Christian Marriage & Family | Lecture 5 : BC202-CM&F-20260826

All right, let's start um second lecture. There's a question on the chat. Uh if two believers have a court marriage but do not have a church wedding. Okay. Uh is their marriage still biblically valid? Okay. So the answer is yes because um they are legally married. That means you know when you when when they go to the court and I you know I in in different places the details may vary but basically uh in a court wedding uh they will they will sign the documents that they are married there'll be witnesses who sign it and in before a judge or you know the authorized person the registar of the marriage uh they will say that they are taking the other person for to be their spouse. So, and it's it it you know the details will vary from place to place but generally they are signing a a legal document and they are making a commitment before an appointed person appointed by the government uh that they are being married to the other person. So although it's the setting is not um a church they are making a commitment which is legally binding and so um therefore we say like look it it it is it is a marriage and we have to honor that. >> Okay. Uh that's uh that's that's important. So now you just look at it the other way which is um if somebody if a couple they only do a church wedding example they they do a church wedding and they don't register their marriage legally then uh legally the the church wedding is not recognized. I mean at least I'm think in in in in our Indian context uh even if they have a wedding ceremony or if they don't sign the the documents they don't sign the documents uh the legal documents then that ceremony itself is legally doesn't constitute a wedding uh that they are married. The government has no record that they are married. So you know for all legal purposes there is no document that says they legally married. So the ceremony itself the church ceremony itself doesn't get them legally married. They have to actually sign those documents for to be to be legally recognized as married married couple. Right? So you look at it from the other perspective where from a legal standpoint what really holds is the documents that they sign understood right I'm not confusing you right that means just they go go to the altar and say I love you you love me finish it is not a government will not recognize they have to go in they have to sign the paper only then legally they are married So, so both so the full uh I think what's really important is that legal document uh for to be recognized as married couple. Okay, questions from here. All right, let's move forward. We'll keep some more time uh afterwards for questions. Okay. So, we're just talking about, you know, how to prepare uh for marriage and uh let's go back to the PDF. So, what are some things uh that we want to uh you in terms of preparing for marriage, we said relationship skills and in relationships, relationship skills very important is communication, right? how you communicate uh with each other. That's very important. Number two, understanding roles in marriage. We will we will talk about that separately. But the husband has to recognize that he is supposed to be the leader in the marriage. He's responsible. God, we're talking about Bible biblically. God has appointed the husband to be the head to be the leader to be the in charge of the house. Right? So the husband must take leadership in the house for his family. Problems happen in the marriage when the husband doesn't take leadership. You know because now wife has to fill in that responsibility. wife has to be like the leader. She has to so many things. She has to think about you know the family and so on. It's very very difficult. So if the husband fails to take leadership in the family, the burden comes on the wife. It's very difficult. You know uh the wife has to be like father and mother kind of thing. It is very very difficult. So husband must take leadership in the house. They must know the roles and be it's not like being the boss but being a servant leader in the house. And um at the same time the the home must be like a nice team you know where husband and wife like we already said. Uh yeah, we understand our responsibilities as uh husband, father, wife, mother. We understand the roles, our god-given roles. And yet we should function as a good team. Uh just just just flowing in and out of our what we are supposed to call do. Uh so that that is something we have to develop. Uh number three when we talk about you know relationships uh uh skills we talk about you know um maintaining healthy boundaries with extended family right with in-laws because when you get married the wife will have her family extended family husband will have his extended family these two people are it. But now you need to know how to have good relationships with all the other people in the family. Have good relationships without allowing them to interfere. You want to maintain healthy relationships, right? So that is also important. And usually I we tell the couple you know before you get married you discuss how you will manage relationship especially with your immediate family. uh be always encouraged saying after you get married both of you you have your own place and you be equal like spend equal time with both sides of the family right just treat both sides equal keep healthy relationship with both sides right it shouldn't be uh sometimes I've seen I thing I've mentioned last time but before marriage husband will say yeah we will take our own place we'll have all this all this all this after marriage he'll say no see there is one extra room in my father's house we'll go and stay there you think wife will be happy she won't because before marriage he said we will have our own place we'll stay by ourselves etc etc after