Video summary
The video centers on an analysis of Dejon Love's physical appearance and the psychological impact it has had on his life, framing his criminal behavior as a direct result of severe societal rejection due to his unique features. The speaker meticulously examines a photograph of Dejon, pointing out specific traits such as a disproportionately large head relative to his body, protruding ears, small eyes, and a prominent forehead that resembles a "Jack and the Beanstalk" structure. The narrator argues that these distinctive characteristics caused Dejon to be bullied throughout his childhood, preventing him from playing sports or fitting in with peers, which fostered deep-seated insecurity and a desire for attention. Consequently, Dejon turned to scams and manipulation as a way to feel significant, believing that women would only look at him if he could offer them financial security rather than genuine connection.
A key argument presented is the concept of "looks compatibility," suggesting that individuals with unique or non-standard physical features often face harsher judgment from their own race because those communities are familiar with standard feature sets and thus perceive deviations as negative. However, the speaker posits that these same unique traits can be highly attractive to people outside their own demographic who lack a reference database for such features. The transcript highlights Dejon's relationship with a white woman as an example of this dynamic; she found him appealing despite his unconventional look because it was different from what she was accustomed to seeing in her own community. The narrator suggests that wealthy individuals often marry partners with unique features, not out of malice, but because their wealth allows them to overlook societal biases and appreciate the "above average" or distinct qualities that others might reject, effectively treating the partner like a prize.
The conclusion of the video offers a mix of harsh realism and empathetic advice, urging viewers to understand how their appearance influences how they are treated by society without equating uniqueness with ugliness. The speaker acknowledges that while Dejon's path led to crime and victimization, he could have easily become something positive, such as a charismatic car salesman at a luxury dealership, if given the chance to leverage his height and unique charisma in a legitimate profession. Ultimately, the message is one of accountability mixed with compassion: individuals must learn to read social dynamics and understand that their treatment by others is often a reflection of societal programming rather than their inherent worth. The speaker encourages men to embrace their purpose, seek positive environments, and recognize that while some may become empaths due to past mistreatment, others unfortunately become narcissists, but there is always potential for redemption and a new mindset once the cycle of insecurity is broken.
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Ladies and gentlemen, we still on the
Dejon Love
case and reason being is because that's
very real and relevant right now, but
also because there's a lot of
Dejon loves that's walking around and it
just just like with anything, not
everything is going to make national
news. We already know that. And you got
to realize
for one, you need to get Destiny in the
Apple App Store because Dejon Love was
on Bumble. See what I tried to tell you?
He ain't on Destiny. So, you need to get
Destiny
in the App Store. D A T E S T I N Y.
And so, you can stop being I N D E P N D
E N T. You know what I mean? So, get
Destiny because
he was on Bumble. It's a few women that
came out and he was on Bumble.
So, think about that.
Think about that and go hop on on there.
Now, I'mma pull up his head shot because
I noticed
in the head shot.
Let me see here.
See if we can find
And I want you to and we're going to do
a little bit of
do a little bit of I'm going just see if
I could download the picture.
Save the image.
Dejan
love.
See if this will let me
bring up a file.
image file.
They add it.
Let's see. Oh, you know what? Wrong kind
of
wrong kind of
wrong file.
I'll give him one second. So, they
released this head shot
and let me see.
convert image
to a JPEG.
All righty, there we go.
We got us a JPEG.
All righty. So now this right here
is what caused
this here fiasco.
Y'all forgiving
this what caused the fiasco right here.
So, if you notice,
if you notice the headbutt ability
right there, you can't see my cursor,
but you'll notice the headbutt ability
on them.
And look, look at these here ears.
I'm going just pull up the thing on
here.
Let me get on this here.
And just look at this here. Now
see the head butt ability
right there and this hair that's why he
his chin hair like that so he mixed with
something cuz this ain't just 100%
African because this sometimes here and
yeah yeah you got some Africans in
certain places that they have like that
but a lot of times it's a a mix in
Could be some little Asia, a little
Europe in there. Now you got, you know,
sometimes Ethiopians or Aritria,
different places like that, but it's
still a different type of
genetic mix in there to where still
could all be African,
but ain't no telling. And so you can
imagine
this head on a 12year-old boy cuz a lot
of times your head stay the same size.
