Are Hot Girls Actually More Crazy? - Sadia Khan

do you think that hot girls are more crazy always do you think hot girls are more crazy in your own experience as well I've been around quite a few hot girls but some of them can be very balanced but I W give me your treaties on hot girls being crazy here's what it is with a very attractive women they don't get an insight into the average man and how average men behave they get an insight into men that are incredibly intimidated by their beauty or incredibly lustful after their beauty so they see men either kind of ignore them so the quiet good guys either just kind of intimidated by them but the loud gregarious kind of adulterous men are after them so they'll see guys that will leave their wives to be with you they'll see guys that will uh drop everything to kind of you know even if their girlfriend's in the same room they're quickly sneeking you their number they'll see guys that will risk their jobs you know if they're your boss to be with you so they see men as these huge Risk Takers that will do anything to have sex with you so what ends up happening is she loses her naivity about a man she no longer thinks men are faithful she's seen so many men break up whatever they have just to be with you and just to access you she's seen so many men who break their back just to touch you so what happens is when her husband now says to her oh I'm just there's a new colleague at work her brain is like well every colleague at my work is always hit on me are you hitting on this girl or if if her husband says I'm just going to the gym she's like well whenever I go to the gym somebody hits on me what are you doing so they end up being suspicious because they are privy to men at their worst when they're sexually attracted to a woman they don't have that naivity that a more plain woman would have where she could walk past a guy in a bikini and he doesn't harass her she knows if she walks past a guy in a bikini he drops everything so she sees men as more dangerous than they are and therefore she thinks her partner is more sexual than he might be and as a result she tends to be more intense and crazy and less naive but not necessar more accusatory I would say yeah because she uses her experience about the world to predict what everybody else's experiences about the world and in her defense beautiful women also it takes a certain level of confidence and a certain level of no fear rejection to access a beautiful girl so her pool of men tend to be the men that are more likely to be unfaithful wow that's interesting so very attractive women are a selection effect for the kinds of experiences that they have in life the kinds of interactions that they have with other women and other men so presumably they'll often see other women as threats well they well they've experienced other women seeing them as threats and they've seen the competitive nature of women and they've seen women cuz here's thing with beautiful women if you walk into a room with a really beautiful woman all the other beautiful women will now start looking at you thinking well there must be something about I'm sure they look at you anyway but they would pay more attention because there must be something about Chris because she's unbelievable so what ends up happening is beautiful women start to see how disrespectful other women can be they're looking at your man they're they're competing with you because to get a beautiful woman's man makes the other woman feel more attractive if you walk in with an absolutely 12 out of 10 and then you give me attention I now think I'm prettier than her so therefore I want your attention more than the guy that's with the girl that's not that attractive so we see this competitive nature of women we see that we can put men women can put men on the map and they see that men are very soft and they give into Beauty quite quickly and easily so they lead to a trust issue that is harder to kind of overcome so interesting the psychology of an attractive woman is one that is very different to a psychology of a less attractive woman they're two different species yeah so you have women seeing other women primarily as enemies they're often going to be Frosty to them U they're also kind of hyper aware of the power that they can bestow on the partner that they're with which probably makes them a little bit tentative about giving that man that power because if they pre-select that particular type of man you're putting him on the map yep and then you also said that these women being super attractive selects for a very specific type of guy that is sufficiently confident to go up speak to you or men will make ridiculous and wild u-turns in their life in an attempt to get to you which also gives you a pretty unrepresentative experience of what most men are like yeah on and then when the looks start to fade it's a harder transition for them when the look start to fade from a woman who is quite plain she sees it as life when the look start to fade um with an attractive woman she sees it as disastrous because a lot of the power has gone so they might not always but they they might respond to it with a lot more insecurity especially after children but if she has good values she recognizes that though the looks are replaced with family connection but if she doesn't have good values and her identity is built on her appearance you'll see that she'll go to more and more extents to kind of um prove her attractiveness and that might lead to promiscuity so her identity can't be designed and around her looks it will make her very fragile it's rough yeah attractive woman must be hard like genuinely it must be very difficult to try and go through the world because with men typically their value to the world doesn't wax and Wayne in quite the same way you know it starts off low even super attractive guys will remain being attractive for a very long time forever like and you just have this sort of slow and steady increase presumably and then it'll dip out and then it'll start to even afterwards and when it dips you don't care if it dips by that time you're so settled in life you don't care but for women it can dip a lot earlier and um there's a lot of talk about pretty privilege and pretty privilege this and pretty privilege that but there's lots of disadvantages and the main thing is people look for your flaws a lot more what happens when you're not attractive is people can accept what you're saying and doing and they don't really delve into it but when you're attractive there's an element of other women or even men saying well I bet she's dumb well I bet she's a hoe or I bet they're looking for the negative so much more and then all they'll say I bet she's really arrogant in very V vain so you almost have to work against people's negative assumptions of your character as much as they make positive assumptions of your appearance they make lots of negative assumptions about your character so you're in a bit of a battle