marriage he's taking her to the his house his parents 's house. Now so many things happen. One, she doesn't get the opportunity to set up her own house, her own place. Second, now she's always living with his parents, you know. So that again it's it's it's a lot to handle. If that was the plan, they should have discussed it before the wedding. before the wedding he says see uh first one year or first two years we will go stay in my parents house we will stay there then after that we will go somewhere something you know you should discuss clearly uh what you're planning to do otherwise uh if it's becoming dependent on one side of the family uh the other person may feel uncomfortable so you have to you think like that you Understand? I'm not saying living with a family is always wrong. I'm not saying that. Sometimes because of situations, because of necessity, these things do happen. But it is better to discuss and talk about these things before you do it. Have agreement. Some cases yeah before marriage they agreed ground floor my parents will be staying bus flow brother and sister is staying next floor we will be staying okay you discuss fine you go and stay like that it's fine everybody's happy but discuss that before getting married you and and and keep healthy relationships with uh with all family members both sides keep good relationships number five This is quite important which is uh overcoming past abuse, trauma and negative experiences. So the reality is uh uh growing up you know uh they as growing up people could have had some difficult sometimes traumatic experiences in life. growing up. Sometimes they have may have been abused, sometimes by their own family member. Uh some sad stories are there, very sad. Sometimes they maybe their own parent abuses them, sometimes some other family member abuses them, sometimes some outsider abuses them. Uh it's very sad, you know. Uh so these uh bad experiences affect them emotionally and could affect the relationship with the spouse. Could affect I'm not saying will but it could. So it's always better before marriage to address these issues. The real reality is many people have had uh could have had bad experiences in their childhood. It's not it's not uncommon. People have had difficult experiences in life. But this should be addressed, dealt with before you get married. Right. Better to get help, address it. So, you know, we can talk about some of this. One is abuse. Um whether it's emotional or physical. Uh and again, it could have come through different people. Um maybe through parents, through other family members. Uh it is sad but I mean just think about if a if a girl growing up in the house has been abused by her own father right uh she has gone through that trauma or sometimes it's by some relative they gone through the trauma Uh and so when it comes after marriage relating to her husband um she'll find it very difficult. I'm not saying all the time but if that that those issues have not been dealt with. There could be fear. They could be maybe sometimes even anger towards men. um you know things like that. One very sad case, very sad case, this girl was serving in a church. This pastor was married. He had his wife. He had his family. But he was really controlling this girl because she was ser serving in the church like I think uh she was a singer and worship thing and all. So he and this is true story I'm not simply making it up right. He was uh controlling her life so much and probably sexually abusing her. I'm saying probably because I don't have first in I only heard it through the person the husband who got married really controlling. So this proposal came to a young man at APC very sad and this was from Pentecostal church only. So he went saw the girl everything is fine met the pastor. Everything in the surface looks fine. He doesn't know the backstory. He doesn't know what has been going on. Pastor is giving full recommendation. Same pastor who is abusing this girl is giving full recommendation. They got married and then the pastor is saying you must come and stay on the first floor first floor of the of the pastor's house. So this young man like uh he he did not he didn't know what was happening was very innocently okay fine pastor is saying go and stay on the first floor of the house uh fine so this was in another city so he was living in Bangalore but he moved there so so arrangement is pastor and his family are living on the ground floor. He told this girl now she's married. The girl and the husband to come and live on the first floor. Okay. He thought it's a different city. Fine. They giving a house and all. He didn't think anything bad. He is seven. Then uh everything he is controlling and verse he would tell him you come and you he say you stay here for some time he will go up the pastor will go up and he'll tell this boy this young man to stay down you stay here for some time I'll go up wondering what is going on so Actually this pastor was abusing this girl continued to abuse this girl after marriage and he didn't initially he didn't know why you know he didn't know he didn't suspect but after sometime something is wrong because every decision is being dictated by the pastor through the girl plus now something strange is happening he's telling me to stay down for some time he'll go up on his own what is happening Uh this is true story. I'm not making it up. Right after that he he couldn't you know once he found out what to call he he just couldn't handle this. Of course he ended the marriage and came out of it. Now he's he's living abroad somewhere else. But but the point is this kind of things happen and it is it was a Pentecostal church. You know the pastor had been abusing this girl and even after marriage he made this whole arrangement and so sad he ruined the life of this young man. He came, he sat with me, he