Be careful in these time!!

Ladies and gentlemen, Tony Gaskins here. Now, y'all got to forgive me. I'm I'm driving a Mercedes Sprinter. So, it might get a little loud. And uh got y'all I'mma hold you in my hand, actually. Hold you in my hand. Turn the AC that way. But, yeah. Just want to utilize this here time. Cuz I just dropped off backpacks and school supplies for 15 students. Thank y'all so much for those of you who clicked the link in the description for the boys' summer program, Tony Gaskins Family Foundation. The link is all the same. Getting ready to update the link for the House of Prayer / House of Refuge / Food Kitchen / Learning Center. So, raising for that right there. We looking for the proper location. We going to rent starting out before buying. Going to rent. May find somewhere that we can rent to own. But, going to have a a place where kids can come after school, get tutoring, do their homework, get something to eat in case they may not have dinner at home. And can also So, it'll be an extension, you know, the boys' summer program basically going into the school year. We also going to have the doors open every day for prayer where people can just come in, kneel at the altar and pray, or pray with one of the intercessors or prayer warriors that will be there. And also going to have, you know, clothes and shoes and food and things of that nature. Probably will have to hire security just in case, you know, somebody, homeless person, or somebody like that kind of comes and is having mental health issues and stuff like that. Really don't want to have women there by themselves vulnerable and in a position that they could be harmed by someone who's not in their right mind. And so going to set all of that up. So, thank y'all so much for the support to the family foundation. But wanted to pop on here and chat with you. We have the Don't Forget the Purpose Art. I got my my trademark application in, so I got the email letting me know that I can use the little TM behind the Purpose Art. A lot of people don't know that there's a lot of different, and we going to talk about this here in the Solopreneur class. Do y'all a class on it because I just went through the process myself. And so if you're not in the Solopreneur collective, sorry for your luck. Keep your head up. Keep going. But we're going to talk about the trademark process cuz I did it on my own without a lawyer. And so I'm going to teach y'all about that. But, the purpose start November 28th, we diving in the purpose. And a lot of times, you know, people going to say, "Oh, can't nobody help you find your purpose." Well, guess what? That's a lie. Because there's power in the tongue, there's power in words, there's there's power in mentorship, there's power in guidance. And so, basically, what we going to be going through is a formula. Going through a formula. And I'll be explaining it in detail, in full detail, with real-life examples, and stories, and experiences for you to glean from and be able to apply to your life. So, when you grab you a ticket, when you sign up on tonygaskinsacademy.com, I now got the discounted hotel link, which you you only saving about 30-something dollars on the room, but so, you welcome to get your Airbnb in in Tampa Bay or stay at another hotel. They just block off 10 rooms at first and then can add more if there's inventory. So, you'll see that link in there. There is no ticket to the event. You just come to the address, go in, go to the ballroom, check in at the table with your name. Got a list of names of the students cuz we get that, so somebody wrote in and was like, "Hey, I'm looking for a ticket." You just check in with your name. Because you sign you're not signing up on a ticketing site, you signing up on the academy where I put the recordings and stuff like that in there. And now, I'mma be going on a kick here, y'all, here soon, and I'm I'mma going to continue to talk about this here stuff that I'm talking about as far as these individuals out here giving advice bad advice, advice they don't know what they're talking about. We're going to be touching on that. I was just looking and seeing how, you know, men and women giving terrible advice and for those of us that's married and that's happily married and that's making a marriage work we know and understand how detrimental and how toxic and terrible this advice that y'all are getting out here on the internet is. It is so bad so terrible and so when I see the stuff, I'm going to be coming on here and addressing it. And you've got to be careful. Got to pray for discernment. I just seen a gentleman who he was doing a video and he was talking about, "Fellas you know, never be careful if you're with a woman and she's giving you fellatio and she's moaning." And I'm going to tell you something. You know, when you're teaching and you have to go through those sexual examples and stuff like that, that's one thing. But y'all have to be careful when some of these relationship coaches and stuff like that be talking sexual and you don't know if they're wife and they're not promoting a wife or a husband and they be talking sex explicit and painting the whole picture for you but you don't know that they are with anybody and you don't know who that body is. You got to be careful with that stuff because a lot of times what they be doing is they be casting. Because they know that there's a sector of women out there that's going to shoot a DM and say I can show you what you was talking about if you interested. And then the man going to jump right on it. Oh, really? How can you do that? Send me a picture of your tonsils and jump right into that flirtation. And they assume that the woman going to because she put herself out there and because she came at him that she going to keep it a secret. And she very well may keep it a secret. But that's always a red flag when somebody being sexually explicit for no reason. It's no real lesson in it. It's not really teaching. And