Bonnie Blue’s Opinion on P*rn Addiction (Louise Perry Debate)

Nearly 2/3, about 64% of men under age 25, support making it harder to access pornography online, up for 51% >> in 2013. If young people are becoming more conservative about sex and pornography, how come Bonnie is still breaking records? >> Well, I guess even though you earn so much money, like you've still got >> your audience is not all men by any means, right? You've got a fairly small number of men who are supporting you. Um I I also sense there's this move against from the younger men there's this move and women as well against porn and I suspect that that comes from the fact that these are say zoomers who've grown up on the internet. >> What does zoomers mean? >> Like born this century. >> Okay. >> They were brought up on the internet. They were exposed to porn really young ages. I mean it's often like I think average age is 11 for boys something like that. >> Crazy. >> And so and they often been exposed to really extreme stuff. And it's it's damaged them psychologically and sexually in that they I mean like what we were talking about earlier with sometimes weird tastes escalating, >> but also often say struggling with erectile dysfunction when you're actually in the room with like if you've trained yourself on porn and on your own hand >> when you're then in the room with a real woman, you might not be able to get it up >> for sure. or having uh unrealistic expectations, just not being able to find normal women as attractive because you've become used to watching women like you. >> And I think that a lot of men have just learned from their own personal experience and just purely selfishly like regardless of the whether or not porn is fair trade, they've learned that actually it's bad for them. >> Yeah. >> And it's probably bad for everyone. Like I mean when it comes to porn addiction for instance, I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. It's a terrible thing. I think even with porn, like you mentioned, then they think unrealistic body shapes cuz they're looking at these women that no, we do it for for a job. Well, it's not a job in most people's eyes, but they also shouldn't do that though that cuz that's stupid cuz probably the porn they're watching, their penis is probably half the size of that, and nor do they have a chiseled six-pack. So, um, yeah, it is terrible when some guys can no longer get hard because they've watched so much porn or they have unrealistic expectations of women and they shouldn't because one, they don't most probably don't perform like a porn star. Um, but I'm not saying porn is the answer for everything. It's there's a much bigger issue problem, but I don't think banning porn is the solution of that. I just think it should be better regulated and more conversations about just sex in general. Whether you can't get hard, you struggle to stay hard, you come really quickly, or maybe you don't come at all. It's should just be more of a conversation and less taboo. So, people become less embarrassed by talking about it. But should people watch more porn? Cuz there's quite a big chunk of the population that don't watch porn at all. >> Probably more varied porn. You shouldn't always just watch one type of porn. Um, >> that's not going to be the issue though if you're talking about people who are being educated and getting used to sex in general, a power user or even a normal user of porn. >> Yeah. >> I'm not convinced that they need a varied diet. What we're talking about is like one big group of people who don't use porn at all and then this other group of people who some of whom continue to use it healthily and then some of whom sort of tumble down these darker rabbit holes. >> You could say that with anything. Alcohol, alcohol, chocolate. I it's you can't summarize what one person can do. I could easily have a couple of drinks and stop. Another person can't do that. They're going to, you know, finish the whole bar. >> Or gambling might be a good comparison because obviously gambling is legal in this country, but we know that there are it hasn't always been. There's been periods where it's been banned and there are certain things which are banned like the really um sort of predatory end of the gambling industry. And we know that things like the apps can be really addictive and people ruin their lives gambling. Like they'll lose the family, home, their marriages will break down, everything. >> And so I I certainly think there should be regulation. I think most people do. >> Um if you're you know, I I guess in this comparison, like you're like the gambling boss who owns who owns the app that's like >> normalizing this, bringing this into everyone's homes. Like is there not some sense of responsibility? Like he's he's obviously just he's playing by the rules. he's obeying the law. But it's a subscriber saying to me like, "Look, I've spent so much money on you this month. I'm going to I can't afford to pay my mortgage. I can't afford the food shop." 100% I'm like, "Look, let's just chat. Stop spending so much money on me. I I clearly want you to be able to pay your bills and do your food shop." So, yeah, when I'm speaking to to guys online and they'd, you know, just sometimes disclose very personal information with me, I would never want to put them in a difficult or vulnerable situation, but I can't be responsible. Have you got >> on that? Have you got an opinion on the financial domination industry? Are you familiar with this >> about where like findom? >> Yeah. So like girls will like a guy will pay for a girl's life and then like completely rinse their bank account. >> Yeah. I mean it goes even more extreme than that. Uh that >> the end of this is typically guys will get their paycheck and then immediately send all of it to a girl. >> Yeah. who drip feeds money back to him as he begs for his own money back. >> Oh yeah. >> Now it's this very odd is this consent? Is this an addiction? Like you are transferring this to them. >> A lot of the time the girls that are doing this will have compromising material. I know a friend that was at university with me who was doing this with a guy and she had videos of him coming in a cheeseburger and then eating it and he was married. He was begging her to have one pound so that he could put some fuel in the car and she says there's 50p get the bus to work. Uh and his bank account has nothing and his wife is completely unaware that this is happening again with that consenting adults. This seems to be you know there the I'm trying to find where your limit. >> Yeah. Like morally for me I wouldn't be happy with that. >> But you use the word moral in this conversation. Yeah. >> Yeah. Morally like that's not for me. That that isn't something I'd enjoy. I wouldn't like that. I'm not doing this for power. You know what's interesting that uh a lot of what you talked about in the very beginning your justification was around finances. So we may have managed to find something close to the bullseye of where your sort of sensitivity sits which is >> Yeah. Don't make people poor Chris. That >> exactly. Yeah. You you may play with my private parts but not my bank account type thing. >> At least I want people to be happy but then it's weird I say that because that guy clearly enjoys that. And I have got some friends that will absolutely rinse guys for money and their sort of argument which is true. If it wasn't them, it'd be someone else. And at least then they know they're going to do it in a very controlled situation. Um, but for me, I just wouldn't feel comfortable with that. And everyone is really different. >> You found a limit. Congratulations. >> For me, I just it stressed me out. Um, and it wouldn't sit comfortably with me. Loads of things will. I'll take vaginas. I'll sleep with 18y olds. And those girls would probably say, "God, that's disgusting. I wouldn't feel comfortable with that." But for me, I'd be stressed and be going to sleep thinking, "Oh my god, like what if the wife needs to buy some emergency shoes?" >> We'll get back to talking in just one second. But first, if you're anything like me, packing for a weekend trip somehow takes longer than the trip itself, which is why I'm such a huge fan of Nomatic Curry and their backpack and carry-on pro have genuinely made the travel process so much more enjoyable. They've got compartments for everything, your laptop, your shoes, your sunglasses. so well organized that even your toothbrush will feel important. It's the Marie Condo of luggage. Everything has its place. 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