told me the whole thing, you know, I was it was like terrible to hear this and he was somebody who grew up here with us. I always hope the best, you know, but of course I didn't get involved in this uh you know how this proposal came and all because that's the family side of things. I didn't get involved. Uh but it was so sad. So sad. So this whole abuse is so real and sometimes it is so terrible very terrible. So some of the things that we had to deal with and it's so terrible sometimes we know when the father is abusing the daughter and this is before marriage so terrible so sad so sad one girl you know in central she came one day I need to talk to you and she and she was helpless and the mother would not believe her when she complained to the mother this is what my father is doing? She said, "What are you talking? How can it be?" Mother would not believe the daughter that the father is abusing as you know. Can you imagine uh after this trauma that she has to now get married? Uh the what emotional pain and thing is they go through? But this is real. Yeah, these are real things. So, um, physical, emotional, these are real things. So, so what I'm saying is in life people have gone through difficult situations. But that doesn't mean they cannot get married. They can, but we need to first help them heal from the trauma. And many times in the abuse case, they're helpless. That's why they're being abused. They're helpless. Where they can go for help? Think about that church situation. This girl, uh, I think she didn't have family. So, this pastor was just, uh, you know, taking advantage of that. So like this you know the they're helpless so they don't know where to reach out for help uh and so before marriage we have to see that they have healing in their lives you know so this is this this is these are real things I just shared some experiences second is uh addictions Now here's the problem I've seen very often. Suppose the boy is addicted to something, drugs, smoking. One month before wedding, you say I'm very clean. One month I have not uh touched this. So sad. The girl will believe him. Ah, he's given it up. Wedding will happen. Day after wedding he starts so sad you know. So this again is a is a these addictions it's a problem you know and we have to be careful cuz it will affect the marriage right um and sometimes you know I've seen some very highly educated people PhD working in some nice company good job but in this particular case it was alcohol So look at the person, the boy. He's so well educated. Good job. You would think, hey, at least he has in a better sense than this uh for the sake of his wife, for the sake of his children uh not to get drunk. But I don't know this addiction can be so so bad it destroys the family. Destroys the family because then after that he loses his job, he loses his ability to work properly. Family suffers. Yeah. So it's important that we deal with this issue. I'm not saying you everybody's perfect. There people may have you know had these things but it is deal with this. be free before you get into marriage and we can help we can pray we can address the emotion about this address it before the marriage don't take it into your marriage because other people are going to suffer you know so addictions be free uh sometimes negative home environments uh again you know maybe they've seen uh infidelity unfaithfulness there could separation, there's divorce or there could be some bad behaviors that they've observed in either of their parents um or sometimes uh previous relationships. So these kinds of things we again have to deal with uh address these the point is address any of these issues before going into marriage because people come from different situations. Um there will be different things but address it uh uh before getting into marriage. Uh two more. Number six is sexual purity. Uh break free of all sexual addictions. Uh this is important. You know, all kinds of things that uh that that would actually be a problem to sexual purity within marriage. Uh make sure that you know we bring ourselves in submission to our Lord Jesus. uh be free from all of these things. I remember once one it's very sad one one lady came church so I want to talk to you pastor okay she came to the office and she now this is a Christian home and she said her husband is addicted to porn now this is all on the phone mobile phone nowadays they're seeing all these things on the phone And he this is a Christian home. She said he makes me watch this with him. Watch all of these things with him. And she said I feel so husband is addicted. He's making his wife watch this. She says I feel so worthless. I feel so disgusted. I feel so terrible. But this is what is going on. And even though she has objected, no. So he's he's so addicted to these things and he's doing this. Yeah. And how she feels, right? Cuz this man is making her watch it and watch these things with him. And it's terrible. He's addicted and it is a Christian Christian they coming to judge what to do how to address this you know only God can deliver the man change his heart and mind and you know get him straight so that he doesn't bring this thing into his marriage You know, so these are real things, right? I'm not just simply not putting it here to make a book. These are real struggles, real things that happened even in the church, even in the Christian family. Real things we have to address, you know, right? So, um, yeah. and then enjoy sex within your marriage with your spouse. So, keeping that sexual purity, right? Number seven, I just close with this and we'll take questions. Uh is uh Christian maturity, calling and ministry. Um, so personally grow in your calling and ministry. Personally, you think about what is God calling me to do? Let me grow in that calling and ministry. And so, you be sure. I'm not saying