they don't have a partner that you know of that you've seen that's been praised and promoted and shown. You got to be careful. Be very careful. Hey y'all, give me 1 second. I'm going to hit the pause button. Be right back. You won't even know I'm gone. All right. Okay. iPhone. And I got a iPhone 12. So, I'm going to start doing a fundraiser for me a new phone. I'm just talking. Yeah, playing. I just don't like letting go of stuff. Yeah, I got my Hungry Howie's calzone. And I thought I was full. I went to bump in my gun and went to get back hungry. So, I had to pause and get me a couple bites in. Bringing a good Pepsi, too. Woo, Pepsi got me feeling lucid. Pepsi got me feeling good. I don't know. I'm feeling managed. That good Pepsi. So, yeah, this this is my little cheat meal now. Now, I might cheat every day, but y'all keep me in prayer. I had me some Popeyes last night, I think. So, yeah, I'm a little cheating right now. So, y'all keep me in prayer now. I don't want to be out here looking like the Nutty Professor. But, back to what I was saying. There's a lot of scammery out here. And there's a lot of people who couldn't handle There's a lot of people can't handle attention. A lot of people can't handle fame, notoriety, stuff of that nature. I'm going to tell you. It's something I don't even want. I wish the Lord give me something else to do, but I just got to be obedient. Like they having that Invest Fest right now. You know, them people ain't never invited me to speak there. That's what let me know your heart ain't right. Hey, listen. Spirits attract and spirits repel. So, if the brother won't have a show, think he Muslim. I don't know if he practicing or living it. But, I seen they got Touré Roberts speaking. They got Anthony O'Neal speaking. Anthony O'Neal still single as a dollar bill when it comes to being married. He could be dating a little something. Could be putting a little bit of wood on somebody. But, he already told us he's a fornicating Christian. So, they don't care nothing about that. You did Touré Roberts divorce his wife, got with Sarah. They don't care nothing about that. And so, that's what I'm trying to tell you. But, then here I mills out here and you know I ain't under no rock. And then they got the single relationship coach Kendra G with her dating app that they don't partner with. So, here go black men now. And then partner with a dating app. They know I got a dating app because they follow me on Instagram. And partner with a dating app from a single woman. So, somebody who haven't been able to find somebody for herself. And that's just the irony of the world. You would like to think that they would be like, "Hey, let's go to somebody that's married that knows about relationships for real for real and got a dating app and do a partnership there." No. It's all about what's hot, what's trending. And that's that's how it at you know. And then they say Oprah done tapped on her. And so, the reason why Oprah tapped on her is because Oprah's single. And meaning unmarried. No kids. And has been a voice and a authority on marriage and on family. And so, to tap on a black woman who is a dating show host who is also single, it just validates. And so, what she's saying is, "Hey, y'all, I'mma platform this single matchmaker and single relationship coach to validate the fact that I'm also unmarried." And touching on this here stuff. And so, that's where our world is. Our world is in a place to where we promote contradiction. We promote confusion. It's just like hiring an out-of-shape trainer or a broke financial advisor. It's that's where our world is. And who has to worry is the consumer. Because somebody can't give you advice on something they haven't done. They have to have done it to a degree to be able to help you. Because they can't help you if they can't help themselves. And so, we could be a walking contradiction. And nobody will question us. And so when you doing things the right way and you living what you preaching, it almost make you wonder, do I need to be a walking contradiction? It's like, do I need to cheat on my wife so I could reach more people? Do I need to divorce my wife so so I could reach more people? But that's how the world is. The world reinforces mediocrity because mediocrity make you feel comfortable in your mess. It make you feel successful. It make you feel comfortable. It make you feel like you doing everything right. And so guess what? And then the devil will try to say, "Oh, Tony Gaskins and such and such keeping y'all single." And that's really to divert you from the truth so that you truly could be kept single by somebody who is single. Because somebody who single ain't going to be able to tell you how to get hitched. Cuz they don't know what it take. They could tell you how to be happy while single. They could tell you how to love yourself while single, but they can't tell you how to attract somebody. And I seen the young lady, the Kendra G young lady, I seen her. >> [sighs] >> She was on the stage at some event. The event was Essence Fest. And y'all know I was supposed to be on the panel at Essence Fest. and end up getting uh booked for something somebody had to do. And I passed it to RC Blakes. I don't know if he accepted it. But I passed it to him. And they weren't paying nothing. But like what they were paying that I spent that in a flight getting there. So I'm like uh I don't know if I'll be able to do that cuz I ain't even I ain't going to be able to get there. I'm going to have to take a Uber to get there. What y'all offering? Like what the rev, boy? Y'all must be Like what y'all got going on, Essence? Like no. Like no. I don't know if this is I don't know if this if this is of the essence to what y'all offering. But yeah, so the Kandi Burruss and the guy who talked about the woman moaning while she giving fellatio, they was on the panel together and and it all went out, you know, where it was talking about he got embarrassed up there