Are Open Marriages on The Rise?

Hey, Tony Gas is here now. Popping in to holl at you real quick while I'm going back up to the soccer field to look for my son shoes. He left out the other coach changed the rule to where they can't wear they slides. Got to wear tennis shoes. So, he took his tennis shoes off, put in the bag, and left in the bag. But we were talking about the Candy Bird situation with her and Todd threesomes and I recently went on a podcast where the young lady her and her husband have a open marriage and then I remember Mo'Nique the comedian I think she said her that she has a open marriage and I can't speak for every open marriage because I don't know all of them but what I will say is that they typically I would say 80 90% of them won't work because you got to think about it if feelings get involved it's a lot of feelings involved it's a lot of bacteria swapping even if you're wearing protection if relationships that just involve two people struggle to to last how much harder is it going to E when you have a third person and when you doing multiple situations now I already know Candy them situation was that she had already said that we had a lot of geniuses in the comments so oh Candy already said that we already know that the point is is that now Todd telling it and as a man we're not supposed to kiss and tell if a woman want to tell her business then she could tell her business, but as a man, we're not supposed to go out. And so when Candy told the reason why she saw it as different is cuz she talking to a small certain audience. Todd now his voice is going to the world. So Peter didn't even know. He was like, "Are was that real?" Like, "Are you serious about that? That y'all was having threesomes?" Like he didn't even know if that was for real because he don't watch Candy Coated Nights. So no man watch Candy Code at night. Straight men don't watch that. So she was talking to other women who probably was casting. So they'll write in and be like, "Hey, I want to be in the threes home." But straight men, we not watching Candy Code at night. So now with Todd telling it, it's totally different because now all the men know. You know now how many pro aletes know now that came to get down like that that did not know about that. So that's what you got to realize is there's people with millions of followers that I don't even know who they are. Just because y'all know because y'all are candy demographic don't mean that everybody in the world knew. So get the point of the video and hush and stay out the comments and get the point of the video. That's the point. It ain't about arguing semantics and all the inner nitty grief details. Oh, that happened on September 1st, Tony. Not September 3rd. The point about it is is when y'all have threesomes, you become a HO. And when you become a ho, you become repulsive to all other real men and women. That's the point. It ain't about who told what and who knew and why they knew. It's not this not a gossip blog. So, you have to get your brain out of the dump, out of the shallow, and get the the big message. The big message is not about this stupid celebrity gossip, the stupid celebrity stuff. It's about for you to take and apply to your life. Because guess what? Regular people who are not celebrities are also having threesomes. Everyday men is asking their woman to have a threesome. Can I bring a stripper home from the strip club up the street to have a threesome? So that's the point. get the point? And what I want you to understand is that open relationships, because you got to realize, the more and more porn that these men watch, the more they're going to start pushing open relationships. And it's so many women that want a man. You just want a man. So, the fact that you want a man so bad, you're going to start to ask yourself, do I want to pay the rent or the mortgage alone for the rest of my life? Do I want to pay the lights and the water and the car note and the car insurance and the life insurance and the health insurance and all of the bills, grocery, tuition by myself for the rest of my life? The answer is no. The next question becomes, do I want to be with somebody bad enough that when confronted with the proposition, I will compromise and agree to what he or she wants to do. Because with the threesome, that could be the woman idea. That's the woman idea. Sometimes it ain't always the man idea. I'm going tell you like this right here. Like me personally. Me personally, I'm going to tell you like this right here. Me person, it's hard enough to please one person. Like that's hard enough. Like I'm I'm That's hard enough, man. I ain't I ain't got no time to be trying to please two people. It's like that's too much going on. But what you have to realize is majority of these open marriages. And the reason why I'm saying majority because it might be some of them that work. Might be somebody that they don't believe in God. They're not Christian or whatever. So to them they ain't doing nothing wrong. To them that's just a normal relationship. for me. Yeah, it's always going to be a sin, but everybody don't believe how I believe. So, they might believe ain't nothing wrong with it. So, then it just comes down to is it practical? Is it logical? Is it wisdom? Can it work? And it just come down to that. And and so here's the thing. I don't believe majority of them are going to work. And the reason why I don't believe that is because lust cannot be quenched. So when you take and you get into those things, you're feeding a