daughter well. He treats um their grandchildren well. It's just like everyone else in the family, he just tends to be like a lot rder too. Um and I I just don't like that about >> rude. >> Rude. Yes. Thank you. Um >> what do you mean? What do you mean? What do you mean he's rude? How >> it's it's just like, you know, we'll come in. You know, maybe it's not rude. It's just standoffish. Like we'll come in and we'll say, "Hey." >> Okay. Let me So, were you raised with your dad? >> Yes, I was. >> Is he still alive? >> Yes. >> Okay. Some men just have a different way of being. But, um, >> yeah, I realize that. I'm not comfortable. But, >> see, the thing is, I got to be honest. We got to get our women past that because every you've said everything is great about this guy except you just don't like the way he he he does what he needs to be doing. >> That's what you should be judging him on, not how you feel about him uh when y'all watching the game. See, that's why black men feel like they got to be perfect. that every other group of men is he's taking care of her his wife, his kids. >> I mean, she's she's financially um >> No, no, I'm just saying I'm just I'm No, no. I'm just judging on what you said, man. I'm just I'm only going what you said. There's no backtrack, but what I'm saying is no other race of men has to be so perfect. >> None. >> If you can be a a >> They've been together how many years? 16 years. >> 15. >> 15. 15 16. >> Yeah. >> Take care of her. take care of his kids >> and and that look he doesn't black men almost have to be Jesus. So this is what a lot of brothers when they hear even it's like even when you give black men a compliment you're slapping them with another hand and you don't mean it that way but that's the way it comes across. >> I don't I mean I that's the reason I've never asked >> but that's the way it comes across. So I need you to understand that >> that's the way it comes across. That's why I'm like, "Well, you're raised with your dad." Because if you were raised with your dad, you should understand like like Rebecca Lan Pope says, men are not women. We don't talk the way y'all talk. There are women who say I'm harsh or I'm rude or I'm I'm this or I'm that. And the fact that I'm like, "No, I'm a high value man and I don't have to worry about strangers feelings when I'm telling the truth." >> Of course not. But I mean I mean that's not really the way. I don't mean like in talking in a harsh tone cuz my other uncle does. I just mean he is not like to the rest of the family and I understand like he doesn't need to be but I grew up around my father my um other aunts husbands and everything like him >> um one of them do the other men not really but one of them >> say I would just say this that men are far more accepting and understanding of men than women are uh women often judge men black women often judge black men pretty harshly I get what you're saying, but I'm just giving you the interpretation cuz I even looked in the chat room, but I would bet if you go back to the chat room in this section, a lot of brothers will be co-signing what I said. And I know you didn't mean it that way. I know you didn't mean it. >> I really didn't. He's not He's nice in other ways, but I just I'm just not comfortable talking to him. I wouldn't I wouldn't ask him that kind of question because I don't think it would be perceived well. I don't think >> Well, I mean I just I was just curious if you ever I was just curious if you ever heard if you'd ever heard him say, "Man, your man, I love your aunt, but boy, she she just be on her, brother." I mean, because after 15 years, I mean, >> see, here's what should happen. >> Your mother who who is who's is is your father her brother or is your mother her sister? >> My mother is her sister. >> Your mother is married to your father? My mother >> um they were my mom passed away but before that my parents were divorced. >> Okay. So the women of the family should check her. That's what should happen. The women >> I mean the women are the women are majority of the women excluding one of my other aunts. They're really you know they're really Latin like they're >> that's the problem. Okay. So so listen what I'm saying. the if this were another group, the women of the family would check that. >> So the younger women like yourself would un wouldn't even get a ch she wouldn't get a chance to be the way she's been for 15 years of your life cuz the other women should have checked that. But the women sound like they are just out of control and the men are having to deal with it. And men men are eventually men don't have the emotional outlets. We don't we're not given the emotional tools, you're not given the ability to emote. I mean, the man's doing probably the best he can. So, if if his niece or whatever you are to him don't really like him, he's probably like, "Shit, all things considered, man, I don't put up with this 15 years. Y'all lucky I ain't came in here and butchered everybody." >> I mean, seriously, >> we're not we're not rude to him like everyone in my town. >> Say you were rude to it, man. Okay. Okay. Okay. What I need you to do is just stop trying to adjust it and be right. Just listen. Mhm. >> Black women expect black men to be perfect or more than anything else. And I know you it's not what you meant, but I'm not just talking to you. I'm talking to women in general. Did you watch the video Rebecca L Pope said about >> No. >> Okay. She made a There's a black woman on YouTube has a million views on this video. The reason she stopped being a matchmaker for women, black women, is because of black women's unrealistic standards. And one of the things she said in the first three minutes was, "Look, men don't talk like women. He's not going to be your girlfriend, boo. Men are direct. And if you expect men to be this way or that way, they're going to hurt your feelings all the time." And that's the truth. That's just the