and then she went at his neck online basically just I guess calling him broke and saying he was trying to get motion off of her and she did him a favor and let him be in her whatever and I'm like, man, that probably was the panel I was supposed to be on. I'm like, well, I thank God I didn't go cuz I did not want to put my message in the middle of that. But that's the thing. So here you got two people speaking on relationships. I don't know nothing about his wife. I know she ain't got if he got a wife I know she ain't got no husband. But yet they're the authority on relationships right now. Meaning uh uh a fest as big as Essence put them on the stage which both of them is single to my knowledge. Cuz I I never seen I've seen the young man messages floating online but I ain't never seen no wife floating online so it's like and and and I need to hear something about your wife. If I don't see in three four messages I ain't heard nothing say my wife then I'm then I'm starting to wonder. So here you have two individuals giving advice on relationships and we don't know nothing about their spouse. We we don't know of a spouse. You see what I'm saying? That's the world we live in. And so how are you going to advance when what you're listening to ain't a recipe? It's like somebody trying to teach you how to bake a cake and they say you just need flour and water. And you see you keep trying to bake this cake and and you don't try over and over and over and just flour and water. You have made dumpling and you like man why this cake taste like this? You try you make a dumpling. Because you ain't got all the ingredients for a cake. Because the person telling you ain't never baked the cake. They just telling you what they think is made of. And they wrong as two left shoes. And that's the world we live in. So that's why I say you have to be very careful. You got to create your own silo. Your own type of echo chamber. To where you got to look at in every area. So fitness, finance, family, friendships, whatever it may be. And you got to really look deep within and you got to say, "Does this person have what I want?" Does this Have this person achieved the level of success in this topic that I want to achieve? Do they Would I trade places with them? If the answers is If the answer is no, close your ears. Close your ears. If the answer is no, close your ears. Point-blank period. I'm going to tell you like that right now. Close your ears. And a lot of people don't get that. A lot of people don't get that. And so that's where you got to understand. That's where you got to realize and understand that there is an attack on your spirit, on your mind. And you're going to have to be so intentional. So where where you are consuming information, you got to identify who you want to consume that information from. So if you're going to listen to Joe Finance, Finance Joe, Suzy Jean Finance, you got to get on YouTube and you can't scroll. You got to get on YouTube and you got to type in Suzy Joe and click on her channel. Watch her video, get off get off the the internet. Log in Instagram, you log in Facebook. You type in the name you looking for. Get on and get off. And I'm going to tell you something, your life is going to go up. See, this this what I want you to understand. There's certain stuff I watch online, but I make I watch stuff for like research purposes. I watch stuff just for like mindlessness, like if I'm like relaxing or I'm just like I don't feel like thinking, I'm decompressing, I might put it on a a sports channel or a boxing channel, you which is sports of course. I'll put it on a sports channel and I'll just let it play. Just let it play. Um the young lady who I'm not a lawyer, but like I don't be caring about them cases. But I had that on in the office. And I'm guessing that's her husband she do the show with. But I just listen to that for a little bit. Just stuff it ain't got nothing to do with my life, it ain't got nothing to do with what I got going on, but it's a it's serve a purpose of like this is down time. And that's okay. Like if you got something that you listen to mindlessly, and it's just down time, but even that, choose what's going to be your mindless listen. It might be a the crime channel, but understand this now. It will affect your mental, so I just was on a solo trip. I'm a grown man. If you want to take me unless you shoot me or something before you take me, you you going to have you going to have a time on your hands. If you just trying to grab me up or you or you finna have a ti- i- i- ime. You finna have the time of your life. And you probably going to lose your life. Cuz if I give everything I got to get in the way oh, it's oh, it's it's finna be hard. It's going to take Paul Bunyan to be able to grab me up. Ain't no Jeffrey Dahmer going to be able to do nothing with me. I'm finna whoop behind. You hear me? And so, but here it was, I'm on my solo trip. Got men at the hotel, men at the resort. I had just watched this whole serial killer documentary on Netflix or one of the streaming sites of the man in the All Gold Beach Killer or something like that. I think it was in New York or somewhere where he took the life of eight women that I was telling y'all about and he had that he had that wife and she seemed a little off. And then he had a daughter and she seemed a little off, too. And then and then they actually had a special needs son. So, it was kind of like the whole family just was a little different. Little interesting. And in the sense of and not and not the special needs boy because that was, you know, clear special needs. But the other three present as, you know, fully functioning. But here this man is hiring sex workers and And chopping them up. Sleeping with them, chopping them up, dismembering them and stuff. And then hiding the [clears throat] body, throwing the body out. So, guess what? When I go to the When I go to the resort to the spa I'm sitting there like Well, dog. I'm