You can imagine
this right here. This head.
And then look at these ears.
This now y'all see why this man became a
terror on y'all.
This why he did y'all like that. And now
it make a lot more sense
that why he just was running off the
prices of everything because the amount
of insecurity.
This man was never even looked at by
women his whole life. He never was
looked at.
Y'all ain't even see him.
Y'all Y'all ain't even look nowhere near
at him.
You ain't look at nothing about him.
And so,
and then you see how he got a little bit
of y'all forgive me. They got
advertisement popping up.
little raggedish uh raggedish site.
And so
trying to see if I could zoom in.
F4 head is like, "Boy, we don't need no
zoom." Now you trying to zoom.
You can't see this thing.
And see how he got a little fold over on
his eyes. Then see how you know his eyes
is is very small for the for the size of
his head. His eyes is very small. So
that's going to induce more insecurity.
And I'm not saying anything is wrong
with any of this y'all. I'm just
describing it. So if this is your twin,
I'm not picking at you. I'm just
describing it from a male perspective
about a man. So if you look just like
this,
I'm not picking on you. So please
understand that your mama love you. God
love you. I love you. We brothers and
sisters in Christ.
And then then
so his mustache at one point on one of
the video looked glued on and he had it
really long to where it was like hanging
off almost like the kind that they twist
at the end. And then he have this right
here which we now see is not glued on
but it almost look glued on. And so now
that headband makes sense.
I would have to I have the team headband
on all the time as well
cuz when you have and and the hairline
the hairline want to be about right here
with with this size forehead. The
hairline wants to be about right here.
And it and this look like a little scar.
It look like he had butted something
before.
And then
So, you see what I mean? This is why,
and this is what I've been trying to
tell y'all all along. This what I've
been telling y'all all along
is
this. That's what I've been telling you.
That's what I've been telling you.
These men. Now, now, who do this look
like? Y'all don't even know the show.
Who do this look like?
a worser version of the boy from the
podcast Fresh and Fit
where they have the boy that's this
color and then they have a darkkinned
boy. He look like the the lighter
skinned one and you hear how he be
talking on that show.
Ain't I don't know where it's at. I
don't know if they got demonetized or
whatever. Ain't heard it seen in a long
time. I don't know if they broke up or
what, but he used to be talking so
reckless
and he looked like this. That's why they
talk like that. That's what I try to
tell you. You are going to hate women
when you look like this. When you have
that head butt ability
and they c well I'm call it a five head.
This right here will be a six or a seven
head because he also had that he's 6'5.
So this so this head is larger than what
the picture is giving.
This head is extremely large cuz he's
6'5.
So that's practically Jack and the bean
stalk head.
So
it also is filled with a brain
and now it makes sense how he could lie
so good so fast.
I seen somebody say that man was in flow
state with the lies. I've never seen
anything like that. And y'all and I know
y'all tired of hearing about it. You
don't want to hear about it. But I am
just perplexed because I'm I'm I'm a
talker. You hear I be talking and I
can't do what he did. My goodness. It it
is just utterly amazing
just the amount of lies that the man
would tell and just how swift he was
with it. And I'm going tell you the man
is not done.
You do not do this at 35 years old and
be done. And what is this recetivism
rate? 85%.
He's coming out and he is coming up with
another scam because look, everybody
don't know him. Everybody don't know
him. So, he's going to find a way to
find a sector of women who have no clue
what he look like. And I'm going to tell
you what he going to do. He going to get
a Bob Marley hairstyle when he come out
and he going to grow the beard all the
way out. He basically going to be in a
disguise. He gonna be looking for me
too. He gonna be hot with me, boy. He's
sitting in there holding cell watching
this video now. Dejan Hush, be quiet.
Stay out the comments. And so this right
here, look,
there's a lady. I just watched it.
And so at first I was looking and I'm
like, h, that's interesting.
I put it in my story. I put it in my
story. Let me find it.
Let's see what
thing it is.
Fox 12, Oregon.
So,
it's a lady
that
is on here and and I'm going to tell you
now, they are actually
they're actually looks compatible.