and then it's not as easy as it might look to other people I saw what I was a model for a decade and a half in the UK and I saw a lot of the girls almost counter signal they would turn up in the most slouchy clothes that they could um you know they would purposefully wear their hair up they would purposefully wear glasses um they wouldn't wear revealing clothes they would uh try and act in ways that were um more bookish sometimes as well and this could just be their personality it could have been the girls that I was around but I also think there might be something going on here that they're trying to counter signal I am more than just what I'm currently being paid for as a part of my career I'm more than just a pretty face I'm more than just a lingerie model I'm more than just someone that's supposed to smile and G on camera and is it hard for men to realize that they're more than that or is it hard for them to like do can they compartmentalize and think that she's got more good question do they do they get overwhelmingly like attached to her appearance so there's a big difference between Beauty and hotness and most models at least the ones that I was working with it wasn't sort of Glamour stuff or underwear stuff that much it was you know like fashion stuff it was like cutesy editorial Girl Next Door type thing so it was probably optimizing more for beauty than it was for hotness okay yeah um and but certainly when it comes to hotness it's a [ __ ] reality Distortion field for men right and this is what we were say this is the word that was coming to my mind as you were talking about this that the reality of a a very very hot woman is like a sphere that follows around her just distorting all of her experiences with women with men at restaurants getting into night clubs with careers everything yeah the super hot sexy woman gets it probably the worst because they activate a man's short-term mating strategies they have long-term mating strategies with who they want to family with and short-term who they just want to mate with and they activate that in uh men so a really sexy girl will activate a man's short-term mating strategies and she'll also activate threats in women now women's ual threats um when they when they're threatened with a woman is to go prot well suggest that she's promiscuous so they might say to them to the men oh yeah but she's really promiscuous not realizing that actually makes her more attractive to them cuz they're like well I'm already looking for a short term from misc trying to sell her yeah so they think that they're actually undermining her by saying she's so promiscuous and she's a [ __ ] and she's this that and the other but the man when his short-term mating strategies are activated that's exactly what he's looking for so she ends up with men who just want short-term meeting strategies and as a result she starts to see men as seeing disposable and therefore it can it can be really negative for the hot woman um it does make sense about why it would be hard to have a normal a normal mindset I'm aware that it's Anderson effect yeah it's easy to throw shade like our hot girls crazy like it's easy to just throw shade at them but this is why I I like these kinds of conversations because it really helps everybody to understand the experienced psychology you know the lived experience of somebody that's on that side of the fence and you can say yeah pretty privilege the halo effect you know she's getting in for free at nightclubs and blah blah blah it's like yeah but what if she's got zero female friends yeah what if she can't find a female friend that doesn't see her as an enemy or an adversary or a competitor what if every single gu that she spends time with is terrified to speak to her or is it's just it's so interesting so on the other side of the fence do you think it's more difficult for successful or desirable men to settle down it's only difficult when they grew up without valid when they've gotten low self-esteem for men their success in with relationships is very much determined by their self-esteem women can get a shortcut with their appearance and so on and so forth for men their self-esteem is either going to propel them into a great relationship or prevent them from any kind of stability now if he grew up without any validation and not knowing if he was attractive what happens is his self-esteem is almost um blocked at that stage of life and then he can still be a sucker to women and still kind of accept the unacceptable simply because he wants to be desired but if he has good self-esteem and good boundaries he will never suffer in relationships he just won't because he knows when he's welcome he knows when he's not accepted and when when the relationship is not working and he has a willing us to walk away so the the thing is money with low self-esteem is really really difficult it's a very lonely path it's a lot of gold diggers it's a lot of escorts it's a lot of partying even at the Olden age now money with high self-esteem and um good values is you mean it's still difficult but you you you can create something out of that what about successful women they struggle they they really struggle because essentially with successful women here's the thing men always say oh when women earn more they leave men but they don't realize why there's actually studies to show that when men are with women that earn more than them they produce more cortisol they're actually more angry and stressed around her and that obviously has a negative impact on their testosterone so they're actually less sexually attracted to her and so they're meaner to her they're mean and also they don't treat her the same way if a man is dating a woman who know he knows is unemployed say if he's on 20,000 a year he'll still use whatever he has to treat her well like you know look after but if he's on 20,000 a year and she's on 50,000 who nothing to invest in her now women don't need your money but they do need your investment because that's how men fall in love the more they invest in something the more they attach to it if they invest a lot of money in a car they really care about it lost a lot of money into a Bitcoin they want to see it go up invest money into a Woman They want to see it work out so when they are with a woman that earns more they invest so little so walking away seems so easy for them and it seems so hard for her because she's been the one that's investing in them so it's very difficult it's not just the woman who's rich and how she leaves you the man no longer adds any value that is the main issue he doesn't use whatever tiny resources he has on the woman like he normally would every single morning for over 3 years now I have started my day the exact same way which is with element in water element contains a science-backed electrolyte ratio of sodium potassium and magnesium and it is the best hydration drink that I've ever found it tastes 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