Do Women Have as Many Options as They Think?

Because what can't work is we all do what the hell we want to. That can't work. There has to be order. There has to be structure. And coming from the military, uh hierarchy and structure is what that is built on. You don't just make a battle plan and say, "Hey, just get a gun, go out there and cap some shit." >> [music] [music] >> There has to be a plan. So, [music] if marriage doesn't work, cool. What does work to get the kind of outcomes you would want? [music] >> In the place where I'm at right now, or even what my mindset is, I'm not really looking for a man in that sense. I'm not really interested in that relationship, only because I know that I How can I put this? Let's just say I can't be or offer what the typical man would want. >> Okay. >> So, I don't really feel like with what I don't want to say today's age, because I ain't met all men. You know what I'm saying? So, I'm not trying to like put a bias or like a a whole general statement about it. But from what I've experienced, it's just not something that I'm interested in. >> Okay. So, if Now, I I heard you talking, you said you wanted a couple kids. >> Yeah. >> Uh but you're not necessarily wanting >> [music] >> marriage. >> Yeah. >> Uh how would you see your life being if it wasn't married? With your children. How does that How does that structure look? >> If I was married? >> Well, if you have kids, but the outcome you said you want by 50, you want to have kids. And so, what would that structure look like? >> Um with a with a healthy co-parenting. [music] >> Would you live in the same house? >> Um not ideally. Um or maybe a house like if when I thought about it when I sat down and I thought about it for myself, I felt like maybe a house where we have separate [music] bedrooms to where either one of us can take space when we need to cuz I've always found it bizarre to like live your life completely single and then immediately like you have this one person that like you just you're just with them. >> So you live in the same house but in separate rooms. >> Not all the time. But you know like cuz I'm a I'm a I'm a very Yeah, I'm I'm a person that likes to be alone a lot. So there's going to be times where I def don't want to be around you, you know what I'm saying? And it has it's not personal and it has nothing to do with that, but yeah. >> Okay, so you talking about having one Are you talking about having one residence or multiple? >> Multiple ideally. >> Okay. And this is where it comes down to money. I mean I'm It always comes down to money. We have all these >> I'm glad I'm glad you emphasized that. >> Because because what I hear more often than with today with women is [music] I can't be around a man. The structure is like If you listen to most women, they're the freest of everybody, but you sound like you're the most depressed. You can do whatever the hell you want to. The world is free. You can walk down the street and feel relatively safe. But you got to understand it. You want children You want the children You said two kids? If you want to have an upper class kid, let me give you these numbers. Middle class children to raise a child from zero to adulthood is $284,000 a year per child. So you want half a million or $350,000 worth of kids. That's three kids. The kids you're talking about having a half a million dollars each. So you want a million dollars worth of kids. Two kids is a million dollars. Then you talking about multiple residences. Where's all this money going to come from? That's all I'm ultimately saying for everybody. Where is this money going to come from? Or would it be better to learn how get the [ __ ] along with one another like everybody else has done for the last 10,000 years? Because you can't have it all. I can't have it all. You can't. Nobody can. Unless you are rich. Unless you are going to be making big money, you cannot have living apart together. There's a term. Where is the money going to come from? When you think about relationships, do you think about Do you think about it on those terms? On where the money comes from? Huh? >> It's definitely a part of the It's definitely a part of the topic. You say we think about relationships. >> Yeah, when you think about When you think about relationship with a When you think about, you know, when you're dealing with somebody. Cuz like as a single woman >> married, I think about finances for myself. >> And from what I recall, you you think about what you don't want to be responsible for. And And whether you can articulate the way I do or not, you know how you feel you want a man to come. [music] You know you want him to provide to where you can kind of >> I can kind [music] of have some sort of cushion if I want to have a >> Right. All right. And what I want you ladies to understand is just as nuanced as you all have been, the men [music] you want all of that all want something too. And just like you feel sovereign in your right to think it's okay for you to be able to get what you want, men feel the same way. I'm okay with marriage. Marriage isn't the problem. You guys are all under 30, so you you've grown up in an in an area of immediacy, a lot of options. Uh you grew up in an era where it feels like you have more choice than you really have and more freedom than you really do. There's a lot of structure. And at the end of the day, what you're going to find >> [music] >> is especially for women, you have the way nature works, you have to get the bigger parts of your life >> [music] >> figured out sooner if you want children because life makes choices