Anderson
real estate developer during the
firsterson
>> I need someone who has been around money
who understands that, you know, these
things aren't luxuries to me. This is
just my normal life. Within 5 minutes, I
decided I wasn't going to see him again.
>> Love was arrested by the
>> So
that's actually his looks compatibility.
is actually his little compatibility and
not saying anything
wrong with her or anything like Yeah,
Y'all forgive my wife car in the shop.
So they write me. So that's the thing
is
my son Fire.
He that lady is his looks compatibility.
So he knew who would possibly give him a
little bit of play. And she say after 5
minutes she knew she was done talking to
him. And and I'm going be honest with
you.
This is the thing and this why I try to
tell y'all like
so
do y'all So when a black man cuz he's a
man of color. When a black man looks
like this,
you're more fiercely judged by people
who look like you. So people who are
black, they know and are familiar with
black people features.
So they're going to judge you a little
harsher.
They're going to judge you a little
harsher
because it's like, "Oh, look at them
ears. Oh, look at that forehead.
Oh,
look at her little soft hair. Oh, look
at look at the little little eyes."
Like, you just getting judged harsher
because they looking at black people all
the time. But when you go to another
race, they don't know all of the
features. They don't know. And there's a
lot of white men that have ears just
like this. And a nose just like that.
Not lips like that. Not white men, but
And that's how the white women want
their lips to look right there. How his
look. So they probably love his lips cuz
they like, "Oh, that's how I'm trying to
get my lips to look." Cuz that's what
they be going to do down there. Spending
$700,000 to get the lips like that. I
don't know why. Don't understand it.
will never. But that's what they be
doing. And
tight forehead full of Botox. His his
forehead ain't got no botox in it, but
look like a Botox forehead. So they
recognize and understand that as well.
And so
his looks compatibility
really is like he would be a king
to
a one of the, you know, 450B
trailer park
white women who drive
the 10year-old caravan.
And it be like little crumbs and stuff
in there. Dirt be all in there. She
might have three, four kids. Like she
pop pee now. She get food now. She get
welfare. She know how to flip the system
now. She got EBT. She got TBE. She got
she she eating crowd le Uncle John
sausage corn on the cob.
for some reason she could give a negro
1,200 done a month easy. She know how to
touch money and she keep her black man.
Ironically, her kids might be all white.
She might have a one or two mixed ones,
but if she don't, she ready for a mixed
one. And those women treat men like this
right here like a king. He knew that he
had to put that headband on. He had
to get the jury and the cause.
But this brother going through a lot.
This brother going through a lot. I'm
starting to more I'm studying the case.
I'm starting to feel bad for him. This
this brother going through a lot.
I'm trying to tell you.
And so that's one of those things.
Yeah, I'll forgive him.
And so one of those things y'all forgive
him. Click that button. Give me one
second here. Got to take this house
call.
Sorry about that there. And so that's
what
I want you to start doing. And this what
I try to tell y'all.
This what I try to tell y'all that you
got to realize is
it's a situation where you got to be
able not only when you reading yourself.
is a part of it when you're reading
yourself but also when you are reading
other people. So
there are the narratives and the things
that's pushed by society.
And when those things are pushed by
society,
you got to realize that
it's a situation of that's what people
are programmed by. People see that over
and over and over again and they think,
"Okay, this is normal."
So whenever people come to me for
coaching and they send me a picture of
themselves and I read them and I tell
them, "This is what your picture says to
me about you." And they be like, "Yep,
exactly. Wow. How can you tell all that
about me by a picture?" and they'll send
me a picture of their boyfriend
or husband or girlfriend and I read it
and I tell them like he's like this, he
like this, he like this, he like this.
Like, wow, you describe him to a tea.
The reason how I'm able to do that is
because I study how the world treats you
based on how you look. So,
you're going to be a minister to society
when you look how he look. It's not it's
not to say that the man is ugly. It's
just that
he
have so we think about movies, we think
about representations. And y'all forgive
me now. When somebody is a criminal or
somebody is a fraud or somebody is
whatever. So people got mad at me for
describing the brother G. Craig Lewis
and they took offense cuz I said he
looked like a Down Syndrome mutant Ninja
T uh mutant Ninja Turtle, but it was
like I was using Down Syndrome, not in a
derogatory way. I was just literally
saying like missing a chromosome mutant
Ninja Turtle. I wasn't trying to be
funny or be rude or nothing like that. I
was just saying he look like mutant
Ninja Turtle missing a chromosome.