I'm looking at some of the workers like, man, I wonder if he a serial killer. Man, I wonder if anybody done came up missing out here. Wonder if anybody done came out here and didn't make it back home. So, you got to be careful also with your mindless watching. Because that stuff I I noticed it with my mother-in-law. Now, I don't think she watch my YouTube, so I can talk about her. She'll be at my house. I remember one time she at my house. I walk out my door to go to the mailbox. I come back to my door, the door is locked. She done locked me out of my house when I'm walking to the mailbox in broad daylight. You know why? Cuz all she watches the crime channel. We live in a gated neighborhood. You cannot get in without passing and talking to a human guard. She think that she going to be in one of the most expensive neighborhoods in the city and there's going to be a robber and a killer out at 2:00 p.m. in the day that's going to come into the house. While she in the house in a gated neighborhood that you cannot enter without talking to the guard and the guard have to call me or my wife's phone and tell us who is at the gate and who trying to get in. And we able to say, "No, thank you. Turn them around. We didn't invite them." And she locked the door on that. Why? Because of what she watched. And that's why I talked to some of y'all and y'all be just scary. Some of them asked me, um, people may ask, "Tony, you said don't get on a dating app." Destiny is a matchmaking app. It's not a dating app. A dating app is where you go on there and it's a smorgasbord. It's a buffet of people that you're swiping through. That's not Destiny. Destiny is you receive a match without any selection. You receive a match based on the AI matchmaker that you have trained by your answers. Then when you see the match, you hit interested or pass. And then after you hit that, you got to wait 8 hours before you receive another match. You also will not receive a match if there isn't anyone compatible with you on the app yet. If you selected your area, it's only going to introduce you to people that are compatible of the opposite sex who are compatible at least 30% compatibility within 60 miles of you. If you okay with long distance, then you could turn that off and you could get introduced to somebody who may live in another country or in another state and y'all be a long distance and then one of y'all move to the other when you fall in love. That's how Destiny works. It is matchmaking. Not a dating app. It ain't no swiping. It's no messaging anybody unless it's mutually agreed upon. You have to hit accept and they have to hit accept for the chat to open. So, that's why I created it and I created it as the antithesis to dating apps. It is the opposite of a dating app. So, I need y'all to hear that and understand it. It's me creating a solution to the toxicity of dating apps. It is not a dating app. It is a matchmaking app. We just called it dating app just for the sake of understanding and normalcy, but it's really just like you signed up for matchmaking and you being strategically matched based on the three B's, brains, brand, body. So, that is also what makes it different from every other site because I'm the creator of brains, brand, body. And another thing too, y'all have to realize I have 3 million people online. You can't write me and say, "Tony, give me a explanation." Because if I explain it to you one-on-one in a private DM or email, I have to explain it to everybody. So, that's why I need y'all to listen when I be talking. And so that what y'all need to understand. So it's like everybody that seen me say don't get on dating apps, but ain't nobody seen me say why I created a matchmaking app. So listen. This what you got to understand. There is an attack. The enemy wants your mind. Wants your wallet. Wants your heart. Wants your spirit. Wants your destiny. Wants your purpose. And your scrolling is what's turning it over. Now I'mma tell you something. I don't utilize the internet the same way 99% of humans utilize the internet. So I'll post and get out. I'll post and get out. I might scroll at the most it might be 3 to 5 minutes. And I'm And when I'm scrolling, I'm I'm really scrolling for topics for research purposes. Not even to enjoy, not to indulge. Because I've come to realize the trick of the enemy. So your algorithm is going to show you everything that you lack. Everything that you desire, but feels like it's out of reach. So that you become more and more disgruntled and more and more discontent. That's what the algorithm goal is. The more the algorithm could keep you uncomfortable and discontent the deeper you search. The more you search, the more you go on it and watch it. The more you on there longer and longer and longer paying more and more and more and more attention. Because you searching for happiness, you searching for joy, you searching for answers, you searching for something to make you feel better because everything you scrolling across making you feel worse. You longing. So you you want love and you scroll past a woman who she posting how amazing her man is, posting her flowers, posting her Range Rover, her G Wagon, her Rolls-Royce, her Pilates class, her soft life, and you like, "Man, I want that." So now you longing. Now you coveting. You discontent. So you keep searching, keep searching. And you end up finding the antithesis that says you don't need love. Marriage is for broke women. Marriage is a cop out. Marriage is old-fashioned. Single life is the way to go. If you do this with a man, use them then lose them. And you get all that stuff right there. And I never forget when a young lady did that video and I think I end up I can't remember if I interviewed her and showed it and we posted the interview or what. Where the young lady she was studying that lady that some of y'all watch Sherell 7 and she was trying to listen to the sprinkle sprinkle. And she went out and tried to get her a sprinkle