for women before they make choices for men. You said you didn't feel like you should have to tailor your your needs around the man you need. >> I want there to be mutual ground and good compromise if I'm in a relationship, which I don't want to be. But if I'm in a relationship I do want there to be good compromise. However, I want to fully I want to be able to fully support myself with my goals and what I want to do with my career to where I'm in the position to where I don't need another person. >> Okay. >> It would be nice. Having that other person is more like a luxury, like a good thing, like, you know, having ice cream after you just ate dinner. That's what I want it to be like, not a not necessarily to need somebody. >> Okay. So what do you what do you My bias is 50. What do you what what is your profession? I didn't ask it earlier. >> Um I want to be a producer for anime and cartoons. >> Like One Punch >> Dragon Ball Z and One Punch. Yeah, I want to produce my own books and my own anime, but I illustrate, so I want >> Okay. >> animation >> Yeah. At the height of your career, what do you anticipate you'll be earning annually? >> The height of my career what I can do? >> What do you anticipate? Not not probability, not probably not probability, not not not possibility, probability. [music] >> Okay, I don't know about annually, but I know what I can say. I know that I anticipate my net worth to be at least at least $80 million. >> $80 million? >> Yeah. My favorite um >> $80 million? >> My favorite artist that for manga and anime, Rumiko Takahashi, she's worth $80 million, and that's my goal. >> Okay. $80 million? >> That's what I strive for. >> [music] >> Uh-huh. And what is the average? >> The average um like annual? >> Uh-huh. >> $30 million a more. >> No, no, the a- the average annual salary? >> No, net worth. That's what I said, like I don't know about annual. >> Okay. Well, the thing is you have before you get in a Okay. We always when we can look at we can look at the outliers. But, what is your what would your proper title be in your job? What What would be your profession? >> Well, I don't >> Would you be Would you >> I don't know what it's called, but manga artist. >> Manga what? >> Manga artist. That's what it's called. It's like someone who makes manga comic books and anime. It's called manga artist in the Japanese I don't know. Anime producer. >> Manga anime? But, that's a job title, anime producer. >> Yeah. >> All right. So, we can always point to Jeff Bezos and everybody else like that. Top earn The 70 The average is 58,987. [music] It's the average for a manga for anime producer salary. It's the average. The The 75th percentile is 61,000. The lower 25% is 36,000. Top earners [music] and talking about the top 10% is 100,000. Big gap from 80 million net. That's just [music] that's ridiculously infinitesimally small. It happens, but just like Jeff Bezos, Mark Zuckerberg, and all these people, what is the what is the average? Because that's the only thing you can really plan on. Because I don't want to get into your personal personal, but is anybody here earning over six figures annually? Okay. So, the likelihood of going from here to high eight figures is negligible. It's possible, but it's just possible but it's also possible to get rich by hitting the lottery and Powerball. And for you in your particular case, not wanting to need anybody, it's going to become [music] a matter of ultimate necessity. You have to live off of what you earn. What's the likelihood of you And if Here's the thing. Are you Are you planning your life and living your life in a way to where you're going to be able to live comfortably off of your uh off of your earnings that you're actually making, not anticipated. >> I'm not [music] like I don't want a lot of money. Like literally No. I would like a small little house with my cat. I would like my cat. Small little house with my cat. I don't care if I have a million dollars. I don't need a big mansion. What's all that room and space to be for me [music] to run like >> But remember what I said, if you were making $50,000, you're almost perfect for what I said. 50 55 50,000 58,000. Uh you would still be short. You'd still have almost a half a million dollars short 7 $600,000 shortfall. So on one hand, you're saying I don't need all this money, then you talk about 80 million. And see, and here's the difference between how men and women think. We know we got to be a hell of a lot more practical about what it is because no one comes We can't marry somebody who's going to pay our bills, not not the average rank and file men. There's if we miss or we make a misstep, the streets kind of out there waiting for us. So we understand that homelessness is a hell of a lot closer to most men than the street the men tend to women. And my thing is with today [music] with women is many women today want to be free. Freedom comes at a cost. Can you pay that cost? What you're talking about doing puts you right in line with the average middle class American. Being able to live roughly paycheck to paycheck. No real [music] savings. Having little to no cushion. But you only can but you can only invest what you earn. [music] See, often times when I talk to people especially when I talk to women, I hear how they anticipate getting money in some sort of entrepreneurialism through real estate or stocks or crypto. And that's just more Jack and the Beanstalk. [music] It requires input currency. You cannot in you can't make money from investments without having the the money to put into it. Where's the money going to come from?