way men are. And here's the thing. >> Black women more than any other group of women talk like what you're saying. I don't you never really hear this coming from other groups of women. I certainly don't hear it coming from Asian Chinese women. Certainly didn't hear that this not that they just and their men and you think black men or something. I would I think I think it would be interesting if we could do like women could go to deal with some Shanghai men or some Cantonese men or go deal with some old school patriarchal men. A lot of sisters come running back to black men like, "Oh god, I didn't know we had it so good." Anyway, I need to get to the next person, but thank you for giving up your point. Okay, Grand uh Grand Rising Marketing, go ahead. You need to unmute yourself. I know she didn't mean it, but again, it's part of our culture. Hello. >> Yes, I'm here. >> Oh, boy. Uh, how old are you? >> I am 30. >> Boy, I know you 30 year old folks need to learn how to start working damn Zoom. [laughter] So, uh, what do you have on the topic for me? What did I get wrong? >> Um, you really didn't get anything wrong. I just wanted a honest opinion like, um, okay. So, I, you know, I'm in my 30s. I just got separated with my husband because he didn't want to move up in like income wise. He's 42 and he wanted to stay working and I wanted to push him. Like I would do his resumes. I would push him. I would be his cheerleader. Then after a while, >> you ain't even on the subject tonight, are you? You just call in and ask me what you want to ask. >> I just want an opinion. I really do. >> Well, you could have booked a one-on-one advice session, paid me for it. Why didn't you do that? >> I did. I went online and the only one I saw was like 400, right? That's what my advice costs. >> Oh, okay. >> What I mean, excuse me. Don't you don't think What What did you think? >> No, I think your time is precious. You're right. >> I just didn't know. I thought it was like I don't know. I I listen to YouTube a lot while I'm driving to work and I didn't know >> what you just said. You went to my website and you saw it and you said, "Oh, I ain't paying that. I'll just wait till he has a show and I'll call in AND ASK." OKAY. >> NO, NO, NO. NO, NO, but just go ahead. No, no, no. I got time. Go ahead. You divorced your husband? >> Yeah, we separated now because I was >> How many kids do you have? >> By him? None. I only have one. >> Okay. But none by him. So he's a stepfather to your child. >> Yeah, but he he never I never made him pay anything. >> No, no, no, no. If you gonna do this, we gonna do it my way. He's a stepfather of your child. And you divorced him? Where'd you go to college? I went to I got my master's um from national >> a master's. Go ahead. >> Yeah. But I'm working as a nurse now, but I switched careers later because I wanted to make more money for my daughter. >> And what did you do before you were a nurse? >> Um I was a social worker. >> All right. The jobs that the [clears throat] remember the the high value men avoid these women. So what's the problem? What's the question? You you you stepped away. you you divorced your husband or separated because he just wasn't motivated enough for you and your child. So, what's the >> Right. Yeah. And I feel like I'm I think I'm a solid seven. >> There are no Okay. How tall are you? >> Um I'm pretty tall. Like 56. >> What dress size do you wear? >> I wear a size 11. >> And how much did you weigh? Last time I checked it was like 145 150. >> That's [ __ ] >> I'm serious. >> No, I'm serious. >> Excuse me. >> Okay. I'm an image consultant. >> I understand male female sizing down to the science. You cannot be a size you said 56. >> Yeah. Like five size 11. >> Yes. So it's either a 10 or a 12. So you're closer to a 12. There's no way you could be >> I just I fluctuate a lot because like during the summer >> All right. Okay. So what you're not going to do is you're not going to taco. So you're 56. When's the last time you weighed yourself? >> A long like about almost a year or so. >> Exactly. That's overweight women don't weigh themselves. You're not >> But I'm not overweight. I really look lady. Look lady. I'm See, here's the thing. If you can you hear me speaking? >> Yes, I can. >> That means if you talking over me, you're doing it on purpose. >> What is it you want to know from me? >> I really just wanted a real honest opinion. That's all I wanted to know. A honest opinion because you can't go to a lot of men and ask about their opinion to make >> my situation. Am I being too harsh? Am I living? >> I think you better go back to your husband because if this is the way you talk to men, you lucky you had a man deal with you in the first place. Where's the child's father? >> Um, he's around >> Where's the child's father? >> He's in their life. He's he's he lives in >> father. >> He lives in the same town as her, which is outside of Chicago. >> Where where's the child? >> She's live she lives with me. >> So where's the child's father? In Chicago. >> Yes. What does he do for a living? >> Um, he's a loser. >> He drives for a living. >> He He drives Uber. >> So, you got pregnant and had a child by a loser. >> Yeah. >> You decided to separate from your the the guy who was brave enough to be the stepfather. What does he do? >> Um, he's a janitor. He works very hard. He's Yeah, he's a good guy. >> No, but Yeah, but you separated from the good guy. Yeah, because right and Okay, so I'm trying to tell you for real. >> No, no. All right. So, you're 31 years old. How old is your child? >> She is She just turned 12 in July. >> So, you got pregnant at 18 or 19? >> Um, yeah. All right. I got pregnant. >> Oh, you honestly think you're the [ __ ] No, I don't think >> you have a master's degree and a 12y old kid, a nurse who had a baby by a loser who drives >> and you had the nerve to get rid of a hardworking man for what? You think there's going to be a better