Video summary
The speaker discusses a practical approach to manifesting real-life changes without relying on traditional methods like vision boards or affirmations, emphasizing instead the scientific reality of how our internal state shapes external outcomes. Central to this philosophy is the idea that nothing in life holds inherent meaning except for the significance we assign to it; therefore, consciously deciding how to feel about any circumstance allows us to align our inner being with desired realities. The speaker illustrates this by sharing their personal journey where a custom Porsche, dream home, and other aspirations materialized within days or months simply after becoming clear on what was happening and shifting their internal focus away from lack toward abundance.
When addressing immediate challenges such as an unpaid bill due that evening, the advice is to avoid manifesting from a place of worry, panic, or scarcity, as these states activate the body's fight-or-flight response which inhibits creative problem-solving. Instead of trying to force positive feelings about a stressful situation like debt, the speaker recommends using deep breathing techniques—inhaling through the nose and exhaling slowly—to calm the nervous system and exit sympathetic dominance. Once the mind is no longer trapped in anxiety-driven chest breathing patterns that lock the body into stress, it becomes receptive to solutions appearing spontaneously, trusting that one cannot predict exactly how or when help will arrive but must remain open to receiving it.
A crucial component of this process involves feeling the emotions associated with having already achieved a desire rather than focusing on the subject matter itself, which prevents attachment and feelings of separation from the outcome. For instance, instead of wishing for a specific person like a husband who might not appear, one should cultivate feelings of love, freedom, understanding, and support within themselves regardless of whether that relationship exists yet; once this internal state is achieved, external circumstances naturally align to match it. The speaker recounts how they detached their happiness from needing a partner or perfect conditions in the past, leading to rapid improvements in every area of life including relationships, finances, and living situations after simply feeling good despite toxic environments or financial instability.
Ultimately, the video concludes by acknowledging that while human brains are naturally wired to focus on negative possibilities as a survival mechanism, this tendency can be trained through conscious attention shifts where focusing on one positive aspect causes other areas to improve automatically. The speaker shares their own history of growing up in an unsafe household and living in poverty with rusted cars and toxic relationships before everything changed once they learned to feel happy regardless of external conditions. By dropping ineffective manifestation techniques that never worked for them, the speaker found a simpler path where desired realities appeared through inspired action after feeling the end-state emotions first, proving that anyone can live their truest desire right now in real time by mastering their internal response rather than fighting against reality.
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I'll not go live for 10 minutes.
Do a little impromptu chat, a little
impromptu Q&A if that happens. But
basically, when I was live earlier, I
was talking about
how real-life manifestation, when I say
real life, I mean like I'm not talking
about vision boards and affirmations and
all the fluff. I'm talking about the
actual scientific reality of how to
create the life that you truly want in
real time without any of that
manifestation
fluff that we hear about out there. And
it's so simple. It is so simple. And you
can think of certain aspects of it, like
boil it down to what is the meaning that
you're giving the thoughts that you're
having. Because the meaning that you
give the thoughts that you're having
creates your mood. And it's so
unnoticeable. Like this happens
automatically. Nothing means anything in
life except for the meaning that we give
it. And we get to decide how to feel
about anything. And if you can line up
how you feel about the circumstances in
your life with how your inner being
feels about those same circumstances,
you would It would blow your mind to see
what happens. And when I started getting
really clear about this and getting
really good at it, cuz it's easy, it's
simple. You just have to be clear on
what what the heck's going on.
The custom Porsche that I'm driving, my
dream house, my husband, my bank
account, my travel experiences, every
single thing I've ever wanted flew into
my life and came for me in as little as
two days to a couple of months.
Oh my gosh, it's crazy how fast it goes.
Question, bill due today
that I haven't been able to pay and it's
evening now here. Any tips? Okay, so the
worst thing that we can do is try to
manifest from a place of worry, panic,
or scarcity.
It's not possible to manifest
successfully from a place of scarcity.
Does that mean you're supposed to not
feel scarcity about the bill? No.
You You don't aim for not feeling
scarcity without the bill. You simply
aim for not thinking or feeling
regarding that bill and simply lock into
whatever state of being you wish to feel
about where you want to go in life cuz
it's not about the money. If you had the
money to pay that bill, you'd feel
relief, right? So, to get your nervous
system to calm down in that very real
in-the-moment situation, you simply
breathe into your body. I recommend
through the nose and deep into the low
belly cuz that will shut off that
fight-or-flight panic response in your
nervous system. And
watch how long your exhales are compared
to your inhale. If you can slow your
exhale down, so 4 seconds inhale, hold
for 4 seconds, then exhale for 6 seconds
or 8 if you can get a good at that.