side of you. You feeding a side of you. What all they selling over there? You feeding a side of you to where you're gonna want more and more and more and more and more. You're gonna keep going and you going to keep wanting more and nothing will ever be enough. And the more you go, the more you feel, the more you feed that lust, you're gonna go from wanting another woman to wanting her to do this and do that, and then she doing this, she doing that, and then the next thing you know, it's like you going you going to end up wanting you're a man, then you going or or before you get to a man, you might want you two women. Then you going to want you three women. Well, yeah, I got two women in three. Then you going to want you three women. Then you going to want you four. Then eventually you going to want you a man. I'm tell you that right now. You going to eventually want you a man. So now you want you a man. Next thing you not going to know, you going to want you two men. before you want you a full-blown man, you go want you gonna want you a transvestite. You gonna want you a woman who's posing as a man. And that's the thing. That's how lust work. You can't quench that lust. You going to keep going and going and going and going and going. And so that's what you got to realize and understand. This thing this thing is not it don't look like what it's supposed to be. It it ain't going to be what you think it is. It's like it ain't going to be simple and straightforward. It's going to get nastier and nastier. Point blank period odd. You got to realize that it's going to get nastier and nastier. And so you got to understand that this stuff here and what I'm telling you if you single right now when you get in relationship, this going to be a very real thing. All this right here, what they doing, it's going to be a very real thing. Like be threesomes and fomes and open relationships. It is going in 10 years from now, maybe even 5 years, going to become the norm. It's going to become the norm. Tell you that right though. It is going to become the norm. And if they start making realistic robots, listen, it's going to be a lot of people with old robot now. And people just going to start giving up. They going to start giving up on on relationships and they going they going to start just going with the robot. Point blank period odd. I'm here to tell you they're going to start doing that. And so you got to realize and understand like this thing ain't real. This thing is real. And I'm I'm I'm thinking about that robot rat now and how that's going to work. But they going to be doing it now. I got to go out here and look and see if my son my son left his shoes and see if they still out here. My wife think they probably got it. Let's see though. So that what you got to realize like you have to set your standards now because you could be married but if this thing become the norm in 5 years. Your spouse could end up asking you, "Hey, do you wanna do you want to hire us a escort to bring in to bring in have us a open?" And you might get to the point to where what y'all been doing that same old thing over and over and over. What y'all been doing, you might get to the point to where it get old. You get bored with it. You start want to experiment. you start want to do other stuff out there and you got to think about that and you got to ask yourself, man, is this what I want? Is this what I want? I bet somebody else doing the same thing I'm doing. And so, think on it. process it, get it through your spirit, and get to that place to where you start to make your decision of what do you want? What do you want? And cuz here go the thing. It's going to be it's going to be proposed to you. You going it's going to be folks that if you single and you go to dating, I just was looking at another little clip on the young lady page who in the open marriage, she got a podcast. the guy who booked the podcast for me, he felt, you know, it'll be good to go on there, take my perspective on there. But our interview was so long, y'all not going to really see the whole interview cuz it was so long. So, you'll have to, you know, you'll be trying to piece it together in your mind because she going to have to cut a lot of it out. And but I made my point and my point was so strong on there of like hey we got to stop taking set so lightly. We can't take it so lightly and just think that it's this simple. like we can't be thinking it's this simple like it get complex and I I seen another little clip to where the the man was like she was like do you think you could be with one person and they was like Oh, he was like, "No, I don't think I could be with one person." And so, think about that. He say, "No, he don't think he could be with one person." So, when you process that, here's a regular guy. And then think about it now. The guy, she was like, "Well, that's giving." She like, "Well, that's giving uh what she said something radical or conscious radical or conscious uh um freak or something like that. And so I'm like, here this man say he's so serious about activism and all of that, but yet he say he can't be with one person. So you want to be, you know, militant. Excuse me. Is that where the Loft and Found is? Uh, it's up like that building, that bench that's up there. I didn't tell it would be on that bench with the door that's like cracked open. >> Oh, okay. Over there. >> Yeah. >> And um the game that got cancelled that was about to play right here. >> Their bench where they sit at. Was it over here? >> Yes. >> Okay. So, they