sprinkle and got drowned. She ain't get hit with no sprinkle, got hit with a tsunami. And the man came in her life, dogged her out, I think he beat on her, touched touched her child sexually inappropriately and she got with him because he made over $200,000 a year. So she thought she light skin, he dark skin, she conventionally pretty, he conventionally ugly. You know, he short. Could have been foreign. And so she thought, oh, I'm finna go in and be a prize. I'm finna get sat down. Finna be laid in the shade. This man finna cater to me. She think she he she thinking he finna cater to her. She think he finna be sucking her toes like grapes. Nope. He He had other plans. Came and turned her life upside down. Why did he do that? Because he already knew the play she was running. He done lived this whole life and ain't no woman anywhere close to look at how she look wanted him genuinely. That's why he was single. That's why he was available. Cuz ain't no woman wanted him because of the beauty constructs of America. So, he knew if this woman want me, she coming to use me. And guess what? These men know the playbook inside and out. They listen to sprinkle sprinkle more than you do. They know what you coming to do. You ain't finna finesse nothing. You ain't finna get over on nothing. They finna flip you, toss you. They know you finna give it to them any kind of way, any time of day. They know you finna be in the kitchen trying to slay. Got you in there cooking in thong. Got you in there cooking in the nude. Got them making bacon and egg, turkey bacon if you Muslim. You in there indentured service, slaving. They lost your last name. They lost your identity. They lost your agency. Don't know who you is. But, they know that you playing a role cuz you just want to have some money. Cuz you financially insecure. You financially immature. And you listening to these women that's telling you to get you a man with money. Get you a older man. Get you a rich man. Get you a man that's going to praise you. Pedestalize you. Get you a man that's going to treat you like a trophy wife. And teaching you how to milk these men. And guess what? You ain't fooling nobody. You ain't got over on that man in the least bit. He don't bit more love you than the man on the moon, don't bit more care for you than the man on the moon. And finna rake you over them coals. He finna use you as long as he could use you. He finna play the part to get you to drop your guard. And then he finna shoot you right between your teeth, metaphorically speaking. And sometimes literally speaking. And that's what you got to realize and understand. You ain't fooling nobody. Better stop listening to these folk. Better stop listening to these folk cuz you playing yourself. And I'mma tell you something like this right here. That's why that's why none of them want to debate with me cuz they know good and well the truth pressed to the ground going to rise again. They know good and well what they take what they talking about don't make no sense. And they know if we talk back and forth I'mma run circles around them because foolishness can't argue with the truth. With foolishness can't argue with wisdom. It just won't stand the test. It won't make no sense. Everybody and they mama know who got the most sense. Who telling the truth. Who plan and philosophy is going actually work. And that's what you got to realize and understand. These women that have you with the man and yeah, you might get to fly first class or maybe you he got more money and you on a private jet. And then you thinking oh, he 80 years old, he about to croak. And I'm finna inherit all this cuz we got married. Come to find out that man spent every dime the week before he was about to die. You up a creek and ain't quiet on the creek, either. And tore up from the floor up. And you out there and you sitting there you looking at that thing and you like, "Man, I thought I was coming into some money." Psych your berry. Psych your berry. Ain't now liquor money. You ain't got nothing. He had everything willed to his daughter. And you sitting over there looking sour patch face. What in the world? I thought I was hypergamy. No, you was a hyper dummy. Cuz you was sitting over there listening to sprinkle sprinkle and and now you didn't got dumped on. Now now you up there looking like a box of rocks. All your youth have been stole. All that good good have been talked beat out the box. You have been wore out the frame. And then boom, file for divorce. And got a super lawyer. You you leaving with a few pennies to rub together. Why? Cuz you were listening to nonsense. People don't know what they talking about. Instead of just looking for love, going for real love, real companionship, you wanting to play the play a game. Cuz you thought these people had the game. You thought they had the sauce. And see this is the thing what I'm going to tell y'all. When people give you the game on how to get an advantage, they themselves are being played. You can't take advantage of nobody. You know why you can't take advantage of nobody? Because everybody body is a window. Everybody knows their place in the world. Deep down everybody know when they being finessed. Everybody know when they being used. Everybody know when they being played. Deep down we know. We just ignore it. We know. We know. We know. And a lot of times people think So, my wife took me to the mall the other day and she walked out of there with all kind of stuff. Cuz she already know if she take me to the mall I'm going to I'm going to drop a bag. If I got to go online and apply for a payday loan I'm going to come up with some money and drop a bag. And then she know I go to work. I go to work. I I'll go in that card make that payment. It's Saturday. Payment going to come out Monday. I get on that email blast. Hey. I am writing your book by hand. $1,000 discounted 90% from 10,000. Cuz I know ain't nobody got 10,000. I knock it down to 1,000 and I and I pimp my