Video summary
Tony Gaskins opens his video by sharing a personal update about being exhausted from traveling for twenty-one hours to be with his son, but he quickly pivots to the main topic sparked by watching boxer Claressa Shields express her deep love for Papoose. He admits that while he does not know much about them personally and has previously avoided discussing alleged shooters due to ongoing legal issues involving Lil Durk, this specific situation caught his attention because of the unique energy Shields radiates regarding her partner. Gaskins observes a level of happiness and elation in how she speaks about him that is rare for women who are faithful to their men, noting that he remains unsure whether it stems from genuine affection or perhaps gaslighting, but regardless of the reason, the positive reinforcement she provides creates an environment where Papoose feels secure.
The core argument Gaskins presents is that every man desires a partner who openly praises and brags about him, especially in a society where many women feel pressured to decenter men and maintain an image of independence even when living off their partners' support. He criticizes the culture where women act like "single bosses" without giving credit to the men providing for them, suggesting this stems from societal shame rather than necessity. To illustrate his point, he contrasts Shields' vocal affection with his own wife's more private nature; while she possesses a vast collection of luxury items and high-end cars that could go viral online, she is not a showy person who seeks public attention. Gaskins argues that regardless of whether one chooses to be quiet or loud like Shields, the act of publicly affirming a faithful husband provides him with necessary accountability and makes him feel valued enough to remain loyal.
Gaskins then delves into the complexities of infidelity, distinguishing between different types of women who cheat and how they handle it after being caught. He notes that while "jump-offs" might engage in casual cheating and tell others about their partners ("kiss and tell"), respected executive or businesswomen often take such affairs to their graves because they are doing so for themselves rather than out of a lack of shame. However, he clarifies that his moral standards regarding these behaviors apply only to those who share his faith; if Papoose were not married or did not believe in the same way Gaskins does, different rules might apply. He emphasizes that even with the risk of exposure by an executive woman, many men would still attempt cheating because they feel no accountability from God for their actions, whereas a man working for the Lord has nothing to gain and everything to lose from such behavior.
In his conclusion, Gaskins encourages couples to embrace mutual affirmation without fear of judgment or embarrassment, stating that when a wife praises her husband publicly, it creates a positive feedback loop where he is motivated not to embarrass her in return. He shares an example of receiving flowers for his wife and putting them on social media, explaining how the feeling of being recognized drives him to continue providing good things like more flowers later on. While acknowledging that expressing love through posts might seem unusual if one's personality isn't naturally interview-friendly, he insists that stopping praise is unnecessary as long as it comes from a faithful heart. The video ends with Gaskins promoting his upcoming Tony Gaskins Academy cohort in Florida, emphasizing that the focus will be on substance and purpose rather than fancy appearances or expensive setups, inviting those willing to make sacrifices for their growth to claim seats before they sell out.
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Hey, hey, Tony Gaskins here, popping in.
And I ain't going to be on here too long
cuz I'm actually sitting in my bed and
I'm tired cuz well, I was on the road 21
hours for my son yesterday.
They don't understand the sacrifices
that we be making.
And
boy, I'm sure enough tired, but I was
was just listening to this thing,
Claressa Shields, the boxer,
and
that poose.
Now, I don't know much about them. I
done did a video talking about them
before.
But, like some of y'all used to ask me,
"Tony, you going to do a video about Lil
Durk and India?" And I said, "Absolutely
not.
I don't do videos about alleged
shooters. Do not Yeah, you going to have
a shooter name come out my mouth." And I
don't know if Lil Durk is a shooter, but
I'm just saying. I ain't going to take
no chances cuz he is on trial right now
for some stuff.
So, I ain't taking no chances. Now, Pat
Pooh, he probably could fight. He
probably got some shooters, too. So,
I don't talk bad about nobody now. I
just comment on the stuff y'all want me
to comment on. But, I'm going to tell
y'all something, a little secret now.
One thing that every man, every faithful
man wants
is the energy that Claressa Shields give
out
about her man. When I tell you
that woman happy about that man,
I ain't never seen that kind of
happiness
and elation about a man, and I don't
understand it.
I don't know if it's just like his talk
game. I don't know if it's his meat
game.
I don't know if she gaslighting her ex.
I don't know
if they just get along like that, but
the energy she give out about that man,
if you know
your man is faithful and a good man,
you need to take lessons from Claressa
Shields. Now, yes, she personally
could be doing too much, too soon, and
praising
a boyfriend, but what I'm saying is what
she doing,
if you got a husband and you done went
through that phone
more times than you can count, and you
done snooped around, and you feel like
he 100% faithful,
oh, I'm telling you, he want that kind
of energy.