already took that. Yeah. TBU. >> So, they took that stuff in? >> Yes. >> Okay. Cuz my son left his shoes in a little bag. He has a little bag that you put your shoes in and he left it out here. But I like where they sit at. Did they have like little chairs? The little folding chairs >> where the tent kind of is like it was in front of the >> in front of it. Okay. So, they took that stuff in. >> Yeah. They should have. >> All right. Thank you. [sighs] >> Crazy thing about it is like kids. So, like the shoes, you know, they I don't know if they were $60 or I don't know if they was $100 or $150, but it's like he just gets up and leaves them and it's just like kids ain't got no like they don't understand a dollar. Like he got so many pairs of shoes. It's almost like, you know, if you really care about something and it means something to you, you ain't going to leave your shoes. like you like, "Hey, do I got my shoes?" But he got so many pairs of shoes to where it's like he just get up and walk off and even think about his shoes. So his mama ticked off. I'm a little upset, but I get it. But it's our fault. Like man got 10 pair of shoes, you don't know how to value a pair of shoes when you got more shoes you know what to do with. So if somebody else picked it up, they got a blessing. The Lord meant it for somebody else. Somebody else went home with it. Living they like, "Yes, I got me some shoes." They probably wear the same shoe size and everything. They like, "Yeah, got me some shoes." So that's the thing. What you got to realize and understand is you going to get proposed with that. They going to ask you and you got to be able to decipher between is this something. And see the thing about it is it's easy to say when you don't have a option. When when you don't have an option, when you single and you ain't you ain't been approached in forever and you ain't been in no relationship in forever. It's easy to say, "Oh, I never." But what you got to think about is what if you take and you fall in love? You see what I'm saying? What if you take and fall in love? Yep. Here they go. I wonder if these vonte shoes. They look like them. Oh lord. Yep. Wow. And they soaking wet. Praise God. Walked right in the right place. So you got to think about that and cuz it's easy to judge like I've been married 20 years. I'm wondering. Well, my thing probably gonna be working in 20 more years, but I'm Well, yeah. One lady told me her granddaddy 83 still around here poking around here getting it in. I said, "What the real wrong with your granddaddy?" Like, 83? Like, man, ain't trying to get on top of nothing. No 83. But I remember that though my stepg granddaddy, my mama stepdaddy, he trying he was still getting him something at 88 still and had a catheter in there. I guess he was just getting they were saying he was paying the lady $5 for for fellatio, but he had a catheter. So, I'm guessing she was just licking around it or something. I don't know what she was doing. I know it wasn't standing up back then. We ain't even I don't think we had Viagra back then. So, it's like I'm going have to cross that bridge. If they go to making some good old robots, I'm going have to pray. Go into prayer. Like, it's easy to just judge and just be like, "Oh, no. Why would never? But you also got to think about, well, what if you fall in love? What if you fall in love? You head over heels. Y'all got three furry kids or y'all got three, four real kids, whether by birth or by adoption, and then your spouse proposed this to you, and that's what they want. and they can only see y'all standing together and being together if that's what y'all introduced. You gonna be really at your wits end. You gonna be you going to really hope and be like, "Man, I hope that ain't what they really want." But one thing I know about love is that people will give in and do what they don't want to do for love because they love somebody. like they'll be like, "You know what? Whatever. Fine. Okay, whatever." And people will literally lose themselves for love. And that's what you have to realize. Like it it think about it like before you got in a relationship you tell yourself I would never let somebody slap me, jack me up, push me, cuss me out. And then you get in relationship and you fall in love and something happens and that happens and you stay. Like anybody that done been in a a relationship that's a long-term relationship done went through something like that. Something that they thought they would never tolerate. Men and women alike. something they thought they would never tolerate that was introduced and that thing became smaller than leaving. It's things I told myself I never tolerate. Went through it and tolerated it because it's like am I really going to leave over that? Like, am I really gonna leave? And am I really gonna give up everything, chalk up everything? Like, is that really what I'mma do? And that's where you come to. You come to that place. And a lot of people don't think about that. A lot of people don't realize that we got to leave the house in [sighs] 29 minutes and here I am being super dad driveway. Woo that lightning popping that the we going to the college game. My son gang got cancelled so that's why he left his bag. He have got his bag but we going to the college game. College game me trying to get cancelled or see with the college game they'll just delay it. mess trying to get cancelled. But yeah, I be Yeah, I I gave him a suite to my friend and now he give me games on the college games