one out there for you? >> No, Kevin, I really I don't know if I understand. Do you do Okay, I asked this question, ma'am. Don't get upset, but listen. Is life easier with two incomes or one? >> It's easier with two incomes. >> So, why did you get rid of one? Because did you think you were going to go find somebody with another one? >> Um, what I wanted. Yeah, I'll tell you. Yes. >> You won't. Let me tell you why. >> Cuz I the way you just hearing what I've heard, ma'am. You had a baby by a loser. >> Yeah, I did. >> Then what man who's winning wants you? >> But I I think if you like I'm really sweet. I think I'm pretty attractive. I think I'm pretty attractive. >> I don't care. See, that's the thing. You think that that matters and it doesn't. What matters is you let some you let a loser impregnate you. you have a loser's child then when you actually had a man who was character enough to marry you. Yes, he married you, right? >> Yes. Uhhuh. >> Then to be a stepfather to that child, did he want children? >> Um, he did. But did he want children? Did he want children? Answer my questions the way I asked them. Yeah, he did. >> Okay. And are you infertile? No. >> So he wanted children, but you wouldn't have a child with him. >> No, I >> Right. So he had to take care of a loser's baby, but you wouldn't even give that man a child. And he had to nurse. Listen, >> take care of her. >> Listen, woman, you keep trying to see, you've told plenty of women this [ __ ] You're talking to a man now. >> But I'm >> You're talking to a man now. You had a baby by a loser. >> You expect people to give you and say, "Well, she's young or whatever." No, ma'am. It counts. >> It counts. And that child is 12 years old. And somebody had the courage enough, the character enough to marry you. And what did you give that man? You didn't even give him the child that he wanted, but he had to take care of another man's child. That is Oh, Jesus Christ. Did Did you guys live together? >> And yes, and I pay most. >> I don't give a [ __ ] if you paid most of the bills. See, you still want to tell a story from a woman standpoint. The man had a job. >> But go ahead, tell us a story the way you want to cuz I want to I'mma teach a lesson with this. See, what she wants to do is tell us how great she is. See, I'm a I'm a teenage I'm a teenage mother and then I went and got a bachelor's and then a master's. And see, I'm driven and I'm motivated. Now, how much college how many student loan debt are you in? >> A lot. >> I didn't ask you that. How much How much debt are you in? >> Um, last time I calculated I I just like it was like 800,000. >> 80,000. And how much do you make annually? >> I am making 65. >> How much is your uh janitor boyfriend I mean husband? I'm sorry. How much did he make? Um he just told me he showed me his checks and he would bring on a like overtime because it's a well >> did he make? >> Okay like 22 23 an hour depending on what shift what did how long were you guys married? >> We were married n we were been together nine years but we're married seven. >> So you have had to file taxes. How much money did he make? >> We always filed separately. When you were in school, were you working full-time? >> Um, I was working part time, which I >> No, you were not. You were married while you were in school. Yes. >> Yes. >> So, who paid the bills while your married ass was in school? >> Me and him. >> No, he paid the bills. You were working part-time. >> No, but I was still paying bills. >> Oh, Jesus Christ. Listen, this is this and wonder why it's simple math, ma'am. Could you have afforded to live and go to school without him? >> No. >> Then when you then shush then when you got your B then you got your bachelor's. Uh did did he have a college degree? >> Um I did that. >> Did he have a college degree? Did he have a college degree? >> I don't know. We weren't together when I got my bachelor's. I started over in nursing. I got my RN later. So, I had my masters. >> All right. So, when you were Okay. You said y'all been together how long? Nine years. >> Yes. >> But you were married seven. >> Yes. >> You're 31. >> Yes. >> You've been together since you were 22. >> Yes. >> So, when you were in college for undergrad, were you guys living together? >> Um, no. No, I met him soon after I graduated. >> When did you you got married? After you graduated from college? >> Yes. >> Right. And how much debt were you in when you graduated from college? >> A lot. >> Right. And what age did you get married? 22. >> Yeah. >> Did you guys move [clears throat] into an apartment? >> Yes. >> All right. And then he had a job as a janitor. >> Well, when we first moved in, he didn't have a job, but I believed in him. >> I don't give a [ __ ] He got a job. Like you said, when you were in grad school, you couldn't have done it without him, could you? No. When I was in >> No, you couldn't. And let me guess. And And And when did those student loan payments start? When did you have to start making payments? After grad school? >> Yeah. >> So, you didn't have to make any payments on your undergrad? >> Yeah, I had to make payments on my >> You had to make payments on the undergrad. While you were in grad school, right? >> No, I it's on hiatus when you school. >> So, after you got out of grad school? >> Yeah. >> And you graduated in grad school? What year? >> I don't even know. I'm just so tired. I'm just so frustrated. >> I don't want to hear this sorry sad [ __ ] >> I don't want to hear this sorry war is me. >> You're supposed to be my brother. You're alpha. >> I don't want to hear this cuz I'm tired of I'm tired of black women like you with a who done reproduced and had a child and wants a goddamn excuse and then get rid of good men because you think you all that. >> No, I don't. >> I don't want to hear it. Ma'am, you graduated with your masters in two years. >> Yeah. >> All right. So you're roughly 24 25. That means somewhere during