But the thing about it is, I'm not going
to mince my words when I'm talking about
somebody who is up preaching and
practically raping women and like
getting women pregnant and marrying them
off and making them have I'm not going
to mince my words and try to be
politically correct when I'm talking
about somebody who living a fraud
lifestyle. So, same thing like with this
brother here. I ain't gonna try to beat
around the bush and not make my
comparisons when he's a criminal and he
was trying to groom a 17y old. So y'all
have to get out your feelings on that
part now. But when you look at him and
you think about all the movies you done
watch, what do we look like? Idris Ela
or one of them things off Men in Black.
Boom.
You like, man, he look like a human
version of that alien off men and black.
So now
if that's how you look and you walking
around, people looking at you strange.
People treating you wrong.
This boy used to get bullied growing up.
That's why he never played sports.
That's why he never played football
because it was like it's a different
type of dude that was playing football.
And so that's one of those things to
where
you got to be able to look at somebody
and you just and this what and this how
you're going to read them and this is
how a lot of times people going to treat
you. Now, some people will surprise you
and they will be an exception to the
rule. And when I grew up, I had a real
big head
to where it didn't bother me though. For
some reason, it didn't bother because
nobody picked on my head except for my
cousin. Had one cousin
and he was like, "Cub, boy, you look
down, you going to fall over. Cuz you
can't look down on the hill, boy. You
going to fall over and roll down the
hill."
Hey, cuz
you don't have dreams, boy. You have
movies.
And we'll be walking down the hallway at
school and I Hey, C. I look over there.
He'll duck. He'll duck real quick.
Dang, C, you got to turn a you got to
put a turn signal on before you turn
that thing. And I remember I was seven
years old went to play football
and and what you got to realize I'm hard
on myself too. A lot of people be
thinking I'm mean and rude. No, I'm just
real. I just explain I just express
stuff the way it's expressed. I I went
into the facility to play football at 7
years old. We in a little box building,
little little building about the size of
the room I'm in. And they had helmets
lined up around the whole room. They had
me try on every large helmet they had.
Now, one arm fit because I had a hook
head, what they call a watermelon head
or a football head. And so like, "Hey,
Arnold." And so they I had that hook. So
when that helmet hooked that hook, the
helmet couldn't come all the way down.
The face mask couldn't come all the way
down. So the face mask stopped right
here. Y'all notice when he put that
helmet on, his face mask was right here,
too, cuz that forehead. That's why you
couldn't play no football cuz that
forehead and that cone it don't let that
helmet cuz your chin too long, your head
too high, that football helmet don't
fit. So they came to my mom, they came
to my daddy and was like, "Well, sir,
we're going to have to special order
your son a helmet from Texas. We live in
Florida. We're gonna have to special
order a helmet from Texas because that's
the other football state and that's
where the helmets are made. And we have
to get a ex exceptionally large helmet
to fit his head.
And I was out there look like a
astronaut. You know that thing the
astronaut have on? I was out there like
a astronaut. All head built like a
lollipop. But I
very fast
ran a bunch of touchdowns
and then
I had colored eyes which nobody else had
colored eyes. in our area. So it made me
look different. So it was like, "Oh,
that's unique about you." So we'll take
it easy on their head. So I didn't get
picked on a bullet. But then I also my
daddy his all his family live there. And
my cousin used to pick on me. He'll
fight anybody but me. Anybody want to
fight me, he step up. I'm 5'10, he 5'7
as adult. So back then he still was
shorter than me. Anybody wanted to fight
me, he said, "You want to fight my cous,
you have to fight me first." So I So I
never took it personal when he would
clown me cuz I knew it was all love. And
I like I tell my sons too, when somebody
picking on you in your face, that mean
cuz you got notches to be knocked down.
They feel like you got notches to be
knocked down. When some when it's
somebody who know you and like you for
real. If it's a hater or a bully, that's
different. So y'all could imagine what
this man went through and everybody who
went to elementary with him, middle
school with him, this is y'all fault.
This man is out here scamming because of
y'all.