and I be going I be needing a little downtime. So when y'all wonder, Tony, how do you relax? How do you chill? You know, whatever. That's how I do it. I I go to the games or he'll give him a concert or something like that. We went to Bruno Mars and Yeah, I know. I don't know who Bruno Mars is. What what all he got going on. Oh, honey. You know, he know it's crowd. You know, he a free bas. The Lord still with me. Made it through it. God bless you. Keep your head up. You going to be all right. So, I just get out the house and I like to see stuff like that. I like to study artistry. I could go I could study it and appreciate their craft and their gift without being indoctrinated or influenced or cast under a spell. You know, everybody ain't the same. But that's how I wind down though. So yeah, I want y'all to think about that, you know, and prepare yourself. Get your mind right and just really see. And this is this is something that you gotta kind of have a conversation while dating. Like, do you think that's something you will ever be into? And I'll be honest with you, I think a lot of people will be into it and be afraid to admit that they'll be into it. And that's how you get bamboozled cuz they'll be like, "Absolutely not. No, I would never." And then y'all get in relationship and then next thing you know, they into that. And then you like, "Whoa, wow. What happened? Thought thought we wasn't into that. thought that wasn't thought that wasn't going to be a thing going on. Then boom, just like that. So, you got to think about that. Realize that. And that's why it's so hard to you can't just judge. Can't just judge people because you might be put in that same predicament one day. And my point was with Todd talking about Candy, it's like, yeah, everybody who watched them already knew, but the casuals did not know. So now the social media and all of that is a lot stronger than when Candycoated Nights was a big deal. And it and Candy Coated Nights was so old. That's so long ago. And if they still doing it now or recently, nobody even knows because I don't know nothing about it. And that goes to show. And I'm tapped in, ill to the street, feet to the ground, and I don't know nothing about it if they still got it going on. And that's my point. But now social media is so whatever. And then so when she was married and she telling her business, that's her vagina. So she could tell her business. He supposed to talk about his business. As long as it don't involve his woman. That just man code man law. You ain't supposed to be out there telling about what your woman was doing. And so it's like me coming on here and telling y'all what me and my wife do in the bed and and what she do or what she want. That ain't none of your business. And so I don't I'm not at liberty to tell that because that's private information. And so you got to realize that and it's certain things to where okay, okay, they got a little book. It's certain things to where so now when you go through a divorce now it hits when they doing good the relationship not on all the blogs. Now you go through a divorce it's on all the blogs. So now the casuals who don't care nothing about you and your relationship now they know about your divorce. So now they look at that they entertain that. Next thing you know, boom. Now, next thing you know, it's this guy right here. He got a truck, right? And it's a it's a white privilege, but it's a black guy. [laughter] It's hilarious. But it say privilege on the front of it, and it's a black guy. It's hilarious. And so now all the casuals know. So now when he go to talking, you done seen, oh, you see about the divorce. So now your timeline going to show you him and Peter in the car and Peter asking him about the threesome. So now people who didn't who don't know none of Candy business, don't know about Candy Coded Nights, don't know. Now they know she out here having threesome. And that's an intentional sabotage because if it's already out there and everybody know, why why talk about it? Why bring it up? That's what I'm trying to tell y'all. If it was already everybody in the world know, he would have no reason to be talking about it because it's old. It would be old news. But he know not everybody know. And so that's what you have to realize is you could end up going through the same thing. So you got to remember when you when you got your little boyfriend, your little girlfriend, that little picture you want to send and all of that right there, all that's real. Like you want to send that nude, that nude could be blackmail one day. Yeah. you want to send that all that could be used against you one day and that's what you got to realize and understand could all be used against you so process it get it through your mind realize and understand but hey this Tony Gassons all the important links in the description make sure you join us if you need you a community to help you pump out some of your purpose work. Join the purpose pushers community. Link is in the description right now. Depending on when you see this, visit tonygassacademy.com. I got the fivestep system, which is a digital download for $9.97. How to birth, get in your bag, birth your bag, build your bag is what it's called. And then also got recession ready. It's only $5. Now depend on when you see this it'll probably be $25. But even at that you still getting $475 off cuz it's a very real very real thing. So get that in your spirit. Those two they kind of overlap. 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