He want you bragging about him. He want
you talking about him. I'mma tell you
that now because we living in a we
living in a society to where
women
it's a lot of women online trying to
decenter men
and trying to decenter marriage.
And one thing that bothers me is these
women who live off a man,
but don't give that man no credit.
They be all around the world
and act like they single.
Like they a single boss. You don't never
see that man hand.
You don't never see that man. That man
never get no credit.
And the And it ain't because, oh, she
want to keep him a secret. She don't
want people hollering at her man. She a
escort or a jump-off. No, it be because
women have made women ashamed
of being a woman
that a man is taking complete care of.
If you ain't no boss chick, if you ain't
no boss babe, if you ain't got your own
bag, you worthless.
You less than. You ain't worth nothing.
And that's a shame.
It's despicable. It's disgusting, and it
tears down relationships. So, I'mma tell
you like this right here.
You need to create you a t-shirt that
say,
I'm like Clarissa Shields bought my man
and have some boxing gloves on the back
of it because I'mma tell you, that's the
kind of energy right there.
My wife mess around and take a stupid
pill, Papoose do Clarissa wrong and
y'all might see me with Clarissa.
Hey, that's a joke. Nah, that's a joke.
Hey,
Tony don't say that.
Do not put that in the air.
Hey, I was just Hey, I'm telling you,
listen, might be out there sparring and
man, cuz she listen, it man, listen.
That feel good when you a faithful man
and you know you not embarrassing your
woman.
You know you ain't doing nothing to
embarrass your woman.
Oh, that feel good.
That feel good, though. Now, she My My
wife is different cuz she don't show
nothing much of nothing.
Like, you know how a lot of women they
take pictures with stuff.
I was telling my wife like
if I could show y'all her closet right
now, that that that woman probably got
300 pair of shoes. She literally could
like go viral off doing like shoe of the
day.
And And she got some of the coolest
shoes. Even if she did purse of the day,
she could get through
2 months of luxury purses.
But she just not a showy person. Like
she didn't have a black G, matte black
wagon, she didn't have the the the like
the It's called bronze magno. It's kind
of like a gold like a matte gold G
wagon.
She ain't showed none of them.
Never showed it and just
she just not a showy person.
And it's like sometimes as a man
you be wanting your woman to show off
and brag a little bit and give you that
little clout, but you also got to
appreciate that
she not a showy person.
But I'm going to tell you like this
right here.
What Clarissa doing and how she move
is a dangerous game. It well
it goes both ways. On one way, it kind
of puts Papoose in a prison
to where he can't cheat because her
his woman is so vocal about him and her
love for him
he would ruin his name, ruin his brand.
He would be the most hated person by a
lot of women
if he cheated on her. So, it kind of
puts him in that prison, but then on the
other hand
a lot of people do forgive cheating. A
lot of people are like, "Hey
a lot of people into the non-monogamy. A
lot of women justify cheating."
And so, if he does cheat, men ain't
going to care.
I'm going to be honest with you, women
ain't going to care either. Not today.
Back in the day, women probably would
care, but today they'll be like,
"Uh-huh, that's what you get running
your mouth, doing all that talking about
your man, your man, your man."
And you with a married man. And women
get mad about that. And so, somebody was
telling me, "Oh, Tony, you shouldn't be
praising
them cuz she with a married man." Like,
I don't know the man's marriage status.
And it's like, "Okay, if he married, all
right. They not Christian."
It's so it's like, when you not walking
the life that I walk in, live
you not professing the blood of Jesus
Christ, then
my rules don't apply to these people.
And that's what y'all got to realize.
Like, I'm not going to apply my rules
and my standards and my character to
people who don't believe the way that I
believe. So, it ain't that I'm praising
them. I'm just saying, they playing a
whole 'nother game by a whole 'nother
set of rules.
And that just is what it is. So,
considering all things and let's say
that
that wasn't the case, that she's not
with a married man,
the way she moving by her man,
that'll make a good man feel good.
That'll make a faithful man feel good.
But I'mma tell y'all something about
cheating, now.
Black women don't kiss and tell.
The only
women who kiss and tell be the
jump-offs.
And that be the craziest thing. It's
like, boy, if you going to cheat, why
you going to cheat with a jump-off?
But let me But let me help you
understand something. There's a lot of
men out here cheating,
but that executive
woman, that woman who work at Google,
she work,
she's a executive, she's a business
owner,
she's like respected in the community,
she's seen as classy, that woman will
never tell.
Like,
those type of women, they'll take that
to their grave
because they doing it for themselves.
And see, me as a man knowing that,
I could take advantage of that and go
out here and try to pull
what some of these men pull. But see,
for me, because I work for the Lord,
I wouldn't get away with it.
These other men
who the Lord is not has not called and
he's not using,
then he has no reason or need
for accountability for them.