your life after you got a bachelor's and a master's that no working janitor still had to pay some money towards light rent food, your college student loan debt and he doesn't even have a degree. He had to spend money putting food in your child's mouth cuz it ain't his. He didn't even get Shut up. [snorts] He didn't even get a child out of the deal. He's paying for another man's child who you called a loser. And then you have the nerve just to come over here talking about, "I divorced him cuz he wasn't ambitious." >> And then you gonna get out here on the open dating market and tell this story. You are a permanent side chick, ma'am. You're a side chick because of your character. I don't need to hear I don't need to hear I don't need to hear the rest of the story. I don't need to hear how cute you think you are or how special you think you are. I don't want to hear any of this [ __ ] I'm so sick of black women like this. Just just think that cuz cuz she got a degree. Remember, I got a degree and I'm a seven. I deserve a doctor. Now it's these level up channels that do this [ __ ] man. And she is and she has practiced telling this story to fe to women and suckers for the longest. Unmute yourself, Andrea. But let's do it. Intermission. Let's get this money up. Get these likes up. Money world. [music] Money world. [singing and music] [music] Money. [music] [singing] We're about to open the call line. Let's see what we got going on. Oh man, we don't even have the likes up over a thousand. Oh man, we got to get the likes way up. >> [music] >> Oh, let me help this chick [music] out. [music] >> Bye. [music] >> [singing] [music] >> moderators. [music] Time out any of these crazy people talking about [music] the best from anything else. None of that time. No time for that. [music] >> [music] >> Come on again. It's only a problem. It's only a problem if you're outspoken. [music] >> He shouldn't be saying these kind of things. >> [music] >> We've got right to reason to be angry >> and and unhappy. >> It ain't our fault. >> Cool. Ain't nobody said it was. >> Nobody going to put up with it though. Especially not men who hoop [music] to work to get to the next level. >> Yeah. [music] Luna, >> do you have any sisters? >> No. >> Uh any any home girls or girlfriends? Anything like that? >> No, I do. Yes, I kind of do. But >> who who do you talk to on a regular basis? Um, I have a friend, her name is Gigi, but she's Puerto Rican and Dominican, so her values are a little bit different, but we can she understands me. >> Uhhuh. So, who do you talk to about this? You don't you separated from him because he wasn't ambitious enough. >> Yes. Uhhuh. >> Does he have a full-time job? >> Yes, he does. So, how am So, how how ambitious did he have to be? >> I Well, this is the thing. I He wanted to become a pastor. So, I I pushed him. I did his resume. I showed him all these different connections like Salvation Army has like a training program because he doesn't want to go to school. At the time, he didn't. And so, after I separated, he text me and said, and he sent me a picture of him enrolling to a pastoral program. >> How ambitious did he need to be? How much money did he need to make before you stay married to him? >> Um, I just wanted him to follow his dream, which was to become a pastor. >> Oh, so the way you helped him follow his dream was by leaving. >> He He did send me a picture of him. >> You thought to help him was to abandon him. >> No, because I did every I did I did his resume. >> So So let let's let's play this out, okay? You want your daughter to be to be uh top of her class, right? >> Yes. >> All right. So, the way you would motivate her is by putting her out of the house. >> No. >> Well, that's what you effectively did to your husband. >> But can I ask you a question? >> Well, ma'am, did you follow the logic? >> Yes, I did. >> You You thought you would help him by getting better by leaving him? What part of what part of the marital vow is that? >> None. >> Okay. Then why' you do it? >> Because I'm gonna be honest. After watching what is that show? Um, Alchemy. Cuz me and him have been together for seven years and he always wanted >> um it was Tyler Perry. Alchemy or something where uh she became bitter because she stayed with him the whole time. And then finally when >> you're 31 years old, ma'am, you you you broke your marriage up because of a Tyler Perry show. >> No, no, it's not because it it just resonated with me because I >> Have you had you sought therapy? >> No, Kevin, >> you're laughing, but I'm not. I'm dead serious. I I got other things to do. I'm talking to a 30 Listen, >> I'm talking to a 31 year old mother of a 12-y old girl and talk about you divorced your working husband cuz you watched a Tyler Perry movie. >> No, >> I know. I listen very well, ma'am. See, the problem you have is that I'm saying I'm what I'm saying and I'm paring it back and it sounds terrible, >> right? It does. >> But that's your life. So, you don't mind? >> Yeah, it is terrible. >> Yeah, but you did it. See, you don't mind doing it, but you don't want nobody saying it. And you honestly think you can drag this [ __ ] to another man, and he's going to be like, "Okay, cool." >> But I I think, can I say one thing? >> I think that honestly, I hope he finds another woman who's going to have his children instead of car instead instead of taking care of yours and and and a deadly. >> But he didn't he didn't take care of mine. I >> I don't want to hear [ __ ] ma'am. If he if he paid for if he paid rent, if he paid anything in the rent, lights, food, groceries, utilities, even if he paid 3%, he took care of your child. Shut up with that [ __ ] >> He did. >> You're too foolish to even give him credit for it. >> That's why you don't That's why he's too good for you. You are sitting You are sitting here saying that a man who is not your biological child's biological father, you did not even want to give