hand. I use my gift to make that 10,000 that I just spent on my wife. And she already know that. I'm a provider man. She ain't getting over on me cuz I know who I am. I know what she doing. I know why we went to the mall. And ain't no secret. And I remember when she used to do me like that when we first got together. She used to do me like that cuz I'm a giver. And I already knew what she was doing, so I we went to the mall one time, right? And we we walking through the mall and we just I never I never go to the mall and not buy her something we in the mall. I'm a I'm always buy something. But we walking through the mall, I'm just going from store to store. I'm just looking at the stuff. Just looking at the stuff. I ain't buying nothing. I ain't buying nothing. After about the third store, every store we walk out of, well, she get sadder and sadder. After about the third store, she said, "You don't love me anymore." And what? I had a good old laugh. I said I said, "What you mean I don't love you no more?" She like, "You don't love me anymore." Cuz she thought that when we went to the mall, she was finessing me. She thought I was buying stuff and that she had to like treat me into buying it. She didn't understand I'm just a giver. And if I don't feel like giving, I don't give. You can't finesse me. And what what she learned there? And she just do the same thing with the Instagram, with the Tik Tok, and oh, look at what she got. And the next thing you know, I'm on the website, I'm ordering, it's coming in the mail for cuz I don't like no woman to have something she ain't got none. But then, I got to the place to where I was spending so much money. She'll show me something. What does she What does woman got on? That's nice, though. Woo! Woo! That's nice. And I don't order it. And then she start to So then I I call her out. I say, "You be showing me stuff trying to get me to order." "No, I don't. I just be showing you stuff just because you're my best friend." I'm like, >> Uh-huh. Now, you got this old double entendre. So, now Uh-huh. Fine, I just won't show you nothing. >> I'm like, "All right, don't show me nothing. I ain't going to I ain't mad." He hurt my feelings. I'm like, "I don't care about these women bags and what they got going on." Like, And so, that's what I want you to understand. Like, even in marriage and stuff like that. Like, it was time to where I'm trying to be all nice and all of this right here. And I'm thinking I'm going to get my little nook. And she just rolled right on over and go to sleep. So, I I started to realize, okay, it ain't nothing I could do to get that from her. She do that when she want to. When she want to. So, I just got to go and communicate because I'm up here trying to do all this and do all that. I just got to go and say, "Hey, need me a little bit of that." And so, that's the thing. Like, you have to understand that you got to be straight up with what you want, what you expect, who you are, who you aren't. Cuz ain't going to be nothing tit for tat that you going to be able to finesse out of nobody. You going to leave empty-handed. If you a man listening to these boys' tactics on how to get a woman and how to get over on her and how to make her crave you and how to make her chase you, you going to end up playing yourself. Same thing for the women. You listening to these women tell you Oh, this here do this, do that, do this, do that. You you finna be right in there looking like Boo Boo the fool. And tore up from the floor up and and that man going to be like you going to be right over there and and be like, man, I wonder why he didn't do what Sprinkle Sprinkle said he was going to do. And you over there looking dumb as a box of rocks. And what you think going to happen? It might happen for a little bit. And then you get complacent cuz you thinking, oh yes, I don't made it. It happening. It's it He playing right into my hand. Next thing you know you don't find a video in his phone and he putting hard peen on your sister. And you like, what in the world is going on? Yeah, you thought you played him. You thought you had you a dummy. He knew all along what you was doing. He knew all along the game you were trying to play. And he had something up his sleeve for you. And that's what I need y'all to realize and understand. You ain't fooling nobody. You ain't fooling nobody. You ain't getting over on nobody. None of that is going on. So I'm going to tell you like this right here. You have to identify your truth. What is your truth? What's your baseline? What do you believe? What do you want? What is your moral compass? Who are you? Whose are you? That's what I need you to realize and understand, okay? And then what I want you to do, this is what I need you to do now, after you realize and understand that, need you to take everything you hear and you actively accept it or you actively refute it. Not in the comments, in your mind. You need to be able to take and talk to yourself and say, "This is why I agree with this because of A, B, and C. This is why I disagree with this because of A, B, and C." Because your words coming out your mouth teaches your brain what you believe. You're teaching your brain what you believe and what you don't believe. So now you're able to take and have a situation where you now know what it is you will and won't listen to. And I'mma tell you something, it's okay to listen to certain stuff for exploration purposes, research purposes, but you got to have your pen and pad and you got to be able to refute. You got to be able to fight fallacy. Stuff that is refutable, you got to refute it. There are some truths that are irrefutable. And if it's irrefutable, you can't do nothing but accept it. But if it is refutable, you got to refute it tooth and nail. So that you let your brain know this is not true and this is why I do not believe this. And this is why I will not adhere to this advice or this opinion because of this, this, and this. And