Your nervous system will switch out of
fight-or-flight into a state of calm,
and then your mind automatically
follows. If your mind is freaking out
and you're panicking or feeling anxious,
and you don't start with your breath,
you will never be able to control your
mind.
When we live in a state of anxiety and
panic, our our body ends up creating a
stress response mechanism wherein you'll
develop a chest breathing pattern. And
if that happens chronically over time,
you'll have a chronic subconscious chest
breathing pattern.
The issue here is your chest muscles,
sorry, your neck and shoulder muscles
are hardwired into the fight-or-flight
system of your body, and and so when
you're breathing, you'll be locking your
body into a state of sympathetic
dominance, aka fight-or-flight, just by
breathing. And unfortunately, this is
why we can't manifest out of a state of
stress. When you're stressed, mentally
and physically, your body will be in a
stress state of stress. If you're
mentally stressed, your brain is
designed to turn off its creative
centers, close off to outside inspired
action that would otherwise be finding
you to fix your situation, and it's
going to focus only on that what it can
see and perceive in the moment or any
perceived threats, aka the lack of money
right now for the bill you have to pay.
So, I recommend just relaxing your
nervous system. And then reminding
yourself that you'll never be able to
predict how something shows up because
your brain right now in that very real
scarcity moment is going to say, "I
can't see how this bill is going to get
paid. It's obviously not going to get
paid tonight. I don't see where it's
going to come from. It's not just going
to fall out of the sky." Blah, blah,
blah. And your brain will keep going
like that. But, you cannot see or
predict anything. Your conscious mind
can only perceive 5% of your reality.
And so, if you get your body into a
state of relaxation and you get out of
that state of fight or flight stress,
things will find you. You just have to
remember and remind yourself that you'll
never be able to predict how. You'll
never see where it comes from.
If you can trust that and try to stay
calm, it will be okay. And let's say
that you don't end up being able to pay
your bill today, you will still be okay.
Things will be okay. Your brain just
wants to go to the worst-case scenario
cuz that's your brain's job. It's trying
to help you out of a future really bad
situation.
So, that's what I would recommend. I
actually made a reel.
You'll see it. It's not too many reels
ago that talks exactly about what if I
have a bill due today and I have
literally $7 in my bank account.
Go through cuz you'll see that big
thumbnail
title, "Don't feel relief about paying
your bill when you can't pay it." That's
not even possible. That's so
unrealistic. Like, this is why I do what
I do. I'm so like I'm so fed up with all
the BS manifestation advice we hear out
there cuz it's be It doesn't like it
doesn't even make sense to real life.
Like, just feel positive. You ain't
going to feel positive about having to
pay a bill. Like that's no.
>> [laughter]
>> You're so welcome. I'm so glad you're
doing the breathing. I just got home,
but I'm going to hang out in the car for
a bit because it's raining and why don't
we see if the rain lets up a little bit.
Um I'm feeling with my wishes made real
reality despite I can't see it just yet.
I'm not quite entirely sure what you
mean there, but the whole goal with any
of this is to be able to feel the end
state emotions you'd feel if you had the
reality you truly desired now before
anything changes. And neuroscience has
proven we can do that. We don't need
anything to change in our reality.
EFT helps too.
EFT helps.
Okay car, shut up.
Yeah.
People always say, "Well, how am I
supposed to feel like I just have $10
million when I've never had $10 million
$10 million or how am I supposed to feel
like I'm in love when I or feel like I'm
with my dream soulmate when I've never
really been in love?"
You're not supposed to feel the
emotional outcome based on the subject
matter itself, but you look at that
subject matter and you say, "Okay, what
are the emotions I would feel in my life
if that were true for me right now?"
Relief,
gratitude, excitement, elation. You have
felt all of those emotions before. So
you just bring that up viscerally in
your body regardless of the subject. As
soon as you attach it to the subject,
you suddenly have more stake in the
outcome aka an attachment to the outcome
and that doesn't work well for you.
As soon as we have an attachment to the
outcome or we're automatically noticing
we're not near the outcome that we want
aka we're separate from it, in which
case you're practicing a frequency of
lack.
So the whole reason that we match the
frequency by feeling the end state
emotion now is so that we close that gap
and we no longer feel separate from
whatever we want. So, for example, with
my husband, I wanted
this specific experience and I thought
to myself, all right, you know what? I
just want to be happy. I don't want have
to have this person that I'm thinking of
in order to be happy in my life because
then if I don't have that person, I'm
just not going to be happy, which means
that I'm basing my happiness on
something outside of myself.