That's all it is. Y'all got to forgive
me because my son text and I need to be
attentive cuz my wife at practice I
think so she can't text so I need to
text.
Y'all forgive me. And so this one of the
things and and this another thing too is
like when you get out here and you want
to scam people and steal people money
and lie, you can't be sensitive. You
going to have to get talked about. You
going to have to be an example cuz this
this the only way this this the only way
you get a whooping. You you grown. So
it's like this part of your whooping to
get you whooped into shape to get you
out here. Do the right thing when you
get back out here. But I want y'all to
really understand this and study this
and just be able to see like, okay, so
if you see somebody
like a famous actor or artist or
something that the world is promoting,
that might be an above average look. So
you're not basing them based on that
above average look. You basing them on
the standard look, the the the average
look. And then wherever a person is in
comparison to that average look that's
how you judge looks compatibility. So if
somebody is above average then you know
the world has ate out of their hand and
catered to them. If somebody is average
you know they've had a normal existence
except for
a few here and there. Some people
treated them below average because they
were above average and some people
treated them above average because they
were below average. And then if somebody
is below average and so this this what I
mean by below average is
this what I mean. So
this is a So if you look at my forehead
and you you see my forehead and you see
the size of it and then you look at his
forehead, see how it protrudes out. So
if my forehead is average, now this
wrinkle in my forehead ain't average.
And that's how I used to walk around
like this all the time when I had acne
in middle school. But if my forehead
average and it's no real protrusion and
then he have a protruding forehead, then
his forehead going to be considered
above average. I mean below average. So
here's the thing. Somebody with his
forehead
may treat me with my forehead above
average cuz they like, "Dang, man. Wish
I had your forehead." But then somebody
with a above average forehead who is
smaller than mine. It's all tight. It's
no wrinkle. They might treat my forehead
like it's below average. Like hey boy,
you got that big old boy. You got a
creek running through the middle of your
forehead. Boy, everything all right.
Quiet on the creek ain't you? And so
you're going to have when you average,
you're going to have experiences,
a few experiences where you get treated
above or below based on who you dealing
with, who you dating or who you around
or who you talking to. Then if you are
below average,
everybody is dumping on you. Everybody
looking down on you, everybody
mistreating you, everybody. So you got
to think about it. below average
forehead, below average eye socket,
below average ears.
Then being a brown person, which is a
black person, we also are treated like
secondass citizens already off rip. So
now we treated below average just for
being of color. So now you got four
things
right there. Then he's tall
and he is skinny. He's skinny as an
adult.
So imagine how skinny he looked when he
had that growth spurt as a kid.
So now he got five things
as a kid. No tattoos to help you look
tough, to help you look famous, to help
you look rich. So you tall, you stick
skinny,
huge head comparison to your body,
ears are protruding. You really being
mistreated
and it's not your fault. And it breaks
my heart for him now. I can't feel all
I can't feel like super bad for him, but
I feel bad for him. And and I feel bad
for the victim, too. A lot of people
think we don't feel bad for the victim.
I feel bad for the victim cuz they was
lost, naive, desperate. They were going
through stuff. Feel bad for everybody
involved.
Feel bad. But so this what I try to say
when you look at somebody history and
their biography,
that's when it help you understand the
makeup of who they are. So when we see
this whole face put together,
this is the person in Spider-Man and
Batman and Superman, this the face that
they recruit to be a villain and they'll
put some big old covers on them ears and
they'll put a big old shiny strong
rocket shooting helmet on their head and
then the beard and the lips and the nose
will be what's look regular. And so
that's out the mask and that's where you
get your aura from right there. Nose and
your lips and your beard. But then
they'll they'll give you some armor for
them ears and that forehead and you out
there just
just shooting all kind of rockets at
people. You you want to blow up the
world because you've been getting th in
the head your whole life. You've been th
like this. The kind of ear right there
when we used to play thumps. We used to
play thunks. You used to take that
finger and you used to pull that finger
and pull that finger way behind that
thumb knuckle. You get behind that thumb
knuckle and you get right up on that ear
and you trying to take skin off that
ear. You do you know how what that man
is went through?
