Video summary
The video argues that dating apps could resolve 99% of user frustrations by implementing strict rules that enforce honesty among both companies and users. The primary proposal is to make it mandatory for anyone wishing to send or receive messages to upload a recent, full-body photo taken within the last 30 to 90 days. These images must clearly show the person's face with their teeth visible in good lighting, eliminating deceptive angles, distant shots, or closed-mouth portraits that often lead to disappointment during real-life meetings. The speaker insists that without these specific visual standards, users should be barred from active participation on the platforms to ensure authenticity and prevent misleading profiles.
Beyond photo requirements, the transcript advocates for an honest ranking system based on verified data points such as income, height, weight, and attractiveness. For income verification, the suggestion involves using secure tax return documents through a platform that protects user privacy, while height and weight would need to be confirmed via medical records or simple physical measurements like a tape measure. Although admitting that verifying physical attributes might upset some users, the speaker maintains that these metrics must be legitimate to avoid surprises. The goal is to create a tiered system where individuals are genuinely ranked based on these proven facts rather than self-reported numbers.
The most complex aspect of this proposed system is the measurement of attractiveness, which the speaker suggests could be handled through crowd-sourced applications similar to "hot or not" games. By uploading photos for community evaluation, users would receive a rough estimate score that accounts for lighting and photo quality, providing a more objective baseline than subjective self-assessment. This data would then feed into a smarter algorithm that regulates who can contact whom based on percentile rankings rather than allowing unrestricted messaging. For instance, someone in the bottom 90% of attractiveness or income would not be permitted to message those in the top 10%, ensuring that interactions are balanced and that every user has something valuable to offer in at least one category.
Ultimately, the conclusion drawn is that a scaled matching system based on verified percentiles would prevent the current dynamic where only the wealthy or the most attractive people dominate the conversation. Instead of segregating users into separate pools of rich or hot individuals, this approach would allow people to match with others who are at or around their own level in either income or attractiveness. By enforcing these simple but rigorous rules, dating apps could foster a more equitable environment where connections are formed based on genuine compatibility rather than deception or algorithmic bias that favors only the elite few.
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99% of dating app frustrations would be
completely resolved if the companies had
to follow just a few simple rules that
would force them and the people using
them to be honest. One, in order to
write messages, respond to messages, be
an active person on the apps, you should
have to have a photo within the last 90
days, preferably the last 30 days, full
body with your teeth. So, no hiding
behind like deceptive angles, no, you
know, pictures from far away, no just
only closed mouth and then you meet the
person and you're like, "Okay, they seem
great in every way and then they open
their mouth and you just go,
not again." So, yeah, like full body,
full body, side, front, back, what the
heckever, I don't care. Full body and
showing a smile with all of your teeth
in good lighting. Okay, that should be
completely mandatory. Otherwise, you
should not be able to be on the apps. My
hot take. I don't care. Okay, that's the
first thing. The second thing, and this
is the one that I'm probably going to
get the most hate for. The second thing
should be an honest ranking system,
which with proof with proof of income,
height, weight, and attractiveness. And
I know those are kind of hard to measure
in some ways, but so for income,
obviously tax returns using some sort of
a I don't know, a platform that will not
sell your information. I don't care what
it may be, but I'm sure there's
something like that that they can come
up with which can just verify your
income. That's one. And then that would
be ranked in like I don't know first,
second, third, fourth, fifth or
whatever. I don't know what the limits
are going to be. Like 250k a year plus
is going to be one. 100 to 250 is two.
Like whatever. I don't know what it may
be. percentiles. Figure it out. So,
that's one like genuinely ranked like an
actual rating by income. I don't care if
it's going to be like tiered like 1 2 3
4 ABC D. I don't care if it's going to
be like uh like colorcoded. I don't
care. It has to be genuine. You should
have to prove your income. Okay, that's
probably important. Probably more
important for women, but that's
important. Two, height. Okay, verified
with doctor's records. Verified with
just literally like holding up a tape
measure. I don't know. Somehow verify
height. Weight. This is the one that
people are probably going to get pissed
off about. And I don't care. Weight
should have to be obvious. Legit height.
Legit weight. Okay. So there's no
surprises. And I already said, you know,
full body picture, teeth, everything.
Okay. So that's another thing. Income,
we talked about uh height, weight, we
talked about. What was the other thing I
was think? Oh yeah, probably the most
complicated one. Attractiveness. Now,
obviously that's subjective, but there
should be an incorporation of some sort
of an app or a program like uh like hot
or not or photoer where you can like
upload photos and you kind of
crowdsource them and then people decide,
you know, they give you a ranking of
like whatever it may be 0 to 10. Uh and
I mean a lot of that is based on
lighting and the quality of the photo.
It's not just straight up like what your
face looks like, but it's some sort of a
rough estimate. And so there should be
and that'll make the algorithm smarter
because then if you're not in the like
let's say top 10% of income, you should
not be reaching out to people in the top
10 who are not in the top 10% of income
and or in the top 10% of attractiveness
and vice versa. If you're not like top
10%, top 15%, 20% attractive, you
probably should not be reaching out to
top 10% income or top 10%
attractiveness. And like it would be
like that on a like scaled basis. If
you're like 60th percentile in one or
the other, then you can reach out to
people up to let's say like the 75th
percentile of one or the other. So it's
not just one like just only the hot
people with just the hot people or just
the rich people with the rich people,
but like either one or the other. At
least you have like something to offer
in one or the other category. And then
you can then match with people in those
categories at or around your level.