That is
Don't do that.
Don't do that. So, I thought, okay, what
emotions would I feel? I would feel
love, deep love. I'd feel understood and
known on the deepest level. I would feel
freedom in my relationship. I'd feel
relief in my life and supported. And so,
I started just pouring all of those
emotions into my body via anything I
could do. Things I imagined, from
memories where I have felt those
emotions before and I completely
detached it from the person. Suddenly, I
literally got to a point where I didn't
give a if they ever showed up or
not. I was so happy. I really just did
not care anymore if he ever showed up.
Five days later,
showed up.
Five days later.
I'm so glad you're watching Friends all
day to raise your vibe and forgot about
the bill. That's great.
Thank you for saying what you're saying.
It makes perfect sense to understand.
I'm so grateful that it makes sense and
I can help people understand because
when I
figured it all out, I was like, holy
It's so much more simple than
we've ever been led to believe and
people are out there doing like
affirmations and vision boards and
meditating and journaling and all of
these things. Okay, if those things work
for you, fine. They never worked for me,
ever. And so, as soon as I dropped all
that crap, realized what I want already
exists in its fullest form. I just need
to feel the emotions, detach from the
outcome,
and watch it show up. Boom, it showed up
with inspired action every single time,
and everything I ever wanted showed up
in as little as 2 days to a couple of
months without any of those
manifestation techniques.
And it's frustrating cuz I will go
online, and obviously because I teach
about the reality and science behind
manifestation, my algorithm is full of
manifestation BS.
And I'll scroll and be like, "What the
hell is this shit?"
No offense to people teaching it. If
it's working for them, that's great.
But, I think
it just doesn't work for as many people
as stopping all that does.
Your content resonates so much. I'm so
grateful. Thank you so much. I'm really
grateful for you as well. I'm grateful
for everyone that shares this space with
me because we're all in it together. And
whatever's possible or has happened for
me is is just as possible for anyone
else, and that's why I do what I do. I
just want you to understand that you
really can can live the life you truly
desire right now in real time. I
remember
when I was little and I was taught to
wish on stars as most little kids do.
And my wish would always be cuz I grew
up in a tumultuous household, and I
didn't really feel safe or supported,
and I would wish just that I could be
100% happy. Cuz I would always think,
even as a small child, well, I'm happy
except, you know, I'd be happy if just
this was different cuz everything else
is fine. So, do you see how I was
focusing on what wasn't good? And our
brains do that. We could have five
things going on in our lives, one going
well, four going and your brain is
going to automatically focus on the four
that are not going well in an effort to
improve the situation or make that
better. But, if we were to just turn our
attention to the one thing that's going
good, the other four automatically have
to improve its law. Wherever we remove
our focus from, the cork will float and
the situation will automatically get
better.
And it can be so enjoyable along the
way, too. Like I had a 700 square foot
basement apartment, didn't know if I was
going to make rent each month, I had a
shitty car that was covered in rust that
I couldn't really even trust.
It would I had a very toxic
relationship. Like it was bad news
bears. And
I just remember getting to a place of
feeling so good regardless of all of
those situations and one by one by one
each thing changed and now dream home,
custom Porsche, dream marriage, travel
experiences, bank account, everything.
I agree the feeling first without the
thing. Also, people tend to go to the
negative before the positive feeling.
It's almost like a survival mechanism,
but when you believe good things, good
things happen. That's true.
That's absolutely true.
It is normal that the human brain goes
to the negative. Your brain is designed
to look out for what could be wrong and
help you. The brain's designed to do
that. And especially with your nervous
system, I had someone say to me recently
like, "Why is it that
my I think they think they were talking
about their kid. Why is it that my kid's
mind just goes to the worst possible
worst case scenario?" And I said, "It's
really because the nervous system is
designed to keep you safe. But you can
train yourself in a way." I just posted
a live I had done before this one when I
was on my way to the store and I talked
about my crazy thought process in
between 2:00 and 3:00 in the morning
when I woke up like, "Ah, shit!" And I
had forgotten this and I worried about
next month and all this stuff. Of
course, we always will have those
moments. We will always react. You never
get to some arbitrary end point where
you never react anymore. But you will
get to the point where you can catch
yourself in the a like I did in the
middle of the night and turn it around
and then wake up in a great state of
being that lasts all day.
So, all right, the rain has let up.
Thank you so much for hanging out with
me. I really appreciate it. If you found
this helpful, informative, or
entertaining at all, please hit like and
follow because I'm always here to help
you. And I can't wait for you to
experience all that I absolutely know is
possible for you.
Okay, till next time. Bye, guys.