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Okay. >> Yay. So, welcome back to Y Morning. Yeah. My name is Tunifa and this is where you get those good vibes, good energy like positive positive Wednesday, you know. bad energy. Okay. And we are back again because we have to talk to baby girls. Baby girls, suckle up. Suckle up. Circle up. You know, it's WCW, Women Crush Wednesday, where we get to talk about things that will make you glow, grow, and just Okay. And I'm some I'm not alone. I'm with someone special. No way. Liz, come back. Okay, it's not Liz. I'm with amazing lady. Yeah, she's looking pretty and she's wearing pink because it's WCW. Yeah, Lynn, welcome. >> Thank you so much for having me. >> Yes, >> my name is Lynn Kari. practitioner >> and yeah, I'm happy to be here. >> Welcome to Ymon. >> Thank you. >> You're looking good, girl. >> You too, baby girl. >> How about this the point where we say clocking our bodies >> clocking? >> Yes. And as you can see, by the way, we are here to talk about nothing but beauty. Okay. And not just beauty, but beauty in the digital era, okay? Social media. And earlier on we were talking about something on social media like m how do you want to be seen on social media? Okay. So now we want to talk about beauty. Okay. Do you think okay before I even dive into that let me get to know >> what's your definition of the word beauty. me when I was young what I knew about beauty is just do your hair >> your clean your but these days >> beauty is defined a lot >> the way you carry yourself the way you >> it's in a lot of things a lot of things before the way you carry yourself do you know that back in the days back in the days high school do you know there were those superstars the definition of beauty. If you're not if you don't look like then you're not beautiful. Yeah. So, if you want to look beautiful, if you want to look pretty or beautiful as a girl, you need to comb your hair. You need to ensure that your hair is neat. >> Brush your teeth. >> Oo, off your nails. >> Yeah. >> Shut. So, according to you right now, Do you think I mean the definition of beauty the same that you were taught when you were young or it may change with time? >> It may change big time. >> Big time. >> Big time. Big big big time. >> Big time. >> Yeah. So like just about brush your teeth. >> Yeah. True. And then change. Exactly. Okay. You're supposed to work on other things also for you now to beauty beauty I mean beautiful okay especially now with the digital era as I said to high school we were introduced to this like the beauty social media I think it was just when social media was like beginning actually before I think after social media but before like there these few people that we knew on the social media that were doing amazing came to and I look up to them and I feel like that's now the definition of beauty and that was bad because I feel like who we are. >> Yeah. True. >> As young girls because now okay for me to be beautiful for me to be pretty I have to be like so and so on social media. I have to be to look like Vera. I have to look like Uda. after it was. So that that was really a lot because the pressure was really I mean giving girls sleepless nights and uh >> and not just girls I feel like even men they were also contributing too >> to yeah >> they also not they they are also contributing this pressure of digital beauty like the definition of beauty now in the digital era because Rihanna. Rihanna. >> Not my type. >> Not my type. Have you ever like met like guys talk about the definition? Not even guys. Girls like define the definition of beauty now compared to compare social media the way they put in so much pressure. People supposed to look like a certain way. Have you ever like maybe got yourself into such conversations? >> I've never and I usually feel bad. like mostly bleaching. >> Yeah. Beauty. I have to change my skin color. So that's so and so. And I'm like, just be you, girl. Just be you. >> If they want to, they will. They will. >> If you want to love you, he'll just love you for the way you are. You don't have to change your skin tone to change your even your hair. Yeah. >> I feel like one thing also I think people should should be taught how to love themselves first >> because I think >> it will help you not to succumb to that pressure. >> Yeah, true. But me I do feel like men they do contribute a lot. Me I'll go back to men >> to men. If they see Tanzola online, >> she has done BBL, she has tummy tax, you know, >> and the way the products are very expensive to buy. Every morning I have to apply such a certain product >> to look pretty like tanola and then the men that stop bleaching yourself. It's not good to know the money. It's not money and pressure just because to please a man. >> Just Yeah. Just because you want to please a man. I feel like that is really wrong. By the way, you should just love yourself as