you know everything but be sure of what God is calling you to do right what kind of ministry can you do what is God's call on your life you be sure right what things you can do uh and you should take charge of your own spiritual growth and you should be able to read your Bible pray and grow spiritually right don't say okay After I get married, I'll my wife will help me pray or my husband will help me. No, no, no. You You pray, you read your Bible. Don't so you should take charge of your own spiritual growth. Okay? Same thing with your own calling. Uh uh you should know at least have a sense of this is what God wants me to do. This is how God is calling me to serve him. How my life will serve God's kingdom. So your spiritual growth, your calling, you should be clear. You take responsibility. Right? Then before marriage, discuss this with your spouse. Okay? What is your calling? What is God calling you to do? How can we once we get married, how can we serve God together? How can we grow spiritually together? These are things you can discuss before you get married. Okay? So talk about these things before marriage. But first you have to be sure yourself then you can have a discussion. You can talk. Right? So yeah. So that kind of brings us to the end of this chapter and um so before you you actually you know get married spend there's some guidance here spend some time get to know each other talk about these things with each other uh if there is a need address those issues before you get married you know now uh there are of course some very good uh good examples of good uh things that we've seen in church. I mean the best thing is in church is when you see two people they're serving God. They they love God. They're growing spiritually. They're serving doing whatever they can in church. Then they meet uh they like each other. They discuss then they go through marriage preparation course and then they get married and they have a nice family. That's that's so nice to see and we've seen you know good examples of that. So I'm not saying and I keep sharing all the bad examples. I'm not saying life is full of bad example. There's very good examples also some very nice you know over the last 25 years we've seen so many good people so many nice marriages have taken place where young people come uh they grow in their faith they serve God uh then they find each other families are happy and get married and they're happy. So it's fine it's very good. Yeah. So those are good things. Um yeah. So let's keep some time for question answers on preparing for marriage. Uh let's take this question. Rajie, um if marriage reflects Christ and the church, what practical responsibilities should Christian couples carry every day to reflect that relationship? Yeah. So uh we we'll talk more about this uh in uh in in the chapter on the role of the husband the wife we'll break this down into uh detail but if you want to look at it just at a high level uh when we think about Christ and the church the first thing is we see that that that love that commitment just as Christ loved the church right so husbands and wives are in that love relationship committed love. Second thing we also see is sacrifice. Uh Christ gave himself for the church like he sacrificed. So husbands, wives sacrifice for the church. Uh and I'm just drawing this from Ephesians 5. Uh the other thing we see is um Jesus uh Ephesians 5 says he uh nourishes and cherishes the church. She nourishes and cherish. Nourish is like feed to you give something to build them up. Cherish is to hold very dear, right? So you know if you think of it both ways, we nourish each other. We we really give into each other's lives. We really encourage build each other up and also we cherish each other. We hold, you know, each other dear. So we can draw these things from Ephesians 5 looking at Christ in the church and make it work both ways husband and wife. Uh uh yeah. So that's in a quick nutshell but we're going to get into the details of it in uh our chapter. I think it's three or four chapter um when you talk about the role of the husband the wife. We look into this in detail. Okay. Any other questions? Yes please. >> Pastor we are talking about this point number five. overcoming past abuse. So in the in the case of a physical abuse and you are just mentioning uh that uh it need to be revealed before the marriage to the person whom she is getting married would it be appropriate >> I'm sorry we have we need before the marriage we need to >> yeah before the marriage you mentioned that before the marriage it need to be such kind of a abuse should be revealed to the person whom >> she's getting married. Yeah, I think but it has to be addressed >> need to be addressed. >> So that means um example if if a a a lady has experienced abuse she should be healed off of it. >> Absolutely. Y >> uh through help you know or sometimes it could be prayer or God healing or sometimes through the help of a counselor whatever but that that matter for her has to be addressed. She should be healed. Um and it's not necessary to discuss it with the future spouse. Not necessary. >> As long as the person has been healed, as long as that matter has been addressed that she knows it's healed, right? >> Uh now during so that's the main point that is the person has to be healed. uh not necessary all the time to sit down and discuss it with the futures unless it's something that needs to be done, right? Um uh it's better some it's better as if it's healed, if it's done, there no need to sit down and talk about it. >> Yeah. >> You know, it's done. It's a matter of the past. The the the the husband or wife, the boy, the girl, they've gone through that healing process. They're fine. So, no need to sit around and bring it up again. It's done. Um yeah >> and uh the other one is uh regarding the pastor who abused