that man his own child, but he still had to pay his portion of the bills, his portion of the utilities, his portion of whatever your child ate that food, right? Or did she only eat the food that you brought in the house? Did she only use the water that you paid for? Did she only use the lights in the room that you paid for? Is that what you're trying to tell us? Is that what you're trying to tell me? >> Um, >> no. But I I bought the groceries. I paid the utilities. That's what I'm saying. >> I don't give a [ __ ] ma'am. He So, what was his money going? >> What happened? What? We lived in a >> What was his money going? So, he wasn't paying nothing. >> No, he was paying something then knock it off. Ma'am, I'm moving on to the next caller. You're just get seek some help, lady. You sound like you sound like you're seriously you sound like you need counseling and you sound immature. You don't need to be you're somebody's mother. >> Yes. But I I didn't really get to explain myself [clears throat] talking is going to change something, ma'am. It's not going to change anything. I know I know exactly what I need to know about this situation. I don't need to know all the details. I know that that man needs to find a better woman. I know that you said you had a baby by a loser. And I don't know anybody I don't know any woman who has a baby by a loser that feel should be divorcing anybody that's willing to help her take care of any responsibility of I don't know any woman who has a baby by somebody they says is a loser should be walking away from somebody who's willing to help her take care of any part of that responsibility. I don't know any woman I don't know any woman who a man has helped you get through grad school and he's been there. He's helped take care of your kid when you had to go to school. He was there. I don't need to hear [ __ ] ma'am. I don't need to hear nothing. When you were going to school, he was Who was there sitting with your kid? He babysat. I'm quite sure he took care of that dog. >> No, he didn't. >> All right, get off my phone. I really don't care. I don't care. I really don't care. You're right, ma'am. He's horrible. He's horrible. You're right. You're a victim. Good luck. Out of here. So guys, see this is what I mean. These average women, somewhere in her mind, she thinks, somewhere in her mind, she thinks, "Ooh, what the heck is going on with my little stream deck, man?" There we go. That's for you, [crying] lady. [music] somewhere in her mind. Oh, no. See, he really was he really wasn't good. And yeah, right. Somebody Yeah. Can't wait to get a hold of that. Hello. >> Hi. How are you? >> I am well. And what part of the world are you in? >> New York. Uh >> oh. Another New Yorker. New York City. Um I I work there and I go to school there. Yeah. >> Okay. So what do you got on the topic? >> So um I have been focusing on my career very heavily. All right. >> The past four years. I'm 29 now. Like I just turned 29. >> Um and I've been on this career journey. I find that men are not as attracted to me. But >> men are men men are not what to you? >> Not as attracted to me or don't approach me in the same way that they used to say as when I was 25 or 24 even, >> right? Um I don't look too different though. Like I haven't aged much. I was in the medical aesthetics field together. >> Something is breaking. Hold on ma'am. Break. You're breaking up. Um >> can you get a little bit? I can. So basically you're been focusing your career. you're 29. Uh, and now men are not approaching you like they used to approach you when you were 25, >> right? And um, >> okay. So, what are you trying to, >> you know, I find, >> what are you trying to accomplish? >> Right. So, I find that now on the contrary, I am in spaces where there are a lot of highv value men. Um, but they will tell me, "Hey, I find you attractive, but I'm not taking it to the next step with these men. And the ones that are approaching me are the ones I don't want." Um, and I just find that I'm having like no success actually getting on the dates. >> All right. So, so let me stop you, right? Let me ask you this. Are you in New York City or not? >> Yes, I I work and go to school. Is there any way you can take me off Bluetooth or speaker phone? >> I I You're You're not on neither. No, >> I mean, you don't have a headset to plug in. Okay. >> Um I can try. I can try. >> Yeah, please. Yeah, go ahead. >> Sure. Sure. >> Um I'm not speaking to any men tonight, so guys, when I when it's a men's show, I'll let the men call in. tonight. It says, "Ladies, call in." And you know, this is a previous caller. I I'm trying to be as compassionate as possible, but when I'm hearing a a woman that's just again, the question I asked her that defined everything, if you were not as attractive as you are, would you be asking for a man on that level? And she said, "No. That that that's it right there. Are you here? >> Yeah. Is it better? >> That's better. Okay. So, here's the thing. You're 29 now. You're more more open to the relationship or it's in the in the cards right now because you're >> danger zone, >> but the men who are approaching you, you're not interested in and the men that you want aren't approaching you. Let me ask you uh you've been focusing your on your career. What do you do? >> Um I'm a COO at a biotech startup and I also work in global business intelligence in the corporate world bio. >> Okay. Okay. So you're a COO. So you're this is on the IT side. All right. What? Okay. >> Strategy and IT. Yeah. C is it not COO? I'm thinking CIO. It's on the operational side. >> Yeah. >> Okay. So, let me ask you why relationships are why are they a priority now at 29? >> Um, I did definitely try to date around as I was on my career journey and I just found that I wasn't finding successful matches. either the guys were not serious or >> have you approached Have you approached your finding a mate with the same level of intensity, focus, and