the girls. That's why we're here to ensure that you get your weekly dose of information or rather wisdom. Yeah. social media and do you think um the problem is that we don't know where to draw the line as girls? We tend to do things to please men most of the time. >> Yeah. >> And we forget about who we are >> ourselves. We really do forget ourselves. You're like, "Oh, no. I want that man." And >> I will do everything >> everything to just get you. Have you ever done something crazy just to >> Definitely. Yes. Definitely. >> What was it? >> Cuz you're beautiful. So definitely about to change your beauty. So what was it that you did? >> I'm just curious. too like I forgot myself in that relationship >> where at the point of anybody stop with that man that is bad I'm like no I'm in love I'm in love I'm in love put your life aside I'll come back come back to that life this is the one and I I always feel like it's the first love the first love is The one that does that thing makes you forget about who you are, your career, your >> everything. Yes. How high do you want me to jump? My husband and most of the time back in college. >> Yeah. True. True. >> The moment to outside your I mean your house parents house. No, let me go outside live with my man. The things we have, we're speaking on behalf of others. And it's always the first love. And by the way, one thing I've realized is that the first love can make you forget about who you are and lose yourself. Like bouncing back, especially for baby girls. >> How long did it take for you to bounce back? I'm sorry. like it's okay me I've already healed and um I'll talk about it. So >> good girl. >> It's not a big deal. >> I talk like almost 4 months. >> Wow. You had to bounce back. >> I know. Were you in love? 4 months. >> Yeah. I was in love. >> You know me took me 2 years and beauty. I wear wigs at all or full makeup. >> Wow. He was like, "Yeah, you're natural beauty, but I with your dread your locks with no makeup, but me, you know, I want to feel good. I want to enhance enhance my beauty." >> Exactly. >> But why pig me? Just because >> you also be. >> Yes. Just because I I wanted to wear a wig. >> Wow. >> Mhm. Interesting. >> It was tough. It was tough, guys. It was Wow. And by the way, one thing men should understand, okay, is that um sometimes when we do those enhancement, it's not that we hate ourself. It's not that we are trying to do away with who we are. We're just enhancing like makeup enhancing your beauty. So, I think they should just bear with us because we're just baby girls. >> We're just girls and just girls. >> We're just girls. And also, if you're a girl and in such a relationship, you should just walk out, man. If someone doesn't want you to to be you, to be yourself, to do the things that makes you happy, then why are you creating room for them? >> Why are you creating room for them? You should just walk out. And I feel like walking out, that's where we draw the light because we're like, "This is my first love. I have pictured my life, my whole life with him, with >> Kuri Tenno." You know, >> what's your favorite color? No, those things do apply. I feel like >> I feel like right now things they ask Dubai to Turkey for vacation Bali Indonesia. So maybe notice they don't ask about colors. >> They do. >> Some some some some not all of you guys. Some some some of you a few of you. They do ask about color still. Ah me think nowadays they just ask about trip to Bali trip to Dubai vacation to maybe the cheapest but okay we're talking about beauty in the digital era. Okay you as a baby girl who is watching us right now. Have you ever like um felt like you the the beauty the definition of beauty in social media is kind of like giving you pressure making you feel like you're not enough? Talk to us. We want to know. discuss social media sometimes pressure because for me I feel like they don't pressure me at all. >> Yeah. >> But there are people when you want to get your pressure actually because they feel like okay I'm not enough. Now I want to talk about flat tummy. I need to have that flat for me to be to to be to be loved for me to be to fit in the society the definition of beauty. So what do you think? Is it is it the same thing like the pressure like okay I want to be like somehow >> I was like if I bleach myself maybe more likes online >> if I buy this product I start glowing lotions to do those my lotions. Maybe I'll get more likes and more viewers. >> Yeah. >> Than the way I am right now. Or maybe if I go for the tummy tax, the BBL, I'll get more attention from people. So I feel like it affect a lot small. I see how we how we look. You're like, "Oo, I look good." >> Yeah. without even noticing that effect >> and especially now when you post that like you wanted to bleach yourself so that at least so I feel like there are so many people who are doing crazy stuff to just get followers >> online >> and