the the girl. >> Uh so what happens to that pastor when it has come to know in public? >> So when the pastor >> Yeah. the so the pastor will be removed from his position. >> Yeah. So I mean I I don't see in this the case that I mentioned uh from what the information I was given the pastor refused to accept responsibility and so this person just ended the marriage and came out which means this pastor was not held to account you know because uh this was like an independent Pentecostal church so there's nobody to hold this person accountable. We left it because you don't want to go and you know what can you do? So, but correctly the pastor has to be held accountable. uh he needs to step down from ministry and uh go through a healing process, go through a pro, you know, a process through which God works in his life to get him to be where God wants him to be. So that's that has to happen. Basically, he has to repent. He has to overcome these things, you know. And if I'm not saying he can never do ministry after that he can once that that whole restoration has actually happened he can get back to ministry and go let God do that you know so that that's the right thing to do but in this particular case that we were not able to do all that so uh another question here what practical ical boundaries should unmarried Christians set to God purity in a digital world. Yeah. So that's you know that's um that's an important thing. Uh see like I personally I personally don't have a Facebook account don't have I have an Instagram account but only it is follow my wife and two kids. That's all I but I don't even open it. I haven't opened it for a long time. uh I personally don't have time for this like Facebook and Instagram and also that's why we have a team media team they handle everything uh so I don't have time for this uh but it's okay I'm not saying it's sinful you know different people use it for different things and of course you can use it for good things right but uh this can also become a trap you know this this whole digital space uh it can become uh trap uh for both people who are unmarried and who are married. Again, there I've seen problems from both sides here. Uh so as unmarried Christians, you know, okay, as believers, use the use your account, your social media account for good things. Nothing wrong with it, you know, use it for good things, you know, keep it clean. Uh and use it for good things. Uh uh also you know control how much time you may spend on it uh you know whatever just keep it limited to good things control your time don't get addicted to it every time in between class you what happened to my Instagram account just relax you know just uh uh keep it for good things manage your time and don't use it to for you impure things like to follow the wrong kinds of people or feed your mind with the wrong kinds of things because all this there all kinds of junk you know on social media because people put anything so we have to guard ourselves right so uh that's those are boundaries you know we definitely have to set and even for married people you know uh the same thing sometimes problems in marriage happen because of social media you know the husband husband is following all these strange people leaves messaging all these strange people and and so uh when the wife finds out it becomes a real big problem so both unmarried married it's fine to use social media I use YouTube to you know to as form of education I listen to good things uh watch news and so on uh on YouTube but uh It's restricted. It's for good things. Yeah, that's it. I don't don't waste time on on Facebook or Instagram. But any other questions? >> How can couples honor the parents without allowing parents to control their marriage? Yeah. Yeah. So that's a good question. Very practical. So one is uh to keep healthy distance. When I say healthy distance, I'm not talking about like okay two 2 kilometers from here. So no not like that emotional distance, right? Where so while we're growing up of course uh when we're living with our parents, of course we are very attached to our parents. We're staying with them. Fine. Nothing wrong with that. Once you get married, the closest person to you emotionally would be your spouse. If the parents are still there, other family members, brothers, sisters will still be there. But that there's a kind of a little distance that you build emotionally between you and the family member, parents, family members. Example, maybe in the past when you wanted to discuss something, you would go discuss it with you know your parents or sibling whoever. But now when you want to discuss something, first person to discuss with will be your own spouse. Sit and disc and you put it within there. You don't have to call parent or someone else to discuss the matter. You discuss with your own spouse. Sit and talk. Right. And you arrive at especially when it's a matter for your own family. Uh that should happen within the within Yeah. with your spouse. So that means now you're you're actually building a distance uh between yourself and your parents or family and saying first priority is my own spouse. We will discuss we will make decisions. If parents maybe they out of good intents and maybe too much caring start interfering say I will tell you what to do then we have to say please you know I will discuss we will discuss we will do now of course you know if they are if you want to get their input you can I'm not saying it's wrong they may have good experience in certain areas so we can draw from that experience but it shouldn't be that they dictate the decisions right you can definitely draw from their experience but ask them and learn from the but they shouldn't dictate if they are dictating the decisions then it's interference it will not be good you know so emotionally like that we have to draw uh distance