discipline as you have your career? >> Oh, with the same int am I doing it with the same intensity? >> Yes. Um, >> you're COO. You're a COO. Have you approached finding a man with that kind of focus? Um, I recently started, but prior for the past three years, no. >> Okay. What's the longest relationship you've ever had? >> Um, a year. A little over a year. >> How long ago was that? >> When I was 18 to 19. >> So, you are wholly unfit for relationship. You have no unfit. And listen what I'm saying. You have been focusing on you. You're a single woman living in New York City living this Carrie Branch Shaw life. That's great. But you have no history of working or cooperating with a high value man. And now because you're in the danger zone now all of a sudden you're turning back to men and saying, "Hey, now I want now I'm ready to schedule you in. I've got >> danger zone. >> I've got a slot here right now. I've got these eggs that I need to use and now I'm ready to go ahead." And it doesn't work that way. It doesn't work. You're an attractive woman. However, you probably blew. There's a video I made. You You likely have already met your husband and you blew it. And many women in your position have likely already met suitable men you just didn't have time for. And now you want a man who's that you're interested in. Uh that and is that based on a a job or an income level? Um, well, >> the minute that you want, the minute that you want, >> how much do they make annually? >> Um, it would have to be like 400 to 500K plus. They'd have to >> get the French toast out of here, lady. >> Are you serious? >> Yeah. >> Okay, ma'am. But, okay. So, I need you to I need you to pay attention. I'm about to ask. >> Yeah. >> What would you rank yourself on a scale from looks one to one to 10? And you cannot use seven. >> Okay. 1 to 10. I would rate myself like a 8.5. >> A what? >> An eight. >> 8.5. >> Eight. Yeah. >> Okay. Beyonce is an eight. You rank yourself up there with Beyonce. >> Um, definitely when I everything, makeup, heels. Yeah. I I'm pretty attractive, I find. >> Right. But is that how you walk around every day? >> Not every day. No. >> Right. You're an adjustable six. >> Meaning you walk around cute, but you can't be pretty. But please don't look in the chat room. >> Mhm. >> Are you looking in the chat room? >> A little bit. Yeah. >> Yeah. I don't need you to do that. I'm running the show and I'm not doing that. Please shut please shut it down because we're not going to have a conversation because see you you this is what happens when women become too successful. Wait too long for relationship. You have effectively priced yourself out of the market. You want a man on your income level. Well, great man, but you don't have skills on that level to attract a man. that what you're trying to use to attract a man is your career or your job, your education or your degree, your resources or your money. Uh I don't sense the sexuality piece of it. Everything that I said men don't want at that level. You're leading with that. So you want a man who's in the in the top one. You want to man in the top 1% no not 1% 3% of earners. Okay. Then you got to ask yourself a question as a COO if this is a business if this is a business process question. Why would a man who has the who is wanted by 80 plus percent of women pick you? 80 80 or 80 to 90% of the women in the room want him. >> Mhm. >> You're in line with 80 to 90% and they all want him. Why should he pick you? >> So, is this rhetorical? Should I answer? >> No. No. It's it's it's a serious question because that's the market. >> Yeah. Yeah. Um and definitely I do find that um you know that >> Okay. So so um where did you go to college? >> Um I went to um forom. >> Okay. Forom. All right. So and did you get any kind of graduate level degree? >> Yeah form. >> Okay. Uh masters or PhD? >> Um masters. >> All right. So, see, you're the kind of woman I probably would have went after. You and the previous color, women that are in that kind of looks range. A lot of guys will be attracted to you. But how do you relate to a man who's making that kind of money? What does he need from his woman? >> Right. You got a company to run. >> You want children? >> Definitely 100%. >> Say again. >> 100%. >> How many? >> Uh, two. Maximum three. Yeah, >> maximum three. How you going to can How can uh the company you work for handle you being out of work for 12 weeks? >> Right. H >> that that's a good question. I always thought, you know, my family could help and I could always hire help. Yeah. >> Say say again, you broke up. You always thought >> I could I could always hire help and family could always assist. Yeah. >> So you're breaking up again. So you basically thought that I have enough money to I can throw money at the problem. >> Yeah. Basically, >> no, you can't. And this is the heart. And so when I do these broadcasts, I'm not doing it to hurt women. I'm doing it to flash a big red sign that the men you want, you're your head is down, you're building a career, and now you're doing like Tommy Lauren value. And they're like, "No, I don't need forom COOs. I need uh NYU graduate in English." Who's on my program? >> My undergrad was English. But but you didn't but you didn't but you didn't do it at 21. >> Yeah. >> The man the only men that you'd be willing to deal with have to have at least a seale title. >> Yeah. >> Those are the men I'm attracting. Like the men I'm attracting they do own hedge funds. They do own companies. >> They own them that you're attracting but you cannot keep them. >> Right. And um your picture's not going to go, but are how long are you interacting with how long are you dating before these things terminate? >> Um typically I find that it's a subconscious thing for me. I find >> how long does it get to the point to where how about this? Does it get to the point to where it's physical? >> No. No. I typically put them in the friend