the pressure is real >> it's getting tough >> wow how many followers do you have comments did you did you get on that peak and now one one thing about it is that when You post at a certain angle and then you post and you get more likes. Now it forces you to go into that direction. >> There's no going back. >> DMs like girl looking good like this is the life. this is like this is what I want you know >> and it's end up bringing more pressure because now you don't want to be the you now the way you are you want to do more and that's why you get now people are doing crazy stuff to get money to do >> how much is it by the >> I don't know but I know it cost >> it cost a lot >> cost a lot a lot >> sometimes I'm like where do they get money to do that a girl next door you're my and where are you getting the money to do the BBL and everything to do the product fake a lot of you're like yeah and now getting back your skin problem because I'm imagining what if you decided to pressure get into Imagine like okay like I'm trying and everything like oh my god why did I do this >> why did you do that you're looking good >> I wanted I wanted attention yeah I wanted attention >> and do you I think there is something that can be done because I think the the the issue immediately after high school when you're about to join to when you're about to join college can can something maybe be done to young girls maybe fall into that pressure because I feel like not even fall into that pressure it's okay to fall into that pressure now to stop them or maybe to advise them not to end up doing some crazy stuff >> just to fit in in the society because >> in the fer point they don't know where to draw the line. >> I do feel like social med she she's doing I think I will be there. They want like to spend time with you to let me say it's not worth it. >> It's not worth it actually. It's not worth it because at the end of the day those effects effects but they don't talk about the effects online and they just post the postcess the surgery how painful it is. Some some of them end up dying by the way. Did you see that? That's uh social light who died. >> Yeah. >> The back illeg >> and she died out of that >> just because you want to impress people only. Love yourself first. And by the way, we have so many people and they are so proud of it of it. Me have no issue. If it makes you happy and you have the money to do that, do it. But if you don't have the money, not even if you don't have the money, I think we should learn how to love ourselves first. >> We should learn how to embrace who we are first at a young age. And that's why I I always love the there was this uh beauty queen. She was Miss former Miss Universe back in the 2019. She was asked what do you think young girls should be taught a customer leadership and how to love themsel so that the moment may love themsel you are young there is no one who's going to change you or make you feel like you're not enough but I feel like most of the time the people who are being affected by this are the people you're not enough even by your parent have you ever like experienced the point where you someone close to you telling you you're not enough or you're not pretty. >> Mhm. >> Yeah, >> it does happen, right? >> The person that I was dating, >> you know, >> that is a stranger. >> You know, I've been with most beautiful girls more than you. >> Wow. >> So, who do you think you are? >> And this is someone like you feel safe being around him and him telling you that. But now you are grown up at that time. Grown up grown up. But now I'm ask I'm saying about this young girls you're not enough. You're not slow. >> I think parents should stop doing to that to their kids. >> Yeah. >> It's not good. Just you're pretty the way you are. >> Stop forcing yourself to be someone who who you who who you are not supposed to be. >> Exactly. Because by the way I think it's because first parents instill that in their kids that you are enough the way you are. Let no one change you. Not even just beauty but even in school you're being compared >> compared to >> so you're growing up being compared compared compared and that comparison can really mess with your mental health >> mental health >> I feel like there are so many people out here because so that's This is my mind. Let me >> let me let me just use my mind. >> Hey, take slow. Maybe I'm slower. Maybe I'm faster. Maybe maybe faster than me. So just stop with me. Let me just concentrate with what I have and move on. >> And even by even this used to happen even in high school or even in school. All of you getting I change anything. >> I change anything. >> I would change it. don't listen. >> I feel like they were just forcing us that we are not because I'm not exactly. So just the same thing with beauty by the way. creativity by the way just stay like that. >> Yeah. And by the way, for those if you are planning to go