That man ills went that's why he talking
y'all ear off because of what his ears
went through. So you have to realize, so
that's how I read people. When I see
people, I look at them. I look at the
media and what they promote, what they
put out there, and I ask myself, is this
is this person below average, average,
or above average? That tells me how they
were treated.
They were treated either below average,
average, or above average. That tells me
how their personality and their attitude
was shaped. Now, I'm going tell you
something now.
Sometimes people who are treated below
average become the best people in the
world because they've been stepped on.
They've been ostepped over. They've been
overlooked. They've been mistreated. So,
they actually become empaths. A lot of
those people become the best coaches,
the best speakers, the best counselors,
best therapists, best pastors, best
whatever because they can feel
everybody's pain because they've been
mistreated their whole life.
And it's two ends of the spectrum. So,
some become empaths
and then some become narcissists.
What y'all favorite word? and they
become a nightmare. They become a menace
to society and they are out for blood.
Like they they Now, what I like about
this guy is that
he wasn't
killing people and eating their heart.
He could have easily been doing that
with the way he had to eat women wide
open. He could have easily been doing
it. He wasn't cutting off limbs. He
wasn't putting nobody in no freezer. He
wasn't to from what we've heard, he
wasn't beating on women. He wasn't
taking it from him. Like, so I like that
about him because he could have been a
lot worse. And I'm just glad that for
him, he just felt broke and
insignificant and he felt like women
were the quickest, safest come up. I'm
glad he found out it crime doesn't pay
and it doesn't work.
I'm glad he found that out. and that he
going to be able to come home and have a
new attitude, have a new mindset.
He definitely need a new mindset and he
going to be able to listen to new
information and just get new information
and then see a new vision for his life
and really get to the place to where
okay, I got to be a better man. I got to
be a real man. I have got to do better
because you got to think about it being
6'5 this man could have been a car
salesman. I actually went up the
Mercedes Ben dealership and we had a car
I had a car show like 68.
That man could have sold a me. Can you
imagine this? This man talk gang selling
you a car
boy. You buying everything, bro. When he
get out they need to hire him at the
Lamborghini dealership. Let him sell to
these rich men. that's coming down there
to get a Lamborghini. Lamb sold
lamb
uh import exotic car dealership need to
get him a job and let him have one of
the cars to drive and just make him sign
a contract that he ain't going to be
scamming no women while he driving the
car and that he not going to be shooting
videos while he driving, sending women a
bunch of bunch of videos. But let him
sell them cars. That man will sell the
mess out of car being 6'5 talk gang like
that. Let him wear a hat at to the job
and have his tattoos out, have his polo
and let them tell the unsuspecting
people who never heard of his story that
he's a former NFL player. He basically
is a former NFL player. We'll go with it
to get off the lambs. We will go with
it. Go ahead, Dejon. Let him change his
name to something else. and let the man
sell. So ladies,
which one of y'all, how many of y'all
think that he is extremely handsome?
Because if you think he's extremely
handsome, that means this your looks
compatibility. But I'm going tell y'all,
I'm descriptive and I'm describing him,
not to pick on him, not to beat up on
him. So I ain't asking y'all to beat up
on the man or to pick on the man or
nothing like that in the comments. I'm
just saying to
just describing to you the looks
compatibility. Now, so listen, when you
have very unique features, understand
unique does not mean ugly. They both
start with a U, but they different
words.
When you have very unique features,
understand
that
what you got to realize
is understand
that
y'all. I were up past midnight on Tik
Tok live. I fell asleep while I'm
talking.
Told y'all too old for that Tik Tok.
And I was about to say something about
unique feature
and fell asleep.
Oh,
oh, I got it. I remember. When you have
unique features, you have to remember
that your race is always going to judge
you far more harsh because they have the
database of all of the features of
y'all's race.
So that's why you see a lot of people
who look unique
date outside of their race because the
other race doesn't have the familiarity
and the references
of all of the features. So, for example,
if a white woman have a a nose that's
like this here,
if she go to the white man, he might be
like, "Wow, okay. Nose is a little
larger than I'm used to." But then if
she goes to a blight man, he might be
like, "This interesting." Got to know.
It's like it's it's almost like we have
wide nose, they have long nose. So it
just instead of her nose going this way,
her nose go this way. Okay.