Cuz they already work for the devil, so
God don't care about exposing them
cuz they're not doing the work that's
worth anything.
So, they cheating is inconsequential.
Like, it's insignificant. But if I was
to go and try to cheat with an executive
woman,
try to cheat with a business woman, oh,
she'll fall in love and be like, "Uh-uh,
got to you got to leave your wife."
And then she'll come on out. So, me
understanding humans,
me understanding that much about a
woman,
that right there let me know that even
if I wanted to cheat, I don't want to
cheat now. Even if I want to,
I couldn't do it. I wouldn't be able to
get away with it.
I wouldn't be able to get away with it.
Wouldn't want to do it. Wouldn't want to
take that chance.
And so, don't try to tell y'all it But,
if you got a good man and it's part of
your personality,
of course you're not going to be doing
interviews and all of that.
But, don't be afraid to post a picture
with your man and express your love.
Like I tell y'all all the time,
don't praise boyfriends.
Stop praising boyfriends.
But, praise your husband.
Praise your husband.
Cuz I'mma tell you something, too.
When you praise your husband,
he also
if he's a good guy,
he don't want to embarrass you.
Cuz he know
your mama saw that Facebook post or your
daddy or his mama or his daddy.
So, you also that gives him some
accountability. He like, "Man, she
praising me. She talking about me. She
She giving me my flowers. I'm giving her
real flowers."
She giving me my flowers.
By praising me, thanking me, shouting me
out,
telling the world about me and how much
she love me.
And so, that makes him want to be
faithful.
Especially now if he's out here and he
provided like last week my wife, she
took
and I got her some flowers. Flowers was,
you know, $200, maybe a little over 200.
She put them in her story.
You put them in her story because it was
so beautiful. Sent her flowers.
Put them in her story. Thanks,
@TonyGaskins. I add them to my story.
But, guess what?
You know, that feel good. So, it's like,
okay, I'm going to get some more flower.
Now, she ain't going to do it every
time, but it still feel good.
So, I want y'all to understand that. As
a man,
we we need praise.
We need affirmation. We need those
things. Like, it means a lot to us
to be recognized for our work. And it
goes both ways. That's That's without
saying, but I'm talking
to women about women. We understand it
goes both ways. And if it goes both
ways, express that to your man, too.
Express that to him. That That you like
when he showcase you. When he post a
picture of y'all. When he let the world
know. When he not ashamed to let the
world know
about his love for you. Now, y'all got
to forgive me. I'm tired now. I'm saying
I'm tired.
And stay tuned.
Next week, Lord willing, I'll be
announcing
amazing new
release I'm working on. Amazing new
opportunity that I'm working on. So,
stay tuned. I'll be releasing it
hopefully by next
Friday.
So, keep your head up. Keep going.
God bless you.
And also, November
28th.
November 28th.
Claim your seat
on
Oh, what's going on?
Claim your seat
on
Tony Gaskins Academy .com.
Claim your seat.
And so, cuz we going to be
jumping on off on that right there.
Um, I think I seen a ticket sale today.
So, we if I'm counting correctly, we got
27 tickets left. Now, I may be I'm not
sure if there's more room in there. I
may be able to add
a few seats. I'm not sure. I got to
check with them, but this one is just
intended this first cohort
is intended
to be
50 students.
And I don't intend to give free tickets,
either, just because
you know, free shifts the room.
And, you know, no disrespect or anything
like that, but you just value it
differently when you had to sacrifice to
get there.
And I just don't want to create a
imbalanced room of people who sacrificed
and found a way and made it happen,
caught a flight, booked a hotel, got a
rental car or Uber,
and then
you
all to get there and realize, oh, it's a
bunch of empty people in here who didn't
make that sacrifice. So, I'mma keep the
sanctity
of these rooms.
And when this one sells out, I'll go
ahead and announce the next one. It
might be in December. Stay tuned.
I may do Atlanta.
And then, eventually, I'll move around
to different co-working spaces and
places like that. It ain't about being
in all fancy. I see that's a mistake
that a lot of people make. They spend so
much money on the look
and then they lack the substance. For
us, we're going to be in a nice space.
We're going to be in a safe space.
You're going to be fed. But don't come
in there expecting a million banners and
all of that that right there. It ain't
that ain't what I'm about. I ain't about
all the look. I'm about the substance. I
want you to walk up out of there
with a sense of purpose. Like you're
ready to conquer the world, live your
purpose.
So grab your seat, especially if you're
in Florida cuz it's going to be the
cheapest for you being that it's in
Florida and I might keep it in Florida
for
a few of them. So prepare yourself, stay
tuned just in case I do that.
But God bless you, keep your head up and
we'll talk soon.