and bleach your skin, please don't. >> Yeah, I'll adise that. >> Please don't. Okay. If it makes you happy, yes, you can go ahead and do it, but in the right way. There are things the products that you can use the right way but they are super expensive if you can't afford >> imagine dark skin not even dark skin black African queen >> that's beauty >> exactly and even if you black skin she's glowing glow You know this black because of beautiful the way you are and but but I just love the fact that we are starting to embrace all sorts of like skin tones because I'm told there was a time if you were not light Mhm. True. It was tough. could change. But I feel like beauty is about who you think you are from within. >> So first thing you're supposed to tell yourself is that you are enough. >> You're beautiful. You are intelligent. Like when you wake up in the morning like like right now before you step out in that beautiful words of this is me and I'm going out there. >> Yeah. >> And to the men who are watching us by the way. feel. Oh man. because of money. I'm not enough. But yeah, all I can say is that please, even you guys be on your man and pretty. She's just pretty the way she is. She is. >> Yeah. We should just embrace. We should just love the them the way they are. But you don't know men but women we are we do put ourselves down. >> Exactly. >> Women to women. >> I've always wanted to be like you. All I can do is hate. Yeah. Why? By the way, women to women, we we be supporting each other like kabisa. >> We stop that hatred. We stop like putting each other down. It's not It's not It's not good. It's not good. >> Have you ever like bumped into a comment from another woman >> on your page or maybe on your post? Negative. What was this person thinking? type even with a nasty comment >> because yes >> so women I think women women to women we are the problem >> we need to change >> we are the problem girl you're looking good keep doing whatever you're doing you're not even beautiful we can do better. >> Imagine like pretty vishy. >> Yeah. >> For her, she was not comfortable in her own body. She got the money. She She did what she did. >> Exactly. >> But the comment section, it was bad. is a guy. >> But we were but I feel like she's also strong by the way just like but also pretty those two. I think we just need to have a sit down conversation with them with them too because I know >> they went through a lot. Depression pays real. >> It's real and But there are people who are depressed because they are not I mean because of this definition of beauty social media rely on social media you're not okay you're not beautiful and they end up being depressed >> because which I get it not all of us thick skin some of us may develop so thick skin with time >> but there's those people who are yet struggling to accept who they are to accept themselves followers to be contented. When the time is right. Just ignore them and move on comfortable for your own body and your own skin. And I always I I always feel like uh beauty is the way you define it your own definition of beauty because beauty is relative. The way you define beauty is total different from the way I define beauty. >> For me I might be like okay let's say guys my type is >> tall and handsome. That's my definition of handsome. So same thing with beauty. But when it comes to you, I feel like beauty is less. So beauty is a relative word and I feel like we should be kind. We should be nice to one another force to believe into or rather fall into your definition of beauty. What was the thing beautiful to another person might be beautiful. So yeah, let's be nice when it comes to that. So it matters but to you and not to me or also do what makes you happy. >> Yeah. >> Do what makes you happy. >> Tik Tok. Tik Tok. Tik Tok will be the end of all of us. >> Social media. >> Instagram buddies. It was the end. I'm beautiful. And then of beauty of beauty back to zero. Oh my god. I'm not enough. I believe no matter what. No matter what. No matter what. Expect everything. positive. >> Not everything it will go the way you want it to go. >> Exactly. Like stop doubting yourself. Doubting yourself. >> Okay. If I may just ask, what do you think uh mean? What are the things do you think girls are supposed to do maybe for them to get to that point now of them with their own beauty? Yes, I'm beautiful the way I am. I don't need to rely on the public, other people outside to tell me I'm beautiful. What do you think? Maybe that whatever you say it matters, but not to me to you. Stop digesting negative energies, negative comments. Like anything you see negative, avoid avoid it. Avoid it. Just go opposite direction with that. Now, stop listening to people. They're not giving you anything. Yeah. >> I don't like your shoes. I love my shoes. >> Yeah. Exactly. >> This is me. I like the way I've dressed today. You cannot put me down. >> Yeah. Stop