that's that's how you got to start moving on these internet streets. Because you are under attack. Your mind is under attack. Your spirit is under attack. Your soul is under attack. Your life, your future, your health, your wealth is under attack. I'mma give y'all another lesson now. It's only so many people that's here 54 minutes. Now if you still here 54 minutes, put in the comments, I made it. So I know how many people actually listening to the whole video. But I'mma give y'all a secret right now. I'mma tell you like this right here. Anything you spend your money on right now, you got to ask yourself, is this going to move my life forward? That's why I'm doing the purpose art. Because I know purpose is going to move people life forward. I could be selling socks, uh tea, coffee. I mean, ain't nothing wrong with selling it. But it ain't going to move your life forward. Now, if I'mma sell you a tea bag, on that little paper tag that hang outside the cup, I'mma put a I'mma put a scripture on it. Or affirmation on it. I'mma customize it to where you not just drinking my tea, you drinking my affirmation. You drinking my devotional. You see what I mean? Just gave somebody who sell tea a idea. If I'mma sell you a t-shirt, it ain't going to just say Gaskins. It's going to have something that you can be inspired by. It's going to say consistency to remind you to be consistent. Same thing if I sell you coffee. The coffee pod, the name of the different flavors going to be faith, blessed, gratitude. The box going to have quotes on it. Going to have a QR code that take you to a online affirmations site. See what I'm saying? So, right now, I'mma tell you what's going to be on the title. Your wallet. Especially if you are a minority. And when I say minority, it doesn't mean that you are less than. Y'all got to stop majoring in the minor. Oh, I'm not a minority. Minority does not mean inferiority. It just mean it's less of you than of other races. That's all it means. Get out your feelings. Get off your soapbox. Now, if you not a minority, then that's not you. But, what I'm saying is they still consider black and brown people minorities. So, that's what I mean. Whether you identify as one or not, it's what you is. So, this what I want you to understand. Majority of us went to Title 1 or F-rated schools or whatever it's called, whatever it is in your area. We went to the bad school. A lot of the kids raised themselves, no parental guidance. So, they come to school, they cussing the teachers out, they fighting the teachers, they stealing the teachers' stuff out of drawer, they slicing the tile, they busting the window out. So, the teacher is in there going through all kind of elements. She stressed, she hyperventilating, she having nervous breakdowns. So, she can't even teach because her nervous system is shot from these kids in her class who have raised themselves. So, we getting a third of the lesson plan. And and to not look bad, she got to give us a B on our paper. Otherwise, she finna lose her job cuz her whole class is failing. So, she fixing our answers for us. She literally erasing it and writing the right answer. And she put She And she giving us a B. So, we get out of the school and could barely read and write. Don't know the difference between there and there, your and your, and dumb as a box of rocks. And be out here a full-grown adult trying to trying to hold down a job and going in the boss's office talking about I need a raise and don't know the difference between your and your. And And the boss say, "Well, can you write me a letter on why you feel like you deserve this raise?" And all he reading is a bunch of mispronouns, a a bunch of there and there in the wrong context your and your in the wrong context and he like, "What the audacity to come in here and ask for a raise and can't even tell me the difference between your and your." And so, because of that being the case for majority of us when the economy is struggling they finna start playing in black people face and they're going to play on the black dollar. Come get a car. No car payment for 90 days. 0% interest. Well, you finna go in there and get 0% interest. I mean, no payment for 90 days, but you finna have a 19% car interest rate. Or you finna go in there and get 0% interest. That's what they tell you to get in there, but you ain't really got 0% interest. But you're paying triple what the car's worth, which is 0% interest, so you might as well had a 20% interest rate. And now you done paid triple for what the car's worth and you don't even know what the car's worth. So, I went to the dealership today. I'm in the Sprinter. I had to get a uh had a flat tire on it, but it's still was riding still for some reason when it all went flat. So, [clears throat] I'm in there getting a uh I'm in there getting a tire. And I go in I'm looking at the G Wagon. Cuz we done had three G Wagons and we ain't got none right now. Cuz the last one I sold it when we had $100,000 equity in it. So, I sold it cuz we had multiple cars. Wife also had a Escalade and a G Wagon at the same time. So, sold the G Wagon and invested that 100k. And so, wanting to get a a new G Wagon for my wife, and guess what? I had a G63 that was 3 years old in 2020. It was a 2017, and I paid 110,000 for it. The pandemic shot up all the car prices. That G63 right now, a new a new model now, even one that's 3 year 4 years old, they want 200 and I think he said 220,000. That's 4 years old. So, that mean the price to more than double. When I tell you they tried everything in the book. And then, here we are in a recession, and they saying they have a markup. How do you have a markup in a recession? So, they So, they selling the G Wagon for 220,000. But, they marking it up to 270,000, and then telling me they giving me a deal at 250,000. So, $30,000 markup in a recession. And that's what I'm that's what I'm here to tell you. So, I'm a black man. When I tell you, boy, they throw that application