while keeping the relationship healthy you want to have good relationship on both sides but draw the Yes. Yes. Um so one example would be just making decisions. Do it with your spouse. Make decisions. Uh don't become financially dependent on the parents because if you become financially dependent on the parents then the parents of course will have a lot of say. They are paying the bills then obviously they will say a lot of things. So financially if you're independent then you can make your own decisions. You'll be able to stand on your own feet. Um uh that way. Yeah. So those are some things you know where we continue to honor them. You go spend some time with them on a weekly basis once in two weeks. You go spend you continue to honor them. You continue to do good to them. Uh but you are your own marriage is standing. your, you know, your having your own unit family. Um, what does love your wife as Christ loved the church actually cost a husband or what? Ephesians 5:25. Yeah. Um, yeah. You know, it's it simply means that the husband love the wife unconditionally, right? That means at all costs unconditionally. You're committed to your spouse. Uh we don't know what life brings. You know, different families experience different things. But the thing commitment is hey the husband continues to love the wife through every season every challenge. Um that's that's the kind of commitment and should be it should be both ways right uh husband loves the wife this way unconditionally the wife loves the husband uh with that same kind of commitment in order to build the marriage right so if you if you ask me you know how do you break it down we'll say it's it's unconditional committed love through all seasons through whatever life brings we we still continue to love Both ways, right? Yes. Sorry. Okay. Oh, you can back >> honor our parents. Yeah. How does uh people who were brought in Christ. So they won't they won't stand in their problems. How do you say it? >> So the question is um the Bible is saying uh you know Genesis 2:24 a man shall leave his father and mother. So I think your question is uh what does what does it mean practically you know uh does it uh see um like we were saying the the whole purpose it doesn't mean that they cease being our father and mother. They're still our father and mother. We still have to care for them and love them and honor them. But the priority now is the husband to his wife and the wife to her husband. That is the priority. While we continue to honor them and care for them to the extent we can without taking away from the marriage or from the family itself, right? So if they are going through a difficult time yeah you come support them stand with them and um be with them help in whatever way possible but don't do it at the expense of your own marriage that because your first priority is to your spouse and to your own marriage. Example suppose um parents on either side are going through some crisis. I don't husband shouldn't say okay wife and children all of you you be on your own. Bye-bye. I'll go take care of my parents. You can't do that because your first priority is to your wife and your children. So that commitment must be there. You must be the husband to your wife, the father to your children. And then what extra you can do to take care of your family. You too, not at the expense of your own parents, uh your own wife and children, right? Because that is your first commitment. Then what you can do? Okay, you do help. So we're continuing to love our parents. We continue to honor our parents but always understand your priority is to your wife because you leave your father and mother and be joined to your wife and it's to your family. Yeah. Then you help whatever way you can you know so that balance with sometimes if we go one extreme then this side will suffer. Correct. So we have to keep things in proper order while we continue to honor and take care of parents. >> Pastor one last thing. >> Yes. >> Uh ego plays a very very important and crucial uh between a married couple. So when wife is earning more than the husband >> okay there is some ego clash and there can be cropping up of jealousy and such things. So how do they handle it? >> Yeah. So this is a real question very important like you know uh sometimes and you see in some situations where the wife may be more accomplished than the husband you know maybe more education maybe higher position maybe morning uh maybe career-wise maybe more whatever you know those things uh and then it could cause a lot of I mean it all depends on how the husband handles it right husband should be should celebrate that hey it's okay you you know, God has blessed the wife, uh, made her, it's okay, celebrate it, and, uh, we have to be content with what we've been given, right? So, be happy about it. Um, so in my situation, Amy's a doctor. So, some places I go, "Oh, this is Dr. Amy's husband." So, oh, okay. Okay, fine. Yes. Yes. So, I will be recalled as her husband. She's a she's the one who's more famous, you know. you know so that is fine I have no issues about it right because that is in her space she's the one who's recognized right if I go this side here in the pas in the church space okay they recognize me but in that space she's the one who is recognized it's fine you know I don't feel any jealous about I'm so glad you know that uh in her space she's a blessing to so many people uh so I think that's just having the right attitude the right thing. Hey, God has blessed my wife there. I serve him this way. It's fine. It's uh that's all you just celebrate what God has done. Yeah. Without getting jealous or feeling bad in any sense inferior. No, we're not inferior. It's just that God has blessed each one of us in different ways. Yeah. All right. Let's wrap for today. Uh we'll continue this uh next week. Thank you.