listening to negative comments. Have you ever been to that situation looking beautiful with that outfit? Then you repeat that outfit maybe some other days and then it was just a bad day. So I feel like it's not even even how you dress or how you you look from outside. It start with you like inside inside what do you think? I mean how how do you >> exactly? And there's this quot you see the world not as it is but as the way you you are from inside you like within you. So I feel like yeah just as you have said to surround ourself with people who are positive people who are not negative and also we fill ourself with warms of words of affirmation positive words of affirmation we are enough. Yeah, I think that will help us with this definition of beauty. There's a new definition of the word beauty. >> True. >> Especially on social media. >> There was this time flat was the way to go. >> Right now is not even >> it's not there. >> It's not it's not it. Yeah. Exactly. >> And that so changing it keeps changing every day. So will you change every day for you to fit in the society? >> You want to change every day to fit in the society and also I feel like can you still like you you still love yourself >> and do those enhancements? >> Can is that possible maybe? >> Yeah, it's possible I can be in love with myself but I'm like let me just go do my cobraiding on my eyebrows each and every day. It can't get permanently for some few days. I just want to enhance. Beauty is about enhancing. Don't like overdo it or you do it. >> Exactly. >> If I feel like today I feel like I feel like going to do BPL. Are you comfortable? Are you okay? Are you is something both like if I do it >> I'm way more way confidence in myself. >> Yeah. It makes you happy. >> Yeah. I know I can stand out more than but I feel like it's about you too. It's about you. >> It's about you. Actually there's no word beauty and also if you get someone let's say for instance relationship and that person forces you to change back to natural >> back to natural now you get into a relationship where someone is telling you you need to change if you don't change I'm going to >> okay then why did you approach me at first >> exactly >> what was the point of you taking me out of day. You're so nice. You're kind. So they don't like >> Yeah. >> makeup. There's a bride I saw without and then the conversation were like very brutal. and then you get every choice to make. So I feel like but bleaching advice >> advice bleaching judge I'll judge it honestly >> we rec more and more and more if you stop it your skin normal >> I think there are some specific surgeries people are doing bleach your skin from inside. So it remains like that forever forever. Wow. >> Your skin your skin really the normal mel melanin skin that you were born with maybe after one year or something. for you to fit in. >> They smell bad. No, I know the smell of those. They're not They're not good. Like, it's not good. And by the but you can also like get a man who is supportive like is supporting you for who you are. So I think those are the people those are the partners you should go for like force you to be a different person other than the person that you have been. Okay. So you have to feel comfortable first and you can only do that if you love yourself first. Baby girls like you get you tell yourself I'm not enough. Yeah. So yeah, we are beautiful just the way we are. So by the way, if you're stepping out today, step out, you're looking good, girl. You're looking good. Okay. And to the men who are watching us, remember to tell to always remember to tell your women they are looking pretty. And evenings feelings >> guys, you you're also enough the way you are and whoever was meant to be regardless. >> So as we wind up maybe some last comments about this beauty thing. What can you say maybe as we wind up? >> Me I'll say girl you're enough. You're enough the way you are when you're pretty pretty most of the prettiest girls ever. You get exactly. >> So don't put yourself down just because you've seen somebody on social media doing what she loves. Just take yourself depend be enough. That's all I can say to you guys. >> Of course, WCW. And where can we find you on social media? >> You can find me on Tik Tok at Lin Karemi. Instagram karem_in Facebook. Yeah, >> you're beautiful just the way you are. is key because I think we can talk and talk and talk and talk but the bottom line is love yourself first. Okay, love yourself first. Know that rainbow just the way. Okay, it was nice hanging out with you guys. Hope you're going to have a beautiful Wednesday next week. Next week on WCW Tenner, but Liz will be here tomorrow. It was so nice guys chatting with you and this is Y morning WCW. Thank you so much for watching. I go by the name Tunifa across all my I mean digital platforms to so see see you till next time and that's when we say bye >> bye. Yeah. Heat.