in there so fast. And then on top of that, they want $40,000 down. You know why they want that? To cover the erroneous markup. So, the bank will think they're selling it for what it's worth. And so, that's why they want to do that. So, guess what I had to do? I had to walk. I had to walk because I'm not dumb. So, if I go to buy it, they're going to have to give it to me for the price that it's worth. Ain't no markup. And that's on full now. And so, I say that to say the attack that's on you, it ain't just on the internet. It's going to be across the board. Like, for example, I had I had a leak in my roof because you got a thing on the roof called a valley, where like the roof come together. It's a like a little V. So, after a while, that valley will start to corrode and all of that, water start to get in there, start to rush, you know, the metal up under there and all of that, and so, it start to leak. So, they come out and I told them, I said, "You know, I'm getting three quotes. So, I and I'm just going to go with the best price. Everybody I'm calling is five stars, so just give me your best price. I don't want to haggle. So, I'm expecting to hear about 5,000. What I'm expecting. 4 to 5,000. He say, "Well, hey, I'mma give you a little deal. I'mma knock off this, knock off that. It's going to be 2,900." He say, "I can get I got a discount for you if you will sign with us today." So, that let me know they hurting for cash. Cuz you want me to sign with you today and you give me a discount. So, then they come to fix it. So, I had to hit them with the 2,900. So, I'm I'm I'm I'm good with that because I'm expecting 3,400 at the at the least. So, I paid 2,900. They come and then they say, "Hey, you need a new roof. You got this going on, that going on." I'm like, "Listen, I know I need a new roof when when it leaking. And then when it leak, I'm going to try to fix the leak first. If the leak can't be fixed, then I need a new roof." So, here I am. Somebody just told me, "Yeah, new roof like 20k." I bought to eat people quote me 42,000 for a new roof on my house. And I own my house, so I don't have to have um home insurance. Nah. But then with a home insurance, you got to prove different things, different types of insurance. And so, here we are. 42,000. I say I say, "Now, I got a tile roof. What is that? 42 for the tile?" He say, "No, that's for shingle." He say, "To get a roof like what you got, that'll be 80,000." I say Okay. [laughter] I say, "If my roof going to it fall off, but I pay 80." I said, "I bought the house with this roof on it." And so, what I found is everybody's struggling. That's That's why you seeing all these videos where the pastors are strong-arming. The pastor's starting to strong-arm the members for money because the pastor's struggling. The pastor's struggling because the parishioner is struggling. So, if you can't pay your bills, you're not donating no money to no church. Especially when the pastor's sitting up begging all day and twisting your arm. You So, now you in there and you're like, "Man, I ain't even get preached to cuz all you're doing is begging for money." So, now you definitely ain't finna get a dime up off of me. If you got any sense, you're not finna get no money after he's twisting your arm or she's twisting your arm. If you ain't got no sense, then you're finna go on get your arm twisted and give all give all your money. And so, now the pastor's doing that. So, that let you know what we're going through out here. So, now the companies are starting to struggle because people going longer without getting things done. They say the barbers going broke right now. You know why? Because in the pandemic, all of this money was flowing. So, because all of this money flowing, people going to get a get a lineup, get a fade twice a week sometimes. Barber went to charging 40, 50, 60, 70. Now, the barber don't want to drop his prices to meet the recession cuz he don't want to look like he's falling off. So, now people going to get a haircut once >> [snorts] >> a month. So, now you take somebody coming four times a month and you cut back to one time a month, now his income from that person is cut by 75%. Studies show that if a business loses 20% of its revenue, it have to shut its doors within 60 days. So, that's what you have to realize why you are under attack. Even with the bad advice that you're being given online, it is because the bad advice givers are broke and they're trying to say scintillating stuff that will go viral. They're trying to set the internet on fire so they can go viral. And that's what you have to realize and understand. They're trying to go viral because they need some money because of where the stuff is. And see, I'm going to I'm going to tell you the difference about me and I want you to listen to the people that be talking and see what they got going on. You typically going to see one or two streams of income. That's why with me you see one-on-one coaching when I'm doing that, group coaching like the solopreneur, all access mastermind where you got access to all of my course for a monthly fee, then you got the Destiny app, which is free, but if you want to sign up for the year to get all the features, it's $99 for the whole year. Then you got coachfile.app. That's five different streams right there. Then you got all my books. You got all the individual courses. Just released the Purpose Heart. Then you got asktoneyg.com. For those of y'all who one-on-one coaching is not in your budget. Cuz if you need a one-on-one session, you got to go to mymentor.life. And right now it's $400 an hour because I'm trying to minimize the amount of hours that I'm coaching. So, if coaching is not in your budget, asktoneyg.com, you get two questions for free. Then you get a five $5 pack, or you can do $20 a month, just like ChatGPT, except for it's more geared and specific to you and what you're trying to do than ChatGPT. And so, $20 a month right there. And then,