And he just looking at like, oh yeah,
that's going to hinder us on our tongue
kissing. But other than that, and they
going to realize, oh, that's why they
turn the head to the side. And she could
go or she might go to a Indian man or to
a Hispanic man and they appreciate that.
No. She go the white man, he judging
her. He trying to throw hints like,
"Have you ever considered a nose job?"
Not saying anything, but I know some
women don't like having their dad's
nose. And I just wondering like if you
ever thought about a nose job. I love
your nose now. It's just like that's
cute. Little button nose, but I'm just
curious. And the white man gonna go
there and like, "Oh my god."
And so that's why you got to realize
that's why a lot of time when you see
interracial couples
when they're rich they have an above
average look or whatever it may be.
When they're
middle lower middle class or lower class
or sometimes even middle class you will
notice something unique about them. The
guy, the black guy may look very
studious,
socially antisocial, socially awkward.
The white woman may have a different
forehead or she may have a really like
rotoned
thick booty. And white guys do not like
that for the most part. Like you'll
notice a feature that you're like, "Oh,
that's different."
And that's unique
cuz ain't nothing wrong with the man
ears. It's just it's a unique set of
ears with the way he wears haircut.
Maybe if he had a little thing
or whatever then it'll be a little
different.
And so that's what you got to realize
and understand y'all is going to be you
got to learn how to read people. got to
learn how to be able to see and just be
able to tell like, okay, where is this
person on the look scale in the looks
compatibility and understand that and we
all hide and and whatn not, you know, if
I if I go on out here and just start
wearing a receding or thinning hairline,
gonna give me a whole different look,
you know, gonna give me a different
look. and or if I went ball and walk
around with a ball head, that's a
different look. Don't necessarily mean
it'll look bad. It just will be
different. It'll be unique. So now it's
like
some people absolutely hate bald head.
Some people love bald head. So some
people going to treat you below average,
some people going to treat you average,
some people going to treat you above
average. And so those experiences shape
us.
It shapes us. I had a It was a girl who
looked like Serena Williams I grew up
with. And ironically, her name was
Rocky. And she was built just like
Serena Williams is now. She was built
like that as a middle schooler. And
every year in middle school, sixth,
seventh, and eighth grade, she used to
come up to me every year, first day of
school, Tony, are you gonna be my
boyfriend this year? She was just
assertive like that. And I'd be like,
yeah, all right. but she was bigger than
me, so I couldn't be her boyfriend. I
just was not comfortable with a woman
who had more
thighs and booty and muscle, arm muscle
than me. I just had I hadn't developed
yet. As I got older, I was really
attracted to her, you know, and I'm
like, man, boy, got that body. that
whole brick house, you know, and but as
a as a young man, I just really But
here's what it was.
She was dark skinned and and we had this
idiot that got blocked the other day
talking about Tanya, you talking about
darkkinned women
have a tough time in society. You're
part of the problem pushing that
narrative. I'm not pushing the
narrative. I didn't create the
narrative. When I don't acknowledge
that, dark-kinned women get mad at me
for trying to make like their life is
peaches and cream and light-kinned women
got it worse. Everybody knows that the
darker you are in our world, the worse
you're treated. That's not rocket
science. I didn't create that. And so,
and that's part of your insecurity
that's even hurting your feelings when
I'm speaking the truth. when I'm
acknowledging
your existence and what you've gone
through and showing empathy for it that
I'm even acknowledging it and you're
getting mad about me speaking the truth
about the existence when everybody knows
that and then at the same time you'll
have white women I mean light-skinned
women say they had it hard because they
were called light bright and they was
picked on for no reason and all the
darker girls wanted to fight them
because they accused them of trying to
take their man, trying to take their
boyfriend, and they didn't even know the
girl boyfriend, but just cuz she was
light-skinned, everybody thought that
she thought she was all that. So, now
they want to ram her head into the to
the lockers. So, everybody have their
own stories of pain.
And so, here it was. She was a darker
skinned woman and as kids that colorism
impacts you in another way and I was a a
little lighter than her and then so I
was a little lighter than her and then
being at by this time maybe one of two
black boys with uh with colored eyes.
