Video summary
The video addresses the provocative question of whether there are enough women available for serious relationships in today's society, specifically within the Black community context presented by the speaker. While demographic data indicates that Black women outnumber men by approximately two million and over half of men remain single with no children, a significant majority of men surveyed feel there is a shortage of suitable partners. The speaker argues that this perceived scarcity stems not from an actual lack of female population, but rather from specific criteria regarding fitness and family status that effectively reduce the pool of eligible women to a very small percentage in his estimation.
A primary factor driving this disconnect, according to the transcript, is the prevalence of children born out of wedlock within the community statistics provided by the speaker. He notes that roughly eighty percent of children are fathered by less than twenty percent of men, meaning many single fathers already have dependents from previous relationships or partners who left them. The argument posits that modern women often bring these existing children to a new relationship prospect, which significantly lowers their chances with "men of value" because contemporary society does not readily accept the role of stepfather as it was in past generations. Consequently, men are advised to marry before having children to avoid this barrier, while women who already have kids from another man face reduced opportunities for serious commitment.
Beyond family status, the speaker introduces physical fitness as a stringent filter that further diminishes the number of available partners. He claims that approximately eighty out of every ten women in his community are overweight or obese, automatically disqualifying them based on his stated standards before even considering their marital history. By applying this criterion first and then filtering for those without children from other men, he calculates that only about ten percent of the female population remains available to one hundred percent of single men seeking relationships. This mathematical reduction is presented as the logical explanation for why so many men choose not to pursue relationships or opt out entirely rather than accept partners who do not meet these specific physical and familial requirements.
In conclusion, the video suggests that the feeling among men that there are insufficient women for relationships is a rational response to the combined effects of high rates of single motherhood and obesity within their community. The speaker challenges women to reflect on whether they truly represent the "fit, feminine, friendly" caliber he describes as necessary for relationship success today. He emphasizes that while women control access to pregnancy through contraception, men ultimately hold the power in initiating relationships; therefore, if a large portion of the female population does not meet these specific standards regarding fitness and child-free status, it is understandable why many men feel they cannot find enough suitable partners despite there being more women than men overall.
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Shout out to the CIA, the confident,
intelligent, and assertive men out
there.
One love to the FBI, the feminine,
beautiful, inspirational ladies.
Nef,
y'all don't come in here doing that
stuff.
Uh, fragrance of the evening, harmonous
hypnotizing fire. This is the by
the way. One of the most complimented
fragrances I purchased in a long
damn time. Matter of fact, this is
probably going to go into the the top 20
complimented fragrances I own.
The harmonist
and uh candle of the evening, you know,
incense nine. Here's the thing. Okay,
let's get into it. Let's get into it.
All right.
Asked the question on YouTubes and on in
on Instagram
because I really want to know. I want to
know, are there enough women for
relationships today? Because we keep
hearing that, you know, for when I was
growing up, I kept hearing where all the
good men and there not enough good men
and men aren't this. Well, I'm going
tell you right now, I can say that
according to the numbers, at least in
our community, 51% of the men are single
and childless, right? 64% are in the
middle class.
So that means over half of the men
today, black men in particular, are
unmarried and no children.
All right? And black women outnumber
black men by 2 million. The question I'm
asking the men, are there enough women
for relationships today? And according
to almost 9,000 votes,
65% said there are not enough women.
Well, how can there not be enough women
for relationships if you outnumber men
by two million in our community? And
this is across the board. Okay, go to
Instagram and let's look at the same
numbers. And ladies, like mely, dislike
me, doesn't matter. You need to listen
to what the men are saying of the
756 responses.
Women tend some women tend to think yes
there are
but the men are saying not no. So ladies
few questions.
One how many relationships have you been
in that where you have not left meaning
where the man walked out on you? And if
the divorce rates or anything to go by
and that's all we can really go track is
divorce rates. We can't track
relationships. So if women today are
more free, more educated, more all this
stuff than other and you say you want to
be married and you say you want families
and the men are wanting relationships
and marriage, why do almost 70% of men
say they're not enough women.
You say they're all knocked up. I don't
think Well, let's talk about that. You
do realize in our community
that roughly
100% of the children uh No, no, no, no.
Roughly 80% of the children in our
community are coming from less than 20%
of the men.
Meaning half the men are not married, no
children. Of the 100% of women in our
community that have kids,
the number works out to about 80% of the
children being made in the community are
being made by the same men
because
I don't want to I don't want to get the
number wrong. I'll do it tomorrow.
But if you factor in the number of
married women, one in four, and you look
at the amount of children coming for
marriage,
it's a small number. So that means if
eight out of 10 kids in our community
are being born, they're being born to a
small group of men. And this makes sense
as to why men are saying there not
enough women for relationships. Because
one of the major reasons guys do not
want to pursue a woman for a serious
relationship is you already have a
child. Don't get mad at me.
And today, men are not accepting being
stepfathers like my father's generation.
Even my generation.
Ladies, if you come to the table with
another man's child, chances of your
chance for getting into a relationship
with a man of value, a man that you
value is significantly reduced. You know
that. I know that. So the question, the
premise is marry before you carry.
All right? Because the net net of it is
no matter how you like it, ladies, you
control access to uh
your body. You control when a baby is
born and you control when sex can
happen, but men control relationships.
So somebody asked the question like,
"Well, well, if men want relationships,
why aren't they asking?" because they're
not seeing women who are fit for
relationships. One of the conditions is
children from another man. Okay. But
let's talk about the women who don't
have children.
Not every woman out here has children.
Granted, but are you are you
relationship caliber for what the men
are asking for? What is that? Fit,
feminine, friendly.
Fit, feminine, friendly. Fitness. Eight
out of 10 women in our community are
overweight. And 80% of that number is
obese. So even if you don't have
children, do you do you pass the one
test that every woman should be able to
pass? Fitness.
Well, eight out of 10 of you don't.
Well, what about the 20% that's
remaining? So think about it.
We're talking about taking a a group of
women and we need to automatically knock
off half 80% of those women because
they're unfit, physically unfit. Then
you need to take the remain women.
However you do it, take the childless
women
first or take the fitness component
first. But either way, I say knock out
the largest number of women. you eight
out of 10 women are automatically
knocked out because of fitness. You got
20% of women left. Then you have to look
at how many of these women have children
and let's just say that and this number
is very low but let's just do it for
simple math. Let's say half the women
have kids and it's closer to 70%. But of
that 20%, let's just say half have
children,
that means 10%,
you have
100% of the men looking for a
relationship and they only have roughly
10% of women to pick from. Even if those
numbers are off and the percentage here
or there, that is why so many men are
just opting to go out.
The men of sin are not there. So what do
you expect the men to do? Ladies
the men to do? That's the question. What
are you expecting the men to do? I want
to talk to the So ladies, uh are you a
part of one? Are you one of the women
that thinks that there are plenty of
women ready for relationship? Because if
you look at what the numbers say, just
the rough poll, and there's more women
than men.
Let's get into it, ladies. Now, there's
only one there's only a couple of rules.
One, you can't over talk me. Two, it is
my platform. So, if I have to cut you
off or start or stop, that's what's
going to happen. That's what's going to
happen. Let's get into it. Uh, let's do
this real quick.
[clears throat]
Testing, testing. One, two, one, two.
Testing. Can you guys still hear me?
Uh,
So, I find it interesting that, you
know, we're talking about getting
forward, moving forward into
relationship. Comments are still on as
long as y'all remain cool and don't act
like like I sense comments will stay on.
Let's get into it. Ladies, are there
enough relation women for relationships?