zone. All right. Like cuz I don't want to come on too forward. >> All right. So, >> and >> so listen, listen, listen. So, again, >> a man who 90 out of 100 women want, who's had to go out and conquer the world, can't even get any loving. Matchmaker is going to be your best bet, man. And a matchmaker is going to have a hell of a problem with you because you earn too much, your title is too high, and your expectations are astronomical. And no one can tell you that you don't deserve it. Any woman that you run into in New York City will tell you, "You're a Forom graduate. You're you're you're graduate. You're a COO. You're this. You're that." But yet they'll take themselves home to their husband who's working third shift. That's why I keep pressing this highderee thing. I mean hedge funds and things like that. These guys are playing in money. And um as someone who lived in Manhattan, I lived on 43rd between 10th and 11th of River being Ben West, Riverbank West. >> Yeah. Beautiful area. >> Yeah. Yeah, I know. Door man and everything. And uh I'm going tell you the women that used to cycle in and out of that place, sweetheart. Victoria Secret models up there. I mean, you may be an attractive woman, but you know what's in New York City. >> I do. Yeah. >> That's what you're competing with. >> And they're fun. And they don't have a they don't have six uh 7 am conference calls. They don't have projections and budgets to get through. They're not saying we got to wait. That's not happening. Um let me see if I can point you in a direction. >> For sure. In all likelihood, your best opportunity, if it doesn't come through a matchmaker, is somebody you went to college with, somebody you grew went to school with, and you guys just decided to make an agreement, a business arrangement. Let me move it to the side. I've often said if I decide to remarry, I will either go get a younger woman because I want children. I want a son. And if I didn't, if I decided to get an older woman, it would be because we have two great brands or lives that could come together and it would make sense at your position. This is a negotiation cuz the the the talent the talent pool for what you want is infiniteesimally small. And are you uh restricted to uh by race? >> Um in some ways yes. >> And what would you prefer? >> Um I would prefer my own which would be um Indian but um you know a lot of them have to kind of go by what mommy and daddy say. So that also makes it tough. I sweet and I hate [clears throat] to say dear holy Jesus Indian. >> Mhm. >> You're western. >> Yeah. >> Okay. Um >> interesting logic puzzle, but it's it's uh if if you were if you were if you were if if you were a physician and this person came into the ER and you had to do triage >> Mhm. Or actually, if you were if if this patient were on the table, what would your prognosis be? >> Me looking at myself, >> your situation, >> um, be a little bit more open to the men that are >> No, no. What What would you rank as would you would you say this patient is stable? What position would they be in a stable, neutral, critical? >> Sure. Sure. Um, dating wise, I would say that they're in a critical position because the dating pool is very small. >> All right. And then what would be the prognosis for survival? >> Prognosis for survival would be adjusting lifestyle. >> No, no. Percent percentages. Percentages. >> Percentages. Okay. If we were talking adjustment. >> Uhhuh. Whatever you call it. What would it be? The prognosis for having the outcome you want? >> Um, 25% maybe. >> 25% survival rate. No. Yeah, maybe less. >> No, no, ma'am. You're in the single digits. >> You're in the single digit survival rates because you're in the single digits of men. >> Roughly three out of 100 men make the kind of money you're talking about making. Three out of 100, not adjusted for race, not adjusted for um marital status, not adjusted for age, not adjusted for sexual preference. Mhm. >> But thank you for calling in. I I I I I And here's the thing. I feel empathy for for women like yourself because our country has lied to so many women. Get out there, get your degree, go work, enjoy your life, get your career, travel, do such and so forth, and then when you're ready to settle down, get married. As if it was that easy. as if you could just stop on a dime and turn around and after 10 years of doing all this stuff, turn around and there'd be all these guys out here. And you know, I would love to hear more women like yourself who 10 years ago, if you would have had this kind of mindset, you'd be in a completely different place. >> That's what needs to happen. We need to stop this crap cuz we are we're making so many women who could be happily with somebody uh spinsters. It's not fair. See, I'm a man. I can have several lives. I can decide to go have get married again right now. And even people like why would you listen to guy that's been divorced twice. You listen to Steve Harvey. He's been married four times. But I can still decide to do it and be successful. I can do that. But a lot but women you don't have that because women control access to sex, men control access to relationship. And the kind of men you want are rare by definition. >> Mhm. >> All righty. Thank you. >> Hello. >> Hey. How are you? >> I'm good, thank you. How are you? >> All right. How old are you? >> I'm 29. >> Okay. Hey, what did I get wrong on the subject? >> Um, I don't think you've gotten anything wrong on the subject. Um, I actually tuned in a little late. My sister had to call me and like, Kevin's on, so I didn't hear the whole the whole conversation. But you're you're usually pretty spot on. Um, I just have a question. >> Okay. >> Um, let me start with my my my little uh my profile. >> Well, hold on. But what is your is your question about the topic or is your question about your personal life? No, it's it's definitely about the topic. >> Okay, just give me your question first. >> Okay, so