She saw that as attractive. She saw that
as this is the opposite of me. his his
complexion, his look is the opposite of
me. And a lot of times we like the
opposite. Opposites attract. A lot of
time we like the opposite because we
don't love ourselves and we don't like
how we look. So somebody who look like
me, the opposite may be a white woman or
a Hispanic woman. And so they'll go and
get a white woman because they're like,
"That's the opposite of me." And they
might not. And then a light-skinned man,
if you notice, a lot of time
light-skinned men want darker skinned
women because that's the opposite of
him. And then brownkinn or darkkinned
men may want a light-skinned or Hispanic
or white woman. So that's these are the
things that
you have to acknowledge. It doesn't mean
that you condoning it. It doesn't mean
that you promoting it. It doesn't mean
that you agree with it. It just means
that you are reading reality. You're
reading the room and you see how people
move on average. There's always
exceptions to the rule. And somebody
always got their panties or they boxes
in a or draws in a wad and be like, "Oh,
well my I have a friend who is dark
skinned and they love dark skinned
people and I have someone who's
light-kinned and they love light-kinned
people." It's like, okay,
congratulations. Here goes a cookie.
Like, it happens. Nobody said it did it.
We talking about the majority.
And so when you look around and you and
you look at as you look at a 100
couples,
if they black,
they a lot of times are not going to be
the same exact complexion.
White people don't have complexions, so
they just all white.
But when you look at black people, we
have we run the gambit of all the
colors. So was it Noah kids or somebody
kids like Ham, Jeff, and Shim. And they
were saying like those three names, one
of them meant red, one meant black, one
meant whatever. I don't know if it was
them or Mach and Abednego them, but so
it's one of those things.
One of those things. So, you got to
realize this and pay attention to this
and understand that this stuff is real.
This stuff is real. It ain't going
nowhere.
You got to learn how to read little
compatibility. And and I'm going tell
you,
you decide who you're compatible with.
Don't I can't decide who you compatible
with. You got to make that assessment.
Sometimes people come to me and be like,
Tony, I want to know, you know, who's my
look's compatibility. And it's like,
listen, I'mma tell you from my
perspective, from my studies, from my
experience, and if I tell you it's the
boy who played Biggest Smalls, and then
now you now you want to swing on me
because you thought you was a little
compatible with Idra Ela or Michael
Eely, and now you like, oh, what?
Biggest small.
Why is that? So, what are you saying
about me? And I'm like, I'm not saying
anything. I'm just saying that he would
be very attracted to you and he would
treat you like a prize. Don't mean you
on the same look scale as him. Don't
mean y'all both the same number on the
scale. It's just a man a lot of time
dates or marries two notches up. If a
man a six, he could get a eight cuz we
provide. If he a could get a 10. If he a
four, he could get a six. So a lot of
times women get offended because who
they are ideally looks compatible with
is a couple notches below them on the
look scale and they want somebody that's
at their level or higher but that's not
how it works because men are the
providers. So your money buys you a
little better looking of a woman. So, if
you notice, you see the 5'6 white guy
with the very hard pot belly and the
really big ears and really interesting
forehead and head, but then he got this
bombshell of a wife, but he's a
multi-millionaire.
The same thing when you look at these
pro aletes. Some of them look like they
just got dropped off of the Santa Ana
slave ship and they woman look like
they've been bathing in juices and
berries for 6 months and then oils and
merkas and frents the other six months.
And it's like, okay, how do this go
together? We got co
such and such. Uh
what's her name? Nefertiti.
And
the women don't that the the Nefertiti
looking woman don't ever go for that
that man, the big John Henry
working on the railroad track man. But
let him get to the NFL. Oh, she right up
on them.
And it's like now why you want a man
look like that in high school? Because
he was it he was there definitely there.
You ain't want but now he's a
multi-millionaire.
All of a sudden he your money man.
And it's like but so that's what you got
to realize. It's caveats and nuances.
It's caveats and nuances. You got to
realize that. But hey, got the coach,
y'all. God bless you. Keep your head up.
Hey, you seeking purpose, get out your
feelings. Get in the purpose pusher
group now. Get on out your feelings. God
bless you. Keep your head up. We'll talk
soon. Link in the description. Oh,
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Especially to every single man. Y'all
tell every single man you know with a
iPhone, get on Destiny. God bless you.
We'll talk soon.