um I do notice that there is I um you often mention like a pattern of behavior and thought processes in um a majority of black women and I'd have to say that I can't disagree with you. Um however, I do think there's another um prototype of a black woman and I think I kind of fall more so into that category. So, I do know that there's a lot of black women that think um black men don't necessarily um can't necessarily vibe with them and live up to their standards and what have you, but there's also a version of the black woman that is um I guess has low self-esteem and just tries to take whatever she can get. And I think that I fall into that category. And I don't do I don't really do a great process of vetting black men because I do want to submit to a man, a black man. I do want a black man to lead, but every man um isn't qualified for that role. >> What do you mean take what you can get? You're how old? 29? >> Yeah, I'm 29. >> And you say take what you can get. It means basically any guy that comes along or what? >> Not any guy that comes along. Any guy that I see potential, but that's like a dangerous word, potential, >> you know, you got to be really careful with that. And as I get older, Okay. >> I do as I get older, I'm I'm more privy to the potential thing that's a dangerous game to play. >> Okay. All right. So, you're worried you're going to submit or pick the wrong guy because your self-esteem is low? [clears throat] >> I have in the past and I admit I know I'm in the danger zone. >> Okay. So, if that's the case, have you gone to seek counseling and therapy? >> I have not. >> All right. Well, then you're going to continue to repeat the same things until you know why you're doing it and stop, >> right? >> Ma'am, the world does not owe you or me understanding. If you or I know our issues, it is responsible for us to do. We're responsible for doing something about them. If you know you have an issue of picking quote unquote men who are not worthy, then do something about it. >> Absolutely. >> That's a pretty simple fix. But let me ask you, are you uh did you go to college? >> I didn't. >> I didn't graduate. I didn't graduate. So, are you a woman that wants to to to live another one of these high-end middle class lives, stay at home wife, three kids kind of thing? >> Um, >> I mean, just >> Yeah. I mean, it'd be nice. I'm realistic. >> Here's the thing, though. Are you on that looks level? >> I was and I fell off, but I'm getting back on track. >> What does that mean? What does that mean? You were, then you fell off. See, attractive women tend to not fall off until they get something that they want. How much do you weigh? >> I weigh 185. >> And how tall are you? >> 5'5. >> And on a scale of 1 to 10, what would you rank your looks? You can't use seven. >> Face is a face is a nine. >> You give yourself Kelly Roland. >> Yes. I'm dark skinned. I always get um comments about how I should plusize model. >> All right. But but here's the problem. I can't see Kelly Roland getting to be 190 pounds without a wedding ring that's babies. >> I know I She ain't never got that big. >> Well, because because women who usually are really that attractive realize that their looks open doors and get them what they want. I just take it as what you say, ma'am. I can't verify the camera's not on. Even if I say I believe you, this is all on you, man. >> All on you. So, it ain't about black men. uh seek therapy like I always say and you don't have much you don't have any time to waste. >> It's true. >> All right. Thank you. >> Thank you. >> Byebye. >> Bye. >> The reason I was so harsh and direct with that woman in Chicago, it's not mean folks. It's the fact that She has really deluded herself. No one was going to sit back and say he is a good man. He was a working man. He just needed to do more. All right. See, does anybody think that she would have had the kind of attitude she had if she didn't have a master's degree? I mean, cuz like again, let's be real. She wasn't rich. I mean, she was barely middle class, right? She ain't balling. Knocked up at 18 and somebody went ahead and took that and there for nine years. You, ma'am, you won the damn lottery. You're a fool. You're a fool. You're foolish. Now, I don't say you're a fool. You're foolish to walk away. But life gonna show you. life's gonna show you because you know that little girl has grown somewhat attached to that man. And the worst thing, this is why so many men don't want to be the quote unquote cleanup man or deal with baby mamas. This is why highv value men, if you got, if you're a baby mama, you do not exist to high value men. Highvalue men will never wife you. I would say it is such an infiniteimally small number. It does not even count. You a baby mama and a bonafide highv valueue man. They don't want that situation. Now we're going to touch on that one again because average women and highv value men piss women off. We got to talk about this single mama stuff too. You want to you want to really keep yourself in the middle below average or average have a kid without a wet lot. You basically signed up to be one of the three black women who don't marry. That's what it comes down to. All right, folks. We got to get up out of here. I got to cut that those little segments out of this show, man. Oh, I can't believe that little danger zone crap played. I hate when it does that. Um, all right, man. We got to get up out of here. Thank you guys for tuning in. The show ran long, but I gotta go. Got to be over this two hours. So, I'm going to do an edit to this show and put it back up. Put the show back up. Put the show back up. But until then, guys, till tomorrow or whenever. Peace. We are. Y'all know what it is. Oh, I'm [music] sick of that crap. I'm getting rid of those songs. What [music] was that? [music] >> In this moment. >> Yes. >> I cannot say what's wrong or right. 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